5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Jessy

February 6, 2016 at 10:16 pm

I was in a relationship with my ex for three years, when we transferred to university we broke up. He felt as if my personality wasn’t that good and that I wasn’t expressing who i really was (i am introverted, hard to socialize) and to be honest I had some work to do physically. So its been about three weeks, two of those weeks were on and off, and this last week was the end of it. He told me he didn’t think it would be a good idea to be friends with an ex and that he had found someone else (which he has, they’ve now been together since monday). But i told him I needed a talk to get closure, he agreed, but that has yet to happen. We have communicated throughout the week about it but it hasn’t transpired yet. Anyways I don’t know if I should have that closure talk because all the things I felt at that point in time that I had to say to him, I don’t anymore. What do you think I should do from this point on and if he now has someone else can I still get him to regret leaving me and what steps do I take next?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2016 at 4:55 pm

Hi Jessy,

If you feel you don’t need that closure convo anymore, you have the right to cancel it. Then start nc, about him regretting leaving you, it’s about putting and cultivating more value in yourself, and then letting him see it so he sees what he lost. That means, improving yourself. Physically, is the first thing he’ll see and then also improve your self emotionally and skills wise to be more productive.

Brit

February 6, 2016 at 8:55 pm

Hi Amor! Thank you for all of your advice! I hate to bug again!! But after I saw my ex, he didn’t speak to me or even look at me, I’m trying to become the UG and revamp my social media accounts. But I have no idea now. A little reassurance of what I’m doing is right is much appreciated! Much thanks and love!!

Brit

February 8, 2016 at 3:29 pm

Thank you! I just want to keep building myself up and become more confident. Then try to contact him and see if I’m unblocked on his phone yet.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 9, 2016 at 8:09 am

You’re welcome Brit! 🙂
Brit

February 8, 2016 at 5:10 am

I just don’t know when I should text/Facebook him again, and since I was blocked on his phone, I still don’t know if I’m unblocked either. I’m not confident in contacting him yet and I know that’s not good at all. So now I’m wondering if I should wait longer than what I planned for.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 8, 2016 at 10:05 am

If you’re not confident, then it’s not right time. Do it when you’re confident enough spark a convo and also to handle no response if ever.
Brit

February 7, 2016 at 5:48 pm

I don’t know where to start or really how to contact him again or when I should even attempt to contact him again. Since I did see him and he basically avoided/ignored me, I know right now isn’t the right nor best time to try to establish communication again especially if he is with his ex girlfriend again.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2016 at 6:47 pm

Ahh..I think it’s good you’re starting on revamping your social media accounts..
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2016 at 3:32 pm

You’re welcome brit! What do you mean that you have no idea? You have a lot of ideas but you don’t know where to start? or you don’t know what to do entirely?

Marie

February 6, 2016 at 2:54 am

Hi! Also sorry if there are mistakes, i am french.
So, I have two problems..
First, my ex broke up with me few days ago and i kind of messed up the NC rule, because his break up was sudden and he only gave me for reason that he did not love me anymore, and on the same day one of my (not very close) friend texted me that he had invited her to go to the cinema with her, so i had a lot of questions to ask him. So i kept texting him my questions and thoughts about it for around 2 or 3 days.
Second, I have to work with him almost every week-end. I am not sure how to react with him. I haven’t seen him since he broke up..
Also, i don’t know if this changes something but he told it to me by texto and he said he didn’t have the courage to say it directly to me.
I hope you answer fast 😉

Marie

February 6, 2016 at 7:00 pm

I think i can do it, i know it will be hard but i think i can. I already asked him most of the question i wanted to ask him..
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2016 at 2:25 pm

Okay, then make it fun for you. Do activities you’ve been wanting to do and have a make over. Focus on you this time.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 6, 2016 at 3:24 pm

Hi Marie,

It’s ok I understand your English. If you want to do nc, that means when you’re at work, don’t talk to each other. Only talk about work related stuff. Don’t talk about your feelings and the relationahip. But in your case , when you have so many questions, are you sure you can do nc now?

Aly

February 5, 2016 at 4:03 pm

Hi there! Thank you for posting this, it helps quite a bit!
My situation is that I was with my ex for a year, and in the last month of our relationship he started having doubts about us but didnt tell me until the last week of that month, things spiraled down since I didnt know how to be normal with him and it ended up in a breakup. Right after we broke up he sent me novels of messages saying that its nothing that I did, that he has a lot of issues he needs to work out for himself, he has a lot of trouble talking about certain things. He said his goal isnt to go sleep with a bunch of people, its to try and make himself happy. Said we could still talk from time to time and see how it goes. He said that he still loved me and that never changed but he felt so hopeless and lost about us and it destroyed him and he couldn’t handle it anymore. With that being said, we didn’t argue, I didn’t beg, or fight for him back. Told him I hope this finally makes him happy and that I loved him. Its been a month of NC now, and I broke the ice by sending a message recommending a movie to him that I saw the trailer for, thinking he might be interested and told him I hope he’s doing well. He responded within 10 min each time, asked how I’m doing yada yada and after a couple messages back and forth I cut it short saying that I was a bit busy. I have no idea what to do now haha. I’m a tad worried that he won’t start initiating contact with me since I was usually always the one to do it anyway in our relationship. How long should I wait before talking to him again? This whole thing is so confusing. Please help, I will be so thankful.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 6, 2016 at 10:52 am

Hi Aly,

If ever since in your relationship, you were always the one to initiate contact then it’s okay to initiate again. Think of the topics that he always loves talking about. End texts with a cliffhanger about that. For example, if he loves coffee, when you’re convo is about to end, tell him you remembered you happen to pass by a new concept cafe but you forgot it’s address and to remind you if ever you didn’t get back to him immediately with the info..

Nirali

February 5, 2016 at 3:02 pm

I had dated a guy for 6 mnths , n den we broke up just because we had lots of fights n he didn’t want to b with m coz of the fights , he used to tell him dat he likes m bt can’t b in relationship , days passed liked that , we were very happy being frnds n still having feelings ( wch was very sure from my side ) bt after some time he started hiding things frm him , started telling lie for a girl , ( the girl I hated the most ) , and one day the lie went on very worst from wch I was very pissed n had a fight with him on dat , after dat he stop talking to m , never called m nor texted , broke d frndship as well , on d other side I was diying to talk to him n wanted him back , in all dis 3 mnths passed without any contact. After dat college started n we had to face each other he still didn’t wanted to talk to m , wereas I still liked him n was in a hope he will b back some day , later on last week he started talking a bit wch I thought was a good part . den at party he got drunk n den started telling d name of. The girl ( wch I had mentioned earlier he was lying to m for her ) that he likes her n dat gal ditched him n all . so now i m very confused on wat shld i do cz I still love him. Very much even after all dis happing , is der any way. I can get him back ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 6, 2016 at 10:44 am

Hi Nirali,

It looks like he’s more into her now. I’m sorry for being honest. But, if that’s the case you have to up your game. Go for Nirali version 2.0! 🙂 And if you want to reestablish connection with him now, don’t talk about your feelings. I know it’s hard but if you do, there’s a good chance he’ll avoid you because of the other girl. This will sound a little silly, but if he needs a shoulder to cry on, be that. BUT be careful on being always there or you’ll be the rebound or he’ll just opt to be with you because you seem easier to be with. In short be the approachable friend but at the same time being the ungettable girl by limiting your time with him and improving yourself.

Pilar

February 5, 2016 at 3:53 am

Hi!! First of all thank you so much for sharing this with us! Is really clear and makes perfect sense.
I´m from Buenos Aires, Argentina and who I want to get back is not actually an ex BF (meaning we never got to be official BF/GF). He is the son of my parents best friends, practically grew togheter the first years of our lives and the stop seing each other when we were about 13, I adored him as a child and he was probably my real “first love”. We reconnected last year through faceboock (he is 28 and I am 29). We dated 3 months and it was amazing. He was absolutely into me, kept on saying he couldn´t wait to see me again, how he wanted to “be my drug” (since I made a joke about he being addictive) and the most important man in my life. After this period one night we had a little misundersood and he told me he loved me but didnt wanted to be in a relationship and didn´t wanted to hurt me.
Anyway, it`s been over 4 months after that and I still can`t get over him!. I`m really not needy, I have a career and teach at the university, this semester I`m getting my lawyer degree and I´m all about this.
But the reallity is that I think we were perfect for each other for so many reasons (obejective and not). These past months I contacted him on a monthly basis (maybe every 20 days), he always responds kindly but never seems to want to see me, and the times that I kindda asked him to get togheter he told me that he was too busy. He lives in a different city (probably 40` drive to mine) so we do not meet randomly. Now I ve erased his number from my phone to avoid messages, but I m really into writting mails and I know for a fact that he re-reads old mails that I´ve send him.
So, my question is: How should I apply the no contact rule? and then, how should I continue?
Thank you so so so very much in advance.
Love
P

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 5, 2016 at 10:31 am

Hi Pilar,

So, the thing is you can’t text and you prefer snail mail? The problem with that is it will be hard to build the connection and attraction because of the response time. if you’re going to use social media like text, maybe you can build it from there. Try to follow the texting rules in the post I’m going link or if you want a more in depth guide, you can purchase The Texting Bible by Chris.

Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)

The Texting Bible

Abby

February 3, 2016 at 4:55 pm

Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. We were very happy, always laughing and having fun. He even asked me to marry him (but didnt have a ring or asked my parents) and then he took it back. He said he was scared and wasn’t sure we had the deep connection he wanted in a wife. I do not think it is acceptable to propose without thinking it through and then take it back. Not someone I want to be with! I have had 30 days of NC and didn’t want to ever get back with him. But at the end of 30 days I started to really miss him amd want to get back together…but I am not 100% sure I SHOUlD want him back. I mean, if a guy is willing to walk away from you then let him go, right?
Anyways, I don’t feel 100% sure that I want him back and somewhat hopeful of who might come along someday who is better and treats me with more respect. But every guy I meet doesn’t hold a candle to him. So my question is: would it be best to continue NC until I am more certain? Maybe another 30 days? I could just be lonely and wanting him back for the wrong reasons. What do you think?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 4, 2016 at 1:52 pm

Hi Abby,

Yeah it’s better to extend. Actually the longest we recommend is 45 days. Some recommend 60-90 days of nc. The reason we only recommend is that because it only takes 66 days to make or break a habit. So, that means the habit of him thinking about you. But of you’re doing this heal, that’s the reason of the 60-90 days nc.

Megan

February 1, 2016 at 1:36 pm

Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 5 months recently broke up about 4 days ago. He ended things because he said he needs his space and time to think about where his future is going. He says he currently does not want to be in a relationship and it will take him a very long time to get over me. He even told me he will still love me and have feelings for me for a very long time but isn’t sure when he will be ready to see me again. When I called him the day after the breakup, just to tell him I miss him (I was really needy in the last few months of the relationship) he actually cried over the phone about how hard this was for him as well but he needed to do it. So I think I am almost positive he will start regretting it soon. I’m trying to keep my hopes down so I am not let down in the long run. About 2 days after the breakup I told myself I will not speak to him for 30 days. (NC rule). For the next 2 days after that I hadn’t said a word to him and neither has he. But for the first 2 days he said he was doing just fine and I told him I was doing good as well (even though I was crying a lot). Last night I broke the rule because some guy had called me some nasty names and he knew how bad the guy had always treated me before and always had my back and always made me feel better about it. So I told my ex whatthe guy had said because he was the only one that I knew would help me through it. (Shall I mention he still wants to be just friends?) Anyways, he said he was still doing great and happy that I was doing good too and I ended it there. Is he actually as happy as he says he is? I’m going to try the NC rule again but this time maybe for longer than 30 days. I will be doing things for myself as well within this time. I know he can be weak at times but for the past 2 days of him not talking to me either has got me concerned that he is happier without me. How do I know that this could still possibly work out in a few months?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 3, 2016 at 7:51 am

Hi Megan,

It’s hard to tell from my perspective how it will go in the next months but from what he said, it’s not a surprise that he’s not trying to contact just after two days, becausw he himself said that he’s going to take a long time before getting over you. But I think there’s a good chance that you will benefit in doing nc but if you do it, do it one time instead of stopping and then restarting count

Shannie

February 1, 2016 at 4:37 am

We’ve been together for 1 year 1 month but among this period of time we basically meet each other like once in a blue moon cause we’re having distance relationship . he didn’t give me any reason to break up . After the break up I insist texting him every morning and every night and hope to get a reply from him . Unfortuntely I didn’t even received any text from him but I’m very sure he read my message . Sooner or later I realise the reason he left is because he had an affair . What should I do ? I really Wan him back 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 1, 2016 at 12:44 pm

Hi Shannie,
Is he still together with the girl he had an affair with?

Brit

January 31, 2016 at 8:34 am

what if my ex boyfriend went back to his ex girlfriend, is there a chance of getting him to regret leaving me? I haven’t spoken to my ex in almost 2 months but we end on really bad terms, however I do have to talk to in a week or so, what can I do to make him start thinking about me again or at least get him to unblock me from his phone ?

Brit

February 2, 2016 at 11:20 pm

I saw my ex today and he didn’t look or talk to me today. I’m not sure what to do at this point, I’m still blocked from his phone, I’m not blocked on social media sites anymore and I have no idea how to proceed from here. He still doesn’t know about the miscarriage and I am not sure what to do at this point.
Brit

February 1, 2016 at 7:43 pm

Would it be best to just wait until after I have established some contact with him before telling him ?
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 3, 2016 at 10:08 am

Yes, I agree!
Brit

February 1, 2016 at 1:23 am

I have two more problems, since my ex and I have broken up, I had a miscarriage, he was the father. However I haven’t told him since I don’t have any contact with him and he also stated he didn’t want the baby. Another problem is that my previous coworker’s (the ones he works with) don’t like me very much, and as much as I don’t care, I fear they will ruin my chances of trying to be with him again, not that his ex girlfriend (current girlfriend) didn’t already ruin whatever chance there was. I’m not sure how I should proceed, or if I should tell him about the miscarriage when I see him or allow him to ask on his own.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 1, 2016 at 6:58 am

I’m sorry for your loss.. I think he should know because he’s still the father, but you have to say it in the right time. In a way that he wouldn’t think you’re using it to gain sympathy. Don’t mind his coworkers, he’s old enough to have his own decisions and also if you’re not doing anything wrong, your actions will prove stronger than their words
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 31, 2016 at 1:47 pm

HI Brit,

Well first don’t be pushy. Improve you physical appearance and act very civil when you meet him. Don’t go into the relationship and feelings talk. Just be civil with him

Lisanne

January 28, 2016 at 6:58 pm

Okay my NC days are over! but my ex didn’t contact me and he is my classmate.. so my friend helped me a kinda today she called him and he came while i stood by her and then she said make it good between you, he gave a good response he gave me a fist (for greeting) and i gave it back. He did well at P.E so i said: Well played! and he said thanks you too “Bro” and then he left.. what do i have to do now? Just keep talking to him or something? Because i know he won’t begin a conversation with me.. he is a stubborn guy. And i want him back as well and maybe he acts that he doesn’t miss me?.. Shall i begin to keep a small convo with him? What he only does is looking at me for 1 second.. and then he is turning is head around.

Lisanne

February 1, 2016 at 4:16 pm

Because i did already the NC and stuff
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 3, 2016 at 9:26 am

I mean keep being civil.. Because if you act like you’re avoiding him he might keep like that as well. Be civil but don’t ask him about unblocking you.
Lisanne

February 1, 2016 at 4:15 pm

Oh so do i have to be silent or something? or just keeping it like this?
Lisanne

January 30, 2016 at 6:25 pm

Oh and it is it right that most guys will unblock you after one week or two? i don’t know but i heard that from somewhere but i won’t pester about it and i will keep my distance! 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 31, 2016 at 3:33 am

You’re welcome. Well, there’s no definite timeline but most of the time, if the other party went silent for a period of time, they feel safe enough to unblock.
Lisanne

January 30, 2016 at 6:03 pm

Thank you so much!! I won’t talk about it and i will take step by step to get him back!
Lisanne

January 30, 2016 at 8:09 am

Yes he still does. And yesterday we had school and we ignored eachother but he expected i think that i would talk to him because he did look at me several times and then after school me and my friend sat next to him but i was on the other side lol and he did talk then and then he looked at me and i was listening then i made jokes and he was laughing at it and then he gave me a high five and then i said bye! then he said bye as well and then he left.. shall i keep it like this? I am still blocked on Whatsapp and Facebook what should i do about that as well?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2016 at 3:37 pm

Awwww Cute!!! Yeah, keep it like that but don’t ask him about unblocking you. Most of the time, they just unblock when the girl keeps her distance of doesn’t pester them about it.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 10:56 am

Hi Lisanne,

I’m assuming you’re in high school. Does he always glance you now?

Ivy

January 27, 2016 at 6:39 am

Hi, my boyfriend for 7 years found someone in his work. Everything is so sudden. Month of November we were very okay but by December I started to found out about his affair with other girl. I gave him a chance but lately I found out that he is still in contact with the same girl. I’ve broken up with him, I’m planning to do the NC. Actually, I love him unconditionally but I realized that I can’t tolerate what he’s doing that’s why I decided to quit. I asked him if he has feelings for the girl but he said No, yet he can’t stop making contact with her. I want to move on and do the right thing such as being the better version of myself but at the same time I know in myself that I want him back. During the NC time, is there still a chance that he’ll end up wanting me back even if he has someone now?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 3:11 pm

HI Ivy,

The more important question is, will he let that girl go? And if after no contact, they’re still together, are you still going to try? If you’re still going to try, and he goes back to you, would you go back to him and wait for him to disconnect all ties or you would really lay down your standards but risk him not choosing you?

Sasha

January 26, 2016 at 4:50 pm

I spent 2 years and 7 months with my bf/fiance, we fell pregnant early and miscarried which was heartbreaking but likely for the best. He is almost 9 years younger than I am. We spent every day/night together outside of work for a 6 months and then moved in together, shortly (one week) after which I flew home as my mother was not well. That turned into a 7 month separation while I cared for my mother as she died of cancer, as an only daughter/single parent dynamic this was the most traumatic experience of my life and I am still grieving the loss. He came to visit for 3 weeks, spent time with her and other family, got to know them. He proposed to me on NYE and I felt that life was trying to balance out the bad with the good, endings with beginnings. I have loved him with my whole heart from the beginning of our relationship and always chose to overlook his faults – we all have them – though his are significant: binge drinking, social anxiety are the top two. I gave him the highest quality of love and emotional support and friendship as I believe that’s part of a healthy relationship as well. I returned to our home in April and it’s been rocky since then, he could not deal with my grief and didn’t help me at all. I had lost my job and was clinically exhausted and couldn’t find work so he had to cover all the rent/bills. He began picking fights with me, apologizing less for bad behaviour, staying out all hours drinking etc. I continued to put the work in, because I love him. Even when I began picking up well paying contract freelance work then he’d get drunk and tell me it’s too late an doesn’t matter etc when I tried to contribute to rent/bills. I’ve been drowning with no help trying to put the pieces of my life back together and he has forced situations with me to the point I actually had to leave and stay with friends – twice. Imagine losing your mother, your family base/home – couch surfing while dealing with estate stuff, killing myself to get back to this man I loved and thought was my future only to have him essentially force me to leave more than once. He asked me to come back the first time, and I did – and we were good for a few months. Then it all began again and I rented a room for a week – he said then (mid dec) that he needed more time, he knew it was all him freaking out about commitment and he wanted to figure out why he kept treating me badly and putting me through it. Two days later when I went to get more of my things he came home and surprised me and basically convinced me to stay. I thought we’d be ok maybe, I made Christmas as special as possible. We didn’t return to intimacy though, and 4 days ago we had a great night out until he told me he’s not in love with me. I was gutted and left and went home. He got a hotel room I presume. When we spoke 3 days ago he said he just doesn’t want a relationship – it’s not about his feelings for me, that he does love me but he just doesn’t want a relationship. I am so hurt and angry I don’t have the words for it. I – again – had to back some suitcases and try to find places to stay while I begin another freelance job. I did this while he was at work and haven’t contacted him, nor he me. Everything in the apartment belongs to me – everything – but he’s paid most of the rent… I am so so angry. And so very deeply hurt. Too much loss in a year’s time. My question is: Is it possible that in this situation he will regret and realize his mistake or do you think this sounds like a man who really just doesn’t want to be with anyone. Is that just a cop out line or can a man really love someone and choose to not be with her.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 11:16 am

Hi Sasha,

I can sense that in your first question, you’re hoping he will change and you two can start over again. If he missed you while doing no contact, would you go back to him immediately? What’s your assurance that he has really changed apart from his words? And I know this hurts, I think he should be stronger than ever for you now but I think he admired your strength when you were caring for your mom. You were far and yet he proposed to you.

And now that everything is done and you’re back with him with no stable job, maybe–this is just maybe–he thought when your mom died, the grieving process is over and he can’t see the old you. But of course, that’s very wrong of him,if that’s what he thinks.
But if that’s not what he thinks, and whatever he thinks about right now, he has to get his act together. Binge drinking is also a sign that he himself has something in his life that he’s having a hard time to handle.

But you can do what you can control if you go back, make sure you’re not feeding a cycle here. Be the change and be strong. Because even if you get him back, you’ll end up in this situation again if not both of do the change that needs to be done.

Hanane

January 24, 2016 at 11:02 am

I understand that oh and today something happened.. Well i had to do something with the pc and he has to cook with the class and he said to my teacher: “I used to cook everyday for her and it was a good relationship but it is just broken now and she scolded me. and she doesn’t want me anymore and it won’t work out between us.” And the teacher asked “Do you still love/like her?” He didn’t answered that.. What does it mean if you read it like that? Because for me it looks like he miss me but on the other side he doesn’t still want me.

Hanane

January 25, 2016 at 7:34 pm

How can i do that while i see him everyday? because im only depressed when i wake up and when i go to school and come back from school..
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 26, 2016 at 11:18 am

I know it’s hard, that’s why you need to limit your interaction with him as much as possible and also it won’t help if you’re not doing anything. Be pro-active and find something else to do. Like join a school club
Hanane

January 24, 2016 at 8:27 pm

Well in the three months i scolded him everyday.. and yeah he said that i don’t want him while he knows that i clearly said that i always will like and love him no matter what so i am using now is NC but it is so hard.. i am still depressed
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2016 at 12:13 pm

Well, that should be the first agenda. Find happiness apart from him
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2016 at 12:32 pm

What did he mean when he said you scolded him? And that you don’t want him? Yeah it may look like he misses you.

Jill

January 22, 2016 at 5:10 am

My ex broke up with me while we were long distance just before I was due to move back permanently. No explanation. I did press him to know the reason, which I got. A much younger woman like she is literally half my age. He has been with her a couple of months, half the time I was gone for, but he was still talking about waiting for me and looking forward to seeing me, while with her. Now I have my answer I have adopted NC. I think I want him to want me back so I can feel better about having to leave for work, but don’t actually know whether I’d take him back. Not sure what to do, other than go on being awesome.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 23, 2016 at 11:54 am

Hi Jill,

Set your standards. Are you sure you want to see him while he’s still with her?

Jaz

January 21, 2016 at 3:59 pm

Hello I have a somewhat complicated question before reading please don’t judge me lol. My ex boyfriend who adored me for a year broke up with me about 7 months ago, a month after he broke up with me he reached out to me to ask me how I was doing because it was my birthday, I was still very hurt because he broke up with me after I forgave him for cheating on me and in a text message he had told me we should just be friends and that he doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship with anyone because he didn’t want to hurt me again. I was extremely heartbroken and at that time I was also going through some financial issues that he knew about as well as issues with college. I feel like he broke up with me partially because of that as well but I know for a fact he adored me because he would tell me that constantly. To make a long story short my life has done a complete 360 I was never fat lol but I did lose 15 pounds since he last saw me and financially I’m doing great and in college I am doing great as well and I have moved to the suburbs and I now live in a very nice apartment and I’m thinking about inviting him over for chat and dinner mostly because I want for him to see me doing very well and to realize the mistake he made, I don’t plan for it to turn romantic I just really want to chat with him on a friendly level while he notices how great I am doing. Is this okay? I feel like this would make me feel good personally because I would like for him to see me doing really well after he saw me and broke up with me during a low dark time in my life. When we were together I would go to over to his apartment and we would use the apartment complex grill to cook together only he would do the grilling part of it so my way of inviting him over to my apartment complex is to send him a text message incorporating that I don’t know how to use my apartment complexes grill and would like for him to come over and show me as well as catch up if he is comfortable with that

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 23, 2016 at 1:37 pm

Hi Jaz

I don’t want this to sound harsh but what is it really for? If it’s just to make him feel sorry, and you don’t have feelings for him, why not just show it in social media how good you’re doing now? That way, you don’t have to interact with him.
Jaz

January 21, 2016 at 4:21 pm

To add to my earlier post; I Dont believe I want to be with him again although of course if he sees me and wants to get back together I’d naturally be flattered lol…but basically I think I just want to give myself the proper closure it hurts that we first started out relationship when I was doing good and it ended at a rocky time in my life and if he sees me (because there has been no contact) now after so long and see that I’m doing well I will feel better and be more okay with the breakup.

A.

January 19, 2016 at 2:34 pm

Hello,
What if the guy i am trying to impress and want him to regret moving on knows me 20 years and has 2 kids with me? How can i become ungettable to him after so long common time together in the past and a divorce?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 21, 2016 at 10:42 am

Hi A,

Change is constant. Change your hair, learn new skills and enjoy new activites. Basically after that. You’re not the person he used to know anymore.

Raine

January 18, 2016 at 9:42 am

Hi.
So my ex and I broke up early November after 6 years due to long distance and my work obligations. the breakup process was 3 months long. there was crying from his side, telling me how he lies awake thinking of the woman he loved for so long and how I left him broken and empty. All his friends are now in serious relationships and he didn’t want to be alone over Christmas, so he decided to call it quits. He said he did it for himself. He decided to spend his holiday with an old high school sweetheart. I blocked him on social media, my instagram is on private, we were on no contact. he wished me on my birthday in December and he also sent me a happy new year email saying he hopes im taking care of myself and that 2016 will bring me hope ad peace. Over Christmas I changed my instragram privacy settings and he liked two of my pictures. that obviously means he’s stalker my profile,so I blocked him. now that their month long holidays are over, they are officially an item.each went back to their own city. He emailed me last night saying “I have positive thoughts and well wishes for you almost everyday…hoping that your well and that you are taking care of yourself”. what should I make of it? Do I reply?

Raine

January 18, 2016 at 10:31 am

What should I make of his emails though? What do I say? I don’t want to seem too eager. but I do want him to miss me more
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 11:06 am

talk like good friends that are having an interesting conversation. Take it naturally because the more you worry, the more you will respond awkwardly.
Raine

January 18, 2016 at 10:20 am

I do
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 10:22 am

I don’t see any reason why not.. 🙂 Unless you still don’t want to talk to him
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 10:12 am

do you want to get back with him?

Xxxx

January 17, 2016 at 12:02 pm

My ex bf and I broke up in the beginning of November. I implemented the NC rule for 2 months. I didn’t text him until January 14th. I sent a normal text talking about casual things how he’s been and what not. And we exchanged a couple texts but before I could end the conversation he randomly stopped replying. Idk what to do. He still has stuff at my house and I still have stuff at his house. I just want to know if we have a chance of trying us again or if I should just move on for good.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 2:27 pm

Hi xxxx,
There’s always a chance. It depends on you. Moving on is a decision, not just something out of the circumstance because sometimes even if a person stopped trying , their heart is still loving. Sometimes, you move on because you are ready to move on. No thinking or declaration done. The heart has just actually moved on from loving that person.

Hanane

January 16, 2016 at 3:41 pm

Hi Chris,
What to do if my ex is mine classmate (i really love him) but will the NC work on him?

Hanane

January 22, 2016 at 1:13 pm

I understand that oh and today something happened.. Well i had to do something with the pc and he has to cook with the class and he said to my teacher: “I used to cook everyday for her and it was a good relationship but it is just broken now and she scolded me. and she doesn’t want me anymore and it won’t work out between us.” And the teacher asked “Do you still love/like her?” He didn’t answered that.. What does it mean if you read it like that? Because for me it looks like he miss me but on the other side he doesn’t still want me.
Hanane

January 19, 2016 at 5:23 pm

I am very thankful that you are helping but i still don’t understand some things.. because i have to talk him because of uncontrolled circumstances or do i just have to talk him after the NC? Just a normal conversation to start with him like friends? Because he won’t even look at me now.. and my friends say he keeps looking at me when i am not looking (for short) or can you explain it in detail what i just have to do? Thank you so much for your time as well.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 21, 2016 at 11:25 am

It’s okay Hanane. 🙂 It means you only talk to him when needed. So, that means you to talk him because of uncontrolled circumstances. Those are like, if your teacher wants you to team up with him, or you have a very important item he has and you need to get back now.
But starting a normal conversation like being friends is NOT under uncontrolled circumstances. That’s actually what you need to avoid in the meantime. That’s your version of no contact since your classmates.
Feel free to ask for further questions okay?
Hanane

January 17, 2016 at 12:03 pm

So i can’t use the No Contact at all? Because i really want him to see that i’m doing well and that he maybe regrets that he left me and we didn’t talk at all since new 4th of january. Sorry i don’t understand English sometimes..
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 11:19 am

it’s OK Hanane 🙂

Limited contact is just a term we use when you’re going through no contact period but you need to talk to him because of uncontrolled circumstances. so it just means you’re still in no contact , just not totally not talking to each other.
Hanane

January 17, 2016 at 8:48 am

Limited NC? is that 30 days or 90?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 17, 2016 at 10:13 am

Hi Hanane,

I’m sorry I wasn’t clear about that. It means you’re in limited contact, not totally no contact because of the situation. Like in your case, since you really need to see each other.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 17, 2016 at 8:11 am

Hi Hanane,
Well that could mean you can do limited NC. You only talk when realky needed. No small talk or askng how he is.

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