6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

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Cj

May 17, 2019 at 3:07 am

Hey Chris

I know this is an ex boyfriend thing. But been search everywhere for advice.

So my girlfriend of 8.5 year broke it off with me cause she said she didn’t feel the same way she use too. I was completely blinded sighted from the break up we were just looking at buying houses and she was the one pushing it. I tried fighting for her and telling her how I would want our new relationship to be better, the things I want to change for the better, I told her how I really felt and where I saw our future going. But she met some guy she started working with that’s 20 years old than her and she jumped to him 3 days after we broke up and went on a date with him and now things seem like there pretty serious with them going on a trip together for a week. It’s been less than 2 months since we split. Im pretty connected to her family, I’m like a son to them. And they have no idea where her head it at. All I wanna do is try and work things out with her. But it doesn’t seem to be going that way. Any advice…
Jejju

May 3, 2019 at 5:14 pm

Please reply to my problem
Jejju

May 3, 2019 at 5:14 pm

I was in love with someone and I went to him and after few issues I had to come back to US, but we both had strong love on each other. In long distance relationship lately he had doubt on me that I am cheating on him and I said no never I would do that, he is mine and I am only for him. Recently the fight became too intense and he abused me so much and in return I did too. Then I went on no contact rule for almost 15 days and finally saw his engagement picture and devastated… I tried to end my life and I am writing this not knowing I will survive or not. Please tell me am I worthless in this world?! How can he just get engaged in just 15 days of my break up? He also told me he might marry me, but before that his parents are forcing him to get married and he will do that for sure. But we both had so much love on each other and our sex life was intense. He just crazy in me and me too but how did rhis happen? Now he says I should have convinced him, when I called him now saying I am dieing he say it’s your decision and why do you have to show off just don’t threaten me, leave me alone and he hung up. What happens to me right now is total failure and I couldn’t take it

Chris Seiter

May 3, 2019 at 10:31 pm

Hello Jejju,

Right now what is important is moving past the hurt. I know you are searching for answers and trying to understand your ex’s words and actions. You deserve a relationship that provides you with a healthy, trusting, and loving environment.

Time has a way of showing us the big picture. It gives us the gift of perspective. It can also help us recover and see things in a different light. You want to get to a place where you need not rely on your ex for emotional fulfillment. Then you will feel more whole.

So I would suggest you continue to take time for yourself and away from your ex so you can continue to heal, grow, and find some peace.

Who knows, with the gift of time and space, you may later decide you would rather not invest any more effort in trying to reunite. Or you may choose to allow your ex back in your life, if that opportunity arises, but possibly in a different way or with a different understanding. When you realize that there are other paths for you to take no matter what happens, you will feel more empowered and in more control. And you will also be more happy.

Remember, your Health and Safety is paramount.

You matter and are important to many people.

If you are feeling depressed and/or suicidal, there is help for you.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis.

So if you are at risk for suicide, homicide or other harm or injury, please call 911 or seek other help (such as a hospital emergency room or doctor’s care) immediately. If you need help from the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, please dial:

1-800-273-TALK (8255)
You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, their mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential.

Meghan

May 2, 2019 at 12:47 am

My ex of 18 years and three children went out with his friends one night and didnt come home until really late and I told him if he did it again he can just not bother coming home. Well the next night he did that he said that he needed some time to fix himself he met a girl 16 years younger than him a couple weeks prior to this at work and instantly started dating her and she broke up with her boyfriend for him. They started to live at his friends house together after a few weeks of being together and today just got an apartment together. They have been together for about a month and a half he is almost 40 and she is 23 years old. He doesn’t see his kids at all and every couple of weeks tells the kids that he loves them with a text message. They are teenagers and realized that he left for another girl and has no time for them right now. He blames me for our relationship failing and the reason why his kids don’t talk to him. The girl post things on Facebook all the time about their sex life and how happy she is where he still has us as his profile pick. At first I broke every rule saying every mean thing in the book, but the past couple weeks I have told him to go be happy when he tries to contact me. I am now on day 8 of no contact and feel like crap. I am still hurt about how he can move on so fast The entire time he was denying a relationship with her and hides it from the world because we work for the same company so all of my friends treat him horribly because of what he is doing. We have to go for child support in a couple weeks and I don’t even want to look at him right now I just want him to suffer like I have been. I have gone out with friends which I never did while together and lost a lot of weight. He is a depressed person so his job cutting his hours is what makes me think he ran towards this girl. I am still unsure if I am doing this right and how to get him back.
Selena

April 25, 2019 at 11:28 pm

Hi Chris!
My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. Maybe a week over a month. We were together three months. The last part of our relationship myself and my two kids he grew to love moved in with him and his parents. Times were rough for me. But he stayed. He never left me. He was so dedicated to me that it would put me in tears. Because no other person was ever like that. He was completely obsessed with me. In a healthy way. Crazy in love with each other. He was my dream come true. Completely committed.
It was more of a mutual breakup. I packed up and left when he started drawing away from me. I tried to talk to him. But he started taking his friends out instead of me. He was withdrawing, and I didn’t feel loved anymore. I wonder to this day what would’ve happened if I didn’t leave. If I had mis understood his text message.
Anyway he and I still talk. Not friends exactly but we talk everyday. He slowly started opening back up to me after shutting down on me. He was so angry about who something. Than I found out the dreaded. He was in a relationship with another girl. Who got into the relationship with her a few short weeks after we broke up.
I automatically thought rebound. The day he and I started dating and made it official, he posted it all over Facebook. Changed his profile and cover photos to us. He and I always were tagging each other in cute posts. The whole world knew we were crazy in love. I became friends with his best friend. I got to know his family. We hung out every other day. We were texting all day and most of the night. Anytime I needed someone he was there in flash. He held me on my most broken days. He helped me when my life spiraled down.
When I look at his page and her page, I see none of this. Zero pictures posted together. He would heart react to anything I posted. He doesn’t do that with her. When we talk every day and night, he had a moment of flirtiness with, got very jealous when he thought I was hanging out with another guy and quickly tried covering up his jealousy. They never hang out. I know this because he tells me all about his day.
I’m still in love with him. There is no doubt in my mind this is not a rebound.
We meet up in two days. On Saturday. Just to talk. About what I’m not sure. But I got him to want to meet up. I have no clue how to act. How to be. What to say. I’m afraid I’ll cry. But I’m afraid that’ll push him away. I’m going to be myself like I told him I
Would. We are both fun, goofy, weird people lol. We loved that. I know how to make it not weird to meet with me and start a conversation. I have no idea what to say though. I want to run straight into his arms but I know this isn’t some fairytale. So
What do I do? He shows signs of still loving me but he knows how to quickly shut down too. I’m pretty sure his relationship is a rebound, and he doesn’t love her. What do I do? I want to look my best but overdue it. Do I make it known how I feel? Or be careful with that?
Saz

March 8, 2019 at 1:01 am

Hi Chris, I love your site, its helped me out twice over the years with different relationships (I realised I was better off without the narcissistic first guy!) I’m grateful you keep it up to date! Please bare with me, this is a long one.

My Ex and I had everything in common, both business owners same line of work (we work in events and festival production), same style, same tastes, everything. We both said we couldn’t believe we’d found each other! Despite this it became clear he had intimacy issues half way through the 9 months, he pulled away, started fights over small things to avoid talking about the bigger issues and my fear of abandonment pushed him away further as he became this shell of a person. In December he told me ‘the spark’ had gone and he needed time on his own without a partner to figure himself out and cope with the stresses of his huge job at Glastonbury Festival 2019.

I gnatted him after he showed mixed messages, cuddling me etc. I went no contact for 3 weeks until we HAD to bump into each other at a mutual friends party on Jan 5th. He didn’t even look at me and I drunk gnatted him after and then continued this for a week (although he always replied). He said he would think things over and get back to me and I went no contact again on January 16th.

As 40 days came to an end I found out through his new girlfriends instagram (I unfollowed him) that he was in a rebound that I suspect started 4-6 weeks after we broke up despite saying he needed time to be himself for a while. It began to move fast as I started the 40 days as they were doing Valentines dates and gifts (dates he’d fantasised about to me), meeting the parents (he waited months with me) and now he is taking her with him to work with him at Glastonbury Festival in June (which he said right up until November was my job) despite her being the opposite of me!

I’ve seen on other sites that if they start a rebound like this I should stay in no contact and wait for him to figure it out himself and end it and/or contact me and keep working on myself so I look more attractive to him again. I doubt hes had any time to think over our relationship or his problems like he said he would and he still thinks the grass is greener with her so I can imagine I will be seen as unattractive to him again.

A few things though. A mutual friend told me he stayed away from an event at the weekend because she told him I was going. I’ve noticed hes still following my 2 instagram accounts. At some point I need my festival camping equipment back from his house and I have a handmade gift for his Dad that I began in October (his dad is still supportive of me on social media) that would somewhat prove how much I have moved forward with starting up my festivalwear brand since the breakup if I sent it to his Dad He is close with his dad and it wouldn’t go unnoticed.

Could I work with these things over time? Do I wait it out until he dumps her as other places suggest and carry on making myself look amazing on social media in the meantime?

If you’ve gotten this far and reply to this you are an absolute SAINT Chris, mate. I would be so grateful!
Thank you for your time!
Saz

Chris Seiter

March 8, 2019 at 2:27 am

So I guess that makes me a Saint! Well, my wife wouldn’t agree that completely! Rebounds abound in the dating world. I have written about them and often they collapse of their own weight, particularity if you are stirring the embers just a bit by trying to remain in play or keep a connection open.

There is strategy that I sometimes recommend called the Being There approach. Pretty much means what it says. You can always try this approach if the NC fails to get traction.

By the way….simply an awesome name (Saz)

anz

February 4, 2019 at 2:39 pm

hi chris, my boyfriend and i were together for 1,5 years. he broke up with me in august last year because he felt that he was overstepping his boundaries a lot with me, and he was not happy anymore, as he felt he had lost himself in the relationship. the first three months after the break up we still had contact a bit. i went NC and started working on myself. he contacted 17 days later he wanted to talk. we met up three months after the break up and rekindled things for one evening – he was an absolute wreck and looked at me the same way he did on our first date. he had spent three months just working and drinking and being sad. one week after our rekindling date, he texted me that he cannot be with me, despite my progress and despite our mutual love. he felt that he had arrived at an emotional low, and he needed to work on himself like i had been. he said we were very far from a fresh new start and he could not make any promises for the near future. i told him to leave me be if he just wants a friendship, and to contact me when he is ready to make steps toward me. so i went NC again. this was early december. now, late january, 7 weeks later, i felt such a pain in my heart, i broke NC… it was the biggest mistake. i called him and asked how he was doing. he said he was seeing someone sine recently, that she knows about me, and that she understands, and he wants to see where it is going… now, i realize it’s been 5 months since the break up – but how can he be emotionally ready for a new love only 8 weeks after kissing me? after looking at me the same way as he did during our first date? he was very mean in this phone call, he was mad that i ‘turned a switch’ now, after i told him to leave me be, and that he would block me and i would never hear from him again if i ask anymore questions. he even told me he doesnt love me anymore and that he now loves her. i am absolutely crushed. i deleted him off of facebook now and regret it, as i cannot see anymore who he is adding, and if he will be adding her anytime soon. i am having all sorts of nightmarish thoughts about who this person is. i feel like this is the absolute betrayal. he was so emotional on the phone, told me he still missed everything we had, that he thinks about it a lot, that he will never have a connection with anyone like with me, but that something within him broke beyond repair, and he knew we weren’t gonna make it. he said he loved my love, but it was not enough, as it would also take something from him to make us work, and he had given up 5 months ago. he told me in an email a few days ago to let him go, if i truly love him. i just can’t believe these absolute words. i am 32, he is 40. he told me i was the love of his life, that he never felt such a strong emotional and physical connection to any woman in his life. how can he now find someone new so quickly? will i ever have a chance again?

Chris Seiter

February 4, 2019 at 5:12 pm

Hi Anz…so a lot going on here and I can see you have been thru a lot. I hope you are tapping into some of my resources! Yes, you do have a chance, but it serves you to follow a sensible strategy and that is what my Program is built around.

Jane

February 3, 2019 at 11:56 pm

Hey Chris,

My boyfriend and I were together for 4 months before I broke up with him. Things were really good in the first couple months, I really liked him but then things changed towards the end of our relationship. He spent everyday at my house with me all day and constantly smothered me with affection and love. I got really annoyed with him and lost my attraction and feelings for him. I broke up with him but we still stayed in touch and we would still hang out. A few weeks after we broke up he moved to another state and I reached out to him because I realized that I still had feelings and attraction to him. At first, he was angry with me, saying that I had my chance with him and I never made him feel loved. Then, he told me that if I could prove to him I’d “changed” then he would promise to make me happy. We talked and flirted for a week and he would tell me that he still loved me. Then all the sudden he started telling me that we should move on and be with other people. I started getting crazy and pleading and begging for him to stay with me, which only pushed him to block me. Over the course of the four days I was blocked he got a girlfriend. He unblocked me on the fourth day and i learned from his mother that he is moving back to my city, but he is still with this new girlfriend. They haven’t been together for a week yet, and things are moving pretty fast between them (staying the night with each other, “whoo whooing” if you get what I mean). But she isn’t moving here with him, and he is coming back in two weeks. I stopped texting him 2 days ago since I’ve been reading about the “No Contact Rule”. What should I do to get him back, and do you think I still have a chance?

Chris Seiter

February 4, 2019 at 3:48 am

Hi Jane!

Time will tell if this other girlfriends turns out to be a rebound. I do think NC is a pragmatic way forward.

Elisa

December 10, 2018 at 8:42 am

1 year and 4 months and we did 6 months apart due to LDR. Very open to each other the whole relationship. I didn’t want to continue going further into the relationship when I found out I was going overseas. He insisted we do it and insisted it would work. We did 6 months strong as a LDR, fights but nothing intense or anything that lasted over 2 hours. We always talked about it. Out relationship was heading to the alter with the families on board. Recently he told me he didn’t feel the same for me (same time he met her). He initially wanted to work on it and was going to visit me, then he called it off. Said he didn’t love me and he has feeling for her. He never cheated so I can give him that. But not even two weeks after our breakup he gets into a relationship with her. Is that a rebound? Am i crazy for wanting answers. We didn’t have problems, we talked everyday and it honestly came out of nowhere for me. I read your whole article and it seems like it is a rebound.

Chris Seiter

December 10, 2018 at 11:28 pm

Hi Elisa!

I know all this must be very upsetting and disappointing. Some guys do foolish things and the answers are often vague or not very illuminating. Rebounds do happen and so does “grass is greener” behavior. Best to tap into my Program (PRO) to get up to speed on how you may want to initiate No contact and how to optimize that approach.

Amanda

November 20, 2018 at 6:29 pm

Long distance relationship (4 months), but we both felt we were the one. Both very open with eachother. He had an amazing job and I knew I would be the one to move. We took turns driving to see eachother, tried for every other weekend, but things can get in the way (he had a couple aunts pass away). Out of the blue I got a message saying he was concerned about our trips during the winter months, that he would get so depressed during the time we were apart, and he wouldn’t ask me to move cause he felt selfish for taking me from my family, that we still hadn’t really seen each others bad sides. I told him I knew I would move, was willing to take the chance and he said I can’t ask you. I stayed away for a month, then texted I missed him and we talked. I told him how much I had been hurting etc and he apologized. He had blocked me on fb from the beginning but I knew he was seeing someone about two weeks after we split. He doesn’t know I know. This past weekend I sent an apology that I didn’t notice his depression and that I made him feel he had to ask me to move when I already knew. And told him how great I thought he was. He replied with that’s really sweet of you and that my message was hard to read cause it got all split up. I thought it was nice he pieced it together. While I was waiting for a reply from him, I did some math. I told him I was sincere, that I figured my finances and I could in fact move sooner than I originally thought. That I knew we might not work but I was willing to move to see if we could work like a normal couple in the same town. That he couldn’t deny our connection. I haven’t heard back. I’m pretty sure this girl is a rebound. We look somewhat similar and I feel she and I would get along, but she lives an hour away (I lived six), so while he can see her more, it’s really not what he seemed to be wanting. Especially with winter coming. It looks like they’ve been on two dates. I asked him why he said all the things ( like he felt we were meant for eachother etc) and he’s like I can’t answer that. I just didn’t want to ignore your message. His parents were amazing to me and I told them I understood if they blocked me, but I wanted to thank them for making me feel so welcome when I was around them and how much I loved him and it was killing me to be away from him. They sympathized, dad said he wished he could slap the shit out of him and his mom was like you never know what the future holds and both said they would not be blocking or unfriending me. They have not reacted to his pictures with the new girl yet. I truly love him and feel he loves me, but wonder what happened? Did he get scared? It was good morning good night love you right up to the very end. Thank you! I know what I need to do is work on me etc and I will be preparing my house to sell etc (I want a different house anyways). I just don’t know what to think about him right now.

Chris Seiter

November 20, 2018 at 9:49 pm

Hi Amanda!

I can see you have been dealing with a lot of stuff on your plate. Given all of this, its best you employ a sensible ex recovery plan, so check out my Program!

Coll

November 16, 2018 at 6:39 pm

Chris, me and my bf of 5 months broke up in July. Since the breakup we never stopped texting or talking and would still tell each other we loved each other and missed each other. I did a lot of begging and pleading and became crazy with texting him. About a week ago he said he was done for good and told me he started seeing someone and does not love me and is over me. He started posting pictures all over social media of his new girl which is unusual for him. We work together which makes it hard to stay away from him. I’ve been in no contact for about 4 days now. How can I get him back?
Kate

November 12, 2018 at 9:50 pm

Hi Chris,
Following on from my last comment, the problem with the no-contact rule is that before we split up, we discussed the importance family time with our kids, so both of us and them. This is really good for our kids, and stopping it now, when it has been going well will actually cause more problems and fights between us, making things worse. When it’s not family time. I make no effort to contact him, but when he comes over to see the kids he will often seek me out to talk to me in general. I can’t give up family time, do you have any other suggestions?

Chris Seiter

November 12, 2018 at 11:30 pm

Hi Kate….Ok….that works Kate as it is a limited, more pragmatic form of No Contact which I talk about in my eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book”.

Kate

November 11, 2018 at 7:33 am

Hi Chris.
My partner and I broke up 3 months ago. We have 2 very young kids and had been together for 7 years. He was initially very angry with me, but after a few weeks he calmed down, and we have enjoyed spending time together, mostly as an family, and were even sleeping together basically on a weekly basis for a while (the last time being Thursday last week). He has now started dating someone new, he first met her about 2-3 weeks after we broke up, but only slept with her for the first time last week. He is now wearing a bracelet saying “her king” and have gone facebook official.
Does this sound like a rebound? Does this starting at our 3 month mark when I was otherwise seeing good signs of us getting back together eventually impact our chances and lose the 3-7 month Window of opportunity?

Chris Seiter

November 11, 2018 at 7:56 pm

Hi Kate!

May very well be a rebound. If you are unhappy with this arrangement and his lack of commitment and openly dating another girl, then you may want to consider implementing no contact in the near future. I have lots of material and books and videos that will help you understand how NC works.

Meredith

November 6, 2018 at 2:30 pm

Hi Chris. I’ve had this guy who I didn’t pay attention too much, but was friendly with. Eventually he became super interested, and I gave it a while before I accepted because I still liked someone else. While we only dated for a month and a half, we’d text constantly, call on the phone and play games together daily, hang out and be intimate often. However, I initiated the breakup while I was having a rough time, and as soon as I went through with it I immediately regretted it. Even though he was unsure about it too, he told me he did not want to go back on his word. Fast forward 4 months now, and he’s been dating this girl in college for around a week. They don’t see each other much, but shell come down to our school a few times and when they talk it’s very friendly and awkward almost. Before they started dating, he was incredibly hot and cold with me. And it eventually lead to me to break away. I’ve been exercising, taking taekwando classes, learning different languages and instruments. And even though I still miss him, I refuse to show it since we see each other very often during school. After we broke up, he’s much more rude, stubborn, and closed off towards me and even some others. However there are rare cases where he’ll be nice and pass me something, or be polite. While I don’t feel threatened by this girl, I don’t know how to approach this situation anymore and help would be appreciated

Chris Seiter

November 6, 2018 at 10:42 pm

Hi Meredith!

Great job with your self development and recovery activities. Yeah, some guys are really stubborn and rude. Obviously he has some life lessons to learn. Perhaps try arranging a casual meet up. Think little steps.

Maddie

October 25, 2018 at 10:26 pm

Hi Chris, I really need some help right now my ex and I were together 10 months and I was his first true love his first everything i broke up with him on the 6th because I was angry over something he did, we were having some fights recently. The next day i called him to apologize but he told me he moved on i contacted him for about 2 more days but he just kept saying he needed time and he moved on, i gave him 4 days then I reached out again and he told me he likes someone else now and he has moved on after that i stopped contacting him and have not contacted him in 12 days but I just found out last night he is dating this new girl I am absolutely crushed, do you think it is just a rebound and he will eventually come back around?

Chris Seiter

October 26, 2018 at 12:23 am

Hi Maddie!

I am sorry your boyfriend was too pig headed to accept your heartfelt apology. He is being very mean to you. This other girl could be a rebound girl. And if he doesn’t end up back with you, then its on him for passing up on a gem like you. Best to implement NC. Go pick up my eBook “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” or “The No Contact Rule Book” as it will help you immensely!

Lisa

October 14, 2018 at 2:51 pm

I was with my ex for almost 4 years we were in LDR and finally came to same university but only spent about 6 months together in university before break up we fight a lot at the same time loved each other a lot and I still remember everybody gets jealous seeing us both but once he came university he was quite close with a girl in his class I had an instinct that it wasn’t going to be good so I talked to him about that and he stopped talking to her but eventually they started talking back I saw them getting attached so fast and we had some rough time after coming to same university and that’s when he decided to leave me surprisingly he started dating her within 2 or 3 weeks its going to be a year since we broke up and since they started dating it’s very hurtful to see them together since we are in same university he is going around with her with no guilt bcz he believes it’s all my mistake I realised I made a lot of mistakes while in relationship but I do no cheat I was just too egoistic and fight over everything which maybe leads him to fed up of me but why after 4 years all this while he could manage me and right after a girl came into his life he left me saying I’m difficult to be handled

Chris Seiter

October 14, 2018 at 9:13 pm

Hi Lisa!

4 years is solid and build roots that can help you later. Everyone makes mistakes, so don’t beat yourself up. Got pick up my program book and help yourself with improving your odds.

Braimah azeez

August 30, 2018 at 1:26 am

Hi, my name is azeez, am a Nigerian…i dated my ex for about four and half years but during these years we have been battling with infedility especially from her angle and that has been going on all through the years we were together..
I never stopped her from keeping male friends which intentionally and eventually she ends up sleeping with each and everyone of them… When I tried putting an end to her friendship with the male sex she would complain and tell everyone including her friends and family that I am constraining her and abusing her rights and freedom as a woman..to make matters worse she would complain of my lack of trust for her as if she forgets what she does with them… Just a month back she was seen with another guy whom she introduced me to as “just a friend” house while I was away for my I.T…confronting her about it she caused a stare and demanded for a breakup from me of which I refused and then she filed for it herself… I was left heartbroken and shattered… I really have lost so much during the course of the relationship and I feel I am the one that lost in all… What should i do about it

Chris Seiter

August 30, 2018 at 3:53 am

First you should focus on your on healing. Take some time away from here. Don’t attempt to contact her for a while. My program is in part about advancing your own personal recovery, so explore it and learn to embrace activities and new routines that can help you thru this period.

Andrea

August 26, 2018 at 12:58 am

Hey Chris
My ex and I broke up after 1 year of being together. We were stressed as I was financially covering for everything for a few months until he got back onto his feet. After 3 months of back and forth confusion he finally tells me he’s seeing someone. Then he tried to play it off saying he’s dating around after he saw the pain in my face. He told me I looked great in every way. He then said he’d like to bump into me to help me with adjusting my back, since I have a terrible back. I’m severely confused and I just don’t understand. Is he just being nice or is it that he can’t let me go ?

Chris Seiter

August 26, 2018 at 1:21 am

Hi Andrea…yes…personal stress and financial issues can all conspire to put pressure on a relationship. I think you should roll right into No Contact. Make sure you have a solid ex recovery plan so you know what to do along the way!

Lisa

August 16, 2018 at 11:07 pm

Hello, ex of 12 years 3 children. Proposed then left 4 months later. He went straight into a relationship with someone he knew, who is my complete opposit. He has now turned into a completely different person to the one I was with. Has been with this woman for 3 and half months now . But for the last 2 months has been telling me he wants to come back. Have tried doing limited contact but at times, but he will out of the of know where message me abuse , more I ignore it the worse it gets . This is out of character for him and was never like this when we were together. No hardly sees his children saying he hasn’t had time . The longer he’s with her the worse he seems to be getting. I would love for him to come back and be the person he was. Bit I really don’t know what to do . Is he just telling what I want to hear, so I’m hid back up plan or does he want to come back but don’t know how to without looking like the bad guy. ( friends and family stopped speaking to them be cause of how it started so don’t think he wants to look like he make a mistake… Maybe lol I’m just guessing )

Chris Seiter

August 17, 2018 at 2:11 pm

Hi Lisa!

I could be a rebound. Sometimes guy have to learn the hard way. 12 years grows roots and that is difficult to step away from, except they don’t know that sometimes until later when they have lived some life. His abusive messages are probably a reflection of his confused state of mind. It doesn’t excuse them, but that might be where its coming from.

Perhaps a continuation of limited contact will be best and meanwhile, you can do things to continue to focus on your own recovery and reinforcing your own value. Take a look at some of the resources and tools I talk about on my home page as they should help you.

Alex

July 29, 2018 at 10:53 pm

How do I look a your response from a pervious post?

Chris Seiter

July 30, 2018 at 3:19 am

I think you may have to go to that actual post.

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