6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

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Carli

December 4, 2013 at 3:30 am

Chris why cant I see my comment i posted yesterday 🙁

admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:59 am

That is bizarre…

I got this one.

Anon

December 4, 2013 at 12:15 am

So, my ex isn’t really in a rebound relationship. But he is obviously tied up in a girl, and he keeps trying to be around her even though she rejected him. Like, he always puts himself into these intimate situations with her (example: she sits at a desk near the wall, and he always comes into my class during lunch and sits right between her and the wall, basically cutting himself off from anyone but her even though he has a bunch of other friends in that class). And she talks/interacts with him, but I know that she just wants to be friends. But he doesn’t seem to get that. He will poke her, stare at her, pat her, and mess with her hair, even when she pulls away. (Sometimes she pokes him back, but definitely not as much as he does to her.) He eats up all the attention he can get from her, and he goes out of his way to get her attention. Even though she told him she wasn’t interested. So he seems pretty desperate to me.

He and I were together for about 2.5 years. I had broke up with him, tried to get with other guys (although never right in front of him, like he does with me, because I actually cared about his feelings). But that didn’t work out and I realized that I still had feelings for him. (That was over a two month-ish period.) He still had feelings for me, so we got back together. But he didn’t want to call it boyfriend-girlfriend, and he didn’t want to actually “date” me because he was afraid of having arguments. I complied, even though I really wanted to be his girlfriend again. We were really good for about four months, then there was one month at the end where he was distant yet kept stalling to break up. Eventually he told me that he couldn’t “love me more than a friend” (over text, by the way). Then we had a weird friends with benefits period, until he told me that he “didn’t want to hurt me” and stopped it. That was about the same time that he was showing clear interest in the girl mentioned above. (So I think he just wanted to get rid of me, not prevent me from hurting myself).

He would always go out of his way to see her and talk to her. And she just thought that they were becoming closer friends, so she was cool with it. (he would/still completely ignore me around her. And he made sure to tell her that we had a “thing” but it was over, even though he didn’t want to tell anyone about our relationship when he and I were still together.) But then he confessed his feelings, and she said no. But she didn’t want to hurt his feelings and she still wanted to be his friend, so she still hangs out with him and talks/jokes/interacts with him. So I think he’s taking that as a sign that she might have feelings for him even though she said no. Or, he’s just trying to make himself feel good by always talking to her and getting her attention.

I have been in NC for two weeks. (I had previously been in NC, but at the advice of my aunt, I texted him and told him that I knew things were awkward, but I wanted to be friends. And he said we could be friends, and then later on in the conversation he proceeded to refer to how he and I would mess around during movies. The day after that text, he still completely ignored me and hung around the other girl.)

What should I do now? I mean, I know I need to finish NC. But is there anything I can do to have him willingly give is attention to me instead of her?

admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:57 am

I have something special planned for women like you and in your situation coming out this week.. so, just wait a while until that comes out ok 🙂
Anon

December 4, 2013 at 12:20 am

By the way, it has been two months since he ended it, and about 3 months since he started questioning being with me. He started pursuing this girl less than a month after he ended it.
admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:58 am

Sounds like a rebound to me.

Heartbroken Girl

December 3, 2013 at 5:25 pm

Hello , I have been reading this website for over an hour and I am so eternally grateful that I came across it . Here is my story … I was with my ex boyfriend for over 3 years , we had a lot of ups and downs and managed to pull through together and overcome the obstacles . We went our separate ways close to 2 months ago now and he is already in a new relationship with someone he had slept with back in January (we were still together) when this happened and he denied it of course . The reason I am writing this is because I don’t want him back because he put me through things a boyfriend should never do . (ie : trash my apartment & got arrested for drinking etc. But what I wanna know is , do the rebound rules apply to him even though him and his new gf slept together months before ? I have a lot of history with him and I’m still emotionally damaged from the relationship and what hurts/pisses me off the most is that he’s happy with someone else while I am still picking up the pieces and trying to move on . Here’s another kicker , I’am dreaming about him every night , we ended things on a very bad note so could these dreams be telling me I have unfinished business or do I just need closure ? Any information you can give me will help . I just wanna move on with my life and leave him in the past where he belongs , but my head and heart won’t let me .

admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:12 pm

Glad you enjoyed the website.

Have you been able to implement the no contact rule yet?

Missy

December 3, 2013 at 5:04 am

I posted here previously because my boyfriend had gotten a new girlfriend within a month of our break up. Now, a month later,they have broke up, and he has reached out to me. In one of our conversations he said that dating her was a “stupid impulse”. Haha… Take heart, people, rebound relationship are real, and they DO certainly happen. 😛

Now I just have to figure out how to balance my emotions and be patient. Maybe things will unfold in the way I want them to. 🙂

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:54 pm

I think actually you have a pretty good grasp on it all.
Missy

December 3, 2013 at 9:48 pm

Yeah, maybe… But it still feels like tightrope walking over the Grand Canyon sometimes. 😛
admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:52 am

Haha like that guy who did it on TV?

Mindy

December 2, 2013 at 10:25 pm

Hi Chris, I was in a 3 year LDR with my ex before we recently broke up last September. A few weeks back, he admitted that he had slept with a girl he met through couchsurfing.com. The girl was visiting from another country and staying at his house for a week. Before this, they had communicated online briefly to make arrangements, etc.

Suffice to say, that now my ex is completely smitten by this girl. (Dare I say he’s fallen in love?) I can’t say for sure, but this has rebound written all over it. But who’s to say that rebound relationships might not work? What are your thoughts?

Also, I’m implementing a 60 day NC. I did let my ex know that I was only going to be available after 2 months. He said, that I was being ridiculous and weird to not be in contact with him for 2 months. But talking to him has been painful lately, so I really needed the space.

My worries right now, is that if I cut all contact with him for 60 days, it will probably drive him more towards this other girl, just because I wasn’t around. I’m afraid he might forget about me completely. The out of sight, out of mind rule can also apply for him. I just wanted to know, is the NC rule really going to work in this type of situation? I feel like by the time 60 days are up, I might lose him for good.

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:34 pm

I would say just do it for 30 days…

Leigh

December 2, 2013 at 9:43 pm

Here we go. I dated my ex-boyfriend for 5 years. From our Junior year in high school, to Junior year in college. We had a great relationship: families that loved both of us, the same friend group, he was truly my best friend. We did have some trouble-his bestfriend died in a tragic accident April 2012, and I had an enormous health scare in May 2012. However, we were able to work through it all and get back together, and things were better than ever. And that scared me. It was too good to be true. After spending the holidays with each others families, and being on his family Christmas card, I got scared. I told him I wanted a little bit of time and space, so I ended things January 2013. He was devastated. However, 3 weeks later he was already in another RELATIONSHIP! Facebook official. She was literally the very first girl he met after we broke up, and she is completely opposite of me. Immediately our best friends (his best guy friends) were contacting me saying they couldn’t believe what he was doing. I tried talking to him, and cried and told him how much I wanted him back, but he said no. That I had hurt him too bad. This past Spring was so hard for me because I never meant to lose him, I just wanted to make 100% sure that he was THE ONE. Since we dated constantly from High School to College I was a bit confused on who I really was. I tried to heal my hurt with some very drunken one-night-stands, 4 to be exact. May 2013 he contacts me saying he is so miserable, misses me. He breaks up with his girlfriend and since I moved away for the summer he flew me back into town for a weekend. Things were great and then it came time for me to tell him about the things I had done while we were broken up. He was so mad, said very hurtful things, and stopped talking to me. He got back with his girlfriend, Sam. July 2013 he contacts me again saying how unhappy he is, and that it wasn’t his choice in getting back together with her, it was only because I told him about how I slept around, so it was my fault. August 2013 he breaks up with Sam (for the 2nd time) the day I moved back home. We spent the week together and he told me how he wasn’t going anywhere, wanted to be single but spend time with me and not pursue any other women, etc. I move back to finish my senior year of college a week later, and he ends it with me and goes back to Sam. October 2013 he contacts me again saying he is unhappy and that he always knew it wasn’t right, but that he just had to deal with the pain someway. He said that we both want the same thing and we had made a mess out of this (AGREE) and we will have to work together to fix this. He broke up with Sam for a third time, I came home for a weekend and it was great. He hates the 200 miles between us, and once I went back to college he went right back to her. Even though he had promised that things between them were done for good. So they have broken up 3 times. He has lost touch with all of our friends and only spends time with her. This is because his best friends have told them how much they don’t like her. His family has contacted me numerous times these 11 months to see how I am, that they miss me, they don’t like Sam, and they are praying for us to get back together. He claims he cannot forgive me, and then says that only time can fix what we have done. I attended a therapist this past summer. Once I found out how crushed he was about me sleeping with other people (Even though he was too), I have not touched anyone else since June! Please help me. I am miserable. I don’t know if she is still a rebound, I don’t know why he keeps going back between us both.

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:30 pm

I have something special coming up planned for this week that I feel will be really helpful for you.

Neema

December 2, 2013 at 6:07 pm

I dated my ex for 2 years .. we loved each other deeply .. there are many good memories but there are also bad ones .. as much as we loved each other we were always fighting, he was always jealous of every boy talking to me, he cried alot when he was afraid of losing me but after 1 and half year everything has changed .. there were many problems between us, I was always crying and shouting and he was careless .. so I left him but at the same time he was so sick and had some health problems
after 1 week exactly he dated another girl .. she loves him and he always flirt with her when we fight
we started talking again and he cried when I asked him if he still loves me and told me that I’ve hurted him when I left him
He told me also that he still loves me and wants to get back together but not now
I know it’s complicated .. but now he is so carless, he deleted me from whatsapp , mail and facebook
when I look in his eyes i feel that he still in love with me
but mostly I feel that he has moved on
when we were together he couldn’t stand 1 day without talking to me, but now he can
everything has gone but he is still jealous if someone talked to me
I don’t understand him , he told me once that he still wants me in his life but not now because I hurted him badly but at the same time I don’t feel that he loves me ! I feel like I don’t know him .. and he is always with his new girlfriend
I am sorry for this complicated comment xD
please help me
what should I do?

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:15 pm

I actually have something coming out late this week that will help you a lot I think.

stephanie

December 2, 2013 at 3:52 am

Hi I have a very sorted and painful story to tell. I hope you can offer me some great insight because I found your site very helpful! My ex and I were together for a year with some ups and downs but we talked of forever and a family. It was a stressful time of him being unemployed unexpectedly a week after moving in together that was the major strain. We broke up 4 weeks ago. A week later he went on a date gone wrong with a crazy girl that ended up physically assaulting him while they were driving back home. Of course he called me telling me he loved me and needed a friend. I allowed him to meet me and my friend out at a bar. He was overly affectionate physically as well as verbally. He came home with me that night. He held me in the morning and drove me to my car a little later. Before I got out he hugged, kissed and told me he loved me. That was the last time I saw him. He started a relationship with this psycho! I found out this week I’m 7 weeks pregnant! As any normal girl in love and pregnant would do I begged for him back. He has declined my every attempt. I’ve been speaking on the side with one of his best friends that believes we belong together and that things were not the way he is making them sound. He has been there to support me emotionally through this hell. I just want a family and I know that in 3 weeks he didn’t fall out of love with me! Nor do I believe he forgot about wanting forever with me. I believe he is hurt and angry but what can I do? Me and the friend decided it’d be best to quit talking to him and make him dwell on it. Can you offer me something to ease this pain?

admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:03 pm

Have you implemented the no contact yet?
stephanie

December 2, 2013 at 7:15 pm

Yes I have just seems like he would care a little more in this kind of situation.

Kelly

December 1, 2013 at 9:39 pm

Paul and I were together for three years and have a lot of good memories but also some really terrible ones. I’m in the modified no contact phase as of yesterday when I bought your book because we live together. He got together with a new woman less than a month after breaking up with me and seems head over heels for her. It feels like a rebound but I’m not sure, especially because he has a history of rebounding quickly and getting involved in a new long term relationship speedily. He started dating first wife two days after ending things with his high school sweetheart and they were together seven years, he started dating his second wife about a month after he left his first wife and they made it twelve years. He started dating me three days after his second wife kicked him out and we were together three years (hindsight being 20/20 I’m pretty certain I was a rebound but good enough to keep around for a while).

If you can, I’d like a rough idea of the odds that she’s a rebound girl.

admin

December 2, 2013 at 6:41 pm

How long has he been dating her and how long after you broke up did he start dating her?
Kelly

December 2, 2013 at 9:48 pm

They are moving in together. We are discussing when I should move out.
Kelly

December 2, 2013 at 7:27 pm

They’ve been together two and a half months and they got together about a month after we split.
admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:20 pm

So, I am going to say that they are in rebound territory BUT there are so many factors in it. Just wait it out for now. I do have something coming out this week/end that you need to keep an eye out for.

Carrie

December 1, 2013 at 1:30 pm

Hi Chris, I’d really apprecaite some advice. I broke up with my ex of 1.5 years about 2.5 months ago. We broke up because there were big trust issues and the relationship became very toxic. Looking back I did a lot of things wrong and I really want to get back together and give it a go doing the right things this time. It started with him not trusting me and then the tables turned and I stopped trusting him. In the end I became awful and needy and I regret my behaviour so much. I did all the crazy things you mention at the end – calling 10 times leaving abusive voicemail you name it I did it :/ I spoke to him 2 weeks ago and he was very very angry. He was yelling at me and bringing up all the hurtful things I did to him. He says he needs time and space and he is still very angry at me. I am 2 weeks into NC now. I have just found out he has a new girlfriend (who he has known all along) and I am terribly upset. I am scared the NC is going to push him toward her and make him forget about me. The NC ends on Christmas day – which, is also his birthday. He got together with her pretty quickly (within 2 months of breakup) and I hope it’s a rebound. When someone has met someone else does the NC just help them to move on? I don’t want to lose my chance. He is angry but I don’t want him to fall in love and forget about me. He says seeing me is too hard at the moment and ‘not a good idea’.

admin

December 1, 2013 at 7:07 pm

No it will have the oppisite effect. In fact, what usually happens is during NC you realize you don’t want them back. Once you have the attitude that you are willing to lose them THEY start chasing YOU!
Carrie

December 2, 2013 at 9:17 am

Hanging my head i shame today. I cracked this afternoon and sent him an email on the impulse. I was so angry bc I found out he took this girl to a party with mutual friends of mine on Friday. My email was pretty harsh and of course as soon as I sent it I regret it as I know he won’t reply to it. My email went along the lines of Hi…I found out you were dating this girl – you knew her all along – that’s why we broke up – you spoke a lot of crap – must have been seeing her when we were still together. And just to top it off I said I wouldn’t contact him again and that was it. So – I have to extend no contact past xmas and his bday now don’t I and start 1 month today? Man I’m an idiot. He just seems so happy and over it and I’m struggling so much. Anything else I can do apart from NC? I’m not sure he will even realise he’s so angry…thanks for your help (my friends and family are over it, so its tough not knowing what to do). I can’t imagine my life without him in it – things were so great once. Thanks.
admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:24 pm

Hold your head high. The fact that you are being so strong through this is amazing. NEVER forget that.

Lisa

December 1, 2013 at 5:45 am

can it be a rebound if he liked her before we broke up for about 4-5 months and my ex and me have been broken up for 2 months so his liked her since july and they finally did sexual stuff and nearly had sex in hong kong when he visited for 3 days… his dogging his friends and acting like a jerk and not caring about me at all… his a different person and everyone’s shocked and surprised at how changed he seems.

could this be love or infatuation or lust or rebound? they held hands… so they’re not friends with benefits. and can it be a rebound if he’s liked her for so long? and has been lying to everyone and even me, the real reason why we broke up because his heart liked someone else…

admin

December 1, 2013 at 6:54 pm

How long has he been dating her?
lisa

December 6, 2013 at 5:02 am

not going out but his probably liked her since august and likes her more now, but its not a rebound i think he generally likes her but im hoping its lust but it looks all too familiar like how him and me started but with us it was more innocent with them its different and not innocent because his 19 now and with me he was 16… and we were more clingy and puppy love..

when you got out of a long term relationship.. did you ever miss or think about your ex’s?(while single and in another relo) ? are you friends with any? can guys ever love their ex again or once its over.. its over forever
;( ????? did you ever feel like you still loved them after a while apart even with a new gf?
Lisa

December 1, 2013 at 5:57 am

We think they’re going out and hiding it from the world because my ex is acting like his in the honeymoon stage.. when you ignore everyone, his defending her more than me, dogging friends, lying to everyone. He is even changing, he is so whipped that he invited the girl back to his after movies and dinner after they made out to nearly have sex at his grandma’s place…..

how is there any hope? i don’t think there is. but why is he acting like a jerk, everyone is disappointed in him.. the girl is a *excuse language* whore, she even flirted with his friends saying “yeah, I liked you at the beginning too but we can be best friends now. and what if i can’t control myself when we go clubbing and we hook up randomly?” my ex’s friend said ” i don’t randomly hook up with girls” and she replied with “damn no hooking up with you ahaha:( ”

I MEAN COME ON… my ex doesn’t know but he will find out for himself, she’s a natural flirt.

what do you think I should do? and why is he acting like a jerk? she got inbetween us when she had a bf now that she got dumped shes with ex. help :'( explain his reasons for being a jerk, why is he changed? can it be love or lust?
admin

December 1, 2013 at 6:56 pm

Yes sometimes it takes some time for a guy to realize the person he is with is not who he thinks she is.
lisa

December 6, 2013 at 4:55 am

they aren’t going out yet… but yeah im just so hurt how his changed so much and doesn’t care and is moving on because he likes her… and she likes him but she was telling her friend who will hate her if her and my ex go out and how she hates “drama” and that might be a factor why she wont go out with him… but thats bullshit i know they will eventually go out in the next 2 months when he returns and has gotten over me even more… i don’t even come across his mind anymore… i bet… he is forgetting me i bet and is finally happy that all the stress and drama is gone.

but I don’t know what to do… I could wait and see what happens with them and how she might ruin it for herself or i could move on let go and if he comes back he will… is it true that his moving on better because he is getting distractions from this new girl and the old ex isnt as important and they nearly slept together but she felt bad afterwards it was the heat of the moment she said to my ex’s friend.

i just dont know what to do, is all hope lost? ive read your new post as well and he responses are neutral and he replies, he just told me he will talk to me like his old self when his ready to be my friend… so yeah i deleted his number and off facebook but yeah i even wrote him i know it was because you lost feelings for me and felt something for her thats why it was easy to let me go and he said it wasnt because of anyone it was because of our problems (excuses)
admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:57 pm

All hope is not lest yet. Be patinet I have something elpful coming out this weekend.
lisa

December 7, 2013 at 2:50 am

plus the new girl has so many advantages… shes new, she acts innocent even though shes a flirty, fake, manipulative person. she and him are same culture so same language and it would be easier for him i guess… his parents would like her im guessing and she could come over whenever and not have his parents hate him and lose trust in him…

How can I compete with a stress-free new girl when i look like the bad drama, parents not approving old ex? i feel he might be happy with her but she will hurt him… but have a feeling they will last a while because my ex will be caring, supportive and clingy at first (how he was with me) now his changing and acting all whipped… wish he would wake up.

🙁
admin

December 7, 2013 at 7:58 pm

Well, eventually those advantages will run out.
lisa

December 8, 2013 at 4:22 am

its just he was a child with me and now he is 19 and has different expectations and thought maybe being with someone that is same culture will be easier for him. do you think even if him and her go out, he’ll ever think about me? because it was nearly 3 yrs. we were eachothers first everything, just sad how she is getting my ex bf and how i guess they might be happier together.. he needs to realise her flaws himself but i guess because he likes her and is acting whipped he cant see…..
lisa

December 7, 2013 at 2:44 am

i understand but if we have problems and his parents not approving because of my lie i said 2 years ago that could be 50% of the issue the other 50% is he lost feelings and got them for her…

if you’ve liked a girl and had a crush on her for 3-4 months and finally admitted you like eachother after doing sexual stuff… why would you even think about your poor ex? do you simply miss her even if there is a new girl or you just don’t think about them anymore?

Jane

December 1, 2013 at 1:15 am

My ex and I broke up 34 days ago. He said he needed space to figure out his life. He didn’t know if this would be forever or not. I asked if there was someone else and he said no. I instantly started NC. I sent him a causal text on thanksgiving and he responded really positively. Then this morning he send me a text saying that he is seeing someone else and he didn’t want me to find out through Facebook. Sure enough this afternoon it is Facebook official. This is a rebound right? Not even 34 days and he has a new girlfriend? I’m so angry and hurt. What do I do? He wants to see me next weekend for coffee (we have to exchange some things). How do I act? Should I blow him off? I don’t want to seem so hurt that I can’t face him.

admin

December 1, 2013 at 6:30 pm

Well the point is to see him in person so if you get a chance I say take it but only if you feel the odds are in your favor.
Jane

December 1, 2013 at 7:30 pm

Odd that he’ll see me and realize its a mistake? I don’t know how to act. Should I pretend that I’m ok?
admin

December 2, 2013 at 6:33 pm

For now yes I think thats best.
Jane

December 3, 2013 at 1:52 am

Just small talk then? No relationship talk? Just be happy? I don’t want to say the wrong thing.
admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:45 pm

Perfect!

Sandra

November 30, 2013 at 3:14 am

So I have been lc with my ex. I text him happy Thanksgiving and I let my emotions get the best of me. He responded with” I miss you so much and I was thinking of you” I responded with ” I am moving on and wish you all the best” he responded ” ok…I respect your decision and know that I’m here to help you with anything you need. Know that I will always love you”
I responded ” thank you”
What should I do now he is living with a rebound.

admin

November 30, 2013 at 6:51 pm

I would go into NC and just keep focusing on YOU. Not a lot you can do at this stage.

Michele black

November 29, 2013 at 11:10 pm

This man is the love of my life. Living wih my now 13 yr old son for three years. We had a terrible year ( even HOMELESS together) I did the no contact 3 weeks after breakup for two weeks and successful the 2 nd time. it’s been two month I’m sure he’s rebound relationship and he TEXED ME day after thanksgiving. WHAT DO I DO WHILE HE IS REBOUNDING? Chris, I love your site but I Cant AFFORED yourPRO,… So PLEASE advise me!!! Thank you so much in advance!

admin

November 30, 2013 at 4:56 am

Contact me here: [email protected]

and we will see what we can do about making PRO affordable for you.

Michelle Paez

November 27, 2013 at 5:03 am

I read the entire post on rebounds and I am in desperate need of advise. I recently came out of a 9 year relationship (marriage) and my still husband is already seeing someone else. Is she a rebound? I would like to think she is. Heres the story, we were great in the beginning super and then there was cheating on both parts. not physical i guess we both went out searching for time and attention. well after that we were still together had our 3rd kid after all that. a year after that there was a lot of trust issues and problems started more often. we tried working it out and things seemed to be fine for some time and then they would go back to the same thing. he feel like he was never good for me or that i am simply looking for someone else. everytime it would arise i would tell him otherwise. he is who i love. so one day just last month i had asked him to lay down with me and he did but he was acting weird and he told me it was me. 2 weeks before that he picked a fight out of no where i didnt think much of it. well the day that i told him to lay next to me he asked if he could sleep in the living room becaus he didnt feel comfortable. i said ok fine i told him i wasnt going to force him to be next to me. before all of this we had talked about really wanting to fix our marriage and moving on fresh start sort of thing. well after the night insident he came around a few hours later accusing me of being on the phone with another guy and that that was ther reason he felt “weird” he “knew” something was going on when in reality it was nothing i wasnt even on my phone. he took his stuff that same night and left. he said he didnt want anything to do with me that i had cheated the story goes on . well not even 2 weeks after he posted a picture of this new girl kissing and calling her his girl friend. he demanded us to get a divorce. when i found out about the picture he told me all about it and said it was NOTHING serious. that the kiss wasnt a kiss but a “peck” which then i thought why the hell post it right? he labeled her as his GF and he told me that she wasnt that he wanted to get to know her first and talk that he wanted that relationship to start good. he later told me that she is the siter of his best friends wife!!! WTF…so i was thinking maybe he already had her lined up like you mentioned he told her “his” version of what happened and why he left and he said that she was fine with it and she doesnt mind that he has kids. I mean this chick new he was or still is married. im sure she doesnt know that up until he actually left he was still telling me that he wanted to work things out. even when he told me about her he said he loved me but…that she is the one that gives him butterflies and makes him smile ( then what the hell was he putting up a show for if we were ok, or so i though) he says that she is what he needs and wants but is over here giving me explanations that i am not asking for. he feels like hes in cloud nine but when he looks at me he still has “the look” he looks hurt and it seems like he wants to push into this relationship as quickly as possible. plus its not like he can just call it off and take back the comments he posted it is the “sister” of the friends wife after all. Is it possible that she is a rebound or the real thing? now he says he doesnt want to go back to ours because it will be the same thing that we had going on in this past year but then why talk about fixing it and giving it a real shot? he is a wreck emotionally and mentally we have the divorce which he’s lagging on and he tells me its urgent for him to get it over with. he has nothing to really offer her and im assuming she knows this. i feel like he left to the friends house told them that i was “cheating” and that i no longer cared for him and took him for granted and they are encouraging his new relationship with her. he’s doing things that he wouldnt do with me bc they werent ok he looks like total shit in other words. but he’s posting that he feels great and that this girl is the one thank for. is it that he is just using her for that honeymoon moment because is something that he wasnt getting from me or is she the real deal? PLEASE help me!! Thnak you.

admin

November 27, 2013 at 8:08 pm

Have you read this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-husband-back/

amand

November 26, 2013 at 7:46 pm

Please help as I have made the biggest mistake and had sex with my ex. He told me that he loved me still after being separated for 4months and he wants to try and see how things would be between us. My hopes were so high thinking we would get back together but after only about a week of being together he tells me that he thinks he wants to remain single but only have after sex with me just 24hrs before telling me. I am so upset because I feel like he used me only for sex. I went completely into no contact mode and have ignored his calls. It has been 2weeks w/o contact. So he texted me yesterday about my team losing a game and I just ignored him. Please help me why does he still want contact with me after breaking my heart and telling me he doesn’t want to be back together. Why won’t he just leave me alone because he is sending me mixed messages.

admin

November 27, 2013 at 7:11 pm

Just keep in NC
amanda

November 27, 2013 at 8:03 pm

Ok so when he texts me happy thanksgiving do I ignore that as well?
admin

November 28, 2013 at 5:10 am

If you are in NC then yes you do.

maya

November 25, 2013 at 9:12 am

Would it be hard for him to forget me? Considering I’m the first girl he said I love you to and his first serious relationship? And dumpers need to heal too? I thought they would be happy out of the relationship

admin

November 25, 2013 at 8:16 pm

yes it would be very hard. I mean, I remember my first love to this day. I met her on a cruise ship and man was she pretty…

Ahh… good times.

Lisa

November 25, 2013 at 3:54 am

he also came to my birthday dinner and everyone said i looked amazing, he just looked sad, uncomfortable and maybe guilty in a way? im not sure but we didn’t have a full on conversation but we did exchange some words… sigh 🙁

i don’t know what to do… he won’t forget me even if he is with her and if i look more attractive than what he remembers is that good? seeing your ex after 2 months and she looks hotter but you have a new gf at this time and you and your ex are friends… would you ever get back with your ex?

help 🙁

admin

November 25, 2013 at 8:00 pm

Yes it is very good if you look more attractive.

And I might if I wasn’t feeling the new girl emotionally too much.

Lisa

November 25, 2013 at 3:51 am

if your ex might be in a rebound relationship, what do you do if she got dumped 3 weeks ago but when she was getting close to my ex bf she liked him and told his friend even when my ex and me were together and having problems. So let’s say they are getting close now and getting emotionally connected but they wont see each other for 2 months both away on holiday, what can i do to know it’s a rebound? and if it isn’t a rebound how can i get him back when she is the same culture, her parents are from hong kong too, she would be allowed in his house probably with no drama and making it easier for him… so i would then have 0% chance.. what do i do to get him back if he has moved on from me and the idea of us??

admin

November 25, 2013 at 7:59 pm

So, there is an issue with the parents? I am a little confused.
lisa

November 26, 2013 at 11:19 am

yes im the same person with the parents not approving me because of the lie i said..but my ex made it clear to move on, he doesn’t want to try get back he said stop asking all these what if questions just drop everything and move on i dont care what happens in the future at the moment ok? then he said stop thinking we can back together we’ll be friends when were both ready…

all hope is lost isn’t there? We all know he has a thing for this new girl and she likes him and his seeing her when he goes to hong kong but they aren’t going out just a crush they both have i think… what would you do? just move on.. i deleted him off everything and tonight when he goes ill stop messaging i guess but he said dont think about future.. but how does he know we cant get back together… i guess his parents approval is really important and he has a feeling we cant try again because of our problems and his had enough of drama etc…

what would you do? 🙁 its ok be honest i know i need to move on.. but what else can i do?

moo

November 24, 2013 at 11:13 am

Hey need some advice, me and my ex where together for 3 years on and off he also brought up my son. We split up 3 months ago due to us arguing and me accusing him of fancying other girls my mum had passed away also and put a strain on our relationship. I did no contact then I eventually texted him to apologise for all the hurt I had caused him. He replied that he didnt want to contact me as he didnt want to give me the wrong impression. We where on talking terms for about a week and then I received a message off him telling me to leave him alone and to delete his number, I asked why and he never replied, I was told that a friend of mine told him that I wanted him so I guess he thinks I had a hidden agenda. After that night he all of a sudden has a date and according to friends hes smitten. I feel as though I meant nothing to him to move on so quickly. Any advice I love this guy and want him back. Is this rebound?

admin

November 24, 2013 at 8:07 pm

It certianly looks like a rebound. Are you doing NC.

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