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Pippa
March 15, 2018 at 2:42 pm
My NC is over and I’ve just found out that he’s blocked me on FB and FB Messenger but is still one of my Instagram followers. I tried to send him a text message but it rejected. I know he’s having huge money problems so I can accept that maybe he can’t afford to pay for his mobile phone right now. But I don’t know where it leaves me? I didn’t break NC or pester or stalk him at all so he had no reason to block me from FB. Maybe he’s still on my Instagram because he hasn’t realised it or can’t use his phone to break that connection too? When we were still together he sometimes complained that his phone wasn’t working properly but I don’t know if that’s a convenient excuse.
jasmine
March 15, 2018 at 3:38 am
HELLO CHRISS !this wassss beautiful i will be readinggg more š really showed me how to act towards the situation, i will be readinggg more of your articles. very smart guy and i thankyou! just in the middle of reading this guess what… He unblocked me! but he blocks and unblocks me very frequently so i am not surprised but! i definitely will be taking tips and notes because whos to say he wont do it again? were friends btw we were talking but we cant get back because of something i did. but i think hes trying to get back at me with his bestfriend.. but i need advice on what to do like how to stop voicing my opinion as if we are still in relations because thats what makes him mad also but pls help! thankyou š
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 15, 2018 at 4:09 pm
Hi Jasmine,
Why did you break up and are you going to do the nc rule?
Ceci
March 12, 2018 at 1:06 pm
This guy who I was seeing said he wanted space and wanted to be left alone because he had an anxiety attack. So I did that for a few days but I saw he was still active on Snapchat so I decided to delete him as a friend because I didn’t want to view his stories. If I saw his stories, I would be tempted to actually see how his life is. This happened yesterday. Then later that day, he texted “Deleted me on snap? Kinda surprised you didn’t block my number as well”. That was at night and I was sleeping when he sent that. Then in the morning the next day he sent “Fair enough, well I wish you the best on your journey”. Then he blocked me right after. I am not sure what to do now. There’s no other way to communicate with him and I’m worried I lost him forever.
Sara
March 1, 2018 at 1:52 pm
Hi chris..help please
I broke up with my boyfriend about 6 months ago and 1month ago i realize that we are the best for each other and i followed your tips and we were back together and everything was great we went on a trip we saw eachother every day but yesterday suddenly he blocked me!!!
And today i call him from another number and he is saying everything i once said when i was breaking up with him..i can’t believe that it was all just a revenge!!!!
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2018 at 3:11 pm
Hi Sara,
If he went back to you just get revenge, youu should move on.
Jennifer Caldwell
February 27, 2018 at 6:50 am
Hi, thank you for writing this. I’ve been blocked from calls/texts, which is the only form of communication he and i have. He is not on FB. I am, but my posts are private.
He has a POF profile. I know this because he would check it while with me and liked to show me that women wanted to meet him, but said he never has and isn’t really interested (ego thing?). We were only together 3 mths and our relationship was based solely on sex…and a drug, to which he is an addict. It’s not weed, it’s an upper. I enjoyed doing it with him, but do not do it since he’s stopped coming around. From the get go, i wanted to be serious and he told me he had other priorities, but that it wasn’t out of the question. He does have other priorities because he is homeless and lives, for the most part, out of his truck (which is older, but very well taken care of and nice), hotel rooms and family (not really friends, because he is kind of a loner, like me). He works as a plumber, (which he learned from his grandfather) through temp agencies and is trying to get a place to live for him and his youngest son who is a teen. Pretty much, it’s all he can do to remain close with his sons, keep his job, keep his truck running and support his drug addiction. But i am not judgemental, in fact, i respect his efforts and admire his courage. I am not perfect. I am not at the best place in my life, either, but much better than where I’ve been. I am broken, insecure, obsessive, depressed, I pushed him away, to the point of blocking me. Unlike you, he never told me that I should “move on” and that he for sure wasn’t interested in being serious. I’m not sure if it’s the drugs, but i do think it’s possible that he’s skizofrenik. He would come over, leave with some excuse, say he was coming right back, but never come back. This isn’t why I think he’s skizophrenic, I’m just mentioning it. He wouldn’t call or text or reply to mine. He did this many times, and it hurt me a lot.This isn’t why I think he’s skizophrenic, I’m just mentioning it, and I know I’m jumping all around here, sorry, but thank you if you’ve hung in this long. Anyway, when i asked him if he wanted to be serious, he never gave an outright, no…and if I would assume his not saying yes, meant no, he would say, he wasn’t saying that. He has said many times towards the end that “he can’t do this”. I admit I’m not perfect and when I was hurt I would say things like, leave me alone, don’t ever come back here, you make me sick, even…I hate you. It hurt me to say these things, and they were the opposite of how i felt, but I was angry and didn’t understand why he did some of the things he did, that were very hurtful. I know the drugs (one drug, not a variety) don’t help, but if there’s possibly any advice you can give me, setting the fact that we did them and he does them, aside, i would appreciate it. I’m heartbroken and i care very much for him.
charlotte
February 24, 2018 at 5:42 pm
Our relationship had a few fights and was getting a little distant. Then he blocked me because he saw me with my ex who is in the same Uni class as me, three times in one day. He hates my ex. I realised he blocked me so I contacted him on phone, to which he says he blocked me because he saw me with x person. He unblocked me but he hasn’t added me back on apps so I have not added him back either. Should I wait until he does?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 27, 2018 at 11:34 am
Hi Charlotte,
but you’re not broken up right?
Elizabeth Taylor
February 20, 2018 at 9:59 am
Hi! So my husband and I have been arguing more over the last few months since I’ve had my first child and last week we started arguing over our level of communication (we are doing long distance for a couple of months). At the end of the argument, he sent a very rude message and I didn’t respond to it because I was angry. I hadn’t posted anything and hadn’t looked at any of his posts. After a couple of days, I looked at his snapchat and I messaged him that since we had time to cool down, he can call me when he’s ready to talk and he sent a thumbs up, but didn’t call. It has been a few days since then and he hasn’t called. I havent sent any messages to him and have been posting positive things,etc. He has looked at all of my posts, but now he has blocked me from Instagram and snap chat. He kept Facebook but has only contacted me about our child and ended the convo with enjoy your day which threw me off because I didn’t know if he was actually being genuine. I responded thank you, but he logged off as soon as he sent the message. I haven’t said anything to him about blocking me, but I’m also annoyed that he won’t just grow up and communicate. I honestly feel like he doesn’t deserve me, but I want to give our marriage a decent try for our kid. I just want him to be able to not hate me enough for the next month and half so we can go to counseling (he agreed to go way before this fight) when I join him at his location. It’s really hard not to say f*ck off to someone who doesn’t appreciate my worth and doesn’t work as hard as me to become a better communicator/partner. However, he is the father of my child and I’m on my second marriage now so I’m really not trying to be known as the woman that can’t work through her marital problems and be an Elizabeth Taylor with five husband’s (although she’s fabulous) lol. I just know I need better taste in men now and maybe my type isn’t who I need in my life. So if there is a chance, can I get a solid game plan? I bought the handbook and online support so you can reference something if u need to.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 23, 2018 at 5:37 pm
Hi Elizabeth,
Try as best as you can not to start a fight with him. Keep being the mature and calm one. For now, let him initiate so he can cool down..
Jon
February 19, 2018 at 9:28 am
Hereās a unique situation. An ex of mine from 7 years ago and I have periodically popped in and out of one anotherās lives. Sometimes physical, sometimes just to check up on each other. A couple years ago communication picked up between us, and it almost seemed as if he was interested in a relationship again until he sent a picture of him and his new boyfriend. Weāve still stayed in contact since, and communication has always been very respectful. I noticed though about a year ago he had blocked me on Facebook with no explanation, I asked him about it and he changed the subject. Even after that weāve continued to be in contact through snapchat and sometimes text. Just recently the frequency of communication picked up again, when my job actually brought me 20 minutes away from where he lives. Heās been messaging me in response to whatever I share on my snapchat story – not even direct messages to him as I rarely initiate contact out of respect to his relationship. About a month ago he invited me out to join him, his boyfriend, and friends but I declined due to illness. At this point heās been in a relationship for about 2 years. As a joke a couple weeks back I had taken a picture wearing a friends ring captioned āShould I say yes?ā A few hours later in the very early AM I got a message from him that just said āb!tchā I asked him about it the next day and he played it off as being drunk and not remembering. Last weekend I posted a ridiculous message I had gotten on a dating app and captioned it āthis is why I donāt use dating apps.ā Like clockwork he sent me a message as soon as he saw it and said āeww gross hahaha.ā We chatted back and forth a bit before I told him to enjoy his weekend with his boyfriend. Later that night I posted a selfie for the first time in a while (great pic if I say so myself) and I saw he was one of the first to view it as he usually is – yet again my story not a direct message to him. The next morning when I woke up I saw he had unfriended me from snapchat. Itās hard to wrap my head around why. It was the same with Facebook. No explanation, no fight, no reason…so my question is, since he has been primarily the one thatās been messaging me – why would an ex block you 7 years later over a selfie on snapchat? The only thing I can guess is that Iām a temptation for him, or somehow an issue in his current relationship. You would think if that is the case though, based on our history and friendship heād respect me enough to communicate that instead of unfriending me. Iāve always had a feeling weād end up together someday if the timing was right, but for now I suppose heās doing the right thing for his current relationship. Just odd that heās been the one initiating contact all this time just to disappear.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 21, 2018 at 11:51 am
Hi Jon,
Yeah, you’re probably an issue to his current relationship. Either his bf is the one who asked to block you right then there when he did or he just didn’t see the need to say that you because that’s awkward. Why would you say to a person you’re going to block that you’re going to block him or her right? You don’t.. You just do it.
Zara
February 16, 2018 at 9:38 pm
Hi Amor, thanks for your reply. This would be the second time we have broken up. Do I still even have a chance to get him back after being ghosted like this? He’s blocked me from everything, even when I haven’t spoken to him properly since November 2017.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 19, 2018 at 12:56 pm
It’s a small chance. Either you move on or try nc one last time.
Habsa
February 14, 2018 at 10:16 pm
Hi
I never showed my emotions to anyone and all I posted was smiling pics.i need him back how do I do that.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 18, 2018 at 1:59 pm
If you are active in improving yourself and in posting, initiate contact to slowly rebuild rapport but if you’re still blocked, that means you have to move on..
Habsa
February 14, 2018 at 4:04 am
Am ok I act normal I don’t like showing others that am broken I post normal pics and videos showing happy face.but I feel like I need him back but I don’t know what other steps to take please help
Zara
February 12, 2018 at 7:16 pm
This is the second time my ex and I have broken up, we were together for nearly 9 years. The first time we broke up was for around 1.5 years ago, and we got back together after a year apart. Iāve done no contact etc, the last time I heard from him was Xmas day. I replied with a short message.
This is a tricky situation, as heās literally just ghosted me, there was never an official break up, we had an argument back in October and thatās the last time I saw him. I gave him space and time to calm down after the argument and he was still angry, so I gave him more time. He never said he wanted to break up, but as time has passed on, I feel like weāve broken up. Heās recently blocked me from all social media and WhatsApp.
I donāt know what to do. After 9 years, I donāt think itās right to just be abandoned like this. Iām currently getting therapy because of how heās made me feel with this uncertainty. I donāt understand. What could I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 16, 2018 at 7:48 pm
Hi Zara,
How many times have you broken up?
Susan
February 10, 2018 at 11:53 am
Hi so need your help. Me and my ex bf broke up last October we had a misunderstanding that we could not resolve due to emotions on both sides. So I implemented the NC the day after we broke up. We where in a long distance relationship and had been together for Year pretty serious. So during NC he did reach out and I become busy bettering myself lost weight, graduated been actively posting also he does not any social media accounts we have a mutual friend the same one who was the cause of our breakup so been using him. So after NC I sent him a wee text it was a memory one I did not get any response from him since he was on holiday so I waited patiently till he got back which was in Dec, he read it but did not respond. I left him I did not send a follow message, as I thought he was not interested in me anymore so have been moving on but not so today as I was going through my whatsapp I realised he blocked me a bit shook. Why would you after 4mths
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 15, 2018 at 12:51 pm
Hi Susan,
if you’re still active in posting there, probably to stop himself from looking or to stop himself from contacting you.
Shi
February 9, 2018 at 4:48 pm
My boyfriend unblocked me but he did not send me a message. What should i do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 13, 2018 at 1:09 pm
Hi Shi,
Are you in nc rule?
Habsa
February 7, 2018 at 7:48 am
My ex and I mate in high school we were classmates for two years before graduation I liked him wen I fast saw him and that was the first day I joined the school since he was there before me.that day as I was introducing myself to the class my eyes were on him as mind was thinking of what I couldn’t understand then from that he said hi my heart decided to make him mine no matter.few months later we began being boyfriend then he started getting feelings for me and told me he loved me though it took him long.we started dating for sometime he falled so hard for me but I wasn’t feeling the same so I started ignoring him not receiving his call and when we meet in class I pretended to be just a friend of him.then we went on holiday and one night he asked me what changed me that and I answered nothing and he asked what we should do and I asked whatever he likes.he said it’s ok if u no longer love me and I told him it’s not that but u can do what you want.when school were opened and classes started we didn’t talked for a while and I started dating someone else but still there was part which cared for him my ex I mean.few months later as our final exams were around my ex and I began talking and I broke up with the other guy.my ex was so happy by then we studied together had fun together just like our normal ways as if nothing ever happened after graduation he traveled to the another country( USA )he never contacted me bt one day I texted him and he asked me why i didn’t told him I got married of which I was not and couldn’t know anybody Wil ever tell him such lies.then he informed me he was getting married too of which he was lying to me.2yrs later of no contact I traveled to the the USA and a month after my arrival I called him he took minute to arrive to my adress.we went out that day,we stayed together for 2months and yes we were dating for those two months.but the problem was me I couldn’t trust he still hard feelings for me,I got angry and jealous for reasons in short I annoyed him so much when all he did was to prove me wrong and love me instead.we didn’t for 2wks in those two months and I was the problem and he alot responsibilities and school to go he is studying medicine.one day he sent me a pic on Snapchat I sent mine too and out of nowhere he blocked me on Snapchat,his fon nd wen texted him on Facebook asking what I did wrong he blocked me on Facebook too I called one of our close friends to call him and ask him why and he answered him I want to forget and I should too.its 3month now that I didn’t contact him but I love him so much and he is single still this time I can’t stay a second without thinking of him and I blame myself of what I did long ago please give me an advice of what I should do.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 8, 2018 at 6:33 pm
Hi Habsa,
In those 3 months, how active are you in improving yourself and in posting in social media?
Samantha
February 5, 2018 at 10:15 am
My husband and I broke up the day after Christmas, itās been over a month now. I wanted to get back together and he didnāt. He would ignore me and I would text him over and call and he wouldnāt answer. Eventually like 2 weeks later he started talking to me. Well he kept talking about getting a divorce and I got so angry I told him I was going to sleep with his best friend. (I know). He blocked me. We didnāt talk for another 2 weeks. I reached out to him on a new Facebook account and he was still mad, he asked me have I slept with anyone since we broke up and I said duh! You blocked me and said you wanted a divorce. So then he blocked that profile. And blocked ALL my friends and family. My number is blocked. And he made an Instagram and blocked me there too. His sister blocked me. He blocks my friends when I message him from their accounts. He hates my guts. I hate to say it but I think our marriage is really over. I donāt think he cares about me anymore š why am I even on this sight.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 8, 2018 at 11:27 am
Hi Samantha,
why did you broke up?
Jennifer
February 5, 2018 at 9:25 am
Hello,
So my ex and I have been dating for about little over a year. We do a long distance relationship and the distance between us got us anxious and we broke up couple of times. We always managed to work it out within a day or couple days. It was 8 days ago when I broke up with him after a huge fight. I was hurt and I needed time to think. After three days of him begging and thinking on my own, I wanted to go back. That day, he sent me an angry message. Then, I reached out to him and I didnāt hear anything back from him. He absolutely blocked me everywhere (emails, Facebook, WhatsApp, phone, etc) Full block outs. And when I tried to reach out to him via my friends, he blocks them too. It has been six days now that he never said anything to me. What does this mean? Does this mean he is completely done with me because he cannot read any of my messages and seems like he never wants to hear from me again.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 8, 2018 at 11:25 am
Hi Jennifer,
give him a week more.. If you’re still blocked at that point, send a clean slate message on channel that even if you’re blocked, he will still be able to read once he unblocks you or make a new account to send that and then start nc. Do at least 30 days.
Lynn
January 24, 2018 at 3:03 am
My ex broke up with me early dec. I said ok, wished him well and went on my way. Never reached out, about 3 wks later he starts mssging me on fb..i respond warmly. He reaches out 2 or 3 times a week, asks to call..sure. we talk.
so he continues reaching out. We hv good convos, when he reaches out i respond and otherwise i leave him b. After a really good convo on friday, i realize today (tues) he blocked me on fb. Umm. Ok, we’re not friends on fb, nvr were. I dont know if he blocked my #, ive never tried to call since he broke up w me. So basically i dont bother him, ever, and after he’s been reaching out to me blocks me. I’m not going to test other social platforms, I’m cool leaving him alone. But i dont get why he’d block someone that did exactly what he asked. He wanted space to focus on his biz. I left him the heck alone. Seems weird to block someone who’s not contacting you. So how do i know he blocked me then? I still check his page! I’m not made of stone…jesus. but i know what i bring to the table, I’m not gonna beg him to eat at it! Just not sure where i went wrong here. Totally didnt pull a crazy ex. I thought we had some potential smdh. His last mssg was super sweet too. Now it feels like it was actually a forewarning to being thrown into the land of blocked bitches. Kinda feel like i don’t belong
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 25, 2018 at 8:45 pm
Hi Lynn,
when he reaches out again, don’t reply.
Sydney
January 22, 2018 at 4:37 pm
My ex and I have been going back and forth between talking and not talking. We go to different schools and he said he would rather focus on his last semester and doesnāt want a relationship. However, he said he can see a future but doesnāt want to ruin things now. He then blocked me on calls/texts and snapchat because he thinks we really shouldnāt talk while at school so that we can try to not ruin things further. He says he can see a future together but thinks we really should take some time apart before we can come back together, and then blocks me. I donāt know whether to believe him or not since I feel like he could just be moving on if we arenāt talking, but I am confused and lost because I really want things to work out, despite all the bad. Please help!
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 24, 2018 at 2:11 am
Hi Sydney,
How many times have you broken up? And how much do you bump into each other at school?
Test
January 20, 2018 at 9:33 pm
Just a test
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 21, 2018 at 10:39 am
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