7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

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Dawn

April 30, 2015 at 12:44 pm

This is a bit different of a situation. I worked with a man 8 years ago. To make a long story short He had wrote me on fb and at the time I thought he was still separated so I replied to find out she came back but he was not happy. We talked for a month off and on never met but I fell for him just through talk. Our conversations were getting fairly sexual and I eventually told him I had to stop. I went a month then I congratulated him on a status and he immediately started talking to me saying he missed talking to me and wanted to send me messages but didnt because he felt bad because he could not leave the kids or his home. They were still not having any sexual relations. So we started talking on the phone this time almost every day we could. I fell even deeper and he told me he loved me. Then it went a week and I heard nothing from him. It made me rethink so I sent him a message saying I could not be in love with a fantasy and neither could he and that talking was not enough and I would be lying to myself and him if I thought it was. It has almost been a month. I have heard nothing from him but think of him every day. I know his reasons for staying even though I may see things different he has to make choices for himself. I am not stupid but I do feel he was genuine with his words. Any insight? I guess like most women I constantly question if he is even thinking about me and what we shared. I want to ask him but know I shouldnt and the sad part is we never met because hes afraid it would deepen our connection.
Kelly

April 29, 2015 at 9:00 pm

Hello.
So my boyfriend just broke it off with me on Monday. We’ve been going out for a year and 6 months. 3 weeks ago, we had an argument, it was really small but it turned things into a mess. He then told me he’s no longer in love with me. We tried to work it out. He told me the feeling was coming back and we were happy again, or so I thought. Then he broke the news that it did come back but briefly but he doesn’t feel it anymore. I suggested going on break and he agreed. After an hour, he drove to my house and told me he’s letting me go. I didn’t cry or beg, but I asked him why did he lose the feeling and he said he didn’t know.
I screwed up. I tried doing the no contact thing and I couldn’t. I’m a mess right now. I’m trying my hardest to do NC starting today and it’s hard. He was my best friend and we’ve always talked. We had our future planned out and now we have none.
I’m having lunch with his mom tomorrow. I don’t know what to say or do.
Laura

April 29, 2015 at 2:17 am

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend broke up with me on March 31st when I got home from work. I think it’s my fault because I kept mentioning that we should “take a break”. I don’t know exactly what I was feeling but I do know that I was looking at pictures of this guy I used to really be into with his gf and I guess I felt “emotions” and I feel that must’ve been what made me tell him about the break. He never responded when I mentioned it and it was a couple of times I would say it was the last 5 days I was with him. I never really knew what I was feeling until he broke off the relationship and I was left feeling stupid. I am currently following the NC rule and so far… I’m still waiting lol. I also wanted to ask, when would it be ok to break the rule. The reason I ask is because he plays competitive paintball and he’s the captain of his own team and they won first place. I haven’t liked any posts on FB and I haven’t even texted him just to say congrats because then again I feel that he should come to me since he broke up with me. I don’t know what to do?
Tracy Jones

April 29, 2015 at 1:40 am

I live with my ex in transition housing. Now we have separate rooms. I still in love with him. It is hard to do the no contract rule. I want him to miss me and want me back.
hi chris. layanah

April 28, 2015 at 1:12 pm

my boyfriend of a year has proved he loves me, hes not rich… hes ok…. im the spoiler between the two of us…. he always use to talk bout marriage… and how it will happen soon…. the other day he made it so clear that its not on hes to do list… I was shattered… we ended it then n there… im not talking to him at this point. I thought I was that special girl, or atleast he brainwashed me to it. what to do?
june

April 28, 2015 at 12:17 am

So I’ve done some major rethinking of my relationship, I have accepted that it is dead and although I do want to be with my ex there needs to be some adjustments from both of us. I have stuck to NC for 3 and a half weeks, and he finally called for the first time last night – which I did not answer. Do I send the neutral text back? Should I give myself more time? I am still very hurt, however I’ve been in the gym every day, I look great, nothing has effected the confidence that I show, and I can keep control of the situation. But is responding with a neutral text the day after ignoring a call the right answer? Or do I wait for him to make contact again? My birthday is in a few weeks and I am sure he will try to reach out again at that time.
Natascha

April 27, 2015 at 9:18 pm

Hi, I’ve been dating this guy for 4 years in May, but broke up with me the end of March. We had a lot of good times and bad. The constant arguing and stress in the relationship. We were engaged at one time, but went back to dating. I have a 5 year old daughter (not his biological), that he raised since she was 9 months old. There’s absolutely nothing I can say or do to get him back. He also owns his own business and I work for him too…but anyways…I became the text terrorist for 2 weeks, I’m emotional, sad and upset. He told me that he needs to find himself again…and also told me that to take it day by day and see where it goes but for right now I want to be just friends. What does this all mean right here….do I have a chance ever again with him??? He said he’s not interested in dating anyone at all. He hasn’t showed any emotions at all and acts like our 4 years were nothing…gets pissy if I say something about the past…all the bad seem to outweigh more than the good in the relationship we had. I haven’t tried the NC yet, because we work together etc, but I’ve stopped with all the other bs…its more like hey, my daughter has a program tonight, ur more than welcome to come, stuff like that….but lately he’s been drinking all the time and gambling like crazy…I feel like I was nothing to him…please help me…
Nikki

April 27, 2015 at 12:57 pm

I broke NC three days after the break up and tried to (calmly) try and convince him that maybe we could still work it out. He replied to all the texts but then I realized what I was doing, so after his last text, I didn’t reply anymore and haven’t tried contacting him since.

Did I ruin it or is this not a big deal?
Rainybow

April 26, 2015 at 6:14 pm

Hey there Chris,
I have dated my husband for 2 years before marriage, and now we are married for 8 months but last month we got into a huge fight and he became abusive both our family got involved, and now he wants to divorce me but still did not he wont even talk to me or text me he wont even reply to my calls or texts, I tried talking to him and so but with no effect on him, I moved out also after the fight but also our friends are trying to get us together but he doesn’t want to do so. Should I give up ? I haven’t contacted him for 3 weeks now… and I miss him terribly… we only spot each other in university. and thats all…….
Please do help and advice me…. I have read everything but it doesn’t seem to work.
Rachel

April 26, 2015 at 7:45 am

We broke up about 2weeks ago and I haven’t called him. He has financial issues and is taking care of his mom and it has pushed us apart. He says he needs a break to figure out his sh*t and I’m in school so he says now I can focus on that. But he contacted me a few days ago about some job info when I graduate. He hung up right after but he could’ve just txt or emailed it. I feel like I’m on hold. What do I do after the 30 days? I want to give him an ultimatum to decide what he wants but I already know what he’s gonna say. And if I don’t call him even after 30 days I’ll still feel like I’m in limbo waiting for his call. How long should I wait?

Rachel

April 26, 2015 at 7:51 am

So does that mean that he misses me since he called or was he just sincerely trying to help me out?

Sophie

April 25, 2015 at 9:08 pm

My boyfriend of several months broke up with me in February. He was still struggling with being recently divorced and his father was dying. He said he needed time to be alone and that he wasn’t being fair to me by acting so distant and depressed. We remained in contact as I felt I wanted to support him during the rough time when needed. His father passed away and he truly appreciated me being there. Since that time we have been texting regularly and he even talked about getting together. I though maybe after some of the stress had been lifted from his life he was ready to try again. Last night (a Friday night) we talked for 2 hours about just general happenings of our lives, etc. then at the end asks if I’m dating anyone, to which I reply no. He then says he’s met someone and thought I deserved to know because we are friends. Why and how is this even happening when he is still grieving his father’s death? And why isn’t he talking to her for 2 hours?

Emz

May 2, 2015 at 2:18 am

Hi Chris,
So my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me. We never had big fights, he treat me very well, we always had fun with each other. Everything is seems so fine except that I can feel that there is something holding him back. Around 2 months of our relationship I open it up to him about this thick wall within him. I can’t connect his heart but I can feel him and I know he can feel me too. He answered me that due to his former bad relationships he have a lot of resentment but he said he will work it out. I gave him a benefit of the doubts and we continue our relationship. It’s been great but I still feel the grudges inside him.
One night during our random conversations, he keep bringing up his exes and it’s all grudges feelings. I mean I understand we all have our past but I think keeping those grudges is not healthy. So once more I addressed it to him. He listen and thanks me for addressing the issue. He even thanks me for letting himself discover the real reason why he can’t let me in.
A night after that he broke up with me, his reason is he want to fix himself. That it will be really unfair to me if we continue become lovers and he can’t give his 100% to me. He want to be fair. He told me if I will blocked all my contacts with him totally because that’s what I did to my exes but I told him I can’t see any reason of blocking you nor not talking to you because you treat me so well and this revelation of honesty is a blessing .I told him I’m willing to wait and help him but I don’t know until how long . He said he is not sure until when it can be but he said he will not date anybody not until he is totally renewed.

So we still talk over the phone I make most of the calling, I initiate most of it. Is that right? Or should I give him the silent treatment? We also go to the same church , we are both devoted Christian I’m confuse please help me.
Sophie

April 29, 2015 at 6:13 am

We were only “official” for 2 months. However, within that time we talked about what we wanted in the future, he wanted me to meet his kids – which I did, he called me everyday, etc. Aside from the fact that he had/has these other stressors in his life, everything between us was great… Or so I thought.
Chris Seiter

April 27, 2015 at 10:20 pm

He is going through a really rough time.

How long were you dating him total?

Alisa

April 25, 2015 at 12:33 am

I broke up with this ex boyfriend many times and we always came back and broke up again. Everytime we broke up, we blocked me on facebook or all the contacts. When he drunk, he unblocked me and try to meet up with me like 2 am in the morning. when I say no, he blocked me again. I have asked him about the box of chocolate I gave to him before we broke up because my friend wants the box to buy a new one. I went to ask him, he ignored me and he didn’t say anything to me. two weeks after, he unblocked me again and sent me a picture of the chocolate box I needed. But I don’t need it anymore. I tried not to reply or not to care about him. I’ thinking about dating a new guy but every time when I’m with the new guy, I’m thinking about my ex boyfriend. I don’t know why he did unblocked thing when he ignored me at first and I don’t know what I should do…..

tam

April 30, 2015 at 4:12 pm

My bf and i got together on boxing day 2014. He has trust issues with me due to my past. However when we got together on boxing day we decided to put the past behind us and start afresh
However two months into relationship he started having trust issues with me again because i have some male friends and not 100 percent female.friends and he thought i was having an affair with my male friends when i wasnt. I told him yes i do have male and female friends but so what?im not sexist and i have a right to be friends with who i want as long as i dont cross the line and i havent. The wind blew over and we carried on but then in april a few days after his birthday whilst having dinner with my parents he thought my mum said my exes name in front of him when all she said was “where is the cat in my mothertongue. She confirmed she did not say my exes name 3 times and he apologised. But next day je accused my mum and me of lying to my face and dumped me. Ive been loyal honest and faithful throughout. As i didnt understand reason for dumping me as i didnt do anything wrong in relationship i bombarded him with texts askimg him why he had done it but got no response. Im trying nc now but do u think ive blown my chances with this guy as i love him still and how can i get him back
Chris Seiter

April 27, 2015 at 9:58 pm

Have you tried the No contact rule on this guy at all?

Lauren

April 24, 2015 at 7:17 am

So, we broke up March 21st, last text was March 28th, and it’s not April 24th. We have class together but that is now ending in the next week. NC for an entire month will end almost exactly on the same day that we have our last final exam and/or the last time I see him before I move 30min away where I definitely won’t be bumping into him. We dated for 3 years, had a lot of ups and downs. Last time we broke up for a long period of time I tried NC but wasn’t successful. Eventually though he came back. This time, I broke up with him, cut him off cold turkey, told him to move on, it was over, etc… I was upset…. I obviously miss him. I don’t know if I miss him enough to say I want him back, BUT it is boiling my blood that it’s almost been a month and he hadn’t broken NC! What is he’s beating me at my own game? Or is he over me? Maybe this time he was done? He parks exactly where I do (occasional bump in) and he usually says hi (which of course annoys me but I always respond simple and polite, no more)…. I’m just confused. Is he over me? Does he want to be? Will he ACTUALLY not contact me?! This is ridiculous… He has to miss me. There’s no way he doesn’t because I certainly miss him and think about him everytime I see a couple or see something funny I want to tell him about or something of an inside joke, etc…. He didn’t want the break up, I initiated it and he wasn’t happy…. So what’s with the silence?! Do I just keep going? I really don’t want to be the one to break NC…. What do you think is going on in his head? Over me, prideful, waiting on me, or playing the same game? HELLLLPPP.
Jessica

April 24, 2015 at 5:42 am

Chris, what should I do? My husband and I have been separated for a while but still seeing each other. He has been “not sure” if he wants to be in the marriage any more, pretty much due to lots of fighting and poor communication (otherwise we are so great together and very in love). Today he decided he told me he doesn’t want to be in the marriage any more, BUT this came after an emotional conversation about me with his best friend who has always hated me (only because of my husband’s rants to him after fights – his best friend refused to ever meet me or talk to me, even though all of my husband’s other friends are on good terms with me). Anyway I convinced him to stick it out for a little while longer to see if his back-and-forth feelings change again. What can I do to make sure he commits to me and the marriage, without the back and forth? Should I just let him completely walk away and then initiate no-contact? That’s risky, so is there anything I can do while I am still IN the marriage?

Jessica

April 25, 2015 at 4:33 am

No I haven’t! Thank you I’ll read that!
Chris Seiter

April 24, 2015 at 10:51 pm

Hi Jessica,

Have you read this?

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-prevent-a-breakup-with-your-boyfriend-when-you-know-its-coming/

kiki

April 23, 2015 at 10:53 pm

my bf and i have been together for 4 years however we have a lot of trust issues going on, i biggest obstacle is trusting, he has 2 kids, the kids love me like their own,he overacted about me talking to other guys and he admitted that he was not treating me the way that should be treated, he was going to be by my side through thick and thin, he acts immature sometimes hes 26 im 22,i want to know how we both can build trust in our relationship and build a future

Chris Seiter

April 24, 2015 at 10:49 pm

It seems like you are more mature than him.

Are the two of you broken up?

Pauline

April 23, 2015 at 7:35 pm

Is it okay to break no contact if my ex calls/texts like 10 times in a row? I think he’s genuinely worried for my safety/existence and he seems to be getting angry.
Tiffany

April 22, 2015 at 11:03 pm

Hi, my name is tiffany i been dating this guy for two months now and we been bickering over dumb stuff and on Sunday he said he want to have a break. But i finally spoke to him today and he said it was official he want to break up. i ask him what i done for him to decided this and he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Im in love with him so much and he told me he loved me and care about me on Sunday. Also he hasn’t taken down the relationship status on Facebook. What am i suppose to do now?

Chris Seiter

April 23, 2015 at 12:46 pm

Jump right into the NC rule.

Kate

April 22, 2015 at 10:34 pm

Hi!
so being the cliche girl I am, I looked up how to make my ex miss me. Then i fell upon your page. i just need some advice on what I should do. I dated this guy for almost 6 months (he was my first boyfriend) and we talked literally non stop everyday, about everything. A little over a month since breaking up with him for reasons i don’t want to get in depth into, I’m still getting over the fact I’m not in a relationship like all of my friends happen to be at this time and I’m still getting over not talking to him constantly. Now, I know i broke up with him, and i expected him to move on but thanks to a friend who goes to school with him i found out he was talking to girls like he used to talk to me way before we called it off. I just don’t know what to think or do, i didn’t want to break up with him but it was the right thing to do, i want him to contact me so i can at least work out the kinks because i hate bad blood with people… but i kind of want him to want me back. help?

Chris Seiter

April 23, 2015 at 12:45 pm

Well I am glad you found my page.

Have you used NC on him yet?

Sue

April 22, 2015 at 7:57 pm

Hi Chris,

My guy and I broke up about 2 months ago after a fight regarding time spent together. Background is he is dealing with a few very stressful issues and needed to take things really slow. We dated for about 8 months and I got frustrated that things weren’t moving forward more. This was not the first time we had this fight. We got together to talk twice since but nothing was resolved. I have done all of the wrong things since, I have lashed out and accused him of not every caring about me (he told he did and still does and wouldn’t have wasted my time), I have called, text to much, and even shown up at his house to talk (when he wouldn’t talk to me on Sunday). I know I know. I just realized after he was gone how much I cared for this man and regretted pushing him. At this point he thinks I am crazy (which I’m not, just emotional), but I know he does have feelings for me. Do you think this is a lost cause? I know i have done all of the wrong things. He currently isn’t responding to me (text messages) at all since Sunday, when he said we would talk but not today.

Sue

April 24, 2015 at 1:17 am

Also he said that I’ve really pushed him back – and I keep making it worse (by showing up) this is following I do like you but – what does this mean ? What do you think? is there a private message I can send to fill you in on the whole story..
Sue

April 23, 2015 at 6:39 pm

I have basically blown up his phone with messages telling him that I love him and that I was sorry and explaining why I did the things I did. Asking him to give us another chance, and so on and so forth. I know I am doing the wrong thing I just have all of this anxiety about it. We have been here before and he hasn’t been mad this long before … on Sunday he did say “I do like you” but you have really pushed me back…and now he’s not responding at all..
Sue

April 23, 2015 at 12:47 pm

I sent him a message apologizing for everything last night. Told him I loved him and basically just explained why I’ve been acting the way I’ve been acting. I told him that i wished he could have let me in during his difficult time and I would have been there for him no matter what. I told him I think he’s a great guy and I don’t blame him for anything and that I was sad that it wasn’t going to work out with us.
Chris Seiter

April 23, 2015 at 12:52 am

What was the last text message you sent him?

Peyton

April 22, 2015 at 5:49 pm

So my boyfriend broke up with me last monday. It was surprising to be honest, I wasn’t quite sure how to respond when he said “I think we should break up.” Stupidly I tried to change his mind and when he walked away I grabbed onto his sweatshirt and demanded to know why. His words were “it’s just not working out, we don’t really have a rela

Chris Seiter

April 23, 2015 at 12:35 am

Are you doing NC?

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