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Gail
April 1, 2017 at 4:10 am
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and it has been a yeah and a half since we have broken up (November 2015). During the breakup he had been casually asking to get back together but I refused because he did not show much effort. He recently told me that up until October 2016 he was still open to us getting back together, but (maybe) due to peer pressure he moved on because his friends told him he had been wallowing for too long. The following month he has started going out with a new girl. We had open communication ever since and I even told him I wanted to get back together on February 2017. However he rejected me because he said that he did not want to seem like a player by dropping the new girl, that he did not want to hurt the new girl, and that he was in-love and happy with the new girl and that everything was going easy (although he hasnt told his family about this girl). We had been talking daily up until the last week of March 2017 because the new girl’s friend saw that he was communicating with me. So he has now stopped all forms of communication so he would not hurt the girl and so that he made it clear that he is still angry and hurting from the things I have done to him.
Im about 3 days into the NC, should I continue NC even if already has blocked me and has not been replying prior to the NC? What should I do?
Just want my friend back
March 30, 2017 at 6:45 am
So, my situation is somewhat different. Basically, me and this guy… we were 100% the most perfect people for each other at the most impossible time. Things never really got ‘ugly’ in the end, but there was a lot of hurt feelings, and we got into a pretty terrible situation because he’s about to start college and I just graduated among other things. I think I put way too much pressure on him because I felt our connection so strongly and he did too, but he had everything pounding down on him from all angles. Well… initially I tried a no contact rule with him by telling him I wanted to take some time away from him to get over him- he shot back about how basically he was told he can’t hang out with me anymore because it would ruin his future, and that he was terribly sorry. That ended in a pretty terrible argument because he had been lied to by some friends he’d made very recently. We were only together for about 3 months total but, I don’t want back into that relationship. Because if it ever in a hypothetical universe COULD work… I know now that it cannot be at this time in our lives. He should see the world first, and I deserve someone who wants to be with me the way he wasn’t ready to be. But a few months after that, I found out from a mutual friend who it was that had told him these terrible things about me that he cited as the reason for severing ties with me. While I don’t believe that was the reason, I think they were excuses for the truth that he couldn’t make me accept, he and I at that time still had a somewhat working friendship so I wound up telling him that I had figured out who told him those things and sort of stood up for myself and my version of events and told him I had blocked the mutual friend who had run behind my back and told him these things. He told me that he honestly wasn’t involved and didn’t remember anything that this mutual friend had said, but the next day he blocked ME from all social media (mostly fb and snapchat, I blocked HIS Instagram) and didn’t answer my texts. I don’t know if I’m blocked from his email or his phone, but I prefer a more sure-fire way to contact him if possible. Far as no contact goes, we’ve already been through a very prolonged period of that. I don’t think blocking me had anything to do with him hating me or anything like that, I think he ran when he realized I had the missing piece of a puzzle that had really hurt my feelings. I know somewhere in my gut that everything I felt for this person was reciprocated completely, even if all the pieces were never going to fit together.
That was around 6 or so months ago. I have since spoken with the person who sort of ruined things between us and it went very well. I don’t think that person was truly trying to harm me so much as he was looking out for HIS friend. And it’s a very sticky situation, I get that even if I think it could have been handled better. However, I’m still blocked from the ex’s social media in every way. And, I DON’T want a romantic relationship back in any way. But… I do miss my friend. And I do think that love works in more than one fashion, and if we can’t BE together, there’s no reason I can’t still love this person and put him into the role of a friend. We were friends before we got together, and I was hurt deeply when I realized that I don’t think it even occurred to him to keep our friendship as a priority when everything went to hell.
So, I had deleted my old snapchat anyway because it wouldn’t let me verify my current phone and email address, so I created a new one. With the old one, we both sort of played the ‘block/unblock’ game. He blocked my fb so I blocked his snapchat. Then I unblocked him later but never contacted him, I searched his name later and saw he’d blocked me. It was a big mess of fear and ridiculousness, but it never seemed to be that he was avoiding me because I was hated or annoying him or anything like that. I work very hard to not make those mistakes with him because I did make them in prior relationships and I was smarter when I met him. But there’s a show that Netflix was releasing this month that he was excited about, so upon adding everyone else to my new snapchat I sent him two snaps, one that said ‘I have a question’ and the other one I asked what he thought of the show. Very playful, very fun and light.
He hasn’t opened them yet… and it’s been all night- but he doesn’t really use social media that much anyway, and he’s busy in his life as well I know. I guess I’m just curious if I’m expending effort for a broken cause or not. I want my friend back, and I want us to go to the grave being at the very lease very deeply connected friends, but I also don’t want to fall into a waste of time trap I suppose.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 30, 2017 at 7:09 pm
You already reached out and tried to open the door, that’s good.. if he doesn’t respond, let him be and let go.. at least you know you tried..
Opal Paris
March 28, 2017 at 3:06 pm
I just broke up with my ex last Friday night . We stay together but that night we planned to find the solutions to fix the problems about I always talked bad about the past while I was drunk to him. So during a week before we still loved each other but that Friday 24 march everything changing completely. I planned to talk nice with him I organized to make nice dinner together and discuss quietly for find solutions but after he came back from works. He start to say that he really want to Iive alone and i start emotional crying like crazy. Afterward he can’t patients for this he started pack all my stuffs and called his friends called my friend to pick up my stuff. I don’t understand then he took my room keys out and took me to my friend car put al my stuffs. After he full out blocked me even we said we still love each other . Well what should I do I still loved him a lot I can’t contact him anyway. We were stayed together for 9 months
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 29, 2017 at 11:30 am
Hi Opal,
Find new place to stay and start a no contact rule of at least 45 days.
Samantha
March 25, 2017 at 9:29 pm
I called him 14 times while I didnt know he was hanging with his friend. He said he would block me so I went over to his place unannounced. He was super mad and called me crazy. He full out blocked me. Did I ruin my chances of him ever thinking im not crazy, or him ever unblocking me, or ever talking to me again, or of also with getting him back?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 26, 2017 at 2:14 pm
Hi Samantha,
its not yet too late to change and improve in no contact period..
At a loss now
March 23, 2017 at 11:20 am
I have been in no contact with my ex and he has had just about every reaction to it that is detailed on this site – he’s been angry, he’s been a text/call gnat, a mid contact and I’ll admit that I’ve failed the NC a few times because of this af varying lengths of time but I never contacted first and ended it in a timely manner.
Anyways we had a good talk on the 5th he rang multiple times, he apologised and he was digging to see if I was seeing anyone (which I thought were all promising signs) however on the 6th his behaviour was overly-matey and the good signs from the day before seemed to have gone from interest to forced friend zone and I didn’t appreciate it so I politely told him not to be that way with me with the intention of re-entering NC and sticking to it.
This time I have heard nothing from him and after over 2 weeks of NC I found out that he has blocked my number yesterday. I mean he blocked me on instagram first after saying he never really uses it, blocked my facebook second but on and off, I suspect to teach me a lesson though it has remained blocked for a while on this stint, then removed me on snapchat but for the most part he has left my number open.
Now at this point I’d just like to reiterate that I have not at any point initiated contact or been a gnat and have not been overly excited to hear from him so my question is why? Why block my number when I haven’t been contacting him?
Is there no chance of reconciliation now?
And have I unwittingly angered him?
Sorry if this comes up twice I’m not sure it worked the first time..
At a loss now
March 27, 2017 at 12:32 am
He rang since, blocked me on facebook because I removed him and started going on about how “he doesn’t want to see me on nights out” so he explained it but I’m still blocked, guess he’s being stubborn now..
I don’t get that, he broke up with me, if it’s what he wanted then why would it bother him so much and do you think he’s still checking up on me?
Gone back into NC again, I’m really going to stick at it this time!
His behaviour is so confusing, one minute he’s chasing, the next minute he’s acting like he doesn’t care – think staying in contact is doing more harm than good at this point..
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 28, 2017 at 2:21 pm
he probably is..
At a loss now
March 23, 2017 at 11:35 am
Update/more info.
Just FYI, I messaged on Monday after his confusing behaviour at work and have received no response, I tried ringing yesterday to see if my hunch that he blocked me was correct – went straight to voicemail. He has just text now saying that his wireless charger broke, as far as I know he has several wire chargers so I don’t really believe that his battery has been dead since Monday – is he sporadically blocking my number and unblocking it?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 26, 2017 at 7:07 am
oh no, you have to restart the count again after that… stick to it no matter what he does.. blocking and unblocking is a good sign but if he can see that it will get a reaction from you, he will keep doing that. So, stick to improving yourself and being active in no contact rule..
At a loss now
March 23, 2017 at 11:17 am
I have been in no contact with my ex and he has had just about every reaction to it that is detailed on this site – he’s been angry, he’s been a text/call gnat, a mid contact and I’ll admit that I’ve failed the NC a few times because of this af varying lengths of time but I never contacted first and ended it in a timely manner.
Anyways we had a good talk on the 5th he rang multiple times, he apologised and he was digging to see if I was seeing anyone (which I thought were all promising signs) however on the 6th his behaviour was overly-matey and the good signs from the day before seemed to have gone from interest to forced friend zone and I didn’t appreciate it so I politely told him not to be that way with me with the intention of re-entering NC and sticking to it.
This time I have heard nothing from him and after over 2 weeks of NC I found out that he has blocked my number yesterday. I mean he blocked me on instagram first after saying he never really uses it, blocked my facebook second but on and off, I suspect to teach me a lesson though it has remained blocked for a while on this stint, then removed me on snapchat but for the most part he has left my number open.
Now at this point I’d just like to reiterate that I have not at any point initiated contact or been a gnat and have not been overly excited to hear from him so my question is why? Why block my number when I haven’t been contacting him?
Is there no chance of reconciliation now?
And have I unwittingly angered him?
Jenny
March 21, 2017 at 7:30 am
Hi,
My boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me as he said I was too controlling and insecure.
However, we had a lot of fights on this issue and then finally one day he blocked me (full block out).
When we met he explained to me that he does not have any feelings for me and that he would not like a relationship with me in future. He said we could be friends but even that did not last for more than 2 days as he just avoided me completely.
Now, after a week of all this he has unblocked me form his phone and other applications but has not initiated any conversation.
What does it mean?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 24, 2017 at 10:35 pm
Hi Jenny,
bhe probably blocked you to stop you from pushing your opinion..so, when you became silent..he thought there’s no need to do that anymore
Randa
March 18, 2017 at 5:40 pm
My ex boyfriend block me from everywhere (phone,whatsapp and instagram(he doesn’t have Facebook)) and I don’t know his friends and his friends don’t know me and like I don’t know the exact reason why he blocked me but I just wanna know after the bc rule and he didn’t block me should I make another account and talk to him or just move on?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 22, 2017 at 2:36 pm
Hi Randa,
do at least 30 days, if you’re still blocked extend to 45.. if you’re still blocked, use a different social media app to contact him
Lucia
March 16, 2017 at 10:56 am
Hi,
I have ever explained my story on another post recently.. I have feelings for my ex fwb but we had a huge fight a month ago. We actually had a lot of arguments since our “breakup” (a few months ago). So he was fed up and very angey at me, telling me to not talk to him anymore and that our friendship was over. I had not reply, I do no contact for almost 30 days now and I unfollowed him on Facebook (not unfriended) and blocked him on Instagram (even if he was not following me but I did). Our only contact was watching our stories on snapchat, he was always among the first to see mine. And suddenly, a few days ago, he deleted me of snapchat. I see it like a way to show that he completely drew a line on me and that there is no chance to get him back. I would like to rebuild contact and trust, and also to apologize. I don’t know how to do that and I am afraid of him refusing to listen to me. Besides, he doesn’t know I developed true feelings for him.
Lucia
June 3, 2017 at 8:08 am
He finally broke up with this girl 2 weeks later, and we started again texting. He was confused, one minute being like “I want you” and then “But I know you don’t care of me”. I told him I was dating someone else for a month, and then he became more distant. He told me “Ok, so I don’t bother you” and “I am happy for you that you found someone ;)”. Before that, je was okay to meet up and then finally didn’t want “until the end of his exams”, so the end of June. And finally, we had a little talk through texts, telling him that he had to question himself, because he was always coming back to me, acting weird, telling me he doesn’t like any of his girlfriends, not knowing what he wants for a year (since we know each other) and still thinking about me months later while I’m supposed to have been “just a fwb”.
I thought he would contradict me, like “no i’m never thinking about you, u crazy” but no, he told me I was right and he knew it, but he was completely lost in his mind, never knowing what he wants, and that I will find someone so much better than him. Just an excuse to reject me or a way to get attention ?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 3, 2017 at 4:22 pm
given the history, it’s more probably it’s the later..
Lucia
May 5, 2017 at 6:20 am
I was just about to give up when my ex fwb reached out to me after 2 months of NC. I didn’t except that at all. He apologized by himself and wow, told me he wanted to get back with me ? Negative point, he wants to start again the fwb relationship we had. He explained that he did not forget “what there was between us”, with me it was better and he didn’t like this new girlfriend (and also the other last ones).
I explained to him I didn’t want to restart things in a casual way (indeed, I’m in love with and would like more than sex now – but I didn’t tell that to him). So he was like “ok.. maybe I will give a second chance to my “ex” girlfriend” like on purpose. I also told him I was not his backup plan, and he responded that I was not, but this new “ex girlfriend” could be one if he wanted to have a backup plan.
He didn’t forget me after 7 months, and wants to get back for casual things ? If it was so casual, he would forget me as I though he did. I think he is in denial and might take a new look at himself.
He was okay to meet up (some shopping or anything I would like to) and to take it slow.
Finally, he had to see his ex to decide if they continued their relationship or not and had to inform me. I understood he get back with her (the “second chance”) but he didn’t contact me to tell it to me. I haven’t hear from him since this conversation between us (a week ago).
Does it mean I have no chance to get back with him ? Why he wanted to meet me and to restart things if he get back with this girl he doesn’t like ? Is it a game for him ? What can I do ?
Thank you for your help !
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 5, 2017 at 4:50 pm
he’s stringing you along..don’t be easy for him.. check this one:
My Boyfriend Says He Wants To Date Me and Another Girl
Lucia
March 30, 2017 at 6:38 am
Hi,
I think I waited too long.. I heard he has a girlfriend for a few days (he met her a month after our breakup and had a big crush on her since that)
With NC (about 50 days now), I am better with myself, however, I still truly love him and I’ve been waiting for 6 months now. Because of his relationship, how can I rebuild contact ? I’ve alrealdy read Chris advices but I see no solution in my case..
You’re the only help I have,
Thanks you
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 30, 2017 at 7:00 pm
if he doesn’t know that you know, pretend that you dont and build rapport.
if he knows or he mentions it to you, follow the advice on this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)
welcome!
Lucia
March 17, 2017 at 7:21 pm
I understand, I will do it
But then how can I reconcile with him ? It will not be too late ? I would like to rebuild contact with him but having no oppurtunity to meet him, I am sure that sending him a text will not be enough convincing
Have a nice week end
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 21, 2017 at 5:40 pm
nope it wont.. you’re just going to start off with texts and then later on move to calls and then meet ups..
Lucia
March 16, 2017 at 10:23 pm
Oh I thought that as long it wasn’t direct contact and that it didn’t bother us it was ok.. I’m not sure it is a good sign, I have the impression he is over me and doesn’t want to do nothing with me anymore..
Right now, I concentrate on my exams, go out and see friends. But then I saw he deleted me, and directly thought that I had lost him for real..
By the way, thanks for always answering quickly !
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 17, 2017 at 6:24 pm
you’re welcome! that’s good that you’re studying well but I think you need to do another one, at least 21 days and then do it right and improve yourself in health, wealth and relationship aspect of your life
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 16, 2017 at 6:09 pm
Hi lucia,
oh no.. you continued to watch his snaps during nc, that’s not allowed… him deleting you could be a good sign, it can mean it hurts him to see your posts.. but right now, how much did you improve yourself?
Mima
March 14, 2017 at 10:48 pm
So i am on this situation and i though he broke-up with me .But i went to re-read the message tha causes the blocking.i asked him if he didn’t want to talk to me anymore and he said he has been busy the few last weeks which is probably true i was upset he was online and did not replied to my messages then reffering to a contact on his facebook i told him that he was probably talking to her and that he should enjoy it with her Bye!!
He right away blocked me everywhere.He was my flatmate for a month we sent together was magical he is much more younger and had to go back to his country we didn’t promised ourself anything but getting apart was hard.So i went to read the message after the blocking and i understood.
We both have been falling in love with each other , him telling me how much he misses me and the house and he asked me if i didn’t found the house empty without him
Well i know there is still something and i have been very immature and him too he is just 24 and i am 30.
Whenever my head cool down realised he told me he loves me in his own words several times” are you sick? do you have to go to the hospital?go now take it seriously . Do you still have toothache?Shall i make food for the liltle one(i went downstairs quickly) he came back home earlier to take care of my son.
Well the advices is unclear i have all his program fro Chris but none is talking about re-opening the conversation after been blocked.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 16, 2017 at 12:37 pm
Hi Mima,
if you see each other personally, just let him cool down before talking again
irene
March 14, 2017 at 9:22 pm
Hi
my ex bf dumped me 8 months ago. And yes, all these blockings he has indeed done to me. But i have been oberrving for a past few months that he keeps on blocking me and unblocking me on fb. This is like this 7th time. What could this mean?? Please help .
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 16, 2017 at 11:34 am
Hi Irene,
do you want to try the no contact rule and the advice above?
Eve
March 10, 2017 at 8:03 am
Hi Amor,
My relationship was long distant, and we broke up 8 months ago, and he has blocked me since then. I purchased the PRO book, but no way to use it at all. I know there’s completely no hope anymore, but so hard to let it go. I still cling on this hope that I would eventually be able to bring him back one day. What to do? Thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 12, 2017 at 11:50 am
Hi Eve,
I wish I could say you could get him back, but we’re not here to give you false hopes. At this point, you should really move on.
Kerrigan
March 9, 2017 at 2:27 pm
Hi I would really appreciate some advice on my situation:
Me and my ex had a really good relationship however he broke up with me but didn’t really give me a lot of closure. We talked alot afterward and he told me he still cared and wanted to be my friend and that he wanted a future with me but now simply wasnt the right time for us. well i found that i was the one keeping the conversations going and that he wasnt telling me anything that was going on in his life. he only wanted to know what i was doing. Well he started dating this girl he met on tinder when we talked he said that she was low maintenance and he didn’t have to talk to her a lot. the last time i talked to him earlier in the day he said it was hard to talk to me because it hurt and he didnt want to do that to himself. later that night i was being a bit of a gnat and messaging him a bunch then his new girlfriend started messaging off of his own phone and told me to screw off. i go mad and said that i wanted to dog that i bought him back and was very immature about the situation i will admit that, at the end of the conversation i apologized and wished them the best. i am currently doing the NCR however how do i get back on speaking terms with him? either him or his new girlfriend blocked me off snapchat but that is it. I really want him back because i love him however i definitely understand and will be completely fine without him. please let me know anything that i can do to help this situation ive read this whole site.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2017 at 1:09 pm
Hi Kerrigan,
Hmm.. the advices on both articles you commented on already stated what I need to say to you. It’s good that you’re already in nc, but do you have any questions about both of the posts? Was there anything unclear about the advice Chris wrote that I can help shed more light on?
Rebecca
March 9, 2017 at 1:07 pm
Hey i’d really appreciate if you could give me some input. basically, i did no contant with ex who i was with for 2 1/2 years (but i did reply if he msged because it was usually something i had to reply to. kept it short and to the point though) and when I finished no contact we hung out twice and were talking somewhat frequently again, at least every few days. I thought he was getting back with me. about 2 weeks ago he apologized for breaking up with me but wouldn’t really answer any questions i asked. he hadnt contacted for a few days after that and so i messaged and asked him why he apologized. He said he just felt bad. I said “well don’t feel bad, I took the opportunity to make positive changes in my life and actually feel happy. Is that it tho?” and he responded with “Well yeah really. I don’t really want anything else right now.”
After staring at that msg for about 10 minutes i said “so basically you’re just messing with me then lol” and then i said “whatever nvm it’s not even important lol i gotta go i’m out getting food”. afterwards he said “sorry I’ll still talk I just don’t want to right now.”
I’m aware that I probably would’ve been better off just not saying anything at all but he had been acting like my boyfriend for about a month. I was pretty hurt over that and I still don’t understand why he did it.
A week after that conversation, we hadn’t talked since because I wanted to wait for him to message me again. I made a post on instagram saying I was going out for the night (it was a friday). I go on a couple of hours after i posted that and I saw that I was blocked. I was pretty hurt because I hadn’t done anything to make him block me. I wasn’t being annoying or anything. I didn’t message him or anything though asking why he did it. it’s been about a week since then and yesterday was my birthday but he never wished me a happy birthday. Totally ruined my day to be honest. I finally asked him yesterday if he wanted to come over after my friends left and he said he was busy and visiting his grandparents. I’m not sure whether he would’ve come over anyway tho which really upsets me. I just said “ok well if you change your mind at any point tonight you’re more than welcome to come over, but if not then that’s fine, maybe some other time :)” and he didn’t respond after that. I’m sorry this is so long but I’m so lost right now I honestly thought he was getting back with me again (this is our 3rd breakup). I should add it’s been about 4 months since he broke up with me. What are your thoughts? What is he doing? What’s going through his head? because he just won’t tell me. and What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 12, 2017 at 11:27 am
Hi Rebecca,
Looks like you’re friendzoned. Either you move on, or do one last nc, and this time date others. Take it slow in building rapport after nc too, and don’t stop your routine while building rapport with him.
Tren
March 8, 2017 at 8:59 pm
Hi. So a guy friend and I have been friends for years since 2007. I would say he was one of my closet friends. Recently in December 2016, him and I have gotten on a more romantic level. The last time we hung out a month ago, he tells me that he’s becoming addicted to the situation. He’s even expressed himself saying that he cares about me and that there’s love between us. Then after the last time we hung out, he starts to act distant. He stopped being playful and he started giving me the excuse that he’s busy for me but still would be on social media clowning with his friends. I asked him around 3 times over the last 4 weeks to talk about if I did something wrong or whatever else was going on and he would answer me rudely and then he just started ignoring me. Last Friday, I told him that I would give him some space and removed him on social media because I was hurt and angry that he ignored me and then today he blocked me on social media and I sent him a text and it didn’t go through so he blocked my number too. I’m not understanding what happened. I tried to communicate and he ignored me so i gave him space and he ends up blocking me 5 days later. I’m not understanding.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 12, 2017 at 9:48 am
Hi Tren,
more probably he got afraid that the relationship is progressing. Do you want to try the advice above?
Barbara
March 8, 2017 at 10:45 am
My boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot lately mainly because we don’t see each other that much lately. Last wednesday just before going on a business trip, I texted him to say that he needed some time alone to figure out what he really wants and then we can talk about all this. He called me the same nighr saying he loved me and he will make more efforts. On Thursday, we talk normally than when I want to reply to one of his texts, I discover that he has blocked me! WhatsApp, Facebook (we are still friends there though) and Snapchat. I was panicked and called him to ask what’s going on, he said he just had a problem with his phone but he did’nt block me. He loved me and no this wasnt a way for him to break up. Anyways, meanwhile I text him from another phone where he calls and responds to me for a day and then… I’m blocked again! Called him again to ask for an explanation but he still say the same things : it’s not me, it’s my phone. I came back from my trip and called him, he hasn’t answered or replied to any of my text messages. I know he is alive because I can see his posts on Facebook but I cannot write to him. I don’t really understand why he is being suck a jerk and can’t help but blame myself for asking him to take some space. I feel like he wanted to punish for that. And I really don’t know what to do
Barbara
March 10, 2017 at 11:38 pm
He isn’t replying to my text or phone calls. And it has been a week now. I feel like if he really wanted me in his life, he would have tried to contact me. I mean, he has my phone number so…
I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t be honnest about it
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 14, 2017 at 4:56 pm
it’s either he’s ghosting you or he’s telling the truth.. so if he’s ghosting you, approach it like this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Ghosted You
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2017 at 1:33 pm
Hi Barbara
what if he’s telling the truth? Right now,try to ask him to use a different phone..
Eva
March 7, 2017 at 4:34 pm
Hi,
My ex and i were dating for a couple of months he initiated everything and it was sort of a whirl wind romance in the beginning. After our honeymoon phase ended all these little problems started arising, we tried our best to solve them and it always turned into a huge fight over nothing. we both became unhappy, yet i still tried to compromise while i felt he did not put enough effort. we went through a cycle of deciding to take our time and slow things down get to know each other better but we kept fighting over little things and he decided to end it. I am not sure what to do anymore from the last time we spoke he told me he was talking to someone else even though we last saw each other two weeks ago. i am trying the no contact rule and because of that he sent me a message that he wants nothing to do with me he just wants to pick his things up and let this be over with.
Eva
March 12, 2017 at 6:00 pm
about a month ago.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 15, 2017 at 9:12 am
just stick to nc.. and be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.. if you haven’t done that, restart the count of 30 days
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2017 at 11:50 am
Hi Eva,
when did you actually break up?
TMC
March 4, 2017 at 10:54 am
Hi
My ex an I broke up a week ago due to an LDR (200 miles) and I’ve gone into No Contact.
We usually chat via either Whatsapp or Facebook Messenger, but we also have Facebook and Instagram accounts.
This morning I posted some pictures on Instagram of pancakes I made for breakfast as I was really pleased with how fluffy they turned out. Then he immediately unfollowed me?
I have checked and he has kept me as friends on facebook (although I dont know if I am unfollowed) and I am not blocked on the other apps.
I was going to start posting the facebook pictures of things I an upto that Chris recommends as of next weekend, but this now makes me think it might backfire and get me full scale blocked??!
Is it because it hurts to see my posts or because he is punishing me?
I’m not sure what to do now 🙁
Stella
March 8, 2017 at 5:40 am
Hi I’m in a bad situation with my ex right now. It’s so confusing and overwhelming. So he broke up with me 2 weeks ago because being in a relationship stressed him out and he couldn’t do it right now. He said he still loved me and said maybe someday just not right now. This left me confused and hurt. We haven’t talked since the breakup but since then he has unfollowed me on twitter and Instagram and just recently deleted me off snapchat. Do you think it hurts him to see my name come up, or he just needs some space? We had a very good relationship before the breakup and the breakup was definitely a surprise to me. He has done this back in the summer but he texted me 2 months later telling me he missed me. I don’t know what to do, I love him. Do you think I have a chance of getting him back?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2017 at 1:24 pm
Hi Stella
yeah, its probably because it hurts him.. if he came back before, there’s a chance he will come back again later on..
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 4, 2017 at 7:12 pm
Hi TMC,
Blocking usually means it hurts to see your posts. So just keep being active in improving yourself and in posting, because he’ll probably check that through other ways.
Cee
March 1, 2017 at 8:08 pm
Have been dating my boyfriend over 3 years. We had broken up a couple months ago because we were fighting a lot but ended up getting back together and were doing great. I was basically living with him and we did everything together. A couple weekends ago I went out with my friends (my bf didn’t want to come cause he went out the night before). While we were out we saw a couple of my old guy friends. One my bf doesn’t like me to be around because he knows we had hooked up before I started dating him. The night was fine until my boyfriend came to pick me up and bring me home. My guy friend had texted me asking to hookup and my bf happened to see as he sent it. I was surprised by this text as his gf was at the bar as well and we never really talk anymore. My bf didn’t talk to me for a couple days until he finally decided to get past it and we were fine for about a week. The follow week comes and my guy friends gf tells my bf that me and her bf had kissed multiple times at the bar. None of my friends or him or myself recall this happening, but my bf only believes what she says. He now won’t talk to me, has be blocked from contacting him, and said although he loves me to never try to get into his life again because he can’t be with me. I cannot imagine myself ever doing this especially to someone I love and have devoted so much time to. I am really sad without him. Do you think he means it when he says 100% never again? Also my guy friend and his gf are still together. I have already deleted him off of everything possible to show my bf (now ex) that I have no interest in him and only want my bf. What do I do
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2017 at 9:06 pm
Hi Cee,
Nope, he’s that’s probably because of high emotions. It would be better if you follow the advice on the podcast that you also posted too.
Cee
March 1, 2017 at 2:04 pm
I have been with my bf for over 3 years. We broke up once because we fought a lot but got back together about 6 months ago and have been great. We basically have been living together and do everything together. I went out with my friends two weeks ago and an old guy friend was there with his gf – she now claims that me and her bf kissed which no one remembers but her. Once she told me bf this (about a week ago) he stopped talking to me, blocked my number, and deleted me off of social media. He also told me that although he will always love me he never wants to talk to me again. Do you think there’s still a chance he will unblock me and change his mind?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2017 at 9:06 pm
Hi Cee,
Nope, he’s that’s probably because of high emotions. It would be better if you follow the advice on the podcast that you also posted too.