The Simple 2 Step Method To Get Your "Baby Daddy" Back

383 thoughts on “Here’s How To Get Your “Baby Daddy” Back”

Ayanda Skomolo

January 13, 2022 at 7:36 am

Morning

This has been very helpful, well i tried all the tricks well he left me for some girl n according to my perspective n my viewing he was running away from the responsibility n he would always tell me . ..you guys are expensive till he replaced me!! Well okay i went to no contact for a good 6months..heard rumours they starting to fight and all i kept on my lane,worked on myself opened a business, got my license it was a good 6months of self development ….

Well he hasn’t been supporting so i put him through maintenance
..just gave him the paper a week back for a court date ….i looked so strong n amazing n i realised i dont need him n hes not my type he couldn’t believe hes eyes,he kept on starring at me !!! N ive drastically change for the better self Development is the best ..

Thanks❤‍♀️

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 16, 2022 at 9:56 pm

Amazing work Ayanda! Well done you. Let’s hope your ex eats his heart out!

Seanna Johnson

January 5, 2022 at 2:44 am

Me and my ex dated for four years.we have two daughters together and we have broken up and gotten back together several of times. He is the most charming and attractive men but he gave up on taking care of me and our kids once I figured out he secretly sexted multiple girls and even went to the gym saying he was alone but with another women. For years, we only get together when we’re both doing good and lately, we havent. I am starting to want him as bad as I tried to get pregnant which is supported twice. He feels sense I put him out because he was unfaithful, he doesn’t visit and we strictly co parent. I miss everything about him and wish I was someone special to him that he made a priority. So far, we’ve exchange quick oral which I . Gave not received so I ended the cycle. He always gives excuses if I ask him to come by . I now don’t talk to him but co parent exclusively…. Is this something I did or is he really over me
Sara

November 28, 2021 at 2:57 pm

My ex and I were together 6 and a half years we broke up Oct 1 and by the 15th he had a new gf I just found out they got engaged. He has minimal contact with our daughter this woman hasn’t even met our daughter thankfully. Before I found out about the engagement he would try to make small talk about specific things in his life. He has pushed away all our family and friends no one can understand why he is doing this. I would love to put our little family back together.
Ann

November 24, 2021 at 3:52 am

Hi my name is ann my boyfriend just left me and and told me he doesn’t love me anymore but i am currently 7 months pregnant we both plan the baby and he is very excited about it. But the last few weeks he’s been acting cold towards me and just broke up with me few days ago. I was devastated, he told me he still want to be involved with the baby. Is there any chance i can get him back? I don’t know what to do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 26, 2021 at 1:32 pm

Hi Ann, yes there is a chance, you need to read through the materials and use this time for a limited no contact, where you would only speak to him about baby and nothing else. I understand it is harder when you are pregnant as your emotions are up and down but you need to try and show him that you are happy and excited about the baby, let him feel that he is going to be missing out on a family lifestyle while broken up.

Whitney

October 25, 2021 at 3:49 pm

What do you think about a baby daddy wanting to stay at my place every time he visits his son because he lives out of town? Is this normal for co-parenting? It makes things confusing and I still have feelings for him and I want him back.
Tanya

October 25, 2021 at 2:21 am

Hello I am Tanya.
I’ve been away from my Ex for a whole year now and he even has a new gfor almost a year now We have a 1 year old son together that he just met 4weeks ago. I realize now I really want my EX back is it even possible at this time ? If so what do I do to get back with him
Jamie anderson

October 3, 2021 at 10:10 pm

Tell me more my baby daddy has strictly said there is no future with us and there is no us and that hurts terribly I want him back what do I do I have messed up with him in the past and I need your help do I move in or try harder to win him back

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 4, 2021 at 8:53 pm

Hi Jamie, so the first step is to follow a limited no contact and spend that time working on yourself. Have you spent sometime focusing on you and showing your ex that you do not need him that you are quite content and happy with you and the children?

CEM

September 16, 2021 at 3:09 pm

Hi, I just found out that I am pregnant. I moved out of state for a job before knowing. The BD and I dated for approx. 7-months and he stayed in the previous state. It turns out he has been engaged to another woman during this time and was cheating on her with me and they are supposed to get married in less than 1-month. I told him I am pregnant and he asked me to get an abortion – later to find out he was asking so he wouldn’t have to out himself to her that he’s been cheating/lying. He rescinded his pleas for me to get an abortion and states he’s planning on telling his fiance about us and the baby, but still wants to make amends to her and marry her. I think I am still in a state of shock. I can’t imagine that he’s the type to abandon his child (his father did this to him and did not come back into his life until adulthood). I am hoping that he wants to make amends with me, as well, so that our child can have two involved parents. Any advice?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 7, 2021 at 8:47 pm

Hi CEM, I would say that if you are going to want to co-parent then you are going to have to have a LOT of patience while the fiance deals with the betrayal that the has put her through. I know he hurt you too, but if his goal is to keep her in his life it will take some time, if at all that she will accept baby in his life. I would suggest that you understand and show patience and grace when she discovers the truth.

Nicole Cardoza

September 11, 2021 at 10:40 pm

Together 6 years. A 2 year old. He decided to up and leave one day its been a week he already is about to sign on an apartment and only talks about our child or tells me how much he hates me… ended because I wanted him to help more but since he worked he didnt want to… I ended up complaining more than anything else in the relationship. This is the dozenth time he has walked out on me. He has done this since even before our son was born… is it a lost hope ? This time is different than the others as hes actually taking steps to be on his own. I’m not ready to be done. Is there a chance or do I just strictly move on and find happiness elsewhere ?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 16, 2021 at 7:21 pm

Hey Nicole, so while I get he is tired after work and it is hard to do more around the house. That’s just part of life. Most homes have two working parents and they both have to do their fair share of the housework and support each other. If you are home with the baby all day then I understand it is tiring to do this too, but keep in mind you can only do what you can. I think when he has got his own place, and living alone / having your two year old over and is by himself, he is then going to realise how hard life can be without you in it. In the mean time work on yourself and getting into a routine without him around. Let him see you strive without him.

Nicola

September 10, 2021 at 7:36 pm

My ex and I have been together for 14years and have 3 children. We’ve had a rough 4yrs with him suffering mental health issues then a stint away due to his issues. He’s come home now more than the man I always knew he could be and wanted him to be and yesterday he just said he was no longer in love with me cared for me but that was it. I’m devastated I’ve never once considered my life without him and us growing grey together even when things have been really hard we have always fought through and now this. He’s being cold with me and just talking about the kids is there even a chance?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 12, 2021 at 10:53 pm

Hi Nicola, I can imagine this being really hurtful with you being with him through his hard times. I would suggest that you allow him this time away from you so that you can let him realise he does have feelings for you and loves you. At times the road to recovery means being away from our partners. Use this time to work on yourself and show him that you are the person you were 14 years ago and so much more.

Jessica Gonzalez

September 8, 2021 at 5:50 am

Hi my name is Jessica. I have been with the father of my child going on 9 years. We recently split up but I haven’t moved out yet. He ignores me and blocks me on his phone. I was the one who decided to leave because I didn’t feel appreciated, he never helped with our daughter and always told me he deserved better. I hate the thought of leaving because than I feel like I’ll lose him forever. His ego is so big I dont see him coming back to me or fighting for our relationship. I’ve suggested therapy and he refuses. Do you think there’s any chance?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 9, 2021 at 9:58 pm

Hi Jessica, so you would need to try to follow the limited no contact rule where you focus on not speaking to your ex unless its about shared bills and your child. Remove yourself from spending time with him where possible and stop reaching out to him first. Allow him some time away from you, let him have a chance to miss you. In this break up you also need to stop cooking and cleaning for him. Give him a taste of what life is like without you in it for him.

Elle

September 4, 2021 at 10:10 am

Hello! I am currently 16 weeks pregnant, my ex tried to have me get an abortion but I didn’t want to so he ended things with me and told me he was not ready to be a parent and needed to go to therapy because of it. he has been telling all of our friends that I am selfish and I am the reason he needs to go to therapy and he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. do you think he will ever reach out? I haven’t reached out to him after he said he would rather d*e than to be a dad… I feel like our friends tell him about me and what i’m doing etc and he just tells them to block any communication with me and just painted a horrible picture of me. should I reach out to him once the baby is born or do you think he will try to reach out?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 9, 2021 at 10:21 pm

Hi Elle, I would suggest that you avoid reaching out by his reaction. Just focus on you and your baby and make sure that the baby is born into a happy toxic free environment, if he wants to be there, or involved he will come to you.

Blessing

September 1, 2021 at 11:31 am

We dated (my ex and me) for 7 years and have a son the problem is the he is too much of a mama boy and even broke up with me to go back and live with his mum.Is there any hope even though the mum definitely doesn’t want me in her son’s life.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 1, 2021 at 9:54 pm

Hey there, so the reason for him ending things with you and moving out is that he didn’t want to be with you? Or that he wanted to move back with his mother?

Bree

September 1, 2021 at 2:21 am

Me and my daughter’s dad weren’t actually officially together – we were more “friends with benefits” with both of us ending up catching feelings. Things got kinda bad and we both decided to end things only to find out two days later I was pregnant. He wasn’t around during the pregnancy and came around a couple days before our daughter turned a month old. She’s 2.5 months old now. I admit I do still have feeling for him. What chance , if any , do I have of getting my daughter’s dad back ?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 1, 2021 at 9:55 pm

Hi Bree, if you have not done so yet. I would suggest that you explain the situation, how you are feeling and that you would like to see if things could progress into a real relationship but also take it slow to build a real foundation this time around.

Anonymous

August 11, 2021 at 12:09 am

My baby dad and I were together on and off for a few years and we have a 7yr old special needs child together. The past 2 years have been pretty bad between us. We broke up right before the pandemic started and he got with this new gf. He basically left me for her. So we stopped speaking for almost a year and I started dating other ppl while he was in his year long toxic relationship with this girl. We recently met up back in June to talk and hash things out. The convo went well, there were a lot of tears and emotions on both our behalf’s and we vowed to move forward into a better space for our son. At the time he mentioned he was single. From that point on we’ve been getting been along and talking more and hanging out. Of course we had a few slip ups and now my feelings are back. However he mentioned that he didn’t wanna relationship right now and that he is working on himself. He had just got out of a very bad relationship with the girl he left me for so he said he needed time to heal from that. But he did mention he was currently dating. I said ok and I made it known that I was not going to be his friend with benefits. Things got weird because he would come over and we would spend time together as one big happy family and we would sleep together. We recently got into a big argument because I felt like he was as using me and not really wanting anything serious. He said that he never changed his mind about wanting a relationship, he still wants a to be single and that i shouldn’t be questioning him like I’m his gf. We haven’t spoken in a few days and then he finally calls to apologize for the things he said and he mentioned that he was wrong for his actions. He suggested that we focus on being friends to avoid any more issues because he feels like whenever we are on a good path, sex always cause issues between us so he wants a friendship without sex. He said that as we build a stronger friendship then that could possibly lead to us being together again. Did I mention he pulled a stunt like this in the past? Idk what to do. Idk if I can agree to be friends after this situation. I feel used. I can’t just flip a switch and go back to being best friends like we were. But I do love him and want to be a family. Should I move on?
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Kelly

July 21, 2021 at 9:54 am

My child’s father has a girlfriend but we have slept together a few times and he now wants to do things with our 11 year old together?
He knows I’m in love with him and he has told me that he has always loved me and thinks of me every day!
So why won’t he leave her!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 6, 2021 at 11:32 pm

Hi Kelly, you need to stop sleeping with him and refuse to spend time with him and your daughter together as a family, unless he ends things with the girl or you stop your sexual relationship and accept just friendship. I would also suggest that you explain to him that you will not be a causal fling you either want a serious relationship or nothing as it is unfair to your daughter getting caught up in your situation and getting hurt too.

Jeniffer kim

July 2, 2021 at 9:23 am

Jenniffer here, i am 9 months pregnant and almost about to deliver i broke up with my babydaddy 1month n a week ago and he left me for his ex who they had dated for 3½years he says he broke up with me because i involved my mom in our relationship but the truth is he did it to go back to his ex, i tried to apologize but he was so rude to me so i started the no contact rule for a whole month now, he has never texted me and i think he deleted my number, how can i get him back because i still love him so much and do you think its wise for me to contact him once his child is born so that he can see his son??..please help

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 3, 2021 at 9:32 pm

Hi Jennifer, yes you need to make him aware that his child is born and that you are willing to let him visit / have access if that is what you agreed. I would suggest that considering how you feel about him that you be sure that you have emotional support there for you in the early days so that you do not beg / ask him back etc. You need to work on yourself a little and follow the limited no contact rule for 45 days and then start the program as Chris explains in his articles and videos.

Ann rose

June 28, 2021 at 6:55 am

Hi..we got back together with my baby daddy after 7 long years 3 weeks ago, one weekend he went out with his buddies and on monday he said i was discussing him with one of them and i even slept with him which was a lie and not the case..he stopped communicating once again..and he communicated with his daughter instead for awhile.
..am wondering what’s going on in his mind? Our daughter was supposed to join grade one soon..is he avoiding that responsibility? He has another woman in another state with his child, have they gotten back together? I have lots of questions i need answers but am doing the no contact rule now..it has been 3 days since we spoken.
Jacky

April 16, 2021 at 5:02 pm

I met my baby daddy at the bank and after a week we started dating, I was leaving in another town and so we had a long distance relationship which means he was the one to visit me on weekends. Little did I know that he was married with a kid. I realized this when I was two months pregnant and then confronted him,he didn’t give me a straight answer and assumed the question. Afterwards he changed a lot, we barely communicated but he provided for the baby until recently when he started ignoring my texts and calls. When I asked him all about it he told me that I can’t force love… that I’m too much on him. I cried all night and after googling found the ex boyfriend recovery article and I started the no contact rule, I have been on it for 8 days now. On day 3 of the no contact he texted me but I ignored it. Please advise me on this one. It’s so sad for me.
Unknown source

April 16, 2021 at 3:12 am

My BD left me preg at 4mos. He moved states. And wanted a long distance. I didnt. I was angry and hurt.
5 mos went by. he didnt call ur check. Even when i delivered our son. I had to call him. No help. Not a dime. He denied his son suddenly and said i cheated to escape responsibility.
This is both our first kid. I’m 35. Hes 46.

1 mo later I tried to get him to meet his son (I have prob 40x and get excuses) and meet up w him *hint hint * he denied me. I knew. He was seeing someone. Hes been with this woman since he left me preg. Now hes engaged to her and hasnt been together even a year.

He left me and his son to play house with her.
I’m taking him to court. I don’t trust him.

Is there any hope? He told me today hes engaged. I said congrats. Left it at that.