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Maria
April 10, 2018 at 4:39 am
Ex and I broke up 3 days ago. We’ve been talking normally, even telling each other we still love each other, and miss each other, etc.
How should I initiate no contact? Do I just do it? Do I write him a letter? Is it too late?
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 11:20 pm
No I don’t think so. It sounds like the two of you are having positive interactions. Got an idea for you! Consider picking up my Ex Recovery Pro ebook available on this site (see Menu Section under “Products”)! It’s designed to dive deep into lots of tactics. Best of luck my friend!
Britney
April 9, 2018 at 10:52 pm
So I have 3 days to go on the no contact 30 days, and he sent me a text today saying he was back in town, and had the tv cord for me (I’ve already gone and gotten one so I don’t need it). I do not want to screw this up, I was planning on possibly going the full 45 days, but with his text now, I’m curious if you would recommend that or have me break it at 30 days. .I should mention we were together for 4 years almost, lived together. We both got our own places, and I have worked to get myself into a way better place and I’m so happy with where I’m at, which is why I do not wish to screw this. What are your thoughts? Start the rest of it after 30 days or should I give it till 45?
Chris Seiter
April 11, 2018 at 12:18 am
Hi Britney…you won’t screw this. You will do the best you can and if it doesn’t work out perfectly, don’t look back. I would caution you not to go 45 days. His message seems positive, consider responding politely.
Little Star
April 9, 2018 at 5:57 pm
My boyfriend and I got into a fight last last Thursday and he said he wanted a break. We didn’t talk over the weekend and I couldn’t wait anymore so I showed up at his work last Monday to talk to him. He got extremely mad that I just showed up and he wanted to break up. Said he doesn’t want to marry me (my mom has been pressuring us saying I have to be married by 28) and he said he’s not IN LOVE with me anymore, only just loves/cares about me. I was crying like crazy and basically begged for him back but he was saying “I’ve made up my mind.” So after that I didn’t talk to him until last Thursday about something that was our common interest. He would talk to me as friends. I didn’t come across the NC rule until this past weekend and I feel like I shouldn’t even had talked to him last week! Also, I sent his family flowers this past weekend since his grandma passed away and he reached out to me today to say thanks… Do you have any advice?
Chris Seiter
April 11, 2018 at 12:41 am
Hi Little Star. That is sweet of you to send flowers. Yes, NC could be a solution. You should take a look at a book I wrote called, Ex Recovery Pro. In it I offer a blueprint on all the things you should consider and do. You can learn more about it in my website’s Menu Section under “Products”. It may help you with the path you should take.
Mochi
April 9, 2018 at 5:40 pm
Hello! What if my ex’s grandma passed away recently and I sent his family flowers (maybe i shouldn’t have) and he reached out to me and said thanks. Do i ignore? (We broke up last Monday, he reached out today.)
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 4:09 am
Unfortunately I say don’t break NC for this.
I’m cold hearted I know…
Lili
April 8, 2018 at 4:44 am
We were doing a long distance relationship and everything was fine then suddenly in Oct he said he didnt want a long term relationship and that he likes me but he doesnt want to be a couple. After that he kept messaging me but it was never enough. I felt very insecure and tried to do no contact but failed multiple times. We started argueing alot and he often thought i was purposely made him jealous or upset and i wanted him was to show he cared. In the end he said he was bored and dont contact him anymore and blocked me in whatsapp. I was so angry i blocked him in instagram and fb. I have been doing the no comtact for 24 days now. Dont think i hv made much improvement even though i tried dating other ppl. Do you think there is a chance we can get back together? He still blocked me on whatsapp
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 3:59 am
LDR’s are really tough.
I’ve been in one and know firsthand how difficult they can be.
So, walk me through exactly what you’ve done during this period of NC? You said you feel you didn’t make a lot of improvement. Why is that?
Lili
April 10, 2018 at 11:53 am
I used to be a really fun person but during this NC period ..I havent’t been going out much..and I still think about him all the time which i know is wrong. Even when i went out on dates i would come home feeling worse. I keep thinking i should have done the no contact much earlier before he got fedup of me and ask me to forget about him
Remember you wrote that there was only 2 ppl you blocked in your life and 1 was your ex that was too toxic even though you still had feelings for her. I think i fall into that category
What do you think i should do and thank you for replying..it means alot to me
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 10:52 pm
Hi Lili. You know, the future brings us surprises. If it doesn’t work out for you with him, it may be the best thing. These rough feeling you are experiencing will decline. There are things you can do to help yourself through this period. And things you can do to optimize your chances for recovery.Sometimes we can feel lost, uncertain as to what to do. That is one reason why I created a resource called, Ex Recovery Pro. It’s comprehensive and full of tips and tactics. Just click on my website’s menu and pull of the “Products” Page to learn more. There is a book in there, called the No Contact Rulebook and it has lots of ideas and information that will help you cope through this stage. Indeed, all the resources you find there will be of help.
lily
April 18, 2018 at 9:55 am
So he surprisingly responded to my text after the no contact period..but it was very careful and neutral…just answered to my question and says he hopes im doing well too. I responded all is well and i got a new job..hooray! And he replied ahh..well done! But he never ask me any other question. He still watches my ig stories even though i have unfollowed him. I am afraid though he has lost feelings for me and I dont know if I should try to start another conversation. What do you think of his response?
Chris Seiter
April 18, 2018 at 11:10 pm
Hey Lily…good job. Just go slow, wait a few days, then try message. Change your ig stories to “follow” (nice overture). Its a feeling out process that is happening now.
Lili
April 19, 2018 at 11:10 am
Hi chris thanks for the reply..
What do you mean by this Change your ig stories to “follow” (nice overture)
When we fought i am no longer following is ig and friends on facebook. Should i make the first move and make the request?
Chris Seiter
April 19, 2018 at 3:15 pm
Oh I see…i misunderstood! Just keep things the way they are if you are more comfortable with that. Getting constant reminders can be disconcerting. At the end of the NC period, as I cover off in my ebooks, you will be make an overture through a text message.
Annie
April 7, 2018 at 6:19 pm
What if he doesn’t contact you at all? Does that mean NC is t working (referring to “Prong One”)?
Jennifer Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 6:53 pm
Hi Annie, The fact that he hasn’t reached out during no contact is a neural sign. It doesn’t mean you can’t get him back. I’d say out of all of my success stories around 50%+ of them didn’t get a message from their ex during no contact.
You have to remember men can be stubborn and if he broke up with you it could be damaging to his ego to reach out first. The no contact gives him time to think about you and gives you a chance to become happy with yourself again which builds a stronger foundation for your relationship if you get back together.
Pizza
April 7, 2018 at 8:23 am
Will NC rule work if I begin it 4-5 months after the breakup? We have been trying to be friends for the last 4-5 months but he keeps sending me mixed signals. He started dating someone about 2 months ago (actually asked her out because he was mad at me) but keeps messaging me saying how I made him happier and how he still loves me but the reasons for ending it still stand. LDR… Our conversations kept getting volatile as he kept bringing the past up and even flirted with me despite seeing someone else. Will NC and working on myself be effective? Just a week ago I attended a mutual party we were both invited too he did not show up. He sent me a text message saying he almost came to the party despite having been clear he did not want to see me in person and also said “How could I show up if all you want is closure?” and “My inability to get over you does not change the reasons why I had to end things.” Do you think I still have a chance of mending this relationship? I started NC 3 days ago blocked him on FB and even changed my phone number because he tends to become a text GNAT and I don’t want to be tempted to message him. He sent me an e-mail saying “Really, don’t want to know me? So be it” Please advise me as to what to do.
Chris Seiter
April 9, 2018 at 11:29 am
So, in my experience the biggest qualifying thing you have to look at is how long you two have been chatting. In that 4 to 5 months have you just been silent already or have you been texting constantly?
Pizza
April 9, 2018 at 11:38 am
There were three periods (2 initiated by me) of about 6-10 days of silence on both parts but mostly just bickering and arguing over the past and why the relationship failed some reminiscing that led to him hitting on me (hot then cold) even though Ive told him that wasnt doing us any good (besides i believe he’s in a rebound I believe) im on day 5 of NC and at midnight he contacted a common friend and was like (Well she defenitly doesnt want to know me anymore) and began complaining about the whys the relationship ended even claimed I didnt respect his decision but then proceeded 10mins later to spam me with e-mails 6 in one day with nuggets of gold such as “Why are you hurting me?” and “Why dont you want to know me?” were in there…. FYI This is almost 3 year LD relationship and we did breakup once and I succesfully did NC then.
Chris Seiter
April 11, 2018 at 1:06 am
Good to hear Pizza. Stay the course and if you need more comprehensive insights into this whole breakup maze, consider any one of my ebooks (click on website menu/products) .
Carly
April 6, 2018 at 2:41 am
Unintentionally started the no contact rule this past Tuesday (so, it’s been 3 days). I’m 100% confident that sometime soon, he will need to reach out to set up a time to come and grab some of his personal belongings. He left my house (together for 2 years, living together for 14 mos) with a mere laundry basket of clothing and some odds & ends. Does the NC clock restart after we’ve had contact around collecting his belongings?
Also, different topic: we definitely consider our relationship w/ one another to be the single most special relationship that either of us has ever had (we’re both 43, divorced with kids). I became pretty fearful of how good the relationship was (I know) and became pretty controlling… lots of arguments. Roller coaster-ish. He is not without his own challenges (no need to go into those here!), but suffice it to say we both have work to do. I’m in therapy, FYI… because as you’ve noted, if there’s no self-work, then the NC rule may not be enough on it’s own. Anyway, my question is, is it possible for him to recover from all of the fighting that was done? He has said things like: I want to be friends. I just don’t want to be in a romantic relationship with you anymore. I care about you, you know me better than anyone else ever, but my heart isn’t in it anymore. In the beginning when he left, I pushed and pushed. Was super desperate. And then this past Tuesday, I just went radio silent. He has insisted that over the length of our relationship leading up to him breaking up with me was like slowly tearing off a band-aid. Given this high level sense of our story, do you think that there is any hope for us to get back together. Is it possible that he has simply endured too much? Thanks!
Jennifer Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 2:40 am
No, you do not have to restart no contact with the exchange of belongings. Yes I think you can still get back together. I’ve heard these things often with the clients I’ve coached and many of them are back together.
Carly
April 7, 2018 at 3:18 pm
A friend of mine texted him when he found out that we had broken up and said all women are crazy, but that I was perfect for him. My ex texted this friend back saying that it was a very tough breakup but really needed to happen. I get the sense that he has 100% moved on. Our next step is having him come and get his stuff. When a man seems THAT resolved and appears to have made his mind up without question, do you ever see those types come back around after the NC rule. I could see my ex being the exception.
Jennifer Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 7:22 pm
First, I’m just going to through this out there, do not let your friends get involved in this. To much could go wrong.
Restart your no contact from the point that the friend sent that text because that is like an extentsion of you reaching out. When he gets his stuff that will not count as breaking the no contact rule as long as your aloof and not emotional.
To answer your question, Yes I’ve seen men come back around that have said and done worse then your ex.
Veronica
April 5, 2018 at 11:52 am
We were together for 4.5 years with the last 1.5 years being long distance. Prior to this we had 3 v happy years but during the long distance we unravelled. He ended it 3 months ago as he felt we couldn’t get back on track long distance. During that time we’ve spoken every day and he came to see me a month ago unexpectedly for a visit. We had a nice lunch together and he left. He then for two weeks straight seemed to be reconsidering the position and talking about making a plan to get back together and living in same city and sorting things out. I was of course delighted. On proposing we start working towards a plan, he freaked out and started being wishy washy again. He suffers from anxiety from time to time and has apologised saying he’s at a very confusing place in life right now. I set my boundaries, confirmed the effort I expected and said that If he couldn’t meet that, it is best we cut contact so he can un-confuse himself and I can get on with life. He responded that he knows I deserve better than what he’s giving me right now. V hard. We’re incredibly close friends but I’m on day 4 of NC but…he has messaged to ask how I am. Given the background detail above, do I respond or no? Thanks!
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 11:58 pm
That is a negative!
Veronica
April 6, 2018 at 7:22 am
Thanks Chris. And how long do you suggest? 21 or 30?
Chris Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 4:49 am
Start with the basic 30 day rule.
Chiller
April 5, 2018 at 11:40 am
Hi my 60 year old boyfriend broke up with me because he said he felt choked by my anxiety and that I don’t challenge him enough I just kind of do what he wants because it doesn’t matter to me as long as we are together. we had a great relationship to my knowledge, lots of fun, we talk about everything, fantastic sex life, he is my best friend also, Started the no contact he contacted me and I couldn’t help myself I replied and I started NC over again he started liking my tweets.
My question is can I get him back or is he just too old and stuck in his ways?
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 11:56 pm
60 year old boyfriend AWESOME!
Ok, so I feel like the important thing for you is to just get through NC at this point. How long did you make it the first time? You neglected to mention that.
Chiller
April 6, 2018 at 12:00 pm
I made it through a week, Last night he sent me a couple messages telling me about his day when I didn’t reply he then said Just checking in with a thumbs up. I also didn’t mention that I am 39 years old, I really miss him.
Chris Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 9:17 pm
How old is he if you don’t mind me asking?
Chiller
April 10, 2018 at 2:19 am
Omg I think I messed up, I saw him in a club and totally ignored him because I thought the NC meant NC, I did that twice this weekend and now I’m afraid he will think I hate him and move on.
I tried to purchase your product so I can fix this but I think my card was declined. He did like one of my tweets after that sp I’m not sure what to do or think. I feel like I’m losing him
Chris Seiter
April 11, 2018 at 12:07 am
Hang in there. If you can’t get product, utilize the website for advice!
Chiller
April 13, 2018 at 12:48 pm
Finally got the guide and started using the advice last night he did something very unusual for him last night he posts a song on FB Josh Krajcik Let Me Hold You and an hour later he posts Madison Ryan Ward Mirror wording in this says its just not going to work out between us do you think he sending a message to me in that song? talking to himself? or does he just like the song for no reason he never posts sad songs on FB in the year that we were together.
I know I shouldn’t have looked at his page according to the guide but I was searching something on FB and I saw his name with an update icon and I couldn’t help myself.This made me cry so hard but I will continue the NC and not break. I hope this works.
Chris Seiter
April 13, 2018 at 2:09 pm
Hi Chiller. Hard to really know if the song postings mean anything. It could be random. Or he may be trying to process things. I wouldn’t put a lot of stock in it. Just stay with your plan.
taffy dale
April 4, 2018 at 8:23 pm
Hello, I was seeing someone (call him C) for 6 months but we never had a conversation about being monogamous/exclusive. Sometimes I felt certain he was still seeing other people, but for some (dumb) reason I never brought it up because in my head ignorance was bliss. I was still talking to someone (B) from another city the whole time but it was a long distance/emotional relationship with this other person. Last week C was using my phone and saw messages from B where I was talking to him about our relationship and some sexual things. That evening C confronted me about the messages and I told him yes I had been talking to someone because I honestly thought he didn’t have as many feelings as he did for me, I thought he was genuinely talking to other women. That evening we both told each other we loved one another (we had never done so prior). On Friday we spoke over the phone and he explained he needed space/time apart for his own healing and for OUR healing. He told me he needed me to take care of myself for US. I asked him why he didn’t tell me how he felt earlier, his intention was to take me on a trip to the mountains on my birthday next week and tell me how he felt there. We ended the conversation by saying we loved each other. I haven’t spoken/reached out/heard from him since then. We do follow each other on twitter and I know he is depressed/going through it because I really hurt him with the messages to the other man. I have since stopped contact w B and am just working on myself, staying busy and trying to stay positive. We never discussed how long a NCO should be set for, I kinda left that up to him. I feel like he will contact me when he is healed/ready. What is your advice? Thank you so much!
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 11:41 pm
My advice is to try to stack the odds in your favor always and if you sit around and wait for him to contact you it might end up prolonging things.
I think after a NC period you should always be the one to reach out first. In my opinion, what matters more is who ends conversations.
Anna
April 4, 2018 at 1:17 pm
Hello, thank you in advance for your beautiful advice,
broke up after an on – off yearandahalf relationship. Was pregnant, both agreed to stop it because of really-really-really wrong circumstances (not absence of love or passion). I got really emotional after abortion, went into an argument with him and he stopped contact for 21 days (had he read your article?!?!). He attempted contact two weeks ago, and again last week, but I have only replied “I’m ok” as to his concern for my health. I have not replied to his “miss you” text, or another one that he sent asking again about how I am. The thing is, I terribly miss him, I want to talk to him… but I’m not sure I’m ready … still trying to put myself together after everything that’s happened (in my mind I’m applying no contact, but haven’t really had a descent conversation with him). Do you think I should respond? Engage in a conversation? Maybe this would answer my questions, ease my pain? Should I ever consider getting back?
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 11:09 pm
My belief is that you shouldn’t talk to your ex until you feel like you are ready!
Anonymous
April 3, 2018 at 1:25 pm
I already unfriended him before reading this. Since I am in no contact I don’t think I should re add him (all of this took place last night and I was devastated). Should I just send a friend request at the end of No Contact or go ahead and do it? He is supposedly taking a break from Facebook anyway so he may not accept the request for a while.
Chris Seiter
April 4, 2018 at 12:54 am
No worries!
I would not send that friend request until you are back on speaking terms and in the rapport building stage.
Aubrey
April 2, 2018 at 12:44 pm
Hi, I’m not sure how to say this but I had someone I have loved for two years. It was a long distance relationship and we have never met yet. We both have kids and it’s kinda hard for us to meet since we are both from different country. Then he broke it off last month saying it’s the kids that’s keeping us stuck and he has decided to move on with another girl. Broke my heart until this time. He said if I were to be close to him he would marry me but it’s too late now he has a new girlfriend. He wanted to keep in touch still but told him it’s not the right thing to do but I still love him. Whenever I sent him a message he reply to me but the last time I told I should move on too and he said this makes him so sad. Not sure if no contact rules apply here but I want him back.
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 2:12 am
Yes NC definitely applies here.
Aubrey
April 3, 2018 at 8:26 am
Thank you chris for taking time to reply, ill do NC.
Chris Seiter
April 4, 2018 at 1:05 am
You are so welcome! Thanks for taking the time to comment. Anything else I can help you with?
Cass
March 28, 2018 at 1:03 am
I’m almost 3 weeks into no contact, we broke up cause he said he didn’t feel as strongly for me as before and he was acting cold. We dated for 2 months, but talked for 4 months because I wanted to take thing slow. I was the one who actually ended it, he was willing to continue to try. I had contacted him the day after we broke up asking if he wanted his things back, he said he would grab them tomorrow. I ended up telling him I had plans and he would have to come another day, which he said was fine. We haven’t talked since and I still have his belongings. Following that I unfriended him on FB, removed him from Snapchat and unfollowed him on instagram. He was still following me on instagram and I was very active in posting until exactly 2 weeks after the day we broke up, I had posted I was out with a male friend and immediately he unfollowed me. He does not post on social media often, maybe 2-3 times a year. But has posted 3 pictures and changed his profile picture since we split 3 weeks ago which is highly unusual for him. One of the pictures he looks quite sad in, that he posted the day after unfollowing me on instagram. While he was following me, he was seeing every single thing I posted, he’d even check on his work and lunch breaks. He also friend requested, on FB, my male friend that was in the instagram picture. I was his first real girlfriend, first girl that met his parents, and I took his virginity. I feel as though his loss of feelings had a lot to do with my neediness, and I was insecure and would pick fights easily. I’ve improved a lot since starting no contact and have continued to be active in posting and improving myself. I have all my profiles set to public as well. I’m proud of myself for coming so far with myself with the help of your website. I was just wondering where I should go from here and if my chances for getting him back looked good or if I should just let things slide? Thank you!
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 1:44 am
Well, I think the logical next step is to start prepping a first contact text!
Sounds like you did a pretty awesome job during NC!
Wendy
March 27, 2018 at 6:36 pm
Hey Chris!
I’ve been doing the no contact for a week when I sent a drunken message to them stating “I can’t get home” to initiate a reaction from him. He hasn’t even checked the message, so I guess my chances are pretty low. What would you suggest? Start from day 1?
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 1:41 am
Yep, you have to start again from day one 🙁
Angie
March 27, 2018 at 1:50 am
My partner and I were together for 13 years and we had a house. We then for a year still acted like we were together, however i was getting the friend card alot of the times. We got back together before christmas and lasted a month because he just wasn’t ready. He had the green grasser mentality now that he was single i guess after all that time.
I followed the NC rule, it was soo hard. After 5 weeks i sent him a simple message about his favourite sports team that was playing and he responded straight away. In that 5 weeks i had lost 7 kilos, been going to the gym and yoga. Since that message, it seems to be me always sending the positive or memory type texts, like i see your favourite band is playing at the pub etc…..
Anyway, i then started going out again to our local, we live in a small community. I was full of confidence, happy, looking great. This got a response from our social friends and received heaps of compliments. He would be there i’d be smiling etc, but i still don’t get anything from him!! We’d chat and have a convo and keep it all up beat.
I’ve now been doing this for about 3 weeks where i would be going out to the local knowing he’d be there, looking fabo, getting all the right responses from friends but nothing from him.
When we broke up again, he unfriended me from FB and blocked my number in his phones, so Messenger is our only contact. I initiated lunch the other day, he was defensive and ended it that he said he saw me on a dating website, which he is on too… I said i wasn’t on it anymore, which i’m not. However, it’s driving me crazy that he’s active on it.
I know he’s been the stubborn one here. I guess the dating website a bad idea? Sometimes i feel we are playing games like if that person can do, than i can too!
So i’m thinking i should go the NC again? I’m confused on where i’m at as he doesn’t show any response.
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 1:34 am
If he doesn’t respond then you should go into NC. Generally after “no response” you want to do a week of NC, try again and if he doesn’t respond to that attempt you jump into it fully again.
Chana
March 27, 2018 at 1:43 am
Is it ever too late to do the no contact rule?
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 1:33 am
I don’t think the question is,
“Is it too late?”
I think the question is,
“When does it lose effectiveness.”
And I’d say that it loses it’s effectiveness if you continually fail it time and time again.
Chana
April 3, 2018 at 2:08 am
I’ve attempted it at least 6 different times with my last attempt covering over 20 days. I got the response I wanted but things quickly became chaotic again since he has a girlfriend but was telling me that he wanted to come back to me. However with my reaction I have pushed him away for a long time. If I perform no contact again, is it likely to prompt him to come back for good?
Chris Seiter
April 4, 2018 at 12:43 am
So, the biggest issue I see people making is rushing the process once they start getting in contact.
I find perception priming is super important during no contact rules. This article doesn’t really go into that but maybe I’ll have to add onto it. But basically you have to be priming your ex to want to talk to you during no contact.
chana
April 4, 2018 at 12:47 am
How do I prime him and what is prime perception?
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 10:36 pm
Sorry for the late response.
My daughter got sick last night so ended up cleaning up a lot of… well, vomit haha.
Ok, priming is nothing more than making him want to talk to you. So, if you are in NC you can use social media to do this.
Amber
March 27, 2018 at 1:35 am
My ex loaned me money in an emergency and said he didn’t want it back. I just repaid him by mail with only the check in the envelope, no note.
He has a huge ego…ex professional athlete…which isn’t aging well, still thinks he is God’s gift to women and forgets I knew him when.
What do you think?
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 1:33 am
Ex professional athlete?
Interesting.
Anyone I’d know?
I think the key is to find a way to differentiate yourself from anyone he’s ever met.
Mavis
March 26, 2018 at 7:20 am
My bf and I dated for a year. We were friends for 7 years before we started dating.
Last Xmas, I initiated a break up with him due to my insecurities. We got back together shortly after but with issues unresolved and he was hot and cold since then. A month ago, he told me that another gal was interested in him and asked him out. He said that he should go out with the girl to get to know her better. My initial thought was; since he was hot and cold, and now with another woman who wants to date him, then I’ll rather give up the relationship since he seems to lose interest in the relationship. So I initiated a break up. Those few days after I initiated the break up, we still texted like before. He said that he didn’t expect me to give up and not put up a fight. My anger got the better of me and I scolded him for his infidelity.
I am into my 2nd week of NC. I have not heard from him since. I know he has been following me on FB as he texted my child over something that I posted on FB.
I still have feelings for him but I’m not sure about him. He’s an egoistic man, he will not take the initiative to contact me since I was the one who initiated the break up and “hurt him a lot” – his words. At the same time, I have lost trust in him even though I would like to give it a try again.
What should I do?
It’s been a month and I’ve calmed myself over the break up and almost moving on with life.
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 1:29 am
I think at this point you just keep on keeping on with the no contact!