146 thoughts on “Why Do Men Fall Out Of Love With You”

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   marry

   February 14, 2015 at 11:56 pm

   hey chris . my ex broke up with me last july because of the first reason he had a lot of experiences before me and they didn’t last because when the honeymoon period ends he feels like he don’t love the girl anymore .it happened with me too he was like crazy about me in the first 5 months and then he said i don’t love you anymore because i don’t feel the same . i tried to explain that it’s normal but he didn’t believe it.now we’re friends on facebook we talk sometimes. he always say i don’t love you but i don’t want to see you with another men and i will not let you see me with another woman not because i love you but it’s just not right for you and me he basicly told me that he will not let me know when he will have another girl. another thing is that when he feels that i talk to another man he came asking who is that why are you talking to him you said you will not date anyone else (p.s i said that to him because i still love him) do you think he still have something for me !! and if yes what should i do now should i go on no contact again because i did it once for 2 months .thank you

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   admin

   February 16, 2015 at 11:31 pm

   Hmm… he seems jealous when you talk to other men.

   Would you agree with that assessment?

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   marry

   February 25, 2015 at 5:52 pm

   hey chris , yes of course he is very jelous if he heard or felt that i talk to other man he would came to talk with me asking who is the guy what he wants from me am i going to date him and if i didn’t answer he got mad and days ago i texted him saying that i want to see him after 2 hours he called me 6 times but i didn’t answer and that night i sent him a message saying that i couldn’t answer because i was busy 2 days after i found him on facebook i said hi he said hi i will delete you from facebook i said why he said nothing is happening between us so it’s better to delete you i didn’t understand anything but i said okey if you think that you will forget me if you delete me go ahead delete me i don’t want that to happen but i respect your choice he didn’t say anything later on that day i checked but the surprise was that he didn’t delete me this was the second time he said this and didn’t do it in the end.he didn’t delete me but whenever i’m on facebook he don’t talk with me or stays offline.after 3 days i called him today but i hung up before he picks up i did it on purpose to see if he will call or not and indeed he called after 2 mn he said hey how are you ..etc and then he said why did you call i said i wanted to hear your voice that’s it ^^ he was like heemm did you miss my voice! i said yes he said hemm you miss just my voice nothing else i laughed we talked like 12 mn and he said i should go.it was short but beautifull.this man makes me crazy he’s like a puzzle i can’t understand him .someone told me that when a man feelslike he is about to fall in love he ran away because love makes him weak is that true .because i feel that he isn’t over me but he say that he doesn’t love me anymore .i’m so confused .what do you think why is he doing this? and what should i do next ?

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   Shannon

   February 14, 2015 at 2:18 pm

   Hi Chris. I did 21 days of NC and I texted him and I didn’t get a response. What should I do?

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   admin

   February 16, 2015 at 11:23 pm

   What was the text you sent him?

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   LJ

   February 14, 2015 at 1:01 pm

   Hi chris, Just a quick one.. guilty of a few of these points you have made, was with my ex for 3 years so the last 6months- a year the sex was few and far inbetween. W have been broken up 6 weeks and i know he has been with a few women already which obviously hurts. Havent done a month no contact yet, sort of did a week at a time, but we are talking quite regularly now and on good terms, so i was going to ask do you think i should do no contact now or would that be stupid? should i just continue the conversations and stay interesting etc which im doing and talking about my plans etc and not mentioning the relationship? Or if i do no contact and im just ignoring him emails for a month and then after a month i respond what am i suppose to say as to why i ignored him for a month? or would i just not even say anything and respond to his last email? We are in different countries also but have lived together in various places over the past 3 years..When i first moved back to the uk (hes in canada) i was very clingy tried to call him one time and he didnt pick up, then i was emailing saying i wanted to make it work etc and he said he needed space needed to take a step back to see what he wanted in life we were on different paths blah blah. Now that ive dropped talking about the relationship and just talk about general things what ive been doing and plan to do etc he seems to respond quicker and he asks questions. But like i said he is also hanging out and sleeping with another 1 or 2 girls i believe. He is 24 i am 28… I really dont want him to meet someone he falls for! We have alot in common and i dont believe we are on ‘different paths’ We have had alot of experiences together and done alot of travelling. He just moved back in with his dad since we broke up and his dad is a little mentally unstable and i didnt see eye to eye with him because he got way too involved in out relationship and i dont believe he treats my ex boyfriend well as a son, and he lost his mum when he was young so he does have a loyalty to his dad even though his dad does not act in an acceptable way-ill leave it at that! If you could give me your opinion it would be much appreciated

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   admin

   February 16, 2015 at 11:22 pm

   What do you mean you don’t think he treats your ex boyfriend well?

   Your ex boyfriend doesn’t treat your ex boyfriend well?

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   LJ

   February 18, 2015 at 4:14 pm

   Hi dad is mentally unstable hes kind of like a reckless 20 year old.. his mom passed away when he was young and so his dad raised him and i didnt see eye to eye with his dad because my ex had told me all the stories about shit he did while my ex was growing up. He was also very disrespectful towards me and women in general and im not one to not stand up for myself..

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   admin

   February 18, 2015 at 10:06 pm

   Ohh… you were talking about his dad.

   I thought you were talking about your ex talking about one of your other exes…

   My bad.

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   lj

   February 19, 2015 at 7:06 pm

   yeh so wot do u think? the no contact rule we have been broken up for 6 weeks, had regular contact via email… theres money involved as we shared a credit card and i have to pay him back my half.. should i still do no contact for a month even when he emails about money!?! you dont have any articles on this…

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   Mary

   February 13, 2015 at 9:17 am

   Hello, Chris! Regarding the first reason, about the honeymoon period, is it possible that he realizes it and falls back in love?

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   admin

   February 16, 2015 at 10:36 pm

   Sure it is possible!

   But often times he needs a little push from you.

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   Paula

   February 13, 2015 at 6:07 am

   My ex boyfriend is a controlling, paranoid, person. He doesn’t want me to travel.. Because he thinks something bad will happen. He broke up with me because he thinks our relationship won’t work out because of his controlling personality. He said if I want to go travel, he’ll ask me questions and I have to text him for updates. Despite, his controlling personality. I love him and we been together 5 years and a half. He just showed his controlling personality just now. I told him I’m okay with answering his questions and texting him while traveling.. But he thinks he’s still paranoid and that won’t change.. And he said he’s love me less when we argue because of his controlling personality. He’s been feeling it for a while. He thinks if we argued he’s not for me and he’s not fit for a relationship. I don’t get it when he just telling me this just now. Not when he first started feeling them. It just hurts.. He said he’s not fit for a relationship but he’s not totally closing the door for a relationship in the future! I want him back but he’s very confusing.. Please help me! I want him back. Sorry for my english

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   admin

   February 16, 2015 at 10:41 pm

   Lovely!

   Controlling and paranoid.

   HE initiated the breakup?

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   Paula

   February 19, 2015 at 10:08 am

   Yes!

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   Jenny

   February 13, 2015 at 2:31 am

   Hi Chris!

   So my situation is not to wonderful. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years left me almost three months ago and he told me it was because he didn’t love me anymore because I wasn’t giving him the affection he needed and I agree I was being a little more conserved but I’m also pregnant with his baby. I was 8 months when he left and he never stopped talking to me during the time he left. He would say that he wanted to try again eventually but he didn’t think he was right for me right now. I bought ex boyfriend recovery pro and I’ve read all the way through it and I’m trying to do no contact but with the baby coming soon it’s hard to just stick to the basics because he would come to classes with me. And he acts like everything is all nice and cool between us but it isn’t. He already has a new girl friend and I don’t think I want him back honestly I just want him to want me back so he can have his heart broken. I hope that’s not to mean but I was just wondering if a guy moves on that fast and says he doesn’t love you anymore is he being serious or just making up an excuse to hurt me? Because we’ve had a major break up in the past when he told me he didn’t love me anymore and moved on super fast and then ended up coming back because he never stopped loving me. So is it possible for a guy to lie about not loving you to make you feel hurt because he’s hurt or am I just hopeless with this and should stop trying? I love your site and your book thank you so much!