The Male Mind During The No Contact Rule- What Is He Thinking?

4,282 thoughts on “The Male Mind During The No Contact Rule”

Rae

October 7, 2014 at 10:51 pm

Hi there,

We were in a LDR and would spend atleast 8+hours together talking per day, when we broke up I was desperate, needy and really insecure. I kept trying NC when I saw how emotionally unstable I was but kept failing after a few days for about a month and a half.

I got it together and have been really working on myself internally and made so good changes but I already sent him such high emotional emails. He opened them but never responded and from his actions or non-actions it feels like he’s punishing me. So I’m wondering in your opinion if I’ve made too many mistakes post breakup to get him back? If not how long do you think I should use NC for?

admin

October 8, 2014 at 1:02 pm

Youve been a bit desperate but you can change that.

Rachel

October 7, 2014 at 7:40 pm

Dear Chris, first of all I want to thank you for this amazing website and your valuable advice.

I’ve been with my ex boyfriend for a year. I wasn’t ready for a relationship when I met him but he insisted on trying for me to give him a chance. The chasing period lasted 7 months (during which he called more than 10 times a day every day..) we didn’t have sex at that time, just hanging out for coffee etc. I was seeing him more like a friend,things were so comfortable and fun with him. I developed feelings for him eventually because of his persistence, kind heart and affection..

The last two months that I was competely with all my heart dedicated to him and our relationship he started withdrawing.. He broke up with me two weeks ago because he said he wasn’t feeling as much for me as when he met me..I was devastated and angry and said some nasty things to him which where all untrue (he definitely knows that)… I then exhibited desperate behavior, calling/texting too much etc. with him ignoring me.

Yesterday I started NC. Chris do you think he will come back? Do you believe he may be commitment phobic? I can’t understand how his feelings changed from one day to the next…

Thank you for time.

admin

October 8, 2014 at 12:57 pm

I am not sure if he is a commitment phobe. He seemed pretty committed to get you in the beginning right.

Did you two have a massive fight that caused him to rethink things or something?
Rachel

October 8, 2014 at 3:28 pm

Well two months ago -he started withdrawing after this- we went out for dinner for the first time with some friends of him and their girlfriends and his brother and fiancee too.
I had such an awful time. It was the first time I met most of them and I was being nice and friendly,talking to everyone etc, but they weren’t nice at all to me, especially his brother. That dissapointed me and then I kept quiet for the rest of the night.. The only thing they all ended up talking about for hours was how to break up another couple of their friends that were about to get married. I got so pissed and finally said to all of them kindly though, that it wasn’t their bussiness if the couple wants to do that (they accused the soon to be bride for stupid stuff like “she told me her engagement ring costed 950$ while she told you 1000$ what a lying b*tch”). I just wanted to leave the dinner as soon as possible wondering what kind of people are they…

Anyway , I told my ex afterwards I was very surprised by the behaviour of the people he hangs out and I told him he should have supported me when his brother talked nasty to me.. He got angry at me for not liking them..
I was staying at his place at the moment and when we got home from dinner he told me his brother and his fiancee are staying with us.. I had no idea why he kept it a secret all along and told me so late at night after just having dinner with them and meeting them for the firt time.. I didn’t like that at all..
I packed my stuff and went back to my place as soon as we arrived in his place.. Told them I am sorry but a family member is at hospital.. To my ex though I told him the truth, that I really needed some rest and that I didn’t feel comfortable with them especially after the way they treated me at dinner..

Chris do you think I overreacted? Could this be the reason he doesn’t want to be with me anymore? I can’t think of anything else..no fight, nothing.. just that..
admin

October 9, 2014 at 1:30 pm

Wow, they sound like horrible people for trying to break another couple up…

I don’t think you overreacted at all. I wish I was there to tell those people off too.

To me it seems like he wants a girl that agrees with him on every little thing.
Rachel

October 9, 2014 at 9:49 pm

You’re so nice Chris. Perhaps he wants a girl like this.. It would be such a boring relationship though to just agree and like everything he does..
And I know right? They met me for the first time and while I was trying be friendly and get to know them, they just kept on gossiping about the other couple.. I definitely got to know something about them this way after all.. Anyway, perhaps the feelings were mutual and his brother or all of them didn’t like me at all and shared it with him, and he listened to them? I don’t know, that’s an awful scenario..

I’ll stick to NC for now and we’ll see what happens!

Thanks again Chris, it was nice talking to you. I’ll be in touch.
admin

October 13, 2014 at 3:18 pm

I wish you had put them in their place.

Shame on them for planning to try to break another couple up. Sure, sometimes it can be fun to gossip about other couples that aren’t going well but to try to plan their destruction is horrible.

Definitely stick to NC.
Rachel

October 26, 2014 at 7:21 pm

Hi Chris!

Update! So he called me on the 17th day of no contact but midnight.. Of course I didn’t pick up the phone and I didn’t like the time, I thought he might just be horny.. Anyway, day 21 and he calls again, I am ignoring the call and then he texts me “I’m sorry to bother you..I just wanted to know how are you.I hope you are fine!”.. I didn’t answer. So, do you think it’s good he contacted me? I worry he did it to just seem nice etc. and not because he cares..
Rachel

October 8, 2014 at 8:23 pm

Chris I want to thank you for your quick response to my previous comment.

I have one more question for you.. do you believe a man would reject at some point for whatever reason the woman of his dreams? Cause I ‘m thinking he wouldn’t.. so maybe I don’t need to stress about this break-up so much..
Anyway NC might be a very interesting period not that hard after all. And I bet his is going to be the “mid-caller”.
admin

October 9, 2014 at 1:39 pm

I guess it depends on the situation.

For example, if the woman of my dreams cheated on me you better believe i’d reject her.

Of course, the woman of my dreams wouldn’t do that to me.
Rachel

October 9, 2014 at 10:02 pm

Of course she wouldn’t. And I don’t think I could put up with cheating too, but still in some cases you can forgive everything if you trully love and understand deeply someone and accept them with all their flaws etc. If you feel like that you don’t just reject someone. Perhaps you could cheat on your dream girl but still want her more than anyone, so it would be a shame if she rejected you just for one mistake. I ‘m sorry I talk too much.
admin

October 13, 2014 at 3:19 pm

I know myself pretty well and cheating is something that is unacceptable in my eyes. I don’t think I could ever get over it but only because I feel I am so dedicated and I would expect the same from a partner.

Esmira

October 6, 2014 at 4:38 pm

Hi Chris.

Im so badly impatient these days that can not even read your guides till end. My boyfriend left me after 4 years of serious relationship. Now he claims that the reason was me, but the reason was another girl. He started dating her right the same day. Its been already 2,5 months, im blocked everywhere, but sometimes contacting thru email, very cold and ignoring. I could apply the NC only for a week or so, now Ive come across your website. Please advise me something :(((

admin

October 7, 2014 at 1:36 pm

He left you for this other girl?
Esmira

October 7, 2014 at 4:05 pm

it turns out that yes, for her, but he does not admit. he claims that i was the reason and that’s all. what did i do apart from being jealous, i dont know.
Esmira

October 7, 2014 at 4:09 pm

yesterday i went very emotional and angry and started insulting him and his new one via email. then today started to write normal stuff. he replies, but in a very mockery way, as if trying to play with my nerves. however leaves some traces of hope in his emails, to my opinion. what to do?
admin

October 8, 2014 at 12:47 pm

One thing that I constantly tell people is to avoid things like this where you get angry and insult him…

Grace

October 4, 2014 at 2:16 pm

Will NC work for me and my ex ………his ex from 2.5 years ago is back on the scene, he says they want to make things right between them t(they ended badly) and that she’s ok with me and him being friends….despite the fact she’s been out of his life and had no contact for over 2 years and I’ve been with him! He has also told me have I some kind of hold over him and he cares and doesn’t want to see me hurt!! I’m a week in to NC, are my chances just as good even with his ex around?

admin

October 6, 2014 at 11:56 am

How did she come back onto the scene?

How often do they see each other?
Grace

October 10, 2014 at 6:45 pm

They randomly bumped into each other and then exchanged a couple of emails…..I’m not sure how often they are seeing each other as I’ve cut contact with him for the time being……advice?

Rachel

October 4, 2014 at 3:08 am

First- I have read about 42-similar articles and 2-on-line books over the course of the past 90-days. YOUR article is the MOST ACCURATE I have ever read. My question is about the rules of the NC? My ex pretty much chased me as friend w/benefits for the past decade. After the first 5-years, it became more exclusive. I thought the threat of a proposal from another guy would shake him enough to realize he could lose me. I lost him after throwing the other guy in his face (I know, desperate move.) Entire thing backfired and it was unbearable without him in my life and everyday was a 24-hour death over and over. I felt real heartbreak that I lost my best friend resulting in me finally falling in love with him- completely. I’m a girls girl, I get hit on several times a day, guys asking to pump my gas at gas stations, free stuff, etc. Point is, I know I’m a catch. When I broke up with the guy I was dating and begged my ex to take me back, he took me back into his life but not his heart. He told me “I love you, I don’t know what else to say?” My response, “do you know how many guys have said that to me?” He eventually began to see me again but things were waaaaay off and he was real resentful and actually at times plain cruel. He hurt my feelings to the point where I felt like he was sucking away my good nature. I left and that was nearly 3-months ago. This is the longest I have ever gone with NC and it has been humbling. I try to pass the time through work, studying for GRE and applying to graduate schools. I won’t lie, I miss him to the point where every day is a heartbreak. I stay strong in knowing that he is the man I am supposed to be with and when it is meant to be, it will be. So- any advice? If I keep him on IM and change my pic or status according to my mood, is that reaching out? I don’t know what else to do; I know that he believes his reaching out is a sign of weakness and I believe going back to him shows I have low self worth. I refuse to have any man treat me poorly, I love him, I just love me more☺️

admin

October 6, 2014 at 11:45 am

So, I didn’t get an exact number, how long have you been in NC exactly.

Sarah

October 3, 2014 at 3:51 pm

My ex and I broke up a week ago. After a year, out of the blue he told me that he didn’t have feelings for me now or and that he never did and never would. I honestly don’t believe him. (I don’t know how he would have faked a relationship for a year if he didn’t care. Even asking me to move in at one point.) We decided when we broke up to not speak for 21 days and then we would meet up and see how we felt after we had some time apart. He warned me that he didn’t think anything would change on his part. I’m having a really hard time with NC. I haven’t broken it, but I’m so tempted. Should I go along with this? Is this really even no contact if he knows that at the end of the three weeks we will be meeting up?

admin

October 6, 2014 at 11:21 am

Don’t break it. It will pay off in the end.

As NC goes on he is going to get less and less confident that he can get you and that is kind of what you want.
Sarah

October 7, 2014 at 5:09 pm

Thanks for your reply! I’m not going to break my NC – I’m on day 13 and feeling very confident about that.

Do you have any thoughts on the abbreviated 21-day NC and the fact that we have already set a time and day to end it and meet?

Im afraid this will make NC less effective and since the date is already set that he will feel that he has some sort of emotional control over me at least until then (even if he doesn’t and doesn’t know it yet…) I kind of feel like maybe I should just ignore the date and let it come and go, but at the same time I don’t want to play games, and that kind of seems like a mind game.
Thanks.
admin

October 8, 2014 at 12:53 pm

I am a fan of the 21 day NC rule if he has contacted you more than once during NC.

Terrapin

September 30, 2014 at 4:59 pm

Heres a bit of history about me and my bf. we got together when we were 14. I’m now 20 and he turned around to me and said that he doesn’t love me or feel any spark anymore. Throughout the last 2 years of our relationship we have even seeing other people because we didn’t want to be with one person for the rest of our lives. I thought I was going to marry him. Ended up falling out with my family because of him. He’s not a nasty kind of guy but he told me he sees me as a friend. I’ve been doing NC since Friday and he hasn’t text me or anything. Up to a month ago we were planning our future together and now it’s all smacked me in the face. I want to e with him and find it hard to believe he would throw away so much because of a few weeks I doubt. Recently he has been having a mid life crisis trying to decide what he wants to do in his career and has been really stressed out. We hardly had sex towards the end of the relationship. I see him every day at uni and he always seems so unglazed by the whole thing. How do I get him to fancy me again and make him regret letting me go?

admin

October 1, 2014 at 3:39 pm

You are still so early into NC.Stick with it.

Terra

September 27, 2014 at 5:15 am

I have no clue which reaction my ex is giving. How do I determine which reaction he is giving me? We have been split up for almost 7 weeks and from the start he did not want to contact me and even at one point he told me to leave him alone because I was the one who was always contacting him and the only things he keeps telling me is he needs his time and his space and he’s not ready to work on us yet and when he gets a place of his own we will see about working things out. I haven’t really talked to him in the past 3 days except we do work together and we do have a 4 year old daughter together so I’m not sure how an NC will work for me. I can’t just stop talking to him because of our daughter and I do see him everyday at work but here recently at work he sometimes wants to pick at me and do a little bit of talking here and there and to me he seems to be acting a little jealous because I’m being a little secretive towards him about what I’m doing and talking to but I really can’t tell. How do you have a NC when you work together and have kids together?
Ella

September 25, 2014 at 4:26 am

Dear Chris,
I just sent an email to you i’m wondering if you will have enough tiem to read my long story , so i ask you if you can.

I really need help need to talk to you about my situation, please help me

Thank you very much
Magnolia

September 22, 2014 at 3:33 pm

Hi Chris!

Your website is great! I am thinking of buying your Ex Recovery Guide.

I am on my first day of NC and hope to be able to go for it. My case is as follows: I have had a tortuous relation with a guy for 2 years now, and at the moment the power balance is thoroughly on his side. I have been giving in to him many times, all the time. At the beginning he was chasing me, but things changed afterwards, and I made several mistakes (not cheating on him, just trifles for me, but not trifles for him), and he broke with me, but then he came back, then broke again, then he came back again…and this repeating till yesterday. I begged him to forgive me each time I did something wrong, made things to please him, made everything to please him, and it was less and less important to him as time passed, and he was gradually only seeing the bad things and never the good ones. But he still remained there, I think he is incapable of letting me go although he says he doesn’t want a relation with me, he never cut it thoroughly. He blocked me several times in the whatsapp but several days after he always unblocked me.

Well, the matter is that yesterday he blocked me once again, and he did id the very moment I told him I was going for a drink with a girlfriend of mine he doesn’t like. He is so accustomed that I only do things he “approves”, that even such a small thing as I just said gets him mad. So he blocked me in the whatsapp and in the incoming calls to, just for this stupid trifle!

I tried to start the NC on a previous occasion, but I only managed not to write to him for 2 days. But I have decided to do it now, and will manage for sure!

Do you think the NC will help me?

Thanks

Magnolia

admin

September 29, 2014 at 4:30 pm

Hi Magnolia…

Sorry for the late response.

I think NC can be very effective if you can remain disciplined..
Magnolia

September 30, 2014 at 11:20 am

Hi Chris!

Thanks for answering.

My ex still has me blocked, but I am happy with myself since I have been in NC for 6 days now, and each day that passes is easier than the previous. I bought your guide too, and it seem very interesting and helpful to me. I am trying to keep myself busy and work positively on myself (started new activities like horseback riding, haha), and doing a lot of sports (this i have done always, and in fact it was one of the main reasons that my ex had a grudge against me, he said I am too centered in my hobbies and he wanted me to be centered almost exclusively in him), and I am sure now that I can complete the NC. I am almost sure he will not say a word to me, neither he will unblock me because he is the stubborn kind of guy and in the past it has always been me who went after him, but this has changed now, so let’s see!

Thanks for your web and guide, it really helps me.

Magnolia
lucy

October 21, 2014 at 1:42 am

Hi Magnolia
I just want to say thank you for putting your personal situation down, i too feel very similar to you with my ex and they sound very similar (with the self centered aspect of it) and the stubborness, i was a ballet dancer and he hated that hobby of mine made him think i was too self centered and took all of the attention from him, so stopped 🙁 but yeah anyways a few weeks prior to him braken up with me, he pretty much had a go at everything i did, i had a my girl mate over for a sleep over and he freaked out an blocked me, its been 4 days and im doing the nc, started doing ballet again so feeling better but i still miss him, has your situation had any positive outcome yet?? just to give me abit of hope,
once again thanks soo much
lucy

Brook

September 17, 2014 at 8:30 pm

Chris,
I do want to say thank you for your site, an I’m following your instructions. I wanted to clarify the outcome I’m sincerely seeking. I love this man, and want this relationship to work. If I went to his home right now tonight be ok, but I need the commitment before I spend my nights w him and his daughter anymore. He wanted it too, but once I started standing behind my words and saying I need you to show me not just say it. I have to much to lose taking a chance on words,I needed to see a solid affirmation before we started merging pur lives together. Its like he just gave up, Quit returning calls, n texts all together saying if you want to see us yo y know where I am. What did I do wrong? I finally gave in to him then he acts like he don’t care.he wants me to make all the efforts. He’s 42 never married an has a 15yr old daughter who loves me..I’m confused. Sorry I ramble it’s frustrating n he’s so childish. I want to hang in there but I’m out of ideas. So I’m in no contact day 4, and I really doubt he’ll call.he’s that stubborn. Thanks for any advise..
Brook

September 17, 2014 at 6:52 pm

I’ve been reading your site for a few weeks and decided to try your suggestions.
I met my ex 6 MO ago and initially he smothered me. I rodeo so I’m gone alot and in off season I’m a Catholic Re teacher. between 2 jobs I’m extremely busy, n wasn’t ready for serious. Needless to say he won me over. Our biggest problem was communication. He’d call n if I didn’t call right back or an see he got very upset. I repeatedly explained my phone’s rarely w me in the barn so I don’t talk much. Naturally. I made a huge effort to change that for his comfort. I live 20 miles from him n get up at 4am everyday to feed horses, n I’m there late training horses, so I didn’t see him much.. After much thought I decided that I was willing to get serious n make changes to be w him more. So I quit training in the evening so I could spend 3 or 4 hrs w him 3x a week before I went home. He had a 15 yr old daughter whom I adore n I was ready to commit. One night after a argument n a few drinks I was leaving, and he purposed n put a ring on me..I said yes, but the next morning when I went to leave he was sleeping n I took it off n left a note saying the answers still yes, I just wanted to make sure u remembered. After that things changed he became very jealous, and started to make me chase him. I thought he was scared so I gave 100% to assure him calling n texting, but he’d rarely respond. A few times I said I’m done if it not gonna communicate w me I can’t do this. I made it clear I wanted a husband n a family, Not a bed buddy, so he’d remind me saying your the one I wanna marry, but after ultimatoms of we need to get engaged before I move in, he’d say ok, but never would. He took me to meet his mom, brother, and sister, but wouldn’t make the move..so I pulled away.anyway since then it’s a push n pull communication, n things fell apart. He wanted me with him but he’d never ask me to come over so I stopped. Then he’d punish me by ignoring me, so I told him I’m giving him space to decide what he wants. 2x I gave in and I begged n pleaded, wanting to work it out, but he stopped responding. So Sat I told him I live I wanna marry you, when your ready let me know.n I went in NC mode..it is hard bc he’s extremely stubborn. As am I, but I’m tired of chasing him..He’s 42 never been married. I’m 40 n was married 19 yrs. N have no children. I miss him n want to buckle. Is there even a chance he’ll come around again? We didn’t break up I just got tired if making efforts alone. He doesn’t know how to show emotion, or communicate, n over n over I asked him to keep trying bc I needed th a. He said be patient I’m trying, but he’s not. So I stopped…Now what??

admin

September 18, 2014 at 4:26 pm

How long have you been in NC for brook?
Brook

September 18, 2014 at 6:07 pm

Today is day 5, and not a peep..
admin

September 29, 2014 at 12:39 pm

Still super early.

Angel

September 17, 2014 at 5:35 pm

I love this article is put together. Back in march my ex-boyfriend decided over something really stupid to get mad at me and call all kinds of horrible names over the phone. After he hung up on my I block his number and lost it for good. He stalked me for 2 months. That day was the best day of my life! and really with the way I’m feeling I don’t ever want to be in a relationship again(unless I truly meet someone who will not lie to me and cheat on me. I feel like a bird who was able to escape her cage. So why then would we women want to get back a crazy ex who wants to treat us like crap and calls us unworthy and untrue names? I’d rather wait until God sends me the right man. I enjoyed reading your article and thank you for posting it.

admin

September 18, 2014 at 4:22 pm

The best day of your life was him stalking you?

Hahaha seriously?

tara

September 16, 2014 at 11:10 pm

This is idiotic. I’d not be with a man that tried this on me. This is an intolerable amount of drama, thought and effort.

If you are an intelligent, funny, and attractive female you don’t need this. It’s like catching fish in a barrel. You are of value, and should be valued. You aren’t a child, playing games.

You wouldn’t want some dude holding you emotionally hostage. The “false reality” isn’t false, only initially. It’s a healthy coping mechanism. You are very capable of moving on, your thoughts and perceptions effect your whole being.

Break ups happen for a reason, use no contact to get over the ex and find someone better. Don’t play games, just move on. You’ll be all the better for it; most importantly by not playing games you will find someone of value.

Uone1nless, you are in high school. In that case, proceed.

admin

September 17, 2014 at 4:53 pm

Sorry you feel that way Tara!

How would you go about getting an ex back?

monae

September 15, 2014 at 11:28 pm

Hey,im in a crazy situation im 23 n my ex is 20 he broke up with me on the 28th of july he said things where pretty heavy and he cant deal with my emotions i was really hurt then i tries the no contact for 3 weeks and contacted him to say hey, it was a pretty short converstion to be honest few weeks passed i was in his town so i contacted him , we ended up kissed in his car we both wanted to have sex but i just didnt want to send the ” friends with benifts message” after that night he didnt contact me for 4 days i called him later that night we met up and had sex it wasnt that great but ok.. on that same night he texted me goodnight xo etc after that night no contact at all..i confronted him at first and told him how i was feeling and everything just turned physcial we made up and he said he will be in touch now he contacts me but i cant seem to get into a conversation at all it hurts cause i love him really much but..

admin

September 16, 2014 at 3:24 pm

You realize you did step into fwb territory right?

Lynn

September 15, 2014 at 4:11 am

My boyfriend of three years just broke up with me a week ago. I feel like I pushed him into breaking up with me because the phone call was very late at night and I like to express my concerns openly with him. First I asked him if he still loved me and if he was in love with me, he answered yes, but when I asked whether or not he wanted to be with me he said he didn’t know. I persisted for answers constantly over the phone call. The day of the break up I called him a few times and texted him about how much pain I was in. I didn’t hear from him until that Wednesday, which is five days since the break up. I texted him before hand and told him that I wanted to talk because I mentally and physically can’t take the pressure of waiting. I’m a very impatient person at heart and I am trying my best hah. During the conversation I told him that for right now, we should not be together, but we should try to work things out. I also expressed inters in spending our up coming anniversary together. To me, it seemed like a perfect idea, because it would give him a month to see whether or not he truly wants to be with me. He said to give him Thursday to think about it and that I could text him Friday. So me being me, I did exactly that. I didn’t get a response, but on Saturday I did. I felt like maybe this was his way of saying that we could work things out, but when I tried to call ( I knew it might have been too soon) he didn’t answer. I texted him asking if he could call because I wanted someone to talk to. Less than 30 min. later he texted me back saying he didn’t want to talk tonight. I was very sad and told him sorry for being impatient. He then replied that he didn’t want to talk and he wasn’t ready to talk. So thus today, Sunday, I finally decided to the the NC thing. Although, I am hesitant because I don’t know whether or not he is really thinking about me. We are young and are in our second year of college, he has surrounded himself with friends and keeps posted on social media about his happiness, and I do the same, but I’m worried that he has already moved on. I feel that because I followed his suggestions to a T that i might have given him too much power over me. I feel led on as well because of our last phone call and I honestly don’t know what to do at this point, because I want him back. At the same time, I’m a little frustrated.
lil one

September 12, 2014 at 11:34 pm

so I wrote about one month ago. I was seeing a guy for six months. two were good and four were complicated. we ended the relationship, his decision but I agreed, over one month ago. after the break up he was in contact daily. after three days I implemented the no contact rule. I suggested that he go work away as planned and that if he wants to be friends that he made contact after his return. after ten days he messaged to say ‘hi’ and that he hoped that I wad ok. I didn’t reply … I didn’t want to at the time and was unsure if I wanted him back. I also stopped using social media at this time and changed my whatsapp so no one could see when I had been on … I guess I just wanted time out. Today I have missed him lots … it’s day 30 so I decided to check Facebook … he’d uploaded a scenic picture from his trip. this is the first one since we broke up. I then went onto skypd and he has removed me from hid contacts … has he decided it’s over or is this part of how the contact rule works?

lil one

September 16, 2014 at 7:41 pm

Crazy! This 30 day thing reeeeally works! Just got a message from my ex … asking how I am and such! Maybe the skype thing was a reaction! I feel totally clear and zen about what I want too! Vrilliant! Thanks Chris!
admin

September 17, 2014 at 4:21 pm

Your welcome lil one hahahaha.

Niki

September 9, 2014 at 3:20 am

Dear Chris, I emailed you on Friday regarding my tough situation in my 10 years relationship. I really need your help, I would be very thankful if you reply my email please and help me in this situation

admin

September 15, 2014 at 3:22 pm

I am looking at my emails today.
Niki

September 16, 2014 at 2:40 pm

Dear Chris, I am just waiting for your response, could you please give me your advice as soon as you can? I really need your help as soon as possible
Niki

September 15, 2014 at 6:45 pm

Dear Chris, I have just resent that email to you , and added what happend to me during this week which is very mportant. I really appreciate it if you could reply my email please and help me in this situation. I am looking forward to your advices
admin

September 16, 2014 at 3:14 pm

You sent it to the chris@exboyfriendrecovery.com email?

B/c I am not sure I got it. Resend it again. It may have been sent to spam and I just cleared my spam.

So sorry Nikki… I will get to it though I promise.
Niki

September 17, 2014 at 3:37 pm

Dear Chris, Could you please let me know whether you have received my email or not? The current situation of my relationship is hurting me, I really need to make my mind as soon as possible, and I need your points of views, ideas, and your advices. Sorry to say it again but If you have got my email, could you reply me as soon as you can?
admin

September 17, 2014 at 4:58 pm

I haven’t gotten it yet… 🙁
Niki

September 18, 2014 at 2:39 am

:(((( really?what is wrong?Chris have you seen your spam? I can see it in my sent box, it has been sent to (chris@exboyfriendrecovery.com). If you have another email adress may I try that one please? I do not know what to do. I have just resend it to you right now, the subject of my email is: 10 years relationship (Niki).
admin

September 18, 2014 at 4:45 pm

I got your emails!!!!
Niki

September 22, 2014 at 3:24 am

Dear Chris, Today is the 15th day I am in no contact with him. And he is too stubborn to contact me, I knew that. Have you read my email? May I say sth? Actually I got a little upset after not getting your advices . Considering my story, should I continue no contact rul with him? Does it really worth it ? Is it possible for him to become commited? I should sacrify my life for seeing that day? Or should I break up with him and just let him know by a message? Should I mention that it is because you do not let me trust you. and move on? Chris please just tell me what to do. I am thinking about what I should do every second it is too hurting
Niki

September 20, 2014 at 2:23 am

Dear Chris, have you read my email? No advice? 🙁
Niki

September 18, 2014 at 7:00 pm

Really?! Chris I’m so glad to hear that, it made me less stressed. I am reading some of your articles, they are amazingly helpful for self improvement. Thank a lot Chris, and sorry for my long strory in my email. I am just looking forward for your advices
Niki

October 1, 2014 at 4:11 pm

Chrisssssssssssssssssssssssss, help me, :(((((
admin

October 3, 2014 at 2:04 pm

How? I responded to your email.
Niki

September 29, 2014 at 6:58 pm

Hi Chris. I do underestand you were busy, no problem. Today is the 23th day that we have not had any contact with eachother. I am getting deeply angry and stressed with remembering what I tolerated during the last 2 years. During the last week, I have just controled myself to not contact him ((and tell him whatever I have inside and must told him to help me being released and then break up with him)), till I get your advices. Chris it would be great if you could tell me what to do please today or tomorrow. Thanks
admin

September 29, 2014 at 12:40 pm

Been a crazy week for me but I am getting to your email still… So sorry for the delay.
Niki

September 16, 2014 at 7:16 pm

No problem, I have just resend it to you (To chris@exboyfriendrecovery.com). I am just looking forward for your advices as soon as you can, thank you very much in advance
admin

September 17, 2014 at 4:17 pm

No problem Niki!

Kassypurr

September 6, 2014 at 5:00 pm

Wow! This is very impressive and right on target! I’ve been off and on with my bf for two years now. Usually, I give in and I guess that is why the off and on situation continues. He is stubborn and dumb and even angry so I always reached out to him first. This time I’m doing NC throughout the month of September. The most we usually go without talking is a week, but I’m ready.

admin

September 15, 2014 at 2:54 pm

Glad you are ready. I think this can be extremely effective.

Tiffany

September 5, 2014 at 10:41 pm

I am nearing the end of my first 30 days. I actually saw him last week and was fine, but i find out that the day before he is trying to play the broken hearted victim. What do I even do with that? He’s the one who caused the rift in the relationship and said to me “i’ve been pushing you away but not wanting to let you go” so I entered no contact to heal, now my friends are telling me he’s sad. Why are you sad? I don’t even know how to approach this. Help. Please

admin

September 15, 2014 at 2:39 pm

Its good that you entered NC. Just stick with it and follow the advice throughout this site.

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