How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Call You Or Answer The Phone- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

422 thoughts on “This Will Make Him Call You Or Answer The Phone”

Sally

November 12, 2013 at 7:22 pm

Hi Chris! I really like your guides. I even bought you book  They have helped me a lot during tough times. I went through a month of NC before sending my first text. I got a quick and positive response (I think) and 3 days later I sent a text remembering the good old times. He replied saying that he remembered and had a good time too. A few days later I run into him and talked for a bit. At the end he said that he will give me a call sometime. It has been 3 days and he hasn’t call. I am wondering if I should text him again. Should I just wait? How long should I wait before contacting him again?

admin

November 13, 2013 at 6:30 pm

Go ahead and text again but don’t mention the call.
Sally

November 14, 2013 at 5:02 am

Thanks for the advice. I did texted him and kept some conversation going for a bit, then ended the conversation by telling him that I had to go. My plan now is to wait some days before texting him again. He is a weird combination of clueless-scared-stubborn type of guy so I feel like I have to go a little slow.
One more thing..Keep up the good work!! Everything you post is really helpful!
admin

November 14, 2013 at 7:29 pm

Thanks I am doing my best. But I am afraid i am starting to get burned out to be honest.

Rachel

November 12, 2013 at 11:36 am

Hi Chris,

I love this guide! Can I use these texts if you has a new girlfriend?

Thank-you

admin

November 12, 2013 at 7:29 pm

Sure I don’t see why not.
Rachel

November 12, 2013 at 11:37 am

*he has a new

Ah snap

November 12, 2013 at 8:37 am

Da Bommb,
Yes, I’m back! Just so you know, I sent you a FB message awhile ago, but it went straight to your other folders because we aren’t friends. Anyhow, to my embarrassment, you should probably just delete that message! Don’t really need the advice anymore lol

Hope you are doing wonderful!

Again, thanks for creating a place to let me vent my little heart out.

-Ah Snappppp

admin

November 12, 2013 at 7:26 pm

Of course, and just friend me and we can talk!
Ah snap

November 13, 2013 at 2:15 am

The deed has been done. 😀

Sally

November 12, 2013 at 5:07 am

First, I want to thank you for all these guides. They are very entertaining and got me through NC times. I did a great month of NC and sent my first text. He replied in less than an hour. Although, he didn’t ask how I was doing, I thought it was kind of positive. I didn’t answer back and waited 3 days before sending a text remembering the good times. He replied back saying that he remembered and had a good time too. So far I think that I am doing well. Until, I ran into him last week. We talked for a bit until I said that I had to go. He said he’ll give me a call sometime. That was 3 days ago. I am not planning to text him again until he calls. Is it a good plan? Or should I continue texting? How long should I wait until he calls? should I go back to NC?

admin

November 12, 2013 at 7:19 pm

I would text him if he doesn’t call in 2-3 days. Just to remind him you are there and around you know?

Lindsey

November 12, 2013 at 2:43 am

I know you get it a lot, but I wanted to say thank you for everything that you do with this site (and the insane amount of time you must put into it!) It really got me through the first month of my breakup (why didn’t I know about the No Contact rule 10 years ago?!). I’m not sure I still want my ex back, but I continue using your guides and I’m finding that the process of just getting him to have a conversation with me again really helps ease my feeling of rejection. Don’t stop doing what you do! 🙂

admin

November 12, 2013 at 7:05 pm

I get it a lot and for some reason it never gets old? Hahahah ok ok I need to put the ego in check.

juat me...

November 11, 2013 at 4:07 am

I am in a relationship, have been for 10 years, but just came across your blog and enjoy reading posts, and then comments, but just had to say, I really laughed out loud at you zombie pictures about Justin being the first to die….lmao was too funny, thanks for the laugh!!

admin

November 11, 2013 at 6:23 pm

Hahaha my favorite part of writing those long guides is picking out the pictures. So I am glad you got my “picture humor.”

Ally

November 10, 2013 at 8:26 pm

You’re great Chris! Thanks for these 🙂

admin

November 10, 2013 at 10:04 pm

Anytime!

rach

November 9, 2013 at 12:56 pm

Yay! Another new guide! You impress me with how quickly you write these! So everything is going very well, the conversation we had after the two days from the “first contact” went well aside of he ended the conversation before I had the chance. We didn’t talk the next day but then he messaged me on the second day (yesterday). The first texts he sent didn’t last long, he was thanking me for something I had done. (This wasn’t a thank you that was necessary by the way). Then a few hours went by and he began messaging me again asking how things were going, telling me how he was glad that things were working out for me and was overall very sweet and honest about things. I managed to throw in a funny story about something I had done. HE seemed to be the one really keeping the conversation going by asking questions and what not. Then HE referenced our old relationship and it was all very positive. I threw in some compliments as well as him, then a few “memory” texts; all of which went well. The only part that confused me a little is when talking he said things like “all I ever wanted was to make you happy” and “I will always have those (good) memories to play back in my head”. The reason those type of comments are confusing is I don’t know if he’s just reaffirming that we aren’t getting back together. I don’t understand why he would engage me in deep and meaningful conversation that went on a couple hours (texting only) if he truly had no intent on getting back together. I’m not pushing anything at all either and I’m not really worried, but he kinda threw me off a little with saying those things. Do you have any input on that?

admin

November 10, 2013 at 1:13 am

I worked on overdrive this week to get 2 new ones out.

Here is the best way I can describe writing these things.

It is essentially the same thing as writing a 25 page paper for a masters degree class hahaa. Except you have to do it every week. That is the standard I have set for myself.
rach

November 9, 2013 at 1:50 pm

I also just realised after going back through the texts that I didn’t ask a single question, but he asked quite a few. Is that possibly I sign that he’s chasing me a little?
admin

November 10, 2013 at 1:13 am

Wow! I think it does!

hisWifey

November 9, 2013 at 3:45 am

just to let you know, Im reading and soaking it like a sponge. Im thirsty for the knowledge.. and honestly its going to make my NC easier becauae i WANT to see how effective it will all be when applied. i just hope i can do it RIGHT. They say “where there is a will, there is a way” right?!? 😀
Hope your having a relaxing afternoon and thanks for the blog!

XXX,
Hopeful

admin

November 10, 2013 at 12:50 am

That is what they say!

The afternoon was relaxing but I am working now haha.

Sarah

November 9, 2013 at 3:42 am

This is a great post. I think I can utilize this when and If I choose to contact my ex. It’s been 2 months no contact, second attempt…I honestly think 30 days no contact is too short but I think it depends on the relationship. I still feel anger towards him and pretty sure it’s the same on his side. I’m too emotional about it, therefore I feel I shouldn’t contact him yet. But…the other side of me wants to text him a video or something that he would find funny. Decisions decisions.

admin

November 10, 2013 at 12:42 am

Hahaha thanks I put a lot of work into this. I find that these things take so much time to write they literally make me so mentally tired.

Molly

November 9, 2013 at 12:58 am

My ex dumped me this past summer for reasons that he never made clear to me, which of course, leaves me chasing after him. I successfully completed no contact for a month and a half. I was at a party, and he approached me asking what “boundaries” I wanted for our current relationship, that he was sorry, was still attracted to me, etc. He even hugged me a few times and acted very interested. I had to leave so I said I’d text him, and we had a casual conversation that lasted a few days which eventually fizzled and I was the one that sent the last text (which wasn’t something he could really reply to anyways). Where should I go from here? It’s really tempting to start a new conversation, although I know that might ruin things.

admin

November 10, 2013 at 12:28 am

Wait a few days and text him again. Have you ever used any of the messages on this site before?

May

November 8, 2013 at 10:36 pm

Hey Chris 🙂

OK – I actually spoke to him on the phone over 3 weeks ago to give greetings for a special day and he sounded emotional … he then explained I’m sorry I just don’t know how to talk with you after I’ve hurt you and left you and your voice made me emotional.
* So basically he feels awkward/upset/insecure talking to me because of he feels bad about leaving me.
>He sent me an email this Wednesday past wishing me well and I sent him one back an hour later wishing him well too and asked him if he was working in another country now
– He’s not an email person at all and doesn’t check it or need it considering he’s in the construction industry … if he doesn’t reply by next week (his bday is next week also) …
> Should I then text him to ask if he is working abroad 30 days from the day I emailed him back – wednesday Nov 6 ? And initiate NC from that email ?
I would call but I don’t want him being nervous and awkward again.

Thanx Chris aka Girls insider to the boyfriend brain 😛

May

November 8, 2013 at 10:48 pm

Also to add( Sorry >,<" ) if you do answer reinitiate NC and then speak to him… If so … like do I just straight up send a text like

[[Heyy Howa you doing, was just thinking about you and wondered if you're ok I have't heard from you since I replied to your email last month
Wanted to know if you're working out in Germany ?
Hope your well and safe
May]]

Ahhhh please give me some enlightenment of how I should chika-chikaaaa-break it down ? lol A suggestion Chrisssssss

I'm planning on doing it on Whats App for the instant messaging effect

Thanx once again – looking forward to your brain juice
admin

November 10, 2013 at 12:19 am

nice use of the “chikkkaa chickkkaa”

I think that is a sweet one but take out the “how are you doing.”
May

November 10, 2013 at 12:16 pm

Thanks so much for replying – Glad you enjoyed my cyber-spelt-D J beats ! 😛

Sorry, when should I text him this? a week after his birthday (this Tuesday coming 12th) or 30 days after ?

*Also ahhhh one of our mutual friends asked me for s*x
* My ex should be informed as that is complete disrespect towards him considering my ex is a really good friend to him and they hang out loads … I have completely cut of this guy who I thought was a worthy trusting friend but I guess being single showed his true colours …
I need to tell my ex because I know when he knows he’ll cut him off too …. how should I chika-chika break this shxt dowwwwwn too ?
-SIGH OF STRESS-
Thanks Chris 🙂
admin

November 10, 2013 at 10:07 pm

DJ beats in da hizzzousssee!

Ok, that was bad.

After 30 days NC is when you should text him that.

Hmmm do it after you and your ex are on better terms. I have seen these situations backfire when an ex takes the friends side.
May

November 11, 2013 at 12:28 am

😀 haha thanks honestly thanks you’ve given me a lot of confidence
like im not even being a sad slop … just taking it a day at a time 😉

Okay so boom – a month of NC – then whatsapp [[Heyy, I was just thinking about you and wondered if you’re ok I have’t heard from you since I replied to your email last month
Wanted to know if you’re working out in Germany ?
Hope your well and safe, May]]
and then when he replies and were in convo I’ll let him know about the guy …
should i be like look i dont know how to go about this but so and so text me not long ago coming on to me … i didnt reply and cut him off completely right after i lost complete respect for him and was disgusted and didnt even want to explain myself

Love&Thanks, May ♥
admin

November 11, 2013 at 6:07 pm

I think thats a good way to approach it but butter him up more first. Make sure he is receptive of talking to you first before you drop the bomb on him hahaha.
May

November 11, 2013 at 8:16 pm

thanks 🙂 LOOKING FORWARD to a new post of your master mind juice
Appreciate your time and effort, really do >,<

Topic suggestion .. if he promises he will come back to you … should you wait ?
admin

November 12, 2013 at 6:33 pm

Thanks for the topic suggestion!
May

November 9, 2013 at 4:17 pm

ahhhhhh >_< Sorry again
Forgot to mention that his email came after me doing NC … So should I go ahead and ask him if he is abroad like next weekend so that its past his bday (Nov 12th) or do I wait another long month …
I just really want to know if he is abroad or not for some peace of mind … and don't want to drag it on yano

helppppppppp
Thanx again – Honestly really appreciate your time and effort Chris

Coco

November 8, 2013 at 8:39 pm

Hi Chris! I justi finished reading your new post! Youre awesome!
There was a fire at the bar we used to hang out with our friends that we have in common and I texted if he was Ok (I wasn’t there but I saw it on the news). He told me everything was fine and that no one got hurt. I told him I was glad he and everybody was OK but I immediately told him after that that I missed him. He didn’t replied back. Then 2 days after, I texted him that I missed him, that I was being 100% honest and that if he could give us a second chance. He didn’t text me back immediately but he just sent me back a text saying thanks. Which in some way I just didn’t understand. I even texted him to have a “happy Halloween!” Which sounds lame but he just replied saying “thanks you too” then I texted him to go out have some lunch or dinner together but he replied to me “no I have plans”. I finished the conversation just saying “OK”. I haven’t text him in 6 days… Should I wait more days before I contact him again? If so how many days more? I want to give him the space he needs but at the same time I don’t want to screw everything again. One thing i am glad is that he is replying but not in the way I want. I’ m just afraid that he will stop texting me back if I say or do something wrong again.

Thanks for your help Chris!

admin

November 9, 2013 at 11:56 pm

No problem. Give it some time. Soon you can get him to reply how you want you just need to be patient.
Coco

November 10, 2013 at 1:53 am

How much longer do I need to wait? I’m at 7 days right now and its starting to feel like an eternity… will 2 weeks sound good? or should I do more than that? Thanks!
admin

November 10, 2013 at 9:44 pm

Sure, lets shoot for two weeks at this point. Another 7 days.
Coco

November 10, 2013 at 11:14 pm

Btw his bday is coming up and I’m still doing the NC rule I want to wish him a happy birthday but if I’m in NC should I text him that? And also The festivities are going to start pretty soon (thanksgiving, Xmas, NYE) and I don’t want him to think that I’m just texting him because of those festivities… What can I do or say to not make him think that I’m just texting him because of the festivities and think that I just don’t want to be lonely during this dates?
admin

November 11, 2013 at 5:57 pm

You can hook him into a conversation and get him attached to you emotionally.

Bethy

November 8, 2013 at 11:17 am

Another precious new post! You are so patient and awesome, Chris.

All I want to say here is:
Like my comments on other pages,
I followed 90% of your tactics and rules in our first break up, and succeeded.
1.5 months later of reconciliation, we had to break up again.
I’m currently now in over 2 weeks of NC.
I think it won’t work well as first time, because he and both of us already used to what after next. he’s stubborn and good in those experiences.
This is second break-up. I’m not so desperate right now.
I think this NC won’t be affective like first time.
How should I do? Chris…

Thanks

admin

November 8, 2013 at 6:57 pm

Yay! Someone commented. I was worrying.

NC won’t be as effective BUT I would still do it.
Bethy

November 9, 2013 at 6:34 am

I know I’m against the nature! My situation is really sucked and left unsaid.
I think no one want to re-enter to an ex’s life after twice of break up.
But challenging the impossible is my ambition.
If we were not LDR, things won’t be that complicated.
He look feeling nothing for this second break-up, and
girls who want him are already around (waiting for our break-up since we’re in relationship)

That’s really annoying.
I’m always refreshing your page to get new posts.
Hope you can suggest me well for my sucked situation.
admin

November 10, 2013 at 1:01 am

Well, I am sorry I don’t post as often as some other sites. It’s just with the way I do things it takes time :(.
Bethy

November 10, 2013 at 1:44 pm

Aww Chris! Seems you take the wrong way of my words.
Refreshing for your posts means describing my appreciation for every of your posts.

All I want to know is:
to get your suggestion for my sucked situation for this second break-up (As I mentioned above).

Please help.
Thanks Chris
admin

November 10, 2013 at 10:07 pm

Sorry bethy could you be more specific for me.

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