How To Make A Stubborn Ex Boyfriend Come Running Back

183 thoughts on “How to Make a Stubborn Ex Boyfriend Come Running Back”

amy

November 27, 2017 at 9:53 am

hi Amor
there is this one thing bothering me alo and I hope u can help me find a olution for it ! we had been talking all this week on texting when before it was on messenger. Two days ago, he was replying and we were having a pleasant conversation and he just vanished in the middle of it when before he used to send me a follow up text excusing himself! He didn’t even excuse himself and on the next day I texted him thrice but he didn’t reply and he marked my previous texts from some days ago as seen but not replied to me!
I feel so disrespected and I m literally sick of his bullshit and this game we are playing! how can I make this stop? i feel bothered not because I m dying to talk to him but because this is against basic ettiquettes and manners that he is treating me so shabbily! And I want to call him upon this attitude of his!
How should I go about this, tell me? Please reply fast before I do something stupid!
When we had those phone call conversations, he was beyond sweet and friendly and afterwards very flirty but I stayed away!
I would try to do the push pull with him before he does it with me this time! But before that I want him to know that this is terrible behaviour ! he can choose to not talk to me but doesn’t have the right to disrespect me!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2017 at 1:54 pm

ask him first why he did it.. if he doesn’t answer, then tell him in a calm way what you feel about it.

Amy

November 20, 2017 at 5:17 pm

We had a long conversation on call and afterwards we had playful conversations on texts but I feel he is withdrawing again! What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 22, 2017 at 2:56 am

You should be the one doing the push pull..he should be the one wondering what you’ve been up to..and then seeing through your posts or hearing through friends what you did or where you’ve been.. Be busy..put more time in your activities instead of him.

Amy

November 18, 2017 at 4:34 am

Amor
After two days, he texted me again with what’s up and I replied after some hours!
Until yesterday, there wasn’t anything from both sides but then I just straight up called him he didn’t pick then he called me back but I was busy so couldn’t pick and we exchanged some texts and he called me thrice again but I told him I am busy so he got a bit pissed off and said will talk later and when I texted him at almost midnight, he didn’t reply!
It’s hide n seek!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 20, 2017 at 5:03 am

Initiate at a good time so that he doesn’t at midnight too..

Audrina M

November 18, 2017 at 4:31 am

Hi Amor,

To clear up confusion I did NC for 30 days then texted which was positive and we continued to text everyday (sometimes he initiates it) until we went down memory lane reflecting how we were sexually with him asking if I been with other guys which I avoided answering therefore it went downhill from there he basically told me to not contact him again and he will text me when he can find my sons things… now I tried to text different times and was blocked. Emailed and no response. It’s been 30 days which is basically second NC, I don’t know how to get him to respond to me if he’s blocked me on everything. But he did pay his portion of the phone bill on time but still never responded about getting my items I do need back. I’m still in contact with his mother and I don’t want to go ask her to get him to get my things back, it’s frustrating. He went from every happy to hear from me to being spiteful.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 20, 2017 at 4:53 am

That means he has to think you’re moving on and not going to chase anymore through your posts.. Does your posts look like that? Since your blocked, you have to make them public.. If you haven’t done that, extend to 45 days..

Amy

November 15, 2017 at 9:10 am

Hello Amor
He texted me on Sunday after 15 days, just saying hey and it was at 1.30am So I replied the next day at night and he hasn’t replied until now!
Why did he text me then?
Now what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:09 am

well, it was midnight.. it can be a booty call or he has been thinking why you’re not texting.. have you initiated again by now?

Audrina

November 14, 2017 at 3:00 am

Hi Amor

It’s Audrina. It’s day 27 of 2nd NC we were in the texting phase for a week which started postitive and ended negative when he assumed I been with other guys and acted coy like he didn’t care before proceeding to block me leaving me to restart NC. Today I texted him regarding his portion of the phone bill that’s due tomorrow and no shocker I’m still blocked. I sent an email and I’m 100% sure he blocked me there as well. I tried to text him through a family members phone he was on good contact with before and blocked them too! What is going on? I’m only trying to reach out about the bill & get my son’s things back from him while he’s icing me out. Our break up was 3 months ago after 3 years together so how can he act like this knowing I’ve asked kindly before for these things and that’s all nothing more or less.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 1:17 am

Hi Audrina,

sorry, I’m confused.. Did you mean your texting phase was during your nc? Because the texting phase should be after nc.. talking to him about the bills is ok as long as it’s only about that..

Amy

November 6, 2017 at 12:11 pm

Please Reply

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 6, 2017 at 12:59 pm

Let him initiate this time… If after two weeks from now he still hasn’t initiated, you can initiate…

Camila

November 5, 2017 at 4:50 pm

My ex and I had been together for 2 years and we lived together. He broke up with me and I left our apartment and he is certain he wants to be done with me but he still messages me telling me he misses me or that he cries whenever he goes grocery shopping because we used to always go together. He also tries to talk to me by talking about my belongings and how he needs to get rid of them but as soon as I tell him what to do he just pushes the date back. I am not sure what he wants and if he is just messaging me because he is not used to this or because he does want me back.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 6, 2017 at 7:58 pm

Hi Camila,

why did you broke up?

Amy

November 5, 2017 at 10:16 am

Amor
Thank you for responding!
We were talking and he just stopped responding and I stopped texting after that!
I haven’t texted him after that! Should I text him or wait for him to initiate?
Amy

November 4, 2017 at 8:11 am

Hey Amor
A week ago we were talking and in the middle of it he stopped responding and seen all my texts and didn’t reply and hasn’t until now! Should I text him? What should I do?
How can I do push pull when he is doing it so much by being indifferent towards me although he is good while we talk!
Please respond fast!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 5, 2017 at 6:11 am

when he stopped responding, you shouldn’t have sent another text.. and if you can see how he does push pull, copy it. You just have to do it first.

Amy

October 30, 2017 at 8:56 pm

How should I move on without moving on when I am still in contact with him and in building rapport stage and he is on and off with me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 4:50 pm

Yes, you should be moving on without moving on because that helps in push pull… Push pull means you make him interested because you’re amazing or you’re fun to talk with but you’re indifferent and not always available…

Amy

October 30, 2017 at 8:55 pm

How should I move on without moving on when I am still in contact with him and in building rapport stage and he is on and off with me? How am I going to show him that I am moving on and not pining after him when we still talk?
Amy

October 30, 2017 at 8:49 pm

Hi Amor
My ex talks about other girls a lot and treats me like his friend and has called me a friend on some occasions too! What do I do now? Why is he doing this? The distant and friendly cycle continues!
Amy

October 30, 2017 at 8:43 pm

Hi Amor
My ex and I talk and its constant close and distant cycle but there is addition now, he talks about other girls a lot and tells me how he liked a certain girl a lot and how a certain girl hit on him as if I am his guy friend or his wingman! What do I do now? I feel jealous and angry!
Amy

October 30, 2017 at 8:34 pm

Hi Amor
My ex and I talk, like 3 to 4 days, we are really close and then he does conversation ghosting on me! Then he comes back after almost a week and the cycle repeats again and again! He talks about other girls a lot, how some girl hit on him and how there is some other hot girl that he started a conversation with, in a gym! It makes me insanely jealous and angry but I remain silent! And refers to me as his wingman kind of! Before the past relationship conversation we had, he was super flirty and now he is just making me insanely jealous all the time! Talks to me a lot for some days and then disappears! What is he trying to do? And what should I do? He is in our home country now again!
Please help! This push and pull is making my patience wear thin!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 4:49 pm

Yes, you should be moving on without moving on because that helps in push pull… Push pull means you make him interested because you’re amazing or you’re fun to talk with but you’re indifferent and not always available…

Audrina

October 29, 2017 at 8:06 pm

Hi Amor,

The item is my son’s that I lend my ex and his little brothers play which my son recently asked for now he got a new game for it and I’m trying to get it back. I just feel he doesn’t care anymore cause he won’t even try to get it despite telling him my son is asking for it back and I don’t want to send him an email since he blocked me on phone to ask. It’s about to be three months since we last seen each other and two weeks last time we texted, did he just forget about me already? After 3 years? First he was hot and cold, now he’s just closed off.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2017 at 10:11 pm

Better to approach it like he had moved on instead of expecting he still has feelings…how are you going to attract a person who doesn’t have feelings for you?

BellaB

October 29, 2017 at 6:55 am

my ex of 2 yrs left me and our baby 2.5 months ago. had been threatening to leave for months. the day i found a couples councelor for us was the day he picked a fight with ne and left in a rage. making it clear that he blamed me for the breakup. i did NC the first 2 wks but broke it when i asked him for financial help for our baby. he took advantage and started becoming mean with me again after wed had sex a few times. so i shut him out again and filed child support. we are now amidst a custody case and im sure he is still angry with me. now NC for 22 days. he has not reached out to me. however i recently saw him at a bar i used to work at. where we met. i ignored him but could feel him watching me. i got lots of love from my old female coworkers and i had a blast. my ex seemed pretty unfazed until he saw me hugging a male friend. it was hard to read my ex’s reaction though. but it definetly caught his attention.
he saw me leave with my friend when the club closed but i didnt look back to see his reaction. please tell me, did i work the jealousy angle correctly? i have done well with my self improvement these past few months eventhough my family has disintegrated. i am still extremely hurt and i still love my ex. is there still hope to save my family?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2017 at 7:43 pm

Hi Bella B,

Yes, you did it correctly..be indifferent with him during hearings.. And extend to 45 days your new nc

bellaB

October 28, 2017 at 10:38 pm

my boyfriend of 2 yrs left me and our baby 2.5 months ago. he threatened to leave for months as i tried to find a counselor for us. when i found one he picked a fight with me & left in a rage. he still blames me for the breakup. trust issues. i did NC for 2 wks but broke it because i had to ask him to buy things for our daughter. he took advantage and started to friend zone me. we had sex a few times & when he started to become mean again with no attempt to reconnect with me i shut him out & filed child support. now NC for 21 days & he has not reached out to me. recently i saw him at a bar i used to work at, where we met. he watched me but i ignored him. we are now amidst custody issues. i got a ton of male attention at the club. he wasnt getting half as much attention from the women but he was trying. he didnt seem to notice all the love i was getting until he saw me hug a male friend. he watched me walk out the bar with my friend.
i am hurting badly. i have been successful with self improvement eventhough my family is disintegrating. i want to save my family. did i work the jealousy angle correctly? is there hope?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2017 at 7:43 pm

Hi Bella B,

Yes, you did it correctly..be indifferent with him during hearings.. And extend to 45 days your new nc

DesiLu

October 26, 2017 at 9:43 pm

I’ve got that same problem again. I sent a question yesterday but when I check the page later and still today, I don’t see my question and so of course not the answer either. Another thing about this tech problem is that when I sent a new message saying that I didn’t see my message, immediately my initial message returned viewable. Hopefully this will happen again. Either way I’ll post to let you know so that if there’s a tech problem it can get looked at. Thanks so much.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 29, 2017 at 10:32 am

if you’re in nc, you shouldn’t text him nor reply to him.. if you did, you need to restart the count.. yes, it’s a good sign..

Pikachu

October 26, 2017 at 6:05 am

Hi Amor,

My 30 day NC ends tomorrow and my story goes that on the day of our breakup my ex said we’ll try to meet up in november(ie, next month) but i didn’t take it seriously cause maybe he was only trying to be polite since he dumped me. He contacted only once on my birthday during the NC and i did not respond. Now my question is, when i initiate texting him after nc should i mention anything about the meet up he previously mentioned? also,should i mention anything about his birhday message to me? Help me please, thanks.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 29, 2017 at 10:58 am

Nope, don’t mention it..

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