Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back While You Are Pregnant- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

395 thoughts on “How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If You Are Pregnant”

Vanna

December 25, 2015 at 5:22 pm

What if the reason he broke up with you is because you changed after you got pregnant and you were no longer the supportive and loving woman he once loved but just the opposite. Critical and naggy? And then in the end he tells you he doesn’t love you anymore but still wants to be part of the child’s life.

I have initiated contact once, not to beg but to give an update on the pregnancy. I did take that opportunity to say some kind words and take ownership for what happened in the relationship. Have not contacted since (and he has made zero contact except to answer the update). Also this is now more than a 500 mile distance to factor in.

What is supposed to happen here when the woman is pregnant but at fault? Surely the M.O. is a bit different.
Mela

December 4, 2015 at 4:24 am

I should have finished this with a question but when a man leaves you pregnant and it’s actually your fault, what’s the difference in the plan?
chris please help i bought the ex bf recovery pro but can't find help in this

November 29, 2015 at 3:13 pm

Hello Chris, my ex really had a bad reaction he said he was gonna kill himself or leave the country. He is german, I’ve seen him cry a lot of times and he said he is gonna lose his job cause he is so depress. I believe him, so I lied and told him that I lost the baby cause I was so scared that he gets crazy. I don’t know what to do, he says that he will “support“ me now that I lost the baby. Should I keep lying or say the truth? should i start the NC rule again?

Chris Seiter

November 30, 2015 at 9:54 pm

Ok….

You need to tell him the truth. One way or another that baby is going to come out.

Be honest with him. The truth will set you free.

Britney

November 21, 2015 at 1:37 am

Hi there! Sorry this will be long! So far your sight has been the only one that makes sense to me. My situation is tricky. I found out I was pregnant right after we broke up (like your friend) and I was really upset and lonely. I didn’t tell him right away because I was so scared as to his response. Two weeks after we broke up, he begged me back. I found out that he had been talking to a girl In a town a few hours away who is barely 20 and he is 35. I was heartbroken but still wanted it to work. We spent every night together this past week and were intimate and I planned to tell him on Thursday. Well during the day Thursday I had found this girl on Facebook and noticed that she had a picture with my boyfriend (who I have been with for about 6 years) and he had sent her flowers. So he was not completely honest about her. I confronted him and he admitted he was still talking to her and intrigued by her and couldn’t help it. It was poor timing but I still had to stick with my plan to tell him. He was actually pretty much choosing to be with this other woman now because I was upset with him about this and he now had no reason to choose me since I found out he lied. I told him I was pregnant and that i really wanted to make this work and he flipped out. He told me it would be smart to get an abortion. He said he is confused and doesn’t know what he wants. He said he probably wants to be with her even though im pregnant, not sure. He is now accepting that I’m keeping this baby. My questions are… I love him and want this to work, but I am so hurt I find it hard to even do simple tasks like brush my hair and get ready. It hurts the most that not only am I single and pregnant, but that also he might be with this young girl. Do you think I am wasting my time by following your methods? If not, which book should I buy? I’m on a huge budget since I’m single and pregnant and can’t afford all of them..: even though I would like to read all of them. I’m soooo upset, alone and just feel like I have had my heart ripped from my chest. My child is now my main priority but I can’t help that I want him to want to be with me. I have always tried so hard to make him happy and I am a good person. Please help!

Britney

December 10, 2015 at 1:43 am

I was really hoping you would have a response ;( I am really lost
Britney

November 21, 2015 at 8:07 pm

He went to her town to see her this weekend and she is posting pictures of them together and he obviously hasn’t told the girl yet that I am pregnant. I am so upset. I can’t stop crying and I’ve never felt pain like this in my life. I would really appreciate your response. I feel so alone and rejected and like my heart has been ripped out of my chest

Unsure and pregant

November 2, 2015 at 10:33 pm

I have no idea what to do- I’m pregnant, my ex and I have argued so much through the separation. He has now moved on with someone else. I did email you to ask for some help. I have no clue what to do ?
he blocked me after i told him im pregnant

November 1, 2015 at 4:08 am

Chris so now what ? is there even a chance to get him back, he said u ruined my life i dont want to know about you or baby,and blocked me , so how can i even talk or do anything ?
thanks
Jho

October 30, 2015 at 9:13 pm

This is the second time i re-read your article Chris. The first one was when i was 3 months pregnant and rightt now am 7 months pregnant with my ex bf. I re-read your article cause Right now im doing your NC technique and I guess its going along well with me and with him.
When my mom knew That I am pregnant ( im 20 yrs old now and i was 19 when the baby was conceived) , she tried contacting my ex bf . My mom told me to chase the guy so the we’ll be able to know what are his plans for me And for my baby. That was the time when i first read this article so i told my mom that talk to him after i got the chance to contact him. I told myself not to care what they had agreed upon and right now we still dont have any contact. I do make sure that my mom doesnt chase my ex for me. This article gave me hope that i still have the chance to get him back but i do still think that if he never come back, i guess i am still okay cause i had a chance to know what he had been through after he knew he was going to be a father.
Vikki

October 24, 2015 at 6:50 pm

Hi Chris

I commented on the pregnancy podcast page back in September. I’m now 20 weeks pregnant, my ex of over 2 years disappeared after I refused to go straight to arrange an abortion on the day we did the test. He immediately told me how much he loved me and was very affectionate, then suddenly changed. He gave me an ultimatum, threatened suicide, I left our home to let him calm down, I got back, he’d gone. That was now 14 weeks ago. Since I posted on your site in September I implemented the NC rule and the ex lasted 2 weeks of not hearing from me and then tried to get in touch, when he couldn’t he contacted a mutual friend asking about me. I unblocked him on FB after 3 weeks and he messaged me asking me to call him to talk. I did. He sobbed hysterically for an hour. Not because he was sorry or wanted me back but because he’s still in his “my life is over” phase. I didn’t argue with him, I listened and talked to him as a friend and tried to reassure him. He said “I’ve tried hating you, hating you is easier than how I feel now. This is confusing” He told me he was going away for a week so if I tried to contact him, he wouldn’t be able to respond and made a point of “I’m NOT ignoring you”. That was 5 days ago. I’ve not tried contacting him again.

What should I do now? After 3 months of being ignored your advice works but what now? Do I go back to no contact and wait?

From how upset he was and the things he said – “I’ve lost my family (me and my son), my home”, “I didn’t plan for the life I’ve got now, I didn’t want this”, “I had a family and I had a son that I loved”, “how can this work?” – I think he still has feelings for me.

Thing is, he’s now moved and started a job 3 hours drive away. He may well have a new girlfriend – I have no idea. I’m half way through my pregnancy and want him involved. But, I want us both to be happy and any future relationship to work.

Please help.
Sonya

October 20, 2015 at 2:00 pm

Hi Chris,

My husband of 3 years left me 6 months pregnant as he said he didn’t love me anymore and we had become like friends. I was devastated as we’d been trying for this baby on his insistence since we got married. I’m now 8 months pregnant and initially used the nc rule, then started texting him after my medical appts and last week invited him to my antenatal class. He attended and then afterwards acted very hostile; telling me we had a loveless marriage, I’m not really heartbroken and of neither of us were actually happy. He really upset me and physically turned away from me as he didn’t want to hear me disagree with what he was saying. We left things badly but he text the next day and said was a bad time talk and we need to get along. I asked to meet to discuss things and he reluctantly agreed however I’m wondering if I should meet him? He said some awful things that really upset me and didn’t care and I’m wondering if it’s worth it?

Sarah

November 28, 2015 at 12:37 pm

Hey Chris,

My ex and I were together for about a year. We started dating our junior year of high school and broke up a few months ago due to excessive fighting and the fact that we just weren’t making each other happy anymore. I had been reading your advice on how to get him back because I am still very much in love with him, and I think there’s a part of my ex that loves me too. I followed your advice and implemented no contact for a month. At first it showed no results, and then very slowly my ex started warming up to me and stopped turning me away. We’re still not on the best terms, but were in a better place than before. Recently, I found out that I’m pregnant with his baby. I’m estimating about two months along. I haven’t told him yet, but I’m terrified that since were both teenagers that he’ll turn me away and won’t want the baby. I want him back so badly because I know that he’s great for me and would be a wonderful father to this baby. I’d love your help and would love to hear what you have to say about my situation. Thank you so much!

~Sarah
Chris Seiter

December 3, 2015 at 5:24 am

Hi Sarah, Well I think you should tell him right away. He needs to man up and help you. He may not but at least you will give him a shot to. It would be very alarming to him if a few months down the road you start showing and your back together with him. He will automatically assume you cheated and its not his if you hide it from him.
Chris Seiter

October 22, 2015 at 1:01 am

No don’t meet with him to talk about the relationship emotions are to high right now. You should see him to have fun, go to the movies, the park etc. not to discuss how bad the marriage was. Are you divorced or just separated? My other site might be good for you to check out, it’s not as “pretty” as this one because it’s in it’s infancy but it’s content is good. http://www.mymarriagehelper.com

Maria

October 6, 2015 at 11:34 pm

My partner and I have been together 20 months we are old enough to know better and we had a massive fight terrible things happened and on that day he loved me & then the next day he didn’t. Then a week later he moved out and he is now nine hours north of where I am. I was supposed to not contact him, give him “space” but of course I did. Apparently I hounded him and harassed him and I tried not to and now he says that it is over he’s not coming back, his head and heart are no longer in it and now I am on day two of no contact but I feel he will never come back.
I am five months pregnant and he left a week ago but we were broken up for three weeks.
Previously when I was not supposed to be contacting him but I was & every time I asked about the baby he ignores the question and he did want this baby but now it seems that he only said that so we wouldn’t break up and now he’s the one that has left.
Advice?
JACKLYN

October 6, 2015 at 4:12 pm

How about a different scenario… My ex of 6 years left me when I was 1 month pregnant with his child and offered to live with me to raise the baby (which I threw him out). I kept the house and he bought his own house. He is implicated in my child’s life who is now 2. His real reason (which he won’t actually admit) for leaving me was because my weight was like a yo-yo. I have raised my child alone while he visits. Oddly enough…..I still love the jerk but am juggling the idea of if I want him back or not.

If
Haley

September 28, 2015 at 2:24 am

Hey Chris,

My boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me at 8 months of pregnancy. I was still in the apartment because our lease is up in the middle of october and our child is due at the end of October. I come to find out he’s already seeing someone else… I’m now with my parents in Northern California (Moved up from SoCal).

He’s told me he doesn’t care about me anymore and only cares about our child, and to only contact him in regards to our kid. I’m in so much agony… how do I go about this… I still love him, and he’s told me he has no love for me any longer… how do I go about healing and getting through this? What do you think he’s thinking?

Chris Seiter

October 1, 2015 at 6:13 pm

At 8 months…

OMG…

I am so sorry that is horrible.

I just had a daughter and let me tell you it’s tough. Is this his first child?

You really need two parents to raise a child so I hope he comes around.

I would still use the advice in this article.

mrb

September 23, 2015 at 8:15 pm

I have a interesting situation. I have a strong faith, and known the issues before hand in my partner. We were broken up when I told him, but it was nothing worth doubting in my eyes. I found out I was pregnant I told him, he exclaimed he wanted to be a part of the babies life. My hormones raged, we argued alot, he had no patience I broke up with him out of anger one night after telling him he shouldn’t be in my babies life because he treats me so poorly (a little dramatic – but I had my serious reasons none the less) and he allowed it to stick. I really think I hurt him, and so he hurt me back. It’s been a month, and I was doing the typical begging apologizing and I found out he got with another girl (and made me appear as a crazy babymama to her to still be in contact with) the girl contacted me and told me everything, all the lies made sense. Every time he would tell me to come over and changed his mind he would be with her or everytime he was cold it was because he was with her. She ended it before she made contact with me she said it wasn’t working out, she said it was empty. I dont know how to take any of this as soon as she contacted me, I sent a text and said he’s out the picture. Then blocked him. PLEASE ANSWER WITH ANY ADVICE.

mrb

September 23, 2015 at 8:20 pm

I love him so much, he loves me more. The reason I hate all of this is because he told me he wanted to be friends and that it was best and that he needed space and wanted to be together. I believed him, but I had things to offer and when he wasn’t available to receive my changes it was because i didn’t know that period apart involved having sex with another girl and then her contacting me. Its unacceptable in my eyes but it’s really like what can i do…I implemented the NC but Idk if it’ll work. He moved on so fast, he seeemed really interested in her and blew me off so easily when i was so vulnerable..

Monica

September 21, 2015 at 1:23 am

hey chris, im 19 and 7 months pregnant with my exs baby. hes is almost 23 he will be 23, 2 days after my due date this December. but anyhow I really need help and advice here. me and him have been on and off for 5 years now, we been engaged before and even lived together before! but this last time I was with him for all this year almost until theses last couple months, we get back together and he breaks up with me, he ignores me, then repeats it all over again! but this last time before we broke up he was talking to other females behind my back etc, I know hes never cheated on me but still. it was really unfaithful to me because I never bothered showing any other guy my time or attention like I have Zach. but anyhow we didn’t really show me much affection or anything! he would avoid and ignore me a lot when he went home etc and it really hurt and bothered me. he would say hurtful things to me before the break up too.! but right now he has me blocked on his facebook and I have been for about 2 days now and have no way of contacting him on our daughter.! and he knows before this that I was having complactions on and off. but since he has had me block he tells everyone that its no “loss” to him that me and our daughter isn’t in his life anymore, and he denys raelyn a lot too! he pretty much is just hurtful and says things and does things that make me sick anymore. 🙁 && now Zach is acting like he doesn’t care and that nothing bothers him at all. and I know after we spent so much time together that his feeling and love for me didn’t just go “away” that easy. I been trying to get a lot of advice and tips on this because ive been so upset and hurt on it, trying to keep myself busy only works for so long before I start asking myself “whys he doing this to me and our daughter?;/ WHY?!” I know everyone tells me he will come back again soon because hes did it so many many times before. but I don’t know why but I really honestly feel like this time is different and he wont come back. and Im scared that he will have sex, or hookup with another female or already has. he constanly looks at girls sexual etc. Im just completely heartbroken and don’t know what to do anymore. I been doing the “no contact” since he has had me block on facebook but I don’t think it’ll work since he has me blocked etc… I just im lost. :'(
I miss him a lot and want him to be here with raelyn and I..
any advice, tips anything would greatly be helpful!

Thanks,. XX
Monica.

Monica

September 21, 2015 at 1:28 am

he also knows other guys want a chance to be with me, hes seen it before with his own eyes.

I just don’t know how to get through to him right now..
Chris Seiter

October 2, 2015 at 4:28 pm

Well lets come up with a game plan for you.

Mandy

September 9, 2015 at 4:13 pm

Hello, Chris!
Thank you so much for this website, it’s really comforting reading these articles and others’ stories. I’m in a lot of emotional pain, and I”m hoping you can find the time to reply to me!
I had been dating my ex for a year. We met at work and immediately had a connection! We had both been hurt by previous relationships and agreed we needed to take things slowly. We would hang out a few times a week for the first few months. As we got more comfortable, we slowly increased the amount of time spent together and talking on the phone. I thought we were being very mature and considerate of each other’s feelings!

After we had been seeing each other for about 5 months, things started to get more serious. We met each other’s families and friends and we were spending almost every day together. After around 9 months of dating, he started staying at my place more and more. WE would talk about starting a family and living together. He even asked me to marry him. I was even allowed to spend time with the son he already had from a previous relationship. He took a long time to introduce me into his son’s life because he wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to just come and go on them. It meant a lot to me that he trusted me enough to stay with them and help him care for his son. I truly fell in love with this man. However…I accidentally got pregnant around that time. We actually found out together, I took a pregnancy test in front of him and we cried all night long. He told me he would be there no matter what I decided to do.
A few months after being scared but supportive, he decides he can’t do it anymore and leaves me. We made up after a few days and he came back. He even moved in with me at that point.

At that time, his ex decided she wanted full custody of their son, something she’s been threatening to do for a long time. I know it’s really hard on him going to court and he doesn’t want to ever have to go through it again.
Now I’m almost 7 months pregnant and he’s left again. He says he can’t deal with me being pregnant. He told me we would have been together forever if I hadn’t got pregnant… After he broke up with me, he was still calling me every day. Like he was having trouble letting go. It’s been about 3 weeks…He went out of town with his brother this past weekend. He called me the night before they left and told me he wished I could come with them and how much he loved me. He told me he would call me, but I haven’t heard from him all weekend. I tried to call him and he never answered! I’m just so confused and disappointed that my daughter didn’t even get a chance to have a family with her father and older brother. I understand he’s hurt, but so am I! What do i do?
Jamie

August 27, 2015 at 5:24 pm

Hi Chris,

Today I found out that I am pregnant with my ex’s child after he broke up with me yesterday because he thinks I lied and cheated on him. I plead guilty about lying but I never cheated. My boyfriend & I have been together in a semi-long distance relationship for 7mos. He is married with two kids and he left his wife for me. Please don’t get me wrong, I did what I could to prevent our relationship at the onset. Anyway, he was really hurt 3 weeks ago when he found out that I lied about meeting my ex (it was really my son who he helped raised that my ex was visiting) and we embarked on a roller coaster ride of on and off after that. Yesterday he finally told me that he is falling out of love and is tired of trying. I didn’t reply to his text. I also think he is trying to get back with his wife (it happened to be her birthday yesterday). I don’t know how to tell him or if I should tell him that I’m pregnant. Please help!

Jamie

Jamie

September 6, 2015 at 3:55 pm

Hi Chris,

We decided to get back together after I told him I was pregnant. I don’t know if it’s a good idea because I sometimes feel like he probably just feels obliged to stay with me since I’m pregnant. To make matters worse, he sleeps at their house (with his wife and children), but in separate beds according to him, when I’m not in town since we are in a semi-long distance relationship. He said that the wife freaked out when he told her I was pregnant and she made choose between her and me, he told her I was his choice. I’m really uncomfortable about the whole setup that I am barely able to sleep at night when he’s there. I am haunted by the whole idea of them being under the same roof when I’m away. He constantly assures me that he loves me but I guess my hormones are all over the place. I don’t know if I made the right decision to get back with him.
Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 2:56 am

I think you should tell him, he has a right to know that he has a child on the way.
Jamie

August 27, 2015 at 5:27 pm

I was thinking of texting him this:

“What’s the worst thing that could happen?
Being dumped by ur bf bcoz he has fallen out of love with u & is trying to patch things up with his wife, only to find out that u are bearing his child so ur life has to come to a halt for the next 8mos & u will have to suffer the stigma of ur stupid mistake for the rest of ur life…”
Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 3:01 am

No don’t send that. Ask him to meet you in person, tell him you have something important to tell him.

Girly girl

August 25, 2015 at 9:09 pm

To the girl that’s pregnant and new boyfriend wants an abortion. I have a daughter 9 months old the same happened to me and believe me your better off without him now. Don’t try and get him back because if he’s not on the birth certificate all the better. When baby come along things got worse and he is a deadbeat dad always complaining and not supportin g in anyway that I up and left a country i had lived in 12 years!
I Dont mean to sound horrible but I wish he had blocked me and the baby out of his life as im telling u it was my situation although I had his first baby!!
Girls be warned men that leave their babies do so for good reasons!! It’s a warning sign!! Dont fall for the special rubbish been there seen it done it and was cheated and betrayed the whole time! Please for your own insanity!!

Maria

October 6, 2015 at 11:19 pm

In my country it’s harder to get child support if you don’t put the fathers name on the certificate. But if you do then you need their signature to say, get a passport for the child. Such a pain

Ann

August 19, 2015 at 1:03 am

Hi Chris,
I met my ex boyfriend last year, I got out of a bad relationship before him but with him I decided to just ‘go with the flow’ and see where things would lead on to. The first month or two were great, we had our occasional bumps but then it got worse around the fourth/fifth month. My mom bought him a ticket to visit our family in Peru for 3 weeks, he didn’t have to worry about anything only bring money to buy souvenirs. The next month I bought him a ticket to go to California with my family to go to Disneyland. We were rocky since our trip back from Peru and I thought this would help us reconnect. I started to get bad anxiety attacks after every fight and he started to be aggressive. He broke up with me days before our trip because he found out my ex boyfriend texted me, I didn’t tell him because I didn’t think it was necessary. He insulted me very bad in front of his dad and his dad told me to leave his house. I went to my Cali trip with my family and we talked a little, he said loves me but needs a break. When I came back I found out he slept with another girl. I was only gone for 3 days and to know that he did that I was so hurt. He apologized a thousand times for hurting me that way and told me he regretted it. We decided to get back and work on our trust issues. I thought I was pregnant but it turned out to be a false alarm. We got in an argument again because I found out he was still talking to that girl, he got upset and slept with that same girl again.
Long-story Short, We got back together a few weeks after but I was never over the fact that he slept with her again after being so disappointed in himself the first time. I held that against him and I was really hard on him. I told my mom what happened and she told me to forget him and move on. So I went behind her back and started seeing him again. He was being really sweet again like when we first started dating but I didn’t trust him.
I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant and I felt so overwhelmed and stressed. It hurt me to know I conceived when he was sleeping around. I hated him. Not going to lie I was really mean and moody with him but he was still sweet to me. I just wouldn’t let it go. He was shocked that I was pregnant and started to get stressed about it. We went to a concert and I heard that he was talking to that girl again. I didn’t want to make a huge deal so I just stayed quiet and wouldn’t say anything. Then I broke out and told him I didn’t want him anymore instead of talking to him. I just blew up. We broke up that night and when we were driving home he told me I was the reason he stopped seeing his family, didn’t graduate, doesn’t have friends, etc. I couldn’t stop crying in our 3 hour ride back home. I threw up but he still kept ranting on how a terrible person I am. I didn’t know he was feeling that way. I told him that I would have fixed and changed it because I didn’t want him unhappy.
Im almost 17 weeks, he has gone to some of my appointments. Whenever we talk about the baby either he or I change it to our feelings. We still saw each other and talked occasionally, I was starting to feel used so I cut him off. I feel like I was begging for him to come back to me and my baby but he kept saying he can’t. I feel so disappointed that I let myself constantly beg someone to take me back even he kept rejecting me. He started saying that he needed time and space. He’s been partying with his cousin almost every day. He claims he hasn’t been with anyone else. He told me he feels bad that my baby has to be in this ‘messed up’ situation. I feel lost because he gives me so many mix messages. I can’t help to think I deserve this. I’ve gone to the ER several times because I’m diabetic and my sugar levels were out of control, he didn’t go with me to any. One night I was really sick and wouldn’t stop throwing up and he said he was at a party and that he’s sorry for not being able to hold my hair. After that night I got upset and told him he hasn’t been supportive about my pregnancy. We started arguing again and anything I said would irritate him.
We stopped talking for 3-4 days and I tried to talk to him calmly since he wanted to go to my appointments. He wants to be friends with me and be able to coparent and raise our child together but I can’t do that. I feel that my feelings will get in the way and I won’t be happy. I feel like my baby and I would be fine without him but I don’t want to cut him off of my baby’s life. He started to say our baby and he seems excited. He said he’ll be there for my baby but not me. I just don’t know what to do. He tells me he doesn’t want to be with me but mentions how much he misses me. Everyone tells me it will all fall into its place as my pregnancy goes and once the baby is here but its too hard right now. I just feel really lost and my only concern right now is my baby’s health. What do you recommend I should do? Do you think he would come back? Any advice would be very nice.
Elizabeth

August 2, 2015 at 11:06 pm

Dear Chris,
Thank you for addressing this issue. It has been so hard and painful to be left while I’m pregnant. Thanks to this article I was able to keep my wits about me. But now even though I have read your article I’m lost at how to apply it in my own life. It has been 7 days since he moved out left and we both stopped communication. And I just received a text asking me how I’m feeling, and how the baby(25weeks) is doing. Do I break NC to tell him “the baby is fine” or wait until the 14th to let him know how my doctor visit went. Any advice is welcomed advice. Thank you. -Liz

Elizabeth

September 12, 2015 at 7:13 am

Hi Chris
Thank you so much for your advice.
My ex and I have been to 2 doctor appointments together since our breakup. I tried to be confident, and look nice as well as spoke softly and calmly.
He seemed miserable the first time we saw each other and did want hugs.
Today (2nd time) He fell asleep and I told him he still had to show up or I wouldn’t tell him when my next doctor appointment was. We ended up going to eat and talk about the baby.
During lunch he couldn’t deny he left because he was talking to somebody else. I was strong and kept on the baby subject. When he left he wanted a hug, I let him hug me.
What is he thinking? Has he forgotten everything we’ve gone through? Or have I always been this naive girl to play with?
Back to what you said before “your unborn child vs. Your ex” I know he’s unreliable, reckless, untrustworthy, and not very smart. But I know I loved him, and I still do. But I think this is really over.
We both practice NC. But I doubt he does it because he was advised to. I have totally no idea what he’s thinking.
I’m so lost and confused what should I do? What can I do?
Elizabeth

August 26, 2015 at 5:04 am

Thank you Chris and God bless you. I didn’t break no contact that day! And I continued no contact. He’s going with me to my doctor appointment on Friday. And I know I’ve got to let him go! He’s no good! I feel awful for my baby girl she didn’t deserve this.
Chris one last question when I see him for these doctor visits how to I become the unattainable girl? I’m huge and pregnant!
Chris Seiter

September 1, 2015 at 8:57 pm

The interesting thing about pregnancy is that men find the women that are carrying their babies even more attractive then before. This happens naturally, It’s natures way of keeping the fathers around long enough to protect the family. Just be confident and look good for your appointments. (The main thing here is your attitude though, keep a positive outlook and be friendly) Let us know how it goes!
Chris Seiter

August 13, 2015 at 1:13 pm

I am sorry to hear that! How long have you been in no contact? I’d advise not to break no contact. If it’s an ultrasound visit bring him but if not continue with no contact.

Jade

July 29, 2015 at 2:19 pm

About 2 weeks ago, I discovered my ex was seeing another woman. I discovered that they started seeing each other when I was 7 months pregnant. We have a five month old child together. I felt really hurt and betrayed. He said that the reason he cheated was because I have been verbally disrespectful to him. He refused to cut contact with her, saying he will just stay away from her until he is sure that I am no longer disrespectful. Should I prove to him am no longer disrespectful or do I cut contact?

Maria

October 6, 2015 at 11:24 pm

He sounds like a doosh. Don’t contact him. You were verbally disrespectful? Gosh, if that’s what makes him stray then I wouldn’t waste time on him. Be strong.
Elizabeth

August 2, 2015 at 11:13 pm

Nothing can excuse cheating. I just don’t understand why, when there are so many ways to let someone know how they are feeling. Chris is right I know we want “our” men back, but are they even worthy of us? I haven’t caught my bf cheating but there are signs. Really listen to your women’s intuition… respect him by giving him his space to do and figure out what he wants. And it will give him time to figure out how to respect you. I can’t comfort you so at least know you’re not alone. Let’s be strong together.
Jade

July 29, 2015 at 2:34 pm

He also sed that it was my fault that he might hurt her since I was the one who made him cheat by being disrespectful to him. He told me to only ask him after 30 days if he has stopped contact with the other woman. What is he trying to say? Do I try and make amends? show him i respect him? Do i ignore and implement NC?

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