What Your Ex Says Vs. What They Mean- The Comprehensive Guide

909 thoughts on “What Your Ex Boyfriend Says Vs. What He Really Means”

BeyondHurting

June 6, 2015 at 8:49 am

Hi Chris, me and my first love have dated on and off for 14yrs eventually doing away with the whole “title” concept all together and just being happy as 2 people in love. Recently I caught him with another girl that claims they have been in a relationship for a while even me and him had been having sex on the regular bases (2-3x a week if not more) and spend loads of time together on top of everything else normal couples do (I dont even know how another woman can think she is his girlfriend with the amount of time we spent together publicly and privately) when I confronted him with the woman he was either completely silent or denied everything like I was delusional about our situation to spare the other woman’s feelings because we have been on again off again so many times before he has gotten comfortable thinking I’ll always be here no matter what or I’ll always take him back! Even though I want him back I want him to feel like he won’t get me back without a fight and get him to chase me instead of me giving in so easily with his little to no efforts on the matter ,I reacted poorly in the confrontation and did the ultimate no no and punched him right in the eye (horrible decision that felt so good). We have never had a abusive relationship where either one of us has gotten physical but after 14yrs my hurt and anger got the best of me and it was done before I could take it back.(I’ve apologized several times) I love him so much he’s all I know and although I’m devastated, disgusted, angry,heart broken and sad I can’t help but hope we will live happily ever after if we can get through this. I’m currently trying the NC rule after first being the one who was making contact with him in some way demanding a explination to why he hurt the woman he claimed to love so bad and with no remorse (it seems) he never told me not to contact him again, but after every confrontation I would tell him he would never have to worry about seeing me or hearing from me again… After a day or two I would find a reason to see him or be wherever I knew he would be (a Lil stalkerish I admit) I’m not sure of how effective the NC rule will be in this situation, my feelings are all over the place and honestly i don’t know how i feel about if the pursuit of getting him back is worth it, the only feeling im sure of is Im still madly in love with him and the thought of us never being together again literally makes me sick LITERALLY! Any advise?
sabrina

June 4, 2015 at 5:15 am

OMG this site has changed alot! its been a while since i went here. 🙂 anyway chris i already been back with my exboyfriend, were together for 6 months now because of this site NC really works!!! thank God! .. and im having issues of him flirting/sexting with ramdom girls and the worst is he is still talking to his ex gf the one he dumped me for, i know that “people will do whatever they want to do” and i have no control over it. he is 22 years old and still needs to mature i get that. but i read his message he said that ” i settled with sabrina because she is easy to be with and im comfortable with her, and not with someone who i have a connection with (exfg) ” i am very confused about this statement, what am i just a comfort zone gf? i already confronted him about it but i didnt understand his point. i am so done understand him all the time. and i cant tell him what to do or make him stop texting her.

sabrina

June 6, 2015 at 1:27 am

is that a good thing being a comfort zone gf? well he said that even if he is talking to some girls or his ex he doesn’t let that affect our relationship, or our time together. i understand people will do whatever they want to do and i have no control over it. but i am having problems taking this all in.
Chris Seiter

June 4, 2015 at 6:40 pm

Yup, EBR went through its only self improvement process 😉

You may be a comfort zone for him.

So far what have his actions said?

N.M

May 28, 2015 at 3:48 am

Hi
You seem to have disappeared
Have tried to contact many times by email
Once again belated happy birthday
Have no update for you.
Hope all well your end .

N.M

June 6, 2015 at 5:40 pm

Had some old pending issue had sent you an email re a comment from someone on this page, email was beginning March! If its’lost’ may I send it again?
N.M

June 6, 2015 at 5:37 pm

Hey! Remember I asked! What’s to forget!
Keep up the good work!!!
N.M

June 4, 2015 at 6:01 pm

Welcome back
No reaction to my birthday wishes mails, ecard etc
Once again belated happy birthday
Chris Seiter

June 4, 2015 at 6:41 pm

Thank you!

I did get the birthday E-Card and was kind of shocked you remembered.
Chris Seiter

June 2, 2015 at 2:41 am

Sorry, I am working on a lot of stuff thats really got my focus so I have kind of had to stop responding for a week. I’m back now though.

Tilla

May 26, 2015 at 11:18 am

What about “I love you, I’m just not IN love with you?”

Chris Seiter

June 2, 2015 at 2:38 am

I kind of look at that like I never loved you.

Jo

May 24, 2015 at 5:10 am

Dear Chris,

I can’t remember if I wrote you before about this. If I had, it didn’t come up in the comments so I will come back and see if you respond. At any rate, a new development has happened so here I am again.

I dated this guy for 8 months and then he breaks up with me because he “never had a social life the whole time we were dating.” But this comes from the same man who would rather spend his time with his friends, his parents and sister, or his church. Even on Valentine’s Day (which would have been our first one), he had a guy friend in town so I was clearly not a priority.

The first 2 months or so were fine. We didn’t fight. We had things in common, but then I guess you could say he started showing me his true colors.

I would go as far to say that relationship was a bit abusive. He would often put me down and make me feel bad about myself…however, I guess I’m in mourning for the man he could have been. In the early stages, he right away was talking about getting married and so forth but he clearly couldn’t commit to anything but his actions spoke louder than his words.

*sighs* So anyway….he broke up with me back in the beginning of March. I didn’t go and contact him either because I’m in terrible pain from losing him. He emails me 2 weeks after our breakup and the first line went something like this: Hi. How are you…or am I not allowed to know?

Uh no you aren’t allowed to know. Unlike a lot of the women here who are trying to get their EX back, I don’t think I completely want mine back….unless he was willing to compromise on things but he won’t or at least not with me which hurts me even more because I would DO everything for him. I also would have given him the world had it been in my power too….but that email was also him asking for an item of his back. I gave it back to him without having to see him at least and then he emailed me to thank me. It just made me more upset though. When he broke up with me, he did the “Maybe some day down the road we can be friends…” and I told him NO right then.

But anyway….so just this past Thursday he calls me from another number once again to ask how I was…. “I haven’t heard from you in a long time and wanted to know how you are?” Um….why? And yeah seriously….I said to him at one point, “Why should you care??”

So I guess what I’m really asking here, Chris, is why he contacted me when he had to have known my reason behind NOT contacting him. I sit here and wonder his motives. I mean since he chose to breakup with me, he gave up the right to know how I am. On the phone (which I only kept to a 5 minute conversation), I told him simply that I could NOT have him in my life because I’m trying to move on…and it’s just too painful for me. He said he respected this but if he truly did, he wouldn’t have contacted me in the first place.

I also went and told him that he had a lot of growing up to do and that he could never be with another woman until he becomes independent (ie learns how to live with his disability without relying on others – including his enabling family). He tried to tell ME that I had growing up to do too but in that email, he acted like he was the one being oh so grown-up but I believe he had that backwards.

Anyway, did he REALLY want to know how I was doing and again I ask….why should he even care when he just threw me away like I was trash?

I ended the call by telling him not to call me again and I suspect he won’t. I actually mean that. I also (in case my reason before to him wasn’t crystal clear) gave him my reason for denying him the friendship that he wants. He’s used to breaking up with women and then becoming best buds with them afterwards. He even was communicating with one of his LDR exes while he and I were dating, telling me she was his best friend. However, he was not the kind of person I could count on and I told him so. I’m the type of friend you could call at 4am with a problem and I’ll be there to listen to you and vice versa….but not this man and I told him so.

Anyway, thanks for listening and sorry for the rambling.

Chris Seiter

June 2, 2015 at 2:10 am

So, I am assuming you are more of the getting over him variety as opposed to the get him back one?

AP

May 13, 2015 at 5:07 am

Hi Chris!

I’m in my senior year in high school right now, and I got my first boyfriend (I was his first girlfriend too). Unfortunately, the relationship didn’t last too long. We have a rather complex history hahah. When he and I first became friends, he developed a crush on me, but I couldn’t return his feelings. I broke his heart when he confessed to me. But after a couple months, I gave into his charm, and we started dating. We were pretty into each other since this was the first time we’d both been in a relationship with someone. However, we broke up after 3 months because school got in the way of things. We hardly ever got to see each other since his schedule was so filled. He was always busy, and he realized that this was hurting our relationship, so he gave me the dreaded “it’s not you, it’s me” line and ended things. Though, another reason for the break-up was that I had slapped him once (not hard at all, but the gesture probably hit him hard). In retrospect, I think that was a horrible idea. I had listened to my friends who believed he deserved one. I totally regret the action; I would’ve broken up with myself too.

Anyway after the break-up, we had a brief no-contact period, but we started texting/snapchatting/facebook messaging recently (not full-blown conversations or anything, maybe a message here and there everyday or every other day). It’s been about 3 months since the break-up, but the thing is: we’ll be going to the same college next year. Should I still try to pursue him? Or should I move on? If I do try to chase after him, do I have a chance? And I’m not sure if he would still have any interest in me since it has been a while… but I still love him a ton.

Much appreciation and thanks for your time to read this!

Chris Seiter

May 13, 2015 at 12:57 pm

Well, if you want to pursue him you have a decent chance.

Terry

May 13, 2015 at 4:54 am

Hi Chris,

I’m working in a cruise ship and i met this guy martin he is my collegue where he has 6 yrs gf relationship back home and the girl is living in their house with his family. Martin cheated her gf 4th time in 6 yrs. Martin got me pregnant in the ship and he said he will take the responsibility as father to our child while on the ship he cannot tell his mom nor his gf that he got another girl pregnant not unless he will talk to them personally after the contract end by july2015. I’m having a hard time of getting pregnant in the ship so i decided to go home disembarked in the ship (april2015) to take good care of the baby. Everybody in the ship knows that we love each other so much. And when i’m home we did text and call each other our plans for the baby until, i did the check up for the very first time and the baby has no heartbeat, i couldn’t believe, can’t stop crying and i told myself to have another opinion and by the next day when i am traveling with my mom going to see my grandmother, i bleed that day at night and i lost the baby for 9wks. After, i had D&C informed martin he was crying on the phone where he told me that he already accept and ready to be a dad to our child. After a week lot’s of changes happen few text no call anymore. I told myself that maybe he continue his relationship with his gf. I had them in viber i can see if they are both online. Where martin used to leave me msg in other social networking.. I didn’t bother them nor confront martin’s gf. Until now i feel lost and it’s like the end of the world to me, i really love martin so much and obsessed with him. Although, he still text me once in awhile to the fact that i will not make a scene to his gf and family and will lead his life ruin since he is still in the ship. What should i do? Do i have to leave them both and sacrifice what i feel go him or i will fight? Do i have to confront his gf? I really want martin back to me. Please help and any suggestion in my situation.

-anonymous T

Chris Seiter

May 13, 2015 at 12:53 pm

Are you sure you want this guy back?

Megan

May 6, 2015 at 2:16 pm

Hi there Chris!

So during the last couple weeks of our relationship we had been fighting on and off. The day we broke up we had a fight and at first he was telling me he still wanted to be with me and then we just argued and he finally snapped and broke up with me and told me that we would never get back together. I am almost a week into the NC and I just would like to know if I should take what he said seriously? I also had talked to him the day after we broke up because I was getting my things and he told me he will always care for me and always love me but he will never want to get back together… Help please!
emma

April 28, 2015 at 3:51 am

Chris, I followed the NC and it worked, but I got too fast touching bases with him. then I wrote to him and he responded below in quotes. Can you let me know is this his way dumping me again the second time or he is telling the truth and leave him alone for a couple of months, please??

When I approached you almost two months ago, I never had the intention of asking you to get back
together. For me, is important to get to know you and also you to get to know me. I just want to see if
we can date, and see how it goes!

(I had great time with you before the things happened, and somehow I have not walk out from that day,

and I am not ready to date yet, one is emotion and second is the business venture, if the business not

going well, that I will consider myself as failure, so I have to use full speed for this project,

and will be no time to think about family, and you know what I did to you, means you have to be happy

in front of me at all time we together)

Many times thru text your responses sometimes good and sometimes not. Is confusing.

(You are right about it, cost the confusing is from me, because I don’t know should I approach you again

or not, I am not ready)

I texted you asking your schedule because I want you to know that is understandable if you are seeing
someone else. And you should if you want. My point is that I value myself as a woman and I would not
want to intrude her with you. my intention of asking was if you are I will not bother you anymore.

(For now I don’t want date anyone, I have to focus on the business, without the successful of business I

have nothing to say about future family thing)

Last year I wanted to buy a house with you but made the mistake of not speaking up. before the
surgery, the nerve pain was constantly on my mind and more scared after the surgery.

(You knew I am the person like to speak up and no waste time)

I really enjoy our times together and seeing you again. As said, I have tried stop thinking of you. Is not
that I am desperate or lonely or hoping we can continue where we left off. you just keep popping into
my mind even when talking to other guy friends. Your lips, your personality…

(I told to my parents and people in the office about you, and we have lots in common and they all like

you, but inside of me again can only to see your beautiful smile all time and no room for unhappy face in

from me)

I have tried different ways of texting and writing, giving you space, and even contacting you more often.
The last meetup, I wanted to tell you. I could not and did not hear all what you said about learning…
because of the noises, the two waitresses’ constant interruptions and conversation kept changing. And
then you said you have to go to the airport

To me a serious relationship is about honesty, forgiveness, not afraid to challenge each other with
respect, enjoy life while not afraid of changes and understanding for a long happy relationship. And I do
not want to be with someone who dwells on the past, not giving each other chances.

(I strongly agree what you said about relationship, and for now I can’t handle two new start things in

same time business and personal life, for small business , need my full attention)

I know you are busy and so am I. I value the future and getting to know new friends and a better place to live with a significant.

(I wish the best to you! we understood each other a lot before and I will always remember the good

time too!)

I was hoping to hear from you sinc you are wiser. If you can understand and be on the same side as me,
I don’t want to make any more mistakes of losing you again. is my problem to take the unit or leave to
up north.

(Missing you maybe is a big mistake in my life, is not right to keeping empty promise telling you to wait, I

do care about you! But your life will be better without me and you will be more happy)

Should I stop contacting you completely? If you can let me know, please? With a reason would be really
nice!!

(For me you are my valued friend as always, but if I have to choose ether date as boyfriend and girlfriend

or never contact again, I must say stop contact)

Otherwise, if you say stop, I will, you will never hear or see me again.

(For now I would like to see you as a good friend)
Shanice

April 24, 2015 at 8:25 pm

Hi
So I’m following the no contact and things are going well so far, he blocked after the break up but about two days ago I noticed he unblocked me, I then posted a new picture of me before going out to a party looking nice I guess, I then noticed he blocked me again?
Any thoughts on this? I’m guessing this means it made him mad right
Please try get back to me!
Shanice

Chris Seiter

April 27, 2015 at 9:51 pm

Yes definitely you mad him made.

Take a look at his actions first and then his words second.

N.M

April 19, 2015 at 10:03 am

Hi Chris
Great new format. Can see how busy you are!
Many comments,questions, appeals for help disappeared, here as well as on RP!
I had emailed re something pertaining to This page.
It Is very important to me.
This was on another email id
Please help! Thanks

N.M

April 24, 2015 at 5:28 pm

I mean older comments.. On this page it’s not showing.
I didn’t look everywhere but for eg on Reverse Psychology the side showing last comments at the bottom it does show but it’s showing ‘newer comments’ whereas, I might be wrong, but it’s the previous page, would / should be older comments isn’t it?
Written here, didn’t find reply option below.
And yes now all other discussions / misunderstandings on mail over, could u please see if you find time re 2 mails
One subject ‘re 4 mar…’ And one ‘ urgent’
Thanks. You Do seem a bit relaxed…..
Chris Seiter

April 24, 2015 at 11:08 pm

Hi There,

They are showing for me.
N.M

April 23, 2015 at 10:49 am

The remark at bottom to click for older posts is not showin
Chris Seiter

April 23, 2015 at 12:40 pm

Like older posts or older comments?
Brittney

April 21, 2015 at 3:30 am

Hi Chris, my ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. It was a mutual think but I’m still very heart broken. About two weeks after our break up we started sleeping together. He would text me all the time and even call me babe in bed. Well we just stopped seeing each other and talking. I haven’t talked to him in almost two months and I’ve been wanting him back. I’ve been thinking about texting him and telling him how I feel. What should I do?
N.M.

April 21, 2015 at 3:23 am

I Do need an email id for something I’d rather not write here, please….
N.M.

April 21, 2015 at 3:21 am

Thks for replying pity re comments, but everything happens for a reason.
I was away to my other home, NC, one day of his hysterical calls while I was aay, had to respond, NC since then.
Called him yesterday first time, spoke after 28mar.
Let’s see….
Thanks for replying. Are the mails lost too? You gave an ID below to someone for time sensitive stuff, did u get those?
Keep up the good work, wishing you much success ….
Will pop up again when help needed.regards, and hi to your wife.
Chris Seiter

April 21, 2015 at 5:42 pm

[email protected] is the email I am responding to now.
Chris Seiter

April 20, 2015 at 9:25 pm

Hi there!

Sorry for the late response. Been super busy with a lot of stuff.

I think some comments got lost in the redesign…

I had some trouble with the comments initially but everything seems to be fixed now. Unfortunately it looks like the lost comments are lost forever.

Emily (again haha)

April 13, 2015 at 8:05 pm

Hi it’s me again. I’m just in a bit of a time contraint because school is over soon. I’ve seen him a few times and conempltated talking to him but ended up ignoring him entirely, not even looking his way. He showed up behind me in Starbucks and my friend said he looked guilty and awkward in my presence. Would talking to him freak him out? Or should I wait like a year to try and reach out. I would really love some insight on the best thing I could do at this point 🙂

Emily

April 22, 2015 at 1:36 pm

Hey Chris, just wanted to tell you he briefly talked to me and acted as though nothing happened to us. I also found out he never blocked me on his phone or anything, and I realized he was just a really crappy guy who was playing me and freaked out when he got caught in his lies. I sent his girlfriend a facebook message to apologize to her, and I told him I was sorry how things ended, whether he deserves an apology or not. It hurt to find out he doesn’t really care, but I’m done trying to get someone back who was so awful to me and so ready to abandon me. I wanted to say thanks for giving me advice through my struggles with this boy. Although I know now this boy is toxic to me, you were a huge support in my getting to the point of moving on and everything you’ve done for me and the other women on this page is truly inspirational 🙂 Thank you so much
Chris Seiter

April 16, 2015 at 4:18 pm

I don’t think it would freak him out.

Missy

April 11, 2015 at 5:20 am

Hi Chris, my boyfriend of four years (LDR) recently dumped me and his reasoning was that ‘he fell out of love with me’ when he had dumped me on the phone he was crying hysterically at the same time and had told me he begun to have feelings for one of his friends that he had known for about a year and a half, a girl I always thought in the back of my mind was interested in him (as she would always text him) but he would consider her as a close friend, but occasionally call her annoying to me and his friends so I dont understand how he could have possibly fell for her? It was right after he had a spring break trip with her and his group of friends where I did not give him much attention as I was busy during the week. He says I had done nothing wrong and that ‘its not me its him.’ They are not exactly dating but I found out he had been sleeping in same bed as her (not sex) (His friends had told me about this as I asked) and when I asked him why he was doing he responded saying, ‘he didn’t have a reason and that it was for support’ he loved me all those years and just even a few days before had told me how much he missed me and wished I was there, his family had loved me immensely too and thought we were going to get married some day and were extremely shocked and disappointed by the situation as they are not very fond of the girl he has chosen. It is all very confusing and I dont get how someone could just ‘fall out of love’ like that within a few days??

Do I have a chance should I practice NCR? Any thoughts would be appreciated !!
N.M

April 8, 2015 at 9:13 am

I don’t know what it means but my messages keep disappearing. Thanks for all your help
I had mailed also but…
M.

April 5, 2015 at 5:43 pm

hey Chris! What does it mean when he says ”I want other things from a girl”?? does he mean sex or what??

M.

April 20, 2015 at 3:53 pm

so?

Ashley

April 2, 2015 at 2:32 pm

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend of four years, the man I thought I was going to marry just recently dumped me. He claimed he needed a break to work on himself and figure his life out… We will be 25 this year, Is there such a thing as a quarter life crisis? He officially broke us off almost a month ago saying that he doesn’t see us having a future together anymore and thinks we need to go and see what else is out there for us and not have any regrets in life. The whole breakup doesn’t seem to make sense at all, at Christmas he was telling me just to be patient and we will be starting our life together and then about two weeks before the break up we were looking at houses together!! None of it makes sense at all!! And now he has been seen around with another girl, who he claims is just a friend, but I have a hard time believing it. I started No Contact about a week ago, because I was letting my emotions rule my life. Is there any hope for me?

admin

April 3, 2015 at 12:59 am

I am not sure…

If your askiing my opinion about the quarter life thing then no I don’t think there is.

I do think you have a chance for sure though.

Jo

March 31, 2015 at 1:11 pm

Hi Chris,

I commented on this page before and left you a message, but I couldn’t find it so I’m just going to type a new message here. I Just want to let you know how much I appreciate your help!

To keep it short, my boyfriend and I broke up a little more than 1.5 months ago because we were fighting a lot. When we broke up, he expressed to me several times that maybe there will be a chance of reconcilation. I couldn’t tell if he meant it or if he was just trying to make the blow softer. Anyways, fast forward to today, a friend of mine told me that he called me a bunch of names and said “Its okay, I have somebody else lined up already.” He said this may be a week after we broke up when emotions were high and he was angry with me because he thought I was spreading rumors about him with my friends. From a guys perspective, when a guy says “I already have somebody lined up”, are they telling the truth or are they just fluffing bc they’re a self-preserved asshole?

Jo

March 31, 2015 at 1:23 pm

I also wanted to add that a week after he told my friend that, I ended up calling him to clear up that I was just seeking for support from my friends and I was not saying anything bad about him. When I confronted him about him talking about me, he denied it and said he doesnt talk about me to his friends bc he doesnt want to hurt any chance of us ever getting back together.” He also told me that his heart is on pause and that he still sees me as his baby. Why is he telling me one thing but telling other people another?

chathu

March 31, 2015 at 8:18 am

Hi Chris..
My situation is bit different. He broke up with me 2months ago.now he says “I can’t tell you anything..if you want to wait then wait.I can’t guarantee that I can make my mind.” What should I do Chris.I lied to him a lot.I haven’t done the nc.what does he really want me to do?

admin

March 31, 2015 at 10:43 pm

What were the lies about? How bad are we talking?
chathu

April 1, 2015 at 3:48 am

2 years ago I slept with another.but after I start affair with this boy I never cheated him with someone else.and I slept with this boy and told him this is the first time I m sleeping with someone.and I complained him I lost my virginity bcoz of him.and told him I’m pregnant bcoz of him.but I promise you Chris I never cheated him with anyone.I only wanted his attention.what would you suggest.? It been 2 months now.he told me ” any time you can talk to me” .but I need your advice..
chathu

April 2, 2015 at 4:55 am

Plz Chris will send me a advice…..I met him last week bcoz I forced him to do so…he always answer my calls but he refuse to text me.what should I do now.if you recommend nc then how many days.plz read my above comment also and give me a advice.

Anonymous

March 31, 2015 at 1:25 am

Hey Chris,

Do guys go back through their text messages after 21 days to send a neutral response (to a picture-only text message) just to be nice and not ignore??

I took your advice after my LDR ex sent me a neutral text and I finished my 2nd round of 30day NC and sent him a fresh convo text. “Oh man! Someone just sent me this link and it reminded me of your fancy footwork at bar X. Time for a dance off? Lol I hope all is well”.

Its been 1 week and he hasn’t said anything. I don’t understand this, why would he have sent me any text at all?! I was certain he’d respond to my text last monday. Please help…

Anonymous

April 1, 2015 at 2:27 am

Yeah, go through his text history.
admin

March 31, 2015 at 10:30 pm

I am not sure what you mean by go back through their messages.

Like look at the text message history?
Anonymous

April 3, 2015 at 3:15 am

Hey Chris,

So do guys review their text history after 21 days to send a neutral response (to a picture-only text message) just to be nice and not ignore? He still hasn’t responded, why bother sending me even a neutral text?

Bella Thomas

March 29, 2015 at 12:35 am

Hello! I find your tips really useful. I know you hear hundreds of stories every day, but I would appreciate you reading through one more. My boufriend and I had dated for slightly over a year. We are both in our ealy 20’s. We got into that zone where we were fighting almost daily over small things. He ended up getting horrible anxiety, but I still felt his love. There was a large blowout last week, and he asked for space. After giving him space for about 5 days, he came to my home and asked for a break up, claiming that he didn’t have feelings for me anymore. I know he’s still reeling Over our huge blowout, as well as our arguments before that. I suggested we take keep no contact for two months minimum while we both work on improving ourselves. Although he stuck with his “I have no feelings” attitude, I can’t help but feel he said that out of the moment, or said that just because he was tired of the fights. I am his first girlfriend, and he is an overly sensitive man so I know his feelings won’t vanish so quickly. He was open to a possible reconciliation in two months or so. Does this sound like a situation that space will fix up? Or does it sound like he just lost feelings? Thank you!

admin

March 29, 2015 at 2:11 pm

It sounds like a situation where you have a shot to me.
Bella Thomas

March 29, 2015 at 2:54 pm

Sorry, Chris. One more thing. A mutual friend of ours apparently spoke to him and this is what he said: “I’ve told her I’m probably not going to get back with her. And she accepted that. It isn’t a “in two months we get back together” thing. Its a “in two months we discuss how we feel”. I’ve told her that part of me is gone, and she can’t be convinced otherwise. She feels that it is still there somewhere, buried, and I can’t really convince her otherwise. She even told me that it would be okay if I dated someone else, she wouldn’t be happy, but she said it was okay.” Although we’ve only been broken up for one day, he sounds very sure in this message that there’s nothing left. I’m very confused since on Monday he was claiming his love for me. I will stick to no contact, but I can’t help but feel that no contact will make him realize how much better things are without me.

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