Being a parent is tough…
Being a single parent is even tougher.
Such is the case for the woman who is featured on this episode of “The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast”
FYI: The woman who is featured on this episode of the podcast wanted to remain anonymous so whenever you hear me referring to “anonymous” I am referring to her.
Video Of Episode 55 (Should You Lie To Your Ex Boyfriend On Purpose?)
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Let’s recap Anonymous’ situation
Anonymous’ Situation
- She has been broken up with her ex for 3 months…
- From what I can tell they broke up 1 month before the birth of their daughter
- Their daughter is 2 months old
- She started the no contact rule about a week and a half ago
- Everything has been going great until today when her ex reached out to her because he want’s to see the baby
- So, she decided to text him this:
- Of course, the whole text was a lie since she didn’t have a date
- She wonders if it’s ok to lie to get an ex boyfriend back
What I Talk About In This Episode
- Should you work lying into your game plan for getting your ex back?
- The pickup artist mindset…
- Is it ever a good idea to lie?
- The risks associated with lying to your ex
- The problem with the lie that anonymous told
- The types of white lies I am willing to endorse
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Transcript For Episode 55
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Alexandra
August 28, 2016 at 9:10 am
Hi!
It could be long but I really want to explain as well as it is possible.
My boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 months ago. He told me that we were not good match and he wanted to be single right now( wewere together almost one year). I begged to him. No results. I had started no contact rule but after two weeks I called him just to hear his voice. Unfortunately I begged to him again. He told me that he didnāt miss me and he didnāt want to give us another chance. I decided to try again the no contact rule. After whole month I called him. I wanted to meet with him. He was ery resentful about this idea but he agreed. We met 3 days ago. The meeting was cool , I showed him my ābetter versionā. No begging or pleading, just normal conversations about our lives. After meeting I texted him, as you advise, that today was fun. He wrote me back that he was afraid that I was pregnant but he knew now that I wanted to show him what a great girl I am right now and what he had lost and he thinks that this breakup was good thing for us because we both are better version of ourselves.
I have no idea what to do now. What should I do?
REPLY
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 28, 2016 at 12:04 pm
Hi Alexandra,
dont rush things.. the goal is to make him think you’ve moved on and just starting out as friends.. but if it’s like you’re purposely trying to show him you’ve changed so he can go back to you now, that’s still chasing..
but it’s good that you’ve improved…continue that but take everything slow.. You’re appearing to start to be too available.. texts firsts, then calls and then meetups..
I think he also sensed you were trying to convince him that you are better now for him to come back so he replied that the breakup was a good thing(and better keep it that way)
but, just try to establish that you have your own life now.. dont convince him back, attract him back..
read this articles for that:
What Really Attracts An Ex Boyfriend To You?
The Ungettable Girl
Alexandra
August 25, 2016 at 6:26 am
Hi!
It could be long but I really want to explain as well as it is possible.
My boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 months ago. He told me that we were not good match and he wanted to be single right now( wewere together almost one year). I begged to him. No results. I had started no contact rule but after two weeks I called him just to hear his voice. Unfortunately I begged to him again. He told me that he didn’t miss me and he didn’t want to give us another chance. I decided to try again the no contact rule. After whole month I called him. I wanted to meet with him. He was ery resentful about this idea but he agreed. We met 3 days ago. The meeting was cool , I showed him my ”better version”. No begging or pleading, just normal conversations about our lives. After meeting I texted him, as you advise, that today was fun. He wrote me back that he was afraid that I was pregnant but he knew now that I wanted to show him what a great girl I am right now and what he had lost and he thinks that this breakup was good thing for us because we both are better version of ourselves.
I have no idea what to do now. What should I do?
Vivienne
August 24, 2016 at 8:43 pm
NC will end soon and I have a question, if my ex and I were not really the kind of couple that used to call each other (we used to text a lot but seldom talked on phone as neither of us really liked talking on phone). Could I build rapport just using text only?
Nicole
August 24, 2016 at 12:03 am
Alright, so to keep this short, sweet, and simple:
My ex and I broke up back in March. He ended it, hooked up with his ex (slept with her twice), and basically threw my feelings back into my face several times. I performed the no contact rule (I was successful). About a month after I had used the no contact rule (as predicted) he came back to me in the most bizarre way imaginable. His ex (they never became exclusive) had become sexual with one of his friends. She and his friend basically went out on a date and had oral sex.
They (he and his ex) had made plans to go to prom together, but because of what happened, they ended up coming separate. He followed me around at prom, danced with me, and even told me how much he loved me and missed me. At first, I wasn’t going to give him another chance (I mean who would after your first love sleeps with his ex?); however, he ended up crying and begging me not to leave him in the parking lot. Needless to say, I gave in and told him we should just take it slow for a while.
Prom was back in May, so we talked for about two months. You can imagine how I must have felt, having found out that he slept with his ex within the two months that we were broken up (not to mention the fact that he would call me off of private numbers and text me once or twice every two weeks during said break up). Of course I was insecure about myself and my ability to perform in bed (because now he had someone to compare me to). I voiced my fears to him, only for him to get upset that I’d feel that way.
Fast forward to around July 29th. We had went on a date maybe a week prior to all of this, but you could feel the difference as far as atmosphere went, and it wasn’t for the better. I could tell he was shifting away and that more than likely, we were becoming more distant.
About two days after the date, I had asked if he had wanted to spend the day together, but he said that he was too busy with VBS to see me. Well, his sister ended up telling me that he had went over to one of his friend’s houses. I wasn’t upset that he went to hangout with a friend, but more the fact that he lied about it. We argued and I said we just needed some space. We didn’t text for a couple of days. I ended texting him to show him my new earrings to possibly break the ice, only to receive a short response. I later texted him and said we needed to talk. I asked him if his feelings for me had changed, to which he told me yes. He said that it was him, that he had changed, but that he still cared about me a lot and wanted me in his life, etc.
I explained to him that I didn’t feel that we could be friends (simply due to how close we were at one point as romantic partners), and that it was best that we just stopped contacting each other. It has now almost been a month since the incident, and school started Monday (we’re both seniors in high school this year). We haven’t contacted each other since. While I know that my feelings for him aren’t as strong as they were before, I still get that sinking feeling when I see him. I know that after everything that has happened, that I should just stay away and completely avoid him. Unfortunately, we have one class together, and I know he got this class just to be around me. I came to this conclusion because I was the one who tried to push him to taking some early college classes that our school provided, that way he could get ahead and possibly bring up his GPA. He said he’d rather not do any, especially college english (the class we share) because he is absolutely horrendous when it comes to grammar. There are only two college english classes, so he clearly had a 50/50 chance of ending up in mine. Sadly, I can’t get out of the class (my schedule is a stalemate, I tried talking to the counselor).
The first day of school, I could tell he was glancing at me from across the room, because his head would move ever so slightly in my direction every couple of minutes. Then after school, he drove past my car really slow with his window down. I didn’t make eye contact with him, much less look in his direction. I could see his reflection on my car. I thus decided that in order to see if he was watching my Facebook, that I would update my status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”. I received a bunch of likes on the update, including one from his friend (this is where the current dilemma starts). Of course, that gives me the heads up that his friend will more than likely tell my ex that I’m seeing someone (even though I’m really not). What I wasn’t prepared for, was his friend coming to find me and talk to me about it. I walked outside of school today, and saw the friend. Said friend approached me, so I greeted him. He then hugs me and proceeds to ask who I was seeing. I was’t quite sure how to respond, much less had I actually thought of some sort of lie to tell if I was ever asked. I just answered with, “Oh, he’s older, you probably wouldn’t know him”. He then asked if he could know the name, to which I replied I’d rather not answer.
So I’m not sure if the friend was genuinely curious or if my ex had sent him on an information hunt. Either way, I just know that my ex didn’t drive by my car today. While I don’t necessarily want my ex back (he’s honestly too irresponsible and immature right now), I do want him to miss me. Not to be a jerk, but more the fact that I still have slight feelings and want him to know that he missed out.
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 28, 2016 at 8:05 am
Hi Nicole,
just be your best self and dont mind him.. if he sees you’re continuously improving yourself and having fun and not chasing him, that can make him regret losing you