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Sarah
February 9, 2014 at 8:19 pm
My ex BF started ignoring me at the end of Dec after a smaller fight (nothing huge, but yeah, I got a bit needy). He did this before (and he does this with friends too when he is angry), so I just ignored him back and waited for him to beg me back. Instead, after 2 weeks he met a girl (complete opposite of his type) and went straight into a RS with her. He did try to rub it in my face at first by posting stuff on FB. I didn’t show any reaction and he stopped after the first 10 days or so. We have now been in NC for 6 weeks, he has been seeing this girl for almost a month, more than 2 weeks official. Shall I keep NC? I am scared that if I contact him, he will know I still want him and thus just giving him an ego boost and making his new RS even stronger. What is your suggestion?
mahsa
February 9, 2014 at 9:26 am
hi
i had a BF who was in love with me so much that i couldnt bear it because he loved me more than i loved him. his romantic things just annoyed me and i felt that he is stupid cause i thought these stuffs are just in movies. finally after 3years i started ignoring him knowing that he loved me . i was sure about it . finally he called me after 2 months and asked me out to call.
i accepted it . when we were out talking he acted like he loved me so much and now it;s not like that and he don’t want me. he just want to talk . this made me wanting him back , when we reunited i felt wonderful.i enjoyed being around him because of his love and he admitted that he played this game to win me back , which pleased me . but we had huge fights every month and we both threatened each other to break up . after another huge fight that we had and it was his fault and he apologized for that , he started acting weird , he didn;t txt me , he didn;t call me and i was the one who txt and called him until i send a message to him that because u r so busy , i stop calling and txting u , u do it when u r free and available, he didn;t respond , next day i txt him i think u r acting weird i want u to go for a talk about it , he didnt answer that then i called him and he didn;t answer , he txted me back (i am busy , i will txt u at night), then i txt him whether u pick up ur phone and answer me or u never call or txt e again , i called him and he rejected me, i don;t know what i should do about it. 4 days after that , i noticed he went on trip to pataya without telling me so i got mad and txt him ( i have this guy who wanted me out on a date and i told him i should think and i realized u r the part of my thinking and i want u to think because this way if we broke up we decided it together and if i decided to end it i will come to be with u one day to have a one last good memory together) . but he didnt answer to that too. i was wondering that this means an end or what?
mahsa
February 15, 2014 at 7:28 am
hello
thx for caring and answering
i don;t know what his actions means. i dont want to start a new relationship , and after a month or two he come to me and ask for another shot . because he did it once .
admin
February 10, 2014 at 5:29 am
I am confused. Are you saying you don’t know if you two are broken up or not?
sherice
February 9, 2014 at 3:14 am
Hey chris
I broke up with my boyfriend abt a week ago.however I’ve been getting a lot of private calls on my cellphone.I kinda figured it was my ex.I haven’t text him or call till today.well I was at the beach and I carved out the words on the sand:I STILL LOVE U.I responded like an hour later by calling me, but when I answered he didn’t say anything.he was just listening then he hung up..is that a good response??.
Regina
February 8, 2014 at 8:39 pm
Hi Chris,
I wonder if you could help me or the relation with my ex is rather lost. He split up with me 7 months ago after 6 yrs of intensive acquaintance and finally relationship (as I thought). To my mind the reason of breakup was that I finally asked him to commit and declare himself and then decided not to be involved in intimate contacts with him. This could be enough for him.
In the meantime he was giving sings of being with other girls but eventually denied it. Once he suggested to go back together (to my mind it was rather for s…x than something more and the offer of being friends with benefits was declined by me).
A month ago I moved out from his house I took care of and my relocation was called by him as “friendly end”. Since then, he did not approach me.
I tried NC and stayed calm for 11 days only. He responded via email that he does not want any contact in any way and just want to relax and enjoy his life in his way. He asked not keep to try talk to him as he just did not ask for it and to respect his wish.
We were to talk about our comeback after Christmas. Could he have changed his mind so much after I moved out?
Now I think that our paths are separate for ever now. My heart is broken again.
Mary
February 8, 2014 at 6:07 am
Hey Chris. I dated this guy whos 30 and im 25, we dated for two months only but our relationship was very intense and we both grew deep feeling. He even met my family (at HIS request) He wanted to go fast and he always poured his feeling out to me. But he always said that he is usually the “player” type of guy but that he was different with me because he had genuine feelings towards me. I fe. Having him met my family after only 4 weeks was not Ideal for me but I went with it cause I knew it was important for him. However, he would always complain that I was too cold, too unattached, that I didn’t really cared for him, that I didn’t texted enough or replied fast enough when I was at work. I would always tried my best to calm him down and make him see how much I truly cared for him. But at the end he ended up braking up with me and told me to delete his# and that he never wanted to hear my voice again or see me again. That same day I texted him like crazy like 30 messages trying to get him back which he never replied. then I deleted his phone number. He doesnt have facebook, and we dont have friends in common. The only thing I have now is his email. My 30day NC period will be over on Valentines and his bday is on the 15th. I want to send him an email but Im just not sure if a “casual tone” will seem “too cold” for him, what do you recommend? … (sorry for the long message)
admin
February 8, 2014 at 6:13 pm
Maybe wait a little until after V-day and his B-day before you contact.
Mary
February 11, 2014 at 6:22 am
Ok I will do that, thanks for the advice. One last question, how do u determine how long should the NC period last? Do u go by the longevity of the relationship, or by the circumstances of how it ended? …. when should it be a 2month NC and when sgould it be a 1 month NC?
Kay
February 6, 2014 at 11:22 pm
What if he broke up with you and you went nc but then found out he changed his number? then what do you do?
admin
February 7, 2014 at 6:33 pm
Do you have him on Facebook?
Alison
February 5, 2014 at 8:05 pm
Ahh this guy and I had a thin for a month and he used the whole “I like you but I gotta get myself together first, I lose everyone I used to be with but I honestly don’t wanna lose you, give me time to get myself together, fiends For now that’s all I can at the moment.” His friends told me that he said he was “confused.” That was at the end of November and he hasn’t contacted me since and pretty much avoids me when h sees me. I don’t text/call him with the exception that I asked him to hang out as just friends in the middle of December, he said he couldn’t, then he asked me and I said okay but it never happened! The last thing I heard from him was a couple days after I asked him to hang out I asked what was going on as friends and he said “like I said, I don’t have the time and I’m not the guy you want, trust me.” I haven’t heard anything from him some and h really busy and not even completing full days but I feel like that’s not an excuse… Hes still ignoring.
admin
February 6, 2014 at 5:38 pm
Are you in NC currently?
Alison
February 7, 2014 at 9:40 pm
Yes, we aren’t in contact except for when I see him around and he barely says hello
Gale
February 5, 2014 at 1:30 pm
Help Help ! My 21 year old daughter and her BF broke up after 6 years together (yes young but in love ) He ended it abruptly a few months before they were to move in together (even went furniture shopping )he has 2 years left of university ,she has one, no signs of trouble,no fighting) He just said I need to do this for me and be selfish…I am 21 and I need to see if this is real ! He will not talk to her (she is a broken puddle of a mess )and he is now supposedly dating a few others and when they see each other at University he walks by ignoring her ! Help I cannot explain it ,she deserved more that they way he ended it and she is waiting for his return! I agree most come back but he is in a rebound so how long who knows ! Please give advise I am desperate for guidance to help her get him back ! Both families are devastated we loved him they loved her !! Thanks I am one begging Mom for insight !!
admin
February 5, 2014 at 7:01 pm
Has she tried the no contact rule yet?
Gale
February 10, 2014 at 8:42 pm
Hey thanks for the reply ! Yes she is doing it now! Why??
Alysha
August 18, 2014 at 4:49 pm
Me and my ex broke up in February and he gave me reasons like I was clingy which he later said that I pushed him away and didn’t let him in and that we argued which is true we argued over me asking to spend days with him after my uncle died which I eventually gave up with… We also argued about him not texting me when he spent the day with his friends so I wouldn’t wait up for him and arranging one day a week that we spend together. He also changes his mind daily on the different excuses for the break up which to be fair I don’t really care about anymore. However I did want to be friends afterwards and so did he, one day I was with him and he said he was going to do weed and I was panicking because I didn’t want that for him so I told a friend and asked what to do, another girl over herd and told the whole of my class. I then thought what’s the point of lying so I told him the truth and the replied with ” you failed my test” which was kinda wired anyway I managed to blame it on worry. A couple of days after he said that this person had told him that I had shouted it out and told this girl, so I asked this person and cared everything up and then replied to my ex and said I expected an apology because he had been shouting at me and not trusting me which hurt me, he said that he had enough and he didn’t want to be friends anymore after we were really close. Now he plays mind games with me like smiling at me while walking down the corridors, staring at me and trying to be near me. He also says that he does not care to all his friend but he still holds a grudge against me? I don’t understand. At my prom he also called me fucking ugly as well, I don’t know why he would do that. Anyway recently he got a new girlfriend who looks like me and has a lot of my traits but is really quite, when ever I was near him at prom he would run to his girlfriend but when I wasn’t there he would be off with his mates and when I was having fun dancing he went outside I wouldn’t come back in. When I tired being his friend I acted like before we went out so I was having banter with him and play fighting with him but he all of a sudden changed his mind and said he didn’t like it and that I always wind him up even though he did that to me. I don’t know what to do my heart still aches now over it and I miss that friendship that we had. I don’t talk to him anymore because it hurts me and he would push me away and even when I’m not talking to him he try’s to get under my skin. I don’t really know what to do with him anymore and it constantly hurts because I opened up to him and always ask for advice and he would help me and be there as someone to talk to, he became my rock that kept me up but now I can’t stop feeling and get myself together :'(
Hopefully you could spread so light on this for me thanks
Joe
February 4, 2014 at 10:12 pm
Ok so here’s the deal. My bf and I broke up 2 days ago. We dated for 6 months but have been friends for almost a year and have texted and talked on the phone almost every day! I was the “man” in our relationship in that I never let my emotions get out of control and I never really allowed myself to be vulnerable. He would always call/text me as well. He is a good guy but a little on the critical side. Some other important history is that he is also a running coach and coaches me for free. So, I had started to toy around with the idea of breaking up with him bc he was so critical. I reduced my texts and responses the day before we broke up and he was obviously upset. He calls me and asks to come over to talk. We do and we agree that we are not right for each other but that we are like best friends who occasionally have sex. it gets better, so he decides to continue coaching me and we are going to remain friends. Then I realize that I am totally into him and I actually want to be with him. So, I call and tell him how i’m feeling. I tell him that all along I have really liked him and that I have tried not to make myself vulnerable and that is why i have been kind of distant and I was worried he would break up with me. He tells me that he actually really like me too but that he is so confused because I had been sending him signals that I wanted to break up. So, he says no we cant date right now but later under better circumstances. So, I in the moment say maybe we can’t be friends and that I need time bc i am really hurt. Then i retract and say i’m just upset. Long story short, he basically just ends the conversation. I have no idea if he is still going to coach me or not. So next day, I do my workout that he had sent me and then i text results. I don’t hear anything from him. SO i email him, then I call. Then later I text and ask him if he doesn’t want to be friends anymore and ask him if he is going to coach me. So basically 4 messages total that are unanswered. At least its not 22, right? haha, well I am upset but know I shouldn’t call or text anymore because there is really NOO NO NO point. Do you think he still likes me? Does he want to cut things off completely. Also, I should add that he is a very monogomous type but he is a serial dater. It is possible that he is already talking to someone new but its doubtful and i can’t imagine him not wanting to be friends with me since we have talked sooo much. Either way, I am actually really sad and have become vulnerable for the first time since i have known him.
admin
February 5, 2014 at 6:45 pm
Did the two of you ever have a talk where you were “official?”
Joe
February 5, 2014 at 7:00 pm
Yep. He asked me to be his “steady” after our first real date and after we slept together.
admin
February 6, 2014 at 2:07 am
His “steady” hahahaha..
It’s been a while since I have heard that one.
Joe
February 6, 2014 at 2:19 am
ha! yep, i’m notorious for corny, old fashioned words. OH and thanks for the response. I’m getting better at break-ups. I’m just going to ride the wave and do a modified no contact rule with him. We are both very low drama kind of folks- more me than him! I’m not confident we will be back together but I do see the wisdom in decreasing the communication as a means for gaining perspective/allowing for healing.
Joe
February 5, 2014 at 7:38 pm
He’s texting me already about running. Asking me if I want him to pick me up some new running food. I don’t know what to do….
Joe
February 5, 2014 at 4:28 pm
So an update: He contacted me last night saying that he definitely wants to coach me and that he still wants to be friends with me but htat I was upset and he needed time. So i texted him back and told him that I understood and that he should take all the time he needs. I haven’t contacted him and plan not to. He is still my coach tho. So i’m thinking i should just be pleasant and only talk about running with him but make it really short?
Kristina
February 4, 2014 at 8:37 pm
I dated a great guy for almost 11 months. We always had a good relationship, both upfront and honest about everything. Throughout the entire relationship he told me “I was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with” and that he wanted to marry me. When we first started dating we went to the same school and things were great, but then summer came and we both moved home. He was a little insecure and got mad at me when it came to texting because I didn’t always respond right away either because I was at work or training for soccer. I worked 60 hour weeks and he wasn’t very understanding with the difficulty I had with time for communication. Anyways, I transferred out to a different school and the distance was pretty hard. Both of us being student athletes it made it very difficult to see each other. When we did see each other, it was great though. Like nothing changed. But time went on and it became harder and harder to see each other so texting/ talking on the phone was our only source of communication. He started playing games with me and “not texting me first to see if I would care”… we kinda just grew apart because of the distance and he would get upset with me that I couldn’t travel to see him because I was in season and had to travel for games. We both were frustrated and it became almost impossible for us to make the other one happy. I ended things because it was just too hard. Its been 4 months since we broke up and we haven’t talked at all (other than wishing each other a Merry Christmas). Even since then, its been a month or so.
I do miss him, I mean he was my best friend for almost a year. I still care about him as a friend and I wouldn’t be opposed to talking or even getting back together.
I’m just curious as to why he hasn’t tried to contact me at all? If he was so in love with me why wouldn’t he? Maybe he’s waiting for me to, maybe he’s moved on, maybe he’s just done, but I’m clueless as to what. I just am scared to text him because I don’t want to make things harder if we are done. And I don’t want give him control of the situation by texting him or coming across as desperate.
Joe
February 7, 2014 at 10:52 am
This sounds very familiar to my situation! I can relate so much.
Kristina
February 10, 2014 at 2:27 am
It’s definitely confusing and a bit confusing! Any insight as to why you may think he hasn’t tried contacting me?
Kristina
February 10, 2014 at 2:29 am
frustrating*
Sabrina
February 3, 2014 at 4:42 pm
My ex and I were together for 8 months, but a very serious 8 months (we always said it felt like years). He asked me to move in with him and a week before he broke up with me he asked me what kind of engagement ring I would want. His reasons to break up with me was due to a crazy work schedule and couldn’t handle both (relationship and work), as well as depression issues. The breakup came out of nowhere (for me at least). I went over 2 months of NC. I sent him a great text (well i think so) just like you said. And had absolutely no response. Any advice??
Me
February 2, 2014 at 8:21 pm
Hi Chris. You’ve helped me out A LOT. I broke up with my ex in December because he was having another relationship with another woman. He didn’t want me to find out but I did. He apparently wanted to keep both of us (greedy). I kept talking to him but only if he contacted me first. Then last month I told him to leave me alone and went NC. On day 26 we had a weather condition in my city so he sent an email to check on me and my children. I waited a few hours and responded directly to his question with “we are fine. Thanks for asking”
Here is the thing he has my camera. I emailed him after my NC was over and asked for my camera back as I needed it for my vacation at the end of this month. He had told me he would bring it and some other items to me when he visited my city before I went NC (long distance relationship). I told him to mail me my camera. He hasn’t responded!
I feel he is angry at me. But why? HE CHEATED AND GOT CAUGHT. I had every reason to break up with him. Why hasn’t he responded to my request? I don’t plan on asking again. I will buy a new one if he doesn’t return it. I’m looking for a males perspective s to why he is ignoring my request?
admin
February 3, 2014 at 5:56 pm
Maybe he has that victim mentality. Which is dumb b/c he is not the victim.
Me
February 3, 2014 at 2:38 pm
Update:
He finally responded two days later and said he is traveling for his job. He said he will try to mail it to me when he returns home if not he is coming to my town this month and will bring it to me. I think he wants to see me.. What do you think?
Cindy
February 1, 2014 at 3:57 pm
I me and my ex bf talked for about 2 months and we enjoyed talking to each we went out for several dates. We both admitted that we liked each other. So we weren’t even dating yet and his told me his mom wanted to meet so one day he had invited me to go his soccer game and he told me I was the first girl he ever takes to his games(felt great) so he wanted to go take a shower eventually I had to go to his house for the first time and I met his parents had a great bond with mother mostly…I felt like meeting his parents was a sign that he is being serious. This new years eve 2014 we spend it with each other and had my first new years kiss…that Saturday he invited me to go to his soccer game again after the game he eventually asked me out to be his gf sense then we were irresistible I was happy with him. we would only see each other during the weekend cause he was in college and working and he lived a bit far about 20 minutes away but I didn’t asked for much I would tell him I missed him… Everything was going super good! He agreed to meet my parents so This past weekend I noticed him that he wasn’t the same he was acting strange I thought because he was sick but no that’s Monday I had asked him is everything okay? & he said everything was good. He called me and sad why you keep asking me if everything is okay? I said I feel you different like if something is bothering he eventually said every thing was fine so I left alone the next day He texted me saying We need to talk,,I was scared to hear what he had to say he called me and said he feels weird and im like a weird? he said yeah my feelings im like what about them ? he like my feeling are fading I stayed quite cause it hurt so much. he said he feels like if hes lying to himself? I asked myself can feelings fade that fast?? He said he wakes up and is stressed out and he cant sleep..I couldn’t take it anymore so I told him ill call him later. That night I texted him and we eventually end it 4 days before my birthday we were almost a month and it hurt more the fact that I wanted to spend time with him on birthday. we left it as being friends and the last text he said please do keep in touch I would hate to lose a great person in my life..Sense then I was confused? Is he Stressed out or is it his feelings? I feel like theres something else that kept him from breaking up with me. I invited him to my birthday dinner and he never responded back! It hurt more cause he was the main person I wanted to be there. Is he probably hurt that he couldnt respond? I still have faith he would be back. what should I do?
Nichole
January 31, 2014 at 7:49 pm
I am dating an amazing guy right now, and I love him with all my heart. So he isn’t an ex, but I do need some advice. He is ignoring me, and I really don’t know why. I’ve sent him 8 messages which is a lot, and I worry constantly. But I really need some tips on how to get his attention and make him realize I’m still here and that I love him. Any ideas?
admin
February 1, 2014 at 6:30 pm
Ok, lay off for a little bit. And then maybe call him and ask him where he was. Just try to communicate very very very very calmly.
*Leonie*
January 31, 2014 at 7:33 pm
Hi,
I rang my boyfriend (of four years) one day and asked why he hadn’t called me for the whole day (long story ) but he hung up.
The next day I received an email from him that he didn’t want to talk to me and told me to enjoy my weekend without him.
So, after that I obviously didn’t contact him. Three days later he texted and tried to call me but by that stage I was very annoyed with him and had already decided that I was going to do the ‘No Contact Rule’ on him in the hope he would communicate better with me. He tried to reach me for two more days. But stopped and now it’s been three days since I have heard from him.
I am beginning to worry that if i continue to do the ‘No contact Rule’ he will not contact me again. Do you think this is likely and am I doing the right thing using the ‘No Contact Rule’ on him.
I think I may be pushing him away instead..
admin
February 1, 2014 at 6:27 pm
Yes I think it is!
Marilu
January 31, 2014 at 6:23 pm
I dated what I thought was a wonderful man-also a fresh widow. In seven months into the relationship he asked me to marry him. He started distancing himself from me and by September which would’ve been one year, I sent him back to his home to figure it out. I felt like I was second-place to a ghost and to his work. There were pictures all over his home of the past life he had shared with his wife for 30 years. Her family wouldn’t talk to him anymore. He had two friends that were very peculiar and not very supportive of his moving on. I tried very hard to meet with everyone’s approval but the only approval I seem to achieve is his blood relatives ( mother and brother, aunts)
I tried to send him texts to make sure he was okay and was immediately rejected. I was a little flustered because he didn’t accept my immediate apology. I started to fall apart. On one hand I felt very justified to have this conversation. I was becoming second to his work his family and everything else. He was living in my house not accepting any responsibilities always coming late for dinner , and the last time was my birthday. I was leaving the next day to go overseas and he had passed on spending the day with me.I had always been a therapist sort of girlfriend and always talked about his wife or work with him. Always supporting how wonderful I thought he was.
I had dated him for months before my mother died. He met her and he felt as though it was a blessing. The blessing was that they got to meet and we had gotten serious. He was with me in the background, but. did not come to the funeral. I did feel betrayed but forgave him. It was too close to his losing his wife of 30 years.
We started to share our news that he and I were engaged with all of our friends. My friends and family were elated. His family was very positive. He’s two peculiar friends stood back in judgment and didn’t acknowledge it at all.
I love this man very much. He was seeing a psychiatrist and I went to join a few sessions. I didn’t feel that she was very helpful because her expertise was not bereavement. I found a bereavement counselor that helped me in four hours gave me the best perspective I have ever had. I begged him to talk to her and knew it would make a difference for us…. his intermittent texts to me didn’t make any sense but I felt he was pulling away. I made the mistake of responding to text and when I didn’t get any responses followed up with three or four more. His texts used to come frequently hourly and they were the best part of my day.
admin
February 1, 2014 at 6:26 pm
Well, hopefully you can pull of NC!
Marilu
January 31, 2014 at 6:25 pm
I can relate to the punishment part because when I sent him away to get his act together and pull down old wedding photos from his bedroom, I know I hurt and shocked him. It needed to be done. I am worth it we are wonderful together we have so much in common and I adore him. If we sat down to communicate it would be easy. I just wanted to know that he was going to take time away from me and think things through. I still wanted to marry him. I just found out five months later he’s been dating someone else I am heartbroken but I do?
Ann
January 31, 2014 at 6:18 pm
I was with my exboyfriend for a little over 3 years. We met through a work event. After dating 7 months, he ended things abruptly with me. After begging him to change his mind and telling him I loved him…he came back. He apologized and said he would never do that again.
After 2 years of being together and him showing no signs of committment I abruptly ended it with him. I realized a day later I made a huge mistake. After 6 weeks of talking to him, we got back together. I bought a house shortly afterwards which was for us. He wanted to be involved in every aspect of the house when we were painting, choosing curtains, etc. After 6 months, he finally moved in but kept his apartment. Well 6 months later he still had his apartment. He started distancing himself from me in November/December. Stopped being intimate with me. I kept asking him if everything was okay and he said yes. He said I was being paranoid. The night before I left town for a visit with my family I asked him if he say himself marrying and having kids with me still. He said of course. The day after I get back (the day after Christmas), it turns out he had planned to break up with me that day. He moved some of his stuff back to his apartment already and told his family on Christmas he was breaking up with me.
He was crying so hard when we were breaking up. I have never seen him do this before. He has told me since that we were at the point of marriage or move on and his gut told him it wasn’t marriage. I have read a lot of books on committment phobes since the break up and it’s so frustrating that he doesn’t see his issues. He is 44 and never married. I don’t understand why his friends who are all married don’t say anything to him. We were seeing a counselor for awhile and she told me he did me a favor.
I want to know how do I get him to want me back? I don’t want him back but I want him to regret what he did. No discussion…he just said it was over and moved out the next day. He kept calling me after he moved out every few days. I finally told him no contact because I need to move on. He cried and was upset. But since then I have contacted him. I can’t just stop talking to him. It’s been a couple days since we last talked and I am going to try really hard NC for 30 days.
I just don’t understand how someone can leave someone they love with no discussion like that.
Me
February 3, 2014 at 2:37 am
Yeah NC. My same issue. 42. Never married. Wants me for himself but wants me to share him with whomever he wants. Broke up with him. He still called. After 3 wks I went NC. He emailed me once. Won’t return my stuff. I guess he is mad. Go NC. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. You will win by going NC because one of two things can happen. 1) he shows up. Apologizes and commits to you the way he wants. Or 2) he doesn’t show up on your terms and you meet a great man who wants the same thing you want. Win-win:)
admin
February 1, 2014 at 6:24 pm
It is really upsetting I hear you.
Try really hard during that NC!
Ann
February 4, 2014 at 1:39 am
He texted me a little bit ago asking if I’m attending a work workshop on Wednesday. I am not attending it. Do I ignore the text or respond (with what)?
Ann
March 7, 2014 at 9:05 pm
Hi Chris,
I just finished (well 2 days shy) the NC period. I called him a little late in the evening and he didn’t answer. I called twice and did not leave a message. The next evening I texted him around 9pm asking if he saw I called. He called me right away but I wasn’t some place I could talk. He left me a nice voicemail and then texted me that he saw I called and was planning on calling me back tonight.
We ended up talking for a hour about what he did and I did this past month (some what). I did not mention the dates I went on. He said he is not dating and didn not ask me. I made a mistake at the end. He said he thougtht I might have called for a booty call. I said no…you would never answer those calls. And he said why not? So I ended up going to his place and we got together. I didn’t stay the night and left right after. He kept telling me how good I looked. We did have a breakup before 1 1/2 years ago. When we hooked up then, that’s all it was and I could feel it. This time, it was different. He kept staying how good I look and it was very intimate. Am I being stupid with that? The next morning, I saw he called me 30 mins after I left. I had my phone on silent. He called to tell me he was going to a hotel to sleep because he needed a good night sleep and his apartment is under the flight path so the planes start too early for him. Why would he call me to tell me that? Isn’t that weird?
I sent him a text the next evening just saying that my phone was on silent and hope he slept well. That was last night and I haven’t heard anything back.
Now what do I do? Where do I pick up in your book? I can’t do the NC again for 30 days…we have a work event in 2 1/2 weeks and for some reason he is going knowing that I will be there. He normally would not go to these things.
Steph
January 30, 2014 at 10:44 pm
Ok I saw my ex of three months exactly a week ago, we hung out about an hr. It was ok he text me that night n I was sick so I told him, the next day I txtd him n we txtd back n forth for awhile but ended up arguing he then began ignoring me so I quit txting him, the next day he txt me a mad face so I saw no need to respond, two days later he txts me again n just sAys hey…. So I ignored him, he cAlled that night but hung up before I answered it was 3am…..my question is what are the chances he will contact me again? Is there even a chance?
admin
January 31, 2014 at 6:36 pm
Let me ask you something.
Would you be willing to contact first?
Steph
February 3, 2014 at 6:56 am
Yes!!! The thing is any time I contact him first he is awkward,
Megan
January 30, 2014 at 3:13 pm
This guy I was seeing for about 3 months out if no where dumped me 3 days before my birthday and told me he was seeing someone else. Apparently he had been under the impression for a while that I didn’t want a relationship with him, but quite the opposite was true. I freaked out and basically begged him the next day to give us another chance but he stayed with her. Almost two weeks later he announces he is in a new relationship with her. I was crushed. He said we could continue to be friends and he took me to dinner for my birthday. When his new gf found out she flipped. Later that night he told me he loved her and that he didn’t think we should talk for a while. It’s been over a month since I last spoke to him. Since them him and the girl have moved in together and pronounces there love on every social media possible. Last week I went to a party and he walked in with her. He looked out me almost with what felt like eyes of pitty. I couldn’t even look back at him, so I just walked away. I really want to get back together with him dispite our problems and differences in life style choices. He has a lot of drug related problems and I really want to be there for him, but instead I’m not even allowed to talk to him. Basically she is taking care of him now but she isn’t a good influence and she acts so jealous towards me. He told me once after we were done that she had made some jealous comment about him still talking to me. Since everything he was unfollowed me on Instagram (although) my profile is not private and she has blocked me, but we continue to remain friends on Facebook. What does all of this mean? Is there a chance that he will come back to me?
Megan
January 30, 2014 at 9:56 pm
Unfortunately yes. They have only been dating for a little over a month, but the guy he was living with kicked him out so him and her moved in together. She is just one of those girls that constantly thinks she should be in charge and is very manipulative. She often let’s guys live with her for a while and hooks up with them for a period of time. It’s retarded. I made my own mistakes and let him stay with her because there wasn’t room at my apartment… That just have her the prime opportunity to get her claws in. I just don’t know if he “loves” her because she lets him use all her stuff and live with her or if this is really something serious. I’m just really wondering how long it’s going to be until we are able to talk again/ if ever. I just really worry about him.
Megan
January 30, 2014 at 10:22 pm
As pathetic as it may sound I’m willing to wait for him. I don’t fall for people easily, so it really isn’t that hard for me to keep from greeting attached to someone else. I love him and I really have no logically explanation for why, other than he makes me happy when no one else can. I just can’t tell if he is not staying in contact with me because it makes his new gf jealous, that he is still sexually attached to me & it’s to hard for him to stay friends with me or if he really just doesn’t care anymore at all.
admin
January 30, 2014 at 6:22 pm
Hmm… he has a new girlfriend?
Carly
January 29, 2014 at 3:19 pm
Hi ive been with my bf…or x bf 8 years….with our ups and downs, to be expected.
recently we have been going through a bit of a stressful patch…..after an argument when i walked out and left him..he hasn’t spoken to me for almost a month…..he called once a couple of weeks ago but i was working and couldn’t answer.
last year around the same time he didn’t speak to me again for a whole month.
i managed to stand my ground and keep silent…..but this year i have messaged lets say quite alot!!lol
i know that over the years playing it cool has only ever got me somewhere.
can i come back from this after messaging him so much?