The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

8,583 thoughts on “The Complete Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

Oddz

January 7, 2017 at 9:27 am

Hi! Happy new year & thanks for the site, it pulled me through a very tough time. 🙂

My ex and I had a 6 month relationship. About a month into it we moved in together, and subsequently broke up perhaps due to that. There was a lack of communication on my part, and i suppose he didn’t have his emotional needs fulfilled. We had a massive fight because I’d started going on a dating website a few weeks after our break up and i apologized and said i would delete it. He called me really terrible names and said he had planned to wait for me but now we would never ever get together again. Started NC for 1.5 months, worked really hard on myself, got my life back on track and contacted him. We had some small talk, then he asked me if i was dating, said he had been sleeping around (sigh) And i’ve been feeling really guilty ever since. Do I still have a chance? I’ve not really been using the tips for texting (the build up) as i’m a little confused with my situation as well. In fact i’ve been purposely slowing down my replies for more time between to think. What would you advise me to do Would love to hear from you soon. Thanks in advance ❤

xxx

Oddz

January 15, 2017 at 12:02 pm

Hey amor! I’ve been listening to your advice & moving on from the guilt. Have come to terms with it!! He’s still the person I care for & love and i really want him back in my life. Should I go about making contact as if he is a player (i remember there’s a post on this) or just make contact normally? Thank you ❤
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 15, 2017 at 6:50 pm

That’s good..if he’s still a player,approach him like a player..
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 8, 2017 at 6:05 pm

Hi Oddz,

why are you feeling guilty for something that isnt wrong? When you apologized about going in the dating site, it seemed wrong and that he had power over you. it’s like he owns you. And now, he’s probably just sleeping around to or telling that to hurt you too.. stop feeling guilty first. move on from that situation. If he cant, then you should totally move on

Kathy

January 6, 2017 at 4:20 pm

I broke up with boyfriend for 5 mths, we met only once and he ignored me. He contacts me only 2 times, the rest i text him. I’ve been used the word that harm his feeling. I”m not sure is it possible to get him back.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 8, 2017 at 4:03 pm

Hi Kate,

when and why did you break up? You mean, yoy only met once in person during those 5 months?

br

January 5, 2017 at 1:42 am

Hi, I broke up with my Ex a month ago after 6 months relationship
I asked him to come back that it will work out if we try and he said NO for all time.
When I called him for last time listing of how things can be work out & what can we do for better relationship,
he was listening to my words like I am some sort of spam.
He told me that he is done with me and he tried every his effort already when we were in relationship.
He told me our problem is that I tend to do everything under my opinion & doesn’t care about his mind.
He always hide his feelings & really not like to talk about his complaints about situation & me.
It stocked up & he was suffering from it so finally called it a end as he told.

So I was heart broken and decided to not contact him ever again.
Then he drunk dialed me last week, I answered it but told him I will call back since I’m busy currently.
(was out of having fun @ some bar, so he heard some crowded sound)
Next morning we had call & had fun talking remembering our good times for 1 hour.
Then I suggest him to dine with some time & he told me to meet up next week for dinner which was yesterday.

He booked some really romantic restaurant, so I was expecting something like ‘could you come back?’
Then he told me what he was bad about, what could’ve been done, and was really sorry ,etc,etc
I talked him what hurt me also. We talked from bottom of heart.
And finally.. I should’ve not asked him this but asked him for last time “So what’s next?”
He told me that I regret lot of things & feel empty now but it feels like some burden on his shoulder gone away.
And he realized many things from past, but cannot really tell me we can come back together & work it out
since he doesn’t believe in people change (that we cannot change also) , and he cannot put much effort in our relationship since his affection or feelings for me isn’t same way as its beginning.

We left the restaurant & I asked him I will drop him home even if he told me it’s okay for several times.
I leaned toward him in a cab & asked him to kiss me when we arrived at his place.
He resisted but kissed me & I called him I got home safely when I arrived my place, texted him that I enjoyed dinner say goodnight.

That was it by now… But I want him back more than ever now.
I don’t know what to do next. Should I give NC-30 try? I think I screwed things ups.. that I had to act cool last night.
Please give me any advice.. which will be much appreciated.

br

January 11, 2017 at 1:46 am

What should I answer if he contact me during NC period?
Should I text him back “talk to you later or just ignore him?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 11, 2017 at 8:47 am

you have to ignore it
br

January 10, 2017 at 6:47 am

How should I answer if he contact me during NC period like “How are you doing?”
Should I just ignore it or text back “Lets talk later”?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 7, 2017 at 4:13 am

Hi Brenda,

Yeah try it and then use it to start a new routine. Change and improve yourself.

Brenda

January 5, 2017 at 1:23 am

Hi, I broke up with my Ex a month ago after 6 months relationship
I asked him to come back that it will work out if we try and he said NO for all time.
When I called him for last time listing of how things can be work out & what can we do for better relationship,
he was listening to my words like I am some sort of spam.
He told me that he is done with me and he tried every his effort already when we were in relationship.
He told me our problem is that I tend to do everything under my opinion & doesn’t care about his mind.
He always hide his feelings & really not like to talk about his complaints about situation & me.
It stocked up & he was suffering from it so finally called it a end as he told.

So I was heart broken and decided to not contact him ever again.
Then he drunk dialed me last week, I answered it but told him I will call back since I’m busy currently.
(was out of having fun @ some bar, so he heard some crowded sound)
Next morning we had call & had fun talking remembering our good times for 1 hour.
Then I suggest him to dine with some time & he told me to meet up next week for dinner which was yesterday.

He booked some really romantic restaurant, so I was expecting something like ‘could you come back?’
Then he told me what he was bad about, what could’ve been done, and was really sorry ,etc,etc
I talked him what hurt me also. We talked from bottom of heart.
And finally.. I should’ve not asked him this but asked him for last time “So what’s next?”
He told me that I regret lot of things & feel empty now but it feels like some burden on his shoulder gone away.
And he realized many things from past, but cannot really tell me we can come back together & work it out
since he doesn’t believe in people change (that we cannot change also) , and he cannot put much effort in our relationship since his affection or feelings for me isn’t same way as its beginning.

We left the restaurant & I asked him I will drop him home even if he told me it’s okay for several times.
I leaned toward him in a cab & asked him to kiss me when we arrived at his place.
He resisted but kissed me & I called him I got home safely when I arrived my place, texted him that I enjoyed dinner say goodnight.

That was it by now… But I want him back more than ever now.
I don’t know what to do next. Should I give NC-30 try? I think I screwed things ups.. that I had to act cool last night.
Please give me any advice.. which will be much appreciated.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 7, 2017 at 4:14 am

Hi Brenda,

Yeah try it and then use it to start a new routine. Change and improve yourself.

Mayra

January 2, 2017 at 7:34 pm

My ex & I broke up a week ago but we have so many mutual friends. I asked him if they knew & he said he hasn’t told them. On social media he’s single & searching (ouch) but not with our friends. He claims that I never believed or trusted him & that I always left him. He thinks I care more about my friends than him, so now he wants us to be friends & that there are ways to show love & respect even though we’re a part. He said he misses the friend I used to be, but doesn’t miss me as a girlfriend because I was cold to him. That I was selfish & always cared just about me, I agree to everything he says. My question isn’t how to get him back because clearly it won’t happen, but how do I go about being his friend now? How do I act around him? Do I tell everyone or wait till he does. Do I show him I’m capable of trusting him by being around? I’m trying to do “no contact” but its hard, we haven’t stopped texting. He claims I never cared about what he’s going through. So wouldn’t no contact work against me? Just yesterday he sent me a random text with an image of boots & asked if I liked them, he also text & asked how I was doing. But when we talked on the phone he was angry & claimed getting together was “our” (double ouch) but he reads all my text & responds within 5-10 minutes. We had a gathering with friends & laughed & had a good time, but when I said I was leaving his tone of voice changed to sadness & just said bye. I found out he left shortly after. How can I do this without falling apart & trying to be the person he fell in love with? How can I tell if he even cares about me anymore? I don’t think in my case no contact would work, because he already thinks I’m cold & distant & that I never loved him so no contact would prove his point.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2017 at 12:23 pm

Hi Mayra,

I’m confused. If you just really want to be friends, then just keep talking when you can talk. You’ll probably end up being friendzoned that way

naghmeh

January 2, 2017 at 7:43 am

hello, me and my boyfriend dated over 1 month, everything was great, we enjoyed each others presence a lot, and after this time we slept together, my parents were out of town and we could be together for about 4 days, the day he left our house he was good and kind as always but the next day he broke up with me and he said he doesn’t like me the way he thought he likes, so i hanged up the phone and never called him or texted him again it has been 15 days , was he lying this whole time to have sex with me? because i felt his emotions were real, i could see in his eyes, what should i do now? can i get him back? should i complete the no contact rule? is there any chance at all?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 4, 2017 at 5:10 pm

Hi Naghmeh,

if you are going to do the no contact rule, just do 21 days
Honestly, the relationship is short and h breaking up right after you did it is not a good sign.. so, next time dont sleep with him right away if you ever get back together

Rebecca

January 2, 2017 at 5:16 am

Hi
My boyfriend just broke up with my about two and a half weeks ago. Even though we’re only 17, our relationship was very mature and strong. We both talked about future plans such as marriage and kids and we were both on the same page. We have been dating for about 1.5 years. We were such a strong couple, completely in love. Our relationship was very serious. He gave me a promise ring and we always said we were going to be together forever. His family loved me and my family loved him. We were really a great couple, having mutual interests.
There were a few problems in the past. He’s very sensitive and when he gets stressed he can’t handle much emotion. Because of this, he “broke up” with me in the past. It wasn’t really a break up, he kind of just stopped talking to me. It only took one or two days for him to reach out. He said that he was so sorry and that he was so devastated when he didn’t talk to me. He said that he couldn’t see himself with anyone else and the “break up” made him sick. I thought that this time was going to be like those in the past but after a few days he was still being cold. It’s been about two and a half weeks now since he broke up with me and a week since the last time we talked.
Out of the blue he just stopped talking to me. We go to the same school and there we usually talk but one day he started avoiding me and stopped texting me, too. A couple days later I found him before school and tried to ask him what was going on. He didn’t really answer. When I asked him if he still wanted to be together, all he did was shrugged. I was very upset at his response and just walked away.
When I didn’t hear a response from him the next few days, I decided to text him. I said I missed him and asked what was going on since he didn’t really give me an answer before. He responded that I was being mean to him and blaming him for everything and making fun of him. I had no idea where that had come from and when I asked him, he didn’t really respond. I was so devastated.
A few days later I was still so upset. I decided to text him and ask him if he would talk to me if I came over. He just responded that I should leave him alone.
It’s been about a week since then. I’ve seen a few pictures of him on social media. He seems completely fine. Hanging out with friends and smiling. Do you think he just doesn’t care?
Our relationship was so strong and it just doesn’t make sense that it’s over. He was so in love with me and couldn’t even stand a day without saying he misses me. And even about two hours before he started ignoring me, we were talking like normal.
Sorry for the long narration but I’m just not sure what to do.
Do you think we still have a chance and if so, what should I do?
I still have a lot of his sweatshirts and gifts. Should I give those back?
For social media, should I let him see what I’m doing? Like on snapchat, for example, should I let him see me story or should I block him?
Thanks
Rebecca

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 4, 2017 at 4:47 pm

Hi Rebecca,

How or what did he say in this last break up. If you are going to do the no contact rule, then make your posts public, be active in improving yourself and in posting..

Ana

January 1, 2017 at 7:09 pm

Hey! I’m Ana, I had a 1,5yrs long relationship but he broke me up in november. After 2weeks he got a new gf. I was so sad. I hold the no contact period. TOday I sent an e-mail to him he hasnt replied yet. I’m scared now, I think he has the gf… what should I do? Have I chance to get him back?
We loved each other so much but in the last month there was too much stress and our communication went wrong. Will he reply?

Ana

January 2, 2017 at 12:21 am

31 days long. I wanted to wait the new year. Actually there is exam-period at the university, so maybe he is learning too. I saw the video thank you, I have more hope now. But I’m thinking about him so many times. Is the patience the best solution?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 4, 2017 at 4:09 pm

improving yourself, being active in doing new things and making new friends is the best solution and yes being patient.. it’s ok to think about him. that’s normal.. just don’t be drowned in that
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 1, 2017 at 8:08 pm

Hi Ana,

how long did you do nc and how much did you improve? Check and follow the advice in this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video

LisaLA

December 31, 2016 at 11:01 pm

Hi,

Maybe you could help me a simple I’m running out of ideas. Ex and I were best friends and after a year and a half of very good friendship the chemistry was too much and we decided to date. Things were moving very quickly, a lot of people found out about us and we woke up one day in a full blown relationship only after a couple months with this enourmous pressure on both of us. Things felt a little off last couple of weeks and he broke up with me citing that he’s not sure of his feelings and he isn’t sure what’s the cause of that. I said that it felt like a rash decision as we haven’t been able to see each other just the two of us but it seemed like the only outcome of that conversation at the time. We then texted for a day and a half (break up wasn’t face to face) discussing the situation. HE said he’d like to fight for the friendship. I said i don’t know if that’s possible or if that’s what I want at all. We didn’t speak for a day and the next day he again texted me asking how I was doing and that’s he really hopes we can stay friends. Now, we had some things planned in a few months- he still wants to do them with me. (Weekends away, birthdays). Since then he’s been texting non stop as if nothing happened. Telling me about everything that he’s doing etc. He wants to meet me next Friday to see how it feels. I’m not sure what he’s thinking. I still he thinking he made a rash decision? Or does he want to jump straight back to friendship that I was clear I didn’t know if I wanted?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 1, 2017 at 7:30 pm

Hi Lisa,

talk to him personally first.. and then from there decide your next step

Alva

December 30, 2016 at 12:39 am

Hi Amor!! My name is Alva. I’ve been following this guide for about 5 months now. Sometimes I have really failed big time but these last 2 months have been going great. I can definitely say that I now am an “ungettable” girl. I feel great and everything. Me and my ex were together for 2 years. There were alot of fighting involved in the breakup because we livet together at such a Young age (I was 16 and he was 17,now we’re both 18). We’ve been fighting this whole year apart since the breakup. But this last month we have been really friendly with eachother. The past 2 weeks he has been very clingy at parties. He’s been kissing me on the cheeks,telling me how great I am and his bestfriend Said “Oh my..I feel a strong connection here” and My ex replied “Alva is My best bro” and kissed me on the cheek. He’ s standing with his lips and talking really really close to mine. And when I was sitting in My new flirts lap at the blackjack table he came and sat beside us and Said “all in”. Everyone was like “are you sure? The club closes in 20 minutes” and he Said yes. After that he was pining for My attention and went “Alva look at My Cards” and so on. I had no Idea what to do not to make My new flirt feel uncomfortable. Anyways…this weekend I called hon when I was reeeally drunk and I told him I love him. The next day I sent a message to him saying I saw that I called him but can’t remember anything. He told me that he thinks that I am an annoying person. How come? Why would he be all cold? Is it because he likes the “Hunt” and somehow doesn’t want me? PR is he angry because I can’t remember? I am now acting like I don’t Care…but please,help me..where do I go from here? I was doing so well!! I nearly had him?!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 30, 2016 at 2:44 pm

Hi Alva,

how did you follow the guide in 5 months? hoe long did you do a full no contact period?

RB

December 28, 2016 at 10:08 pm

Hey 🙂
I will try to make it as short as I can. First of all I would like to point it out that at times I even think about why I am caring so much for this guy. I have never been in this shoes before and I have never been interested in guys that much. For some reasons I cannot deal with this emotional challenge although in any part of the life I feel successful. I do know I have a strong personality, I make dramas and sometimes I so not express myself the way I want.
So our relationship is a little bit difficult. We were raised up in different cultures, among different mentalities and yes i know this is one of the reasons why it’s ended. So It’s been 5 months since he broke up, then we spent a month apart then we got back together for a month because he moved back for a month to my city, then he moved back to his original place. So long distance relationship would have started. Which is already tricky but after a break up it is kinda impossible. So we broke up again. Then I arranged kinda a trip o the country where he currently lives and the city he is in. Then again the crying started from both sides, from my side it is obvious, its not me the one who broke up. But he is like a guy who does not wanna show feelings yet he cried because he always said and keep saying he feels with me like he is at home. In two weeks he hooked up with someone, he dd not tell me first just after 2 weeks it happened, he said he was thinking about me all along (why would people say this?). He said this girl did not mean anything and he just used for his ‘needs’ (by the way I was his first in his life) then I freaked out obviously basically stopped existing for a day, then kinda I moved on (it’s my personality). Then despite he said he would not do it with her again he called her, straight after he cancelled a call with me saying that how amazing times we had. We have been fighting over the past two weeks… freaking each other out, kinda managed to survive Christmas in peace, and even the picture I sent to him he said how gorgeous I look etc. The day before he said that whenever he sees or hears my name he is filled with positive energy. And it is true I feel myself strong and positive in all the way of life, but when it comes with this emotional thing, it is just a different person. My native language is not the English and I kinda feel when I speak about my emotions in English I get weak, there are things I would never say out loud in my language but just because I was not raised on this language I do not feel the weight of the words sometimes. What I would also like to add that he is not a fooling around type. He is almost 28 years old and I kind of feel he live the age when I was 18 year old… Discovering the other gender etc but somewhere deep I feel he loves me more than he would have though about himself. He is just insecure and does not know what he wants. When he broke up- i know it is a cliche- he said if he would be in the state of mind of settling down I would be definitely the one he would like to merry or live with because all we had was perfect.
Now after all these fighting I would like to try a different way to get him back, to make him want me and not it the future or in his sorrow but now…Do you think after all these fights and things there is a way back? Or he has already moved on and I should just let the fairy tail away and move on as well?
Thank you for your answer and have a great day and holidays!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 30, 2016 at 8:43 am

Hi Rb,

do you want to try the advice above first before fully moving on?

Nafi

December 28, 2016 at 7:28 am

After 8 months of our relationship and visiting my boyfriend in his country ,i asked him to let me to come to his country and live together but he said i dont like the time we spend in bed and your touch wasnt good(Im 30 and it was my first experience and it was just 1 night) then we had argue. After NC for a month,he wasnt contact me the first every day but when i start we spent a good time .some times he mentioned a part of my body that he misses then when i say lets talk in Skype ,he changed the subject .He has doubt whether getting close to me or not.Yesterday when i said as a gift for new year lets talk by skype,he said he is starting new relationship for 3weeks with whom lives in his country (which i know it started while i was on NC) he said he wants to forget me and if he comes to skype ,he cant.He said you attract me but the bed wasnt good and he wants to focus in his new relationship to know her better and by seeing me he miss me and turn on and he doesnt want.We can be friends to practice language (which we did before) but not by skype.
Isnt it strange that he forces himself to get in a new relationship to forget me? and is there any chance to get him back?

PS: I read the 2 article about how to get your ex back while he has girlfriend

Nafi

January 11, 2017 at 7:18 am

I decided to be patient with him.
We finally met each other by Skype on Friday .
After that he sent me a message that he cant forget me and he knew it would get worse.
Last night he confessed that he is in love with me but cause he is in a new relationship
he cant be with me.Thats why he prefers just to text me as a friend and he doesnt want to see
me.How can i tell him that this new relationship is rebound? or should i tell him?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 11, 2017 at 1:18 pm

nope… it’s like convincing him he’s wrong. you shouldn’t agree to be friends because agreeing to be friends and staying means you will give him what he wants without breaking up with his current
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 30, 2016 at 4:18 am

Hi Nafi,

what did you get out of those articles? what’s your plan after reading them?

Sarah

December 28, 2016 at 12:29 am

Hi there!

I was just wondering how far apart I should space each stage of texts?
I just sent the first contact text yesterday.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 29, 2016 at 4:21 pm

Hi Sarah,

check this one:
Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)

Penny

December 27, 2016 at 7:13 am

Hi,
Me & my fiance known each other for 2 years (he joined my company, 6 mths after, we started dating. 6 mths after dating, we been in relationship). About 6 month after being into relationship, we planned for our wedding. We did booking hotel venue, we went for pre-wedding photo shoots. Our big day is in 4 months time and he suddenly called off the wedding. We both have lots of differences (Races, Religions and so on). But we both loved each other and promised to compromise for all the differences. I thought I was in good terms with his family as well (though we did not talk much as his mom likes to speak in her own languages). I admitted that he was a good guy and i thought he understood me the most in my life. Last 3 weeks ago, we quarreled and he brought up about cancelled everything off. I was shocked and begged him not to choose that way. He thought we cannot be together because we have lots of fights and he was not happy in past year. And his parents thought that I gave no respect to them. But all are misunderstanding between us due to the lack of communications. But eventually, he was losing in our fates. After convincing for few hours, he said okay. However, after 5 days from the fight, he said his parents do not approve our marriage. And if we continue, they will cut off the family ties with him from the family. So he chose his parent. And they cancelled all the hotel bookings and everything related to wedding.
My questions here is that do still have a chance to try to get him back?
I tried to contact to him again but after few days of messaging each other, he asked me to stop contacting. So now i cannot send message to him as well.
But i would like to try to get back him. i didnt expect for wedding or whatsoever. I just want him back.
Please advise if it is still possible or not.
Thank you.
Penny

Penny

January 25, 2017 at 8:04 am

Hi, Amor
Okay. I will restart 30 days NC without playing game and stop using the tracking app. I saw he is posting some self-taking videos on his FB last night. I will stop checking his FB during NC as well. I think he is trying to show the world that he has moved on. He knows that I sure cannot get over in such short period ( our last meeting was 6 weeks ago). The most caring and nice guy turned into the totally different person. Such an ugly truth that I have to take it for now. I will be back again soon.
Thank you.
Penny
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2017 at 3:40 pm

That’s right Penny! You’re welcome!
Penny

January 25, 2017 at 8:03 am

Hi, Amor
Okay. I will restart 10 days NC without playing game and stop using the tracking app. I saw he is posting some self-taking videos on his FB last night. I will stop checking his FB during NC as well. I think he is trying to show the world that he has moved on. He knows that I sure cannot get over in such short period ( our last meeting was 6 weeks ago). The most caring and nice guy turned into the totally different person. Such an ugly truth that I have to take it for now. I will be back again soon.
Thank you.
Penny
Penny

January 24, 2017 at 4:09 am

Hi, Amor
No. We have no contact at all for 20 days already. Game stuffs means that the game players can help each other in games. We helped each other’s games tasks. But there is no other contact between us. So should i start 30days NC again? And there was one tracking app that we used since before we were into relationship (he installed that app “LINE HERE” to check where i was). I know he used that app only with me. Till now, he has not deleted that app nor left our shared room yet. So we can check each other’s locations if we want to. He changed our couple photo from his FB profile pic but had not deleted completely yet and it still on his FB page (he hardly uses FB). I m really appreciate your advice as i could not have any help from my friends and family in this case as they mad at him so much. I read so many books and still trying to figure out a possible way to get back to him but i still cant find what to talk to him so that he wont block me.
Thanks for listening and appreciate for your advice.
Penny
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2017 at 2:17 pm

Oh sorry.. Haha! I get it now.. But, I still think you need to restart.. Because it’s like you’re still talking but not.. He has to feel that you’re starting to move on and improving. So, you’ll have a higher chance of him regretting the break up. You have to find a way for him not to track where you are too.
Penny

January 18, 2017 at 1:41 am

Hi, Amor
No. I quit the old job 7 months ago as the company will not allow staffs to be in relationship especially for us because we worked in same department. He looked for job since that time but i got the new job first, so i changed job. So we have no chance to meet each other. I have been in NC for 14 days already. There is no news from him except he is playing the same games with me and helping me some games stuffs. I get lost here and do not what to do. Should i still continue NC ? if so, how long should i?
Thank you.
Penny
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2017 at 5:25 pm

what do you mean that he’s helping you with game stuff? you talk to each other about that? If yes, then you should restart the count and do 30 days..
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 29, 2016 at 10:51 am

Hi Penny,

aside from following the advice above, if you still work together, you should check this one too:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Diana

December 25, 2016 at 12:56 pm

Hi. My ex broke up with me few weeks ago. We have been dating for 3 years now and he ended it in just a flash. He said that i was being unfair to him that i don’t appreciate him the way he appreciates me. He even said that it doesn’t feel like we’ve been in relationship since 2016 started because I was pushing him away and I was only “faking” it the whole year long. He became tired of understanding me and my cruel ass self and decided to end it. I cheated on him once but I don’t think that counts because we broke up at that time and ever since he knew about that he never trust me again. I always used to pushed him away but he never gives up and take me back even if I hurt him really bad. Now I really regret everything that I’ve done to him. I begged him once in person to take me back and cried in front of him but he pushed me away the same way I did it to him. He said he’s not sure what he’s feeling now and doesn’t want to be in a relationship. He also said that he wants to think of himself first from now on and not worry about me or the problems I have caused him. I did everything that I could do to take him back, even had sex with him thinking it would bring him back to me, but it didn’t work he just becomes heartless and the person I don’t know now. I really love him and I regret everything that I have done to him. Please help me. I don’t know what to do. I want him back but I’m not sure he still wants me. What should i do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2016 at 3:07 pm

Hi Diana,

do you want to try the advice above?

Nise

December 22, 2016 at 10:29 pm

Hi. I’m new here. I really like the approach you have here with helping anyone and everyone. I have a question tho. This site is all about getting your ex bback, but I was wondering if all the articles and advice here would also apply to getting back someone who is not really your ex.

To further explain my point I will write a breif version of my story. I ‘ with a guy I foud I had a denied crush on, and totally fell for him and at first I thought we were dating but he was really clear from the beggining that he wanted nothing serious. We played that game for a while, then I told him that It hurt me he wasn’t exclusive and that it should be better that we stayed as friends. Then he continued flirt with me nontheless and later on started accussing me of being rude for not responding to his advances. Then we agreed to talk it in person but he didn’t show up. I was so mad I told him really hurtful truths (“Keep using other people like this and you’ll be lucky if some idiot decides to keep you company.”) And completely cut him off. At some point later I got him to aplogise via WhatsApp, and it was like a big deal to him, while still not enough of an apolgy for me because it wasn’t in person. He was more eager to convince me that what I did to him was worse than what he did to me. Then he started unofficially dating someone else (who i beleive he was already at least flirting with when he was dating me). Then they broke up and he became official with someone else in less than a month after meeting her. Then I apologised to him in person and we agreed to be friends, but I was hopeful he would leave his girlfriend for me. Then I stopped contacting him and he eventually started asking me out, when I finally accepted he said he was in a breake with his girlfriend. We went out for a couple of weeks, he then broke up with his girlfriend. Then I started to invest myself in this a little more than necessary because even though i wasnt all needy, i ended up being the one asking him out or contacting him each week. The last time we had a WA conversation we both were sad about personal stuff and we both cheered up each other and we both told each other how much we care about each other, a week later I asked him out with four days of anticipation, but when we were planning the outing he suddenly stopped responding and he only texted me again after the day we were going to see each other. It was frustrating because he said yes but when I asked him the time he just stopped responding. The day we were going to see each other, found out that a week after the last time I saw him (in which I kissed him and we had talked a bit about our view in relatioships), he slept with the same girl he dated before his girlfriend and after/at the same time than me. This really broke my heart and when he contacted me tha day after I didn’t respond. Now I am determined to apply the no contact rule to get him back. Although, as I write this, I can see how much of a jerk he is and wonder why in the world do I want him back.

My best regards and thank you so much for reading

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2016 at 2:41 pm

Hi Nise,

It looks like a miscommunication of standards..He was clear with you at first that he doesn’t want to be exclusive with you, but you still stayed. So, he might have thought you were fine with that..but then, correct me if I’m wrong, you hoped he would change his mind if you stayed, but he didn’t..

For me, if you really want a chance with him, dont give the benefits without the commitment.. Yeah, do nc for you to think and reflect but after that, once you get talking, start out as friends first.. when you get to meet again, if he starts doing the things he was doing with you before, then say, you’re not into no label relationship anymore but it’s ok to be friends

Fi

December 22, 2016 at 9:08 am

My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me 6weeks ago. It was a very sudden break up. We live about an hour and a half away from each other and I love at home with my parents. Both things he said contributed to is breaking up as well as him saying he thought we were different as people (something that seemed the opposite though our whole relationship) I didn’t contact him for three weeks after we broke up and then texted him. Sometimes he replies and sometimes he doesn’t. I feel the contact with him is being led by me though when he does reply he is very friendly and positive. I called him and we are meeting for coffee next week. When I called him he asked if I was sure I wanted to see him as he was worried it might upset me. I feel that shows he’s really not thinking about getting back together with me. Do I still have a chance? If I don’t contact him I know he won’t contact me so how do I turn things around? I really love him. How do I use this date to make him want me again

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 22, 2016 at 12:37 pm

Hi,

You can’t attract somebody with just one date. How much did you improve during that 3 weeks and are you still improving now? If there was no rapport and attraction built during the texting and calling phase, the meet up is less likely to be well.. But, the best you can do right now is to use that meet up as an opportunity to leave a good impression by looking your best and having fun..

Paulina

December 20, 2016 at 8:04 pm

I followed the instructions step by step. I was trully surprised receiving the answears to my text messages very much like the examples given. Unfortunatelly after taking the risk part i received an answer ‘ I am not interested in this kind of contact.’ I accepted the refusal and said a nice goodbye. Am I the 30% of ‘sorry, there are no chances’?

Paulina

December 25, 2016 at 1:57 am

Answering to your replay: it took me about 2 months of texting to introduce all of the steps that follows one month of no contact rule. Why do you ask? Does the time period change anything in the way i could interpret his answer?

Kind regards and, well, Merry Xmas..
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2016 at 1:56 pm

most of time it does.. first, it’s good that you took time texting.. If you’re saying that you proceeded to calls and dates too and that that all occured in two months and he still said that, it means you have to move on
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 23, 2016 at 10:43 am

Hi Paulina,

how many days have you been texting when you asked it?

Fi

December 20, 2016 at 7:28 pm

My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me 6weeks ago. It was a very sudden break up. We live about an hour and a half away from each other and I love at home with my parents. Both things he said contributed to is breaking up as well as him saying he thought we were different as people (something that seemed the opposite though our whole relationship) I didn’t contact him for three weeks after we broke up and then texted him. Sometimes he replies and sometimes he doesn’t. I feel the contact with him is being led by me though when he does reply he is very friendly and positive. I called him and we are meeting for coffee next week. When I called him he asked if I was sure I wanted to see him as he was worried it might upset me. I feel that shows he’s really not thinking about getting back together with me. Do I still have a chance? If I don’t contact him I know he won’t contact me so how do I turn things around? I really love him. How do I use this date to make him want me again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 22, 2016 at 12:38 pm

Hi,

You can’t attract somebody with just one date. How much did you improve during that 3 weeks and are you still improving now? If there was no rapport and attraction built during the texting and calling phase, the meet up is less likely to be well.. But, the best you can do right now is to use that meet up as an opportunity to leave a good impression by looking your best and having fun..

Lya

December 20, 2016 at 3:49 am

Hello.
I’ve been reading all this long text, tried to clear up my mind and to think clearly what to do and what to not do.
It helped me, but I am still scared of what could happen.
He seems really away from me, I barely understand if he wants me again after the mistakes I’ve been doing.
Do you think there’s a possibility to get him back even if I broke his heart?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 22, 2016 at 2:44 pm

Hi Lya,

why? What happened?

« Previous 1 … 17 18 19 20 21 … 149 Next »

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

8,583 thoughts on “The Complete Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back”