How Often Do Exes Come Back- An Exact Percentage

131 thoughts on “How Often Do Exes Come Back After A Breakup?”

Henley

May 12, 2017 at 12:03 pm

Hi Amor!
My exboyfriend and I broke up last year after two years together. We were in a long distance relationship and after he cheated we hit a low, he moved for me to my country for a semester but we fought a lot and eventually decided it didn’t work this way. We took a lot of space and since the new year we have been in such good contact again. Still, because of the coming goodbye, it never got official again and he said he loved me but wasn’t in love with me, so I just left it at that without any expectations and we said our goodbyes. Since he’s back home he’s showing so much initative and now even wants to go on a trip together soon because he misses me. Obviously I miss him too, but he is the one that said he wasn’t in love with me when I was, so should I talk to him about this or just wait and see what happens? We are taking it slow and I can sense he is comfortable in this no strings attached sort of thing we’ve got going on now. It is so confusing. I like him giving me attention and all and I understand – but I don’t want to get my hopes up for us getting back together.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 12, 2017 at 7:57 pm

try to wait and see first..so, that you wouldn’t look like you’re thinking about it..

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 8:22 pm

Hi Cam,

check the links below:

You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That
The Ungettable Girl
TNT

May 11, 2017 at 4:36 pm

Probably explained that wrong:
I begged twice in the first month and now haven’t contacted him in 2,5 months!

Is there even a change a boyfriend would come back to you it he (thinks) he’s completly over you and he (thinks) he’s falling outta love? Ever had any cases like this?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 8:25 pm

Take it as a restart.. well, it depends on how much you improved, and if you were active in posting, it also helps because he can see your improvements.. How much you can build rapport while continuing to improve yourself also..

irene

May 9, 2017 at 7:35 pm

Hi Chris
I have to say a big thank you to you and your entire team for providing such psychological helps. Thanks to you all i got my ex back. I didn’t tried anything. I just went into a complete no contact even though the nc was too late. It took 10 months of nc to get him back. He dumped me 2 times before but now He admitted sorry For real.
I still love him like before and i have also said yes but I’m afraid what if he breaks up again for no reason? I don’t want to be in the same position.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 7:35 pm

Hi Irene,

check this one:
Keeping Him Once You Get Him Back

Despacito

May 9, 2017 at 7:22 am

Hi ! My ex broke up with me 5 months ago..he said he doesnt feel the same and that o deserve better(we lived together).
He really is going through a time in his life where he is just thinking about what he wants to do for a living and about his own problems(he might go to a jail).For 5 months i was still there for him..after the start when i beged and cried i was now normal..i never called him or texted him..it was always him asking me to get coffe and sending text where he called me by my pet name(just like he used to call me when we were tohether).Yesterday after 5 months he finaly returned me the rest of my stuff(he was always bringing them one by one) and i told him that what are we doing..what is the point of seeing each other being friends if we arent working on getting back together..he said i was right and we shouldnt see or call eachother..i asked him if he could turn back time would he started dating me and he said absolutly and that he wouldnt do the mistakes he did..but that he has a life to figure out..is it too late for me to start the no contact rule or should i just accepte it and move on..(when i think about not knowing what is going in his life and if he is ok i just start cring..i care about him alot and just wish he was happy)..Thank you for response it means alot..

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 6:20 pm

hi Despacito,

it’s not yet too late.. you can still do nc

Lynn

May 8, 2017 at 1:10 pm

I have written in another post last week. My ex boyfriend broke up with me four months ago. After a while talking sometimes, I decided to go NC because he was very distant and that was hurting me. After those weeks we start talking again like friends, from time to time and about books, movies, tv… Sometimes he sent me things saying “it made me think about you”. We usually to have short conversations, once a week or so. I miss the times we texted each other all day long). He is very stubborn and said that he is not in the “us” page anymore and the fact that we live in different cities (but near) isn’t helping (he hated distance due to a past experience). If we could met in person… He said that he wouldn’t mind met and go to the movies or something like that but as we barely talk, it is not possible arrange a meeting, I would be forcing things and wouldn’t work. I really want to make him “addicted” to talking to me like before, I need to gain him back but I don’t know how. You suggested me to play “the ungettable girl” and I am trying (at the same time, I show him my positive side in the group chat we shared) but I really miss him and I think that the key would be metting in person. With distance is easy to say “I’m over it” but if he could see me, spend a few hours woth me… I don’t want to talk about us inmediately, I just want make him remember who we were together. The problem is that I am afraid he would say no to a meeting. Well, I asked him in february two times, even when he was being very very distant to me (telling him that I was going to his city for something else and we could met) but he gave me excuses (even though, I said thanks for telling him and asked me to tell him if I go there). After that I started NC because his coldness during those weeks was hurting me. After that, as I told above and the other day, he used to text me once or twice a week but with things about our favorite tv shows and movies (I use the past because I am always afraid that he don’t text me anymore) and I guess he is a little more comfortable but it is not enough and I still don’t have the confidence to ask him to met in person. What can I do to make him more attached to me again and create the situation for asking him to met without forcing the things? (well it would be better if was him who suggested it but it seems impossible to me). I really believe that meeting in person and experience me again, just like before (not our last dates, obviously) could move him a little.
I must say that I’ve just finished in my temporary job and I am searching for one in his city (it is the most important city of our region, above all in my field) so…well, if I got it, the distance which limited him would be over but I don’t have any yet, so for now I have to “work” with what I have, and the situation is what it is…

Lynn

May 12, 2017 at 11:46 am

Thank you a lot again Amor. I think that today I’m gooing to send him a message telling him that this weekend I’m gooing to watch our favorite tv show (he told me two weeks ago that if I did it, I could tell him and we could watch one “together, by distance, texting. It is something we used to do when we where dating) and that if he wants we could do what he suggested. Light and fun. I don’t think that he will do it but if yes, well, is something, he would spend at least 30 minutes “with me” and remember old times. If not, he will see that there is no drama, I’m cool and I’m not insisting. Aaaand next week I’ll try what I said in the last post, telling him a problem and asking for his advice. I hope it works…

Thank you again, this support is important to me
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 12, 2017 at 7:50 pm

You’re welcome..I hope it works too!
Lynn

May 11, 2017 at 4:00 pm

Thanks Amor, thanks a lot. Luckily I’be always had a real good social life which didn’t stop after the break-up and he knows it.
I`ve been thinking about telling him something, asking for his advice (there are things in my life that only he and one of two of my closest friends know about and he knows that), just for re-building the trust: since I can force him to telling me things like before, I could give that step, just once (because my goal is he perceiving me as a happy and positive person, the side I am trying to show him now). Could this, asking him for a little advice, work to bring him a liiitle bit closer to me?

Thank you a lot again
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 8:23 pm

yup, that’s a good move.. it’s ok to ask for help from him.
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 3:44 pm

that’s good that your positive on texts.. you have to be active in posting in your account too..because you have to show that you have a life.. and that you’re just being friendly because he can see that you’re moving on through your posts.. he wouldn’t want to meet if he thinks you’re trying to work your way back together

TNT

May 8, 2017 at 11:25 am

Boyfriend told me he is 100% over me and 100% outta love. He told me this Friday. We’ve been broken up 3 months, I’ve been in NC for 3 months, begged twice in thise 3 months. (I really needed 3 months to heal, we’ve been dating for 5 years.) The break-up was friendly.

Is there even a change a boyfriend would come back to you it he (thinks) he’s completly over you and he (thinks) he’s falling outta love? Ever had any cases like this?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 3:37 pm

that’s not a no contact period if you talked to him..especially if you begged

Astrid

May 7, 2017 at 4:23 am

What if you betrayed their trust by telling something they told you in confidence and they found out and never want to see you again?

Based on these numbers my situation sounds hopeless.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 7, 2017 at 3:21 pm

he’s just emotional..are you in nc now/

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