One of the most difficult/annoying situations to be in is one where you start seeing some incredible progress with your ex.
- You have him responding to your text messages.
- He’s the one reaching out via phone calls.
- Heck, he even tells you that he still loves you.
However, despite all this amazing progress you can’t seem to get him to take that crucial next step of admitting that the two of you are official again.
In other words, you can’t get him to commit. Part of you probably wonders if he still cares about you if he won’t commit.
Such was the case with Vanessa, a woman who left a voicemail on my SpeakPipe page. It seemed that no matter how hard she tried she just couldn’t get her ex to take that extra step and commit. To make matters worse she is caught between a rock and a hard place as she has taken a job out of the country which could be causing her ex to not want to commit.
So, how can she make him commit to her?
But before we dive in to that I have a bit of a favor to ask,
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How Vanessa Can Make Her Ex Commit To Her
You’ll notice in the episode I gave Vanessa a very clear and detailed game plan about how she can make her ex commit to her but a lot of the things I recommend to her are universal in the fact that when the time comes you can apply them to your own ex.
I’d like to take a look at those things now,
Getting a man commit to you really revolves around two main factors
- Reassurance In Moderation
Now, investment can come in many shapes or forms but generally when I am talking about investment I am talking about things like,
- Emotional Investment
- Physical Investment
If you can get your ex investing a lot of time into you the more he is going to want to lock you down.
The other thing that you need to take a look at is the reassurance part.
Sometimes your ex boyfriend will say or do certain things to test the waters to see if you are ok with the idea of getting back into a relationship. It’s important to not forget that while you may be frightened of rejection, he is too!
If you notice him doing or saying things that are indicative of him testing the waters then I’d recommend you to reassure him but don’t get into a habit of doing it. Make sure you do it in moderation.