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Jamila
January 29, 2018 at 7:47 pm
Hi
Can we have an article for the topic too..
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2018 at 5:08 pm
Hi Jamila,
What specific topic did you mean? Do you mean the topics for texts? You have to use your ex’s interests for the topics of your texts.
P.B.
January 28, 2018 at 10:50 am
My NC is ending in a few days (today is day 28, I started in NYE). It was the second one, your advice, since I was stucked in a flirting – friends status. I have read your posts about chasing and I now know that I was chasing (a few months ago there was a balance, but last months I was the one initiating conversations almost always. Not gnating, bt initiating and all that) and that he is one of those who like to be chased.
He didn’t contact me during this weeks. It was hard because the maximum time we spent without texting, after the first NC, was two weeks. He looked at my insta stories once (during this last months he had never done it, only in Christmas Eve) and posted some things that could have made me texting him but I resisted. Now I don’t know what to do, I am negative since he didn’t contact. I improved myself and my social media game but I don’t know if he is even noticing. Sometimes I think that I made a mistake with NC becuse he has forgotten me for good.
In two weeks there is a “Con” in my town. He always liked my cosplays and I was thinking in sending him something because the one I’m wearing ths time is amazing and I know he would love it too much. Since after the break up, he considered my photos a “gift” (he even asked me to send him in his bday and a few more times), I wouldn’t sent him a picture of me with th costume, not so fast. I thought about sending a photo of the accesories and just saying “guess my costume”. I think it could be a good first text and he should answer. Do you think it could work as first text?
I’m kinda sad for having to do this, I am worried that he may forgot about me since he didn’t contact. I am very scared, thinking that he may have found another girl, one which lives in his city. I am very afraid that it may be too late. I feel a little looser for having to contact him after NC. But… I have to try. I’m waiting ten days more since the Con is in two weeks and texting him about my cosplay too early would sound forced (and it’s not finished).
Also, one more question. Before starting NC, we were flirting sometimes but I was stuck there. Now I have to start building rapport again. Should I flirt or not?
Thank you a lot
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2018 at 12:47 am
Hi PB,
yeah, that’s a good first contact message.. Yes, you should flirt, just make it subtle at first, be cheeky.
Agnes
January 28, 2018 at 1:07 am
Hi!
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago. From his perspective I forced him to do it and he became really angry ex. I accepted his decision and I doesnt contact him and unfriended him on social media because i wanted to move on. But he is stalking my sm and when he sees that I talk to other men he texts me complaining about it or making fun of these man – possesive and territorial. Yesterday a male friend sent me some virtual kisses (silly teasing, nothing special, he is just a friend) and my ex texted me to block him because “this guy acts like a psycho”. I told him he shouldnt bother because we arent together anymore. He told me he tries to be friendly and doesnt want me to get into trouble and that my flirting seems desperate lol. I said that his contact efforts are not healthy and that be both should move on and reminded him it was his decision to cut things off. And he replied that he only likes me as a friend and tries to be friendly and nothing more and also that he is angry at himself for hurting me!! I dont know what to think. He is the one who contacts me, acts jealous and when i call him on it, he says he just likes me as a friend. What does he really want?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2018 at 12:39 am
Hi Agnes,
He probably is jealous. why did he broke up with you?
Vicky
January 27, 2018 at 9:21 pm
Hi,
My ex broke up with me at the start of December, I started NC straight away but broke it after 2 weeks when he deleted me off social media and I panicked. I’ve now done NC for 5 weeks since then and want to contact him but I just can’t seem to find the right time and I’m too scared to message him incase he doesn’t reply. What should I do? I don’t know what to say to him as now I feel I may have left it too long to initiate contact and he seems to be having a great time without me and surely he would have text by now if he missed me?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 30, 2018 at 11:47 pm
Hi Vicky,
check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact
Louise
January 26, 2018 at 9:36 pm
Hi, so my ex and I were together for 3 years and he broke up with me almost 3 months ago but after being in NC for a couple of weeks he contacted me (the last thing I said to him was that I was letting him go so he could be happy) and in that time I worked on myself a lot and was getting over him. He got in touch saying he wanted to be friends which I thought was odd and that he missed me. He never told me he loved me and always said he didn’t love me after we split up, but recently he said that if I wasn’t friends with this guy (we’re both interested in each other) then he’d want me back 100%, but then he said he doesn’t know what he wants. He asked for space about a week ago and said he’d talk when he’s ready. He says he needs space to work things out. I don’t know if he really meant that he wanted me back if this guy wasn’t in the picture or if he’s just confused. What do you think? Thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 30, 2018 at 11:03 pm
Hi Louise,
just give him space, 1 or 2 weeks, if he’s still undecided start the nc rule.