498 thoughts on “You Broke Up With Your Ex Boyfriend And Now You Want Him Back”

  1. Sarah

    October 10, 2013 at 3:24 am

    Hi chris, i broke up with my bf for almost 4months now but i just did the no contact for about two months. We broke up in the summer, which for us is both getting away from uni, not seeing other that much anyway. Ive been dated this guy for almost two year since first year of college. Most of the time we argue is about his selfishness and priorities. I have to admit that i thought i fall out of love at the end of the relationship and told me ex that i think its going anywhere. Always same mistake he made and all he did was apologise but repeat those mistakes again and again. And one day i broke it off after found out he went clubbing without telling me. I knew while he was already partying. I got very angry and broke it off. A few days later he ask me back, we got back together for two days after I found out while we broke up. Theres this girl who has a crush on him invite him for an oversea trip and its all arranged. Again i cried and was very hurtful but he said y did i not trust him. Then we broke up. A week later i call to check him up how he is and stuff but he told me to stop calling as things will never be the same. He said he doesnt want us anymore. I got crushed and confused how he can change dramatically within a week. Apart from very attached to his friends he has lots of good qualities. I still cant forget him but i dont know where and how to start without looking desperate as he said to not reach out for him anymore. I did the no contact for like two months already and we both are back at uni but i havent seen him since then. Will i be able to get my ex back?

    1. admin


      October 10, 2013 at 6:03 pm

      Well after NC usually you are supposed to reach out and use the magic of text messages haha. Have you read the E-Book?

  2. kate

    October 3, 2013 at 8:05 pm

    hi, I was dating a guy for 4 months and everything sounded good all this time, he said to me that he wants marry me a couple times. a few times we went on small arguments about my colored contacts and opened toe shoes that he didn’t like on me. he asked me a few times to change my contacts because he wanted to introduce me to his parents; i had a reason for wearing them and i convinced him that as soon as i finish with them another 3 months i would never buy them again.
    he told me 6 times during this time that he wants to introduce me to his parents but all the sudden every time he would give me a good reason for cancelling the meeting. he also used to tell me at the beginning that he wants his parents to meet me but just because of the contacts that he doesn’t like on me and thought his parents may not like, he wouldn’t introduce me. last week i was texting to him and i said ” i think, i always pushed you to meet your parents and you didn’t want to” he said ” no, you should push me more cause i wanna marry you quicker.” so i said “if was suppose to happen it would have been already. and after afew more txts i said that we have 2 different mentalities and wont be good together.” he said” u made me upset …”that night we had an argument and broke up he was so upset and i said im joking but he didn’t believe. 4 days later i txted him and asked him to lets try to see if we can work it out but he said that he doesn’t want to and i have to delete his number on my phone. he said he doesn’t wanna marry me. he also said that he knows i went out with another guy and it didn’t work out that’s why i txted him again. i told him its not true and i promise i wont contact him again. do u think he will come back?? he always used to say that he loves me and wanna marry me.

    1. admin


      October 4, 2013 at 1:17 am

      I think it’s possible but it all depends on how you play the situation.

  3. Anna

    October 2, 2013 at 3:49 pm

    I didn’t say this with my comment but when we were talking and he was saying he still loved me and everything the only reason he didn’t breakup with his girlfriend and get back with me is because I was moving schools… And we wouldn’t really see eachother. But, he had called me that night telling me all this at random. That day he randomly text me and said he was gonna call me… And for valentines day I had given him a huge card and I wrote a lot.. He still has it. He kept it under his bed and read it everyday. He even read it to me on the phone… But yeah. I thought I should just say that.

    1. admin


      October 3, 2013 at 1:41 am

      So, have you tried the NC rule yet?

    2. Anna..

      October 4, 2013 at 12:28 am

      Yes. For 1 and a half months

    3. Anna..

      October 21, 2013 at 9:40 pm

      He just got his new girlfriend pregnant..

    4. admin


      October 22, 2013 at 2:25 am

      Well, maybe it is time to move on then…

  4. Anna

    October 2, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    Okay, I dated this guy for five months and I broke up with him. We planned on getting back together but never did cause he was gonna ask out another girl. Then, the summer came and he had this girlfriend but he was still talking to me saying he loved me and I was still his, he prayed we would get back together. But I didn’t budge because he had a girlfriend. So we stopped talking and then kinda talked a little later and then stopped talking completely since late August and its now October second. Which on the 30th will be one year if we had still been dating. I now have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend that he really likes, from what I can tell. But, i don’t know how, but I still love him. Yes I know it’s stupid for me to have a boyfriend too but we haven’t even done anything and I don’t want to break his heart we’ve been together for three weeks but he really likes me and I don’t think I do. Last night I followed my ex on instagram and he had a picture saying he was mad… Then when I followed him he deleted it and posted a picture of him and his girlfriend texts saying who loves who more. His caption was, my girlfriend is way better. ❤ And then today, Wednesday he put her as his woman crush Wednesday. Idk if he saw that I followed him and wanted to let me know that he is happy or what. But, I really want him back. I just don’t know what to do… Sorry this is so long.

  5. carrie

    October 1, 2013 at 6:38 am

    my ex and i broke up 5 months ago today we have done nc he asks my friends about me and gets tears in his eyes when he asked one of my friends about me yet he has not talked to me what do i do

    1. admin


      October 2, 2013 at 12:09 am

      If you have completed NC it is ok to reach out to him but I suggest you prepare before you do that. Grab PRO or read this site to prepare.

  6. Lola

    September 22, 2013 at 1:59 pm

    I know this is a long comment, but your time and feedback would be greatly appreciated… I broke up with my ex 6 days ago. We were together for 3 1/2 years. It hasn’t always been easy for us. When we started dating, he was 17 and I was 20. I’ve always had insecurities and trust issues, but we made it by the first two years ok despite minor rumors and whatnot. A few days after the mark of our 2nd year together, he broke up with me for another girl he went to school with. I was devastated and hurt to the core. Yet he denied actually being in a relationship with her and would kiss me, flirt with me, etc.. That fling lasted a little less than 2 months and he came crawling back after she dumped him. I took him back of course because I loved him and really wanted to be with him. 6 monhs later (late december), I started to get a little worried and jealous of the fact he had other females texting him often. He caught me looking through his phone one night and left my house enraged. A couple days later, I go to his house to reconcile only to find he wants to break up. In the middle of breaking up, he admitted that he and the girl he left me for months prior had oral sex. This hurt me so badly and it tore me apart to learn that I had not been his one and only b/c he had been mine. I left in tears, but we were back together again just a week later. When I asked him what it was like to be with someone other than me sexually, he tells me that he lied about it just to upset me and that nothing happened between them. I was relieved to hear it, but as time went by, I knew he wasn’t being truthful.. 3 months later, he breaks up with me yet again. This time, I was upset at the fact that another female from his job constantly called and texted him all the time. (And when I say all the time, I mean ALL THE TIME!).. (She also did this with his good friend who was in a long-term relationship with a girl whom he had a child with. They ended up spliting as well) My ex claimed “she and everybody” knew that he and I were together but he never would put his foot down and tell her to stop blowing up his phone all the time. So I felt the need to do it myself and I asked him for her number. He gave it to me all while trying to send me on a guilt trip about how she doesn’t have anybody but her daughter and crap, but he went back to her and told her not to reply back to me if I called or texted. The ending result was him breaking up with me and taking her side. Later I found that she constantly texted him making jokes about how he should be having sex with her and whatnot. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if something did go down between them after we broke up. Plus, I don’t know what would make her think she’s anything special if he would dump his girlfriend of 3 years for her. Does she not realize that if he’ll do that to me with her then he’ll do it to her with some other girl? Ugh, anyway… Two months later, we got back together (starting to see a pattern here?) Things started off a little rocky but it eventually got to the point of greatness. Then it went downhill. One day about a month ago, he came to my house. I had questioned his whereabouts b/c he was acting suspicious. So then he starts deleting text conversations out of his phone not realizing I’m at an angle to where I can see what he’s doing. He left the phone on the counter and went outside. I proceeded to look through his phone anyway and he walked in and caught me. He then put a password lock on his phone and then proceeded to leave. We argued lightly for a minute then he walks out and slams the door real hard. I go outside and we argue some more and I tell him to leave and I go back into the house. I was devastated and felt I couldn’t lose him over this. I went to find him and talk to him and we eventually ended up coming back to my house. He worked himself up even more and ended up punching a hole in the wall! Once he calmed down, we tried to patch up the hole as best we could. He apologized and we went on from there. 6 days ago, I asked him about his sexual activity in the past. He accidently admitted to the act that happened with the girl he left me for the first time after lying about it when we had gotten back togetherin January. After catching him in his lie and reminding him of what he originally said, he got angry. He got up, got dressed and took my promise ring back. I told him to get out and leave and I slammed the door behind him. He then kicks in my door (and caused damage to the frame) and walked toward me aggressively. I tried pushing him and backing away b/c I didn’t know what he was going to do. He then hugged me tightly as I sobbed on his shoulder. He said a few remarks and then left. Then as the days went by, he began to get sloppy with his compulsive lying and it finally caught up with him. I took off work last friday and when I went to his house, he wasn’t there. I tried to call him but I didn’t get an answer. So I asked his dad where he was and he said he went to help a friend move. Several minutes pass and he finally called me back. I asked him where he was and he lied saying he was out running errands for his dad. When I told him the story he told his dad, he started stuttering and couldn’t make up an excuse. He eventually got home moments later and his parents left so that we could talk. We worked it out, but then the girl who was constantly calling and texting months before had tried to call him, but he wouldn’t answer the phone in front of me. She then texted him after he ignored her call and still wouldn’t answer it in front of me. Then a random number called shortly after and he commented “damn telemarketers..” But I knew it was another girl he worked with who just so happens to be friends with the girl who constantly blows his phone up. I learned of this when I checked his phone a few days prior b/c she had texted him from that same number telling him he should “come hang out with us”.. I confronted him about this and he of course was upset like always b/c he doesn’t like confrontation. So I let him know how I felt about it and the I dropped it. But then he started doing things like leaving his phone in the car or hidden away somewhere else and that was the last straw for me. If you don’t have anything to hide, then why act this way and do things like this? He’s sneaky and shady and is always trying to hide stuff. So I got up the courage to be the one to end the relationship. I was tired of hurting, stressing, not being able to eat or sleep at night, and always wondering what he is doing when I’m not around. But now, I miss him terribly and I know it’s only b/c my heart still loves him and wants to see the good in him, whereas my mind is mixed up with thoughts of “you deserve better” and a lot of second guessing. I’d really like your opinion on this.. Thanks for reading.

    1. admin


      September 22, 2013 at 11:15 pm

      My opinion is pretty simple. You are really bothered inside by the situation.

      Have you started your NC rule yet?

    2. Lola

      September 22, 2013 at 11:50 pm

      We haven’t spoken via call or text, but we still go to the same church and I’m really close with his family still. In the couple of times we have spoken, it’s been face to face. I’ll be nice and say hello how are you and he’ll start talking to me like he always used to about the events of his day and whatnot. When I spoke to him today, we started talking about the break-up and he told me he was bored and lonely and also kicking himself b/c it was 99.9% his fault that we ended up breaking up. He’s never taken that much responsibility before so I was shocked. But other than that, we haven’t really talked since the break-up occurred..

    3. admin


      September 24, 2013 at 2:07 am

      Ok, I do usually recommend a period of NC after the breakup so how long has your NC been with him thus far?

  7. Jamie Edwards

    September 4, 2013 at 6:12 pm

    Jon and I been dating 3 years. On and off. He’s my daughters fathers cousin. Jerry springer moment…yes but jons a much better father figure. He doesn’t want to marry me or gave kids. That’s a negative thing for mW. He never trusted me. Always makes it seem like I do everything wrong he does everything right. He knows how to talk and I somehow don’t or I always believe what he says which doubts what I know. Its crazy complicated. The longest time we didn’t talk was a whole month then we got back together for 5 months. Now like usual always around this time for some reason we both single. Our last fight just A coupe days ago was about how he says I told you so and how he’s so glad all this horrible stuff isn’t happening to him. That set me off. I came out the room like a beast not proud my fave probably a super ugly and I pushed him… just to clarify he never laud his hands on me out of anger nor did I. He pushed me into the wall then I continued to scream get out of here and never come back. I had my own place he had his thankfully. A day goes by we don’t talk. I called him once he never answered then I didn’t call him back. This morning I gt a text I need to get my clothes. I responded come get them now or I can put them outside. He texts me put them outside. ……. my blood is boiling now. I respond back after I checked his fb which he blocked me from after our first break up from my sister fb. He’s now single? Why did that make me so mad??? I text him back about how he’s done treating mW like shit then found myself calling him 20x he never answered. Idk what to do or if I want him back I want him to miss me and want me. I did a lot of things that hurt him and he did stuff to me. Idk what should I do? Do I seem crazy

    1. Arta

      September 7, 2013 at 9:30 am

      my ex is my classmate at the university! we spent 4 great months together,but I felt that he was abusing me(sexual i mean) but actually he is not that kind of guy,it was just his feelings and that he was not experienced,he is too young! so we broke up,I broke up despite all the efforts he made to get me back,but we both knew that we were in love with each other,u know actually I could even convince him with my reasons!
      But after less than a month he started a relationship with a girl that was our mutual friend and the girl tried to get us back to each other when I was breaking up!
      Its been almost 6 months after we broke up!
      I still love him too much and I think he still likes me!(the only reason he went with her,was to forget me) what should I do now?

    2. admin


      September 7, 2013 at 11:54 pm

      When was the last time you had any communication with him?

    3. Arta

      September 8, 2013 at 7:49 pm

      I usually see him but not talking to him!
      I talked to him more than a month ago!

    4. Arta

      September 15, 2013 at 4:26 pm

      so,whats your advice?

    5. Arta

      September 10, 2013 at 7:09 am

      well,yeah…i think so!
      do you think he still thinks about me? because they even submitted their relationship on face book!

    6. admin


      September 11, 2013 at 1:50 am

      I am sure he thinks about you still!

    7. admin


      September 9, 2013 at 7:15 pm

      So, you have already kind of done your own NC rule?

    8. admin


      September 5, 2013 at 12:37 am

      Daughters Fathers Cousin hahahaha.

      NC is what you should do. You are seriously harming your chances by calling and texting him that much.

  8. Jessica

    September 4, 2013 at 2:21 pm

    My ex broke up with me and we have been dating for 2 years and married a little over one. And i lost my boy/girl twins on Aug.23rd 2013 and then 4 days later my ex tells me that she needs a break, and then the next day she moved out. for a few days i begged and pleaded with her to come home because i found out where she moved to she got bitten up by bed bugs and then she moved somewhere else with this family that works at her job. and she is sleeping on a couch with no food of her own or has any money because of this long story at her job with insurance. Anyways every time i told her i will no longer talk to her she would text me the next day after a while and say something nice and then we would talk then she would say she doesnt want to be with me and that she wants a divorce and blah. So then i say i wont talk to you anymore and then the same thing with her texting me after she sees i havent texted her and then she would be mean or something, well she asked to come over to grab some things from my house and i agreed because she had a few things there. And since she had no food i gave her food and before she left she gave me a hug and told me she loves me and sorry for everything. I accepted it and proceeded not to contact her. Then she texted me the next saying have a nice trip because i was going out of town and her mom told her, and while i was out of town yesterday she said she is taking me off the insurance from her company because she needs money and that was absolutely my last straw and i was upset at first and i showed her that, then i just did not care at all, and i said go ahead and take me off, and then i proceeded to tell her that i never want to talk to her or speak to her again and that when i get back i will need her to grab the rest of her things and thats it. she is still on the lease and she said that because she is that she was just going to grab the rest of her things and she wanted a reaction out of me and i said go ahead i really just dont care anymore and to stop texting me and she said okay. I plan on never talking to her again because she left me at the most hard time of my life after losing our babies. and she is the one that can not handle stress and we were arguing during my pregnancy and it became to much and then the job situation with her and then losing the babies. I just dont know what is wrong with her and why she is taking it to the extreme, but she said she wants the divorce and thats what im going to give her. But it went from needing space to breaking up and wanting a divorce. I am do the NC rule not because i want her back but because i need to heal and move on with my life and forget her and everyone says she will be back once she sees i dont need her. Has anyone went through a situation where their ex broke up with them and did everything drastically and then they decided it was a mistake and wanted to come back?

    1. admin


      September 5, 2013 at 12:26 am

      I am so sorry about your twins really.

      Yes there have been situations like that. You are on the right track with the NC rule.

  9. Angelica

    September 2, 2013 at 10:49 pm

    hi, i had been dating my boyfriend now my baby father for almost 3 years n i been knowing him for like 4 years.. well what can i say he is the man i always wanted i just never realized till now.. 🙁 i want to get him back i just dont know what to do i broke up with him because we had argue since his away in dallas and am in Houston. his the type of guy that never gave up on us every time that we fought he would always begg me to come back and write letter and gifts and all. now i dont know this guy he told me he was never coming back to me and he would still be responsable for our son but thats it, and if i wanted to text him or something it had to be about our son only. i really do love him and somehow i feel he does to i have letters he gave me n messages were he would tell me he was never leaving me… 🙁 i feel so guilty because i feel like is my fault, we had already plans of moving in together.. what do i do?

    1. admin


      September 3, 2013 at 3:24 am

      Have you read my post on LDR’s?

  10. Peyton

    August 28, 2013 at 11:50 pm

    Sorry this is SO long, but I really hope it’s read & replied to. So, 2 1/2 months ago… I broke up with my first love, first everything. We’ve been together since my 9th grade year of high school until my senior year of college (6 years) on/off. During our “offs” we’ve never got into another relationship. We’ve broken up more times than I can count on my hand, all implied by him. The longest we’ve gone is 3 months “NC” before breaking it & running right back into each other’s arms like nothing ever happened; however, this last time around I thought everything was perfect. Many of our past problems had been fixed… We were on cloud 9, for about 8 months. During this 8 months, we started on the process of building our first home on 42 acres of land. I spent months designing the blueprints. I thought OUR life together was soon to begin (we’d been planning on getting engaged in 2014), & he’d promised he was NEVER going to break up with me again. Well close to summertime “motorcycle” season started back up & his old ways of ignoring me & becoming disrespectful began again, so I became bitter & distant myself. Like, I was just shocked. One night we got into our first BIG fight this go around & he broke up with me, but I’m talked him out of it; yet, I just couldn’t let it go… My trust in the relationship lasting went away again & finally after he ended up saying, “You’re equal to my bike” I couldn’t handle it so I left him. 🙁 The first time I’ve initiated the breakup. At first, it felt ok, until he got a hold of my FB messages, one that was talking about a man I’d met while we were dating that I was thinking about possibly dating (mostly because I was lonely & wanted a rebound). I also said something along the lines of I left my ex because of this guy, which wasn’t to imply I left FOR him. He’d given me some advice that I took to heart that was part of the reasons I got the courage to walk away. Ever since he read that he wants NOTHING to do with me. He texted me telling me to leave him the heck alone & to lose his #. I’ve texted a few times since then with absolutely no responses. I’ve been so depressed ever since. I want him back, but I don’t want to chase him. I always am the one doing the chasing, & looks where it’s ended me up. So what do I need to do? I wrote an apology letter. I thought about giving it to him & then going straight NC, though I don’t know what I need to do with my FB & everything. MEHHH! Help. :/

    A very hopeless, in love woman </3

    1. admin


      August 29, 2013 at 4:20 am

      Honestly, I think you should go into NC for a while.

  11. Madison

    August 28, 2013 at 8:43 pm

    So me and this guy almsot dated for a year. Until I broke up with him to be with this other guy. My bf for almost a year, we had some problems along the way. We had a kid..but was lost. When I left him, it was okay until senior year came around and I saw him. I truly do love him, and were talking but he wants to know why I broke up with him before Friday..or he’s gone for good he said. I would love to tell him why..but the truth is I’m not sure. It was a stupid decision for sure! I don’t know what to say…advice? Help? Please..

    1. Madison

      August 28, 2013 at 8:45 pm

      And I do want him back, that’s why I’m asking!

    2. admin


      August 29, 2013 at 4:14 am

      Have you tried NC?

  12. Ven

    August 22, 2013 at 8:13 am

    I broke up with my boyfriend recently because i felt he wasnt intrested in me after being together for 2 and half years,we have been dating in long distance relationship but we were doing fine till this year when things got worse he kept saying that he is busy 24 hours cant spare even a minute to reply to my texts i felt i was abother to him so i broke up but i want him back coz i stil lve him

    1. admin


      August 23, 2013 at 6:23 pm

      Okay…. and you want him back? You didn’t really ask a question.

  13. Jessica

    August 21, 2013 at 7:54 am

    I was with my boyfriend for 5 months.. and during these times.. he sometimes didnt respect me which resulted me to kind of complain and stuff.. there was this one day where i broke up with him straight away because i was in america for 3 weeks.. then there was one day i just told him and then…. i didnt cry at all which was wierd and also was happy.. now i really want him back and i dont know what to say…. and really scared…. should i be the first one to ask him back? or never ask him and then wait for him.. because i do know he sstill wants me…

    1. admin


      August 22, 2013 at 2:36 am

      Well usually the first step to getting an ex boyfriend back is to start a no contact rule. Have you started yours?

    2. Jessica

      August 23, 2013 at 1:23 pm

      we already got back together.. typied a message to him.. and he replied I love you… but really.. my break up was a timeout.. so does that mean our anniversary goes back to the same as before since it was really a timeout instead of break up? i dont know if he knows this but i dont know how to tell him that i want to stay the same anniversary?

      i want him to respect me more… it seems like he doesnt put me in the important zone… what should i do?

    3. admin


      August 23, 2013 at 7:23 pm

      It will be a while before things get back to normal.

    4. Jessica

      August 25, 2013 at 5:21 am

      how about the anniversary??

    5. admin


      August 27, 2013 at 3:06 am

      What about the anniversary?

  14. Natividad garay

    August 10, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    I was with ex close to 6yr thing change went he start drinking
    he turn verbally abuse I end it our relationship has being 2yr I still in love with him I’m in a new relationship and he to I move out state I try to call him but I’m so afraid to hear he don’t love me any more I hang the cell and don’t talk I don’t. what to do.

    1. admin


      August 11, 2013 at 3:25 am

      Well, you are in a new relationship now and that complicates things….

  15. gloria

    August 8, 2013 at 10:56 am

    I broke up with my boyfriend. Because I thought the long distance was driving is away. I saw a status he made on a website and I asked him he didn’t want to tell me, he told me he didn’t want to tell me who it was about. Sso that triggered me into breaking up with him yesterday. and we have been together for a year and three months. He told me he cared about me and he loved me. and all this things to make it my fault I felt bad. I still love and care about him, and he does too. But now we have broken up is want him back. But I don’t know if he wants me Back. One thing I our relationship is he doesn’t trust me and thinks a cheating on which am not. Also likewise I think the same about him too. But he always tells me am not just like I alwaus tell him am not too. Am so depressed and I want him back
    because I love him and I know he loves me too. phasis

    1. karen

      August 10, 2013 at 12:02 am

      sorry to hear what happened to u Gloria..im going through a similar situation. i dated this guy for over 2 years..1st year we lived in the same city so it was great but then he moved to florida and used to see him on special ocassions or whenever we had time..my insecurity and jelously were so much that i broke up with him a few days ago. i didnt even give him a chance to talk to him and asked him to leave..now i miss him like crazy and keep hoping we would give me another chance..but i think its too late..he said he will never forgive me for kicking him out of my place and went back home. i know it hurts but maybe u just need to give him space and no contact him at all..its hard but maybe the best. i know how u feel. but maybe u need to move on like im trying to..even though i really wish he would come back to me. hope u heal from this pain soon..wish u the best

    2. admin


      August 9, 2013 at 4:18 am

      Hi Gloria,

      Have you tried anything like the NC rule talked about here?

  16. marry

    August 6, 2013 at 2:51 am

    My ex and I did long distance relationship for 3 and a half years seeing each other in the summer and on christmas last october I started getting tired of this whole sotuation I felt like gicing up especially that he was leaving for med school for 2 more years.things were dieing and I just wanted to jabe a normal relationship I needed someone in my life I was feeling so alone so after 4 months of confusion and taking breaks and he did mention meeting someone new but I thought he was just making me jealous I decided in march that ot would be best if we just went our seperate ways. Riggt after we broke up I felt like it was the biggest mistake ever so after 2 weeks I called him and wanted to get back together vut his parents stood in the way played alot in his head and he told me I gave u ur chance now I have to gove it to someone else so him and thay girl actually started dating and it got serious right away I kept texting him and I even went in may for 2 weeks to see him but he treated me like shit and his parents kept pushing him away and till now he’s stilk with thay girl should I just forget about him? Move on?

    1. admin


      August 6, 2013 at 3:55 am

      Have you done anything this page has suggested yet?

    2. marry

      August 6, 2013 at 10:28 am

      I thimk im too late tp start the nc rule I mean when we broke up in march I kept texting him all the time while he went to another relationship right away I even crossed oceans for him in may and stayed in contact woth him after I came back from this horrible trip where I saw a different person I always get weak and text him its been 5 months since the breakup so I dont think I have any chances left

    3. admin


      August 7, 2013 at 2:50 am

      It is never too late to start the NC rule!

  17. Jasmine

    August 5, 2013 at 5:43 am

    Soo One day we had this argument b/c he said that I talked to too many guys&&I stopped talking to all of them for him..but like 2wks later one of his side chicks inboxed Me on Facebook talking crazy
    &&I told him that he needs to choose between me&&the hoes. He said that he chose me but like the next day I called him&he didn’t answer so I left a voicemail saying that I loved him&&that he should call me back..&&he txtd me saying that he promised to call me later but..he avoided me fornine days straight. So when he finally did Txt me. Back I told him that it’s over! But I still love him..but I can’t deal with the sidelines b/c I want to be his one&only! Does anyone know how I can deal with this?

    1. admin


      August 6, 2013 at 3:02 am

      Start the NC rule and stay strong in it Jasmine. That means you can’t have any breaks and no matter how much he begs to talk to you don’t do it.

  18. ndawson

    August 4, 2013 at 10:37 pm

    I dated a guy for over a year. We are so perfect together. I did not mean to fall in love with him. He was going through a break-up from a 8 year relationship and I was the friend that stood by him and then we fell in love. He was living with me part-time because he was not in my home when my daughter was with me. My daughter, age 16, did not like him and then was able to get my whole family to turn against him after 3 months. We continued to date and was hoping with time we could work this out with my family. In December, he broke up the first time saying my family will never except him, that he can’t accept my love and that things moved to fast. Of course days later we reunited. The following month, I told him I wanted a commitment or I was walking away. That my family has to accept this and that he needs to decide because I was not wanting his back and forth excuses that it’s my family. My daughter was opening up and was giving him a chance. My family refused still. This past May he again broke up saying that he wants to be accepted by all my family. And a few days later he and I reunited. This past June he again was breaking away saying that there is no future because of my family. A few days later he asked to reunite because it was stupid to not be together because we love each other so much but just can’t get my family to accept us. At the beginning of July he then tells me that he still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend, even though she has moved on and wants nothing to do with him. He said he has always had those feelings and is having a hard time moving on. I immediately made the decision to break up with him. This is the first time I broke up. I was not going to be in competition for his love. His heart belongs to her even though he knows she does not want him. I didn’t want to break up but I wanted him to understand that it’s 100% me or nothing. I asked him to let me go and to not contact me. About 2 weeks went by and he called me over this past weekend and wanted to reunite. He said he sees my status on FB and knows I am moving on. He sees I am busy and always out with friends and staying active. He said he missed me more than I missed him because he has no friends. He said that he wants to be with me 100% and that he just needs time to get over the last girlfriend but that he does not want her back. He is trying to move on. I gave him the chance. I asked that he communicate with me daily because he is horrible about communication. It’s so simple. The next day he said he would call and he never did. He went out that evening without me knowing we were trying to get together that evening. I asked him why he didn’t call and he said he didn’t have an excuse. I feel used. I gave him a second chance on a Friday after him begging me to be a couple, and then the next day, Saturday, he never called. I feel lost. That maybe he was just testing me to see if I was over him. I believe we do have something very special. I just don’t know what to do… He needs to learn to communicate with me. I understand he is still trying to get over his last girlfriend. And we still have the issue with my family. And numerous people tell me that my family does not dictate my life. Just so lost. Don’t know if I should just let him go… To move on.. Or how to get him back and change the way he communicates. I want to be with him. What do I do? He watches my FB…

    1. admin


      August 5, 2013 at 3:40 am

      Try doing the stuff on this article.

  19. summ

    August 4, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    we were in a relationship for 2yrs.. we were happy when suddenly he change.. not in a negetive way but its like he started suspecting me.. so i moved on to another guy. its been 10months since i broke up with him .. i want him badly.. what should i do? we were so perfect with each other

    1. admin


      August 5, 2013 at 3:32 am

      Are you still with the other guy?

  20. Rachel Sequiera

    August 3, 2013 at 6:03 pm

    Hie Chris, I’m Rachel writing from India.
    I’ve just been through a breakup, was going through the internet to find help and found yours to be the most captivating.
    I was in a relationship with this guy for over 2.5 years and we were each other’s first crushes too. We’re the same age (20 now) and our parents didn’t know about our relationship. I tried telling my parents once but they objected because he is from another religion.so we just pretended to be friends before our parents. Things were going well, he told his siblings, cousins and friends about me and he would always keep talking to me about his family and how I would have to take care when I meet his family in future etc. We came into a long distance relationship since my university was in another corner of the country. We managed this well and even the usual fights. There was this one time where i casually logged into his FB account and found out that he was in really good talking terms with a girl(xyz) who lived in his neighbourhood. Their chats on FB seemed to show that they were pretty close to each other and had been chatting daily. I confronted him when i went back but he said that they were just good friends.I was broken and since I had read their chats I couldn’t believe him so I broke up. But we got back together 2 weeks later since he kept asking for forgiveness although he never admitted that he liked her.
    Few months later, we have a talk about our future. And i thought it was best to break up since things were getting too complicated especially our future and families. He didn’t say a word during the breakup,just accepted.
    We didn’t talk for a week then. I returned to my university and few days later realised i made a huge mistake. I spoke to him alot about getting back together and he said he still loves me (and always will) but doesn’t want to get back since he’s scared that i might breakup with him again in future! He said it’s not worth it now!
    I tried alot to convince him but in vain and stopped contacting. It’s been 2 weeks now. He called twice in between saying he wanted to check if i was ok.Last night I saw that he had sent one of his pics to that same girl(xyz) during the period where i was trying to get back together. I’m shattered now.
    I kinda hate him now but the good memories i had with him keep circling in my head.
    I still love him but I’m not sure what to do.
    I need your advice!

    1. admin


      August 4, 2013 at 3:17 am

      Have you tried NC yet?

    2. Rachel Sequiera

      August 5, 2013 at 5:08 pm

      Yes, its been almost two weeks now..

    3. admin


      August 6, 2013 at 3:22 am

      Well, you have two more weeks to go!

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