How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Him- Advice & Help

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Theresa

October 19, 2020 at 12:40 am

Cheated on my sons dad while he was away in jail for 2 years . When he found out he left me and went to my childhood friend for comfort and ended up sleeping with him thinking it would make my depression go away. I thought it did for a while, I started treating my sons dad like I didn’t care about him and he came back but I continued to see my friend as he was physically there we spent most of our time out rather then sex for 3 months. Then it stopped. My sons dad got out and asked have I been with someone else. I was honest . Since then he stayed around to be a family but he told me he did not want a relationship. He became cold and distant . Now we are off and on good and bad terms, The longest we have been away from each other is 2-3 weeks and this has been going on for 3 months now. I haven’t successfully tired the 30 day no contact . The longest I did was 4 days only about the kid and he would continue to call and tell me sweet things until I gave in. Now he is back living at my place , I cook every night , stay home with the baby. I do everything right to prove my love. Sometimes he’s sweet then sometimes I feel things trigger him to what I have done. Why does he continue to be around me and live with me if he does not want a relationship? I regret everything so much . We planned to get married Before he went to jail , but now that hasn’t been on his mind. He gave promises of giving me one so I can stay with him and now he denies that he has ever said it and does not want to ever get married. he would come home with flowers for me and help around the house. Just do a lot of things to show his love and appreciation. I know he has been with different girls i don’t know how many and it hurts to know that when he goes out that’s what he may be doing. Although, we are no together. He still sleeps in my bed every night. I just wish he could see the good all I have provided and done for him up until now I was there. It’s like he doesn’t see that . He says he still loves me but that is not enough. I’m afraid my chances back with him may be low. I may be viewed as his sons mother forever.
Mitchell

October 17, 2020 at 4:29 pm

On the beginning of the year I cheated on my boyfriend and since I felt alot of guilt I decided to tell him everything…he was hurt but we still went on dating. I started flirting through text s with various guys and he found out. He started changing the way he treated me but we were still together ..I felt he was becoming distant and I realised that I really love him until July this year we decided to part ways but I feel I need him more than before…I did the no contact thing and I missed him more than before…what do I do to get him back. I love him alot

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 19, 2020 at 11:26 pm

I would suggest that you think about why you feel the need to flirt and text other guys when you are in a relationship with someone you say you love. There is something you are lacking to make you look for attention from else where. I would suggest that you end your relationship and work on yourself for some time as you do not love someone if you are willing to cheat on them again after having a second chance.

Lauren

September 29, 2020 at 10:36 pm

I’m in a long distance relationship and Im away at college and I cheated last night I feel extremely guilty and terrible. The next morning I told him because I felt like he deserved the truth. He is heartbroken. We have been dating for a year and talked about marriage and we barely fought or anything. I don’t want to loose him. I love him very much. What can I say to prove myself and to make him feel better.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 4, 2020 at 9:15 pm

Hi Lauren I would say that you need to be patient with your boyfriend and give him some time to process how he feels right now. IF he chooses to end the relationship you have to accept this and go into a No Contact for at least 30 days before reaching out again

Luna

September 16, 2020 at 7:05 pm

Hi, back in 2016 I cheated on my ex bf during my 2 weeks vacation in Philippines. I love still love him soo much after 4 yrs, but because of my strict mom forced me to date different guy, I had to break up with my ex. How do I win him back?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 16, 2020 at 7:33 pm

Hi Luna, I understand it is hard when you have a parent who is controlling, but remember it is YOUR life so you need to also do what is going to make you happy on some level! I would suggest that you reach out to your ex and start a conversation and see if there is a connection there again. Use the articles to help you understand the styles of texting you need to be reaching out with

Grace

September 15, 2020 at 4:10 am

I have been with my now ex boyfriend for about a year. A friend set us up at college and it has been the best, strongest relationship. We both love each other so much and were truly so happy every time we were together. We tackled distance for a bit during quarantine and still made it work. Over this summer I became friends with this guy from an online class and the friendship grew very quickly. We texted throughout the day and night and had phone calls too. But I never saw it more than a friendship because I had a boyfriend and my friend knew that. It really upset my boyfriend that we were talking so much because he thought there was something more, as in me liking him, when there never was. I told him I would stop and he trusted that. It didn’t stop because I did not know how because it was just a friendship. I ended up going to meet my friend in person for the first time because I did not want to continue a friendship that had no in person connection. I did this behind my boyfriends back when I should have told him about it. When I was there a kiss happened then I left. I was so surprised I didn’t know what to think. I called my boyfriend right after and still did not tell him what I did when I should have but he somehow already knew. Everything was fine until I saw my boyfriend a few days ago and he confronted me about the trip. At first I did lie and say it wasn’t true which was wrong. Then I confessed what happened and he read my messages between me and the guy and my best friend as well. He also texted the guy friend after I gave the number about the visit and that’s how he found out about the kiss. Once he found out about the kiss my boyfriend was so betrayed and could not believe I cheated on him. I tried telling him that it was nothing because it was nothing and because all trust is gone he did not believe me. I should have been honest and straight forward but I wasn’t I just kept lying. He is obviously very hurt and yet still wants to be friends. We have talked everyday and I even sat down and wrote out what happened truly and why I lied and went to visit him behind his back. Also after that I unadded and blocked the guy friend on everything. After I read that to him he still was very hurt about the text messages and said that he does not want to get my hopes up and think we are going to get back together. he told me we will not date ever again which hurts yet we agreed to take it day by day as friends to gain trust back. I know he said that he does not want to date again but I feel like just said that because he is hurt at the moment. I told him that you never know how we will feel in a few months or a year. I told him if our relationship was that strong we could work this out but he does not want to, for him cheating crossed the line. I want him back so badly and I love him so much what should I do or what can I do to get my person back?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 4, 2020 at 7:03 pm

Hi Grace, it really is difficult to gain someone’s trust back once broken and this is possibly something that is going to take time. This also includes not speaking to the guy you kissed again either as clearly your ex was worried for a reason. I suggest that you give your ex some time to calm down and read about the holy trinity on this website and how to get your ex investing into talking to you again. This process can take time so you are going to have to learn to be patient

Leslie

September 8, 2020 at 3:36 pm

I cheated on my bf with my ex but it wasn’t super serious but he was hurt And he broke up with me and found someone else he was interested in within two days even though he told me later on he wants to TRY but then tell me he doesn’t want to anymore now idk what to do because I don’t wanna give up, he’s scared I’ll hurt him again and I know I won’t
Lydia

September 3, 2020 at 8:18 pm

I’m Just scared cause I hurt him so much and I don’t want him to leave me cause I love him so much I don’t even know what to do , I have never seen him this hurt before and I did that

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 6, 2020 at 11:01 am

Hi Lydia, so if you’ve hurt him you do not mention what your actions were. So, based on what little information I have I would say that you need to work on 30 days NC where you focus on yourself and be sure not to repeat actions that hurt your ex. Then reach out after those 30 days understanding that your ex may still be angry / hurt so it can take time to get them talking to you again

Yen

August 12, 2020 at 12:49 pm

Hi I cheated on my bf by talking to other guy but its just casual chatting no affair involve, but he found out and now we broke up I still love him and I want to make up for my mistakes but he does not contact me anymore.
Maddy

August 12, 2020 at 12:26 am

I was with my boyfriend for 1.5 years and since January I’ve been feeling really neglected by him. I always loved being with him but he just seemed too comfortable and stopped trying. We went 7 months without having sex and that drove me nuts. He said he “didn’t have time.” During the quarantine we didn’t see each other and I hooked up with a guy. I deeply regret it and tried to take it to the grave. Once quarantine was over my boyfriend and I finally had sex. Turns out the guy I hooked up with gave me chlamydia so I passed it onto my boyfriend and he obviously broke up with me. I want him back so badly. I promised myself I would never make that same mistake again and I want to make things right with my ex but I’m scared he’s done with me. He did say that maybe we can be friends in the future which seems like a good sign. I just don’t know if he can recover from that. Is there a way for me to make him understand that what I did was a cry for help bc I felt neglected? If we get back together I don’t want him making the same mistakes again either. I also don’t know what to say once the 30 days are up. How do I start that first conversation?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 15, 2020 at 3:22 pm

Hey Maddy, there are many articles and videos to help you how to start a conversation with your ex, make sure you read through a few or watch a few before reaching out to your ex

SANDRA

July 20, 2020 at 10:50 am

I cheated on my boyfriend in the past ever since then it has been hell for me, he always accuse me of cheating and always accuses me of masturbation too which am clearly dont doing…. I have owned up to my mistake in the past many times he will not still stop accusing me now am confused i dont know what to do again !!! I NEED ADVICE PLEASE I REALLY LOVE HIM AND I DON’T WANT TO LOSE HIM…PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 25, 2020 at 8:10 pm

Hi Sandra, the issue is that your ex is now paranoid and does not trust you. This is something that you need to sit and discuss with him. If he can not trust you then the relationship is never going to work no matter what you do. He needs to choose to put this behind him or walk away

Joy Cee

July 10, 2020 at 4:15 pm

I do not really cheat on my boyfriend, we had issue and we do not talk to each other for a month, then during this process his friend asked me out. And I told his friend that it will be foolish of me to date you knowing that you’re my boyfriend friend even if we are no longer together again I can’t fate you because you are his friend and you guys are staying in the same room. So later on I and my boyfriend come back together again, my boyfriend friend was shocked seeing us together again. Later the next day that my boyfriend friend called me on phone that “hope all his conversation with me are save? And I asked him why he say so!! Then he reply that he wouldn’t want my boyfriend to notice that he asked me out, that let us assume it does not happen, because if he found out it, it will not be funny. He never new that I’m recording the call, and even I have vomited every to my guys that very night we come back together. So what am saying is this, i and my boyfriend come back again at that time, then later somethings came up that let my guy friend get to find out that I’ve disclosed everything to my boyfriend on how he ask me out, you remember earlier that when i mention he said it’s not gonna be funny if he found out. So I don’t know what lies he says to my boyfriend because they are staying together. So that was how my boyfriend go mudy on me, he doesn’t talk to me even if I talk to him he will not respond, if he even manage to respond it is going to be negative. So I’m suspecting that guy, my boyfriend friend, when he said that it’s not gonna be funny if he found out that I tell my boyfriend about our conversation. Later my boyfriend accuses me of stolen his money when I visit him, and he knows me that I can’t do such a thing by taking his money without his permissions, and truly that period I lost my job but I wasn’t the one who took his money.
I have try to find out from my boyfriend but all he told me was that he do not love me again, but I can see it in him that he still like me. I try to visit him sometimes but he kept rejecting me and tell me not to waste my time on him, but though he still talk to me maybe he’s going out in case of the door. I wrote him a later that if he want me happy then he should stop saying that I’m wasting my time or he should not let me go.
One of his friend went on awear of me pleading him on my behave, but he was still emphasizing on what happen between me and his friend,.

I still love him and have him in my mind, i really want him back in my life.
Because he’s a very nice person, he’s too real, perfect and cares about my future, I have never since I started dating, date his kind before.
I love him and am missing him, since before lockdown of this global pandemic of corona virus at that march month, me and my boyfriend has been in this issues.
Thanks so much for this privilege.
iels

June 30, 2020 at 12:09 pm

I cheated on my boyfriend and he caught me. We’re 8 yrs together, I felt like I was ignored, I’m asking his time always, but when he caught me, I figured it all out, was it me that I was wrong? Like didn’t I see that he’s making his best to give me time?

2nd I’m always the one who go to their house, I love him, I really do, it’s just I blame myself for seeking more that resulted to cheating 🙁 I cheated for one year, but the other guy is from another country.

Now we broke up but still have communication, he’s still talking to me, asking me why, but I’m here, patiently answering him back and apologizing that I’m really sorry for what i did. I really wanna win him back, to rebuild his trust again.

He wants to talk to me thru phone call, we’re both crying sometimes, he doesn’t want me to go, but there are times like he seems to push me away, but I stand still because I want to fix everything and win our relationship back again. We just talked today like more than an hour, talking about everything, and I kept on enlighting him that we can make it through and start over again

Any advices, what am I going to say or answer if he asks me “why”
How to comfort him when he’s crying? (I cant help myself but cry too when he’s crying :’()
Please help 🙁 I want to win him back

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 3, 2020 at 11:34 pm

Hey Iels, so you need to be honest as to why you cheated, its going to hurt him, but once you have answered this fully as to why you cheated. Then explain that you regret your actions and are sorry. But you do not think it is healthy to go around in the same circle, so you want to work on him forgiving you and working past it, or you need to take some time apart so that he can deal with the emotions he has right now. You NEED to go into a No contact if he does not want to be together and reaches out to you again about “why”. And this is going to be hard, you MUST stick with your No Contact for at least 30 days

Brenda

June 29, 2020 at 4:30 am

Hello Chris, I had read your post. Thanks for the wonderful words but I think my case is a bit different and I am confused. Yes I cheated on my boyfriend actually we were engaged and we even have a baby. It has been around eight months so I decided to reach out to him but he has bluntly told me he doesn’t want nothing to do with me because of the pain I put him through.However, he keeps giving me mixed signals e.g. he calls and talks to me sometimes, send me pics with his daughter and I get confused. Can the fix the relationship rule still work?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 3, 2020 at 11:53 pm

Hey Brenda, you say you have a baby? Or is it just his daughter? I think he is being civil if you share a child and you jumping straight into trying to get back together he is going to shoot you down. I would suggest that you start following the program, reading articles that apply to your situation. Even if you feel that he is giving you mixed signals at this point you need to work out why you cheated, what was missing from the relationship that made you feel the need to go to someone else. And then work out if that reason is going to happen again. You need to read some texting articles and work your way up the value chain and the fact that he is still hurting from your actions means that he may not have forgiven you yet

Sally k

June 15, 2020 at 6:57 pm

I cheated on my boyfriend….but never took it seriously…. I really love my boyfriend and I want him back

P.S.i love u❤️
Michell Mt Malasha

June 12, 2020 at 8:51 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago,we been dating for 2years and 1/2.he saw some texts in my fone from another guy who i tolerated more than i shld have.(micro-cheating is the word)we spoke abt the breakup and he seem to have his mind made up but i really want him back.and show him that i can be a better woman .thats so not me
Jem

June 12, 2020 at 12:41 pm

Hi All.

I had just gotten out of a five-year toxic relationship where my boyfriend cheated on me & made the other girl pregnant. January 2019, was when I ended this relationship. From February 2019, I had just begun University, and in the process of still recovering from my previous relationship, I met this guy. We continued to vibe, without the title up until July, we then started dating in August.

This was the first time I was away from the house, I stayed at res, I partied and smoked a lot. We partied together half the time and did all those things together. However, while we were vibing I hooked up with my ex again, it meant nothing but it’s almost as if I needed the closure. After I hooked up with my ex, it never happened again. I realized that was all I needed. At the time, I thought it was okay because, the guy I was vibing with, we had no title. There were two instances where I was with friends, and a guy kissed me, but I didn’t entertain anything further. This happened twice at different points in the year (2019).

I stopped drinking and partying when we started dating in August 2019, as an attempt to change into the better person and never do something like again. In December 2019, I went away with family and then with friends and cheated twice. I knew I had thrown away my relationship for good with my boyfriend. I felt so guilty, but I suppressed it. I stopped drinking and have been clean the past 6 months, I don’t smoke anymore nor do I party. Due to the quarantine in South Africa, it’s like my guilt has overcome all my emotions. I felt the urge to tell him. So I did. The whole thing. I can’t help feel bad for him, I feel like our souls are being drawn to one another (weird, I know). He loves me still, I am his very first girlfriend and I just broke his heart. He still wants to be with me. I just can’t shake this heavy feeling off my chest. The reason why I kept this a secret for so long is because, I wanted to show not only him once he found out but also, myself, that I have bettered as a person. I’m not as reckless as I was.

How do I stop myself from feeling this way? Do I walk away from him? Do I allow him to walk away from me? I know the best way is to accept that it happened a long time ago but I hate the idea that I was the one that broke someones heart.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 3, 2020 at 10:35 pm

Hi Jem, so the feeling you have is guilt. Guilt for hurting someone else, I would suggest that you look at your reasons for cheating. Is there something missing that you feel you need to seek attention from other guys? I would also ask yourself if you love this boyfriend enough to be faithful if he chooses to forgive you and stick with you. The guilt feeling is going to take time I think, and if your boyfriend has taken it well, you probably feel bad because you expected some sort of reaction.

marly

June 10, 2020 at 4:42 pm

hello,

my ex found out that I was texting another guy, and the guy told him.. I am not sure what he told him, but the texts were just like “lets have a drink as friends” because the night before we had fought so I wanted to get away and I told this guy lets go get.a drink and was specific about just friends..he told my (ex) and then he blocked me because he felt betrayed.. even though I didn’t even go with that guy. he says he feels betrayed and hurt because that guy just wanted to get in my pants…. we have been talking, he told me to leave him alone and give him space but he’s the one calling me and reaching out to know what im doing, and its driving me crazy..I don’t know what he wants. how can someone tell you to leave him but still worried about what you are doing? he said he can’t be with me because he feels like I just wanted other guys attention and I don’t know what to do anymore. I care for him a lot and I don’t want to leave but I am only hurting myself..

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 13, 2020 at 10:47 pm

Hey Marly, so what you have done is broke your ex / not exes trust. This is why he keeps calling to check on you to see what you are doing and who you are with. You both need some time apart, but in your situation I think you need to be clear with your ex that you either work together to fix this, deleting the male that caused the issue and blocking him as he is going to be the thorn in your relationship going forward. If your ex does not want to get back together right now, then you need to go into a No Contact

Lyn

June 6, 2020 at 5:51 pm

Hi can u help M I have a 5 yrs long distance relationship but I cheat him and I wnat him to come back to me and he say to me tht he will be there for m if I need help and he say tht he still loves m but he block m in his phone .. Wht shall I do pls help m some advice so tht I cnat feel pain and hurts too cos I. Still love him even I do mistakes to him .

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 7, 2020 at 8:08 pm

Hi Lyn, if you cheated then you need to understand that you hurt and broke his trust. You are going to have to follow the program starting with a No Contact so that you give them time to get over the hurt. I would avoid posting anything that hints you are around other guys or dating for the time being

Kasim Deborah

May 25, 2020 at 3:39 pm

Hi, my bf is this caring and loving guy, he proposed to me December 2019 and we did how introduction feb 2020,but after the introduction he changed, he stoped calling as b4, the caring was not there anymore, I called him explain to him am feeling lonly..he apologized and we move on yet to changes, this make me go out with my co worker … He calls texk and the caring was so much, my fiance found out about it and I apologise but he is still very mad at me, he even refuses to touch me ….. Like I irritate him pls I need advice on wat to do and how to get my fiance back

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 7, 2020 at 4:13 pm

Hey Kasim, so when you spent time with your co worker did you cheat? If so then you need to understand that you broke his trust and that he is going to find it difficult to be with you in a certain way for some time. You are going to have to be patient and allow him time to deal with the fact that you were with someone else

Jenn

May 3, 2020 at 3:18 am

I need some good advice on this situation. Everything is personal and I dont want to post publically. Thanks. Jenn

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 3, 2020 at 10:01 am

Hi Jenn, so there are a few options here

1 – you can post and ask advice with a fake name, and I can advise best I can

2 – take a look at the products here including one to on coaching, the private Facebook page where a number of mods will be able to help you in group, you can again make a fake profile to use this group so that your identity is protected https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/products/

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