What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Anon

October 13, 2019 at 1:33 pm

Hi Shaunna, I’ve been reading all of Chris’s articles about hot and cold exes and the inside voice. I should mention that the Snapchats were not sexual, but we did talk about a funny memory from the past, which may have been emotional I guess. During our time together, we hardly ever got to hang out more than twice a month because of our schedules, so I think he’s content with our distance because we’re used to it. We are both each other’s first real relationship and I don’t think either of us knew how to deal with the breakup, but it’s truly unlike him to block anybody, let alone block me. He’s making it seem like he’s so over it and he doesn’t need me in his life, like he’s better off without me. Should I do the same?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 15, 2019 at 8:38 pm

Hi Anon so if he is hot and cold then it shows he isnt fully convinced of his decision so when he blows cold just take it like hes having a “off day” and you focus on you post some positive things to your SM showing how great you are and your life. Do things hes interested in. And then when hes coming to you you need to not get ahead of yourself and over do it. Always end conversations first and make sure you flirt/friendzone/flirt just to get him wondering if he can still have you back

Anon

October 12, 2019 at 8:17 pm

Hi! My ex boyfriend (3 years LDR) broke up with me on Monday. I begged him not to leave me and eventually I ended up on “seen”. After this, I went no contact. He blocked me today. Not everywhere yet. When he broke up, he said that he will never be with me again, because I will never make him happy (we used to fight a lot) and he also said that he doesn’t have any feelings left for me anymore. We also broke up one year ago because of the same reasons but eventually we got back together after 3 months (at that time, he didn’t block me, we stayed friends). What should I do? Should I try to contact him after “no contact” or not?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 12, 2019 at 10:52 pm

Hi A – so need to complete the NC and work on yourself. Its up to you if you want to reach out and try to get him back after your NC

Anon

October 12, 2019 at 2:02 am

So my last time reaching out to my ex was about 2 weeks ago (we broke up 3 months ago) and we basically talked about how we’re both focusing on ourselves, and he told me he doesn’t see a future with me and doesn’t care for me in that way anymore. I fully intended to keep no contact going, but he sent me a Snapchat two days ago and we talked for a bit, the conversation was smooth and casual, just talking about work and school. I woke up the next morning and we talked more, but when I went to reply to what he sent, I found myself blocked. I sent him a text asking why he suddenly blocked me on Snapchat and he hasn’t replied yet. Why would he block me so long after the breakup, after we both made our peace with it? I thought we were getting back on good terms and we’d be good to start building a New bond one day. I’m upset because I broke my no contact thinking he was reaching out to be friendly, but he just straight up blocked me and won’t tell me why. Any advice?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 12, 2019 at 7:29 am

Hi, so him blocking you out of the blue (giving that the snap was emotional or sexual) He could have got himself conflicted. “The Inside Voice” that Chris talks about in the videos and articles about guys pulling away. Read up on the Hot vs Cold situations through the website.

Brandi

October 3, 2019 at 11:31 am

So he hasn’t completely blocked me but has set his FB & Snapchat to where we are still “friends” but I can’t see anything he is posting or saying….

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 3, 2019 at 9:59 pm

Hi Brandi, this means he can see what you are posting so make sure that you post Ungettable Girl things

Phoenix

October 1, 2019 at 5:33 am

Dear Chris. Loved reading every article, you really put some great effort in figuring this out. Ive had a close friendship for 1,5 year with someone 2500km away. Last summer we eventually met and the bond in real life was there too. He has high control over emotions (or thats what he wants people to think), but he was the one starting the “being together” picture. I opened up to that idea but felt his actions and words didnt match. Thats why i became like your negative blocked friend and kept lashing out cause i felt he was lying, he also gave me the warning he was done with negativity, but he still insisted he has feelings. In the end i summed up what he said and that it didnt make sense and then he confessed he lied about ever having feelings at all. I was angry, disappointed and ofc wrote him a emo message. He blocked me (had that coming), so i texted him that i only want to say i valued and enjoyed our friendship and that i wish him well. He replied that he is not mad but it just hurts. So, any thoughts on this subject?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 1, 2019 at 8:26 pm

Hey Phoenix, so what you’re going to have to do is take a slight step back and consider your emotional control here. Where I agree actions speak louder than words when you have a LDR words need to be taken into consideration because there is not much he can physically do with that distance. Once you’ve given him some space you can reach out with a positive and interesting (to him) text and see how it goes from there

Blockity

September 29, 2019 at 12:42 pm

Hi
I’ve been blocked on messenger. I don’t know the reason. Not an ex but someone I was building a friendship with. We were always happy to great when we pass each other. There were always smiles and eye contact. After sending a giff of a frog running away by accident. I was blocked. I’m not sure why. I’m really confused by this as I don’t even know what Ive done wrong. Only friends. I am married and he is separated but still married too. It’s a very inocent friendship

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 29, 2019 at 7:27 pm

Hi Julie, so you need to take some time to do a No Contact, and work on getting over what he did – like you said you’re still angry. I wouldn’t go to where hes playing music so soon as this is going to make you look desperate and obviously trying to get him back. You need to show your independence and that you are not chasing him anymore. He needs to think you are happy in your life without him and do interesting and exciting new things with your life with friends. Read up on the being there method because it is almost what you’re going to have to do after you’ve completed the No Contact

Humboldt Artist Guy

September 11, 2019 at 3:10 am

Today I found myself blocking my ex girlfriend after she randomly accuses me of harassing and stalking her and that she would get a restraining order. (I haven’t seen or reached out to her in 2 months). I text back asking what is she talking about and that it must’ve been a mistake. No response. I’m guessing she saw my car or someone like me and assumed I was stalking her. I admit to being a little needy after the relationship ended 9 months ago, but NEVER have I acted immature as to act like a creep. She had previously blocked me for several months until recently then unblocked me when she saw I wasn’t reaching out…and then I get this threatening text from her out of nowhere today. Before she could block me again, I beat her to it. Was I acting immature or did I do the right thing?

Shaunna

September 12, 2019 at 8:29 pm

Hey Humboldt Artist Guy, the angry and accusation messages you are receiving are not good, so it is defusing the situation so yeah blocking may be your only option, I would keep my distance if she is accusing you of harassment and stalking.

Jodi Snyder

September 9, 2019 at 1:12 am

I’ve been with my ex now for7yrs we have a 6yr old son beautiful..he heard icheated on him &i honestly never did he blocked me after isent him afew nasty messages iwas angry because he wasnt answering my calls or responding he was just seem sending me short texts saying admit to chuck and will talk…and wouldnt recieve my calls ..iwas calling for my son also though..blocking and doing a nocontact with a child in the midfle i think is horrible..its hurting our son more then me..reason is im not getting answers he said we can Coparent responding through a friends phone because im still blocked..im hurt angry frustrated and dont know what to do.my family is broken and iwant him back but icant even get answers because there is a block on the phone..its confusing because ill text him from a friends cell phone and he gives me all different responses if any but last response was will coparent but im still blocked…what do i do?and is there any chance of getting him back or is he really done?what do i do?there is a child involvef…

Shaunna

September 12, 2019 at 9:32 pm

Hi Jodi, there is always a chance. You’re following this program will give you, your best chance. Look up Limited No Contact and then focus on becoming Ungettable.

Jessica

September 3, 2019 at 10:59 pm

Hi
My ex and I broke up two weeks ago over a really bad fight. He moved an hour away and moved houses and blocked me on alll social media and I think he blocked me on email now … sigh
He wanted to work it out but I was just not ready and needed time to normalize myself .. I have been pleading to have a phone call but no use he keeps saying please don’t contact me again it’s done:( he emailed me this

What do i do?
Valerie

September 3, 2019 at 1:35 am

Dear Chris,
Hi my ex just blocked me again today after my friend had lent me her fake Snapchat to text him. We had sort of roasted one another, but I had just been trying to apologize. During our roast sesh beginning he had tried to start a video call with me on Snapchat. Before that he had unblocked one of my insta accounts, aka my poetry account. However he ended up blocking it, and still hasn’t unblocked it. Yet now I know he must’ve memorized the username or something. Either way it’s a very long story as to why we broke up in the first place, but he did something really messed up to me. That’s besides the point know, because I know we’re eachothers soulmates, and he knows so as well. I mean he literally wrote like four different things into my poetry book. However he keeps lying, and denying the fact he even did. Which is why he keeps blocking me I guess. I just really could use your help, if you think there’s anyway to ever get him back. Then please help me because I must admit I kind of miss him, and I know deep down that he does too. We’re just too stubborn and will never cave first.
Tejaswini

August 23, 2019 at 3:01 pm

Hi I dated my ex for 2 years but I cheated on him horribly I regret doing that I miss him alot i cry everyday I even call him from different numbers which makes me embarrassed n guilty he has humiliated me in front of his friends too n he has blocked me from all the possible places I see him every Sunday during church he ignores me I want to get back to him what do I do? Will the NC work should I stop going to church?
Marcia

August 16, 2019 at 5:22 pm

Hi! All in all, I was 2 months blocked, then 3 months ghosted (messages ignored). That sums up to 5 months! I wonder which book he is reading it from. Apparently from the book of “how to lose a woman real fast” 🙂

Well but I am reading from “Chris Seiter” the best! And I have totally recovered, not needing my ex. I didn’t message him, not even for fun. He did good to me: I was settling for so little: ghosting, blocking, bread crumbing, benching…that misery of modern dating. He made me raise the bar high. If any other man may turn up ever, he needs to be perfect this time. Otherwise it is much happier to be alone. After all, not all people in the world are meant to be coupled or married 🙂

Chris Seiter

August 16, 2019 at 9:53 pm

I extend my best wishes to you Marcia. You have many paths to choose from.

NS

August 15, 2019 at 5:28 am

Hi Chris,

I guess i have posted a comment last year as well when my ex boyfriend blocked me. The previous time i begged and begged (i shouldnt have done that) for two months straight but nothing happened and finally i cut contacts and he came back after two weeks. After that our relationship has flourished into a really good relationship. We talked about future, gettingg married having kids and all the building future bit. We have been together for five years and thinking about our future together was only natural. The previous time the fight was about a stupid “I need more time from you” a plea from every girlfriend i guess. This time it was the same. I know I did irritate him to a point that he thought of breaking up but it was all anger. I know he is totally in love with me because our relations was great a week back the breakup. The sudden anger could have been from our stupid fights over the time issue and me making him irritated over it. I probably made him feel that he had no personal space and I am sorry for that but if he had told me about him affecting this much over it that he would breakup i wouldnt have bothered him so much. I believe in communication. So when he blocked me immediately after breakup i texted him the next day over instagram thinking he would be calm now. I asked are you sure you want this? He just blocked me. Two days after as i was confused that what was so wrong that he could not resolve through communicating, he kept up with blaming me and sort of showing his anger. He also tried to make me feel jealous saying, these past few days have been the best and i had great fun. I know that was anger. I an sure he would have had a good time having his space but i’m sure that was more to show off. Now i am letting it all be since i am blocked from calls, whatsapp and instagram where we usually talk. I am not going to beg. I am not going to message. But i am wondering everyday when would he block me and come back. Because ik he loves me. And i am very confused and devastated if this is going to be permanent. I am focussing on myself, trying to get myself happy working out. But i need to know if this “break” is permanent.

I need help cz this thought is driving me crazy! I know he loves me but is love enough to conquer the anger, irritation from my few stupid actions and frustration of not getting his space. I would have listened for sure if he would have once let me know this but he did not. I probably should have known while doing stuff and between those fights but i never expected him to breakup cz the last time he did breakup and came back i made him promise not to do it again and talk out our problems. He did the opposite. I am angry at him too but i want him back. Please suggest something. I am in NC since a week.
Beulah

August 12, 2019 at 6:22 pm

Hi, when I read your article tears came from my eyes ,but thanks for your article. 20 years back my love story started when we were in college but suddenly he stopped talking to me in my college days only,he just ignored me, I tried a lot but no use. After our college education he went to his home town and I didn’t know where he was from, and those days no mobile phones we had.I cried and cried but finally I put my efforts and time in education and I did well. But I never forgot him. Now iam 35 years old woman ,mother of two kids.One day that means nearly after 19 years of breakup through fb messanger he sent me messages and said sorry for what he did in that time. He also married and father of two kids. He gave his contact number and said will be friends. But when I called him only once he spoke to me and he said I will call later. One week I waited for his call but he never, then I called him but he disconnected my call and he blocked me in all the way. It hurted me like anything, he only wanted to talk with me and he blocked me. Still I don’t know why he did like this and don’t know what was my mistake. But you know this time I am totally broken, continuously tears coming from my eyes, I know he will never unblock me but still my heart loving him, I don’t know why I am not able to hate him or forget him. It’s my sad story. Thank you so much.

Chris Seiter

August 12, 2019 at 10:08 pm

Hi Beaulah….it abundantly obvious to me that you are a wonderful person and he blew his chances with you. Consider yourself fortunate that you are on the path that you are on. Embrace the positivity in your life and do the things that bring you fulfillment.

Lucianna

August 12, 2019 at 11:24 am

I don’t care if he wants me anymore. If he wants me he is going to have to fight for me from all the other candidates now because I am inevitably moving on with life. Yes I feel I treated him absolutely horribly, I could have done better, due to the simple fact of my inexperience, to the point where I now cannot feel good about myself. My Birthday is coming up one month from now, perfect for No Contact, Sooo.. for me to be able to have peace again and show to him I keep my values despite a hard day I had after much stress (like any human being has of course) Nothing of “partner” or “friend”, just human respect, I am going to call him from another phone just to let him know it is my birthday and I never meant to hurt him. Thats it. I never meant to hurt him. I hope that makes him think a bit.
I deserve to be happy on my birthday. How could he deny me that?
Sarah

August 5, 2019 at 7:13 pm

Hi was with a guy 6 months we got a long well but now he said he needs time and to be good what does this mean
Marcia

August 3, 2019 at 8:53 pm

Dear Chris, hello and have a great summer! I am feeling good and patiently waiting for my luck to change! I am tempted to send another text to my ex (who unblocked me but he is still ghosting me for 3 months and never replies). I feel entertained to send him a silly joke, i.e. something I heard today in the news, that the dangerous Nile mosquitos have appeared in the area he lives, plus in my area too! And what a coincidence! I know this is a silly text, but we do need humor in our lives, plus I will warn him about the lethal mosquitos haha! So I wonder if I send it, will it mean that:

A. I am over him, obviously
B. I don’t mind his ghosting, as I still keep sending off random things
C. I don’t need a reply, since I am not asking anything
D. I am doing this in order to remind him, we are over and I don’t mind

In my silly head, I would answer YES in all, but does it work the same way in a man’s mind? 🙂
Joanna

August 1, 2019 at 11:11 am

Hi!

I’m not sure if my previous message got through so excuse me if this is a double post.

I’m blocked on WhatsApp and removed from fb friends. I was wondering if I should do no contact since it’s possible that he leaves the country sometime soon. He would disappear on me completely, since he’s the kind of person to drop off the grid.

I’d mainly like to mend our previous friendship since I don’t think our relationship would work. I went a little gnat on him during the breakup so I understand why he blocked me. I probably would’ve done the same.

Thanks!
Jo

August 1, 2019 at 6:22 am

Hi Chris!
I’ve been blocked on WhatsApp and removed from his friends on Facebook due to me being a tad emotional after the breakup.

There’s a chance that he’ll leave the country for good and I don’t know when. Should I still maintain no contact and risk him being gone for good? He’s the loner type to go off the radar completely so I doubt I’d ever see or hear from him again.

I don’t really want him back romantically, but I’d like to mend the friendship we had before all this happened. But he seems to resent me now and I understand why. I was a nuisance.

Thanks so much for your advice!
Sarah B

July 31, 2019 at 4:16 pm

ok so I had been dating a guy for a good 6 months on and off…he was always dating someone else, but I felt the most connection with him. He ended up with another girl and wanted to continue dating me and I said I wanted to be in a committed relationship and I wished him the best. He did this 2times. So this last time I took a month and didn’t contact him, but he contacted me at least several times a week. Hes’ still with her. Now he comments on every intagram I have, lurking in my snapchat, sending me good morning and good night texts but calling me bff!!! Literally telling me he wants to be friends and doesn’t understand why I don’t. Hello?! Cause I love you and wanted to be the one you chose! Anyway, it was too frequent and began to feel mean so I blocked him on every platform. I feel bad and I really wanted him…I just don’t think I could ever let him now…and I don’t know where to go from here…

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