How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

3,819 thoughts on “Has He Moved On? How To Get Him Back If He Has A Girlfriend”

Cindy

October 10, 2013 at 11:39 pm

So about 5 months ago, my ex boyfriend(was dating him for almost 5 years) broke up with me. He got a new girlfriend a few days later, she was one of his coworkers from his job. After we broke up I found out I was pregnant. It seemed like he didn’t care at first but he saw me with someone else he wanted to get back together for the baby. I broke up with the guy I was with because he was pretty much a rebound, he also broke up with the girl he was with, for about 2 weeks we were hanging out like we were back together, but he clearly told me he didn’t want to get in a relationship because he wasn’t ready for that. I told him I would wait for him because I really love him & I wouldn’t pressure him. But I found out that he got back with her. He told me we would eventually get back together, that i was the best he’s ever had, & that he still loves me but wanted to make sure that he doesn’t feel anything for her, but I feel like I’m just waiting for nothing. I want our family back together but I’m not sure if it will happen. The baby is due in less the 11 weeks & it hurts knowing that he “loves” me & that i do to, but am I crazy for waiting??? & thinking I might get him back.

admin

October 11, 2013 at 6:10 pm

Have you read this page yet? https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/get-your-boyfriend-back-if-you-have-a-child-together/

Jonah

October 10, 2013 at 11:02 pm

Does this blog work as well for guys towards girls? As in would this blog still make sense if it was how to get your ex girlfriend back if she has a boyfriend? That’s my situation right now. I know it’s not a guarantee that anything on here will work but does it still make sense to read this if i am a guy trying to get my girl back who has a boyfriend

admin

October 11, 2013 at 6:00 pm

Haha I think most of the rules are interchangeable. I will be making a website geared towards men next year but for now the stuff on this site can work for men to women as well.
DIANNE

October 18, 2013 at 5:16 am

.hey… thats unfair… if the guys knows about all of this thing how can we apply it to them??? and the NC thing??? how could it be effective if they will know beforehand all the tactics???

.haha.. i hope my ex will not read this blog… and any of his friends either…
admin

October 18, 2013 at 6:57 pm

Well Dianne. It is highly unlikely that he will read this blog.

Besides, I have no control over who reads this site. 99% are women though.

xogenie

October 10, 2013 at 12:01 am

So I was with my boyfriend for 7 years. This summer things were going really well- and I was feeling more confident in us than i ever had. However, we got in a petty fight sept 11. We didn’t talk for 2 weeks. Then i approached him and asked what was going on, he said it was over. So I begged him to come back. I stalked him. Cried. Did everything you said I shouldn’t do basically, for 2 whole weeks. I threatened to get him fired from his job- I have some pretty bad dirt on him. I shouldnt have done all of those things, and in the last 2 days have gone NC. However, I am pretty sure he is seeing or interested in someone else. Is it too late, because I went batshit insane? Or can I pick it up and pull it together so that he wants to get back together with me? I have decided I wont contact him again for a while… he mentioned he would contact me in a couple weeks, but since I went batshit the other day I dont know if he still wants to do that. In the past the holding it together and NC thing worked but I feel it is different this time. One time he had another gf (and I have done this to him, so i forgive him) and the NC thing and going on a date with his ex best friend got his attention really quick. I am really desperate and cant take this pain much longer. Also that was years ago and I dont have as many men I can flaunt publicly, even though I am going on dates I am not sure he knows about it. Please please help me.

admin

October 10, 2013 at 2:02 am

Sorry I am a little confused here. Did you say you are in NC right now?
Xogenie

October 10, 2013 at 2:33 pm

Yes I am NC now, but for like a week and a half I acted like a total loon about the whole thing. I do not intend to contact him for a while. I’m wondering, is there still a chance after I acted that way, threatened to get him fired from his job?

I will say, when we were talking and I had my calm moments, and told him about parts of the relationship I liked he seemed like he wanted to get back together for a minute. Maybe he felt like he couldn’t make me happy and he wasn’t appreciated.
admin

October 10, 2013 at 6:48 pm

Yea, you may have to extend NC a bit.

Nandi

October 9, 2013 at 7:49 pm

my ex and I broke up 5 months ago, we kept being “friends” for a while and we had sex during this time.. after 4 months of the brake up.. he found someone else and left me.. i then started no contact for 30 days.. and now we are talking again, but he doesnt really care about me anymore cuz he’s with this new person. what can I do? I’ve been going to the gym and i’m better than ever.. but he seems to like this new person a lot.. and doesnt even care if i’m in his life or not.. how can I make him love me again.

admin

October 10, 2013 at 1:50 am

At this point there is not a lot you can do. Keep focusing on YOU and realize that you are doing the best thing possible.

Bec

October 9, 2013 at 6:29 pm

Hi Chris,

I contact you a few months ago as my ex and I worked together so the NC thing wasn’t going to work. You suggested minimal contact, which I completed helped mostly by us both taking seperate vacations …incidently I did notice he was facebook stalking me and as soon a photos of me in a bikini went up he started messaging me!

I had to break the no contact rule a little early as I was knocked off my bike and in my concussed brain called him whilst lying on the road in a lot of pain. He was actually great, came to the hospital and I then got another 2 weeks off work of no contact.

However, on Monday night he told me that whilst I was away in africa he started seeing someone else…a friend of a friend of ours.

I just feel like I’m getting some really mixed signals and don’t know what to do.

It was my birthday on sunday and he came, was very attentive and people assumed we were still/back together. When left alone he hugged me, and told me I smelt lovely and stroked my hands. He arranged for us to go out to see a movie together on the tuesday, after helping me pick my broken bike up from work…I still can’t drive and have a dislocated shoulder.

On the monday he forgot we’d made plans (he was drunk) and we had bit of an argument discussing how he wants us to be friends but he keeps forgetting or cancelling me. He said instead of the movie he’d take me out for a birthday dinner as he had to pack to go away on Wednesday (bachellor party). He then told me he’d started seeing someone – also turns out their first date was during the time we were not quite broken up but still getting back together…he says they didn’t properly get together until a month after we split up.

So after work last night (despite how upset I was) we went to dinner – he spent a lot of money (michelin star)! We did quite a bit of arguing and I told him I’d requested a transfer to another country as I can’t see him every day. He was upset as we’ve been best friends for 6 years and this is really hard.
I said I wasn’t happy
He asked why
I said I miss him
He told me he misses me too.

He even took a photo and post to facebook me blowing out the candle on our shared ice cream sundae…some of our friends/family were angry at me on seeing this for even speaking to him on finding out he started up with this girl whilst being with me.

On leaving the restaurant it took us an hour to get to the bus we kept stopping to hug, where he’d tell me he missed those, and I’d tell him I missed him. We even kissed and he’d do things he knew I liked like stroke my hair and face (he always joked I should have been a cat). He said they we were great together when it’s just us but doesn’t think we work outside of our bubble (i.e. the real world) – I think we work in any world!

He said he wants us to be the type of friends who cuddle – do friends do that?
And again plans for the movie were made for next week.

I’ve not asked him to leave her – he’s still with her. I’ve said I don’t want to see her, it’s too painfull. He knows I still love him.

Is he just messing with my head?
Do I have any hope of getting him back?

(forgive the long essay please)

admin

October 10, 2013 at 1:42 am

Haha bikini pictues = messages!

EVERYONE SHOULD REMEMBER THIS :).

I don’t think he is messing with your head. It looks like he is just unsure at this point.
Bec

October 10, 2013 at 7:07 am

p.s. I have just bought your book – is there a particular section I should focus on for help with this?
admin

October 10, 2013 at 6:24 pm

Really read the ungettable girl stuff.

(Oh, and FYI I am working on a new post all about that so after you finish the book read the article that will probably be live next Tuesday.
Bec

October 10, 2013 at 6:42 pm

I used to be that girl – he’d been desperatly trying to get me for 5 years.
I was confident (but always single), stunningly hot (I know how to work my assets), crazy social life following bands around the world, above average intellegence as a geophysicist. All the girlfriend/wives of my very male dominated co-workers dislike me, though if I ever was flirty it was more just me being nice and friendly to a group of geeky boys that girls generally didn’t talk too!

I’ve been ungettable – he softened me. Made me like things like snuggling and hand holding.

Winters here – time to start wearing the leather skirt to the office again!
admin

October 11, 2013 at 5:41 pm

YAY for leather skirt!

Knock him dead.
Bec

October 10, 2013 at 6:47 am

Could this girl be a rebound?
What should I be doing?
I really don’t want to meet her and especially don’t want to face the humiliation of him bringing her to our works christmas party in 2 months.
admin

October 10, 2013 at 6:16 pm

Wow, already thinking ahead to the Christmas party.

She could be a rebound. How long have they been dating?
Bec

October 10, 2013 at 6:31 pm

the party is only 6 weeks away and I’m dreading it…going alone would have been acceptable if he was too, but humiliating if he has a date!
Everyone knew we were together!
And a lot know I’m utterly heartbroken over it…and there has been a lot of nasty gossip – I found out I’m apparently pregnant last week, other gossip involed me apparently wanting to have a baby and him dumping me because of it…all false, they really have nothing better to do than make crap up about my personal life!

They’ve been dating about 6 weeks, maybe more. She’s the friend of another co-worker so if I wasn’t as issue she would be someone he would probably take. Unless of course he has the forethought to think that I’m not ready for that, and certainly not with the entire staff watching my reaction.
admin

October 11, 2013 at 5:43 pm

Man, the rumors are just insane. Why can’t people just shut up and stop doing stuff like that?

Daphne Miller

October 9, 2013 at 5:27 pm

I broke up w/ my ex of 4 yrs approx. 6 weeks ago. We still live together so the NCR is impossible. We had been having problems for the last year and only had sex 6 times in the last year. He met someone a couple of weeks later and supposedly fell in love. 2 weeks in, he and I made PASSIONATE love, slept in each other’s beds, wall around naked in front of each other. All the whole, he keeps telling me how in love he is with the new girlfriend while I want buying it. As far as I am concerned, she’s an escape and a rebound.
Recently the new girlfriend broke up with him when he told her about our sexual encounters and he is heartbroken, although he has no problem still cuddling with me, etc. I want him back so badly. What do I do?

admin

October 10, 2013 at 1:41 am

Have you read this article?

jackie

October 9, 2013 at 12:53 pm

my story is long…my ex and i first started dating when he was 16 and i was 19. he broke up with me after a month because he was going to college (same college as me) and didn’t want to be in a relationship. yes, he went to college at 16. we eventually started having sex since we lived in the same dorm and our relationship was very undefined but basically i wanted to date and he didn’t. eventually we dated and he broke up with me after 3 months. i went on to date his friend for a few months and after that break up, we started having sex again and he realized he loved me. we started dating again and things were great, except he was moving with his family to germany in a few months. we continued to date long distance for a year. he cheated on me (made out) with his close family friend while over there. pretty devastating for me but i forgave him (not realizing i wasn’t over it). i visited him in germany and got thrown into a situation with his family because his parents were getting divorced. basically, it led to a fight with his mom. then things got bad. he moved home and we tried to find a place together, but his mom did everything to prevent it. we argued about it and he broke up with me two months after coming home from germany. for 9 months it was a lot of headaches. we had sex, didn’t talk, did talk, it was all over the place. then i told him if he was going to just be my friend he needed to stop acting like my pseudo-boyfriend and he admitted he was not over me and we decided to try things again. two months later he broke up with me in the middle of a fight. he wouldn’t talk to me after the breakup so i didn’t bother him. we both went to a party and by the time he showed up i was incredibly drunk (and on new medication which did not help at all). i started a confrontation, called him some mean names, pushed him, etc. it was a mess! we talked a bit after that, mostly arguing…he tried to get my attention by sending me an article about how men don’t understand how to console women…i told him i was over his games and he blocked me.

a couple weeks ago, after a couple months of NC he unblocked me on facebook. then he was at the starbucks next to my work (everyone knows me there) on my day off. i thought he was trying to get my attention but then i found out from my roommate that he’s been dating someone for a month. it’s only been three months since we ended this 4-year on-and-off relationship. i am devastated but i was starting to move on before all of this unblocking nonsense. i love this boy to death and we have both just treated ourselves and each other very badly. i want us to be together but i wonder if there’s been too many break ups, other lovers in between break ups, and if my drunken attack on him ruined all hope for us in the future.

his new girlfriend had a history with my other ex and looks a lot like me. :/

any help is appreciated.

admin

October 10, 2013 at 1:23 am

Maybe he replaced you with her?

Have you established any type of communication lately? How long has he been dating this girl?
jackie

October 10, 2013 at 12:56 pm

apparently they’ve been dating for a month but it seems like the only person he’s told is my roommate (a couple days ago) and it still says single on his facebook.

i facebook messaged him when i found out and the conversation went from arguing to discussing some issues in our relationship and ended pretty cordially.

the whole situation seems weird. the unblocking, showing up near my work, and telling my roommate about this girl all happened within a couple weeks.
admin

October 10, 2013 at 6:49 pm

Maybe he is embaressed of her?
jackie

January 23, 2014 at 12:59 pm

my ex is still dating this girl. after my last comment, i went NC until thanksgiving and only wished him a happy thanksgiving and he wished me one as well.

early january he randomly facebook messaged me saying, “glad to see you’re moving on to better things. i wish only the best for you an whoever you find yourself with.” i have no idea why he would send me a message like that since we haven’t talked so how would he know if i was “moving on to better things.”

i didn’t reply to his message until yesterday, almost three weeks later. it wasn’t very long. the basic jist was “i love you and still want to be with you and if you don’t feel the same way, please, don’t contact me. you have a girlfriend. there’s no reason to. it only makes me suspicious of your intentions.”

he said he would stop messaging me. i said good. he sent a thumbs up and i thought, well that is that.

then he sent another message when i didn’t respond. “Sorry for the curt response, I’m driving. If you ever do decide that’s you want some sense of closure about what happened between us, I’m open to that. I don’t expect it to be anytime soon. I would ask more about the life you lead without me, as you say, but I felt like it was a sensitive subject.”

i don’t understand why he keeps trying to engage me in conversation. he wrote that expecting me to say something back so the conversation would continue instead of just leaving it end plain and simple. i didn’t respond.

thoughts?
jackie

January 23, 2014 at 1:00 pm

oh and i went back to NC after thanksgiving.
jackie

January 23, 2014 at 1:14 pm

last thing, my roommate told me my ex asks about me when they talk.

Sandy

October 8, 2013 at 3:52 am

I need your help. I was in a relationship with a man for a little over a year. We were serious and talking marriage. He was head over heels crazy about me. I went through some family problems and became depressed. My focus was not on him and I didn’t treat him with the respect and admiration he deserved. We broke up and within two weeks he was in a rebound relationship. We kept in touch periodically until I realized I needed to implement
NC. I lasted thirty days and tested the waters with a text. It worked. He asked to see me and I told him no the first time. The second time I agreed and we kissed. I had thought maybe he and his gf had broken up. They haven’t. He kept saying, “I’m so conflicted. Your in my head all the time and in my dreams.” He says he has to let this relationship “play out” and see where it goes. I’m back to NC. Advise? I really love him and didn’t appreciate what I had when I had it.

admin

October 9, 2013 at 1:49 am

You are doing the right thing to go back into NC. He was trying to set you up to be a FWB while still dating his gf and that is totally not cool.

sugimura

October 8, 2013 at 3:29 am

So my ex and I broke up a month ago. But I think he was already eyeing his new partner long before that. I could not avoid NC as we work in the same office also with his new partner. He wants me to stay as a friend and once in a while sees me during our breaks and speaks a few words. He’s getting excited about moving in with his new partner and his partner kept posting houses in facebook as they are to move in about a month from now. Im getting worried I am already too late once that happens. He just texted me yesterday that his mom was looking for me on his birthday that he didn’t invite me to come over to. He would even tell me good luck to both of our lives. I don’t know how to react and NC seems unavoidable in my situation. And I don’t want to make him feel bad for not responding as time is ticking for me. The moment they move in together I think it’s all over for me. I love him and I have changed so much physically and mentally over the last few weeks but I don’t think he’s giving up on his new partner. What should I do?

admin

October 9, 2013 at 1:37 am

Maybe you can do some type of limited contact.

Alexandra

October 7, 2013 at 5:27 pm

Hi Chris
I was in a relationship with a guy for almost 3 years and he broke it off about 6.5 months ago.
We were very close and great friends before we ever got together; Everything was going great until i went off to collage 4 hours away… we couldn’t see each other much but we talked everyday through texts, emails, and skype. When i came home for summer break it was like i’d never left but a couple months went by and then he became cold.
We stopped talking everyday and he eventually came to me and told me he didn’t want to continue the relationship. It broke my heart because he was the first guy i’ve ever loved and the only one since. I’ve had one other boyfriend since then but it was just a rebound for me it was nothing meaningful.
For 2 months now He has been dating a friend of mine… it is very hard not to hate him for it ’cause he knows she talks with me a lot and she keeps telling me all about their relationship. Which just kills me inside because i have wanted him back forever. But i never badmouth them cause she’s a great person and i still love him very much.
I unconsciously did 3 months of NC… cause i just couldn’t stand to see him living on without me and so i cut contact and went on a spree of self-growth. I lost 33 pounds, cut my hair and got a new job … basically made a new life for myself without him in it.
But about a month ago he contacted me and asked if i’d like to hang out. I said yes cause i thought i was stable enough to see him again (i had been living a new life for almost 2 months now) but once i saw him he gave me a hug hello and said that he’d missed me
Everything i’d worked for broke again… i almost cried. I spent a whole afternoon with him and it was just like we were still together. I asked him how his new girlfriend was doing and he said things were going fine. then i asked about how he felt about me and admitted i was surprised to hear from him (since we hadn’t talked in over 3 months).
He admitted to me that he’s been missing me since we broke up and that he still has feelings for me! What do i do…? I want him back more than anything but i don’t want to hurt my friend and i don’t want to screw up and accidentally push him away… i need help.
How do i get him back and can i do it without hurting my friend?

admin

October 8, 2013 at 2:07 am

How have your interactions between eachother been? Are you constantly leaving him wanting more?

Alexia

October 7, 2013 at 6:18 am

Ok so I don’t know how i can exactly put this together but I was in this ”thing” with this guy not exactly boyfriend and we really liked each other and had many good times and we’ve had many arguement’s but we still loved each other and like i had a friend who also liked him and she was hating on me and getting mad and always trying to seperate us and made a lot of my friends against me and so I started acting a little different towards my guy. And so he still loved me and i still loved him but i was showing a little less emotion towards him and then after i was talking to this guy i met online and he was just a temporary friend we dont talk anymore but in that time period we did and he really liked me but i didnt like him and so my guy found out that i was talking to someone and he took it the wrong way and we split apart and i really miss him and i have texted him and things didnt go to well the firs two times but it did the third time and then after that it didnt go well and i promised myself to do the no contact rule but the thing is he has a gf and his gf is my friend and like she wants to move schools and hes going to go if she goes but they both cant go at the same time and its not an 100% for sure thing. But all I know is that he is the one and I will do anything to get him back. I really need help

admin

October 8, 2013 at 1:47 am

Still think you should do NC even though you kind of are uncertain about it.

Elle

October 7, 2013 at 1:46 am

Hey I don’t know if you remembered, I left a comment in September, my ex broke up with me early August and we were dating for 3 years.

So my ex and I are talking again after about 3 weeks of NC. We texted back and forth for hours today, and he flirted with me just now, I flirted back a little, I don’t really know what that means though. I don’t want to make him feel that I’m easily available to him but also don’t wanna discourage him, do you have any advice regarding talking to the ex? Thank you!

admin

October 7, 2013 at 11:28 pm

Go really slowly!

Just slowly up the sexual tension.

Kristen

October 6, 2013 at 11:00 pm

I need your advice… It has been 30+ days of no-contact with my ex. We met at the beginning of May, and it was great from the start… Lots in common, fun, similar outlooks and tons of chemistry. He was very attentive and pursued me, reaching out every day, several times a day. He, previously, had been in a relationship for 3.5 years. It ended when he broke up with her in December because she lied and cheated. Well, after one of our dates, his ex came by his house after I left. I guess she saw my car there earlier and was hurt, etc. He said he started to feel guilty, like somehow by being with me he had cheated on her. I told him if he still had feelings for her he needed to sort that out first, before being with me. So, he and I agreed to be “friends” while he got his head straight (he said he knew he was being stupid and was afraid of losing me). In less than a week they fought numerous times (she tried to get him to propose and got mad when he wouldn’t), and they stopped talking altogether. So, in less than a week he and I reconnected, he confirms they are done, and he says he wants to go slow with me, but wants to be with me.

We dated all summer and things seemed to be going great. Well, in mid-August, he admitted to me that he was still in love with his ex. They hadn’t spoken since their fallout months prior. I was heart broken, but realize that no matter how much I want to be with him, it won’t work if he has feelings for someone else. I told him this, and encouraged him to reach out and either get back with her or finally put this behind him so we could be together. I told him I didn’t ever want to be number 2. We talked several times that week. It was hard. It still is. I care about him very much, and what we shared was great…. And he said the same of me too. He also said he didn’t want to lose me and he wanted me in his life. He asked me to give him a few days to get his head straight. After 4 days of silence (we typically talked everyday), I broke down and sent him an email. Yep, I know, after reading your ebook I shouldn’t have done that. I just couldn’t understand why he would want to go back to someone that lied and cheated on him, especially when I thought things were going so well with us. He never responded to my email. A week went by. I sent him a text. Yep, I know I shouldn’t have done that too. Then I found your website, bought and read your ebook… thanks… And here we are. He hasn’t reached out to me, and I haven’t reached out to him for over a month. I still think of him all the time. I really care about him and thought we had something good together. I tried to date, but stopped, because I felt like I wasn’t being fair to these other guys since my heart still belongs to someone else.

I want to reach out to him (using your suggested text techniques of course), but I’m scared. I don’t want to do the wrong thing, and realize that given my circumstances I could use some advice. I don’t know if he is with her or not… But given everything should I reach out now… Wait longer… Or just wait for him to reach out to me? He waited 6 months to start dating me, so I don’t “think” I was a rebound, but wonder if I ended up being that given everything that happened. Also, since he was with me for 4 months and then said he still loved his ex… Ugh…. Am I kidding myself? I really I miss him so much.

Please help!

admin

October 7, 2013 at 12:47 am

How long did you date him for?
Kristen

October 7, 2013 at 10:47 pm

4 months.
Kristen

October 10, 2013 at 12:21 am

Any advice?
Kristen

October 24, 2013 at 1:40 am

Still no contact… Me to him or him to me.,,, I’m still missing him and would appreciate some advice.

sunshine

October 4, 2013 at 11:36 pm

Me and my ex broke up about 6 months ago. He started dating another girl instantly apparently they have known each other since elementary school but haven’t seen each other since. this girl is aggressive and overbearing. He at first was really mad at me, to a point where is seemed like he hated but you could tell he didn’t want to hurt me. We broke up because I was really depressed and he couldn’t deal with it because it was over year that we’ve been together and no matter what he did it was never good enough. I was his first love and we fought a lOt but no matter how much we fought we both can agree that we really love each other deeply.we haven’t spoken for about a month and a half then I contacted him. I didn’t even know if he was still with the girl and I didn’t ask, we had really good conversations we would joke around sometimes will bring up the past I changed a lot and I became more positive and he was really happy for me. I told him that I love him still on the phone and he would tell me how he still thought about how timing had such a big role in our relationship. He didn’t tell me about the other girl and I told me that the cuts are still fresh. The conversation had to end because he was going on a flight. A week later he told me about the other girl and how he loves her but I could tell that she forced him to say that then she message me telling me to kill myself. She also mentioned that they moved in together,but its been less than half a year. When I spoke to her right after him and I broke up she said that she was going to move in with him, but it was to upset me because of something I said. But I don’t doubt that she was going to move in with him,and she’s using him. After that, we had a hard time communicating again. I finally I asked him to meet up with me through an email that he never used he told me not to call or text time because you wanted to keep trouble away from us and as of now i don’t know how we are going to stay friends. We met up it was very casual and he told me how his new girl is feeling a certain way about me. Honestly I never did anything to disrespect their relationship so there’s no reason for her ,besides the fact that I am his first love, for her to be insecure. Then after the meet up whenever spoke again. After all this time I still believe he still love me because he never told me move on nor did he tell me that he doesn’t have feelings for me but I find that is really hard for us to communicate because of the situation. I’m not sure what to do I really in love with this guy. Towards the end of the meet up, I asked him if we can make this a weekly thing he said we’ll see. We had to meet up during his lunch So she wouldn’t find out.

admin

October 5, 2013 at 4:39 am

Hahah secret meet up!

You definitely gave him something to think about didn’t you though I am not crazy about you asking him to make this a “weekly thing.” An ungettable girl would not ask that of a guy. A guy would ask that of her.

Just sayin.
sunshine

October 13, 2013 at 8:01 pm

What are my chances of actually getting this guy back?
After that meet up we havent spoken and apparently now the girl is being so forceful that he deleted and blocked me off facebook.
admin

October 15, 2013 at 1:17 am

He will hopefully in the future find HER behavior ridiculous and a turn off.
sunshine

October 13, 2013 at 8:08 pm

And I found out that she just sleeps over alot, she hasn’t moved in… I have no doubt that he is the love of my life. She just came in during a weak point in our relationship. What they have, doesn’t look healthy but then again I can just be bias

mandy

October 4, 2013 at 7:56 am

Hello Chris..
I really appreciate and trust ur advices ..hopeful you’ll guide me as well.. I hv known this guy since last Feb., we were doing some business together then we kindda like each other and he was more into it than me and it showed.. I was a little hesitant about it .. which was frustrating for him ..then he backed off which when our business was almost done..he asked when he would see me again I said never and we laughed ..then I iafter couple of days i sent him an email thanking him for his effort and asked if he still want to be with me he reolied laughing are u still on it and this is like digging graves !! Anyway we continued to exchange emails but yhen he started to act busy and not responding then i told him this would be my last email to tell if he want to continue to be my friend or not and if he does not respond then i have my answer so he responded apolagizing and he didnt mean to be rude but he is really busy and he wants to meet with me sometime but he dont know when and I hv to be patient .. then i said ok .. waited and waited .. nothing so I told him to forget it and cut contanct for may be 2 month then i sent another email asking whats up .. only to find out after a while that he blocked me from email and mobile .. i thought he changed his work place or so .. then iafter 4 months i found him on FB I sent him a request as we didnt friend eachother on fb before and we never had a title on us we were acting like we are only friends !! Anyway after three days he rejected my request!! Oh before that he had a profile pic which didnt quite looked like him so i sent him a msg to ask if it was him the man i knew .. no response of course i dont even know if he had read the msg ..but afer a month he changed the picture to other one which was more like him .. so I sent the request ..can u tell me what was that .. why he rejected my fb and why he has blocked me .. i know i might hv read too much into it but believe me i know he had feeling for me but i don’t know why he was trying his best to confuse me ..and tell me plz if u dont mind what should I do ?? Please thank you in advance

admin

October 4, 2013 at 10:08 pm

Did you do anything that potentially made him mad? Did you part on bad terms?
mandy

October 5, 2013 at 6:15 am

Hi .. actually NO .. not at all ..nothing I am aware of .. it just i sent him couple of msgs he didnt respond as usual ..so I told him he is being passively aggressive and if he won’t respond I won’t send him any.. we live in 2 hrs distance different cities.. so he didn’t respond so I cut all contact..what worth saying that when I usually stop talking to him it’s only for max 5 days then I come back and we are good and he says I shouldnt get upset with him ever .. but this is the first time i meant it and it was 6 weeks long .. tell me what should I do now .. he never gave me solid grounds to stand on it and I was always confused and I asked him several time to be clear and specific and all he had to say that I hv to be patient with him and never get upset with him !!why would he be mad at me now .. i cann’t read his mind !!
Thanx again for your response
admin

October 6, 2013 at 12:08 am

I am sorry you kind of confused me. Are you saying that you went a full six weeks of no contact?
mandy

October 14, 2013 at 7:28 am

haha , that wasn’t helping at all , I “think” 😉
mandy

October 12, 2013 at 6:12 am

Of course all of this might be due to my over analysis .. but bottom line when I was finally sure he backed off !!
mandy

October 12, 2013 at 2:42 am

Haha ,yes Chris ..we all are complicated , I think it’s a protective mechanism, no-one wants to get hurts ,so we hide behind masks ,and to be honest ,I also a very complicated person, and I think I have created this mess , to be fair , at the very begin this man was upfront and clear abt what he wanted ,he asked me for a date on the first day ,actually he asked me three times and somehow I slid them all ,not intentionally , but I did ! also I think he thinks I don’t want a relationship ,only a chatting buddy !and that’s why he doesn’t bothered to respond to my e-mails cuz he knew if I am satisfied that way ,no way he would convince me to meet him! And in his last e-mail when he mentioned the meetup that’s cause on a previous one I kind of agreed to meet for dinner , for the first time , huge progress , haha , then I cut contact , haha I am crazy , he must be on therapy now hahaha ..
admin

October 13, 2013 at 8:23 pm

Your not crazy. You are jut an “extreme” thinker haha.
mandy

October 10, 2013 at 6:18 pm

Patience,the magic word !! ..and yes Chris , it’s a complicated situation and he is a very complicated person as well!
Thanks again and again for your responses , you really do give me the support I need .
admin

October 11, 2013 at 5:41 pm

Aren’t we all complicated? Haha amazing how crazy people can be isn’t it?
mandy

October 10, 2013 at 1:48 am

No , he didn’t , and won’t respond to it .. and if he was truely mad , probably he won’t respond to any text till I beg and plead .. and if he wasn’t mad and it was the end of it to him .. he won’t respond either .. see that was always my issue , I was always confused .. and he made sure to keep me that way .. even when I ask him directly .. he never gave me direct answer .. the only one time bfr the break I told him did he want me in his life .. he didn’t say stay or leave directly ..he wrote a long e.mail about how busy he was ..and he knew how upset he made me and he would be the same if he was in my shoes and I have to be patient with him and we need to arrange a meet up ..after that he continued the same ignoring and not responding to any .. and you know the rest .. Am I being played ??
admin

October 10, 2013 at 5:54 pm

I don’t think your being played. I think it is just a complicated situation that requires patience.
mandy

October 9, 2013 at 7:12 am

Hey Chris , it’s me again 🙂 .. yesterday I did something ,I don’t know if it was stupid or desperate !, anyway , I sent him a text , i said to myself what do I have to lose , he won’t get it anyway !! But to my surprise It was delivered , he unblocked my number ! And actually I got mad when I realized it ! What should I do now , I know he might be opening a window for me to come begging , and , I didn’t tell you this but when he deleted my fb request I thought he was only provoking me to react to it and try to contact him .. cuz that was the first thing I thought of doing then I backed up .. I want him to come to me ..please help me Chris ! By the way I only wrote in that msg ” what if ..! “
admin

October 10, 2013 at 12:36 am

Well, did he respond to your text?
mandy

October 7, 2013 at 2:10 am

Thank you Chris , I really appreciate your responses and thanks for your time ..
admin

October 7, 2013 at 11:27 pm

No problem!
mandy

October 6, 2013 at 7:49 am

P.s. I sent the FB request after 2 months after he blocked me ! Is that means it is over ?or he is just mad and there might be a hope ? I am afraid if I tried to reach for him he will block me for good !
admin

October 7, 2013 at 12:03 am

He is probably still mad.
mandy

October 6, 2013 at 1:14 am

Haha .. yes no contact at all .. and he didn’t try to contact me either ,then I sent him a brief email .. saying I don’t know how to fix this but he will understand why I did it .. after this he blocked me .. and now a few days ago he deleted my fb request !!
admin

October 6, 2013 at 11:51 pm

Well, he is trying to send you a clear message that right now at this moment he doesn’t want to talk to you. There isn’t much you can do to ultimately change his mind except let some time pass.
mandy

October 4, 2013 at 8:23 am

Yeah .. forget to mention he is a very nice guy .. so when i sent my fb request I knew he would pobably not want to accept it but i was sure he will let it just hang there pending till i took it off .. but to my surprise he rejected it!! .. it was so unlike him .. so can you help me out here !! Please .
admin

October 4, 2013 at 10:09 pm

Maybe it just hurts on his end right now.

Connie

October 3, 2013 at 7:01 pm

Hi Chris – Question for you…So my ex and I broke up in March or had a really bad argument where we both didn’t contact each other for a while. Only off and on for the past 5 months. I never stopped loving him but was trying to work on some personal issues before I really reached out to have a discussion. Over that time, he landed a new job which requires him to travel extensively. Our short conversations were pleasant and amiable. But neither of us pushed for a reconciliation. Then I noticed his FB account where some girl was posting pics of herself in a bikini and a lot of other random pics. Then the I miss you quotes and Baby this Baby that. I realized it was much more that I thought. So I asked him about her and he said they were in fact dating. There was so much I wanted to say to him and never did. I felt it was time because I didn’t know just how serious this new situation was. So I told him I still loved him and wanted to know how he felt and if he thought we had the opportunity for a future. He told me I was selfish to drop a bomb on him like that out the blue. With all he has going on with him, the new job, being away from home, he didn’t have time to tell me yet. I told him I needed to know so I could move on or not. He told me he couldn’t at that time. I told him since he couldn’t I had to move on. I deactivated my FB page so I wouldn’t have to see all that mess she posts. I did try to contact him one last time. He didn’t answer the phone nor my texts. That was 1 week ago. Now I feel as if I made the biggest mistake by not allowing him time. Do you think I have lost him forever? I would like to proceed with NC. But just want to know if you think I have messed up the process. Thanks

admin

October 4, 2013 at 1:12 am

Definitely proceed with NC. You made a mistake but it’s not the worst of all time.

The best thing you can do in your situation is use the NC time wisely IN YOUR FAVOR!

Rissa

October 3, 2013 at 5:56 pm

My ex boyfriend of two and a half years ended things with me after web tried fixing our relationship. I am almost positive he is seeing my old friend from high school. He has cut me out of his life and not talked to me in two weeks which is when I went NC. I’ve asked other people and they say to wait longer than a month to contact him based off everything we have been through but I’m scared he will only get closer to this girl. He said he had fallen in love with me again and we talked about our future just a couple of weeks before he ended things. I don’t want to believe this is the end, but I’m not sure which approach is best for me.

admin

October 4, 2013 at 1:09 am

I tend to agree with the others. Finish out NC.

Brianna

October 2, 2013 at 11:13 am

So.. my ex is now in a new relationship, I just found out. But he’s already posting pictures of them together after everything me and him have been through? I think it’s a rebound relationship because it only happened a month or two after we broke up. Along with the fact that our feelings were extremely strong and had good memories together when we were together. I don’t know. I feel like he still has feelings for me, but he’s already posting pictures of them etc.. I’m confused. Has he moved on? Right now I’m working on the whole NC rule. I know he saw me at the mall the other day because his friend’s mentioned him saying something about it to me. This is just really bugging me because he was my first everything basically and I don’t want to completely lose him.

admin

October 3, 2013 at 1:14 am

It always hurts to see someone you have feelings for in a relationship. But the bright side is that the new girl could be a rebound.
Brianna

October 2, 2013 at 11:15 am

Along with the fact that this is the first girl he’s talked to since our break up, so in my head I’m assuming this a is a rebound..

Binky

October 2, 2013 at 1:27 am

Hi me and my boyfriend split up 5 month’s ago he just lleft after 3 week I realized I was pregnant with his child.we already have a daughter together and I thought we was happy I told him about the baby but he didn’t seem bothered I ended up losing the baby and had no support from him 2 weeks after I told him he tells me he’s met somone new. I was heartbroken but I sucked it up and told him ok I tried to move on but I miss him soo much then I went to drop my daughter off with him the following week and he tried it on with me even tho he was still with his girlfriend and we’ve been seeing eatch other behind her back I feel awful I’ve tried to break it off with him but I love him still his new girlfriend told him 2 weeks ago she’s pregnant with his baby and it looks like there keeping it but he still wants to sleep with me and now I juat dnt no what to do plus before he knew about the baby he moved in with her 2 days before ahe told him he tells me they argue all the time after he moved in they had a big fight and he moved all his stuff out and stopped with me that night I need advice someone plz help ?!?

admin

October 3, 2013 at 12:17 am

Have you read this page?

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/get-your-boyfriend-back-if-you-have-a-child-together/

shool

October 1, 2013 at 9:27 pm

hi chris
i broke up with my boyfriend about a year ago but a month ago i started to miss him. it happend when one time we hang together with some other friends and i felt like he was trying to get close to me. we were a little drunk. nothing happend.
a week later he got himself a new girlfriend which i found out about just a few days ago. when i found out i ignored both of them. is that bad?
it’s been a year since we broke up so that girl is not a rebound. what should i do? is there any change for me to get him back?

thank you!

admin

October 2, 2013 at 1:07 am

Have you read this page?

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-guide-to-getting-him-back-after-a-year-or-more-apart/

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