Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back While You Are Pregnant- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

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may

July 20, 2015 at 9:14 am

I am pregnant with our second child. My first is 5. He left me then too and we got back together. We lived in very tight space and he also has a 22 year old son. Our daughter shared room with us and through 5 years i became very unhappy bc he never really changed. He still drank left me waiting for him so many nights only for him to show up drunk. The relationship got worse when i simply started to resent his son. I couldnt stand him living with us. I felt uncomfortable and i couldn’t be myself. Felt threatened by his son bc everytime we had argument it seemed the father ran to his son to talk and make me look bad. So father never had any respect for me and neither did the son. Even through it all i still thought things would be ok once the son left or father started teaching him responsibility. So i convinced his dad to move out find a bigger place so he agreed snd we did move out. Even though the father told everyone he fidnt know about the move. Prior to all this when he found out i was pregnant he was very miserable about it but didnt act like he did with my first child which he claims to love her very much. Once ee had all moved out i couldnt stand the idea that his son had his own room and we had to dhsre the bedroom wiyh 2 kids now. There was a build up in things that hsppened like the father was working out of town alot and i was left with the son alone for so long. I got son a job and the dad seemed to be getting caught in lies plus he lost his license bc of impaired driving. I blew up kicked the son out over a real bad argument. Then quit the job i couldnt believe he made me look so bad so between that and father getting csught drinking snd driving i blew up one day when my daughter was ditting watching tv and son was in his room swearing while plsying. I asked him to stop politely but in a fed up way. Hr thrn turned around called me every bad name in the book infont of my 5 year old and i slapped him so hard i made his lip bleed. His father took him out immediately moved him back into apt we had just moved out of. And so his dad chose his son and left me pregnant with our 5 year old alone in a very expensive apt. He came and went for a while. This all happened 4 months ago but just recently he told me it was over.
Anna

June 15, 2015 at 9:16 pm

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend and I were on/off again for 2 1/2 years and we were (mostly) off when I got pregnant. He was initially very excited and then took a turn. He went out to visit a girl he was ‘seeing’ in San Diego 2 weekends in a row and then told me he didn’t want the baby and I was being selfish. I told him not to contact me for a month until he got his head straight. That worked for about a week and he contacted me saying he wanted to talk. We talked and all was fine but then I found out today that he flew to Chicago to see his ex. I feel like he’s completing his ‘sexual bucket list’ as he hasn’t seen this girl (the ex) in 3 years. Have you ever seen anything like this? I’ve stopped contacting him and don’t respond when he contacts me. He doesn’t know that I know about these other women.

Elizabeth

August 26, 2015 at 5:10 am

Hi Anna. I wish I knew how things turned out. I believe my ex left me also to be free and go back and be with women he couldn’t be with while with me! I saw his call log through our mobile plan. But truth is they just don’t care! I hope you have a healthy baby!

kallou

June 12, 2015 at 11:17 pm

Please I need help on this one ASAP, Okay so I allow my boyfriend at the time to screw around on me so he had his freedom and wouldn’t get bored of the relationship, well skip a year later after having one kid who we gave up to adoption he wanted to use this one woman for her money, so I didn’t want to be a apart of that and gave him a 2 week break up. He knew it was only for 2 weeks but still got with her and moved out after a few days of the break up we found out I was pregnant. He wants to do join share where after the baby is born he gets a week and I get a week, well I can’t work coz of my health and he was my only income, even tho I help him with some of his work. He said our passion died, but doesn’t want to get back together coz of the bickering or small fights. He now living with his new gf who doesn’t want me around him coz we lied about how I got pregnant twice by him so he could be happy or else if their relationship ended so would our friendship and he would walk out of my life completely. I’m going to do the NC rule after my b-day since it is a week away and he promise me he would hang out with me. But he still wants me to hang out with him once in a while. With her and her family. He lied about the fact that we dated for 2 years. Saying he only had 2 girl friends and I wasn’t one of them. I figure if he doesn’t contact me on my birthday then he doesn’t want anything to do with me even tho he said he still loves me. So I want him to complete the family he the love of my life and I really need help. He is the type to not break up with a girl unless she does it to him. or cheat. The girl friend has 7 kids a nurse and has been hurt alot she also older then him. he already told me he thinks her daughter is hot. What should I do? I told him if he breaks up with her or the other way around I got dibs on him and he agreed and smiled as if he loved that. What should I do? I need the help I don’t have any friends and my dad and autistic brother is the only people in my life.
Singlemom

June 7, 2015 at 11:08 am

Hello,
I’ve been in a relationship with my ex for 5 years on and off. Im also 8 months pregnant. Our relationship started out good because we were friends first before lovers. I always looked at him as my true friend and then stronger feelings got involved. Im not going to say I blame him for everything because I play a part as well. In all my relationships I been in I was wounded and I had trust issues that wasn’t going to go away over night. As our relationship progress I saw he was being good to me but I started lying to him not because I wanted too but I saw signs of neglect and everytime we have a argument he shuts down and go and couple of days not talking to me and thats when I will confide in my friends which were guys by the way. So, the longer our relationship went on the worst it got we started arguing almost everyday about petty things and then he will ignore me for like 2 weeks straight so after all the begging and pleading he decides to talk to me again. Things never got right because he never wanted to talk why the argument escalated like it did. So moving forward there was a incident that happen when im celebrating with my friends my birthday night and I cant recall what I said because drinks were involved he got really upset with me and slept with my cousin and had a baby by her he pleaded and begged me not to leave even though I wanted too because he broke my heart so I stayed like a dummy . I was never right after that happen because we were trying and I kept having miscarriages because of stress we were going through. So years passed here I am pregnant im excited because he said he was going to marry me but it never happen because he always found some lame as excuse why we couldn’t move forward. So lost my job after buying a mobile home and I didn’t know how I was going to make ends meet so he said he will help me since I couldn’t really get a job because Im far too long in the pregnancy. So he paid y bills BUT I had to change who I was in order for them to be paid I had to be his doormat who he disrespected and belittled. My family hated the idea I was going through this but I stayed by his side because I was in love with him until I got fed up how he was treating me so I told him what was on my mind and he broke it off said I was enabling him and I should let my family take care of my bills since I want working mind you I got rid of my for him because of what he was feeling my head up with. So we argue we cursed at one another and he told me to never contact him again and my response was our unborn child isn’t his even though I didn’t mean it I was angry that he was doing this when I put up with him and he was so quickly to let me go. So I tried contacting him but he’s now been ignoring me for 5 weeks now it looks as if he dropped off the face of the earth. Everyday im in pain crying hoping he will talk to me. But now I think I have accepted the fact I probably want here from him again and he’s probably happy in a new relationship. Is there any advice you can give me I don’t want him back but after 5 years I just want to know did I ever matter to him and why he couldn’t see that I gave him the world while we were together.
confused

May 28, 2015 at 9:27 am

Hi, i was Dating this guy for a few Months, he asked me to go exclusive on the first date, Told me i made him believe in Love at first sight and Told me he Loved me after a few weeks and that he would be with me forever no Matter what as Long as i didnt cheat. when i Told him i was Pregnant he said he didnt want it. He has a daughter From a Previous relationship that he sees fortnightly. He asked me to have an abortion but when i asked what if i cant do that he said he would do his best to do what he could. when i Told him i was having the Baby he cut contact and blocked me on Facebook. I havent Heard From him since. Is this the end?
Gabby

May 27, 2015 at 12:01 am

Hi Chris, I really enjoy your site, it’s really helped me keep my sanity. So my exboyfriend (who’s 28 years old) and I had been together for 4 years and everything seemed great. Right before we found out I was pregnant, we were going out and having a lot of fun together and planning on going on another vacation, everything seemed fine. When I found out I was pregnant it was really unexpected but I knew everything was going to be okay ( at least that’s what I thought). When I told him he took it like it was the end of the world. He would tell me things like I’m ruining his life and that he loves me but he hates me because I’m pregnant. I honestly could not believe this person that I thought I knew and loved was treating me like that. Well after a week of him pretty much ignoring me/ just saying hurtful things, he finally came around. He was starting to entertain ideas about us being happy raising the baby together, he was already planning a trip to Disney, Then after about two weeks he was adamant on going to hangout at some bar with this one friend of his who is a total womanizer. I asked him to please not go and to go have lunch with him instead, but finally I gave in. I didn’t want to be that girlfriend who’s trying to be controlling. So he went and my friend actually saw him that night with his friend and turns out they went to meet some girls there and ended up driving one of them home ( I know this because one of our ipad’s is synced to his phone). He ended up staying at his parents house that night and the following day while I was using the ipad he got a txt msg from that girl thanking him for the ride home. I called him out on what happened and he just told me that he didn’t want to be with me anymore. The following month I became a txt/call “gnat” and he blocked me from his phone. I was so overwhelmed by the fact that he could just leave and not care about me or our baby. Finally I ran into your page, and decided to follow your advice, I stopped contacting him. The last week of my NC period, he emailed me telling me he wanted to sit down and talk about the “situation that won’t disappear” , I’m assuming he was referring to the baby. He also felt the need to throw in that he isn’t trying to get back together with me. I was upset by his email so I ignored it and completed my 30 days of NC. In total, up to this point, we had been broken up for 2 months. Every once in awhile I would give him small updates on the baby and I had told him I was going to have my ultrasound to find out the gender of the baby and I gave him the date of my appointment. The appointment came and went and I decided to not reach out to him the day of because I wanted to make him wait. I know he’s so used to me being readily available to him and contacting him so I figured he could wait it out. When I finally decided to email him telling him we were expecting a son, he responded really quickly and seemed so exited. He was asking me how I was doing, how the appointments were and he just seemed so involved, but he also mentioned the previous email and how I didn’t respond. I emailed him back the following day answering questions about the baby and I just shared my excitement. The mistake I feel I made was even mentioning the previous email he had sent, I just asked him “what exactly would you like to talk about”. I didn’t mean it in an ugly way, I genuinely just wanted to know,especially if it was about the baby. To end the email I told him I was going to meet with friends for lunch and I would talk to him later. His response was just rude, he told me again how he doesn’t want to know about my personal life and what I do and that (again) he doesn’t want to be with me and that he’s better off without me ( when my friends see him around just parting with his same lose friend instead of his friends that are married and have kids), but NOW he wants to be a good father and all this other nonsense. So in the heat of the moment I responded and told him he was better off with me and that eventually he will realize the error that he’s made. So I guess I’m just confused, why contact me to begin with? He told me before he ignored me that he was just going to see me in court and never talk to me again. So why is he reaching out? Why did he ask about my personal life and then shoot it down when I just mentioned lunch with friends and that I would talk to him later? Does he really mean it when he says he doesn’t want to be with me or that he doesn’t care? Will he ever realize he’s making a mistake and just grow up? Thanks for listening to me rant about my problems, I look forward to hearing back from you.
Effy

May 12, 2015 at 2:13 pm

I’m around 6 weeks pregnant with my ex boyfriends baby. I’m 29 and he’s 31. We had been on and off for a while but ultimately we have been together for just over 2 years. I told him last week about the baby and his reaction was bad. He was angry at me and told me I was irresponsible for letting it happen. I was calm and told him I was keeping the baby. The next day I got a text message saying that he thought what I was doing was wrong and selfish to bring a baby into a split relationship and that I should get rid of it. I was angry and disappointed but kept calm and told him that my mind was made up and would be having the baby with or without him…. That was a week and I haven’t heard from him since, and I haven’t contacted him.
I don’t know what to do? I mean I’m already doing the NC thing, but if he doesn’t get in contact do I even let him know about appointments etc?
I guess I’m just blindsided by his reaction because I really didn’t think he was that kind of man. It’s like a different person, I haven’t hassled him or put pressure on him and he still called me selfish for not getting rid of a child.
Despite the way he has dealt with this I still love him. I just don’t know if the NC rule with work for someone who doesn’t care or want contact anyway?
Any advice from anyone would be great. Feeling very broken at the moment xx

Sue for you

August 12, 2015 at 2:23 pm

Wow, sorry you got involved with someone immature and abusive. :- (
Chris Seiter

May 13, 2015 at 12:31 pm

Man he had a really bad reaction for sure.

I think NC can still work well on him though.

Alicia

May 5, 2015 at 5:22 am

My situation is very very much the same! Me and my ex boyfriend were together for 2 1/2 years and we lived together for 7 months , we always talked about how we would make an amazing family if we did have a son or daughter . At about 6-7 weeks into my pregnancy I found out I was actually pregnant and we were so excited , we were so happy , we were more inlove than ever , but at the time we were living together (at my parents house) and my mum wasn’t too happy to hear that I was having a child , he then had to move out cause my ex and my mum weren’t getting along , once he moved back to his house , he started to go out with his cousins and he started to change a lot , although he still seemed very supportive and there for me , I could feel us drifting cause we hated distance between us , therefore we argued a lot more since we weren’t together everyday , my ex and my mum tried to start working things out again for him to be able to move back in , once my mum allowed him to move back in , he didn’t want to , he started to use excuses saying that I’m too “moody” and “controlling” I was 4 months pregnant when he left me , he just started to ignore me , and then I started to beg him to come back to me for the sake of being in our daughters life 24/7 but he said “I don’t want a relationship” “I want to be single” it hurt me so much , he demands to see baby everyday when she is born , to come over everyday when she is here , but I don’t know how I’ll ever be able to either get over him or get him back if he’s in my life everyday but simply doesn’t want me 🙁
Ebony

May 5, 2015 at 2:27 am

HI CHRIS IM 26 and my bd is 19 we was never dating but it felt like we was and I got pregnant things was a little shaky but he never told me to have an abortion but he started becoming distant and disrespectful then I would confront him about being distant so I suggested we stop talking he didn’t want to stop talking but now he is telling me to get an abortion he blocked me and won’t respond to my text or calls I told him to leave because I’m not going to have an abortion he said if I have the baby he wants to be around for the baby but theirs going to be drama for me what should I do
Molly

April 29, 2015 at 4:00 am

I’ve written before.. and really love everything you write.. I am 8 months pregnant and just completed my 30 day no contact on my ex. During my NC he commented to people that know me that he just wanted me to talk to him.. so once 30 days were up, I sent info on our baby. He gave a 2 word “thats amazing” response back.. So I waited another week and gave him more info about our baby and the delivery plan. This time he told me that we have to get along and talk EVERYDAY..that that’s “must the facts!” although I want my ex back, the way he responded sounded like he views this as a prison sentence. with a little more texting, I could tell he was getting defensive and argumentative so I cut the convo short but respectfully. I can’t tell where he’s at emotionally. He seems to not want anything to do with me, but says I have to talk to him everyday. I’m kind of lost on. What is this?
Jennifer S

April 10, 2015 at 3:29 am

So I and my ex were together for 3 years. It’s hard for me to get pregnant so I had to get on fertility medications and we had to do an IUI. Well the day I found out that I was pregnant I found out he was cheating on me with one of his friends. We still live together because I have nowhere to go but I don’t talk to him, I do not allow him to come to my appointments anymore because he talks to the girl while I’m home on the phone. He seems to just fall out of love over night. I will be moving out in a month but I feel like he thinks that I won’t leave him because we live in the same house. I don’t know what to do anymore.
Bugzbunnyliz

April 5, 2015 at 6:36 pm

Hi. So I am in a very unique predicament. I am 28, he’s 33. I am from the Philippines, and he is from the US. We met 3 months after he broke up with his Filipina gf. He was honest from the get go. Telling me he had prior arrangements to hang out with this other girl around the end of March, but then he met me and just wanna see how it worked out. We spent 2 weekends together and we had such a great time. But I asked him that if he ends up liking the other woman, that he be honest and tell me. And he promised he will. Well, I can tell he is with the other girl right now, and I just found out I am pregnant. I don’t expect to hear from him until mid-April when he goes back to the US. But here are my questions: 1) How do I prepare myself for the worst? (i.e. Him choosing the other woman or him running off) 2) How do I tell him without scaring him off? 3) I want him, but if he chooses her, how do you think I should carry on?

I don’t know him too well, but I can feel he is a good man. And if anything, I want that good man to be mine. It’s one thing to let go of a man who is not worth it. But it’s difficult letting go of someone who treated you well, you had great memories with, have a baby with. Worse, if he chooses to be with her but wants to be involved with the baby. All these hormones are making me so emotional. I try to think rationally and I’d appreciate any opinion from someone looking from the outside.

Lots of love,

Liz
Kh

April 1, 2015 at 8:39 am

Me and partner was extremely happy and excited about having a baby. We had a amazing relationship and never argued. Since Christmas I havnt felt myself and suffered with depression without realising it, i remember him saying bits to try and help but I didn’t listen. He’s had a new job and been working in a pub for last few months and ive noticed the change in him he started going out again drinking all the time like how he use to be before we settled down. Then 4 weeks ago out the blue he says he didn’t feel same no more and he didn’t love me, I’m heartbroken how can you go from a good relationship to stop loving someone completely especially when I’m pregnant And we was both happy to have. Ive found out he’s started seeing someone else but what confuses me is she’s like me she has red hair and leather jacket, I’m exactly the same, she goes out all the time and I use to do that till becoming pregnant. She sits at end of bar waiting for him to finish work, it’s all weird.. She’s only 19, he’s 28. When I see him for check ups and that he acts normal around me, but when he’s not he the complete opposite. everyone says once baby here everything will fall into place,it will be a reality shock to him and things will work out. But will they, everyone is confused by his behaviour he’s usually a very kind caring person. Is there a chance he will come to his senses and it will work out. He said he’s going to be a good dad and said when baby here he will spend the first couple of weeks at mine to help out and bond with the baby. I’m only 5 weeks from due date now. None of this whole situation makes sense and completely out the blue 🙁

Penny

April 15, 2015 at 3:19 am

What if I got back together with my soon to be baby daddy (his idea), and then after about two months he faded out again? With silent treatment even. He has told other people that he just wants to be friends and doesn’t want to ” lead me on “. But he was the one that chased me to get me back. Is full on silent treatment OK now? Do I even have a chance to get him back after that? He seems pretty certain from what I’ve heard.
molly

April 12, 2015 at 11:07 pm

I’m going through almost the exact same thing! I’m 9 weeks from my due date. My ex and I were happy until we found out about my pregnancy. He dumped me on the spot. Told me every awful, hurtful thing you could possibly say… Then two months later, he chased me and tried getting advice from my boss, co workers, and friends on how to get me back. Said he loved me. We started seeing each other again for a few months…but he never would talk about our baby. He was never comfortable with the topic. Then he started distancing from me again. ..More and more..until there was practically no contact for days at a time. The tipping point, was he came to my work (I’m a bartender) with a bunch of his family, and he acted like he didn’t know me. They all know that I’m having his baby..they’re all excited. But he seems to be going through some sort of mid life crisis but its because he’s becoming a father. Before that happened.. He had started going out more too. He even seemed to have some sort of animosity towards me. Like I was trapping him, and he needed his freedom back ( like a panic for it). I’ve never pressured him in any way. But after how he treated me when his family was in town…. I told him after that to just go be free and I’ll handle all of this. That I’d let him know when his son is born. I’ve been in NC ever since. 25 days today! He text me 10 into NC to see how I’m doing, but I didn’t respond. His family has tried to tell my mother that they think he’ll come around once the baby is here. That this all isn’t real to him yet. Why do these guys act as though they’re the only ones having a major life change?. I think your guy may come around to his sense.. But in the meantime, cut any contact with him to give yourself some peace and maybe make him pull his head out of his a$$! He sounds like he’s behaving (my life is over.. I need to be free) exactly like my ex. Sending good vibes your way! -Molly
admin

April 2, 2015 at 11:39 pm

I think eventually he will get shocked into things BUT by the time that happens you may have already moved on with your life.

I really am ashamed that a member of my gender is doing this to you.

Sandy

March 29, 2015 at 4:06 pm

Hello Wendy how are you doing? I am currently pregnant with my ex’s child we broke up 3 months ago. We was trying to get pregnant because he wanted a child and after I revealed to him that I was pregnant things started to change. He didn’t want to tell his parents and we just fell apart. We started to have more and more arguments and he started to sleep on the couch so when I came home one day and all his things was gone along with him I wasn’t surprised. He blocked me on his cell phone and I haven’t been in contact with him since then. I want to tell his parents that they have a grandchild on the way that will be born in June but I don’t want to seem like I’m desperate. Do I call or send his mom a message to let her know out of common courtesy or do I just leave it alone and forget about it.
Hine

March 29, 2015 at 7:45 am

So I was with my bf for 4 years when I found out I was pregnant and he freaked told me his life was over and he wanted me to get an abortion but I said no and he came around so I thought but fastforward I’m 6 months pregnant and he’s walked out on me, moved out, and hasn’t helped me prepare for my little girl at all. He told me he doesn’t love me, then texts me he’s coming over to spend time together cause he feels bad then doesn’t show up and now I havnt heard from him in 4 days. I don’t understand do you think he’s scared or he really just doesn’t want to be with me, I also know he’s already talking to someone else and that breaks my heart, is it worth trying to get him back or do you think he won’t come back? Ps. He’s never done anything like this before always been affectionate & loving? And I should clear that up I actually asked him to leave because he wouldn’t commit to me but was playing games and talking to someone else and it was hurting to much us living together but not being together he didnt want to move out

admin

March 29, 2015 at 2:04 pm

There could be a lot going on.

Being a dad scared a guy at first so maybe he is just running from those fears instead of confronting them.
Hine

April 3, 2015 at 5:05 am

Oh and what if actually comes to my house during no contact what should I do thanks
Hine

April 2, 2015 at 7:08 am

Do you think going complete no contact would be better or is limited better ? As I’ve made a egg of myself begging? Thanks

maria

March 26, 2015 at 10:47 pm

Hi there, thanks for this article it makes my mind at peace even for a short time.because i am always thinking too much. I am 32weeks and 3 days. I dont know whats happening to us, if we are already finish or what. Last february he came here in the philippines for vacation and to check my pregnancy, i feel that he love me so much because when i started to fight he always et quiet and kiss me and hug me, i even try to go but he stop me (ofcors i dont really mean.it i just wanted.to.see his reaction). I am moody and always get jelous about his past because accidentaly his friend talk about it. So anyhow before he go we had great fight but we became okey but still my mind not stop thinking,.then he startes to refuse.me.and delete me.on facebook because he said he dont want my attitude like that, so by the help of my mother we become okey and he said he is just mad also thats why. So we.become okey. Then now we are not okey again because he said why i ask about his x gf again and i said i just ask then i really know what bothers him, he is thinking of my attitude when he is here., that why i fight him why like this like that, and i told him that i though he understand it, just like he is blaming me, but you know i didnt force him to do that to me, i didnt force him to please me.so why now he is blaming me, and now i am saying sorry for all.those things i did and he said. Enough and then he ignores my message, i am.crying and so emotional, then he ignores me and he add another lady on facebook. And.its makes me think too much. By the way if you think i am rude he is more rude because when i am.just 2 months pregnant he always want me to go away and he said he wana leave me , i am.the one always pleasing him before and when i get full i explode and.told him to finish everything.and.abort the baby,.that time he said sorry and he please me.too much and.ask help for my mother and brother, he said he is just joking.big time to.test me. So u see, if i make him.please me.too much why he didnt think.of what i did for him before. Why because he thinks i needed him more this.time. uh im so down…

Sue for you

August 12, 2015 at 2:32 pm

Just have the baby on your own my dear. Fucking who cares about this God damn loser. He put you through hell. He should NOT have done that! Good on you that you are doing what is needed to get your sanity and life back. You will be in my prayers..
admin

March 29, 2015 at 3:13 pm

Congrats (my wife is pregnant!)

18 weeks!

Anyways, have you been utilizing NC?
maria

March 31, 2015 at 5:54 am

Wow your wife is pregnant too sir … very nice … congrats
admin

March 31, 2015 at 10:38 pm

She is!

We saw the ultrasound today it was wild. That little baby is moving around a lot.
maria

April 2, 2015 at 6:15 am

How lucky is she…
But me i think he ignores me already because my mom sai he message he read but no reply….. i dont know i really dont know.
Of its about my attitude when he is here its very unreasonable…
admin

April 2, 2015 at 11:56 pm

I think he is scared…

That’s my honest opinion (and that’s coming from someone who is about to be a dad)
maria

April 4, 2015 at 7:54 am

I dont know.. if he is scared because he is already 54 an i am 25 i think he is old enough…. if someone said bad things bout me or maybe thinking of my attitude when he is here its really unreasonable 🙁
maria

March 26, 2015 at 11:09 pm

I really need your reply sir 🙁
Also if i apply nc…. i am.afraid he will forget me and the baby. But really i cant also stop thinking how it will be easy for him to.change me or his mind like that because he said he dont want me.and the.baby then he said he is just mad and i know his feeling but now i am.afraid i dont know what to think
admin

March 29, 2015 at 3:08 pm

No, he definitely wont forget about the baby and you especially if you use LC.
maria

March 31, 2015 at 5:53 am

What u mean about LC sir? Until now he is noy messaging and i am.not messaging him too but my mom.ask about his plan today and no reply still waiting because i am 34 weeks now

lc

March 26, 2015 at 7:43 pm

So upset.. Been together on & off 5 years, most recently together for a solid year.

Found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks (on Valentines day)..

Told him that following Monday, things seemed to be alright.. A few weeks ago, everything changed- he started staying out later, hiding his phone, etc.

Then he told me im being selfish, hes not ready for a baby and if that i didnt get an abortion, he would go back to his ex and if I did, he would fix things with me and move in together. 🙁

Basically, without me saying, he knew I wasn’t going to get an abortion, so he left and now his “girlfriend” is basically harassing me, sending me pics of them together and she egged my house last night because he loves her and he chose her. I said he doesn’t love you, he just left me and wont be with me because I won’t have an abortion, period..

BTW, I’m 28, he’s 27 and she’s 24.

I just dont know what to do. 🙁

I’m sad, but more disappointed and angry I guess..

admin

March 31, 2015 at 9:54 pm

That is horrible but sadly not the first time I have heard the abortion thing from a guy.

I would go NC.

eve

March 25, 2015 at 5:57 am

I have one different issue that makes it hard to invite him to check ups. I moved to goergia n he’s in new york. So what can I do in that circumstance? ?? Please respond.

admin

March 31, 2015 at 7:11 pm

Hi Eve,

I guess in that case you can extend the invite to him and leave it up to him to come out to see you.

nic

March 22, 2015 at 2:33 pm

Hi Chris, my story is a little different. My boyfriend left me purely because I am pregnant.. he told me I had to choose between him and the baby and because I couldn’t go through with an abortion he left 3 months ago and wants nothing at all to do with me. I don’t think the no contact rule will work in this instance as he doesn’t want me to contact him, as far as he is concerned me choosing to have this baby has ruined his life.

Sue for you

August 12, 2015 at 2:36 pm

You are probably young, and he is also young and I might add, very stupid. Very selfish too, not thinking of you and both of your’s baby.
admin

March 22, 2015 at 5:54 pm

How dare he give you an ultimatum like that.

He sounds very scummy.

He is the one that got you pregnant. He is the one that did that and he needs to take responsibility.
nic

March 23, 2015 at 2:26 pm

He said he’s not ready to have children for another 5 years and thinks it’s as easy as just having an abortion and moving on. He tells me he wants to be with me just not if there’s a child involved. I honestly don’t know how to make him change his mind
admin

March 24, 2015 at 8:55 pm

This is a hot button topic.

Abortion always is…

In my opinion he is blackmailing you. That’s all I will say on the subject.

LA

March 19, 2015 at 5:17 am

I am 6 weeks today. I have only known the father for a little over a month and we broke up about 2 weeks ago. It was not the best relationship in that he was jobless and lives with his mother and lacks ambition and drive, over which I nagged and didnt say the nicest things about and ultimately led to us breaking up. I let him know of the pregnancy the day I knew and he seemed ecstatic. He talked about trying to work things out with us. Every time we spoke after that his first topic of conversation was always about how he was tired from just starting a new job and how much in pain he was… Not once asking me how I was, which enraged me. Now I am not able to get a hold of him at all and have been calling and sending emails to no avail. I have thought about my options with this pregnancy since this is not how I want the father of my child to be, which is also something I expressed to him. However, I am 30 and have always wanted a child. I have a pretty great family and support system but am worried he is going to skate thru the pregnancy not trying to reconcile or be supportive and then attempt to fight me in court after the baby is born. After reading your site I am going to cease my attempts to contact him. I do have a few questions tho…
My first doc appt is in 3 weeks… What should I tell him about the appt? What should I tell him if he asks to be apart of the next appt? What should I do if he contacts me before this first appt? What steps should I take if I would like to attempt working something out between us but he is super stubborn and selfish? He is 36 yrs old btw.
I appreciate your reply and thanks for this site!

Leah farkas

April 8, 2015 at 2:01 am

Hi Sir . My boyfriend and me broke up last 4 weeks and Just found out I’m p. We have 8 moths together and we have fights for diferents situations about why I’m talking to guys and friends I dont know must of my contacts of facebook but whatever I decide to cancel my account but he didn’t care about. I having 4 weeks and 2 days and before he left me he was to rude with me and even he saye if he found out I’m p. He will punch me at the street he is very hipperactive and he tends to brake stuff when he is mad .he slap me a few times. We broke because he is more young than me for 8 years and he says he loves me but he can’t make me wait for him because he feel not ready to married now and he will in 3 years . In the beginning I say no but after I decide to wait because I really love him I’m afraid to tell him I’m expecting because probably he will punch me.i didn’t talk to him since he left. I will not unswer him ,he is in vacation now I’m afraid he will comeback to me and punch me now I know my baby is first than him
admin

March 21, 2015 at 3:54 pm

I don’t think the pregnancy has hit him just yet but I think it will down the road.
LA

March 22, 2015 at 1:04 am

What do you suggest as my plan of action?

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