6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

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S

February 15, 2016 at 8:17 pm

Hey so my LDR ex of 8 months broke up like 1.5 months ago. After we broke up, he was already talking to someone new! He said that he’s not with anyone but is just talking. Obviously this talking is going to lead to dating. I did the no contact rule and contacted him after but was so hurt when I started seeing more signs that he was definitely talking to her. So i ended things with him bc i was so hurt. He said we are not meant to be bc of this distance. He said he will always love me but is not in love with me. Which is crazy bc distance was not a problem and we were doing so good after this all of a sudden breakup. So what are your thoughts. Now i have just left him alone and lets see where time takes us. He will regret this right? He has changed so much and it hurts

S

February 17, 2016 at 3:44 pm

Yes we will see each other in a month for an event. He messaged me yesterday trying to make convo but I ignored. Tbh that girl is younger than him by 3 yrs and completely different than me so idk what he is thinking. I think she’s just closer and a distraction
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 18, 2016 at 10:25 am

well, if they aren’t serious then good.. mahbe prepare for the event and don’t talk until that day.. so, once you see each other, it’s like having a clean slate
S

February 16, 2016 at 2:44 pm

No she is close to him
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 17, 2016 at 8:28 am

Okay, truth is she is tough competition if that is so.. but he’s human so he’ll definitely miss you.. and compare her to you.. Do you see each other in person once in a while?
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 16, 2016 at 8:51 am

Hi S,

wad that someone new also ldr?

deb

February 14, 2016 at 7:03 am

My ex and me were together 2 years, he split with me thursday, sent me a few msgs friday saying this does not feel right, i couldnt text him back cos had no credit and he had blocked me on fb. On the saturday he joined about 100 dating sites, started talking to a girl on there, they met a few hours later, he told everyone she was amazing and best ever, he stayed at hers and is still there now. 2 days? Just 2 days to do this, i cannot believe it. Im thinking has to be rebound, but then part of me is thinking what if shes the one, what if they live happily ever after…its driving me crazy. What do you guys think?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 14, 2016 at 9:31 am

Hi deb,

It sounds like she’s easy to get.. The guy might get whatever he wants from her but she doesn’t value herself, if that is so, a guy wouldn’t value her too

Leila

February 13, 2016 at 10:37 pm

Hi,

I am uncertain if he is in a rebound relationship. Together for 2.5 years, long distance for the last 2 months because he graduated college and moved. I still had one year left and we decided to go long distance. During the last 2 months, I was abroad in a country doing an internship and we had very limited communication because I was in a rural setting. I didnt have the best time I was there so a lot of my feelings i took out on him in frustration. He broke up with me because he thought we were on different paths and I would never take his new city seriously. But I realized after being abroad for two months that I didnt want to live abroad but in the U.S. and I wanted to now consider his new city. Anyway, while I was abroad he ended things, then started seeing someone 3 weeks after. They dated for a month, he broke up with her because he still had feelings for me. We never officially got back together or anything because the day after he broke up with her, he regretted it because we were texting and I took something he said out of context and he took my response to be dramatic and that we were fighting. So he regretted ending things with her and then she took him back. He told me he doesn’t love her yet, and its been 7 months. But he said its the first relationship he has been in where there hasn’t been one fight or piece of drama. I have an internship in the summer in his city, right now we are in no contact. I asked him if we could in november for 30 days, then I asked him if we could do it again for forever. He knows about the internship, and I told him I dont expect him to end things again for me. The girl he is seeing is different from me in that she isn’t a Christian, and he is and his faith used to be important to him but it seems like it no longer is. His mom is worried about the path his life seems to be going in, i guess he has become more cynical. I think he is happy, but he still says he feels guilty for hurting me and gets this terrible feeling in his stomach. Idk what to do, I’m going no contact and I dont plan on contacting when I am in his city.

Leila

February 19, 2016 at 7:34 am

Do you think it’s a rebound?
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2016 at 11:08 am

Of he still loves you then she is a rebound but if over time he loses feelings for you, then of course it won’t be anymore
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 14, 2016 at 6:10 am

Hi Leila,

Take your time.. If you can’t initiate contact don’t do ti

Girl in tears.

February 13, 2016 at 8:20 pm

Here’s my story.

I had a boyfriend for almost 3 years. He broke up with me in December because thing we’re getting really hard, we were fighting a lot. I really love him and it was very painful. Our relationship was very beautiful, even his family texted me and called me for a month after we broke up, they love me so much and I was his first everything.

Of course I made every mistake on the book, I was needy, clingy, text gnat, always fought with him but when he responded me and talked to me he told me that he was in pain too, that he was hurt and that maybe someday we would be back together again. At the same time, he told his friends like he didn’t care and behave that way, was talking to girls and stuff like that.

That hurt a lot. Especially when he told me that stuff and told our friends that he was perfect and that I misinterpret when he told me we would be back together again. I thought if someday why not now. Anyway, I stop texting him and seeing him for like 2 weeks (all our friends are in common so we keep seeing each other every weekend), then I wrote him and we talk fine and stuff, he told me that he was in much pain but that it needed to stop so he was ok now. A week after I wrote him again so we could be friends but he said he couldn’t because how much I’ve change (I haven’t. He’s just believing what everyone else is saying)

The next day after that I found out he started seeing a girl who he was flirty with when we were together (nothing happened between them), in the two weeks that I didn’t text him.

So, I think she’s rebound. But I’m so hurt that I don’t know if I’m being blind. I don’t know if he was moved on or if I have a chance with him again. Because of course, now he tells everyone he’s perfect and this time tells me the same. Everyone tells me that I have to let him go, that he doesn’t love me anymore and that there’s no way he would get back with me. But I know he still cares for me. In the shadows he asks how I am and if I’m dating and stuff like that. He’s not indifferent, I just don’t know if he’s that way because he still has feelings or because he wants to know if I’m ok or still hurt from the break up.

I really love him and I want him back, I know he doesn’t right now but feelings of a long long relationship and his first doesn’t just disappear like that, does it?

I think she’s rebound because we broke up in less than two months, she’s completely different from me, personally and in looks and she’s completely unable to give him a relationship more than casual, and even that way, she has to sneak and lie to be with him. She’s even from a different religion than him, and he and his family are 500% Catholic . It’s like he started something that’s already doomed. I found out from mutual friends and because he’s so obvious when we are in the same room, but I try to be civil and told him that I bet she’s a great person who’s worth it. She told me yeah, she is totally worth it. Which hurt, a lot.

I want him back, but not right now. I have to make him attracted to me again and them make him fall for me again. So we can start dating and then have a long talk of how we are going to make this work this time. You think I can still accomplish this?

My question is: Is she rebound? Do you think I can have him back? Or has he moved on and it’s too late? I’m scared of no contact, because two weeks in it and he was in this relationship. But if you think I’ll help, how can I do it if we still have a lot of friends in common?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 14, 2016 at 5:46 am

Hi,

well, if you didn’t do no contact and you remain talking to him, do you think it will prevent him from dating another girl? or it would push him further?

For me, it’s a risk you have to take because nc has more benefits for you than staying and trying hard to get him to stay.
We can’t assure you that he will certainly be back but yeah, I think it’s rebound.
You can do it, just don’t mention it to your friends and don’t talk to him.. even if you see each other in church, don’t talk to him.. you can talk to your friends but don’t start a convo about him

Platinum

February 13, 2016 at 7:53 pm

Hey guys! I have a question regarding the infographic. The time in the image represents the amount of time that has passed after the breakup, or the amount of time that an ex is in a rebound relationship?
My ex and I were together for 1 year and 7 months, but he broke up with me 6 months ago. During the time we were together, we had a lot of good times and awesome memories, as well as first experiences together. We rarely had fights and we were very close and intimate. I have no idea if he’s seeing someone or if he’s in a new relationship, so, given that, if I find out that he’s with someone new, could that relationship be classified as a rebound?

Platinum

February 14, 2016 at 2:42 pm

Okay, Amor, thanks for the reply. I wanted to know just in case it happens. I’m not even sure if I want him back anymore, hahah. We haven’t talked for almost 2 months because of a misunderstanding that made him act like a jerk towards me. Before that, he would flirt with me occasionally, and it would get quite… well, sexual.
But I’m not that emotional anymore, since I’ve had a lot of time to heal. He had his chat on facebook turned off for me, but I think he turned it on again last Friday (not absolutely sure, but I saw him online for quite a while, then he went offline). He went “soft blocking” on me, but then “unblocked” me. I don’t know if you remember my case, it’s not the first time I talk about this here, so I might sound familiar. 🙂 Anyways, I haven’t heard from him yet, despite the possible unblocking. He hurt me, so I decided I wouldn’t reach out first. I don’t need that, and I’m definitely not a doormat. Plus, I also needed time to study for the exams I had after that mini-fight.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 15, 2016 at 11:20 am

That’s rigt! Books before boys hahaha!
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 14, 2016 at 5:38 am

Hi Platinum,

nope not anymore..

janine o.

February 9, 2016 at 6:19 pm

We broke up last summer after two and half years of being together (he left me because of not feeling the same way any more, and yes, for quite some time I had not been quite myself because of big changes in my life, and did not see the way out of my “misery” or how to ask for help) but he moved out a few months later. In between he was already once confused whether he should be moving out at all.

A couple weeks after he left we started to try this friendship thingy, occasionally hanging out, watching a movie etc. That turned into us having sex, spending weekends full of lust together..Just to relieve the pain and loneliness. In November we kinda tried to cool it down and by the end of the month I went on a date with someone else, it didn’t work out but I let him know about it anyway (in a nice way, for honesty’s sake). Then we spent one more weekend together and suddenly, a week later, he told me he met someone.

Now, from what I know, they’re all over each other, spending all the spare time together.. Seems like they’ve been moving pretty fast. It’s been about two months since they first met and I’ve heard from other people that half the time they basically live together and the rest of the time they’re constantly texting etc.. He personally has not been bragging about his new relationship, that’s really not his style.

I’ve seen him a couple of times now that he has this new relationship going on. He has said something along the lines that he’s very delighted that we can still be friends. It seems that we can have really good time together yet otherwise it appears that the new girl is the sole center of his world. I am doing really good and basically my life is back on track now. The thing is, I really feel the thing we shared was so good, we definitely deserve a fresh start, but as of now it definitely isn’t going to happen. And it’s difficult to know whether it’s a rebound or not, so I feel kinda lost. What do you think, is there any hope for me whatsoever?

Janine O.

February 18, 2016 at 4:35 pm

Thanks Amor. But do you think I should just sit back and wait..? I really don’t wanna see them progress beyond the honeymoon, that would be a nightmare.. 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2016 at 7:50 am

if you can make yourself visible or present by being a good friend then at least you have a chance, just don’t go too much that you will become a threat to their relationship, because of the girl sees that and the guy agrees he will distance himself bit if the guy knows that’s not your intention, he will defend you and see the other as just being jealous
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 11, 2016 at 6:54 am

Hi Janine,
It can be rebound at first but if they progess beyond the honeymoon, then that’s time whether they know if they are compatible or not

Chelsea

February 8, 2016 at 10:06 pm

Hi,
My ex and I were together on an off for 6 and a half years (on and off because of distance with University and travelling, but always loved each other). Our relationship starting falling apart and we started taking each other for granted, jobs got in the way and felt lost and unhappy with my career and I was sexually harassed by a colleague which shook our relationship as well. I planned to leave my job and move home, which would mean being a few hours from him, but it was always a temporary plan, I just needed to sort my head out and find out what I really wanted from my career. I think he felt that I was rejecting him. Whilst I was away on work for a month, he kissed a girl that he works with. I’ve met her and she was always overly friendly to me (and actually slept with one of my other close friends). He told me about this kiss straight away and said he only wanted me and no one else. I wasn’t threatened by her as she is a bit older and completely not his type. I was too hurt to think about it and I ignored him for a few weeks, when I came down to see him we had a pretty amicable break up where we decided that we ‘loved each other too much’ and ‘didn’t want to end up resenting each other’ and we ‘always wanted each other in our lives’. It was lovely and we both cried and I felt it was the right decision. We spent the night together and it was wonderful. About 2 weeks after this I realised that it was a mistake, I contacted him and he disagreed. I obviously acted out of character for a while after this, probably seeming needy and desperate to still be friends when all I wanted was him back. Anyway, a month down the line I asked him about her and if anything ever came of it and he said no. A few months later his best friend told me that they were sleeping together. They started 2 weeks after we broke up. He’s never lied to me before. We argued and I didn’t talk to him for a month. He contacted me over Christmas and we talked like old times and he bought me presents and I stupidly let myself believe that they might be over. Its now been 5 months since we broke up and he still contacts me regularly. He tells me how wonderful I am and how I’m going to ‘go great things in life’. I’m so confused about what he wants from me. I’ve decided to stop contact again as its just confusing me and not letting me get on with my own life right now. None of his friends like this new girl but he doesn’t seem to care. Should I just give up on this completely.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 9, 2016 at 10:08 am

Hi Chelsea,

Well, I cannot just tell you to give up if you really don’t want to give up. I think you’re confused because you think they are still sleeping together right? And if that were true, how would you go about this your decision? If it is a non negotiable for you then stop contacting him. But if it is something that you think you can work out, then you really have to be strong for this. Because she’s a coworker and she will always be there near him.

Kimmy

February 6, 2016 at 7:36 pm

Hi I put a comment on here a few weeks ago but can’t find it so I don’t know it you replied. Basically I was with my ex for almost 4 years and we split up 8 months ago. He split with me because I couldn’t commit to him (marriage) and he thought I was just stringing him along. I went through a really bad relationship in the past and can’t commit and have a fear or rejection. Anyway he broke up with me…He later said he just did it to see if i would chase him. I went my usual stubbornness and didn’t give in and when he text I responded generally and didn’t give any indication to missing him or wanting him back even though i did want him. At this time I was having a very stressful time with work and ended up in meltdown and took a few months off with sickness. During this time and with the help of counselling I realised that I really did want to commit to him and that my past was putting a barrier up to me giving that commitment. His messages became less and less taking a few days to respond. I asked him a few times to talk but he didn’t give in. Out of the blue he called me late at night before Christmas (drink taken) we talked for an hour and he told me he still missed me but also told me he was seeing someone from 1 month after we broke up. He also said that he was shocked to hear that i hadnt been with anyone as he was sure I’d be the first to move on. I was devastated by this news and the next day I text him to say that it hurt me to hear his voice and brought back too many memories and that I did not want to jeopardise his relationship and that I would delete his number. He said he didnt remember much of the previous nights conversation but that he had happy memories with me and ended the next 2 texts with xx. I decided to do no contact for 30 days and ignored 2 texts he sent during this time including a birthday text. Followib your guideline chris I contacted him 2 weeks ago after 35 days with a funny text and he replied. I sent another text 3 days later mentioning a happy memory we had. He didn’t respond until 3 days later and it was a general reply and he hoped that I could make my own memories in the future. We text back and forth for a bit and then he asked if I was seeing anyone. I told him that I had met someone but we were only talking other dating yet. He replied that his heart skipped a beat hearing that news. Then he rang me out of the blue and we ended up talking for a few hours. I eventually told him my true feelings and of how my past stopped me ever declaring my true feelings for him and how he was the best thing ever to happen to me. He seemed shocked and said he wished I’d have told him sooner. He said that he was happy now and trying to make a go of things with his current girlfriend but that he often thought about me and the good times we had. We ended the conversation because it was late and the next day we had a few jokey texts back and forth and he sent me a few texts asking about my new male interest. That was 3 days ago and I haven’t heard from him since. I text him today saying I was sorry for offloading on him but that I felt I had to tell him. That was 8 hours ago and he hasn’t responded. Do you think that I should give up as obviously this must not be a rebound or if I should give it another go and if so how do I go about it.

Kimmy

February 9, 2016 at 6:47 pm

update is he text back today after 3 days saying he was glad im in a great place and that i have other areas of my life sorted. He also said we both deserved happiness and that he hoped i will find mine, he said hes in a good place too and want to enjoy it. He ended the text by saying he will catch you again sometime. So that’s it I guess that’s the final nail on the casket. Theres no response i feel i can give to his text. I’m totally devastated by this but will try to accept and move forward. Thanks again for your help.
Kimmy

February 8, 2016 at 12:13 am

Thanks for your advice. I will try and go non contact for a while again. He lives 1 hour away so I don’t know anything about his girlfriend so I can’t use knowledge to my advantage. I will just hang in and hope for the best.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 8, 2016 at 9:49 am

You’re welcome Kimmy! You can do it.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2016 at 3:04 pm

HI Kimmy,

actually I think there is still a chance, though small but I think he still has feelings but the other girl is great too.
This is a risk but I’d rather feel rejected than regret.
You have to appear non threatening to them, it’s like being friends and then being great too but not seeming to take him away from her. It’s to create that desire in him that he wants to be back with you while he knows you’re not being too pushy about it too. So, now, you’ve texted, you have to wait again for a few days if he doesn’t reply. But basically that’s it, you have to build connection again, and wait until they’re basically rocky(which will mostly likely be because of you when he starts to feel more for you) but during that time, you just continue being amazing and non-obvious that you’re trying to get him back. It’s like you have to appear to be the better choice without him thinking that that’s your intention in the first place.

Vannah

February 3, 2016 at 2:37 pm

Hi Chris,
So this is going to be a bit of a rough story to follow. So here is my best attempt of shortening it. Two years ago I started talking to this older guy, he didn’t take me seriously, and I knew that so I let him go. A month or so later his younger brother started talking to me and we became really close and good friends. Well one night we were hanging out and he kissed me. From that point on for three months we kept it a secret, but he would come visit me at college and what not. Well one night he finally told his brother that we liked each other and his brother told him that it was fine, however he later called me and flipped on me about it. Once that blew over we were great. The younger brother and I broke up just at the end of December, a few months later I saw the older brother again and mistakingly hangout with him a few times. Around May the younger brother came back into my life and I felt guilty so I told him, he was mad for a day and then we talked about it and he decided to give it a try. Well a few weeks passed and I was wishy-washy so I kept leaving and coming back, until I started talking to someone new. I transferred back to my hometown college, which the younger brother also attended. We ended up having a class together and then my feelings came rushing back tenfold. I decided to try talking to him again and working things out with many apologies and he just wasn’t having it. Well I found out he was talking to one of the girls in our class, which made me jealous of course. I kept trying to apologize and get back with him, and he kept thinking about it as well until one day he told me he couldn’t and that we should just stop trying. Well we didn’t talk for a week, but the next Friday night he messaged me and told me how he’s not happy and he really does miss me. He came over and stayed. The next day we talked about it and he said he was gonna stop talking to the other girl. Well also that day his best friend got into a car accident and, RIP, passed away. So he was completely crushed and didn’t wanna hurt the other girls feelings during that time. Granted he told me repeatedly that they barely talked and weren’t together-together. Well towards the end of the month, I saw the girl tweeted that she had the best boyfriend ever. During this time he would sit next to her in class but would act odd. So with him telling me that they were serious and he thought she was trying to get back with her own ex, I was in denial. Anyway, I saw her tweet and asked him if they were dating, he said “Basically, yeah” and I FLIPPED. I messaged her, but he asked me not to tell her and he said that he would. After all this he apologized to me and was once again back at my house.
After all this, the girl hated me, and I finally went to talk to her face to face. I explained that I really didn’t know and she said she understood and that its him she’s mad at.
So from October to December the guy had left me and then came back to me like every two or three weeks he would decide that he just couldn’t do it and that knowing I went back to his older brother was hurting him. Well we got back together before Christmas and even went on a weekend trip. For Christmas I went all out and he even got me a ring and necklace. THE DAY AFTER he comes to me and says the same thing about not being able to get over what happened between me and the brother and ended it. So about two weeks later and a week after we started our classes again, which I have him and the ex girlfriend in again, he messaged me about an hour before class saying how he wants to switch his class to another one because he’s hurting. Well I said how that wouldn’t help anything and he agreed. So he went on to tell me how much he misses and loves me and wishes he could forgive me. After a few replies I finally just went to sleep. The next day I replied late in the afternoon before I went to work. I can’t have my phone so when he did reply he asked if we could talk in person, 30mins later he sent never mind, 2 hours later he sent something along the lines of “I was just gonna tell you that I was gonna try and forgive you.. but okay, I hope everything goes well for you.” I replied when I got off and explained that I didn’t have my phone, so we talked later that night and ended up back together.
This time he was completely different, he was nice and loving, where last time it was me giving my all and him just being there. So I thought things were going to be different.
One day he said that we needed to talk and I was about to flip again. It was only about me having an ex on snapchat and how he wanted me to delete him. Well I told him he was going to have to delete the ex that was in our class. He said he had no problem with deleting her because he had a bone to pick with her. He said that she had been talking bad about him and his friend and when he was done talking to her he doubted shed still want to be friends.
About a week later he came to my house and brought me a milkshake because I was sick. He was fine at first until he hit me with the whole older brother situation. He said how he wanted to know what happened because when I first told him in May he walked away and wouldn’t listen. That he thought it might help him get past it. Well I told him I went four time and the extent of it. HE FLIPPED. He left without letting me say another word. I tried calling and texting a million times that night and the next day. He finally sent me a message saying how he wasn’t going to forgive and how I was the prime example of what to avoid in his life. (Hateful)
Well the next day I was on my way to my grandparent and saw him running around this lake in town. My grandma told me I should go try to talk to him, and I did. Didn’t end well, he drove off and then sent me a message basically telling me to move on that he would too, and that he wouldn’t talk bad about me and that he wouldn’t try to get even. So all I said back was “Not what I want, but I’ll respect your wishes.” he sent me another about an hour later and said “And so help me if I see you around my family.” To which I replied “No need to threaten me, I’ve learned from my mistakes.”

So the next night we had class. And to my surprise he was talking to his ex like they were friends again. I FLIPPED. Well the next week, which was just this Monday, I went to class an hour early and saw him in his car, with the ex. And in class they talked even more and even walked out of the class together. I am pretty sure she’s a rebound, it had only been a week or less.

Last night he came into my job at a retail store, which he knows I always work Tuesday and Thursday nights there. I greeted him and took him where he needed to go and walked off. I guess after he left he messaged my best friend and asked her if he could bring her a pair of shorts and a t shirt that he didn’t think he wanted to keep since they weren’t his. The shorts were my brothers and the shirt was one of my t shirts he borrowed when he stayed one night. He took them to her house and all he said is “Its not much, i think the shorts are her brothers” and laughed nervously, she said. Then he left.

I know this is a long, and very confusing story, as well as messed up in many ways. Let me just say I am not the same person I was when I went back to his older brother, I was always going out and drinking and being selfish. I changed when I decided that I wanted him back and realized just how in love with him I really am. We have this connection that I have never felt with anyone else. These past few months I have been through hell trying to be with the younger brother. I have tried so hard and given it my all. He knows I have too. He’s just a very angry person. He asked a question he really didn’t want the answer or need the answer to. At least I was honest, but it got me know where. I am really losing it. I don’t know what to do.

I guess my question is, is he doing all this to make me jealous and get back at me? Is she a rebound? Is it really over or do you think he’ll come back again? I know I probably shouldn’t take him back if he does since its been 5 times, but when you’re in love, its hard to think straight. I know that if we could just get past everything we would be extraordinary.

Im not sure if he’s really with the other girl or if he’s just making it look that way, because she hates me, I feel like she really would go along with it to hurt me as well. I see her tweets and she doesn’t put anything obvious, which I feel like she would if they were together. She would also be dumb, because she knows we were just together and plus he cheated on her the entire time they dated with me. What confuses me is why he came in the store I work at knowing I was there, he knows my car, and my basic schedule. But then to take my stuff back to my friend, just makes me unsure. He talks way more in class than usual and just seems to be doing things to get to me. We have class again tonight, which I am dreading.

Like I said I know I sound crazy and that I should have never went back to the older brother. it was the biggest mistake I have ever made and I wish I could take it back.

I just know that we really do love each other, and that our relationship is one of a kind, messy, but one of a kind. And to be clear, we first started dating in 2014 and we’ve gotten back together a few times and ended because I was unsure. But then when I was, was when all this mess started happening.

Thank you.

Vannah

February 4, 2016 at 1:36 pm

Hi Amor,

It was somewhat romantic, but emotionless. It was a bad decision and like I said I was a different person at the time. I told him it was, he actually knew it was romantic the first time I told him I went back to his brother, but I guess it mattered how many times I went over. In my eyes though, if I am going to forgive someone for something Im not going to keep bringing it up and asking questions. Maybe thats just how guys are though. Either way, I was honest.
I haven’t talked to him for whats about to be two weeks already. I don’t show that it bothers me in class that he’s doing what he’s doing. He hasn’t tried talking to me either. The only time we have talked was when he came to my job and that was professional and I treated him like any other customer.
Last night in class, he came in late, but his ex never came so I’m not sure whats up with that. After that class he has his lab so he’s supposed to go upstairs, but he walked out to the parking lot with his friend, behind my friend and I. I think it got to him to hear me laughing and joking in the parking lot, which I kind of over did, but not too much. Haha. Anyway, as soon as I got in my car and started backing out he started walking to go back inside. PERFECT timing because I had to stop at the cross walk and let him by. It really did seem purposely done.
It seems like he is really just trying to get under my skin, which I guess is a good thing, right? I’m not begging him back like I would before, and I am not showing how hurt I really am. So I think he’s going crazy because I am not giving him the reaction he wants. Even if 21 days nc goes up, I probably still won’t try to reach out, the night he drove off when I tried to talk to him, ruined any chances of me trying again. I felt dumb. But then again, I guess its also a pride thing..
He is a very emotional guy towards me, so the little things he does I take them as signs. He told me once before he would drive by my office so I would hear his vehicle when he ended things a few months back. So to some I might be overthinking he’s actions, but then again I might not.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 5, 2016 at 6:32 am

I agree with you, if a person trulu forgives they would not bring up the issue again
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 4, 2016 at 12:02 pm

Hi Vannah,

Your story has a lot of flipping going on both sides! 🙂 But when you hang out again with the older, you just hang out right? You weren’t really romantic? But of course even so, in the younger brother’s mind, it’s a different case. The good thing about this is you’ve already told the whole truth and I agree that the girl is rebound. It was too quick and he’s hurt. For me, don’t say too much, don’t flip again at him, I think he’s having second thoughts because he went to your shift. I also think you should do 21 dys nc. Since, your classmates, that means you don’t talk to him, look or glance at him unless it’s about the lesson, class or school. But don’t talk about the relationship. If he wants to say something, and he approached you, let him speak, listen and agree and then leave. In short keep your distance but don’t be rude. And don’t reply to his texts for 21 days.

Lorice

February 3, 2016 at 9:44 am

Hi Chris,

I have been dating this girl for over 3 years. It was a long distance relationship, with us seeing each other once a year ( a month each year). Last year in November, I visited her in her country and proposed to her. She accepted and we got engaged. Then i moved back to my country planning to come back so we can prepare for the wedding and finally be together forever. Just a week after I moved, we had a misunderstanding. I flew back to her country to talk with her and clarify things up. We were back in good terms and I returned to my country. We kept talking to each other every singly moment, talking about our wedding plans etc. Then on the 26th of January, she told me she needed space, time and she wanted to be free. On the 28th, she told me it was over and that she had met someone else few days back ( 3 days before the break up). She said she was tired of waiting, tired of being lonely and she needed someone next to her. She wants to be happy and this new guy has been taking great care of her and she thinks she has feelings for him. I was and I am still devastated. I love this girl so much and for the 3 years that we were together, I never hurt her in any way. Is this a rebound relationship? Will it last?

Lorice

February 10, 2016 at 8:20 pm

Hello Amor, Thanks for the reply. We had picked a month for the wedding. We picked April 2016 as the month. I still can’t grasp the speed at which she transitioned from me to this other guy she claimed she met 3 days before the break up and bragged how the guy is taking good care of her and she is very happy now. Well, I’ve decided to go No Contact. I haven’t contacted her for 5 days now. Somehow I feel that someday along the line, she will contact me and say she made a mistake. But for now, I’ve decided healing is the best option for me, while wishing her well.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 3, 2016 at 3:47 pm

Hi Lorice,

I am sorry to hear that. But was it clear to her that you were just preparing for the wedding? Was it not clear how long you are preparing for the wedding? Have you talked to ger about this? I think it may be a Grass is greener case.

Chelsea

February 1, 2016 at 2:35 am

Hey,
I think my ex is in a rebound relationship
I was with him for 5 months and thought we had two meaningless arguments we stayed togheter and we went through alot of things that usual couples dont go through until years. What i would like to know is how long can this rebound last because not so long ago we saw each other and he was acting and kissing me like he missed me, and then last week i found out he got into a relationship…i wont do anything crazy n i did the no contact rule which really helped but i think im going to do it again because i know it sounds weird but i love this guy so much and i know he is my soulmate! There is nothing that can change my mind…when i see him happy im happy he is so perfect. I know many might think im craz but i actually had a dream about him when i was younger and it came true..now to me thats incredible , im sure he is in a rebound relationship becuz its been three months and either way we saw each other once each of those months n every time we did i saw it in his eyes..i saw something that told me stay with me…he even told me to stay with him the last time i saw him but i couldnt…i wrote him letter it was 50 in total from the day we broke up until new years n well i gave them to him i dont know if he is reading them but i hope he is. Everyone tell me we looked so happy n we were and the reason behind our break up was the 4-5year age difference which i dont think matters but he is afraid my father wont accept him. I love him more than i have loved anyone else n im glad he is happy unlike me but i was in a rebound relationship which makes it fair he is in one bt mine lasted two weeks and we didnt even kiss it was just holding hands because i realized i cant be with anyone else..he is the man of my dreams i love everything about him i know him so well.., and im positive his new gf doesnt know much about him..she claims to love him but i know she cant love him when she doesnt even know him…she even friend requested me on facebook to try n look at my information and probably try to figure out why we broke up and i dont care, as long as at the end of the day the love of my life comes back to me and realizes he broke up with me for a silly cause though i know and understand his worry i feel like love should have no difference and i know my father will understand!❤️ Hope u can answer my question

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 2, 2016 at 12:00 pm

Hi Chelsea,

It differs in every situation but if you see each other often after nc and develop a connection again, there’s a chance he will realize it earlier.

Daiana cardona

January 29, 2016 at 5:08 am

Hi, my exbf and I broke up a month ago. He started to hang out with her a week after we broke up. 4 days after we broke up he sent me an email telling how much he loves me and that its a very deep deep love. A month later he started to date someone and posted on fb she looks much different than me and looks like someone that he wouldnt date or its his type. I saw that he added her on fb only two weeks after we broke up they dont know each other that long… I have to go to this party and i know he would be ther… How do I act towards them especially if i want him back?

Daiana

February 10, 2016 at 5:18 pm

Hey, after a week i started to hear from his bestfriends that he didnt know what he was doing or why he was with that girl, he also told them how he still had strong feelings for me. Then, two weeks after he changed his profile picture on fb with her and her mom. We havent talked, or seen each other, just because i dont wanna look like the crazy exgf trying to get him back. I still want him back though. Our relationship was awesome, at the end thigs were falling apart because i was stressing him out a lot. He has to give me some stuff and i have to give him some stuff too. I dont have the balls to text him to bring them back to me, also if he didnt want to deal with me at all, why havent him just bring them to me already? I wanna see him but i dont feel ready to text him and tell him to bring me my stuff.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 1:53 pm

HI Daiana,

Be in your best look and don’t be all over him. Keep the mystery but when he approaches talk to him but not about emotions and your relationship. Keep it fun. Then walk away. Mingle. Don’t just stay with him throughout the course of the party. Go to a group so when he approaches again, you’re not stuck with just him. And I think this post can help you too. Seduction 101: How To Seduce Your Ex Boyfriend
Daiana cardona

January 29, 2016 at 5:11 am

I meant to say 4 days before we broke up he sent me a long email expressing me his feelings and how he wanted to marry me. Hes not the type pf guy who rushes into things

Freddie

January 28, 2016 at 1:00 pm

Hi Chris,

I’m writing you from Croatia, you know why…
I was reading your web page, and I need your advice. This is my situation with my ex, in short.

We broke up last March after we got into a fight again (we were fighting a lot during the last 6 months of our relationship) after almost 7 years we spend together, and engaged.
He left me, and the next day he apologized and wanted me back again. He actually did that many times when we were together, almost every time he wanted to do something I didn’t want. And every time I was still there.
Just want you to understand, he is a really good guy and he was good to me, but I was his first serios relationship, and he took me for granted because he knew I’ll be there always for him.

So this time when he broke up (this is actually the only time we broke up for serios) I didn’t want to forgive him. I was so pissed and mad at him and I said it was enough of that.
At the same time, I was having a hard time at home, my dad was fighting with cancer and newly discovered brain mets and I just needed some peace from fighting with my bf.

And so he begged me to come back to him, in the next few months, he realized his mistakes and what he lost. We talked, but I was telling him that I need time without him, that I need peace, and that we don’t have the future together.
Even though I still loved him, I was cold as ice, and he was trying and doing pretty things for me like he never did before. And I was still mad at him and cold.

He was with me when my dad died in September, and tried till the end of October to get me back, but I was still cold. I was in pain because my dad died, and during that time I just couldn’t think about us.

During this 7 months, we were in contact all the time, we saw each other from time to time, but as friends, there was no physical contact between us.
And we entered into no contact period that lasted from end of October until Christmas (it was just happy Christmas from both sides).

I hurt him so much, and I was cold as glacier (he told me so) and he was totally lost since we last talked. In the end of November, he met a new girl (only month after we stopped talking), and one month later he took her to stay at his house for weekend (he lives with his parents) for his birthday.
I saw pictures on Facebook, and I felt jelaous and mad at the same time, but I said nothing to him.

They went official on January 17, and when I saw this it hit me like a rock, because I thought I don’t care for him that much any more. I thought wrong.
The next day he texted me for the first time after we stopped talking. We were texting for some time and than he called me from work and we were talking like we used to, before all the fighting started between us, and it felt really good.

And during the past week, we were texting a lot, we again got into a fight because I was hurt when he told me that he is the best to his new gf, and that he is trying to be the best for her.
I told him how I feel, that I still love him. This weekend she was again at his house, and od Sunday evening he took her to train (she lives in another city) and then called me to meet with him.

We met again this evening and talked for 2 hours, and cried both of us, and he told me that he has moved on, that he likes her and that she is in love with him, and that he doesn’t want to be a bastard to her and leave her, but he still cares about me.
And if he only knew that I still love him, he would wait for me until I recover from everything that happend during the past year.

We weren’t together that evening, he didn’t cheat od her, and I don’t want to do this to her. We were just talking and crying.

After I told him how I felt, and after we talked about our brakeup and everything that went wrong, I told him that I love him and that I will not interfere between them, that he must decide between us. He said that he is with her, and that he doesn’t want to leave her because he is inlove with her.

And I said ok, there’s nothing I can do about that. I don’t want to beg him to come back, I don’t want to interfere between them, but I do love him and want him back.

The next day he texted me again, and we talked just like in the old times. He called me for pizza, and we went yesterday, and it was really good.
We talked about what was going on with us during the last months, we laughed, we remembered some of the happiest memories from the beginning of our relationship, he told me I look pretty. It was just like in the good old times.
He still loves me, he told me so, and I saw it in his eyes, in the way he looked at me, but he is in love with this new girl, and she is really pretty, and i think the opposite to me.

When he went home, he took my hand and kissed. And then we were again texting all evening about the handball game that was yesterday.
Next week I’m taking him to pizza because I promised a few months ago, and after that, I will stop seeing ant texting him.

I can’t be his friend, I don’t want to be, I love him, but he doesn’t want to hurt his gf and leave her, and so I decided to take a step back and let him be happy.

I need your advice, what should I do, I want him back but I want him to want me back. And I don’t know how.

Thanks for any advice, and sorry for a long message I wrote.

Freddie

February 11, 2016 at 11:25 am

I feel the same way.
I told him everything, I told him that I love him, if he really loves me he’ll eventually come back.
If not, then he do not deserve me and my love.

I’m working on myself for a while now, after all I went through last year, and I do not want this situation to return me to the beginning. My dad was my hero, he was the best person I ever met, the best father, and all of this is nothing comparing to all that he went through his two year fight with cancer. And every time when is hard, I just remember him and his fight.

I am happy and optimistic person, I’ve always been and I will remain happy and optimistic.
After all, he not the only one in the world, maybe one day I will find love again, I hope so. 😉

Thank you so much for every advice 🙂
Freddie

February 10, 2016 at 1:17 pm

I told myself that I will not suffer, and if I meet someone new that I will give myself the chance.
That’s how long it mean to wait. This can happen in two days or in two years, it doesn’t matter.
I will not look for someone new, I’m not that kind of person, but if I meet someone new and fall in love again, I’ll give a chance to a new relationship.
He is not the only one in the world and I’m not his toy.

But at this point, I love him still and I’d like another chance. I do not want to force him and I won’t let him to play with me.
That’s why I’m not even sure what to do and whether to do anything or just let time do the work.

I know he still loves me, we had a wonderful love, and I know he feels something for her, but I’m not sure whether it’s love or he is just inlove with her. They are together for about a month, and they met 2 months ago.

Thanks for any advice 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 11, 2016 at 10:27 am

Then it’s better if you focus on yoir self growth now. If he really loves you, he’ll value you. But it’s more important that you love yourself
FREDDIE

February 9, 2016 at 9:47 am

Hi Amor

I met with my ex yesterday, we were together for almost 3 hours, walking and talking about everything.
And we talked about us again, I didn’t want to talk about that at all, but somehow we just did.
And he told me that he still loves me, he said just like this: I love you, but I love her too, I didn’t know that you can love two people at the same time.

And he was crying again, and he hold my hand again, and we hugged. I told him that I’m here, that I still love him and want him back, but I won’t do anything about that because he is in relationship. I put back my engagement ring and told him that this is the proof of my love for him, and that I will wear it until I meet someone new and move on for good.
I told him that everytime he see me with the ring, he will know that I’m still waiting for him.

After we went home, we were texting all the time and joking about some old times together, remembering good times we had, and than he become cold again and told me to move on, and to stop texting him messages like this.
I asked him if he wants from me to never contact him again about anything, and he said that he can’t said this to me (so he obviously wants to stay in contact with me sometimes).
He told me once again today to move on, and I sad I will, and that I’m fine and that world isn’t over because I’m not with him, and he said only good.

I forgot to say, I’m 29 and he is 31 years old, so we are not teens 🙂

What should I do from now on? I’m wearing my ring because this is the only thing right now I can do, and I want him to know I still love him when he see me, but what else?
What to do to make him realize that I’m the one he want’s to spend his life with? He said to me that he is thinking about me all the time, and he also said that he compares his new gf with me, but he loves her and he is happy with her.
He also said that maybe someday we will be together again.

What to do, I don’t know 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 10, 2016 at 12:31 pm

The question is how long are you going to wait for him?
Freddie

January 29, 2016 at 11:05 am

Hi Amor

Thanks so much for your advice.
I know he still has feelings for me, he said he’s sorry because all of that happend between us, and that if he doesn’t have a new gf we would be together again, but he just doesn’t want to hurt her.
And I understand that, it’s not her fault at all, and she showed up when he was suffering because of me.
And I don’t want to stand between them, I don’t want to brake them apart, I want him to realize that he still loves me, I want him to remember all the good things we had in our relationship, all that we’ve been through and to decide to get back with me.

We had a really good afternoon last time, and I know we will have a good one to next week, I’m calm and realistic, we said to each other all that we needed when we first met the other evening, and I don’t want to talk about that any more.

I will have a big smile on my face, like I had last time, and I will be happy, I want him to see me happy and calm, and I know this will be good.
But what to do next? I don’t want to text him all the time, and also I don’t want to be silent all the time. I’m not sure what to do after that. I don’t want to be annoying, but I want him to think about me all the time until he realizes that I’m the one he should be with. He is the man I want to marry, and we really had a beautiful love, I waited him for three years before we started our relationship, and I can wait for him again.

I’m aware that he could stay with her, that he could choose her, also maybe I will meet someone new, all of that can happen. My life is not over and I will not act like it’s over, life goes on with or without him, but I do love him and want to spend my life with him and I just don’t want to give up jet.

So what to do, how to act after we meet again next week? Right now, we haven’t heard since Wednesday evening, like I said, I don’t want to be annoying and push him away.

Thank you so much for helping me! 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 2:41 pm

You’re welcome! Actually,just
keep walking in the road of friendky-flirty texts. If he texts respond and hopefully he asks out again before you try to. If he doesn’t initiate after a few days, then you try to initiate.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 9:30 am

Hi Freddie,

Actually from what I see, both of you are acting like you’re rekindling the relationship but he’s not drifting apart from you because he doesn’t see that that’s what’s happening. If you want to get back with him, you don’t need our advice. You’re actually doing fine.

Your decision to step back is actually good, and better if you can make your last meet up very fun too. And I think you know what to do after that. But I think, since it’s been a long time since you last had this kind of relationship again, I don’t think NC will work. But you do need to take you actions with caution because if he thinks you’re actually aiming to break them apart, he will take her side. So, step back in a way that you’re not really going away, you’re just going to be cautious with your moves and not too hasty with it.

Ariela

January 25, 2016 at 1:13 pm

Me and my ex were together 3 years, we had a great relationship. Within the last 2 weeks he got insecurities about getting serious (like if i’m the only woman he’s going to fuck for the rest of his life), he got closer to a girl and broke up with me because he doesn’t know if i’m ”the one” and because ”he doesn’t love me like he used to”. Immediately after he broke up he already nailed her. We had sex twice after we broke up.. I know.. and I didn’t know he was already with the other girl. I then went into NC, when he realized I was ignoring him (he sent me a happy new year message, then when I didn’t reply, he was blowing my phone up for 2 days – didn’t hear from him since then), he made his relationship status with her public (fb). Two weeks after I bumped into his new girlfriend. The day after he deleted all our pictures on facebook, like we never dated. I realize he’s confused and she is only a way to keep him distracted. It’s been a month since we didn’t talk. Should I wait until they break up to briefly talk to him?

Ariela

January 25, 2016 at 1:14 pm

I forgot to mention I want him back, thats why i’m asking.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2016 at 2:43 pm

Hi Ariela,

What if they don’t break up immediately? The good thing is that you had a long relationship together. So, we know you got serious. You can initiate a test text after no contact.

Alexis D.

January 22, 2016 at 2:44 am

Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me after a 10 month relationship. The reason to his breakup was because he needed “to focus on himself , and is tired of being in a relationship” But yet it hasn’t been a week since the break and he’s already found a new girl and they are talking. Could it be a rebound?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 22, 2016 at 3:04 pm

Hi Alexis D,

I’m not sure, but it can either mean yes, it’s a rebound or he was suffocated in your relationship.

Jennifer

January 21, 2016 at 4:32 am

Hi my bf left me after a 1 year relationship and the next few days I find out he’s with someone else now I see them together and him at school and it kills me because how do you move on so quick or is she just a rebound? Help

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 21, 2016 at 12:26 pm

Hi Jennifer,

I’m sorry to hear that. It depends on when they started. If they started just after the break up it can be rebound.

Christelle

January 20, 2016 at 11:24 pm

Hi Chris!
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a couple of months ago. I did the NC for like a month and a half. By the time we meet up unexpectedly, he apologized and said that he wanted to be friends. We’ve been in good terms these past weeks until recently. Before we broke up, he’s been seeing this other ‘girl’ and he explained to me that they were friends. Yet I have this feeling that they’re already together. I mean they always do what we used to do before. Is this a rebound? It didn’t even took a month for them in the ‘getting along stage’. The ‘girl’ has been sending me messages like how great their day was. I had no idea how she got my number. Is it because she’s insecure of me? My ex-boyfriend is also keeping this to his family. He introduces her to his family as a friend. His actions are far different from his words.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 22, 2016 at 2:53 pm

Hi Christelle,

yeah it can be rebound and that girl is indeed insecure.

Rachel

January 20, 2016 at 8:44 pm

Hi Chris! My name is rachel and i’m 21 and my ex is 23
So here’s my story… i dated this guy for 4 months, i wasn’t feeling ok ( not with the relation) but with everything in general, i was having a bunch of problems at home and at work and i felt like i needed time for myself, instead of explaining what was going on i asked him for a break as in a few days a part. He agreed, I know he was hurt, but we agreed in being friends so we kept talking.
After a few days i asked to get back together but he said that he need time. I tried to give him time, but i thought he didnt wanted anything with me anymore, so i told him that it was better not to talk to each other anymore, he said no, that he didn’t want me out of his live, that he still wanted to be my friend. So we kept talking. Not a month went by and he started seeing a girl, i was hurt so, again, i tried to established the NC rule, which he denied, saying that he wants to be my friend that he still thinks about us, that he misses me.
I miss him everyday and knowing that he’s seeing this girl, even thou he said that he misses me, kills me so I for the 3rd time i tried the NC rule, which i was the one to break after 2 days. I asked him about the new girl and he said that he’s been dating her for 2 months now. We broke up in the end of October, 2015. He started dating her in December.
He said the relation became serious, that he also that he misses me and that he didnt forgot me. I asked him me for another chance, but he says that me trying the NC rule pushed him away. We used to skype and talk every night, i miss that and i still think that he’s going to call me every night, but he doesn’t which upsets me because i think that he’s with this girl. He says that he still talks to me more than he talks to anyone else.
Is this a rebound relation that he’s having? Is it even worth waiting? We were only together for 4 months but it was an intense relation, i shared way more memories with him than with a guy i was for a year. I feel sick every day since we broke up, i tried to forget him, but i can’t and i don’t know what to do anymore

Rachel

January 26, 2016 at 7:11 pm

so, yesterday, i had to call my ex’s shop to request an item for a customer ( we work for the same company but in different shops), and he was the one that answered the phone. He acted like he didn’t know me, didn’t ask how i was, the whole conversation was pretty much based on my customers request and nothing else. He soon texted me on whatsapp with updates about the item, again, he didn’t said anything else. I didn’t wanted to reply to his text but since it was work i had to. Does this mean that i broke the NC rule? I was upset that he didn’t said anything else and I feel that he won’t try any contact with me in the future. Besides that we haven’t been talking but it’s been less than a week, not even that. I don’t know if, after a month or so, i should be the one engaging conversation or not. We’re not friends on FB or any other social network so besides texting or skyping we don’t have any other way of contact so I don’t know what is going with his new relation
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 11:29 am

Hi Rachel,

no you didn’t break no contact because you only talked about work. You can initiate texting after NC, even if he didn’t text you during. I think it’s best of you read this to get more clarification.
Rachel

January 24, 2016 at 6:43 pm

I hope he’s just making me jealous, the way everything ended with was ridiculous. I will do that 🙂
Thank you so much for your reply!
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2016 at 11:32 am

You’re welcome Rachel 🙂
Rachel

January 23, 2016 at 8:09 pm

Hi!
I said I wasn’t going to talk with him but he kept insisting that we can still be friends. 2 days ago he said that his relation with this girl became serious and that he was dating her for 2 months which was right after our break up. He says that he feels guilty for what he did that we could have had a chance if I gave him space, which i did and it only drove him away to the new girl. Should I just simply stay away from him? We had a big argue for the last 2 days about what happened. Is it really serious or is he just using her to forget me? It makes me really mad that he never gave our relation a second chance and after a month he just started seeing this girl. Even when he was seeing her, he said that we still had a chance to get back together that he didn’t know what was going on, that he was confused. He also told me that he felt like i ambushed him by the way we broke up.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2016 at 2:13 pm

it looks like he’s making you jealous. If you’re not having a proper conversation again, distance yourself again until everything cools off.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 23, 2016 at 11:50 am

Hi Rachel,

Did you all permission to him before doing NC? or you just said, you’re not going to b talk to him for the mean time? Actually, if he really likes you, he had to make up his mind but if sees you’re just there no matter what, he won’t choose you.

Anonymous

January 20, 2016 at 12:58 am

Hey Chris,my ex and I were in a 8 month LDR. Distance was initally never a problem but he broke up with me bc of it. But then I found he broke up with me because of another girl. I noticed she came into the picture when we’re still dating and that’s when things started going downhill. He then started thinking how he couldn’t do distance anymore even thought we were so strong before she came in the picture. He started to think we had no future even though we had talked about future. Idk, i know this is a rebound tho. They’re not dating yet but have been talking a lot.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 21, 2016 at 3:51 pm

Hi Anonymous,

If she came in before the breakup, that maybe a GIGS case.(Grass is greener on the other side) It happens because someone new seems to be better than the previous. I think you should read this post. The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

chris

January 14, 2016 at 2:56 pm

Hi , we were in a long distance relationship used to meet every 3months(relationship period 1yr) my gf started asking me to marry her and i kept telling her i needed more time. She is gemini and recently she broke up with me on jan3rd for that reason and right when i was trying to explain her not to do it she started texting this guy for the first time and told me soon i would be bitting my fingers, she was so mad that she would listen or comprehend anything i was telling her. she went out on a date with this guy. I right away started(jan 5th) my NC period, its been 9days now and that guy is keep adding girls on his fb. On day 8th i emailed her ” admitting my mistake and told her she derserved all what she was asking me, i reminded her our good time. I didnt beg her to come back ” so my question is do you think she is in a rebound relationship?what are the chances of her coming back ? Btw she hasnt replied me back of my email. Iam gonna keep my NC period till the end of this month or maybe a bit more.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 16, 2016 at 5:20 am

Hi Chris,

Correct me if I’m wrong but, she broke up with you because you don’t want to get married yet and then she suddenly texts this guy and tells you soon you would be biting your fingers? If that’s the case, yeah it looks like a rebound or something to make you jealous but, the problem is we’re not really sure of that. The only thing we’re sure of, is you and her are not on the same page in the stages of your lives. She wants to get married, you don’t. About the email, it’s nice you agree she deserves what she wants but, if that’s about the marriage and you’re just saying that because you want her back but deep down inside, you know you’re still not ready, then better assure her of just how much you love her instead. The question is, do you want to marry her someday? Then tell her that too. Good things take time. But if you don’t see your future with her, then you better think twice on why you want her back. If you really want to do the NC, restart the count. Good luck bro!

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