7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

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Athena

September 1, 2015 at 3:02 pm

Hy Chris.. Am really glad for seeing a person like u at this part my life book. I read ur website ExBoy frnd recovery, it gave me some positive courage after my breakup.
I am a Software engineering graduate. I always had a deep thought inside me while growing, that a man who is meant for me will not tell me “I love u” but he will show it to me, and he will only say that unless he surely knows by his inner deep feel that i will say i love u too. And ya… Even though me and Gabriel (changed the name fr little privacy) was studying at same class of same colg.. We hadnt even pronounced each others names till d 3rd year of our course. Actually Gabriel’s native is a state from my country INDIA. But he have been grown all alone by his parents in Saudi Arabia. No relatives other than his parents. He is very talented, and smart thinking boy. we both started to talk through fb as classmates. Most of my frnds since my childhood use to say me as mad in both positive nd crazy way. I always have a different view in everything, thats d cause of it. After I met gabriel in my life, i had a thing in mind “YES, I hv finally met a mad similar to me nd who can undrstnd me well in this world”. Our Friendship got closer. At the mean time of our Friendship, Day by day i found him always keeps him alone from everybody, bcz of his lonely growth.
He didnt like to be here since he didnot consider our country only bcz of his birth here. I understood he dont talk much to any persons of our colg. But….. Days nd months went…. We got closed…. We became Best Frnds. He even said i hv crossed his one nd only frnd of his life who is at saudi. I also understood that he loves my company by his reactions. And i found his heart really eager fr 1 special person whom he thinks has to b with him always and forever. His mom have given birth to a girl child after 10 years of Gabriel’s Birth. But that Baby have died while her delivery bcz of some issues. This also have given him a dark part inside his heart. And since he have longed fr others nd nobody was thr, he have started to make him love his loneliness nd ofcourse he does it.
After some days of talking to him, i could easily define him in simple 3 S…” Strange, Silent, Secretive”
One n8 while talking through phone he proposed his love to me and yes, i couldnt say no to him since my heart totally tells him as my soulmate. We both still dont know when and wch part of our life we started to love each other, bt we started to move to the next part from frndship to Deep LOVE. Thr came his life pains into our relationship as “FEAR”.
Always he had an equal amount of fear for losing me, with the love he had on me. A day will b highly poetic, romantic, dreamy,
the very next day it will b like hell filed with negative fears. I made many chances to increase d love part than his fears. I also had a fear of our future, bcz i am a christian. and he is from an another religion family … And since our parents are fully involved in our INDIAN culture, they will 99.99% oppose our relationship to go for marg, But he is not the one to think from their view with religion. And he knew a thing very well, he wants me always and forever as a frnd, lover, everybody… Also he knew an indian grl cant b with a guy forever unless she is his wife. He fought inside him lot, and always loved me like nobody did in this world. He started to avoid my talks and meet some days before our course got over. I understood his fears hv increased a lot and i met him without his knowing of my plan to meet. (It was our last meet till now). He kept silent fr every questions, i said him nothing will change, we will b together forever and we will be fine. I didnt know to say any other words, since i hv said lot to him to not worry. Sometimes i would also feel negative by his fears and i would accept as s we mightnot get d chance to get success. That day too i got sad by his silence and my eyes hv really got wet. But still he couldnt look at my face in sad and eyes with tears. He kissed me without thinking anything else. He didnt know how to say me he loves me, bt he expressed by his kiss. Now he have returned back to saudi, his fears r ruling him now, nd his heart really decided to go away from me so that he dont want to miss me bcz of something that always kept him alone. He says let him be alone.
Texts got reduced fr once in a week r in 10 days. But Now as i read in ur page, i am in my 20th day of NC. Havent got any msgs from him till now. Before this NC period i blocked and unblocked him many times in social medias, and when i unblocked he said a word abt it. That made me understood he often checks my profiles. He sometimes use to talk to my younger sister. He is not asking abt me to her, bt always do collect d information she says abt me. He could stop talking to her r at least he could say dont talk abt her to me, bt he dont. I dont know how to get him back, Hw to make him feel positive, i dont know hw to make this distance disappear.I have only God’s Faith in our love. Can u plsssssssss tell me what all can i do… I am totally confused, tired, and badly missing him….

Athena

September 5, 2015 at 1:29 pm

Haan… I am not contacting him only after reading your article. But he have never sent me even a single msg. Is this because he knows everything about me through my sister? Should i have to say her stop contacting him, so that he have no other resource to know abt me.
Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 3:19 am

20th day of NC.

I actually just wrote an amazing article on NC here.

Kalp

September 1, 2015 at 12:12 pm

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months prior. He works on ship. During that time he kept talking to me.once he was back hoke he started ignoring me and said we are just friends. He started spending time with his friends more. He brokeup with me coz I cheated him with another guy. I hadnt told him about all this, the 2nd guy had told him everything while my ex was on ship. And now all my ex’s friends have advised him to break all ties with me. I have followed your NC for 2 weeks now. He hasn’t contacted me. So he definitely is the angry guy. I don’t know how is this going to turn out. Also his social media updates show that he has found someone else. Not sure if its true or if he is trying to make me jealous.
Kindly help me out. I am thinking about buying your guides.
Regards.
Susan

August 31, 2015 at 4:48 pm

Hey Chris,

My ex just broke up with me a few days ago after three years together. We’ve gone one day no contact so far. Every September for a number of reasons he goes through a small life crisis and breaks up with me, thinking I’m the problem. This time though, I don’t know if he’s coming back. What do I do? I want to be there for him. He is without a doubt, my One. I just don’t know how to get him back this time. He recently bought me a sapphire promise ring for our three year anniversary, and made me promise to never leave him, so I know I’m not imagining his feelings.
Angela

August 31, 2015 at 12:26 am

So I dated this guy for about 9 months or so. I told him that I really liked him and he told me that he didn’t think he was ready for anything more than what we had and he didn’t want to hurt me/cause any pain and asked me what I wanted to do. At this point I figured that if after 9 months if you don’t know if you want me as your girlfriend then we really should go our seperate ways, which is what I told him, since Im a more emotionally invested than he at this point. He suggested that we take a “break” rather than end things. I really honestly like this guy alot. I want to contact him, its already been 2 weeks. I’m confused, and sad. Should I just give up, and not speak with him again?
Marie

August 30, 2015 at 11:20 pm

I had a revelation in church today. I felt like I should forgive my ex for leaving me and moving on simply because every time we had a really bad fight (usually my fault) I would want only one thing: for him to stop hurting and be happy. I wanted this from the bottom of my heart.. I guess he’s happy now with the new girl so I’m basically getting what I asked for and I shouldn’t be selfish about only my happiness. And I have a nice message I wrote basically saying I forgive him and still want him to be happy and I’ll be here if he needs a friend. but I’m worried about what he’ll think if I send it….. Do you think it will make his relationship with his new girl better? will it make him think that I’ve matured a bit?

Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 3:49 am

Well, if you don’t want him back then if the message helps you in the end I say go for it.

But how will the message help you?

Natalie.

August 30, 2015 at 8:44 pm

Hey Andrew!

So ive been reading your blog and similar posts but my situation is a bit more weird. So long story short…ish. I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year and we were best friends. before we started dating I was very upfront about my past and how I danced for a month last year bc my family was experiencing some financial difficulties we didn’t have lights in our house and our hot water was cut off and we were going through a big move. It was nothing that I wanted to do and I don’t take pride out of doing it. he also knew I had a friend who was older that I DO NOT keep in contact with anymore that helped me out financially as well but it never was more than a friendship. So I had a dating profile on a sugar daddy site from a year ago and I recently reactivated two months ago because me and my boyfriend at the time we’re talking about moving in together things are getting very serious between us. my mom lost her job making it very difficult to save money because I live at home and I help with bills and things. I was worried that I was going to have to end up moving back to Michigan and I live in Florida now and it was a concern for him as well and we talked about the long distance relationship thing but it was never an option. So I reactivated my profile on this site because I recently had been promoted at work but my pay increase didn’t kick in until about a month later and I wasn’t making as much money at the time so I panicked and reactivted my account and I recieved a few messages on there most were one sided and the usual “hey how are you” I never met anyone and I never gave my number to anyone on that site. my thought process when I reactivated my profile was if I can’t save enough money between the both of us by the time November came when both our leases are up I would have to move back to Michigan and that wasn’t an option and he felt the same way about if I had to leave (at least that’s what he stressed to me) I figured what was the harm in having a back up I didn’t give out my number and I didn’t meet anyone and I didn’t have any plans or attempts to meet anyone it was more of a back up plan I guess you could say. So being very open with him I didn’t want to have to bring it up until it absolutely came down to it because it was such a tough situation and I wasn’t on that site looking to hook up for money either that would be cheating. So he seen it on my phone and now thinks I cheated his family thinks I cheated (who he is very close with). he wouldn’t let me explain. the first 2 days of our break up I tried to explain through txt and email what was going on and what I was thinking. I apologized and told him that I wasn’t trying to hurt him. He teared up and said I ruined his life and not to touch him and that I was disgusting. Also to leave him alone. I have contacted him sense but I still have a stack of his clothes that I don’t know what to do with I wanted to wait to see if he would contact me after 2 weeks if not I was going to just pack it in a box and mail it to him. I want him back. I lost him in an attempt to try to keep that from happening.

On a side note when we’re talking about our financial situations with each other and he had went to prison for 4 years before we met over a drug thing and he would say things like “i could get a brick of this or that and we wouldn’t have to worry about money” and it made me feel like he would be willing to risk going back to prison for me by doing something like that so I tried to do what I thought was equal to show that I really care bc he did also mention to me that I was to calm one day when he was stressing about me going back to Michigan and that he thought I didn’t really seem to care when in actuality that’s all I did was care.

Also I have had no opportunity to cheat we literally spent everyday with each other id go to work he’d go to work pick me up from work when I got off repeat… Please help me open my eyes to the situation what am I missing here? Do you think he will try to contact me? How do you get someone back who thinks you cheated but you really didn’t?

Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 3:55 am

Andrew here!

I am Chris’ evil twin.

I will be answering your question today.

And here is my answer:

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-he-thinks-you-cheated-but-you-didnt/
Natalie.

August 30, 2015 at 8:45 pm

Hi Chris!!! Lol not Andrew my phone is something else…
Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 3:56 am

Andrew answered your question 😉

Shannon

August 30, 2015 at 4:27 pm

Hi Chris,

Me and my ex broke up a week ago after seeing eachother for about 5months (not that long I know). He has just texted me after me after only a week, and I don’t know what to do. He has been on my instagram liking my photos some of which are of me and him when we were together.. He broke up with me even though there were so many signs og which his excuse was that he has no time for me as he is working more hours, even though I know he still goes out, and that he wants me to be happy.. I don’t know how to go about this? I really miss him, but I don’t want to make a fool of myself. Help?

Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 4:03 am

Well lets start at the beginning.

Have you done NC?

Madie

August 30, 2015 at 6:15 am

Hi, Chris.

Gawd.

I want to initiate the break up but I don’t know what kind of break up to do so that I could do these steps and he’d regret everything.

So here’s our case…

Today is actually our 10th monthsary, I know, not that long. But it’s longer than any relationship he had.

I feel absolutely insecure to his ex, she’s pretty, good weight, intelligent, pretty popular in the campus, great teeth.

Unlike me, I’m… okay looking, thin but not too skinny, smart but not that much, I claim myself as a loser, and goddamn let me tell you this, my teeth are rabit like. Gaps and all.

So I don’t know what to do about my teeth my mom doesn’t want me to get braces yet. Yeah, laugh at me Chris, but I’m a total loser I don’t know how I can step up the competition. You tell me what guys like better than looks :3

I don’t know but I don’t want him to chase her after I break up with him, I want him to chase ME, and NOT be a SECOND OPTION if he chases HER and doesn’t get HER.

My reason for wanting to break up with him is because we’re fighting too much. I get bored with each day, I even feel like I’M THE MAN IN THE RELATIONSHIP for chasing him and all that crap. Well guess what I’ve learned from him?

Chris, I’m gonna be honest with you. I’m the clingy type, I’m vulnerable, I give him all my time and effort.

But when I don’t do that? He comes back to me like a little puppy wanting attention. And now I realize that he’s so used to my attention that when I don’t give it to him, he comes back to me for it. But I want to break up because he hurt me, but I want him to keep him on his toes and be dedicated only to ME. I want to be the reason why he’s regret all the hurtful things he said to me and I want him to beg for me. I don’t want to be a ragdoll that he can throw around and pick up whenever he feels like he loves me.

To hell with him, I want him to change his ways and work for me because I do NOT want to be the one who comes home crying.
Shae Oaks

August 29, 2015 at 1:37 pm

Hi Chris,
When I started university, this guy who became my friend showed an interest in me. He’d flirt and touch my waist, knee. I of course got a little weirded out and avoided him for a bit, which I think sent the message across. And I sort of confronted him about it, like six months after it happened and he said that he couldn’t remember doing all of it. But some of it was due to the fact that he was involved with a girl before university who was similar to be in appearance (his story checks out) and was a little confused because of that. When we message each other even now, he’s really caring and considerate. He asks questions about how my work is, if I need help studying etc. I’ve gathered so far that he’s a little insecure, but honestly I don’t care. I really like him now, and I can’t do the no contact rule since we have a very tight knit group at university, and we’re doing group projects together. Doing the no-contact would just needlessly complicate things. Could you please help me out with this one?
Mary

August 28, 2015 at 5:11 am

Hi Chris,

My bf and I have been together for about 6 years. Around May I noticed that he was becoming distant. In July I found out that he was facebooking/ texting his ex gf that he dated back in high school. When i found out I was just devastated. He was emotionally cheating on me. He would talk to her more than he would talk to me and I wasn’t aware of it. She lives in another state but she said that she is willing to move to Cali with her 6 month old son to be with him. When I found out I confronted him and he told me that he was really sorry and that he needed space. I felt like everything we had was ruined. How can someone just throw something so special away? So we agreed to not talk for a week. We decided to meet up 1 week after our break and a week after he told me that he wants to work it out and take it slow. I told him that he needed to block her on social media and delete her contact info and he did. As of right now we are together but he still acts up. Sometimes I feel like I do so much for our relationship even though he is the one who emotionally cheated on me. How do I get him to fully commit to me and only me? He will be the best bf for a week then out of no where he seems to check out mentally. I don’t want to lose him. I don’t know what to do. Please help!

Thanks!
Mari
KIM

August 25, 2015 at 7:29 am

I have broken up with my boyfriend a week ago, he has contacted me and I have texted him back. I asked him if we can resolve things and get back together, but he told me he needs time to recover. I broke up with him after we had a fight and I was driven by the emotions that time. I really miss him and I am doing crazy things like checking him on social media. I would like to start the no contact program, but is it late for me to do that now though. Will I be able to get him back, we have meetings that we both attend & work that we have to do together. Will that not also affect the no contact program. This relationship means a lot to me and I want to win him back. What can I do.

Regards,
Sammi

August 25, 2015 at 4:08 am

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago.. We were together for 9 months. Our relationship was absolutely perfect… Except for our fights…. We would be arguing about the smallest, most insignificant thing and then it would turn into a full blown blood war. We are both extremely stubborn people and we both have issues when it comes to being the “bigger person” in fights. So whenever there was an issue, we would butt heads. There was so much love and care and so much passion in our relationship. We would talk about our future together all the time, we were even planning on moving to a city together (we were long distance) after graduation and starting a life together. He treated me so well, and it’s true when they say “You don’t realize what you had until its gone.” I love everything about him and I truly mean that. I couldn’t ask for anything more in a person. When he broke up with me he was hysterically crying telling me that he loves me so much but we have a lot of growing up and maturing to do. He said he believes God has a plan for us, and that our paths will cross again in the future. He said he is moving to Texas for the next year. He believes he needs to get away on his own, and figure out who he is. Since we’ve broken up, I’ve broken the NC rule multiple times. I truly believe if you love someone, you don’t just give up without a fight. I feel like I’ve tried everything in my power to fix things between us but none of it has truly worked. It’ll make him reconsider things, getting my hopes up, but then he sticks to decision of needing to break up. Being broken up and away from each other, has made me realize how much I was doing wrong in our relationship. I feel more motivated than ever to fix the things I was doing wrong, so that our relationship can thrive. I don’t want him to move 13 hours away from me. To say that I’m absolutely heart broken and devastated would be an understatement. Not contacting him is the hardest thing for me to do. It’s so painfully hard. Not being together is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I don’t know what to do and I’m desperate for help and advice.
Ashleigh

August 25, 2015 at 1:38 am

So Chris,
I need a little advise. So my boyfriend and I split just over a week ago. The reasons are all over the place and change from one day to the next. Our families are old friends and we will bump into each other from time to time and I don’t want it to be awkward. I know there is the 30 day no contact but since I don’t see reconciliation in our future would it hurt to text him and just say I hope we can be civil at family event?! Help my friends of course are telling me NO!

Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 4:50 pm

If you want him back then no don’t say that, if that’s what you really want then go for it.

aniat

August 24, 2015 at 7:07 pm

Hi Chris,
Please help me…my boyfriend has been trying to friend zone me. See we´ve been 2gether about two years but now ihe started a job contract aboard and soo will I but with different companies/places….although we do finish at the same time…5months from now….He says he dont see any posibility for us together anymore as contracts will follow after and apart….I told him I want to spend vacations 2gether and that we could try something together after but he doesnt see it happening. I felt he still loved me for he texted me everyday except this last three days after i told him im not ready to be friends…he said take all the time u need… I didnt want to loose our relationship for it has become more special with time. Please advice Chris… what should i do…Im on day 4 of NC.
Arina

August 24, 2015 at 11:39 am

HI Chris,

I really need your advice. I am about to purchase your book on how to get your ex back.
I have been with my partner for 2 years and have been best friends with him for 1,5 years before that.
We split up 1,5 months ago but decided to stay friends and he kept on saying that I am his best friend and he hates seeing me so upset. Break up was a mutual agreement. After pretending we can be friends straight after the break up we got really drunk and had a massive fight throwing past at each other. I have asked him to get back together and said maybe I should move away with him( as soon as we split up he moved to a different town). he said he needs time on his own as he loves me but doesn’t know if he is IN LOVE with me. Then I found article about the 30 day no contact and it has been just over 2 weeks since we didn’t talk at all. my birthday is on the 4th which would be 28 days since no contact. I know he will text to say happy birthday and he said he would like to definitely stay friends in the future. do you think he still loves me and do you think I should respond on the same day saying thank you for congratulating me or should I just keep it quiet for the 2 days left and text him back then.. he may be posting something on FB so then we wouldn’t have a problem and I could just like the post and that would be it! Thanks Chris…

Jessamyn Lumb

August 24, 2015 at 11:42 pm

Stick to the 30 days you have made it 28 so what is a few more days! Then you can just make up an excuse like his message got lost in all your other birthday messages!

May

August 24, 2015 at 4:25 am

Hello Chris,

So I have a bit of a doozy. My bf and I dated for a year and recently decided to go our separate ways because he will be moving far away (like a 6 hr plane ride). We said it was a mutual decision but primarily it was he that thought it was best to end it now rather than being separated cross-country. However we’ve both been clear before on wanting to spend our lives together. We know there’s a possibility of a future together but my question is if there’s a possibility of waiting for each other then why not simply be together in our relationship? He took the breakup a little better than me but he had been preparing himself for it. I already contacted him after break up. too late to do the 30 day rule?

Help?

Thanks a million
May

May

August 24, 2015 at 4:40 am

we both know that we both still love each other. also he RARELY uses social media which makes this 10 times harder. I’ve tried that approach, lol.
May

August 24, 2015 at 4:27 am

also he RARELY uses social media which makes this 10 times harder. I’ve tried that approach, lol.

Jules

August 23, 2015 at 10:50 am

We had just returned from an amazing romantic holiday in the Caribbean talked making plans for the next year .. He sent me and my daughter on a trip to London and the night before I found an email to say he had booked a romantic break with someone else we had been together for 2. 1/2 years on our holiday he even commented on the fact that people probably thought we where on honeymoon .. I’m so confused all these plans for the future and I’m lost he said he met the other girl straight after the Caribbean and he knew on the aeroplane in the way home that it was all too much for him … I have had no contact no for 7 days … For the first week I bombarded him with questions resulting in a huge argument .. I’m trying my best to sort my head out and I’m hoping the no contact will make him miss what we had as I still don’t know what went wrong. There was no warning no signs and up until the last 5 mins he was still getting in as if we where ok

Chris Seiter

August 24, 2015 at 6:26 pm

Where did he meet her? On your caribbean vacation? I’m guessing he knew this girl from before. Do your best to do 30 days no contact. This is going to take a lot of time to get him back possibly but I think you still have a chance if you want it.

Moonbunny

August 23, 2015 at 5:18 am

Hi Chris. My ex bf and I were together for 3 years and we broke up about 2 months ago I did NC as in I stop pleading and showing him signs that I miss him but when we contact me I did reply and we catchup with each other twice during these two months. Not long ago I sent him a text saying I accept the breakup and think it’s for the best because I know like you’d mentioned in your other articles the old relationship is dead and I’m aiming to start new with him. Should I go NC because I haven’t done a complete NC? Or should I focus on re-attraction and building a better emotional connection with maybe LC?

Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 5:51 pm

Yep full NC

Anonymous

August 22, 2015 at 4:43 pm

Hello Chris, i’ve been dating this amazing guy for a while now and he really loves me but I was dumb enough to tell him that I love him back when I actually don’t and now I think we are going too far and I really wanna back out but I just dont know how.I tried breaking up with him but it didn’t work so now i’m trying to let him break up with me without being so obvious about it but I dont know how either.What do you think?
corinna

August 22, 2015 at 4:19 pm

hello i had a boyfriend 6 years ago and i still have feelings for him and then one day he surprised me he came over and he just spent the night with me.. he slept on my couch and then left in the morning and in the 6 years we were not together we were like enemys…the night he came over he told me that we will never be a couple i was devistated…wil this work if its been years?