The Male Mind AFTER The No Contact Rule- What Is He Thinking?

1,383 thoughts on “The Male Mind AFTER The No Contact Rule”

jenny

October 29, 2014 at 11:28 am

hey chris. when you write these guides, what type of break up do you have in mind? for example, i cant help but think, “he broke up with me so why would he be going crazy (angry/upset/feeling guilty) during nc if he’s the one that wanted the break up? and why would he be wanting to hear from me and get excited when he does after nc? maybe just because he misses me in his life out of comfort because we dated for so long (2 years), but not because he wants to still date me or anything…?” do you find your suggestions work best for girls who break up with guys then regret it? or maybe couples that have a big fight and then just need time to cool off before getting back together? what about couples where the relationship just started getting a little stale and instead of devoting more time to the relationship, the guy just decided he needed to put more time into his work?

admin

October 29, 2014 at 3:57 pm

I try to be broad about it…

And take a lot of those breakups into account but I miss a few here and there hahaha.
jenny

October 30, 2014 at 1:32 am

from all the breakup stories that you’ve heard, are their certain types of breakups that its most and least effective on?
admin

October 30, 2014 at 6:34 pm

Least effective- The girl cheated on the guy multiple times.
Most effective- The girl breaks up with the guy or the guy gets gigs.

Ashly

October 29, 2014 at 12:00 am

Hi Chris! After reading your site, I figured out pretty quickly that my boyfriend broke up with me for being needy (Yes, I’m guilty of text gnatting and asking him to hang out almost every day). I’ve done the NC thing and he reached out to me during the third week. Afterwords, I texted him a few times over the past couple of weeks, some with a reply, some without one. I’ve tried asking him to hang out or do something as friends, but he always had an excuse not to go through. Last week, he reached out and talked to me face-to-face. He said that the reason he kept cancelling was because he felt awkward, since hanging out always reminded him of when we were together. He even told me that he thought I was “the one”, but because I acted so needy, those feelings faded. He teared up a bit when he told me how much the break up hurt him and how bad he felt for hurting me. Our relationship was good. We never fought when we were together. We finally set up a “date” to hang out together, but I don’t really know what to do at this point. Should I try to advance things if he feels this way?

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