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fangirl
July 14, 2016 at 5:51 pm
Hi! He broke up with him 3 days ago. he blocked me in all of his social media account and his reason was he’s getting hurt even if he feel numb 🙁 and next month is his birthday. Btw, were in LDR. I’m really confused right now if im going to continue my plan for his birthday or i will just move on and be happy for him? I still love him but he is losing his affection ughh :'( he even blocked me to his mom and his brother facebook account. I don’t know what to do 🙁 im really confused right now.. please help me 🙁
fangirl
July 15, 2016 at 5:47 pm
Yes sure please 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 15, 2016 at 7:14 pm
ahm.. have you read the article above? are you ready to do what he said in this blog post? Because if you are.. go ahead
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 14, 2016 at 8:42 pm
Hi Fan girl,
do you want to try what Chris advised?
Bella
July 14, 2016 at 5:17 am
My ex is 31 and I’m 27. My boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me twice within 4 months. We moved in together nov 2015 to take over my moms lease that was left over. I thought it would be a good opportunity for us to try living together. Well when the lease ended we ended. He said he felt that I was putting pressure on him about marriage and having children. 2 reasons for that, I compared my life too much of what I would see on social media. Seeing couples getting married or having babies. I felt I was behind. Anyways, he said we would never get back together. That was March 9 2016. Then I went in to 30 day NC. I made it up to 27 days. That’s a really big thing for me because when he had broken up with me 2 years ago because he felt I was being clingy. I would call and go to his house. Do all the things I shouldn’t have done. I was 24 then and it was barley my second relationship. I didn’t know any better. Back to the 27th day I contacted him and we hugged and kissed and I felt a sense of relief. We both made a mutual decision to get back together. But unfortunately it was short lived. During the 3 months we were together I would be the one calling and texting. I tried to back off from doing that but I felt I didn’t trust him to repond back. I have anxiety so that intensified the feeling even worse when he wouldn’t respond back. Well he went to new your last weekend with his sister for her best friends wedding. I didn’t talk to him all day Friday then sat I texted to see how his trip was going so far but no response. Then I left at my phone at home so I wouldn’t keep looking at it waiting for his response. Then Sunday the he came back from his trip, I texted him and he said he wanted to see other women and I asked his what did I do he said nothing. Then I asked why couldn’t you tell me in person and he said he didn’t want to see me cry and that I’m crazy and that he’s going to block me. Right when I read that part I just broke down and my anxiety went through the roof. Luckily my dad was there to calm me down. 5 Days passed and the exit I take to go home is next to the bus stop of his company bus drops him off. I saw his car and thought screw it he should be dropped off any minute. I was so nervous My hands were sweating and my heart was beating fast. Then he saw me and was surprised to see me. I told him I wasn’t there to ask him to get back together I was just there to say that i understand that you want to be single. I respect your decision. We talked a little and he said he does and doesn’t want to be single. He starts talking about how he can’t afford me like marriage and if we have children. I said I’m not in a rush because I’m not financially ready. We hugged and said we missed eachother. We went our separate ways but that night I went to his place because my anxiety was flowing through me. I saw him and we talked a bit. He brought how I gained weight and that’s losing attraction for me. He then later on went hang out with his friends that night and I went home. Now it’s the next day and I woke up with my heart pounding and my mind racing like no other. I’ve read other forums regarding the same situation. I don’t want to be hopeful that he’s going to comeback and that he’ll change. I don’t want to be an off and on again relationship. Sigh. I have to go through this to be stronger mentally and emotionally.
Stella
July 10, 2016 at 12:11 pm
My boyfriend blocked me just for no reason. Everything was perfect. Everything was going great. He was sweet and kind until his last message as well. He dedicated me a song and I reciprocated it with another love song. I have no idea why he has blocked me. I am very upset. He blocked me everywhere. There is no reason for his blatant behaviour. Please help me…
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 10, 2016 at 9:00 pm
Hi Stella,
bf? so you’re still together? he just didn’t breakup but blocked you instead? are you ldr?
Marina Gonzalez-Irvin
July 7, 2016 at 6:52 am
I’m so hurt and confused. I truly am developing ito a better person, but I want my ex lover to see that, but I think he is making himself not see my improvements so that he doesn’t have to address it to himself. He has blocked me on everything BUT his phone. What is he trying to say? He is being confusing. I am truly a better person, but at this point it just seems like he is focused on ignoring me.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 7, 2016 at 5:27 pm
let him for now.. just continue on being active in social media.. because if he really is missing you that much, then at some point he will check it.
amanda
June 30, 2016 at 6:47 pm
what is you told him to block you because you think that it isn’t going so well? although it hurts so bad……. he asked you why but u didn’t get a chance to reply fast enough and then he did what he was told (blocked me).. then after a day he unblocked me? i told him i miss him but said he doesn’t have anything to say to me:(
fyi i broke up with him
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 1, 2016 at 1:46 pm
Hi Amanda,
why did you broke up with him? how long was your relationship?
Aubrey
June 30, 2016 at 2:22 pm
So I kind of messed up I couldn’t leave him alone for 3 days after!! And now he has blocked me on everything and told me he hates me and never wants anything to do with me. I hope he doesn’t mean it I don’t believe his love just went away because he really did love me a lot. I just don’t know what to do I think I already messed it up to the point of no return. The whole reason we broke up was because I have had emotional trama in the past and he knew that but couldn’t deal with my problems anymore even though he promised that we would always be together. I just don’t know what to do!!!
Aubrey
June 30, 2016 at 2:34 pm
Not to mention I also took his virginity
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 1, 2016 at 1:02 pm
HI Aubrey,
start active no contact now.. I think you should do 45 days.
kate
June 28, 2016 at 11:48 pm
What if he really loves me but broke up with me because his family doesn’t like me?they are from a wealthy clan and I came from a middle class. My ex bf broke up with me 2weeks ago because his dad was forcing him to leave me or else he won’t pay for his college anymore and he’ll be sent back to the US. I really love this person.. we’ve planned for our future already. We are both in pain. He said he wanted to be friends till he graduates, and get back to me after. But I’m afraid he’ll fall inlove to someone else. We’ve tried to keep our relationship as a secret already but his dad still found it out. I really don’t know what to do anymore 🙁 now my ex is ignoring me to numb the pain yet he keeps on asking our mutual friends about me. And posting that he needs a vacation to clear his mind. I’m on my 2nd week of NC. But we both belong in a circle of friends and groupchat but I don’t approach him at all. I’m ignoring his msgs on it. As if he doesn’t exist in the group. He got pissed off twice and left the group chat because maybe he can’t stand to see me replying to the msgs of our friends and ignoring his msgs. Next month will be our last meet up. Are we going to put all things to end even if we really love each other or any idea to keep it and survive every trials to come.please help me 🙁
kate
June 29, 2016 at 8:18 pm
Hello.. thank you so much for your response. He already tried to talk to his dad but he’s not listening and very persistent of not liking me, forcing him to break up with me. I’m just afraid that he’ll fall inlove with someone else during those years of waiting 🙁 having no communication during those times is really hard. I’m just hurt because he can stand not talking to me. On our meet up, I’ve completed the NC already.. and it’s gonna be face to face during the event. Idk what topic we’re going to discuss if it’s gonna be the end or can still try to make it work. 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 1, 2016 at 11:00 am
look your best when you meet up with him and be confident.. don’t worry too much.. be fun and leave a good memory for him to think about and miss you.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 29, 2016 at 12:39 pm
Hi Kate,
if he really loves you, he’ll either wait for both of to graduate or talk to his dad..
Cherry
June 25, 2016 at 11:18 am
Hi. I broke up with my ex 2 days back because trust has been broken. Now, the other day he texted me that I was the one who want a break up not him, and he said i hurt him so much and he doesnt know if he will recover again and then he blocked me from his iphone, but i can still text him in whatsapp and skype but he never reply to me. What does it mean? Need help pls thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 28, 2016 at 10:30 am
Hi Cherry,
why was the trust broken?
Carolina
June 24, 2016 at 9:06 pm
My ex and I recently got back together and everything was going great until he asked me if I had talked to this other guy at all (a friend who I once lied about sleeping with). I didn’t want to lie so I told him yes and I showed him the messages – I had nothing to hide. My ex gets upset and tells me I can’t stop my behavior (I know that he thinks I slept with this friend before when I haven’t) and says he’s 100% done with me.
I tried calling him that same day but he didn’t answer and that was the only time I called. I sent a text and all he said in response was “goodbye”. When we’ve had arguments in the past he’s told me how I don’t fight for him and it seems like I don’t care. He’s always the one to initiate contact after we fight or break up. So now this time, I want to show him that I want to fight for him and I will fight, I just don’t know how bc he blocked my phone number. I’m worried that this is the end of us. I’m in NC for about a week now.
judy
June 15, 2016 at 2:39 pm
This is really freaking me out. Me and my ex have been friends for the past year. Recently we started to get closer and closer, he was telling me about his problems and such, but a month ago he competely cut me off! I tried to reach out to him and have him explain whats going on but nothing … He ignored my calls, my texts, my emails and just blocked me everywhere…. Without explanation. Things were going really well in terms of friendship, he even told me that he will always stay friends with me. I suspect he’s seeing someone new, but I still dont understand why he won’t come clean. I also did a huge mistake by constantly spamming him and I also told him some rude stuff, which also led to him blocking me completely. It’s been a month since Ive last heard from him, and I intend to just go NC for at least 2-3 months so things cool down. It just feels so incredibly cruel, and I just wish he stops ignoring me but I’m afraid I pushed him too far by nagging at him on and off for a month, without him sending me a single reply. I am fine with being just friends, it’s just so painful to imagine that he will never reach out to me again. Is there any chance that he reaches out to me or this is a lost scenario. He has no reasons to hate me, and he acted as if we’re really tight before he decided to block me from everywhere
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 18, 2016 at 12:15 am
Hi Judy,
maybe he is seeing someone new.. but if he is really the one who blocked you then the the greater chance of him unblocking is if he sees you’ve moved on
Aagna
June 15, 2016 at 12:28 pm
My ex and I were together for almost 2 years. But he broke up with me because he said he doesn’t have time for a relationship and that we fight a lot. I went to his basketball game and surprised him and he was happy and everything was okay for a week. Then, the next weekend I went to his house to surprise him and he got mad screaming and yelling at me. Then he blocked me.. And I have been blocked for almost four months now. He’s not talking to anyone new and he’s not going to get another girlfriend. When we were together, he always said “Aagna if we break up, don’t worry, I’ll be back”.. But he hasn’t come back yet. And he always said “Aagna no girl will ever take your spot.” This is the first time we have ever actually broken up and have not spoke. He even told his friend that he would never get back with me.. And his friend told me. His two friends are pushing him to get back with me because of how long we were together and how much we cared/loved each other and how happy we made one another. And our arguements weren’t big.. They were just like maybe once a week and they lasted an hour. Is there any chance of him unblocking me? I miss him, but what if he doesn’t miss me? Please help!!
Diana
June 14, 2016 at 2:17 pm
Well, I really like a boy and he likes me too, we weren’t in a relationship. About 2 weeks ago we got in a fight. I was the one who started it because his comportament was bothering me. I told him that I don’t like the idea that he acts so sweet with other girls and he seems so indiferent with me. He told me it was only in my head and he acts like that only with the people he really cares about (jokes, teasing, etc.) He got really, really mad, I didn’t believe what he was saying and I didn’t apologize for the things I said to him and he decided to block me on Facebook. Should I call him or text him and explain to him that i am really sorry and I didn’t realise what i was doing then?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 17, 2016 at 5:00 pm
HI Diana,
if you’re still blocked, it’s not the right time to do that. It would be chasing.
Mugie
June 13, 2016 at 7:51 am
Hi
I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago
It hurt less but i still want him
I don’t know why he did that he said he doesn’t love me anymore but he doesn’t want me away
So since that we never talked although i don’t know the reason for breaking up he was my best friend for 2 years and we only dated 2 months
Last week he blocked me and my brother on Facebook i got hurt although i never done anything bad to him all he said was it’s my fault not yours
And now i blocked him on watsapp cause i know it may be the next step for him
Is there any chance for me
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 17, 2016 at 12:19 pm
Hi Mugie,
I know you haven’t talked to each other..but you haven’t started being active in improving yourself too right? so that’s your agenda during nc..be active in social media even if he blocked you..just don’t caption that it’s for him or moving on.. make it a casual post
Alyssa
June 13, 2016 at 4:18 am
My ex and I saw each other long distance for about 6 months. He said two days after me meeting his kids his feelings changed. I went to Hawaii to see him and he needed things when he was in town. Three days later he was talking to a new girl. He said he was confused and that he didn’t know what he wants but I pushed him to far and now he blocked me from his life and said I have to learn the consequences of being mean to him and his new girl. Is all hope lost?
Alyssa
June 28, 2016 at 5:27 pm
Yes they acted a little strange and I found out it was because he was also introducing them to another girl who he is now seeing. I just started the no contact because for awhile we were blocked. Now he is trying to be my friend again but still talking to her. I know I should just be done with it but I don’t understand why after two weeks of being out of each others life he is trying to be friends again.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 16, 2016 at 11:21 pm
Hi Alyssa,
did you gwt along with his kids? and are you in nc right now?
Eve
June 10, 2016 at 5:39 am
PS: when he left back to his country,he said he still wanted me,but its gonna be long distance relaionship, i cant do it,i know most of the tim LDR ended up with distance,thats so sad,but i cant live in his country anymore,i only got depressed in his country and that ruins both of us,and he said he cant move here with me either,i felt his love was not firm enough which is hurting,we broke up lots of times,we always return back,i dont know this time,he acted so crule on me,i dont understand,it was him who hurted me,why hes sad,i blocked him on app,but i never block his number,he never called anyway,if he was really sad and pain,why he didnt call me at all.?
i feel im going to lose my mind,i know he loves me,but why he change so fast now.why he cant be at the same pace i do
Aagna
June 6, 2016 at 12:01 pm
Hi my BF and I were together for almost two years. However towards the end he started to say he might leave because he started working In about a year. I did everything to convince him to stay. One time I went to his house and surprised him.. He was happy. The next time I did it, he got really mad and basically threw me out. Then he blocked me. I have been blocked for about 3.5 months now. I swear I’m not a crazy stalker person, I just loved him so much that I didn’t wanna let him go. He even told his friend that he didn’t wanna be with me anymore again. But during the relationship he always promised that if we ever broke up, he’d come back with time. He always said that.. No matter what, we will always end up back together. But right now, I’m slowly giving up hope as he has not unblocked me even after 3.5 months.. What should I do? Is there any chance of him returning???
Aagna
June 16, 2016 at 1:23 am
Yes I am in NC. Do you think he’ll come back?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 18, 2016 at 10:50 am
honestly, as of now, it looks less like that because you’re still blocked
Aagna
June 15, 2016 at 12:28 pm
Yes I am in NC.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 17, 2016 at 10:48 pm
Hi Aagna,
make him miss you.. Stop waiting for him and be productive to have your own life. This article will explain it further:
Video: How to make your ex boyfriend miss you
Does having your own life help you get your ex back?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 15, 2016 at 6:29 am
Hi Aagna
since you’re still blocked, you should proceed to nc. are you in now?
Jackie
June 2, 2016 at 7:28 pm
Me and my ex just break up yesterday. I’m from Thailand and living here in USA by myself. Have to accept that he was the only one who helped me out most of everthing. We really had great time together until I had insecured feeling and being too needy. I always wanted his time and yesterday it was really bad situation. I talked with him on the phone amd walking to no where like a psycho, walked and cried and begged him. He said just calm down we will meet and talk tmr and he promised to pick me up. So I back to apartment and slept and in the morning I got a long text from him talking about he cant be part of my life. We are not meant to be. I called back and asking about meeting with him. He said he sorry. He lied about he just wanted me to calm down and not hurt myself. After that he blocked me everywhere. By the way I will leave here soon in a month. I want to see him one more time and talk and say sorry because I have t a chance to say it yet. I will do nc and then I will ask his friend to help me. Do you think it will work?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 12, 2016 at 8:33 am
Hi Jackie,
ok.. to be honest.. nope.. you will just appear like you’re more desperate and chasing him more by asking his friend.. If you haven’t started improving yourself, you should restart the count because that’s the most important aspect of no contact.. Start to go to the gym, go out with friends so you can kind of like have a send off get together before you go.. have a make over, meet new people and are you coming back in the States?
Tammy
May 31, 2016 at 7:57 am
Hi, so my bf broke up with me because I wasn’t affectionate enough I just wasn’t calling him babe or any nicknames and wasn’t really complimenting him as much as I should’ve. I kno its my fault we been together almost 3 years we been on ” break ” for almost 3 months now but spoke in between trying to make it work but he wasn’t feeling it anymore and now it’s almost a month since we’ve been broken up but he tells me he still wants to be my friend tht he still loves me. I’m doing NC and he called me on day 4 but I didn’t answer. I’m on day 11 and he hasn’t contacted me but I found out he blocked me on Instagram. what should I do ? what are your thoughts pls
Tammy
June 3, 2016 at 3:14 am
Okay so I dnt have him on fb but I do check his page because I have his password lol and I noticed he just added one of his ex’s on Facebook. Should I be concerned? because I am smh
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 11, 2016 at 2:34 pm
Hi Tammy,
sorry for the late reply.. you shouldn’t cut it short because it looks like you need to focus more on improving yourself.. you shouldn’t stalk his social media accounts.. be busy on improving yourself, and meeting new people and posting about it.. You have to feel more independent first and more emotionally stable. You have to have your own life first and aim to be the ungettable girl for him to miss you.
Tammy
June 1, 2016 at 6:03 pm
i only had him on Instagram I dnt have no other social media besides snapchat and he doesn’t have tht and I’m blocked on Instagram. I’m not sure if he blocked my number tho. I was gonna contact him after 21 days I read it says I can shorten it so I figured this was the right case to do so.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 31, 2016 at 8:03 pm
Hi Tammy,
I think it’s a miscommunication before nc on why you would suddenly disappear because basically you were talking pretty good. But, right now, if you’re not blocked in other social media, then maybe you can try messaging him there after your nc.
Charlotte
May 28, 2016 at 9:21 am
Hey
So we spoke after he unblocked me on what’s app and it seemed quite positive, he started telling me he missed me and wanted to see me, however he never did anything a out this, I tried to arrange a couple of times and I kept getting excuses, we then finally did arrange a date and half and hour before he cancelled and said his friend was going through a hard time but could we meet the next day, I was quite annoyed as I felt he had been stringing me along and I had been taking it, as in replying to some messages nd if boring others etc. So we arrange for the next day as I really felt it was time to have that Convo (it’s been 3 months into the split now) all day he ignored me so we didn’t meet. 2 days later I sent a message telling him how that made me feel and how I felt he was still trying to punish me and have control so I need to move on now. He ignored me again. That night I decided to join a dating site (which I don’t feel I have don’t any wrong, it has been 3 months) he messaged me that night ignoring the fact the he had stood me up and my message but to tell me that my profile looked good and he hopes I find someone and I wouldn’t bear from him again. Now I am so confused, I said to him I knew he went on a site 1 week after we split and how he has been stringing me along but he kept ignoring my message and we haven’t spoken since, nearly a week. I cannot work out if he is jealous, angry and just using it as an excuse and if I should even implement the NC? Any advice from anyone would be great. Thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 30, 2016 at 12:13 pm
Hi Charlotte,
the bad sign is, what if he’s waiting for you to move on? and he really meant what he said that he’s happy you’re moving on?
Steph
May 28, 2016 at 3:04 am
I’ve been with my boyfriend 5 months now, and we have been very happy together. Last weekend however, he has been upset with me over some comments I made, which made him angry at me and I know he has been stressed about work. Although we resolved the issue after two days, he remained a little bit upset and when i tried to talk to him about working on things together to improve communication (on his encouragement to speak about it), he blew up and said he didn’t want to deal with this right now, and that it was stupid and he feels like giving up… he also said maybe we should just call it a day.. I tried explaining that I just want us to be able to deal with future arguments in a calm manner, and that we could talk about working on things in the future, but he got really upset with me, saying that I had said things were okay but now I’m saying things aren’t okay again and the cycle just starts again. After that, he blocked me on every method of communication possible, apart from one. He seemed really angry and I thought I might as well try the NC rule… That was 2.5 days ago. However, last night he blocked me on skype as well (this may be entirely coincidental, but I’m not sure). He was upset with me last week that I didn’t contact him when he was angry for a full day, so I’m not sure if he is now even more angry that I haven’t tried contacting him on skype. I’m feeling really confused right now, and I don’t know if he has broken up with me or if he’s just too angry. This is really our first argument, and its completely not like him to behave like this, though granted, I may not have known him long enough to know for sure. What should I do? I’m sure the first advice is no contact, but when I’m uncertain about whether we are still together or not, is NC still the best way?
steph
May 30, 2016 at 6:12 pm
I’m not sure if he wants me to contact him or not, to be honest. It’s the first time this has happened (and probably the last if I just assume that he no longer wants to hear from me)… I don’t really understand what is happening
Steph
May 28, 2016 at 3:06 am
I also probably should add that we are currently in month 2 of a 3 month long LDR, and he is in his early thirties, I’m in my late twenties..
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 30, 2016 at 9:38 am
Hi Steph,
you mean to say that when he’s angry and not contacting you, he wants you to be the one to contact him? And if you don’t do that, he will block you moreM