7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

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caz

October 19, 2015 at 3:53 am

Hey Chris…I feel a little silly writing this, but for the first time ever in dating, I was really surprised by a recent break up.

We had only been dating about a month, so obviously not long, but for both of us, it made quite an impact with a great connection. We got on super well and I absolutely know he felt the same…he said it enough and mentioned a whole lot of great things about how we were travelling. What I do know is that he struggled with how much time we spent together, which was alot, but never cancelled or said can we slow it down, he wanted to see me, and would pop into my business to say hello or have lunch, message me, and then of course dates…so the time together was pretty mutual!

So he went away for business for 4 days, I wished him a great trip the nite before…we had a laugh, and then the Saturday he returned I get a text message saying ‘no offense I can’t see you anymore’. I was SO surprised…and by text message too! So I rang, he did answer, but was very cold towards me, and I said, what’s happened, that was a surprise. And long story short, he said he just freaked out. And that…was the last of heard from him in 6 weeks. I 100% know he just freaked himself out with how he was feeling and the amount of time we spent together. Now I did message him that nite saying that I know he’s a good fella, and could sense he was a little nervy with the amount of time we spent together, but maybe instead of quitting it we could just slow it down? We had a great time together, and I was surprised with it ending after such great times! And wished him well. No response….I deleted him from FB, he deleted me from IG…as you do 😉

I’ve done the no contact other than one message 2 weeks ago with a pic of his fav land rover parked outside my shop wishing him well and hoping he’s great. No response…

The hard part of this one is that I 100% know he really liked me…he said it often enough and showed it too….so is it a case of a real bloke, who’s 39, just coming to grips with how he handles feelings and leaving him be, or pursuing it somehow that doesn’t freak him out more? I’m mature enough to know it could be useless…but I actually think this guy could be worth it…

Would appreciate your thoughts….thanks Chris

caz

Maureen

November 5, 2015 at 5:23 pm

Caz, I think we were seeing the same guy! (jk). Same scenario, six weeks of GREAT time on many dates, although we were (are) both very busy. He cancelled occasionally but always called shortly after to reschedule. Always happy to see me. Introduced me to all of his friends. Talked about me constantly when I was not around. Inviting me to other places, like one of his church groups and his classic car club, which he is actively involved in. Things were going … GREAT.

One weekend he and I both went out of town (separately – him for a football game, me for work). When I returned, he wanted to end things! The reason he came up with did not even make any sense – someone I know, a man, was rude to him, and my name was “pulled in.” He didn’t talk to me for 3 days when we got back to town, and then BOOM. Out of the blue. He is not seeing anyone else.

(of course, I found out who and I did follow up. the other party is just as perplexed)

I called him immediately; he answered and was very cold. A few days later, I sent one email, and then started NC. That was about two weeks ago. I have not broken it: no calls, texts, emails, Instagram messages. I remain a Facebook friend, and he shows up in my news feed occasionally but neither one of us has used Facebook to contact the other.

I swear, we are dating the same guy, Caz. I hope my response is not the same when I eventually try to contact him. Good luck.
caz

October 22, 2015 at 12:21 am

Hey Chris…yep I have started NC again. Tell me, do guys think of the woman they’ve broken up with after they like them? Are they processing anything or really just clearing their brain for that ah’ha/light bulb moment? From a woman’s perspective I can’t help but think what if me making no contact with him could potentially make him forget all about me! It’s super hard to think like a guy,…and how long do I do this before I really think hmmm he aint ever going to respond! Such a shame as I know that if we caught up it would be back on for sure…
Chris Seiter

October 20, 2015 at 9:45 pm

You do realize you have to start over if you break the NC though which it looks like you did.

Jenny

October 18, 2015 at 11:51 pm

I started uni and a few days after freshers my boyfriend decided to go on a break after we’d been together for 2 and a half years! We’ve since then split up as I didn’t agree with a break as it would just postpone the break up and I just don’t know what to do. I miss him so much and I don’t know what to do without him. I can’t sleep at night and good memories just keep going round in my head. I don’t think he fancies anybody else I think he just had to let something go. Is there any chance of me getting him back? I’m meant to be seeing him in a couple of months as friends :/

Jenny

October 21, 2015 at 11:22 pm

Nothing really, i texted him one night and we spoke for a couple of days as friends but he was replying slowly and I just felt like I was annoying him. He said it felt like we hadn’t broke up (I felt like we had) so we said enjoy uni we’ll see each other at christmas. I didn’t really know what to say or how to play it. I’m just kinda hoping that by then he will have regretted it :/
Chris Seiter

October 20, 2015 at 9:34 pm

Of course there is but what have you done so far to win him back?

ANITA

October 18, 2015 at 11:23 am

HI CHRIS,
Thank you for your help.
My story:
4 months together, big love , big plans! I felt great.
1 party when he got jealous and he just left me. I did try to contact him, he promise to meet and talk never did.
Sent me a text saying that ,, I love you but I don’t feel like talking….at the moment.
A week over that I sent him text saying that I don’t deserve that silent treatment and I love him,
He reply saying that he really loves me , but he has work issue and he prefer to be single and etc.
He is very sorry and etc. He loved every minute with me and want to be friends. Typical !!!!
I did reply to him Exactly how I felt, that indeed I do deserve better and maybe I got to tell him that I got little bit hurt and etc. Just told him that he was so defending if anybody will talk about the guys that they are players.
He reply to me saying about that pub situation that he got angry and etc., he needed to leave, than he mention that he loves me soo much and etc. He wants the best for me. That his dad ask for me and he didn’t know what to answer. That when he was with me he never felt that he want to be without me. and he finish with the sentence maybe you right .. I didn’t know who I’m.
In my situation any contact from him, heal my pain. But deep down I know he broke up with me.
any advise…..
Thank you

Victoria

October 20, 2015 at 3:07 am

Hi Chris

I recently just got dumped by my boyfriend. We have been dating a couple of weeks. He said I came too strong into the relationship and it was pushing him away. I want him back and he leaves in a few weeks to go to the navy. I really do and did have hope in our relationship. What should I do to bring him back into my life and make him rethink about breaking up with me?
Thanks and hope to hear from you soon!
Chris Seiter

October 22, 2015 at 1:18 am

So what is his navy schedule like? Will you be ok with not seeing him for months at a time? Do you think he will be in the military for 10+ years? If so what about if you had kids etc. I’m just asking because I want to make sure you know what your getting yourself into.

If you want him back still, do no contact for 45 days and then reach out to him if you can? Will he have access to text messages?

Lindsay

October 17, 2015 at 10:29 pm

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend and I have been together six months. We’ve “lived” together for the majority of that time, but finally bit the bullet and moved my stuff into his house (my apartment is two hours away) about three weeks ago. Since then, he has been distant and hard-to-connect-with. I went away last weekend and when I returned, we had a small fight that escalated. At the end of it, he said that “maybe we should take a break.”

I left my job and moved my things out here, believing that I had a chance with this guy. I know this is panic mode for him (he also decided to confess that he “does not love” me, though he “cares for me,” despite having said he loves me in the past). He’s coming out of a bad marriage where he was damaged and I think this all moved too fast for him. The question is: What do I do? No contact isn’t possible, since, for now at least, we live together. He says he needs space, and I want to grant him that, but the question is does he need a “break” or a full-fledged “break up”?

Thanks for your help.

Lindsay

Chris Seiter

October 18, 2015 at 11:35 pm

What do you mean “full fledged breakup?”

zoe

October 17, 2015 at 1:01 pm

Hi. Me and my ex split 2 weeks ago today. We had been.together nearly 4 years. I’m absolutely heartbroken. I can’t eat or.sleep. Have lost weight. He is on.my mind 24/7. We have a child together so can’t do no contact. He says he lives and misses.me and that we are over but he’s also saying he needs time and space. He can’t swear down.its over for good. He says he doesn’t want to be near.me yet we are taking our.son.to.the fair tonight. I love.him.so.much and.im.completely destroyed.

Leah

October 23, 2015 at 10:24 pm

Hi Zoe,
It sounds like were in similar situations! Im sorry to hear about your break up but I want you to know your not alone! My bf wanted a break about a month ago, which Is turning into what looks like will never be a relationship again. We were together nearly 3 yrs and we planned on getting married. I am so devastated I cant close my eyes without seeing him, I wake up hoping it was all just a bad dream, I cant eat and ive lost to much weight in to little amount of time for it to be healthy. I miss him so much I cant think right just like you miss yours. I hope you and him can work things out and get back together! These are really hard times in life right now and I just wanted you to know theres always someone else out there dealing with the same issues and I didn’t want you to feel alone!
Chris Seiter

October 18, 2015 at 6:05 pm

Why did he say he wanted to break up? You will have to do limited no contact. Read the post https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/get-your-boyfriend-back-if-you-have-a-child-together/

alyssa

October 17, 2015 at 5:05 am

Hey,
I really need your help. I just had an huge argument with my ex because of his new gf. I really want him back we been together for 2 years and I can’t see my self with out him. I’m here drowning in my tears. Just help me some how make him leave his new gf because she’s distracting him from thinking about me. Please I’m helpless I’m begging u. Give me some ideas about how to get him back???
Raina

October 17, 2015 at 12:02 am

Hi. I broke up with my boyfriend after two weeks( I know I know teenage flings) but because I didn’t want a boyfriend and I felt bad for putting him through that. I was so happy with him and should have never let him go, but now that I have I can’t figure out how to get him back. He has had two other girlfriends while I have been single. We used to be best friends before and a little after dating but now he has fully pushed me away but I don’t know why. I have cut off communication for weeks and then eased it back. We had a snapchat streak, we texted, we agreed to go to one of each other’s sports games. It doesn’t look positive from here because from then until now, he has told me he kind of wants me to screw off and has stopped talking to me. I have left him alone but now am trying to get back to friends but it isn’t working because he keeps pushing me back away. I don’t want to put myself too far out there and have tried texting him about school or snapchatting him casually but he won’t keep convo or take a hint. Help!

Chris Seiter

October 17, 2015 at 12:10 am

Trying doing no contact for 30 days and then read the post on using text messages to get your ex back. https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/using-text-messages-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/

ANITA

October 16, 2015 at 12:42 pm

HI CHRIS,
Thank you for your help.
My story:
4 months together, big love , big plans! I felt great.
1 party when he got jealous and he just left me. I did try to contact him, he promise to meet and talk never did.
Sent me a text saying that ,, I love you but I don’t feel like talking….at the moment.
A week over that I sent him text saying that I don’t deserve that silent treatment and I love him,
He reply saying that he really loves me , but he has work issue and he prefer to be single and etc.
He is very sorry and etc. He loved every minute with me and want to be friends. Typical !!!!
I did reply to him Exactly how I felt, that indeed I do deserve better and maybe I got to tell him that I got little bit hurt and etc. Just told him that he was so defending if anybody will talk about the guys that they are players.
He reply to me saying about that pub situation that he got angry and etc., he needed to leave, than he mention that he loves me soo much and etc. He wants the best for me. That his dad ask for me and he didn’t know what to answer. That when he was with me he never felt that he want to be without me. and he finish with the sentence maybe you right .. I didn’t know who I’m.
In my situation any contact from him, heal my pain. But deep down I know he broke up with me.
any advise…..
Thank you
lost everywhere

October 16, 2015 at 11:40 am

Hi.
Me and my bf were together for almost 2 years and we broke up like about 3 weeks ago. He started talking to this girl and he says that he likes her and that he wants to date her. Since he wants to date her I don’t think those tips will help me make him jealous. I just feel lonely without him and I want him back but honestly I don’t think his ever coming back to me. So yeah I don’t even know if there’s anyways for me to make him miss me or want me.

alyssa

October 17, 2015 at 6:25 pm

But I feel like trying to make him jealous would just make things worse 🙁
Chris Seiter

October 18, 2015 at 11:30 pm

What is your fear of it?

What is the worst that can happen?
Chris Seiter

October 17, 2015 at 5:52 am

You probalby should visit my page on jealousy.

sara

October 16, 2015 at 8:10 am

so heres my story
i have been n a relationship with a guy for 3 and a half years now . he is younger to me in like 7 months. so after 2 years of our relationship we had a major breakup. i followed him to his college and he got back with me . after this everything was perfect, both of us was commited 100 percent , but after few months i decided to tell my parents about this and so they were okay with it , but they also wanted to know what his parents would say. after few more months past by i forced him to tell his parents so i would not loose him forever but he was scared to and because of that got so tensed up i nroke up like to or three times but got back within the day. later he was being too over dominant and that affected me. and i started saying no for everything he asked me to do but i secretly tried.Later the problem continued , i asked him to make a decision , whether he wants me or not and he said no , that he has problems with his family and is not ready for a relationship , iv been begging, fighting so much to get him back and pleading telling him im really sorry and will even put my life to risk for him and do anything for him, il change completely but it was a big ‘no’ from him .i was so heartbroken i decided to tell my mum , my mum spoke to him and asked him if he really loves me , he said he was fed up of me and is nt ready for a relationship . my mum was also so hurt that he had trusted his love for me, and agreed for this relationship , this happened last week and since then i stopped talking. read youre article and disappeared from all social network sites except for whatsapp where i always chat with him.
i really really want him back , i gave up everything for him before and iam heartbroken that i deserve all this back , i want him to love me the way he did before with all the commitments. He lives in a different city so i cant meet him and dont want to text him because of all the begging iv done and after he asked me to not disturb him anymore and make him live in peace , i dont think texting him will bring him back crawling to me he is just too stubborn now , He cared for me so much before , i dont know how all this happened.
please please help me chris , give me a solution.
Thanking you in advance

sara

October 19, 2015 at 11:54 am

its been like a week i have not contacted him. i deleted off all my social network sites, twitter, facebook , only use whatsapp . removed his number so that he wont be able to see my dp . seems like he hasnt deleted off my number as i can see his dp and status and last seen too . dint have any contacts with him , never broke the NC. i know for a fact that he wont get into a relationship anytime soon, because one reason for him to breakup with me is because he said he wasnt ready for any relationship. but still i aint 100 percent sure :/ :/ im missing him just so much more now than before, and dont want to break the NC rule if thats the only way i can get him back . what should i do ?
sara

October 18, 2015 at 11:44 am

yes i did try NC
Chris Seiter

October 18, 2015 at 3:42 pm

Ok great, How did it go? How long did you try it for? Did he tried contacting you during NC? And Did you ever break no contact by responding to him before it was over?
Chris Seiter

October 17, 2015 at 5:50 am

Have you tried NC at all?

Annie

October 16, 2015 at 12:50 am

Hi, thanks for all this help. But I’m a little lost on the part right about now because my ex is very confusing. Me and my ex were dating for a couple months and about a month ago, we started fighting a lot, we both go to school and work full time, have our family issues, etc. So we (especially I) took our stress out on each other. Recently, my ex has gotten very stressed out with school and work so he asked for a break after an argument we had. A week and a half in I texted him to please just tell me what he wanted and to not leave me wondering and he broke up with me through text, he said he was too stressed, he wasn’t doing very well in school and wasn’t concentrated, he also added that he didn’t want any thing serious and that he would still be my friend. I begged him to stay after (big mistake) but he has yet to reply. He sees my snapchat posts, hasn’t taken me off his bio on Instagram and is very confusing. I feel like he will be back because he’s just overwhelmed but then again, maybe he won’t. Any advice?
sabrina

October 14, 2015 at 9:54 pm

Hi Chris

I was with my boyfriend for 4 months everything was fine until one day he never messaged or called since 9am he told me day before calling will be a problem as he had to pick his auntie up to go to his cousins house who was getting married that weekend and as he wasn’t going to be on his own calling was going to be hard,well in my eyes he could of messaged from 9am but never even tho i saw him go on on whatsapp enough times,i know i could of messaged aswell but never considering we messaged most of the day and he called most nights and we talked for a hour.

Week before we fell out he said i was caring,loving,genrouse when we fell out i asked why the fall out he didn’t give me a reason and we spoke for a hour that day, as i didn’t get a reason i was very puzzled,i messaged every week asking him back but he kept on saying not going to change my mind well after 6 weeks he gave me the reason for falling out which was he wasn’t attracted to my personality which i find strange as a week before falling out he said i was caring,loving,genrouse.

We fell out in August i haven’t contacted him for 2 weeks now he said only message once a month if it was up to me i would love to message once/twice a week or more as i miss him so much and care so much for him even after all these weeks, we did so much in 4 months and had so much planned.

We are still on each others whatsapp and iPhones no blocks etc. PLEASE HELP AND ADVISE CHRIS WHAT I SHOULD DO AS I WANT HIM BACK SO MUCH at the moment i don’t want to do anything and haven’t feel rubbish.

Chris Seiter

October 16, 2015 at 3:03 am

Have you done any type of NC or any of the basic things I recommend?

Linn

October 14, 2015 at 12:01 pm

HELP!
Separated five months ago, and we have not seen each other ever since. Several meltdowns and terrible breakup. Bonus kids involved and such a mess. Now his mother is trying to tell me to wait and be patient.
First time I received a text from him… stating I miss you too!!…
I replied stating I am here if you ever want to meet or talk..

and NOTHING!!! This is driving me insane. I know we love each other deeply and I know the breakup was hard on him too.
Should I wait more or reach out once more.. I think he is a bit afraid of me as well. So DO HE MISS ME or just wrote that?

Linn

October 17, 2015 at 9:35 am

Thank you! Before I read this I wrote another text where I stated that its sad that two people that miss each other can not meet or talk. I got a response after 24 hours… I agree and we should meet or talk soon. Hug!
I wrote back..thank you! Looking forward to that. So from now on I will leave it up to him and hide for a while.

Cheers
Chris Seiter

October 18, 2015 at 6:23 pm

Yes definitely! Stay away from talking about the relationship. Pretend he is a new guy you are dating. So you wouldn’t say I miss you etc. When you talk to him make it exciting.
Chris Seiter

October 16, 2015 at 2:20 am

Well, you are leaving yourself out there too much.

You are being too available.

Where is the chase?

Where is the mystery?

Heather

October 14, 2015 at 1:26 am

Hi Chris,

My ex-boyfriend, who is 57, has been dating and is now living with a 25 year old woman. About two months ago, according to my house mate, he walked by my house, which is a fair distance from his place, with this woman hand in hand. He has met my house mate, who is a woman. He acknowledged her as he walked by but did not stop. I was not home at the time.

A month ago he called me at home. When I answered he asked me how I was. He said he called because he had seen something in his garden that reminded him of me (we both love gardening); that he hadn’t talked to me in a long time and it was his guilty pleasure to hear my voice and talk to me. I told him that I had friends over for dinner and couldn’t talk and he said “I’ll let you go”. Needless to say I was perplexed and a bit confused that he was contacting me. I also felt disrespected. I don’t want to be ” something on the side” or someone’s “guilty pleasure”. I did not respond in any way to either incident.

How do I tell him and/or show him that I want to be respected? I feel I am worthy of better. I also feel I am worth the energy of being pursued. I have to admit that in the past I have done more work than I should have and I think he got use to that but now I’m turning the tables. I have learned to value myself more.

I have really enjoyed reading your guides! I love your straight forward approach.

Thank you Chris for reading my email and for any advise you can offer.

Heather

Heather

October 17, 2015 at 1:47 am

Hi Chris,

Thank you for responding so quickly to my email.

I was also wondering about the mid-life crisis thing too. He has been married before and has two grown children, a daughter whose is 30 and a son 28. They are both married and the daughter has two small children.

Tony, my ex, has been divorced for over 15 years. He has an issue with going from one relationship to another with no “break” in between. He does have issues with alcohol and pot which I believe contributes, especially the alcohol, to his behaviour and lack of judgement in being able to make healthy choices. Before you say anything about that I am well versed on the subject of addictions. I also am aware that I may be able to support him in healing but I cannot make the decision to stop for him. I think I am dealing with a man with low self worth and I believe the drugs and alcohol are coping mechanisms. I don’t have a problem with these things in and of themselves bur it is the abuse and using them as a means of coping with pain, etc. I believe he is a good person and has difficulty dealing with the strong independent woman that I am. I do not want to enable him at the same time I care for him deeply and feel it is important to be honest with him. I don’t want to do all the emotional work, I am willing to meet him half way. I think that it is important that I continue on my path of doing what makes me happy and healthy. Since writing you last I also think I need to not contact him and let him do the chasing if he chooses. I feel the action of inaction is a way of showing him that I respect myself. What do you think?

Hope I have been clear enough and given you some insight into my situation. Feel free to ask for clarification.

Heather
Chris Seiter

October 16, 2015 at 2:06 am

Seems kind of like a midlife crisis.

What do you think?

Has he ever been married before?

Anika

October 12, 2015 at 9:03 pm

Hi. he broke up with me hours before I was about to visit him. It sucks but I know he doesn’t like to feel clustered or smothered and it might be that this one visit too much for him. I usually pride myself on not being clingy but It looks like I let my guard slip. What do I do if I, in my ignorance and emotional state broke the no contact rule 2 days after the break up trying to salvage the issue telling him that if he needs space I understand and that I am fine to not go on tour with him if he doesn’t want me there… blah blah blah? I have to add that he has replied. not what I wanted to hear, but not too bad either. since then I have tried to not contact him. I just want o know that it is still possible to get him back although my no contact period s=is a little bit delayed? I am afraid that I messed it up but I couldn’t help myself. please help me…
Kasie

October 11, 2015 at 3:55 pm

My boyfriend of a little over 3 and a half years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. He gave me reason such as, not wanting to be in a relationship anymore, wanting to be an individual, not wanting to be attached to or have to worry about someone else, not wanting to be obligated to text/talk to someone. He told me he is sorry and knows that he hurt me. And that he will always care about me, but he does not want to be in a relationship. He also said that he will not change his mind. I am away at college and come home some weekends, and he has a full time job at home. The company he works for is moving their location and he has been helping with the move–even after his work hours. He also has been doing a lot a landscaping renovations at his house once he comes home from work. We have been in no contact for those two weeks and I have not heard from him. And I have not contacted him at all either. I do not understand how you can go from talking to someone almost every day fro 3.5 years to not talking to them at all and be fine. I have spoken with some of our mutual friends and they do not understand the situation either. They have also said he will not talk about it at all. I still love him, and I want to be with him. We have been though some tough patches, but he has always been the type of boyfriend who would help me whenever he could and was always available to me. I have also been there for him whenever he has needed me and I have done everything he has ever asked me to do. Do you think that there is any chance he will regret his decision to break up with me and come back to me?

Emily

October 16, 2015 at 12:57 am

This is exactly what I’m going through and I’m just scared he’s not going to call/text me. He’s very prideful .

Tc

October 10, 2015 at 8:58 am

Me and my ex broke up in August. We had been going out for 2 years roughly. He broke up with me and started to fancy another girl in September. But ever since we’ve got back to school he suddenly having second thoughts about asking this girl out. He told me he would still like me and have feeling for me eveb if he did go out with someone. And said we might end up being together when we leave school as no one will get in the way of us. Do u think we’ll end up going back out?
Jenn

October 8, 2015 at 5:46 pm

Hi Chris,

So I am going to be honest. I am in a very very dark place right now. My boyfriend just broke up with me a week ago. We just had our 2 year anniversary. The reason for him breaking up with me was because he claimed the timing wasn’t right for us. He is a senior in college and also plays golf in college. I understand there is a lot he is stressed out about such as graduation, his last year of golf competitively and getting a job after college. He says we are just in 2 different places of our lives right now. We actually met in college and went to the same school. After I finished my degree I decided to pursue cosmetology and I am about to graduate in about 2 months. We hardly were able to see each other when we were together because our schedules are so hectic and just don’t match up. But we never went more then a week without seeing eachother. We always made time for eachother. If you truly love someone you will find the time. He said it’s just wearing on him. After we broke up he claimed that he still loves me and always will. He says he wants to get back in the future just not right now because the timing isn’t right. He still tells me he wants to be friends and wants to talk to me a lot and eventually hangout again. But I just recently found out there is another girl in the picture. He told me this girl likes him but he said he doesn’t know if he likes her. I asked if he was going to pursue things with this girl and he said idk but also said it’s too soon for anything. He says he needs to figure some things out. The only response I ever seem to get out of him is I don’t know. I truly do love him and believe he is my soul mate. Last night was the last we talked and I have decided to cut all contact with him. I want to stick to this no contact rule. I’m just afraid he is going to pursue and talk to this new girl now. Any advice you can offer me and help me would be great.

Thanks!
Annie

October 6, 2015 at 5:34 am

Me and my ex haven’t talked really for two months. He’s called me once telling me to leave his shit alone, which i did. that was about two weeks ago. i just want to know if he’ll regret leaving me. He started dating another girl right after me, and then she dumped him a week later and started dating another guy. Im so heartbroken. He still has yet to contact me. Is there any hope?
Alesia

October 5, 2015 at 12:20 pm

Hello Chris. I have been looking at your website a ton. My boyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago now and we were in a long distance relationship (1000 miles Long distance.) I am in the no contact phase right now. We are both of the same religion so he said He prayed about it and he felt like we should break up. He told me he knew without any doubt in his mind that he was making the right decision. He said it was because he felt like he didn’t like to call me at night all the time once he got off of work and he said he shouldn’t feel like he has to force himself to like/love/marry me. I know for a fact that he doesn’t feel this way when I’m with him… He even told me so. When I’m with him he tells me that he thinks he likes me too much! Anyways, I know in my heart that he made the wrong decision and I told him that when he was breaking up with me- lol I tend to be pretty blunt. Idk if I should have said that or not but. Anyways, I want to get him back. I’ve been using your NC rule in general although I have a question about that… In the end he said he didn’t mind still being friends cause that’s what we were before we started dating. So, we both deleted all of the photos of us as a couple off of social media. I’ve posted a couple pictures of me doing random stuff on Instagram and Facebook. I’m pretty sure he saw it but he hasn’t contacted me at all. But on snapchat, i posted a few pictures to my story. The first couple weeks after he would look at them cause it shows who looked at your story. But the last couple of days he hasn’t looked at my story…. Should I stop posting on my story. Come to find out, he asked out another girl that looks similar to me. Lol I think she is his rebound girlfriend bc he is sad. But he is very strict about texting other girls when he’s dating or even talking to someone. So what if after no contact he doesn’t contact me. (I know him and I doubt he will if he feels like he still likes me and I think he does) I want him back but I’m also learning to live without him! I bought a pet pig ? Not that that has anything to do with anything but it’s somethin even he knows I’ve wanted for a while. I want to get him back though. I can bump into him in about a month and a half from now but is that too soon? Am I giving myself less of a chance of getting him back? Please help me? Ps- and we’re still long distance. But he really does care about me I know it. ?