How To Get A Long Distance Relationship Ex Boyfriend Back

5,238 thoughts on “The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship”

Alena

February 19, 2019 at 7:58 pm

So he broke up with me on his birthday, we almost were together for 2 years seeing each other twice a year for a month. Last time we seen each other was 4 weeks ago and he left and was all telling me how happy I make him. We had so so many fights and struggles but when being in person together we were smiling. Yes arguments also but mostly good memories. Before he visited me in winter we almost had a breakup and he had already booked his flight and said he’s gonna come as just a friend but I convinced him to just see how it is like in person. And when he broke up last week he said winter was all bad memories and nothing good about it and all that. That is a lie because he always gave me this one look when we had really happy memories this one look where he would usually just out of nowhere call me the most beautiful girl. And those moments we also had in winter. We randomly had a video game night and I was distracted asking him about something while eating chips and he just turned and said you know what I’m gonna marry you one day. And then hearing he never meant any of that and that in winter he already knew that he would break up I can’t believe that. He wrote on the last day a letter saying don’t ever be told different. He always had a problem admitting that he misses me but even wrote that he will miss me. And to be honest when he broke up I first did the first option I called him trying to get a hold of him, I texted him. Begged him that I would do anything. I also gotta say since he left he started playing video games a lot like 18 hours a day. Then had work. We still talked and all that but he was never that distant. And it all became less and less I mean we barely sent snaps to each other showing our faces like we used to do. And duh I believe if you don’t see a person and not hear much from a person you start to lose feelings or forget. And first I begged, then I just got so mad at him, for lying to me because he said we will give it all in summer a chance. The thing is I WOULD HAVE MOVED IN WITH HIM IN 4 months. No distance no more. And just the week before he still helped me. Even his mom texted me she doesn’t understand him that he was just last week asking her about me moving and trying to figure paper work out. He acts rn as if he never cared about me. But when I asked him to call me on face time to tell me while seeing my face, and I begged him to not leave me, he struggled and really he’s not a man that shows emotions easily. But he cried. And not pretending to, I seen tears running down his face. I only seen that like 5 times in those 2 years. When I was leaving the country when we just got together, when I was holding him while he told me about his family problems, then when I left in summer again and him saying he had to see the love of his life leave him and then when he broke up. The week before he already had stopped saying I love you and needed Time to think and he also cried on FaceTime. So I have this hope that he still cares. He ignored mostly all my texts or when I then said well I freakin deserve an answer after you broke my heart then he usually just said he’s sorry but I have to accept it bla bla. He texted my mom that I’m an amazing person and so beautiful, but that it hasn’t been working out and that he felt trapped. The girls he deleted on facebokn and Snapchat it was himself deciding that to do for me and now he said I made him lose all his friends. If he would have talked to me I always would have agreed to him seeing friends. Because I would agree to anything if it means not losing him. I don’t know why he broke up. I don’t believe that he doesn’t love me no more. And we both deleted Instagram when being a couple and I seen that he got it back and he posted a picture of Paris, a gift that he gave me for Christmas and he when breaking up said it was such a terrible time full of arguing although we made so many good memories. And then he posted the pictures that I took, just the landscape ones and said “amazing trip to Paris” as if he did that alone. So I even told him I was disappointed that was our thing and he ruins it by pretending I wasn’t there. He actually said “won’t post more like that my bad”. And today I still texted him and had him ignore me. Because I said the reasons he broke up is he wanted to keep his friends and he wanted to go out to things without me making comments being jealous. If it was only those reasons I don’t get why we can’t be together and him just doing that. And I valento this page and my parents also said he will run after me if I ignore him. I mean we texted 610 days straight. Every day there was texting and he still just sends a random picture to keep our streak on Snapchat. But if I would stop sending one back if I would delete him. I would be afraid he would never come back. But the crying showed it hurt him knbredinky and that I mean a lot to him still. So should I do a whole month of ignoring him ? And what if he hasn’t contacted me once. Do I just sent a normal text saying hey do you remember when we went to the drive in movies and both fell asleep already at the beginning.
Pani

February 12, 2019 at 2:28 pm

Hi Chris, I don’t know if he is my ex yet but since August 31 st we had a little misunderstanding because I disrespected him, and he hates when he is been disrespected. So, he has been angry from August 31st to today because when I text and he doesn’t reply I start nagging so he continues to ignore me.He actually texted on the 1 st of January to wish me happy new year. When I send him a message to ask if he is still interested in the relationship he doesn’t reply, when I call he rejects. I know know what to do.

Chris Seiter

February 13, 2019 at 12:40 am

Hi Pani!

Have you tried implementing No Contact as I think if you learn more about it and all of its elements, you will realize its a pragmatic path forward for many reasons.

Sarah

February 4, 2019 at 5:59 pm

Hey Chris, I was in a ldr for almost 2 years with my ex. We saw eachother but other times when we would try things would come up like weather conditions, also both of our families are strict so we can’t just go anywhere we want, especially me. He broke up with me once because he said it was “toxic” blah blah, but really he just wasn’t happy being with me anymore I guess. So I went into no contact. For a month. He came back to me by reaching out thru Instagram, we reconnected instantly but I told him he needs to come see me. That’s a huge part of all this. We needed to see eachother. It has been too long. We got back toehtehr and he said he would try that ending of the summer. We were doing good in my opinion. This November came along and before that he was going out to California for a friends wedding. I myself bought him a ticket to come see me after I’m his way back, where his family would think he’s still in Cali, since they’re annyoing about where he goes. But before he even went, he broke up with me because he said he had a lot going on in his life, and didn’t want to be in a relationship. I was very angry this time that he wanted to leave me again, after being together again for a few months. I cried, begged and pleaded, on both texting and the phone. On the phone we both cried together and he stayed on it with me one last time, after that I begged and pleaded a few more times through text but then I had no choice but to just accept it. I told him okay I’ll agree to the break up, but I asked him to still come see me, as a friend and see what happens. He said he would try for sure. Came down to it and he said it would be too risky. I felt so let down and hurt. After he got back home, at first he told me, he thinks we should both just move on, but then he decided oh I don’t want to lose you,we texted back and forth for hours, he told me he didn’t want to lose me and that I deserve so much from him. We talked and decided to be friends u til we both work on ourselves. He told me he was going to come back to me a changed man. After this we texted for a few days.. but and then I couldn’t do it anymore, on social media I saw he was friending all these girls, and just being someone I didn’t recognize. And when he would text me it would feel like he was forcing himself to, just uninterested in our convo even after he said I can talk to him anytime I wanted and he’d be there for me. The last time I said to him was that he always just took me for granted and that we were done, I told him good luck to him, nothing left to talk about and he left me on read. I was the last to say something to him. After this I deleted him off all my social media expect Instagram. I posted good things, like my sisters wedding I went to, and the day after my birthday. This was when I started to lose hope. The day of my birthday was horrible. I looked out for his text, but nothing. Did I mention how he said he would “get me something nice” but really didn’t even have the nerve to wish me a hbd. This left me so upset that I deleted him off everything… I was very upset in him. The least he could’ve done was wish me a hbd. So rewininding to couple weeks, now Iran been 70 days of no contact. The only contact I made was decide to follow him on instgaram again, and he followed back. 70 days of not speaking to him! The other day I almost cracked and reached out to se show he has been, but I thought to myself, damn he didn’t even wish me a hbd back in December, if he wanted to talked to me or check up he could’ve used that day as an excuse. So I didn’t. But not one day goes by that I don’t think of him. I’m dying to hear from him. So I was reading this whole thing you’ve written but I don’t know if I should do it because I feel like it would be hard to see eachother again, he’s have to come to me and again I don’t rhink I want to randomly text him something funny or just random when again he couldn’t even reach out to wish me a happy birthday.. so ppl are telling me to wait for him to reach out, others are telling me to do it since I miss him so much. I’ve posted a few insta stories on my Instagram of me looking nice but no comments or anything yet… I haven’t posted a picture yet for him to like or get his attention though .. idk I’m lost. I just want him back. Can you help me? Give me some tips on what I should do?

Chris Seiter

February 4, 2019 at 9:29 pm

Hi Sarah…My biggest tip for you to to make sure you ex recovery plan is being guided by a sensible Program and that is what my website, my ebooks, podcasts, and videos are all based. Quickly, as my time is so limited, it would advise bring an end to your NC as 70 days is long enough most likely. My program calls for you to reach out to him using a certain method. So check it out and and learn more!

Kay

February 3, 2019 at 1:00 am

Hey, Chris,
so I was in a LDR for over a year when my ex broke it off and I decided to NC right after. About two weeks in he was already dating someone else so I doubled NC to 60 days instead of 30. I found out recently that his new relationship is long distance as well and the new girl lives in a whole different country over two thousand miles away. While me and him were only 8 hours away. Do you think this will help my chances? Any tips?

Chris Seiter

February 4, 2019 at 4:04 am

Hi Kay…I know LDR can be hard in different ways. I came thru one and it worked out for me, but it requires more effort on part of the couple to navigate thru some of the challenges. I think NC is a reasonable way forward and make sure you understand the part of NC that deals with your on recovery/healing/ and growth as an individual.

Rosie

January 14, 2019 at 7:23 pm

Hi Chris,
My long distance boyfriend broke up with me last week. We met in the summer when I was teavelling in America, but didn’t have long together because I had to go home to England. We’d completely fallen for each other so decided to do long distance.
Everything was great, we hated being apart but we talked everyday and started planning our future. But he was dealing with a lot of issues, from losing his job to suffering depression. He began to shut down and would go a week without talking to me, but he would always come back and explain and try work through everything with me. I thought we were in a good place until one day he stopped talking to me and didn’t come back. I didn’t hear from him for 6 weeks. Once he got back in touch he told me he couldn’t do it anymore because the distance was too hard. I had already booked to go over to visit him, and since my best friend lives in the same city as him, I decided to still go and simply asked if he would meet me to talk things through.
Me agreed, but to my surprise, he started messaging me saying he missed me and how much he couldn’t wait to see me. We weren’t back on the same level where we started, but he was keeping me up to date about his days and often told me that he couldn’t wait for me to get there. He had been out of town with his family for Christmas break and he wouldn’t get back until the weekend, giving me a few days to hang out with my friend. He messaged me everyday asking if I was having fun and what I was up to, and saying he couldn’t wait to see me.
It was her birthday while I was there, and on the Sunday night, we had a party. He told me he was going to drive back and come. It was a 13 hour drive so I wasn’t too surprised when he didn’t show, but I was just he hadn’t text me to let me know. The next morning I woke to a text saying he was sorry he couldn’t make it, so I asked him if he wanted to meet up today. He replied telling me he didn’t know how to tell me this, but he’d started seeing someone else.
I was devastated, obviously. Be said it had happened recently but he couldn’t see me because he still has feelings for me. I didn’t have a place to stay for my full trip, and since it now looked like I couldn’t stay with him, I looked at a flight home. When I told him I was thinking of leaving, he asked if he could see me because he felt bad I’d come all this way, but my stubbornness kicked in and I realised I didn’t want to see him out of pity. I held off though and later that night , asked him to give me a reason to stay. He didn’t, so the next morning I flew home.
I didn’t see it coming. I knew he’d been struggling with the distance but I thought he’d really been excited to see me. Everyone who saw us together had been completely shocked. They thought he’d panicked about seeing me again and then having to watch me leave again- it broke his heart the first time. I text him once I got home, basically wishing him well and saying goodbye. He text back saying he was sorry and he knows he messed up and he’s still crazy about me but the distance was too much. He said I have the biggest heart and deserve good things. I didn’t reply and unfollowed him on social media.
But I want him back. He’s acted stupid and I’m so mad at him, but I can’t describe it, I know he’s the person I’m supposed to be with, and I think he knows it too. We both said we’d never clicked like this with anyone before. But after what he did, I don’t trust myself to know if he’s genuine. I think he is but I’ve been fooled before. And if so, how can I convince him that we’re worth fighting for? Especially if he’s seeing someone who lives close to him? I know he was happier with me, and I think from his messages that he wants me, but is scared of how we can have a future together when we’re so far apart. I’m losing my mind here, please could you give me some advice?

Chris Seiter

January 15, 2019 at 4:30 am

Right now what matters most is finding some sanity and peace and with that much needed healing. That should be your focus.

Marie

December 31, 2018 at 11:26 am

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Chris Seiter

December 31, 2018 at 3:26 pm

Hi Marie….did you have a question?

Marie

December 31, 2018 at 12:23 am

Hi! My ex broke up with me three months ago. This is the third time I tried the NC rule, the other two didn’t work since i contact him like a two weeks after starting it. He came to see me at the beggining of the month and we had an amazing weekend together. I thought that we were going to get back together because of all the things he did when we were together but I was wrong. He keeps saying he is not sure. Today is day 18th without saying a word to him. I’m really trying to mantain my mind busy doing excersices, watching movies, or going out but it is really hard, specially during Christmas. I do have a Christmas gift for him (silly me that I actually buy him a gift) and actually don’t know if I should send it to him or return it to the store.

Chris Seiter

December 31, 2018 at 3:30 pm

Hi Marie!

I agree, the other times you probably contacted too soon not allowing for more time for all of the elements of NC to get some traction. Don’t be discouraged that you have not heard from him at day 18. NC periods can range from 30-45 days, but at the end of your NC period, my Program does call for you to reach out to him in a certain way. Have you picked up my eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”, as it walks you through this post breakup period and the things you can do and how to think about all of this.

San

December 29, 2018 at 1:35 pm

Hi Chris, so I did the no contact and texted yesterday saying “happy new year in advance “ he didn’t respond and I haven’t texted again, what do I do now??. Thank you
Nana

December 6, 2018 at 4:22 am

Hi Chris, Me and boyfriend are already 5 months relationship and I always picking up fightss with him until this one day I told him if he not love me anymore, I give him permission to dump me. And he did.. I told him that I’m so emotional and sorry for picking up fights like that I told him I will be mature ( is this begging ?). I also told him that please rethink about he dump me. And then I start NC failed just in one day. I contact him and ask if he mad ? and willing to continue this relationship with me ? He said sure. He want to continue too.

But my question is, is this okay ? what I meant am I will be in healthy relationship after this ? How can I spark back in my relationship with him ? Can I be ungettable girl at the same time having relationship with him ? Is it too late to make him chase me back ?HELP ME CHRIS T_T

Chris Seiter

December 6, 2018 at 11:38 pm

Absolutely Nana…An Ungettable Girl is always in the mode of “becoming”. Just take things slow. Don’t put too many expectations on yourself or him. Try to have some positive moments together and build a foundation from there.

Alice

November 18, 2018 at 12:35 pm

Hi Chris.

My partner and I have been together 6 months and he just got offered this job two states away. I’m so broken up about it. We talked about going long distance but in the end, he doesn’t want to do it. He said he we can be friends, nothing more, and even if we tried long distance it would delay the inevitable. He’s also gone that he enjoys spending time with me, he cares about me but he can’t do it to me. I told him to stop thinking so negatively about it as honestly it’s a three hour plane ride and that’s it. The only thing different is where he lives. I don’t if I can do the no contact now as he’s leaving in less than 30 days. But I don’t want to lose him.
Silly Bean

November 16, 2018 at 6:59 pm

Heya Chris, Thank you for this very informative and interesting page! I have been reading a lot of your articles, especially on the long distance relationship articles. I met my ex online through a mutual interest and we have a lot of things in common. He’s quite an impulsive person (Latin American, you know) and we had an argument via Whatsapp. Because he’s dealing with some personal issues (ex wife, kids etc.) and now started a new job our regular calls, video calls and texts have been difficult to schedule in the last week (time difference). I made the suggestion that he takes care of his things first because I also had a crappy week (work related) and just wished to speak to him but he couldn’t find time. I told him I needed ‘someone’ I could talk to. He completely got this the wrong way thinking I meant someone else other than him (duh!) I clarified that by saying that I needed him, not another person! So he responded with ‘sorry for creating too much stress in your life and that you feel I do not support you’ and ‘I’m not going to bother you again’. Before I could respond he blocked me on FB and Whatsapp. 4 days later I decided to write an SMS and apologized for what happened and that I feel terrible. Also tried to explain that I feel he misunderstood what I said. I told him I’ll be there for him anyway even if he decides not to talk to me again. So I tried to leave it on a positive note. Yesterday he responded by unblocking me on Whatsapp (I didn’t expect that!) where he thanked me for writing to him and that he hopes I’m ok. But he also said that he is sorting out his problems (‘like you told me’) and that he hopes I’ll find someone who supports and takes care of me.
I haven’t responded to his message going into NC. I’d really like to get him back because it was such a silly situation and he misunderstood what I tried to convey. Should I stay in NC as described in your guide and ‘do me’? I ususally have no issues living my own awesome little life but what concerns me is that my social media options are very limited since I’m still blocked on his FB and he has no other social media accounts. Would updating my Whatsapp profile pictures (the doing me part) be enough? Any other suggestion perhaps? Thank you 🙂

Chris Seiter

November 18, 2018 at 7:40 pm

Hi Silly Bean!

Really cool name! Yes, doing you and being consistent within your NC is very important. Now if you get multiple positive responses, then you can reconsider breaking it and reaching out.

Ann

November 6, 2018 at 1:01 pm

Hi Chris!
I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months. He already cheated on me thrice (talking/flirting to other girls in dating app and other social media). The last time he cheated on me was yesterday and I caught him. Instead of saying sorry or anything else, he is the one who get mad at me because he said that I did the same thing which is talking to my guy classmates related to school works (Engineering student). I explain a lot of times that its just education purpose and nothing less. I dont even last 5 mins talking to them. Now, I’m seeking some time and distance from him to think about things. Its so painful for me to be cheated for the third time. I also said to my self that if he will cheat for the third time I will leave him for good. But, he doesnt want me to have some time to think about things. He told me that if I wont message him tomorrow, we will be done. If I’m going to give him another chance, he might do it again. It may sound martir but I still love him and also want some respect on myself. Help me with this please.

Chris Seiter

November 6, 2018 at 10:44 pm

Hi Ann!

Probably best to have an ex recovery plan in place. Have you considered my program?

Jennifer

October 22, 2018 at 12:25 pm

Hey chris i was in a relationship for almost five years although two years of that I did long distance since he joined the army and we had been on and off ever since it’s been hard but on July his brother passed away and he came to town we were okay and were anxious on seeing each other but after he went back not even a week went by and he broke up with me because he said he felt like he couldn’t give me much attention like the one I begged from him and this was a day after he went to the movies “by himself” and I always told him I didn’t like that because I honestly didn’t believe him I guess I had trust issues of things he did in the past I got mad because he also didn’t answer my phone call he insisted that I always nagged on him and I get mad if he wouldn’t call me or text me back but that’s only because there was times he wouldn’t text me all day but I’ll see him online and I’ll catch him lying to me saying he was assleep which made me feel like if he lying about that was else is he hiding from me? He slowly started showing less interested in talking to me to the point he even admitted to me that sometimes he just wanted to get home from work and watch movies instead of talking to me because supposedly all I did was complain to him and he just wished he could just call me and we could talk about our day without me getting mad at him Anyway I wasn’t happy with the break up obviously and didn’t gave him space until I realized the long distance really just not working out for us so I stop texting him and shortly after he contacted me saying he missed me and that he thanked me for giving him time to realized he do wanna be with me this time i just wasn’t sure about the relationship nomore because he hurt me by doing all that in the first place so I didn’t gave in but honestly I wanted him all along I just didn’t wanted him to play with me again I just wanted to see him put in the effort like the one i had been putting when I was trying to get him back but I guess that just made him think about it again and instead we ended up deciding it’s better off like that and will see how things go when he comes back which is till Christmas and maybe seeing me again will change his mind because when we see each other everything is perfect it just all goes down hill once he leaves he did told me he wanted me but not the long distance relationship we had going on since he says he needs affection and to see me for it to work out so we just started talking like if we were together but not official for like a whole month then I realize he was talking to other girls and that made me feel upset and used because I’m like he wants to have me here but yet he can do whatever he wants and didn’t seem fair to me I confronted him about it first by saying I was “mad” because he didn’t call me this one night and added you probably talking to girls not knowing I had proof and he laughed saying I was cute for getting mad I guess he didn’t took me seriously because One of those nights he had texted me saying he was “mad” at me too for not calling him but then he said I’m not gonna lie I am talking to girls but I’m not about to get in a relationship because I don’t have time for that but we not together and i can basically do whatever i want and I’m not gonna stop you from doing what you want and then he said this is why I broke up with you because you start acting this way so back to now we haven’t talked ever since he told me he had to go and said he would call me back that night and never did so I called him and he didn’t answered and I texted him the next day and no reply and this was on the 7th of this month the thing is in that period of time he already posted two pictures with some other girl on Snapchat but before he did that he unfriended me I just found out by a friend soo I’m really confused did he do that because he don’t want me to see him with someone else because he still wants me and he don’t want to loose the chance or he just wants to hook up during Christmas and don’t want anything to be on the way because every time we talked he always brought up no matter what I’m gonna see you during christmas and we can start over forget about the past and see how things go from there and if it’s meant to be it will be and to be honest I told him I needed to see him so we can talk about it in person since all this happen through a phone and I feel like weather we end up together or not i need the closure but now I don’t get it it’s that a rebound or is he really moved on?? I don’t know if I should get back with him now if he tries to on Christmas or if I should even agree on seeing him or if he even plans too because honestly I feel like things aren’t going to change and he still has a whole year till he out the army should I have hope or just move on?? His mom really likes me and even called me saying she hopes everything okay between us and she really wanted me to marry his son (he would always tell her we were gonna get married) and my mom always bringing him up which is hard for me not to think about him everyday I know this is so much info and I really hope you give me a lil advice because I really do need it and I don’t tell anyone my stuff so I’ll be very much appreciated
Sasha

October 22, 2018 at 6:02 am

Hi Chris,
Sorry I’m bugging you. But I just had one more question. Day before yesterday, my ex was being very supportive and he was encouraging me to achieve my goals.Then the next day,I put a pic for status on WhatsApp.The pic was with my guy friend where I was pulling his ear.After seeing dat,he replied rudely and said dat I was looking very funny…I didn’t reply..I used jealousy tactics. Now my question is, is he being rude because he’s jealous?? Why is he being cold all of a sudden??Thank you so much Chris….
Diana

October 20, 2018 at 8:12 am

Hey Chris,
My boyfriend broke up with me today, but it wasn’t ugly. We had an argument 2 days ago, and we worked through all the problems and at the end of the argument he said he wanted to break up, which came as a shock to me since we went through all this effort to resolve the problems we had. We talked about things for a while (and shamefully, I did ask him not to break up with me, begged him even to reconsider) and we took a couple of days to figure out what we wanted. Today we briefly messaged, he confirmed he still wanted to break up and I agreed it was the right thing to do – though there is so much love still there between us, from both sides. We’ve only been together for 3 months, 2 of which have been long distance, but we already booked to see each other again. I’m in one continent and he’s in another, so we booked to meet midway in Europe, but since we’re broken up and the trip is in less than 3 weeks, I don’t think he’ll be coming. Also, the reason we broke up is because we’re at odds over his best friend (who lives in the same country as me) who has been really nasty to me. Honestly, I just pushed too hard for him to be on my side and that pushed him away. I see that now but the rest of our relationship has been amazing, and I do want some time but I absolutely want him back. He’s been incredibly civil since the initial break up and now the official one, and he’s been messaging me almost like normal but I knew today his mind was set on a break up. I just read all this article, and I’m about to start NC. I Just wanted to know if you think this is going to work in my situation. I don’t want him to forget about me. Is there any chance that NC will result in him feeling like breaking up was the right decision? Because I know he’ll message from time to time asking how I am and what i’m up to, and I know he’ll mean it sincerely too. I don’t want to hurt him by not answering and then popping up after 30 days. Will NC work for me in this situation?

Chris Seiter

October 22, 2018 at 4:14 am

Hi Diana!

I am so sorry you are having to go thru a breakup. I know it all feels weird and strange and new and raw. Giving each other space is a good thing.Sometimes its best to give each other more space than you think. My recommendations for no contact range from 14 to 45 days. Every situation is different. Feel free in giving your ex a heads up that you need some quiet time for yourself and will be out pocket for a spell. I recommend you take a serious look at picking up one of my eBooks that deal with the ex recovery process which you can find on my Home Page of this site!

Sasha

October 19, 2018 at 4:09 pm

Hey Chris,
I’m kinda getting freaked coz I guess I ruined my reconciliation chances. My ex is my relative,so there was a festival for which all of us had to meet. I decided not to go coz I wanted to completely follow ur guides but unfortunately my ex had come to my place for performing certain rituals n our entire family had to dance together and complete the ritual. So I had to dance and my ex had to do the same.V danced in the group.I tried to be totally casual.Now my question is, did I ruin my chances of getting back together coz I’m still in the rapport building phase (texting).So I was not supposed to meet him ,but I was helpless in this situation.
Chris,I also wanted to tell you dat my ex always checks my status on WhatsApp and I am able to get him to respond to my texts and also he is the one who is initiating most of the conversations .He also encourages me to swim (coz I’m a state level swimmer).V also talked about our likes and dislikes and v shared our opinion about doing engineering.Chris,according to the articles,as of now, I’m supposed to do more small talks and build more rapport through texting but what am I supposed now coz I have talked a little about likes and dislikes and shared opinions (just one opinion)?? Am I going too fast or slow??it’s been 3.5 months since I ended nc and started texting my ex and I am still building rapport (coz it is important)and I always end the conversations first and sometimes I try to end the conversation on a high note.
Chris i just have one more question . I don’t know Why is my ex so damn casual all the time?It really hurts me to the core.

Chris Seiter

October 19, 2018 at 10:38 pm

Hi Sasha!

Oh….I am not so sure you ruined everything. Sometimes it may feel that way, but relationship are pretty complex entities. You have some really good questions. If you can, take a look at picking up my 485 page core eBook. “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it delves into alot of these issues.

Ola Baker

October 17, 2018 at 7:42 pm

Hey Chris ,
Thank U for the advice , well tbh i feel alot better now after reading what u wrote .. but i got a question as i have dated this guy for almost a year and we broke up like 12 days ago and that happened because of our parents .. we met in Kuwait ( where he works n lives ) in Aug. ( cuz i was visiting my sis ) And we were so happy but things started changing after that because of our parents , i got sick then my sis called him n we broke up , we were not happy with that at all .. his mom called my mom crying n she started talking to me again but i deleted the apps where she used to talk and my mom asked him to ask his mom to stop talking to me , he is sick and sufferring these days and he also stopped talking to his parents .. I don’t want to end the relationship at all so i’m thinking about visiting him in Kuwait ( since i know where his house n workplace are) but i’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do 🙁 and i dunno what my parents would say or do if i told ’em that
Kimberly Sang

September 27, 2018 at 2:01 am

Hi, i just break up with my ex 2weeks ago. We are in an LDR because he was a seaman. I burst out because he doesnt trust me. Even though I always follow him on what he wants, like I cannot hang out with my friends beacse my friend bring along her boyfriend, as long as there is a boy in the group I cannot go and even in my work he always tend to get jelous. Before I break up I try to speak with him why he cannot appreciate my effort. And then on our 3rd day of our break up my colleague told me my ex is trying to flirt with her and right now on our 2nd week he is flirting another girl. And then i received so many messages from my colleague that my ex is giving them false information about me, like I was so flirty. I still love him though. I really miss him. But I cannot talk him after what he have done.

Chris Seiter

September 28, 2018 at 3:15 am

I agree Kimberly. You should employ No Contact and utilize its benefits in moving forward. You can go to my home page of this site to tap into my resources and tools a

Olivia

September 2, 2018 at 5:25 am

Hi. i have been in an LDR for 8 years. we live in two different countries. Being in an LDR that long we have had our ups and downs. At times we have entertained other people, but we love each other, but distance took its toll. We do not have sex, because Im super conservative and am waiting till marriage. My ex moved to the states 2x but do situations beyond our control we could not settle in the same place for longer than 6 months. My ex wanted to get married but he wanted to be financially stable. So after I graduated from school he asked me to get a job so he wouldn’t feel the pressure of having to support me fully as he worked on the future. I struggled to find a job after graduating because of some health issues, and once I recovered I battled depression. My ex was also struggling with issues of anger and anxiety after his dad passed unexpectedly. Long story short he gave me an ultimatum to find a job by a specific date which I did not. That same evening of the deadline, he went on to see another woman who for many years in our relationship has tried to sabotage us. Its been 3 months since we broke up (from that day) and he tells me he wants to see me. Has called me crying that he still loves me (at times when he is with her), but proceeds to hang out with the other woman. We have not been communicating consistently and we have not seen each other in 4 months. So basically I am not sure if I should go to him so we can see each other and try to figure things out. He cannot come to me right now due to immigration rules. Also if I go and we decide to give this another go should I stay with him for the 3 months left before he can come back stateside?
Sasha

August 29, 2018 at 8:46 am

Hmm…yes Chris. You have a point. It’s better I ignore this message.I better wait for him to initiate contact again and meanwhile I’ll take some good pics with my guy friends and post them.Thanks Chris. Have a nice day.

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