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MMA
April 30, 2015 at 4:39 am
Hi there. What about an engagement that has been broken? What are the chances of getting back together?
K
April 29, 2015 at 11:26 pm
7 months broken up, I always initiate the contact, he won’t call but he will answer if I call him recently he told me he had company coming to his house, he didn’t seem like he cared when I saw him.
M.
April 29, 2015 at 6:18 pm
And what happens if you’ve gotten your ex back in the past,then left you again, continue talking but he gets a new gf that he’s with a year now and keeps yoou in fb but completely ignores you???I mean I don’t think I stand a chance and I’m so tempted to delete him cause I’m fed up with all these photos he posts..What do you think I should do? I have no one else to help me..
AJ
April 29, 2015 at 5:40 pm
I have this dilemma with my on and off again ex bf. We just had a huge fight. They day after he had seemed like he got over it. Then the day after that I guess he put some thought into it and told me that he couldn’t be with me cuz of how far i take it when I get angry. But yet he never gives a solid answer if we are broken up or not and he always does this. It leaves me so emotionally confused. Cuz when he got off work he came home and slept on the floor. Then the next day he came home again and slept in the bed As if things were normal. He even cleaned the house which I was so confused about cuz when we got in a argument he was bitching of all the things I complain about that he doesn’t do but yet he still did them. I even told him that day we got in that fight to pack his shit and go. So why is he still around? I don’t want this flip flop relationship and I don’t know what is going through his head. What do I say to him? It’s either I want him with me or he just needs to stop all this and leave
AJ
April 29, 2015 at 5:58 pm
I have this dilemma with my on and off again ex bf. We just had a huge fight. They day after he had seemed like he got over it. Then the day after that I guess he put some thought into it and told me that he couldn’t be with me cuz of how far i take it when I get angry. But yet he never gives a solid answer if we are broken up or not and he always does this. It leaves me so emotionally confused. Cuz when he got off work he came home and slept on the floor. Then the next day he came home again and slept in the bed As if things were normal. He even cleaned the house which I was so confused about cuz when we got in a argument he was bitching of all the things I complain about that he doesn’t do but yet he still did them. I even told him that day we got in that fight to pack his shit and go. So why is he still around? I don’t want this flip flop relationship and I don’t know what is going through his head. What do I say to him? I don’t know how to tell him cuz he gets irritated so easily over everything and gets mad. he always tells me I over think and I just need to relax but I cant! I want to know if I’m with him or not cuz I don’t wanna get played!
dora
April 29, 2015 at 9:36 am
I’ve been reading your website since last saturday i came across on the net.all articles helping me a lot and i feel better so i want to thank you at first!
I’ve been together with my bf 4 years.he was ignoring me lately.when i ask whats going on he always says ‘nothing’.when i say i need your support he simply ignores all my messages.i know i was acting like needy.but it gets more hurting day by day and I dumped my bf via whatsapp said that i deserve better treatment and affection ,i did my best for this realtionship and then blocked him cuz i am not ready to hear bad things from him and blocked him for 2 days.i made this for protecting myself cuz i am not strong emotionally.then i unblocked him again.glad i can still see his last seen now.we were a couple who fights or got into that on/off phases quite often.i dumped him cuz his ignorence destroys my pride,self respect and my emotional health. he isn’t calling me or texting to me now.is he simply accept the break up without any word ?i still love him and we had so many plans for the future .what should i do now?nc rule can help me ?
Isabella
April 28, 2015 at 10:24 pm
Hey Chris,
So I’ve been with, my now ex boyfriend for a year and some months. We’ve known each other for 8 years and I was in love with him since, he was my first love, my high school sweetheart and he meant the world to me. Although we didn’t get together til just last year. But I screw up my chances in making the relationship better because I was paranoid that he’d cheat on me. Due to his past relationships it haunted me that he’d do the same to me and he even showed me he would never cheat but I was skeptical and didn’t believe him so he broke up with me. The relationship had no trust but I want to show him that it would be different this time around and that I’m willing to put his past behind and start over. I really love this guy but his group of single guy friends pressures him to not come back to me
Rony
April 28, 2015 at 8:35 pm
I like this article Chris .. and about the new look of ur website .. i’d recommend two things:
1. Try to separate the podcasts from the articles .
2. Try making it easier to navigate by adding a 2 keys beside the home in the tab screen, one 4 the pod casts and one 4 the articles .. i guess this will be more helping so we it will be easy to pick the material of intention.
Kelsey
April 28, 2015 at 7:49 pm
So my ex and I have been talking for about a week, yesterday was probably one of the best days! We were just talking about what we were up to, it was so natural so relaxed so easy! Then my phone died, and he went to hangout with his friend. In that hour something changed, he didn’t respond, and then when we talked today he didn’t seem intrested in talking…. What is with this hot and cold behavior? How do I work around it?
Minnie
April 28, 2015 at 6:19 pm
My ex still set me as close friend on facebook. He can sees every photos that I post but he doesn’t click ‘like’ anything. He doesn’t care?
Jannah
April 28, 2015 at 5:37 am
hi chris! just updating you about my situation. my ex contacted my cousin after seeing some posts of ours in facebook about attending a concert and it seemed like he wanted to go. my cousin told him that he would tell me so i asked my ex out casually and i said i was going anyway (which is true) and that he could come along. at first he was playing it coy, but i know how he is and that he really wanted to go. In the end, we went out to the concert. I was nice and kind and bubbly, but not like before or bot too much. We did have those dead silences, but I didn’t want to force things given that our breakup didn’t have a good closure. We ended the day happily and I didn’t schedule a specific next “date” or next time but we did talk about trying a certain hobby together. That night, he sent me a chat showing a blog about the hobby we were planning to try and I replied the next day asking what he wants to try out. I’m taking this slow and I’m trying to estimate the right amount of pull and distance. I am also limiting my responses to 1-3 replies every day or every other day. It feels like I’m the boyfriend (I have been reading and listening to other get your ex back coaches) but it is your site that puts a balance between reaching out and dangling yourself as the UG. So perhaps I will just keep reaching out subtly? What can you say about my progress? 🙂
Priscilla
April 28, 2015 at 1:58 am
Chris, have you thought about writing a guide on what to do if your ex brings up the “heavy stuff” when you get back in contact with them after the NC period? How do we respond if their reply to our seemingly innocent initial text is: why are you texting me, I think we have to talk, maybe contacting me isn’t a good idea, what do you want from me? What to do if they don’t respond well. If I can find this in an existing guide please let me know. Thanks.
marnie101
May 26, 2015 at 6:16 am
I need to know this also, I will NOT get away with a shooting the breeze text with this one. We were always very upfront about our feelings and don’t really do that fake thing. We left each other two adults respectfully and still in love. I have no clue how I could say “hey I’m at our favorite restaurant right now”- he would be like “what? How are you? talk to me!” and if he texted me that, I would be almost pissed and say something like, what are you talking about? our restaurant? what are you saying right now??” we haven’t spoken in a month, it would not be normal!
Batty
April 27, 2015 at 2:07 pm
This is a question about an ex who we broke up before, but I went into NC not expecting to talk to him ever again and 3 days later he texted me asking to get back together. He tried to make it look as though it was my idea, but it was clearly his. He isnt nearly as smooth as he thinks he is.
So predictably we did, and now Im on breakup numero dos. This time around for being too clingy, and different apparently. Im not anywhere near clingy, but I just apologized and left it and went straight into NC.
And because Im a crazy but sauve chick i did no contact 33 days before i finally reached out to him. In this time I got a few new jobs, learned a new sport, made friends, got my hair done, etc etc. Big changes. Now im a sauve crazy chick oozing with sexiness and confidence i never had. My new dates are always exclaiming about how tiny and fit and cute i am now.
Anyways, back to the ex. My first reach out, he was super interested in this new life i built. Kept asking questions galore. I screwed up by not ending the conversation first. He suggested we hang out this fall. (???) Anyways, i reach out again, and again, and again. This time keeping total control, making sure *I* had the hand on the leash. So far, prompt(within a minute or two) long responses that are generally neutral to positive.
All is good right? Of course, it is. Problem is, he is NEVER initiating contact. Ive been texting every 2-3 days the past couple weeks.
So is it normal to see this happen? I dont want to become the proverbial lion after the antelope, justifying it because the antelope isnt fleeing.. yet.
Batty
April 27, 2015 at 2:07 pm
This is a question about an ex who we broke up before, but I went into NC not expecting to talk to him ever again and 3 days later he texted me asking to get back together. He tried to make it look as though it was my idea, but it was clearly his. He isnt nearly as smooth as he thinks he is.
So predictably we did, and now Im on breakup numero dos. This time around for being too clingy, and different apparently. Im not anywhere near clingy, but I just apologized and left it and went straight into NC.
And because Im a crazy but sauve chick i did no contact 33 days before i finally reached out to him. In this time I got a few new jobs, learned a new sport, made friends, got my hair done, etc etc. Big changes. Now im a sauve crazy chick oozing with sexiness and confidence i never had. My new dates are always exclaiming about how tiny and fit and cute i am now.
Anyways, back to the ex. My first reach out, he was super interested in this new life i built. Kept asking questions galore. I screwed up by not ending the conversation first. He suggested we hang out this fall. (???) Anyways, i reach out again, and again, and again. This time keeping total control, making sure *I* had the hand on the leash. So far, prompt(within a minute or two) long responses that are generally neutral to positive.
All is good right? Of course, it is. Problem is, he is NEVER initiating contact. Ive been texting every 2-3 days the past couple weeks.
So is it normal to see this happen? I dont want to become the proverbial lion after the antelope, justifying it because the antelope isnt fleeing.. yet.
mim
April 27, 2015 at 11:21 am
this is the third time we broke up!this time I really don’t know what happened!the first time he became angry and left and he came back by himself after a week!the second time I became mad and left and after a month(NC rule) I came back(it was 2 months ago) and here we are again!we where arguing over the “other woman” and suddenly he left in the middle of chat!just like that!last Friday was his birthday and I remained silent despite of my will. he turned off his Viber for 2 days! I know he was so upset because of my absence but…for god sake he left with out saying a word( and I can think maybe he said something but maybe there was something wrong with viber or something like that!but this is ridiculous!isn’t it?) beside when we came back the last time I told him I would call or text him on his birthday no matter what, so in some level he was sure that I will come back on his birthday.
I really want to know why he acted like that!!!if he really want to end it fine by me but don’t act like a child by stop talking.
my family will visit me in next week and stay for a month.should I wait for whole 45 days?the worst part is my birthday is in June and I don’t want him to think I called him to be together on my birthday.3 weeks pass. should I wait 3 more weeks?
mim
April 27, 2015 at 11:21 am
this is the third time we broke up!this time I really don’t know what happened!the first time he became angry and left and he came back by himself after a week!the second time I became mad and left and after a month(NC rule) I came back(it was 2 months ago) and here we are again!we where arguing over the “other woman” and suddenly he left in the middle of chat!just like that!last Friday was his birthday and I remained silent despite of my will. he turned off his Viber for 2 days! I know he was so upset because of my absence but…for god sake he left with out saying a word( and I can think maybe he said something but maybe there was something wrong with viber or something like that!but this is ridiculous!isn’t it?) beside when we came back the last time I told him I would call or text him on his birthday no matter what, so in some level he was sure that I will come back on his birthday.
I really want to know why he acted like that!!!if he really want to end it fine by me but don’t act like a child by stop talking.
my family will visit me in next week and stay for a month.should I wait for whole 45 days?the worst part is my birthday is in June and I don’t want him to think I called him to be together on my birthday.3 weeks pass. should I wait 3 more weeks?
N.M
April 25, 2015 at 5:33 pm
Great post! One of the best! And if I’m not mistaken longer than those in the recent past. At any rate, great!
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2015 at 10:14 pm
Thank you!
N.M
April 25, 2015 at 5:33 pm
Great post! One of the best! And if I’m not mistaken longer than those in the recent past. At any rate, great!
No name
April 25, 2015 at 3:46 pm
Im tempted to email him an apology. Something quick and short. I really don’t want to be on these ugly terms. But if he’s blocked me, I don’t want to seem pushy. Don’t send an apology?
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2015 at 10:12 pm
Not until the opportune time and you being blocked by him isn’t the opportune time.
No name
April 25, 2015 at 3:46 pm
Im tempted to email him an apology. Something quick and short. I really don’t want to be on these ugly terms. But if he’s blocked me, I don’t want to seem pushy. Don’t send an apology?
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2015 at 10:12 pm
Not until the opportune time and you being blocked by him isn’t the opportune time.
Ashley
April 25, 2015 at 3:15 pm
Hey Chris!
Haven’t commented in a while. So let me first tell you I really like the new design! It’s a bit confusing to navigate at first, but it’s easy on the eyes and overall I love it! Also, LOVED this article, it gave me really good insight. I told you a while back how I was on a blocked from my ex.. Phone included. But he recently like within the last couple of days unblocked me from Facebook! Does that mean anything? And do you think I should try to contact him that way or should I wait a little bit?
Ashley
April 30, 2015 at 2:34 pm
So I messaged my ex on Facebook after being unblocked.. Which I probably shouldn’t have done and definitely did not follow first message guidelines, but he blocked me again! Is this normal? I mean it’s been four months almost so I feel like if he’s not unblocked me from things by now now and isn’t willing to to talk, he won’t ever be.. Am I kinda on the right track?
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2015 at 10:11 pm
I like the new design too ashley!
I think it means something. He probably wants to spy on you.