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vivian
October 6, 2016 at 1:23 am
Hi! 2 weeks after me and my boyfriend broke up (he did the break up), i found out he was dating another girl which broke me in pieces but i tried to keep myself calm. One week later, he texted me to tell me that he had met someone (he was forced to tell me by a mutual friend ours but he doesn’t know i know that) and after he told me about that girl, he offered to go with me to the doctor (i have health issues) because he knows it freaks me out to go by myself. I tried to talk him out of it because i thought he was doing it out of pity but he told me that he wanted to go with me and he wouldn’t be doing it if he didn’t want to. That was last week. Today, which is day 6 since i started the NC to see what happens, i ran into him at work, i acted politely but quiet and i told him was doing good but i didn’t give him many details, and he reminded me of the doctor thing again and said we are going in two days. Should i go with him to see what happens or should i politely decline? I don’t know what to say to avoid going with him since i really want to, however, i know i’m doing the NR and this kind of gets in the way. What would be your best advice and what should i say/do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 7, 2016 at 8:55 am
Hi Vivian,
politely decline.. and just keep being civil, short and polite at work.. if he has commitment issues then the best you can do is to show you’re independent and have your own life
Anglet
September 30, 2016 at 2:15 am
We just known each other for 2 months. We work in two different countries so we cherish each time that we got to spend together. We decided to go out for a road trip for a week. We hold hands and kiss and behave like couples. It were the most unforgettable moment of me with him throughout the trip. However, everything seem to be an end after he sent me off at the airport. Not even a kiss goodbye or a hug. He didn’t treat me the same like before anymore. Our interaction are just like normal friends (or worse). He didnt reply my text anymore when I was trying to clarify our relationship with him. My heartache so much. I saw him posting his pictures in fb like having fun without me. Is he the one who trying to play the NC with me? Or he is just a player? Literally our relationship only last for one week. Is it still possible to get him back? I really miss him and I want him back so badly :'(
Anglet
October 2, 2016 at 12:11 pm
it means there’s no way to get him back? 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 5, 2016 at 9:21 am
hmm.. not really.. check this one:
How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If He’s “A Player”
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 1, 2016 at 2:17 pm
Hi Anglet,
I don’t think he’s doing the no contact rule. It looks like he just played you.
Ana
September 27, 2016 at 11:01 pm
I was dating this guy for a short time. He just came out of a 10 yr relationship only 2 months before. At 1st I was very hesitant to belueve anything he said, because I didn’t want to be the rebound girl. I expressed my conserns to him many times to, which he always replied he that he was 100% sure he wanted a serious relationship with me, and had no desire to return with his ex. I finally decided to give him a chance and the same day I told him I wanted to make it officail he calls me and tells me that his ex found out he was talking to someone and was mad and told him she wasn’t going to let him see his 12 yr old daughter. I this point I asked him if he was sure he wanted to continue seeing me since veo g with me was causing him problems. He said again yes that he had no intentions of taking her back. (I should probably mention that I knew this guy years ago and that we had a crush on each other back then, but never acted on it because at time we meet he had just found out his ex was pregnant and he felt obligated to try to make it work with her.) Well back to the current Store. We made plans to see each other that night. I was supposed to send the Night with him since his birthday was next day, but he never showed up. He ignored all my text messages , and 2 days later I find out through his Facebook that he got back with his ex because he up dated his relationship status. I really want to talk to him but I don’t know what to say that might possibly make a diffrence to him. I feel so hurt beacuse he asured me over and over that he would not hurt me and I woyld not regret being with him and then he leaves me with no explanation. I really felt we had strong chemistry, and I felt he was being honest which is why I fell for him but I don’t know what made him return to his ex. Not to sound shallow but I am actually way prettier and younger then her, and she wasn’t so good to him from what he told me. She dumped him several Times before. Anyhow how do I get him to contact me without looking desperate?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 29, 2016 at 5:14 am
Hi Ana,
He probably got back with her because of his daughter.. there’s nothing you can do but just to let him be and then continue on with your life and in being great because he will compare you to her.. so, be great so that whenever he compares you to her, he would see how great you are and how you never manipulated him like his ex did.. you should go out with your friends too. He has to think that you’re moving on in life, you’re not waiting and that he would lose you if he doesnt act about it
Sierra
September 23, 2016 at 3:56 am
So about 2 months ago my ex and I broke up he broke up with me said he couldn’t trust me didn’t cheat I lied about being at work when I actually quit my job and didn’t tell him. He has been cheated on in the past with other women and when we broke up it just seemed like it was due his bitterness from his past that plagued our relationship. I didn’t think that it was going to ruin us because even though we were only together for 3 months we talked about getting married and having kids literally he called me his wife. So we broke up and he blocked me in every single way imaginable. I did the no contact rule but it seems as if he still hasn’t unblocked me. I have made some changes in my life ever since the break up I started school and a new job even lost weight. How can I get my ex boyfriend to talk to me when he still hasn’t even unblocked it’s going on 3 months since our break up and I just want to have a conversation not rush back into things like before. Is there anything I can do? Because it just seems hopeless for me
Sierra
September 26, 2016 at 2:37 pm
Thank you and you are absolutely right I can leave the situation knowing that I tried and that he connected with me differently than he ever connected with another woman before we both liked the same things I feel like I did raise a very high standard for him and he may already know that or he will know that. But for now I am just going to focus on myself and if it’s meant to be it will cause I can’t force it.
Sierra
September 26, 2016 at 1:29 pm
I guess the whole time we were dating I didn’t realize or feel as if I was the rebound because he said he’s never had a relationship like ours before and he wanted serious things like marriage and kids. He treated me like a queen and said I was the one so that really hurts to know that I’m the rebound and to be blocked out completely
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 26, 2016 at 1:42 pm
Yeah, but his actions now say otherwise, so to help you move on. Keep that in mind.
Sierra
September 25, 2016 at 11:06 pm
I just have one more question. Based off of what I told you about my ex boyfriend how would describe what’s going on in his head? Because when we were together he got out of a relationship prior to me I don’t know how long but I think it was pretty fresh. So I just want to know why he would date me if he wasn’t ready I mean we didn’t have sex but we were very attracted to one another and to me I just don’t understand because our relationship just kind of happened it wasn’t planned so am I the rebound? He didn’t like talking about his exes that much which was fine to me because I don’t want to hear about them I just need to understand and get some kind of clarity because it drives me insane.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 26, 2016 at 10:34 am
Yes, it looks like you are the rebound. It doesn’t mean he meant using you as the rebound but he may realized that later on and he doesn’t want you to expect further.
Sierra
September 24, 2016 at 6:37 pm
Thank you so much I’ve came to that conclusion before but still wanted to see if I had a chance now I think I’m finally ready to fully let him go completely.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 25, 2016 at 9:34 am
You’re welcome Sierra. I really hope the best for you.
Sierra
September 24, 2016 at 4:58 am
I’ve tried to reach out to him with no response in return. When we broke up he sent me a text saying that he couldn’t do this anymore, he doesn’t trust me and that he’s a catch (I know ouch) I’m beginning to think that he didn’t feel appreciated that’s why he said “I’m a catch” and I don’t know if he’s ever planning on reaching out to me at all. We already broke up once and got back together and he said if we break up again he’s gone for good it just feels like there was a lot of things left unsaid and I don’t necessarily want to jump back into things and I know he’s probably thinking that’s my MO
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 24, 2016 at 7:28 am
Hi Sierra,
if he has blocked you for three months now, and you already made all the improvement then to be honest, there is less chance that you can talk to him anytime soon. It might take a very long time before he really starts to be open with you again. For now, I think you need to move on.
Jaclyn
September 18, 2016 at 9:19 pm
Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 4 years… last week he was acting distant and wouldn’t even give me a kiss. Over the weekend I asked him what was wrong, he replied with him being stressed about work and wanting the day to himself, I asked if it had anything to do with me and he did not reply. I gave him 2 days to himself without contacting him. On the 3rd day I texted him asking if work was any better, no reply. That night I texted him saying how I support him and am here if he needs to talk, no reply. It’s been 4 additional days and I still haven’t heard from him.
What should I do???!?
Jaclyn
September 18, 2016 at 9:30 pm
I’m beginning to think we’re over again and I don’t know what to do
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 20, 2016 at 5:52 pm
Hi Jaclyn,
for me, you’re doing the right thing on being supportive and not demanding.. Give yourself a limit on until when you could wait. 2 or 3 weeks? Until you ask him what your relationship status is..
Jennifer
September 15, 2016 at 10:38 am
Hi! I dated my boyfriend for almost three years. We have communication issues. It is hard to talk to him and it is hard to talk to me, but we both love each other so incredibly much. I moved three hours away a year ago and the distance only made things more difficult. I’ve become angry and jealous because he has done a few things I don’t appreciate and it has been hard for me to move on from them. Three weeks we got in a huge fight and broke up. Two days later I stopped contacting him because I was angry he broke up with me when I know we still love each other and I wanted to keep some dignity. I havent contacted him since. Yesterday was a special day for me and he texted me early in the morning. I wrote back ‘Thank you so much’ and that was it. What do I do now?
Jennifer
September 18, 2016 at 4:42 pm
I have worked on myself a lot and continue to do so. I’m not 100% but getting there. I just have this feeling he is the one. I have to stop picking fights with him though. He is pretty stubborn so I’m scared he won’t want to try again even if I continue to do everything right. What do I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 20, 2016 at 3:59 pm
Just take it slow.. Don’t worry too much.. don’t jump right in asking if he wants to work things out..
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 17, 2016 at 2:40 pm
Hi Jennifer,
how much have you improved since you stopped talking to him?
Chris
September 15, 2016 at 4:36 am
Hello!
Few days ago my boyfriend got mad and jealous after i told him that someone asked me if im still single as she wants me to marry her brother. I actually didn’t agree, instead i replied to her ” oh really”. according to him that reply seemed im also interested with the proposal.. For that reason he stopped communicating with me.. I tried to call him but his phone has been off since then.. Hoping you could help me by givins some advise… Thank you
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 17, 2016 at 2:37 pm
HI Chris,
let him cool off for now, give him a week before talking to him again.
Pam
September 13, 2016 at 7:43 am
My Ex broke up with me almost a month ago, because he said he couldn’t handle me bringing up his past and blaming him for everything anymore. We had been having several fights going on for a few weeks before the break up, and he said it messed his head up too much. We are both 26, and were in a long distance relationship for 18 months. He came to see me twice, and had already bought the plane ticket to come and see me this Christmas, but he broke up with me first. We had a chance to speak a few times after the break up, and in the first 2 conversations, he was cold and distant. On the 3rd week after the break up, he texted me to see how I was, so we skyped for an hour. He told me that he already went to cancel the plane ticket, and he will not come to see me this year anymore. He told me how bad it felt to have to tell everybody that we are not together anymore, and how difficult it is for him to move on when he still sees our pictures everywhere. So, I told him I don’t really know what to do, and I asked him if we could try again and work things out. He said he cannot get back with me at this point in time, because he needs to work on himself, and clear his head. He said he still loves me and he still has everything I gave him. He showed me our pictures on his cellphone, laptop, and the picture frame on his night stand to prove to me that it’s not easy for him as well. Again, I begged him to give us both another chance, and he still said he cannot and he asked me not to push him. So, I told him I cannot really move on, not if we are still friends and I still have him on facebook. He, then, told me to delete our pictures and unfriend him, if it would make it easier for me. So, I told him I’m not strong enough to do that, and I asked him if we are really never getting back together? He told me he didn’t say that we will never get back together, he just said that right now he cannot get back with me because we both need time and space to work on ourselves. We were both crying during the conversation, and I could see that he still loved me, but too confused to come back. So, we made a term not to contact each other again until he is ready to reconcile with me. Now it’s been almost a week since we last spoke, and I feel even worse than the first weeks after the break up. I deleted all of our pictures and videos from my facebook last night hoping it would make me feel better. On the contrary, I feel more hopeless than before. I’ve been thinking about what he said a lot (even in my sleep), and I’ve been trying to figure out what he meant by saying he loves me, but he still cannot get back with me. It only comes down to 2 reasons; 1. he is already seeing somebody else, and 2. he is already used to not having me around, and he feels better that way. It is just so bad either way. I become so obsessive, and consumed by the thoughts of texting him everyday. I can’t ever sleep properly, and I cry more often than before. I’m feeling just like I’m losing him forever. I still havent unfriended him on facebook, because I’m honestly holding on to the chance that we might get back together. But seriously, I just don’t really know what to do anymore.
Pam
September 14, 2016 at 4:46 pm
Hi Admin,
Thank you for your theory.
I havent been in contact with him for a week now, and I dont plan to contact him first ever again. When I talked to him last time, I told him it’s hard enough for me to move on having him as a friend on facebook. So if he is not ready to come back, then he can have all the time and spaces he needs. But in the meantime, I want him to stop texting me unless he wants to start over. Cause everytime he texted me, I had my hopes up that he wanted to come back, then I realized he texted me just to see if I was doing ok and nothing more. Then, I would feel like I got my heart broken again, and I would have to start over from day 1 again. He agreed that he would not text me until he is ready to give us another shot. I even said goodbye to him, and he was like “don’t say goodbye. Say talk to you soon. Because goodbye means we are not going to ever talk to each other again.” He was really nice and calm and he sounded like he would get back soon, but I dont know now. It just doesn’t feel like he is going to come back ever again. I’m starting to give up.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 14, 2016 at 4:29 pm
HI Pam,
I have a third theory. He still sees you as the same girl he broke up with and he’s just so tired of all the fighting and negativity of the relationship, he doesn’t want to go back to that.
Are you going to try the no contact rule?
anonymous
September 11, 2016 at 6:35 am
hi
i told my ex not to contact me again and now i regret it is there a chance he will contact me
thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 12, 2016 at 5:16 pm
Hi Anonymous,
We cant assure that.. Why did you say that? How long were you together and how old are you both?
Maddie
September 7, 2016 at 5:24 pm
I am going to start this out by saying that this story has so many factors but I am going to try and list the most important. As I wrote this I am at a very desperate place. My boyfriend of a year and 2 months ended things with me. The story stars this past summer. We were arguing so much and were working at a summer camp. Camp became too much especially with all the fighting we were doing. I told him either he came home with me or we were over. Long story short we went home…we started working for a guy who my ex boyfriend had previously worked for. This guy came onto me and because I was struggling with things with my boyfriend I fed into it. My ex boyfriend and I decided to go on a break which led to three days later a break up. A few weeks after the break up we met and decided to turn the break up to a break. We agreed to not see each other for a month (this was Aug. 1) that did not lay we hung out numerous times. I also hung out with the jerk guy behind my ex boyfriends back. I just felt like I was missing something but wasn’t sure what. I admitted to my ex boyfriend and he agreed to work things out and that he forgave me. About two weeks later I selfishly got really upset that he wouldn’t drive an hour to spend the night with me. This led to a huge fight and ultimately the official break up. That happened one day before our official break was over. I’ve contacted him numerous time since he broke up with me because is hard! He finally agreed to sit down and talk November 30th that will have given us both enough time to calm down. This talk wasn’t for us to get back together just talk.I contacted him again after…numerous times in a row because he kept ignoring me. He answered and screamed at me expressing that he will always resent me for making him come home from camp and how we will never get back together and how we will no longer be meeting November 30th I begged and his last words were if you contact me again we will not meet I swear to God. Then my number was blocked. I found him on tinder and am just confused. I was his first ever girlfriend. The no contact is so hard for me because j truly do love him I was just in a rough spot. My question is even though I’m blocked do you think if I don’t contact him (I have through a fake number when I was blocked before) that he will contact me? I want to believe that he is just mad because it’s only been a week and I’ve been calling none stop. However the last contact was Monday. Today is Wednesday. Please please please help.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 9, 2016 at 8:32 am
Hi Maddie,
we can’t guarantee but if you just wait, it will not help to improve the situation. Start 45 days no contact and then focus in improving yourself, in being more rational and making it seem that you have moved on.
Brooke
September 5, 2016 at 1:32 am
Idk what to do. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. However, after about a month, we started talking again and continued talking and seeing each other all throughout the summer. Now we are back in school (we go to the same college) and he told me he has no time for me and that he wants to stop seeing me. So I made a list of all the reasons I should move on just to help myself, and on the list it included him being mentally abusive. He saw the list accidentally and got so mad. He told me he never wants to talk to me again, but I’m still in love with him. He says he no longer cares about me or loves me, and I’m driving myself crazy trying to get him back. Is it worth it? What should I do to change his mind??
Brooke
September 6, 2016 at 4:49 pm
Do you really think he will never talk to me again though?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 7, 2016 at 9:43 am
Nope.. I didnt say never. I said you need to change first.. 😉 if you’re never going to change then that’s different.. Dont wallow in the pit of negativity ok? Go out there. Discover yourself. Heal and improve
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 6, 2016 at 7:10 am
Hi Brooke,
He has to see that you have moved on. Right now, you’re probably that crazy ex girlfriend in his mind. So, you have to change that by really changing yourself and having your own life.
Terrified
September 2, 2016 at 3:58 am
Well, I was about 13 days into no contact and everything was going well and I had not contacted him at all. But then I messed up. I was talking to a guy I know and I jokingly called my ex a mean name. And it was obvious it was in a joking manner but it doesn’t make it any better. I don’t want to say what I called him but it wasn’t exactly nice. At this point I was the angry ex, because my boyfriend broke up with me, and by then I was honestly pretty upset with him.
Later my ex literally walked up to me, and I couldn’t just pretend that he wasn’t there or walk away so he broke no contact. He asked me why I called him what I called him. Trust me, im kicking myself for it now. The guy I was talking to and called my ex this mean name to told him I said that. My ex was super mad. I tried to apologize to him and explain I didn’t mean it, I was just very hurt and my emotions got the better of me. He was just so mad at me for calling him that that he wouldn’t even let me talk to him. I texted him later that night and just told him i was sorry and I understand why he was mad. I left it at that. I’m starting no contact all over again.
I messed up and now I’m worried that my chances are completely ruined at getting him back. my ex is seriously mad about this. Im thinking I just have to give him time. Besides this, I was doing very well and hadn’t said anything hurtful to him. Our relationship didn’t end because of a huge fight. Everything was going well except for this. Is it possible I can fix this?
Terrified
September 3, 2016 at 12:10 am
Thank you so much. Do you think there is still a chance I can get him back after an incident like this? I’m really sorry and I’ve done all I can for now to convey that. I’m just worried that he will never be able to look past that, and it would be the reason he would never want me back. It was a mean thing for me to do and it was pretty out of character for me.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 3, 2016 at 6:07 pm
I think there is.. you just really have to be active.. move on from it and grow
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 2, 2016 at 3:58 pm
HI Terrified,
You just have to let time do it’s thing.. When he sees you’re moving on, and being happy in life, he would probably think there’s no use to be angry because he’s the only one that’s angry.
Pippy
August 27, 2016 at 12:15 pm
Hi,
I waited 30 days of no contact and then email him. Because he blocked my number after he broke up with me 🙁 and we emailed back and forth a little bit. Then I asked if he wanted to meet for a coffee as I was in town and he said that he isn’t ready yet as he’s still sad about stuff but likes being ‘pen pals’ and wants to be friends in the future. Then I said ok and let me know if he changes his mind and then I asked him how living in his new place his, told him about my plans and also I tied in reminiscing about some memories of how we met because it was related to something else I had been talking about. Two weeks later now and he never responded. Should I email again or wait another two weeks or wait for him to contact me? Also I had a break through in my therapy session which proves that I was really traumatised by something that happened whilst we were together as it was just a trigger from a traumatic experience from when I was a child. He never took me seriously about it before because the thing was so trivial and didn’t understand why I was behaving that way so he got annoyed and didn’t support me and lost trust for me. Maybe if I tell him about this new information he’ll take me seriously and understand me now (I’m over it already anyway I just wanted him be supportive about it before) I want to tell him as it might change things and him want me back? But I don’t know how I can tell him and get him to listen? How do I do it? How do I get him to talk on the phone now? Or do I just wait and not bring it up yet?
Pippy
September 9, 2016 at 2:59 am
Hi,
Ok thanks yeah I won’t tell him unless maybe if he brings it up. Neither of us has contacted each other since he said he wasn’t ready to meet and didn’t reply to me. I think he checks my Instagram because when we were emailing he said he liked my new art work I posted. I actually haven’t posted on Instagram in weeks because I’ve been busy and normally I always post a lot.
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 30, 2016 at 11:38 am
HI Pippy,
are you social media friends? Telling him will just make you sound like you’re telling it to him so he will come back to you.. therefore making you look like a chaser..
Anne
July 22, 2016 at 10:35 am
this is getting exciting ! I can’t thank you enough! I had posted happy posts about visiting my dream destination Disney world and another a happy song(me and my ex once danced on that song) .today this mutual friend of ours messaged me again asking me to call him(our mutual friend) up because he has something to say.to which I replied what is it about.what should I do ? get into a no contact with this mutual friend too or do I Call/ msg him.he is trying to open communication lines for my ex.he replied to my question that he feels that its his fault(our mutual friend) where as he was no where in the scene.and also asked me to forgive my ex. I don’t know if they are together and messaging me.something fishy?he is continuously saying that I should try to forgive him.I just don’t know what to say
Anne
July 22, 2016 at 11:13 am
I even told him that these things are past and there is no point talking on those lines( to show I have moved on) was this wrong? then I told him i have some work will chat later.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 22, 2016 at 8:15 pm
Hi Anne,
you don’t have to block your friend..though it looks like that was actually your ex..but you can tell him, you appreciate him talking in behalf of your ex but theae things need to be in between your ex and you only.. and that now is not the right time to talk about that too
shruti shukla
July 21, 2016 at 10:24 am
He blocked me frm ever where n told me nt to cnt any more in life even i m nt sure he luvs me or its just a attraction for him
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 22, 2016 at 12:02 pm
HI Shruti,
do you want to do active no contact?
shruti shukla
July 21, 2016 at 10:20 am
I have a different prm with my ex if u r there with me i really wnt u r help bcoz its to hard for me to live without him
Anne
July 20, 2016 at 5:34 am
hi! I had posted my question on may 26 and June 10. it was regarding my breakup and I was in the middle of the no contact.presently I am still in no contact. I couldn’t improve much physically but mentally I have stabilized my emotions.my ex tried to contact me through a mutual friend on Facebook. but I lay low and didn’t give information about my whereabouts. he wanted to know.then after a few days my ex called on my old number. just two rings and he disconnected the call.maybe he wanted me to call him back but I didn’t because I am doing the no contact.later again after a few days he messaged me on Facebook about an exam I have in august.he said ‘the admit card is out’ .this I feel is a hybrid of test message and catch up message.he tried to show concern I guess and also was testing my reaction. I haven’t replied to this also.what do you think I should do? should I remain in no contact ? or should I reply something or call back. he is still adding girls non stop in his Facebook.he had borrowed a notebook which he knows I need for the exam but I have bought a book to avoid contacting him.he doesn’t know and must be thinking I’ll contact him.there’s a power struggle going on it seems.thank you for the advice I received. it worked that’s why he called.another query is should I keep sharing stuff I usually share on Facebook.its not anything emotional only nature and animal related or should I remain a secret?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 21, 2016 at 2:42 pm
Hi Anne
that’s good but stay in nc and this time be active in posting your activities too
Jessica
July 20, 2016 at 5:18 am
So I had broken up with my boyfriend after 3 1/2 years… He wasn’t giving me what I had wanted… Attention wise and such. Long story. However the pros were more then the cons. I had moved on, so what I thought. I had closed my feelings that I had for him because I was afraid of getting hurt by him. Well turns out, the breakup was a HUGE shock to him and it hurt him very very very bad… I’m away finishing my college degree so this made it a little easier for me that is.. Not being able to see him. He’d call me nonstop, he sent me letters (which is something I always did to him) I guess I just needed a break, needed to grow some more, needed to find myself. Well I have to say living on your own away from everything you knew, helps you figure that out quick… We had probably 3-4months of no contact. Well I had came home for the first time in a long time, and had met up with him. We had long long conversations. Soooo much to catch up on. It was really nice and great to see him. I started to miss us. Our little quirks. Just how comfortable we were with each other. It sparked something in me. Well I had left and came back a few times. I was home more often and we’d hang out. Took him for a drink on him birthday. We drove 20min out to the Jetty and walked along the beach and a pier. It was the best night with him I had had in a very long time. Felt like he saw me, like it was us. Well the whole no contact I felt helped me for him. So I do believe this system works. But now I for sure know I want him back and recently his texts have become short and nonexistent… I know there isn’t another girl. I just don’t know what all of a sudden changed… I pulled him aside and had a conversation with him. I wanted to see if there was a chance. He told me that he cares about me, and will always love me, but that right now he is trying to work on himself and do something for himself. He feels that his whole life he has been dependent on someone and I get that… But I was never the girlfriend that stopped him from doing anything for himself. I was there when he needed support. And yes if I text him he will respond it’s just very short responses and usually I’m the last to respond… Should I try this whole no contact rule for myself? Is he scared to get back with me in fear that I will leave? I made it clear to him that if we were to get back that I was going no where. Our relationship has always been very good in communication. We could tell each other everything. Idk what I should do… I feel stuck… 🙁 I miss him terribly..
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 21, 2016 at 2:39 pm
hi Jessica,
I think you’ve done enough nc..you just need to build rapport now
Monica
July 19, 2016 at 3:18 am
Ok, 8 months of no contact. My ex video calls me, because he didn’t have my number. This just happened last Thursday. Let me say we were in a LDR….He was home Thursday through today for a family reunion. He called me Friday as well trying to setup time to see me. Well, it didn’t happen, he texted me Sunday, but it was late, so we didn’t meet. We met this morning, I dropped him off to the airport, but we had a very nice chat. After he got to the airport hotel text me and said ” it was really great seeing u”. We had other conversation that makes me know that he has missed me.
Should I wait for him to reach out again or is it OK for me to text him?
Help!
Love him in Atlanta!!
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 20, 2016 at 2:22 pm
Hi Monica!,
it’s ok to text him.. you should build rapport
ANONYMOUS
July 13, 2016 at 5:42 pm
If your boyfriend broke up with you and you have not contacted him in awhile is it okay to write a letter? I have had a lot happen when we were together. I told him something but other things I kept to myself, plus we were arguing a lot before the break up. Is a letter describing things that happened and opening up a good idea?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 13, 2016 at 6:46 pm
Hi Anonymous,
it depends on the situation