Does Your Ex Boyfriend Still Care About You? Let’s Find Out Together!

185 thoughts on “Does Your Ex Boyfriend Still Care About You? Let’s Find Out Together!”

Katie

January 5, 2020 at 6:04 am

Hi, my ex boyfriend broke up with me on Sept. 12 because he said that it wasn’t working out and he was stressed with soccer. I later found out that he had been saying that he doesn’t care about me anymore. I don’t know if that is true or he is trying to hide his feelings. We have only talked a couple times after the breakup. The last time he said something was on my birthday. That was a month ago. Also, I said something hurtful to him about 2 months after the breakup because I was really hurt. I’m scared he won’t talk to me again. Also, he put something on Snapchat that said he had caught feelings for someone. I don’t know if that is true or he is trying to make me jealous. After I saw that, I decided to delete Snapchat for a while so that I can’t see what he posts. I don’t want to unfriend him yet because I don’t want to shut him out of my life yet. I am trying my best to move on but I always think about him whenever I’m not busy. I really need some help trying to figure out everything. (This was my first breakup)

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 8, 2020 at 4:36 pm

Hi Kaite, so I would suggest that you reach out to your ex if you haven’t spoken in a month and see what sort of response you get and start talkignto him more often to attempt to reattract him, if he has met someone else then you need to read about the being there method. If you want to move on then you need to start chatting to other people to see if someone starts to get your attention

Kathy

January 3, 2020 at 8:30 pm

My ex has unblocked me on Instagram after 3 months of no contact ( he was in a bad state of mine eg depression Under stress hence why I ended things with me )
So I decided to unblock him on my WhatsApp as I was hurt one night he sent me something horrible While he was drunk so I blocked him on there so it’s been 3 months of no contact.
He hasn’t reached out to me yet should I wait? Or should I reach out? I’m not putting my hopes up in terms of getting back together but perhaps just be civil with eachother would be nice? What are your thoughts? Please help

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 3, 2020 at 10:05 pm

Hi Kathy, so I would reach out but not as soon as you unblock him give it a few days and then reach out with the type of text that Chris suggests as this is what is going to appear you trying to have a short positive conversation. Avoid talking about emotional subjects or the past relationship

Kaili

December 30, 2019 at 12:06 am

We recently broke up and haven’t hung out in a month except for one hour he came over. When he was here he was super sweet but when he’s not with me he is mean and a different person. He ended blocking me Monday on everything but Facebook kept us in a relationship and kept me as his profile picture. He’s lightly been texting a little more few days, but I don’t know what to do or think.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 30, 2019 at 10:28 pm

Hey Kaili if you are not together then you need to go into a No Contact and you need to give him the reality of what a “break up” is. He needs to feel the loss and you are not giving that to him when you allow him to be nice to you one minute and horrible another

Confused

December 29, 2019 at 3:50 am

I was with my boyfriend for a year and 8 months and one day he just acted distant and decided to breakup with me. I didn’t see it coming. I tried NC but when I decided to finally contact him he was being a jerk about it so I stopped trying. 4 months passed and he randomly sent me a text on snapchat showing the necklace he gave me for Christmas a year ago, he had found it in his car. We started to text more often and he wanted to meet up in person to catch up. This brought my hopes up, Im still in love with him so I said yes. He ended up canceling and he did that multiple of times. One night he kind of hinted how he wanted to have sex with me, and I just played along. I was debating if I should have a FWB relationship with him but I knew that would just hurt me. One day he picked me up from work and things just escalated, I started crying a little bit when he kissed me because I knew I was going to regret having sex with him so he stopped. He hugged me and told me he tries not think about our past, and then he just kissed me again and took me home. He never texted me again after that incident and it really hurt me. Couple days later he un added me on every social media and now I have no form of communicating with him. I don’t know what to do. I am confused and I don’t know if he still has feelings for me or if he just wanted to sleep with me. Please I need some advice.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 3, 2020 at 5:14 am

Hey there, it sounds as if your ex was trying to get a friends with benefits situation honestly. If you want a relationship then you need to try and follow the stages of this program and see if you can get him to invest into you and give you a relationship again. But it is important that you do not sleep with him before you are back together or you will fall into the FWB trap

Amanda

October 15, 2019 at 7:02 am

So me and my ex broke up in july. After that, i messaged him that i will wait for him and went NC for a month. During that month, we saw each other frequently due to camps and stuff. But i still didnt contact him(it was really hard not to). Afterwards, he replied to my igstory and started to initiate contact w me. At that time, it felt like NC really worked and things can work out between us again.
But from then on, i couldnt pressure him for replies so i patiently waited and this resulted to us dragging for 3months. During the 3months, he replied me slowly, we met occasionally to talk about us and make out. It felt like theres hope but he was always uncertain, lost and just really hesitant. I still waited patiently for him to just remove that negative perception of me (from our prior relationship days) and slowly embrace the idea of “us” again. But during these 3months, i never did anything vital, i admit. I didnt show him i changed. (Maybe changed in the sense that i am less pressurizing and more respectful of him but i guess still not enough to get him back because we are always on the fence and no actual actions to prove my change).
Eventually, he came to my area to meet me and told me to give him time. One week later, i found out he muted his igstories from me and i still tried my best to believe in his words then. But, he then messaged me and told me he fell for someone else. He coaxed me into meeting for the last time and told me that its no longer possible between us and he cannot hurt the girl. I tried to persuade him (no begging) and he was wavered. But still, hanging onto his decision, even by a thread. It feels like he is just afraid to come back. I know i can no longer persuade him so i told him that “To you, we are a set of problems to avoid. To me, we are challenges to overcome. I could have left you at your lowest but i didnt. I dont regret anything but if given another chance, i rather we never met. I hope she will be there for you through ur worst and be happy.” And i left.
I heard his footsteps closely behind me but i quickened my pace and could no longer hear them anymore.
It was our birthday recently (we have the same birthday) and it was saddening to not receive any bday wishes from him. I messaged him “happy belated bday” and he didnt reply.

I am uncertain whether will NC work for us anymore because it feels like its already over..and i am also uncertain if this girl is gonna be a rebound..but i know he have many issues to deal with and he is just avoiding them and trying to seek “temporary happiness”..

I just dk what to do anymore.

Thankyou for reading
Brandi Bowen

October 3, 2019 at 11:14 am

So, my ex and I split on Sept 15 & had only been dating about a month. I tried NC but found out he was moving a state away just recently & contacted him to see what it was about. While in NC he texted about a hookup, then got mad bc I didn’t answer. I did text 2 days later just simply saying I care too much & respected myself too much. On the 24th he didn’t unfriend me but changed his FB to where I cannot see new posts or anything. He still has me on Snapchat & has responded to every single message in a timely manner since we spoke about him moving. I’m going back into NC but why would he prevent me from seeing his FB but nothing else a week & a half ago? I do wonder if he really is moving or he’s just saying he is but I also hadn’t liked anything or said anything to him on FB either. Or he is with someone new already….what do you think & is it still possible to get him back? I did get pretty pathetic with begging him to give things another chance.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 3, 2019 at 10:21 pm

Hey Brandi, so following this program is you giving yourself the best chance of getting him back. Starting with a full No Contact, you need to do some reading about what you need to do during your NC, including how to be the Ungettable Girl. And get yourself aware of how to send the first text when your NC is over. Good Luck 🙂

Leanne Dolliver

September 30, 2019 at 9:35 pm

I had a boyfriend he’s now my ex boyfriend and i thought that he love me and care about me but he said that he wanted space from me and now he said that its not goodbye whatever that means because i dont have any income or car or place to live and he has a new relationship now
What does it means ??

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 1, 2019 at 8:33 pm

Hi Leanne, so you would need to do some work to improve for your lifestyle to help you to become Ungettable, fix the issues you have like what you’ve listed, get a steady income and a place to live. Focusing on fixing the problems with your life during your NC will help your ex see you in a new light

Katie

September 5, 2019 at 12:49 pm

Hi, I’ve recently broken up with my boyfriend of a year and 9 months. We ended it mutually because he told me he wanted to be alone and focus on his education. But after a few days I couldn’t resist to not call and text because I really cared about him and didn’t want to let him go. I decided to agree to the breakup so we could get better. But I had this illusion that he was going to come back. I know he cares about me and every time we spent time together we enjoyed ourself. We argued and we fought a couple of times and I was extremely jealous of him having female friends. I’ve realized that was one of the things that pushed him away. He told me that if Destiny wanted us to be together it would happen. He also said he was open to us dating again but he told me he didn’t know when. We spent the last few hours together listening to music and crying in each other arms. But the follow day I went to his home to drop of some important things and we said our final goodbyes. I thought about giving his space so when I reached out to him after he seemed really cold and harsh. I didn’t want to end things because he was someone I’ve always looked up to and cared about but I couldn’t stop texting him and calling him because I wanted answers. At first he gave me dry responses and told me to surround myself with my family and focus on myself and everything was going to be okay. But after that he told me we were no longer together and that I should leave him alone. I know he cares about and I know it’s my fault for not agreeing on the nc rule.He hasn’t deleted me on social media and still has my number even though he got annoyed of me calling it. I eventually decided to give him space and let him do his own things. But I was wondering if there was a chance of coming back together? I love him and i know he cares about me and I’m also trying to fix my issues but is there still I chance we could go back to each other in a couple of months from now? He also told me he only found me attractive and didn’t like anyone. But I’m also scared that he pushing me away when I know he still cares. He has always held a special place in my heart and the time spent together I realized the mistakes I’ve made but when is it the best time to contact him again?
Arlene

May 9, 2019 at 6:26 pm

Hi, so my ex and I hAve a baby together recently but I left him because I didn’t like how He treated me. He was emotionally abusive and I didn’t want to raise my baby around that kind of environment. I left him but I still love and care about him. I have ask him to come back and he told me no he wanted me to move on. He also asked me to leave him alone but I don’t understand why he keep txting and calling when he have ask me to leave him alone. I dont know what he want he is sending me all this mix signals. I’ve been hurt and still recovering. He’s ask to stay friends and see where things will be in five yrs but how can I forget the fact that he’s contacting me every week. He’s been hot and cold and pushing me away and then coming back asking how the kids and I are doing.

Chris Seiter

May 9, 2019 at 9:12 pm

Hi Arlene..I am sorry your ex was emotionally abusive. You should have zero tolerance for that kind of behavior. Its probably best you continue to take some space and time away so you can heal fully and he can learn what he stands to lose. I hope you are following my ex recovery Program to help you thru all this!

W

April 11, 2019 at 6:44 pm

My ex said he never cared for me. It has been 2 months since we ended. We haven’t talked. He has switched gyms since we called it quits. ‍♀️ Why switch if you never cared or were bothered by our relationship? We got along perfect! Things were fine then he ended it because he didn’t want to put the effort in. I still don’t understand.

Chris Seiter

April 11, 2019 at 9:37 pm

Perhaps its time to consider implementing No Contact. It has multiple benefits…not just helping you manage thru all this and find some healing, but also potentially helping him grow to appreciate your value and what you bring to the relationship. Check out my Program!

Kate

March 29, 2019 at 10:22 am

What if…. he finished with you, then moved onto another girl, but refuses to give you up when requested and wants to keep you as a long term friend instantly after the breakup/he rebounds, even saying to me to eject my feelings so we can mould into long term friends? He’s told the new person he wants to keep me in his life but as a friend and “I can switch off how I feel” and you can trust me…

For me I see this as a benefit for what he is not getting in his new relationship by holding onto me. However annoyingly he sees it as two different relationships and not at all a consequence or reflection of the other. This confuses me.

I am then getting many mixed messages from him, ranging from anger/upset, to him telling me “I miss you Kate… I mean as a friend, I miss you”, or during his meanness on the phone I’ll ask what our relationship meant to him and he’ll say “god Kate it meant so much”… followed by telling me how great his current relationship is and he’s happily now with someone and hopes I’ve moved on, but then tries to be an old friend with me and have a gender chat. I have no idea how to deal with this and it is dragging me down attempting to confront it.

I’ve tried to meet in person but he refused and stood me up. I’ve called and allowed his anger/mixed messages get the better of him trying to discuss calmly and he won’t have it.

I don’t get it. If you’re so happy in your new thing, why hang onto me, why the mixed signals, and why confuse me?

In one call he said “what’s the difference between love and hate? Indifference. That’s how I feel”. In the same call he tell me I miss you, then when I fall into that and return the sentiment before realising what I said, I came off the phone and texted to say I do not think it’s appropriate for us to message any longer given what he had and that he now has a partner. He then texts back to tell me he does not care, he doesn’t want me and to move on (he texted this but with very mean words).

I then call him a few days later. Same thing again with him stopping in the middle to say “can you believe just a few months ago we were telling each other we love one another and now this?”. Followed by comments like “yeh I loved you and speak to me like this after our break up! I wanted to be your friend”. I mean for me it’s all very confusing. But I’m stuck in it. I’ve asked outsiders and they said he’s using me as a void, he’s then still hooked up on me otherwise he would have let me go, and he isn’t happy in the new relationship either.

Iwhat would you advise?

Friends are telling me to block/delete but I still care.

What do I do?
Kate

Chris Seiter

March 29, 2019 at 10:12 pm

Hi Kate…I know these kinds of situations can be confusing.Sometimes its best to change one’s tactics. Have you implemented No Contact in the past? I wrote some books on the topic.

Renee

August 13, 2018 at 11:08 pm

Hello again! So I have been no contact for about 2 and a half weeks and have run into my ex at a karaoke bar. I saw his friend come in while I was walking out to take a call and then saw my ex outside looking at the building to hide his face. I wasn’t 100% sure it was him but I walked by slowly and observed but then looked away to take the call. I then saw them both walk out and down the street. So, he avoided me. I also found out that he is still friends with all my family members and even likes their posts. He also looks at my sisters Instagram posts and stories (that have me in them) but not mine. I feel a little hurt like he is just treating me as a friend when we never talked about being friends. I even told him at one point in time in our relationship that I could never be friends with an ex especially if I still loved him. I don’t know why he is doing this. My sister thinks its weird that an ex would still take a chance to look at her story when I am still in them. sigh…
Isa

May 14, 2018 at 3:59 am

I’d like to know, how one should approach social media? For instance, I’ve noticed my ex has become very active on all platforms but I do my best to not overthink it and avoid my own social media. What I’d like to know is what should I do? For example, it’s going to be 2 weeks since the breakup should I chnage my profile pics, delete pictures of us together? Like I’ve said I noticed he recently updated his profile pics and relationship status but I’ve done nothing other than limit my use on social media.

Chris Seiter

May 14, 2018 at 3:24 pm

Hi Isa…great question! You can be very tactical in your use of social media to present a picture of yourself of someone who is vibrant and attractive and engaged with life. You can drop little breadcrumbs in there to create attraction….little jealousy ploys sometimes can work depending on the situation. Why don’t you dive into one of the comprehensive eBooks I have written on this subject. You should find what you need on the “Products” Page of my website. Just click on my Menu and it will lead you to the “Products” link. I offer tons of ideas and actionable solutions. You need not do this on the run!

Sanya

May 13, 2018 at 9:30 pm

So I broke no contact 2 weeks in. I texted him saying I miss him and that I thought I could go without talking but I can’t. He said that he did not appreciate me ghosting him at all. He was the one who broke up with me. Since that message, it’s been three days and we’ve talked a little over whatsapp but I have always been the one to initiate and keep up the conversation. He doesn’t come online till I text him, and he comes online when I do and responds to all my messages, but doesn’t actively participate in the conversation. I essentially told him three days ago that I don’t want to force him into anything, but I will fight for us and he said “okay”. What do I do now? I can’t tell if he doesn’t want to talk to me or wants to but wants me to work for it.

Chris Seiter

May 13, 2018 at 9:39 pm

Well Sanya….pick up my ebook and you will learn that an important part of ex recovery is building value in yourself, so he notices. You don’t want the balance to shift such that you are doing all of the chasing. Since communications are underway, that is fine. But going forward, keep contact limited until he shows a willingness to initiate. The idea here as explained in my ebook is to work toward a meet up…but you need to build value first. And you need to experience some healing in yourself so if this doesn’t work out, you have other things to look forward to doing.

Ellie

May 12, 2018 at 3:14 pm

LONG POST, SORRY
After months building rapport, my ex told me that he has moved on, that he only wanted fun, not complications (“too much drama in my life already”), texting sometimes and admitted he was still very attracted to me but not wanted a relationship (I guess that distance affects too, big complication for him, hates LDR and at this moment he is living across the country). I went NC an played UG. Day 31 he texted more affectionate than ever, told me that he always felt happier when I texted him, since we met… He asked me for a video for seeing my face “like if you were here”. We texted for two hours (never that long since the break up) and he was calling me pet names and sending kisses. I was more distant because the previous conversation has hurted me. I was nice but not affectionate. After that I didn’t initiate, I needed him to text me again. We used to have a balance initiating but the two months before that awful conversation it was almost always me and sometimes he answered in 10 minutes and another times he didn’t read me in a week. So my fear doesn’t let me text him, I need him to initiate. But he didn’t. It’s been almost 5 weeks, we’ve never spent so much time without texting each other. I am scared and sad. I miss him but…I am afraid he doesn’t want to talk, he isn’t initiating so… (I know it was him the last time but still…).
I think he is “infatuated” by another girl he has “die<lized". She has a boyfriend but everytime they had an argument, he goes to my ex crying in order to get his attention. She need to be admired and all. But now I am afraid he may have broke up with her boyfriend and tries something with my ex. She lives far from him but wants to go to college in his city. And I am scared. She had him friendzoned but what if that ended? What if she decided to try the "good guy"?
I keep playing UG and keeping my social media game up. But his postings during the last month… Well, my best friend (not the kind of person who tells you what you want to hear) says that his posts scream "text me!", that he's mirroring my postings (yes, he kinda is) and trying to make me jealous. I don't know what to believe, I am scared he moved on for good, met another girl, started something with the one I mentioned or just "erased" me from his mind completely. These days we could be talking about a common interest which is in the news but he isn't texting me about it, he talks about it in social media and with other people but not with me. So I understand that he doesn't want…my friend says that he is waiting for me to text him but, as I said, I am scared and don't dare to text him (even if I miss him like crazy) because I am afraid he ignores me or something…And I would need a first text, not a response. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to "compete" without talking to him… I don't know if keeping this "not initiating until he does again" is good or not, as I said, I really need him to initiate but I am not getting it…

Chris Seiter

May 12, 2018 at 11:39 pm

Hi Ellie….lost of stuff going on here with your situation. Sometimes these rebound romances play out and yes, he may be carrying some resentments. You have done a lot of things to build value and yet things are not where you want them. He has been up and down and so its hard to ride his roller coaster. Perhaps at this stage, you do reach out to him and explore his willingness to communicate

Penny

May 12, 2018 at 8:22 am

The other day my ex boyfriend sent me a message saying he was tired of what we had become and was tired of everything. He’s recently got into a new relationship but I was wondering if this meant anything? I asked him to explain what he meant but he refused and told me to forget about it…

Chris Seiter

May 12, 2018 at 11:56 pm

Hi Penny….that was odd. My guess is that he is harboring some misgivings about the two of you breaking up and is trying to reconcile what he should do and what it all means. So maybe this unintelligible message was his emotions kind of crying out. Maybe with this new relationship, he now has a better way to measure your value and sees that you offer things this one doesn’t. Got an idea for you! Consider picking up my Ex Recovery Pro ebook available on this site (see Menu Section under “Products”)! It’s designed to dive deep into lots of tactics if you think you want him back. The ebook is epic in length. Best of luck my friend!

Sarah

January 10, 2018 at 3:29 am

The call was last week, I didnt answer. The last time we have had contact was when he messaged me on social media about a month before.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 11, 2018 at 5:23 pm

sorry, I was confused.. so he’s update about his life was a month ago? But you didn’t answer his call last week.. If you didn’t talk to him in any way since last month, and if you’re actively improving yourself and in posting, you can either extend to 45 days before initiating or initiate now to slowly rebuild rapport.

Sarah

January 8, 2018 at 10:53 pm

My ex fiancé and I broke up about six months ago. I told him he needed to see a therapist. He has since been focusing on work & hooking up with other women. He’s brought up wanting to be friends, to stay in contact, meeting up, etc. I’ve made it clear what I expect from him. We stopped talking. He reached out to me to update me on his life. He’s blocked and unblocked me on social media when I havent responded (we weren’t even friends). And about a week or so later he called.

I don’t know what to think.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 10, 2018 at 2:41 am

Hi Sarah,

when was that call?

Confused

January 3, 2018 at 2:55 pm

What if he asked for some time (a few weeks says he) with exception of holidays. And although he replies really quickly, it was a really cold reply.

What if he said he wants us to see each other again after some time? What does it means?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 9:27 pm

it’s hard to say in why in just that but if you always play by his rules, you’re showing him you’re just waiting and can be stringed along..

Asli

October 6, 2017 at 12:02 am

we divorced with my husband 9 months ago. I threw him out before we divorced. then he started dating a new woman even though we were married. He went to live with this woman. The woman threw him out and my ex husband tried to come home. I did not let him come back .Then he started to go out with a woman I knew and took common pictures with her so he could make me jealous. Then i went abroad. He called me and said he was not ready for marriage. We agreed that we are friends because we have a common child. when I returned to Finland, I continued my life and I kept in touch with my close male friends. Then my ex-husband behavior changed and he started to ignores me. Once he called me and started intimidste me. He started to intervene my actions. He dont want that I am dealing with men. then he removed me from social media and said he did not want to ever know me. afterwards I knew that then he divorced from the woman she had been living with. now he has agreed with her again and he is Ignoring me and our child. Now he is in relationship with this wowan and whenever he broke up with her , he start to hang out new womens or start to fight me without reason. What this behavior means ? Is he over me yet? Is he in rebound relationship?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 8:31 pm

Hi Asli,

He can be in a rebound but it can also be just ego because he still has that sense of ownership with you and that because he can see you’re still affected if he acts like that

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