How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If HE Broke Up With You

1,328 thoughts on “He Broke Up With You And Now You Want Him Back”

Courtney

January 28, 2014 at 3:01 am

My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me saying he felt that staying in a relationship didn’t allow him to experience what he wanted, completely out of the blue. The breakup was a long drawn out affair with over a week of trying to get him to see my side and to figure out what to do next through messaging. The other night i had enough and said for him to contact me when he is ready to talk and i said i would wait for a month for him to come back. But he didn’t respond with okay, just that it probably wouldn’t happen. Now looking back the whole week i looked pretty desperate, can i use the NC rule now to try and win him back, or have i already ruined it by playing the desperate ex?

admin

January 28, 2014 at 6:23 pm

You can use it for sure.

Tina

January 27, 2014 at 10:21 am

He broke up with me three weeks ago and am still following NC rule till next month. But 1st of February is his birthday. So I like him to listen to happy birthday song over the phone by using another mobile number.But am not going to speak with him just going to play the recorded song. Actually I want him to remember me. Is it ok if I do so as it is his birthday? or is it ok if I use my own mobile number for this?
Please advice me regarding this.

kelly

January 29, 2014 at 11:26 am

my ex boyfriend ended a four month relationship with me two weeks ago i am finding it hard to acept as we didnt have a fight or anything we were so in love with each other and very happy till just after chrimas when he just stoped talking to me that is when the fighting began as i wanted to know what i had done wrong
then two weeks ago he finally told me through texting that his ex girlfriend has moved back into their house and she wants him back he sed he still loves ma but he also loves her too
ive tried to not text him as it is too painfull for me as i still love him very much he wants to be friends but i dont think i can just be friends with him i just want him back in my life and to be happy like we was before christmas
i just dont kow what to do

Jessica

January 25, 2014 at 1:46 pm

please please I really need help.I feel like I’m numb with out him.he ditched me 2months ago.we were together for like 4years.he says he doesn’t want me to leave.but Still he says he doesn’t want a relationship.I’m not able to move on..though I want to :(.I want him back but still I don’t know.
Jessica

January 25, 2014 at 1:41 pm

🙁
Daisy

January 24, 2014 at 5:22 am

So it has been 7 days since my ex left me. We met online and well we talked and things were just great from the very beinning. We ended up meeting and he was just so handsome and like a great match for me. He made me laugh and was concerned for me and very understanding to my every need and when i couldn’t go out to see him. So we liked eachother alot and he ended up asking me out on black friday. thats when he met my mom and that weekend i met his dad. i know it was fast but it seemed like i had knew him my whole life. H

admin

January 24, 2014 at 6:25 pm

Isn’t this a good thing?

Alexsandra

January 23, 2014 at 4:39 am

So me and my boyfriend of almost 2 months just broke up on the 3rd of Jan 2014 and its the 22nd of Jan now. I know I may look like a fool because I’m discussing this through the internet but I’ve fell in love with him too fast I know that, But the thing is 2 months or not I’ve always felt a connection with him since I’ve known him since 2 years ago. And he’s been the best boyfriend to me. So let me tell you why we broke up, He and I are both 18 one month apart and my parents are a little strict as in no guys in the house. And his are worse they make him go home early and he can barely see me because he had to be with them because they wouldn’t let him out as much. He’s in college and he told me that there doing it for the better. And like last week I’ve told him to tell them off tell them your grown and can do what you want. So he broke up with me because he felt like he wasn’t being the best boyfriend that he wanted to be for me I think thats bullshti but it may not be for him because I’ve spoken to our mutual friends and they say he didn’t break up with me because of me but because of the situation he is in. He doesn’t want me to be upset because we could barely see each other and I understand that. But I just want him back I want what we had back and I’d do anything to have him back but when I tried last week I obviously failed since im resorting for public opinions, It sucks but I honestly don’t know what to do because he said we have a future together but what if i can’t wait that long?
What to do?

January 22, 2014 at 4:00 am

So I started talking in October and before that we were just friends. It was great, the relationship was balanced I was always happy. He asked me out in December, he told me he could see us together for a long time even though I was going to college and wouldnt see him for awhile only on breaks really. He said he could do it. We went on school break and dont see each other for a little while and suddenly everything changes and he says he cant do this type of relationship or make this type of commitment anymore. He said it wasn’t me, he just wasn’t ready. But I really want us to work out what do i do? Plus he seems to have already moved on with someone else..though its being said that hes just staying single for awhile. So single with a girl…confused and tired of being so. I just want him back.

Alexsandra

January 23, 2014 at 5:17 am

Thats the exact same situation I’m in, My boyfriend and I have recently broken up because he couldn’t deal with not seeing me and not making me as happy as he wants me to be. But In my heart I feel like he’s the one for me which is why I’m patiently waiting for him to come along. I know its silly of me to do so but if you really want to be with someone that bad, you’d do anything so just let him be for a while and then you can see if he wants you back , don’t make any contact don’t tell any of his friends about your feelings nothing. Just keep it to yourself and he’ll come along. Thats what I’m doing now. I know the questions can be a killer because we don’t want them to end up with someone else that has a chance of being better, but see if he does end up with someone else he’ll come back because he will start to miss you and then try to get you back. Once he’s there clinging on to you, you make him wait.
What to do?

January 29, 2014 at 4:00 am

he doesn’t even seem like he wants me back. Im pretty sure hes over me and that his attention is else where. He barely says hi to me, never texts me and there really isn’t any opportunity to make him wait. It looks like im just doing all the waiting which sucks.

Rebecca

January 19, 2014 at 5:52 pm

I have been in no contact with my ex for 10 days. When he left me over text for being too emotional I said he was a coward and that he has to meet me so I can have my say. He reluctantly agreed and he is coming to my house this friday. It will have been two weeks no contact. I really don’t want to break my no contact rule and I definetly don’t want to see him. I have been getting stronger and my head has been getting clearer. I no longer want to see him so I can shout at him. The problem is…do I contact him to cancel? Or do I not message him and then he may just turn up? He might think I am not interested if I cancel on him but he’s probably spent the week getting prepared for an argument with me and is probably in an irritated mood. What do I do? My idea atm was to text him and say…hey chris, I wouldn’t have much time to see you tonight as I’ve been invited out for dinner. I hope you dont mind but Im going to have to cancel. Have a good night!
What do you think?? I want him to be a bit jealous and tbh it’s not a lie, he knows I get asked out a lot.
Anon

January 18, 2014 at 7:40 pm

Hi Chris 🙂 So, this might be a little long but I’m really interested in what you have to say. My boyfriend and I were together for very nearly nine months, and for about 90% of the time we were very happy and satisfied with each other. We rarely fought and when we did, it wasn’t severe where we’d stop talking or anything. I felt loved and cared for and I hope he felt the same. We broke up on the 8th of December (well he broke up with me), using the it’s not you it’s me excuse and also, as I found out later, he said he just didn’t feel it anymore and while he cares about me, he hasn’t texted me or called me or made a real effort to speak to me since then. I did the bad thing and became a pretty terrible text gnat, pulling the tears and sadness guilt thing for the first two weeks or so whenever we’d text, and then I decided after a lackluster “Happy new years” text and after finding this wonderful website, to go on NC. I’ve been doing this for 18 days now, and he smiles at me and waves in the halls and I just ignore him really. I’ve heard through mutual friends that he isn’t reaching out to me because he just wants me to move on, but I still have strong feelings for him. Everyone around me basically is telling me to just move on and forget about him but honestly I just can’t. I want to know if there’s still hope left and what I should do, as I’ve also heard he’s not focusing on girls right now at all, no rebounds that I know of. What should I do? Thanks for reading all this. 🙂
Sally

January 15, 2014 at 5:50 pm

After thirty days of no contact my boyfriend texted me wants to have dinner this week. My friend had told him I started dating again which I did and I just didnt like any of them and missed my boyfriend. He found out and asked if he was too late saying he made a mistake and wish he hadnt ended things. Chris I am nervous and excited but scared of getting hurt. We are going to catch up and talk what would be the best way for me to handle this dinner date and when we talk how do I tell him I am afraid of getting hurt without acting emotional. I had all these texts planned for my thirty days but he beet me to it and already wants another shot.
Thanks for the advice on how I should ask him? You book has helped me out a lot too! I’m past the thirty days and now it’s really happening!
Anna

January 15, 2014 at 5:29 am

My ex of 3.5 years left me when I caught him cheating on me. He made his relationship official with this new girl about a week after we broke up. He has since had a couple of friends try and contact me and was acting extremely jealous when he found out I had slept with someone else a month after our breakup posting how glad he was that he left me and how in love he is with his new girlfriend of less than a month. Is this relationship just a rebound and is there a chance that he could come back? I have not made any contact with him for 2 weeks and do not plan on it unless he initiates the contact but I really would like to salvage and strengthen our relationship if possible as we have a child together
Ann

January 13, 2014 at 7:54 pm

How do you get someone back if they are very indecisive and don’t know what they want but they like you?

admin

January 14, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Just really get them to like you so much that they have no choice but to try to want you back.
Ann

January 15, 2014 at 12:32 am

Ok, what kinds of things should I do. He only becomes indecisive when stressful things come up and then he will pull away wanting to be friends? But this time we are really broken up cause I told him I can’t. We are both going through a tough time right now and this time we aren’t anything? So what are some examples of things I could do?

Michelle

January 10, 2014 at 11:43 pm

Ok so it’s been three weeks since my boyfriend and I broke up. I’ve tried doing no contact but it has been hard. I need to start. He said he really likes me a lot but we broke up because he can’t be in a relationship right now because his dad just walked out on his family and he is sticking around to help his mom out. I told him I can’t be friends with him right now and we agreed that’s its best to not talk. We were together for 5 months so many good memories. I feel like I could have pushed him further away by trying to reach out to him. I messed up by trying to talk to him and he isn’t talking right now to me. I really miss him. Is there a possiblity to get him back and did I mess up by texting him so much? I hope not cause I want him back. I know right now he is going through a lot and is really depressed as well

Michelle

January 10, 2014 at 11:45 pm

What would be the best way to get him back since he is busy focusing on helping his family and being there for his mom? Maybe do no contact but then be suooortive as well?
Lissa

January 14, 2014 at 8:42 am

In this case, if you are sure he didn’t break up with you to date someone else, I would go Limited Contact (LC) if you were close to his family, and offer support, even if it’s just emotional. Tell him you are sure this time is hard on him, and that you can lend him an ear if he needs someone to talk to. Just don’t get too pushy… I’ve learned that guys HATE that.

Kate

January 9, 2014 at 7:52 pm

My ex broke up with me a month ago we had dated for around 2 months, we met at a party and i barely spoke to him and then the very next day he was asking me on a date and more dates followed after that. Everything was going so well we became really close and a few weeks after dating he had told me about how when we met at the party the next morning he had woken up and just had this ‘gut feeling’ that i was ‘the one’. So of course remembering back to when he told me this i was very confused as to why he broke up with me.. His excuse was the typical ‘It’s not you its me’ crap.. He was my first bf and i was his first gf too.. Anyways so 2 weeks ago my friend was at my house and she sent everyone on snapchat a photo of me with a penis next to my mouth and of course she sent it to him he sent me a snapchat at 11pm saying um what? i didnt respond to this and then i get a text at 11:30pm saying ‘are you alright’ after not speaking to me 2 weeks since the break up of course im very confused here.. I ask him why that even matters to him the conversation lasts for two hours till 1:30am the next morning.. I took my time responding around 10-15 minutes each text and he seemed to notice that.. He even sent me 4 texts within a minute while i was thinking of a response ‘You seem to be taking your time replying hahahaha’ and ‘im tired’ etc.. Oh and did i mention he even said ‘you look nice in your cover photo btw’ which i had recently uploaded onto fb that night. When i told him that he seemed to have no care in the world and it was great he seemed to be getting over the break up quickly he responded with ‘Why dwell on it?’ ‘You seem to be more over it than me tbh…’ and i said what makes you think that? he responded with ‘sending me a photo of you with a penis and love heart by your mouth?’ he seemed to bring this photo up A LOT and seemed to act quite annoyed about it like it was somehow effecting him? I havent spoken to him since so its been 2 weeks i decided to start NO CONTACT with him what do you think this means and what are my chances now? Do i contact him after 30 days is over or do i wait for him to contact me?

admin

January 10, 2014 at 2:25 am

Usually you take the reigns and contact him!
Kate

January 11, 2014 at 11:37 pm

Okay so i just read your response (thank you so much for responding!!) so do i just contact him after the no contact period is up so maybe in the next two weeks probably when school starts for me cause hes going away on holiday and will be back at end of jan or do i just contact him in the next few days? Also should my text be something like ‘hey how are ya?’ or do i stick to the first contact text template you set out in one of your guides? Thanks!

Justice

January 7, 2014 at 1:19 am

My boyfriend and I started dating our sophomore year and he recently broke up with me almost a month ago (it is now our senior year). He says he still loves me and cares for me and plans to get back with me later, but he insists he’s STILL not ready…and I’ve always contacted him first. I’m afraid to stop contacting him for fear of him leaving me. We were so in love, we had so many plans for our future. We were arguing a lot and I was naggy and clingy, but before that’s what he liked. Now he says he needs time still to make himself more of a man and deal with family issues. I feel like it’s just a dumb excuse. I don’t know what to do. Help?

admin

January 7, 2014 at 6:44 pm

Are you going to do anything like NC?
Angela

January 8, 2014 at 9:27 am

admin you haven’t said anything about my case.. he texted me yesterday and the day before just to ask how am I doing and I did not reply. but then he just went quiet.. I do need an input on it

Angela

January 6, 2014 at 6:11 am

Hi, my boyfriend of 10months left me 2days ago. On the 15 of December we were on holiday and he has been acting weird so I asked him what was wrong. at first he did not want to talk about it then told me the spark had died amd he wanted to be alone for a while.I was too sad and he then said he needed time to think. 3weeks later, which was 2days ago, he said he hasn’t changed his mind. I wished him well amd straight away started NC. He texted later that day saying he wants to remain friends to which I did not reply.
I love that man with all I have. Do you think there is a chance for me to get back?
Thank you

Angela

January 6, 2014 at 7:13 am

During the 3weeks he was away, he left his car with a girl that I suspect he is interested in snd she went to fetch him at the airport. the day he broke up with me he was on her Facebook page and she sent him a message on that 15 December that she always liked him more than a friend and wanted more. soy guess is she is the reason why he stopped with me.
Looking at it it seems hopeless but I want your honest input. Thanks

Nadia

January 5, 2014 at 3:00 pm

If the guy don’t want to talk about it reason- how do you digg into it?
Hmm the cheating reason “horny” isnt quiet true. You cant say that
Ces

January 2, 2014 at 6:54 am

Hi.My ex and I have been together for almost 4 years. We got separated last July because I had to stay in Costa Rica and he had to come back here in the US. He broke up with me in August and we got back together again a few days after that. While he was waiting for me, he started hangin’ out with his ex-gf which worried me. He told me that I shouldn’t worry because nothing is gonna happen. I believed him. October came. I wasn’t able to contact him for a good 3 weeks because I travelled by land. He sent me all these messages on facebook saying that he miss me, that he’s sorry he can’t travel with me, that he’s worried why I haven’t contacted him at all. He also said that he loves me. Three days after his last message, I sent him a message saying that I am back (he is in Atlanta and I am here in Cali). I called him, he said he needs space, he said that I should call him after Thanksgiving. I asked him if there’s somebody else…he said that he is fine by himself and he does not want to be dependent with anybody right now. I did called him again after thanksgiving… No answer. I checked out his ex-gf’s facebook and there it was.. the picture of him and her. Nothing on his facebook page tho. I immediately sent him a message and until now.. no reply. I saw another picture of him and this girl.. I emailed him and I demanded an explaination. No reply.

I love him so much. If I don’t, I would’ve never stayed with him from the get go. I deleted him on my facebook. If he really is seeing this girl (which is his ex),and i stop contacting him( i just contacted him last night to greet him and her a happy new year and that i will be waiting for him to reply whenever he’s ready)… is there still a chance for us? I want my man back but how is it possible when he is ignoring me? Does he think about me? Four years of relationship is hard to forget… at least for me. What should I do? Is he in a rebound relationship? I am dying here.

admin

January 2, 2014 at 6:35 pm

Read this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-know-if-your-ex-boyfriend-is-in-a-rebound-relationship-how-long-will-it-last/

K

January 1, 2014 at 9:59 pm

My boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me. We lived together for 5.5 years and have/had a dog together. I made some mistakes over a year ago and told a few lies about something small, but he found out and let it warp every issue we ever had and nearly broke up with me then but agreed to go to counseling with me. After a year of counseling he agreed to sign a lease and move into a new place with me… But then bailed at the last minute ( 4 weeks left until we moved) I was devastated, but he kept saying he still wanted to be with me and we continue therapy…. All of the sudden 3 weeks later he said he was done. That he loves me, that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him, but that he has things he needs to work on by himself.

We saw each other on and off for about a month after that…. But fighting because of the hurt always seemed to happen. Now I’m pregnant – which is supposed to be basically impossible for me due to fertility issues and he said he will support me in whatever I choose to do but will not be I a significant relationship with me again. When I asked what he meant by that he said he does not intend to live with me, date me, or marry me. I asked why and he said it was because we are not compatible and he feels it in his core. The differences we have are primarily related to him as his inability to commit, etc. He still says I’m amazing and that he loves me and that leaving me was one of the most difficult things he’s had to do but he needed to be selfish. He also said he doesn’t want me to move on, but that I should because he has no intention of going back to therapy on his own right now and I shouldn’t keep myself for him. The only people he spends time with are people who encourage him to stay away and I am heartbroken. We both agreed that abortion was out of the picture but he does not want to be a father. I offered to get an attorney to draft paperwork for him to give up his parental rights and he’s thinking about it. We used to be best friends. He’s wonderful, even with his flaws.. What do I do to get him back? Is it even possible? He says he’s not seeing anyone and doesn’t want to for at least 6 months because he’s still in love with me.
cookie

January 1, 2014 at 11:39 am

So the bf and I were together a couple months and broke up in october. I did the no contact rule and didnt speak to him for 30 days and it worked! I contacted him first and he replied and wanted to catch up. We spoke all through december and things seemed to be going well until i started getting jealous again and tried to talk about it and he called me crazy and told me to leave him alone and was being quite mean. Do i try the no contact rule again? I really feel like things are done this time and he hates me. But it has worked once, will it work again? Thanks.

cookie

January 1, 2014 at 11:40 pm

I’m not sure if my first message worked or not
admin

January 2, 2014 at 6:26 pm

First message?
cookie

January 2, 2014 at 12:19 pm

Now he has deleted me on face book. He really hates me.. will NC work again?
admin

January 2, 2014 at 6:40 pm

It can.

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