7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

lavender

November 7, 2015 at 10:54 am

hi chris, my ex-boyfriend broke up with me because he liked my friend but my friend doesnt like him and now he says we should just be friends and i still like him

Brianna

November 7, 2015 at 8:05 am

Me and my ex broke up only because I moved. I thought I was over him but when I started dating this other guy I realized that I’m in love with my ex. Well my ex dated his other ex right after (which only lasted a month) I’m moving back to the town he’s in. We didn’t talk for 2 months after me moving, so I thought I would text him to see how things are, and to tell him I’m moving back. All he said was “cool, and ok”. What do I do im deeply in love with him and he’s always all my mind. I want him back. Help!!!

Caroline

November 7, 2015 at 7:19 am

Hi Chris! I am really seeking your help on this, because I am a little bit confused by my recent ex. So I just broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago. We hadn’t been dating very long (roughly a month), but before we started dating we were already really good friends – best friends really. He came to me and recommended that we break up because “he felt he was no good for me.” I asked him a couple times why he thought that he wasn’t good for me, but he didn’t give me a specific reason. We had technically broken things off about a week before he brought this to my attention. When he came to me the first time, he just said he thought we shouldn’t date for a while, and I simply said okay, and that was that. After this happened, however, he still called me “babe,” he still gave me those around the waist “boyfriend hugs,” and we still kissed, etc.. Yet just the other day he came to me saying that we should “move on,” because he was no good for me, or for anyone really. He has recently been going through some tough things, and I tried to comfort him and I told him I wasn’t going to leave him (this was after we had broken up, but when he still treated me like his girlfriend). He told me while we were still dating that he wasn’t sure he was over his ex before me, and he had to think about some things. He told me I should date someone else, and even recommended certain people to me.

I guess what I’m asking is, do you think he’s not over his ex and he really just doesn’t like me? He said I didn’t do anything wrong and he still cared about me, and he might want to date me in the future, but he still said we should take a break. Does it seem like he’s sugar coating things so he doesn’t have to tell me that he really doesn’t like me anymore? I still really love him, and I don’t want to lose him. Your advice would be much appreciated! (:

Thanks,
Caroline

Amanda

November 6, 2015 at 7:33 pm

Hello. I currently live with my ex boyfriend. What are some things that would make him miss me since we are living under the same roof?

Thank you

Amanda

jane

November 5, 2015 at 4:39 pm

together for 2 months and he initially seemed really nice and bought me expensive things which i found somewhat odd in accepting and also reminded me I had done well out of him and how he had checked his bank and had not realised how much he had spent. He seemed to really like me and I have been left reeling but also doubtful of his past actions he has come across at times as controlling and pulled me down re certain aspects of my life and denominating that he is a fixer but ended our relationship as he said I have too much going on in my life yet he has his own issues

lady

November 5, 2015 at 4:08 pm

Hi Chris. I have been in a love triangle 4 years…..At first i didnt know…. i asked my boyfriend was he dating someone else he told me no…..time went on but things werent wright….so i went through his phone and contacted the women…..sure enough my gut feeling was right…. they broke up and we stayed together….but he was still contacting her…..i know because i went through his phone again….i began to ask him why???an do he want to be with her instead of me……well he broke up with me and went back to her……a month later we began to talk….and wind up hooking back up again…. i let it continue for a year because i have strong feeling for him…. just recently i broke up with him…..but it was in such a bad way didnt mean for it to come out the way it did…..i still want him….we also have something that we share in common…..which i felt he made me out to be a liar about what we share…..we have both been there for each other,,,,but i had to let go….but i still want want and love him so very much….im really not sure how to go about this situation….can you give me some advice…thanks Lady.

Jen

November 5, 2015 at 3:15 pm

I met him at work; during our training, our friendship started as if we’d known each other our whole lives. Everything came easy to us. It was a connection neither of us had felt before. We started spending almost every day together within the first month; texting,calling and hanging out (He even went to a family wedding with me). People at work started inquiring how long we had been a couple. They seemed to know we should be together before we did. We talked about it, and he didn’t think it would be a good idea,bc it could go badly and he didn’t want to lose our friendship. About a week later the convo came up again; this time instead of objecting, he grabbed my neck, pulled me to him and kissed me. I was apprehensive at first because there’s a 10 yr age gap between us. I’m 31, he’s 21. I’m also a single mom. I told him I don’t expect him to jump into the “daddy role”. We progressed kind of quickly, but neither of us said anything about not wanting to spend that much time together. The night of the breakup (3wks ago, and the night after our 2nd time being physical, *we never had sex*) He said I came over too much, he was relieved when I wasn’t around. That our age played a part in us not working, he’s not ready but maybe in a couple of years. His family wouldn’t like that he’s dating an older woman,they wouldn’t understand. Our religious beliefs are too different. (We’re both Roman Catholic, he’s against homosexuality and gay marriage/It doesn’t bother me) He likes my son, but not ready to be a dad, even though I clearly told him to not take that into the equation. He just can’t do this anymore, he gets too emotionally attached, then told me I needed to leave because it would be awkward for everyone there (brother is his roommate and bros gf was there)if I stayed. I kissed him on the cheek, and said goodbye.
My mistake was I contacted him after 2 wks and said there was things I never got to say contradicting his thoughts on our breakup. To which he replied “Thank you for saying that, but I think we need to stay out of each other’s lives”. I stated I wasn’t trying to get back with him, “Don’t kid yourself”.
I was just upset that I was losing a friend. “Thats just how it happened. Sorry”
I asked if he was this hateful after every break up? “We didnt break up because we were never together. And im not hateful”.
I asked if he was ok and that I was worried about him.
“Nothing of your concern. Honestly you couldnt have picked a worse night to say that shit. Well dont worry, And please stop messaging me ”
Since then he has blocked me. I found out through mutual friends he sold his car (he’s a gearhead guy,loves cars like I do, and he told me he switches his cars out when things go wrong in his life.)
I still see him at work, he doesn’t look miserable or as if he’s missing me at all. In fact he seems to this thing when I’m around, her starts talking a little louder or when someone tells a joke he laughs obscenely loud. Our mutual friends at work keep coming up and asking how I’m doing. I say I’m fine, I’ve mentioned that I know HE still hates me,how could he not, he blocked me. I don’t think he knows we’re still instagram buddies.
I don’t know if there’s still a chance, or if I screwed it up by contacting him.

Szasza

November 5, 2015 at 3:06 pm

Hi Chris, saw the guy i’ve been seing for 7months flirting with other girls on fb and that broke my trust. he said he’d done nothing wrong. i let it go. a week after a casually asked him if we were together. you’d think i just proposed marriage to him. he says he really likes me but doesnt want anything heavy now, plus hes got old relationship issues to sort out and doesnt wana hurt me… an excuse?! Feel like he’s been keeping his options open at the least. I walked away from him, literally 10 days ago. since then i missed his call. i think he wanted us to talk more about it, but i don’t. i replied with a “i’m away back tomorrow”, to which he said “ok tomorrow”. haven’t heard from him since. i’m confused, feel a bit used and silly. what can i do? thank you so much for your help x

Eva

November 5, 2015 at 2:01 pm

Hi Chris,
Your website is amazing – if only I found this earlier!
Now I am fully aware of my mistake of trying to beg and plead for another chance right after he said let’s be friends and both cool it off for a while. Things went into a downward spiral (texting, calls, apologies, gifts and talking with his friends are symptoms of my panic) that he eventually said we would never be together anymore, he won’t see me or answer my calls, and he blocked my number and Facebook completely. I now realised it may be the time for me to drop hope. We had dated less than a year and there had been fights over small things, usually initiated by me because deep inside I wanted to confirm he truely loved me to fulfil my little wishes. What could I do now other than taking the bullet of violating the no contact rule and moving on? Is there still hope? Thank you.

Dena

November 4, 2015 at 6:26 pm

how is he supposed to tell how great in a shape I have gotten if there is a no contact rule for a month?

Alia

November 4, 2015 at 5:51 pm

Hi Chris, my ex broke up with me without actually saying it or giving any explanations. He just stopped keeping in touch. I tried getting to him but he replied to my texts only once asking me to stop texting him. I have stopped texting him. However, I recently came across him and our eyes met but we did not talk. He was with his colleagues and I with mine. I thought he would get into contact after that, but it’s been a week and nothing. Is there any chance he will talk one day? I miss him so much and want him back.

Lvan

November 4, 2015 at 2:56 pm

Hi Chris,

My fiance and i broke up a month ago.. well, things have been rough for the last 8 months, but this time he told me how he is happy things are finally over.now he hasn’t even texted me or anything and i think he is back with his ex from school days… he actually told me 3 weeks ago how we were meant to be and then saw her that weekend for the first time in 10 years and immediately decided that we do not belong together? You think he just no longer cares and moved on? is that even possible to really just forget someone like that???

Yoko

November 4, 2015 at 10:12 am

Hi Chris! I broke up with my boyfriend about 2 and a half months ago. I texted him after two weeks asking that we get back together. He didn’t want to because he had lost faith in the relationship after I broke up. I followed NC perfectly from more than a month now and asked him yesterday that we get back together. He says he is not convinced it would be a happy relationship. I’m from India where parents’ opinion is the greatest deciding factor and now his mother says she has a match ready for him and so this is not happening. He is not ready to talk to his parents because they are very strong about not agreeing to this. I don’t know how to get him back. Please help!

Nonto

November 4, 2015 at 5:56 am

I miss him so much we share good time together,was always there for me,encouraging me but he is the one initiated breake up no contacs no nothing an it is killing me and I feel am not getting him back

Amina

November 4, 2015 at 2:24 am

Hey Chris!
So this guy and I were hitting it off this summer and everything was going well. Until some stuff happened making me depressed ( he knew about one of the situations). The situations have affected me deeply so I started acting weird around him. Since he seeks attention often, he would blow me off. When I start acting like myself again, he comes back.

But then recently, I was really depressed so I cut him off out of fear of him ”abandoning me”. Of course I regretted it so I started acting needy. He was willing to text me but I wanted to call him. He ignored my messages and blew me off.

I think that I should give him space and work on my issues since they are always in the way. But I don’t know if he’ll be back this time…

If I should go NC, what are the rules?

Karter

November 3, 2015 at 12:48 am

Hey Chris! okay so my boyfriend and I dated for 2 months and he recently broke up with me. On our TWO MONTH ANNEVERSARY. Anyways, during the breakup, he told me he felt really bad because he cares so much about me and he just hates that he lost feelings blah blah blah. Well, I see him everyday and avoid eye contact. I haven’t texted him either. A few minutes ago he texted me and said “aye” I hadn’t read this article yet, so I responded:(. I said “Hi” then he said “are we cool” and I said no and quit responding to his messages. since then, he has texted me “?” “why not” and now he just keeps sending me my name. Does this mean he wants me back or something?

Yessi

November 2, 2015 at 7:23 pm

Hi Chris,
3 weeks ago I found out my boyfriend of 3 years was cheating on me, I am currently studying abroad in Spain he came to visit but also to take a romantic getaway with another woman. He was caught by me and did not want to talk about it or give me any explanations. He completely shut down and didn’t even try to win me back. Unfortunately, i had to let go as much as I miss him and wish he could repent I know he won’t since he has too much pride and never has shown these kinds of emotions during our relationship. I have done no contact for 2 solid weeks and this upcoming weekend I will be visiting his hometown in Morocco where he currently is at. I am asking for advice…. Should I text him and let him now I am in town for the weekend? it will definitely be breaking the timeframe for NC, but I just want to give it a try and see if he really cares to see me and talk. If he doesn’t, I’ll be ready to move one.

Vera

November 2, 2015 at 4:31 pm

Hi Chris,
I have been through 4 years long distance relationship with my ex and we broke up when Sep.
Within this period of time i begged and apologize…but he doesnt want to take me back.
Reason we broke up is i alway blame him not pay attention on our relationship and try testing him if he has a crush on other girls….this make him so sick but at my point he is getting tired on me and this relationship which he cant see a future.
Long story short, he said he still loving and care me but his attitude , tone totally change to harsh, cold and mean to me after broke up…i am so broken heart as in the past he was a sweetest guy always so in love with me….after a month of depression, i am trying to forget him and moving on to my own life, i stop contact him. Until 3 weeks ago, he sent me his selfie but still sounds so cold when we texting. After a week later , he sent selfie again with his halloween costume but still havent talk much…then last week he texting me “please dont hate me“, i havent reply much just say “no worries“
. He didnt say anything after that and i keep silence.
Last Saturday,
he text me: “ hows everything “
Me (8~9hours later):
everything is fine. Happy halloween
He repiled: you too , beautiful

Then we stop texting again….
Im not sure should we keeping contact and texting each others again …i do love him but he usually choosen the first place to give up our relationship then get me back….this time ..he seems stone mind and try to keep himself let go but doesnt want to be guilty for being someone leaving me …..

What can i do ?? Should i respond to him as i even no trusting his love anymore ….i am not sure if he still loving me or just keeping place in mmy heart even i decided to let him go…….or get him back the 4th time. 🙁

T

November 2, 2015 at 9:51 am

Hi Chris! Thank you so much for the wonderful advices! Much appreciated!

My long story short: We met through mutual friends then became FWB though I loved him and were in a long distance relationship. I introduced him to my circle of friends and he introduced to his at a later stage. We fell pregnant 6 months into a relationship and he pulled and told he was not ready for that he would not be part of that child’s life. He blocked me and no contact for 5 months. Later when I called o update him about the pregnancy he seemed excited and interested in the child and even had a name for him and he was even planning to come for the birth. He loves his child a lot and even brags about him.

His family loves me a lot but is not aware of the FWB situation. To them he pretends I am his girlfriend but to my face he admits he’s not ready for commitment and that he is still enjoying life and that I should wait if I need commitment from him. When I ask him to inform his family he does not want. When I address him as a friend he gets upset and says we will be more than friends. He likes playing mind games that once got me to admit that I loved him. Every time I keep quiet he gets worried and become all lovely. He updates me on his achievements and lets me know of some of his future plans. Lately he got upset with me for no reason I assume it was because my phone was off and I only responded 24hours later – then he told about his girlfriend. I got upset and told him I would back off and blocked him. He sent a message saying he would not hurt me.

I am tired of him addressing me as a friend, I love him and want more. How do I get him to commit?

Confused

Olivia

November 2, 2015 at 9:33 am

Hi Chris.

Me and my boyfriend of about 10 months recently “broke up”. He broke up with me randomally on a Sunday evening. He said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. It was so random and I was shocked. I didn’t speak to him for about 2-3 days afterwards. I was under the impression that he has cheated on me or something. We cleared that up that he didn’t. We then agreed to meet and speak which just ended in tears and me staying the night to be there for him. We then agreed that we would go on a break. It has been a week since he broke up with me, and about 5 days since we said we are on a break. We have been speaking on and off due to the fact that it was his birthday. But he called today, saying he is “out” he can’t stand the ambuity of not knowing etc. I told him that it’s selfish he hasn’t given the break a chance considering it’s only been a week. I have my formal on the 17th of December which he said he would still like to attend with me. He said he still loves me as a friend, and would do anything for me but does not love me in a romantic way anymore. I am hope that over time he will realise just how good he had it. Will he realise? What do you think the best think for me to do is? No contact at all until formal? I just want him to realise how great he had it. Things started to go down hill with is when a lot of things happened in his life. He dropped out of uni because it want what he wanted. He is 22 only working part time. The job he works he hates. His had some family issues with his brother which has just devastated him. Before all that happened we were like peaches and cream. We were both convinced we were soul mates. I just feel gutted that he would just leave me like he did. When I had invested so much within him. I would never ever do/ waste me time doing the things I did for him. I just want your opinion and if you think the “NCR” will make him realise just how good I was for him. I care for him deeply, and just want him to wake up to himself.

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