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B.L
December 18, 2013 at 2:15 pm
My ex has ignored all my texts attempting to fix the relationship after the breakup, I am now on day 7 of NC and he text me something completely unrelated to me.. Just asking me something about a mutual friend.. I know your ebook says to ignore any attempts but I cant help but worry I’m missing my only chance to communicate with him… is it likely if I ignore this he will try again?
Kristine
December 17, 2013 at 11:26 pm
My ex has texted me each day since Sunday, going on day 3. This was after he spent the weekend with his new girlfriend. I am getting around a dozen or more texts each day. Asking me how I am, what I am doing, telling me what he is doing. I have had NC, but I am struggling with it. I honest to goodness do not understand why he is texting me? I mean he has his new girl, and from what I know he is rather absorbed in her. And I believe it, because that is how he can be in a relationship. If it was me and I was in a new relationship, and left my ex, the last thing I would do would be making contact. I guess either he wants to just feel like I am there for a back up, or maybe he has regrets. Just staying focused on NC, taking better care of myself (I do look good..lol) and figuring myself out again. But, Chris, if you have any insight into why I am getting the “gnat texting” I would appreciate it. Thank you
admin
December 18, 2013 at 6:31 pm
I am a little confused. Are you the gnat or is he the gnat?
Kristine
December 19, 2013 at 10:41 am
Sorry. He is the gnat. He is doing all if the texting. And has been involved with someone for 6 weeks. We broke up 7 weeks ago
admin
December 19, 2013 at 7:42 pm
Sound slike the new person is a rebound..
Lisa
December 16, 2013 at 9:26 pm
Chris in your experience, if the guy is going to contact his ex during NC.. around what time period is it usually? My ex broke up with me 9 days ago i’m on day 7 of NC and he has not said one word. In 1 1/2 years the longest we have gone without speaking is 4 days.. I feel such a void in my life and it sucks to think he clearly is not feeling the emptiness that I do.
admin
December 17, 2013 at 6:38 pm
9-15 days but even if he doesn’t you can contact him after NC and get positive responses.
Rachel
December 16, 2013 at 6:07 pm
I’m an idiot! Did a week of nc then he contacted me asking when I was heading home for the holidays… I asked why…..
Right seriously that is it now!! No more! It’s totally my time! I’m so so so annoyed with myself.. We did have a bit of a convo… And I said its sad we never chatted…. But seriously that is it…
So its now the 16th December now it needs to be the 16th jan! I’ve got to start again… Seriously ladies the nc does work but don’t crack like I did… I’ve got to start all over again. I felt loads better today, I’ve got some job interviews and was feeling loads better and I feel like I’ve gone back 10steps!
He did tell me it was good that I was renting my own place and sorting myself out, but seriously the guy needs to grown some balls and face the convo…
He was asking what I was up to, jobs etc asked if my business was going well, and he was texting me straight back. I did say it was a shame we never spoke about our break up and all I got back was a yes…..
Must not speak for 30 days!!!!!
Sani
December 16, 2013 at 5:43 pm
I was in a long distance relationship wich broke 5 days back wil the above rulez work for me
Undefinable
December 15, 2013 at 7:31 am
Hello, We just broke up for the first time ever in almost 3 years yesterday. He sent me a email, after which I had did all the things prior to the breakup liked text him call him like crazy send emails (btw does that matter as long as we were still together then, just so I don’t do it anymore now though) Anyway we go to the same church, should I go to church in the morning? I’m happy came across this site tonight, he is to write me a heart felt letter tomorrow night I don’t plan to respond too. Thank you
admin
December 15, 2013 at 7:43 pm
Maybe not right now… Give yourself some time to heal before you go out there.
Shanee
December 15, 2013 at 2:42 am
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend and I had been together for one year,and for five months we had been fighting to stay together, but I thought everything had gotten better but he was unhappy, I didn’t know until he broke up with me two days ago, I beg him to stay but he said he can’t, he said he doesn’t want to hurt me and he know he will so he’s saving me from all that. Early on he had ask me to leave but I don’t him I wouldn’t,couple weeks after he broke up with me. I suspect he was seeing someone else on the day of the break up I ask him and he said he is seeing someone else. He said its too late for us but I really love him and want him back, but I don’t know what to do. Please help.
admin
December 15, 2013 at 7:34 pm
Well, I think the NC rule is a good move for you.
Lauren Bell
December 14, 2013 at 11:51 pm
Hi!! I was seeing this guy for afew months….. He kept asking me to be his girlfriend but I didn’t feel ready although I made it clear I wasn’t meeting any1 eals. Just didn’t feel like I new him well enuf to call my boyfrend. He introduced me to his family, frends whitch I thought went well acted quite the lady
admin
December 15, 2013 at 7:28 pm
How long did you date for?
Kristine
December 14, 2013 at 10:09 am
Hi Chris,
So here is my most recent confusion with my ex. So this is a new one for me. My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago, his choice. We have been in some contact the last few weeks, mostly just kinda friends again. But I also know he has been dating someone, and I also had gone out with someone too. Mostly, for me it was an old friend who was acting like a nice band aid while I was sad, It was nice to go out to dinner and laugh some. So, I decided yesterday that enough is enough, I am going to go no contact and try to figure out what I need. I received a text from my ex today, saying he thought he should tell me he was going to not be home this weekend, but “elsewhere” this weekend. Okay, I get where elsewhere is, but I didn’t understand why in the world he felt the need to mention it. And then he says that he wanted me to know that the whole thing wasn’t going to go the way I was thinking about. And, yes he was going to be with “someone” but “probably not like that”. What the hell was that all about?? So, I broke the first day of no contact and texted him back, “huh?” He then references a conversation I had with him a couple weeks ago, I told him I had gone out to dinner with someone, but it was only dinner and I wasn’t looking for “anything to happen”. In so many words saying that I wasn’t jumping into bed with anyone. So, my ex says to me his text was trying to convey the same thing to me, “that not a lot was going to happen.” What the hell is all that about? I mean really? What is that supposed to mean? Is he trying to make me jealous, reassure me, make me feel worse? It was just strange. So then he tells me he hopes I have a great weekend and a wonderful time at my work Christmas party tomorrow and he is sure I will look fantastic. We had been together for 2 1/2 years, friends for 3 years before that even. We live a 4 hour drive from each other, so we were in a long distance relationship. Which was one of the reasons for the breakup. Even though the plan was for me to move in the spring. Then came his fear of commitment, concern for me moving, grass is greener, etc etc…
admin
December 14, 2013 at 10:33 pm
Sorry that happened to you… Have you started the NC yet?
Kristine
December 15, 2013 at 4:04 am
I restarted right after that text conversation. I am so on board right now. I just don’t understand the point of what it was supposed to mean. Maybe I am not supposed to. But I did go out and have a really good time with friends tonight and that certainly didn’t hurt matters. I feel like as soon as I feel pretty good, I get hooked back in. Then again, I haven’t really initiated no contact. Believing right now I have to, because if I don’t I am going to send a not so nice email.
admin
December 15, 2013 at 7:35 pm
Initiate NC then.
Bella
December 14, 2013 at 4:58 am
Hey Chris! So my boyfriend and I broke up over a month ago. It was kind of out of the blue although we had been fighting on and off for a little while (never thought it would come to this). He said it was because of him and his heart and mind wanted different things. Anyways I Initiated no contact after finding this website about a week and a half after the break up. Was doing well, focusing on myself. Then I went to a party about four weeks later and he was there (mutual friends) and I spoke to him and was strong and brief and just asked how schools was. Later that night I got drunk though and of course texted and called him. He didn’t respond. I was so mad at myself. Re-initiated no contact the next day and have been going strong for two weeks. I’m worried though because he seems to be pursuing other girls and loving the single life. I know he won’t forget about me, but i’m worried i’m going to lose him forever because his feelings may be fading. Should I continue with no contact? Or should i try sending him one of the messages you suggested?
admin
December 14, 2013 at 10:29 pm
I think you should continue with NC yes.
Bella
December 15, 2013 at 2:17 am
Thanks for being so caring. Honestly. You’re changing lives. I hope I you have people who are there for you the way you are for us. Thanks for the advice!
admin
December 15, 2013 at 7:32 pm
I hope so too!
And your very welcome.
Bella
December 14, 2013 at 5:01 am
Also we had been together for over 2 years and he hasn’t tried to contact me once through this whole process. He was my best friend. he even said he loved me a week before the break up. Is it possible for someone to just not care anymore?
Berry
December 13, 2013 at 1:53 pm
Hi, Christ
Thank you or these articles and the e-book(yeah, I downloaded it 3 weeks ago 😛 ), it really help me when every time I’m in a blue mood.
Now here is my story…tomorrow is my 30 day of NC, till now he didn’t contact me and answer m texts b4 I started NC, I begged him and apologized a lot…yeah….looks very needy now.
B4 he told me that’s we’re over and I deserve the other better man (all of this is just an excuse, isn’t is?), I was a text gnat…send him 5 messages in a day, called him 20 times in that weekend,since he said he’ll arrange the date then tell me the time, but in the fact he didn’t … of course in the other way I shouldn’t be a call gnat and too controlling.Then in the following 5 days( Monday~Friday) he never responsed me any messages(but I still send 3 messages to him on that Thursday and then on Friday night I send this to him….”Even though u treat me like this, I still want to know what’s the situation now , please tell me your thoughts.” Yeah, really a bad move, I cause and push the break up.
I have fear because I know if I send text to him but no response, I’ll be sad….
and now too many “what if” in m head….although I already prepared a casual and not threatened message( thanks for your e-book really). I know if I got no answers then just stay in NC for more 2 weeks….but what if the next time and the 3rd time I still in the same situation…. I really have angst or these….
Hope someone can give me guarantee that everything will be fine, he certainly will answer my text…but I know no one can promise that.
Just wandering should I send him the text tomorrow? or or one more weeks
NC make him feels like a ghost.. oh..just like the song from Katy Perry “Ghost” 😛
Sorry my English is poor….and thank you in any ways I really glad that I found out this web 😀
admin
December 13, 2013 at 7:50 pm
I think you should!
Berry
December 13, 2013 at 2:00 pm
btw I also read the article “When Should You Stop Trying To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?”
That makes me think a lot of ” what if….” 🙁
Alina
December 13, 2013 at 6:01 am
My bf broke up with me 3 days ago. We broke up 3 times already and every time for the same reasons… My insecurities, jealousy and anger issues… Yes I have a lot of issues but I am also a great person… Showed him all the affection I could, cooked, clean, very faithful, sweet. But I also have another side of me that is very possessive and revealed each time I didn’t get my way …I was very spiteful and said hurtful things… He resents me and I feel like his enemy every time we would argue he would hurt me too, emotionally we both abused each other, towards the end of our relationship I accused him so much of cheating and disrespected his house by always causing conflict while his mom was in the other room, and she seen his face and back all scratched up … I wasn’t even allowed in his house after a few months I wasn’t allowed in his house. I accused him so much for things he didn’t do that he began to cheat on me and thats when I decided to change but it is now too lil to late bc he no longer wants to be with me… It’s almost Xmas and the new year is coming I will spend it alone In bed…all my friends are married with kids and I’m the only 29 year old going on 30 that doesn’t have a stable relationship bc of my fucking behavior… he has broken up with me twice this being the third time, but somehow always came back always giving me chances to change. Each time we broke up I go MIA, I am very strong i don’t like to call or bother a guy so I’m not intentionally applying the no contact rule but he always calls after not hearing from me for a week…We always get back together but i keep acting like the same immature, insecure girl.. I don’t know if he is really fed up now but I have a feeling this time he won’t contact me.. he said he can’t take it anymore …and although I tried my best to convince him I will change he said he just wasn’t happy with me and then he just brought up other excuses not to be with me like ” I don’t feel that we never have anything to talk about but argue , I don’t learn anything new with you” you never introduce me to new things” so that’s when I realized trying to convince him to stay with me was not going to work… I said I wish to never speak to you ever again and this time I will not mourn this relationship…he left me at a very important holiday for me and he didn’t care… All he said was I hope you learn from your mistakes and hope you don’t do the same thing u did to me to the next guy , he also said he loves me but every time he thinks about all the bs i put him thought he gets mad and resents me… God I hate myself for being such an idiot and I recognized my mistakes now but it’s too late…
admin
December 13, 2013 at 7:35 pm
Its ok!
It’s not the end of the world. Just use your knowledge to not let them happen again and see if you can get him back.
Alina
December 16, 2013 at 8:51 am
Thank you so much Chris … And How? How can i try to get him back ? I still haven’t heard from him but I’m not tempted to text, call or email anyway… But do u think there is still hope? He seem like he wasn’t sure if he wanted to end the relationship and said he needed some time to think but I said ” no, it’s all or nothing” he decided “nothing” asshole! – I love him Chris … my heart hurts so much …
admin
December 16, 2013 at 6:48 pm
Have you read any of the major guides on this site?
Alexandra
December 13, 2013 at 3:22 am
I think a guy is playing that game with me..I know for sure he was crazy for me because he chased after me 7 months (from may 2012)and i kept refusing any meeting with him (I liked him very much, but i had a bad haircut he didn t saw yet nor i wanted to see it ever, but i never told him why i don t meet with him, i left him like that, i was a bit mean i know, i liked to play with his mind too)then after this 7 months (january 2013) i accepted to meet him, but i told him i m not interested in him, and i have bf (i was mean again, i know, but it was because i was insecure, virgin at 23 so i was testing him, i don t know, i was to shy scared so i refused him to appear stronger), and he got so dissapointed, thougt i didn t want him, told me many things whatever..he also saw me with my bf accidentally (but really it wasn t a serious rel, just friendship more, only kisses, never sex)he got very angry when he saw us..i could tell that by the look in his eyes, he was also like dissapointed, he was calling me though like once a month to tell me that my bf was not good for me but i ignored him…though, crazy as i am after 4 or 5 months i called this guy and told him he was right and i don t like my bf anymore: so he told me: go find another, don t waste ur time..so i told him but i wanna be with u, and he told me doesn t want that anymore, so now i was the one who started to chase after him but he started to ignore me..at some point (i know ull say it s a mistake but whatever)we had oral sex, i refused normal sex, never told him because i m a virgin, but that didn t help or change hos behaviour(u ll say i made a mistake in making oral, but whatever, his behaviour towards me was the same, before and after oral sex)..i was calling him because i was confident cause i knew he liked me very much once..but he didn t answered to any of my phone calls, text messages, fb message for 3 days in a row, but it happened to met him accidentally, i didn t even saw him but he was with his new car and honked, waved me, he was respectfull really, but didn t called, so, i left him like that for a month, and called him and he was happy that i called him, but when i tried to explain to him why in the past i refused him, and that i am virgin now,he got angry and didn t want to listen,he said i am lying, i can t be virgin etc the next day gave him a message didn t answered, the third day called him and he answered and told me not to bother him, leave him alone, and he can t get rid of me, obviously i let him alone after that, i felt hurt, i was only calling him because i knew once he was crazy for me, so for a whole month again no contact between us, till two days ago he calls me to see what i was doing, he who told me not to bother him..so that s why i m thinking he plays this ignore game on me, i don t know what are his feelings for me know but i am SURE once he liked me very much, i can sense that in a guy, but he was dissapointed i ignored him and hen saw me with another, and if really he wasn t that interested in me as he claimed to be we wouldn t call me back, i think he tries to play with my mind…now my question is what should I do from now on, given this whole situation that i ve told u, ignore him for 30 days or talk with? i really don t know how to act from now on, so please please please help me, even if it s not a guarantee..i know u ll tell me he only wanted sex, but if he only wanted that why he was after me for 7 months and so on, he could chase after me for max. a month then say: to hell with that bitch i ll find another, please tell me what to do, my mind is blown i keep thinking at this all day and i can t understand his behaviour, please tell me how to proceed from now on.. kisses
admin
December 13, 2013 at 7:31 pm
So, I would defintely do NC.
Alexandra
December 13, 2013 at 10:35 pm
Thank you, so after these 30 days, I should call him or wait for him to call me? but if I have to waIT for him to call me and he does…what should i say to him?
admin
December 14, 2013 at 9:59 pm
I recommned sending a text. Grab the E-Book or do some research on the site for further instructions on the “process.”
ThanksfortheHelp
December 12, 2013 at 3:11 pm
Hi Chris!
My ex broke up with me 7 months ago. He kept in regular contact with me during the summer. Now that we are back at school and I see him he has stopped reaching out to me outside of class/work. Does this mean he is completely over our relationship? Have I let to much time pass that he has moved on entirely?
Thanks!
admin
December 12, 2013 at 7:34 pm
I wouldn’t go as far to say that BUT just waiting a month in NC is not super long. You can do it.
Kristen
December 12, 2013 at 3:19 am
Hi Chris. I’ve been following your guides for a LONG time now. I did 30 of NC. Then successfully got back in contact. Waited patiently. Asked him to meet up. He said no. Went BACK into NC. Asked again. He then said “yes” the second time I asked. So, we went on a date. Had a great time! He didn’t even try to have sex with me. Just gave me a passionate kiss at the end of the night. He then sent me a text saying, “Thank you for a wonderful night. I have a HUGE smile on my face!” We were then texting daily for a couple days. Then, he seemed to back off. These last few months, the signals seem to go up and down–back and forth. I feel hopeful, then he pulls away. I know for a fact there is no one else he has been dating (in the 4 months we’ve been apart). He has REALLY been struggling emotionally, Chris, I have been patient in this process for FOUR MONTHS. What now?!!
admin
December 12, 2013 at 7:11 pm
Well, he is having issues committing.
You seem to have done everything right the issue now lies with him and his inability to commit to you. Any reason why you think he is like that?
Kristen
December 12, 2013 at 8:54 pm
Yes, Chris. I’d say you’re spot on! Honestly, I think perhaps the reason rests in why we broke up/what went wrong in our relationship. I took things out on him. I wasn’t patient enough (which I have been working on IMMENSELY through this whole process and I have YOU to thank for that). I think he may be very resistant because he doesn’t want to get hurt again. He says he loves me, and I know for a fact there is no one else. It is really possible to make change happen…and how can I show him I’ve changed??
admin
December 13, 2013 at 7:12 pm
I am actually working on a new product (E-Book) right now that would be helpful to you. It’s all about how to get a guy to fall for you, how to make any man weak in the knees. Basically all about getting the romance back and what you need to do.
Caitlin
December 12, 2013 at 1:42 am
Hi Chris,
So my situation is a bit different, but my goal is still the same. After two bad breakups with him, we finally had a clean one the third time, and went back to being friends. But recently he gradually started talking to me less and less. That may be because he’s busy with school or it may be because he thinks I still love him (which I do) and has caught on, or it may be because he’s slowly becoming accustomed to not being as close with me.
I don’t know what to do now. If I do no contact, it won’t do anything because I’m not crazy and emotional about the breakup and he seems to be growing apart from me anyways. But do you see any benefits to doing no contact? Because I gladly could too. Anything for him back.
admin
December 12, 2013 at 6:59 pm
I do see benefits for you. Both for him and for you.
Caitlin
December 12, 2013 at 1:45 am
It’s been about 2 1/2 weeks since the clean breakup btw
Sadie
December 11, 2013 at 9:18 pm
Hi Chris,
I love your site and I feel like you have a lot of really helpful information. I feel like my situation is a little bit different than the ones that you describe on your site. About a month ago, right before Thanksgiving, my boyfriend of almost a year pulled me aside, after a nice dinner with his brother and his brother’s wife, and told me he loved me very much but he wasn’t happy in our relationship. He said all kinds of things like “it’s not you, it’s just I’m not a good person right now and I need to focus on myself before I can be a good boyfriend to you” and “I love you but I’m not in love with you”. Of course I was devastated and made mistake number one: I begged for him back. I begged him to stay with me, to keep trying our relationship until I leave for school in April, and he was set on breaking up right now. Instead I got him to agree to after the holidays, because there were things planned, it would be hard to explain to his family, and a few other excuses that looking back on it seem like a lot of B.S. Yet he agreed to stay with me until the 2nd of January.
Last weekend was his niece’s birthday, and I made mistake number two. Or maybe it wasn’t a mistake. I slept over at his house, twice. The first night we slept together in the figurative sense. And I woke up in the middle of the night and he was all the way on my side of the bed, with his arms around me, which is weird because we’re not usually night cuddlers. The second night I woke up in the middle of the night and ALL FOUR of his limbs are wrapped around me. That morning around 4am, somehow I had managed to escape and he pulled me in closer and dug his face in my hair. Then he woke up (he leaves for work at 630), gave me a big kiss goodbye before he went to work. This confused me because at his nieces birthday, in front of his friends and family, he avoided me the entire time. I’m friends with his sisters so it’s not like I didn’t know anyone there, but he was acting so distant. If I was on one side of the room he was definitely on the other side. But to add to my confusion, at night he gets sad or upset if I don’t text him goodnight, or leave him something to wake up to even in our weird, half dating, half not state that we’re in. He gets jealous when I go to my PLATONIC guy friend’s houses who I’ve been friends with for years.
I’ve finally made the decision that I’m not waiting until January to break it off. I can’t deal with this half on, half off thing that we’re doing. I love him a lot but I want all of him, and I want him to be as invested in our relationship as I was. I have a plan of action but I’m nervous about it because there are a lot of loose ends.
We have plans to go to dinner this weekend, and I asked him to go ice skating with me, which is what we did on our first date. I feel like this is an appropriate time to tell him that I’m moving my stuff out of his house next week and giving him exactly what he wants. I plan on starting NC as soon as I get my stuff out. However I’m nervous about this because I feel like there’s a possibility of him contacting me two weeks into NC saying something like “we should talk” or “I miss you” and want to get back together. Do I break NC or stay in it for the full 30 days, even if he wants a relationship again? Am I doing the right thing here? Or should I keep fighting for him while I have contact with him? What if this leads him to thinking he doesn’t want a relationship even more. The holidays are coming up and I feel like I’m going to miss him so much, but I feel like this could work to my advantage because my friends are all home from school so I have a lot of people around me, he has time to miss me over the holidays, and I have time to focus on myself during my favorite time of the year . Sorry about the long message, I just really want to know your thoughts on this whole thing. Just to be clear, I want him back, but I want us back to a healthy relationship, not whatever this is.
admin
December 12, 2013 at 2:04 am
Well, I would recommend to stay in it for the full 30 days.
Limited contact
December 11, 2013 at 11:23 am
I am doing limited contact with my ex boyfriend as we are still in the process of splitting joint accounts and household stuff extra ( we were together 5 years with no major fights and all seemed great, He broke up with me quite suddenly and I didn’t see it coming he said doesn’t know what he wants anymore..)
I saw him today to discus our seperation of stuff and I wanna know if what I have said has stuffed my chances of getting him back, since being split up I only talk to him when he has asked about our things other than that there has been limited contact.
He told me when we split he still wanted me in his life and I have been thinking about that and told him that I am not sure if we can be friends and be in each other’s life as I love him too much and it hurts every time I see him and that it might be best for me if we aren’t friends. I also told him I don’t want to be his ‘back up plan’ if what ever he is doing doesn’t work out, I said it as I didnt want him thinking ‘she’ll always be there’.
I really want us to get back together and I hope by saying that stuff to him I haven’t ruined my chances, do you think I have ruined it for myself?
admin
December 12, 2013 at 1:48 am
No I don’t think you have ruined it.
LoveSmart
December 11, 2013 at 1:46 am
Hi Chris,
I got your e-book today, I will study but have one question, brief my history, lived 4 years together and he moved to other country 15 days ago for his job for one year.
When he dumped me, I wasn’t begging, needy, but was crying in front of him when he moved, after I was in NC since he moved, he send me an email couple of days ago that he wanted know how I’m doing. I didn’t reply.
Yesterday, he started calling me during the day 10 times like a crazy guy and sent me text that he really need to talk to me about apt(we have unsolved problem about apartment, belongs beside I will live with one of his friend as a roommate) and he miss me and he’s thinking a lot of me etc.
End of the day I answered his call, he told me he doesn’t want to that me and his friend are going to get a relationship and he miss me a lot, but asked me don’t wait for him, he doesn’t want to block my life.
I told him that I don’t want to but it could happen and I could meet someone also I never know what will happen and I’m not going to wait for him.(I was a bit angry but told him calmly)
Later night, I might was too cold, so I called him, he answered but his voice seemed unhappy, cold. I told him that thanks for everything he’s done for me after broke up(he helped me something), and we could talk calmly about apart when he come to visit next month. He looked like upset that don’t care about me anymore.
Chris do you think that I might give him an idea that I’m really fine without him and moved on already? I will not contact him after but if he is trying to call me again do I have to ignore him or give him a little nicer thought and go to NC again? I’m afraid that maybe it was too much to give hopeless, and he thought that was good broke up with me.
admin
December 12, 2013 at 1:34 am
It may give him that idea but that is kind of ok. Sometimes it takes seeing a girl go away to realize what you lost. But don’t worry, right when he feels that you will suck him back in.
Lyn
December 10, 2013 at 8:30 pm
Hi! Is it ok to block my ex on my cellphone? Im just starting the nc rule now and im worried that i will fail if he tries to contact me. Im pretty sure that eventually i will cave in! By blocking him i wont recieve any of his texts and his calls wont get through. But i will be wondering if he contacts me in the next 30 days.. Im confused whether to block him or not.Thanks in advance
admin
December 12, 2013 at 1:21 am
As long as you don’t lose his number haha.