How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Him- Advice & Help

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Kylie

November 25, 2015 at 8:08 am

Please reply, I have no idea who to turn to on this. I cheated on my fiance twice in about a weeks span. Once with a practical stranger. I recently found out I have PTSD and we are both a little open sexually so sometimes we have groups together. I was staying at my friends house for a few months for a short term job opportunity and I completely hallucinated that he was there and talking to me. Afterwards I realized he was not and the person talking was another woman. I couldn’t even stand up the shock and shame hit me immediately. The second time I cheated was because my friends man grabbed me out of the shower threw me on the bed and wouldn’t let me leave. Every time I tried to get away he’d just pick me up and throw me back I couldn’t even get to my phone. I didn’t tell him at first out of shame but when I did I didn’t tell him what happened. I just told him it was my fault. He stayed after one bloody hell of a fight, somehow, but now a month later he just up and left. I left that house, blocked those people from my life and one was a best friend of 8 years. I don’t go anywhere with any guy, not even my friends or family. I only see him and another friend who is a girl. I have done everything he’s wanted and when he left me I finally broke down and told him what even happened. It didn’t matter. He told me I should’ve called him immediately and told him what happened but I didn’t soI must not love him. I do though… we were supposed to get married in a few months and if not for a recent miscarriage I’d be due any day now. I don’t understand how my life can just get flipped upside down. He tells me he still loves me and wants to be with me and that he still considers me his best friend and doesn’t want to lose that even though we’re done. How can I change this? There’s no one I can talk to and I just feel so dirty… my best friend is off limits because he can’t stand to look at me and I thought I was doing everything right to prove my loyalty. What now?

T

February 7, 2016 at 10:19 pm

Sounds like you were actually raped, after you already had PTSD. In that context your feelings make total sense – agorophobia, panic attacks, hallucinations. You must see a counselor so you can start healing. It is not healthy to only see two people. You need to see an expert that can help you get your life back. Maybe veteran’s affairs or a domestic violence hotline? It makes sense that you feel dirty, but you are NOT. You are beautiful. The things that happened to you are not your fault.
Sending love.

Sandy

November 21, 2015 at 7:02 am

Chris,

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. About 3 three months ago my boyfriend and I had “the talk.” He told me he was on the fence about where our future stood. He then told me that I demanded too much of him and told me he couldn’t offer me more right than that he was already giving me. About two weeks later I found comments on this woman’s Facebook that my boyfriend is friends with commenting that he should make her “bikini” picture his desktop background. This was a month after he made inappropriate comments about a female friends ass looking good on Facebook. The day I found the photo I got into a conversation with my ex that turned sexual aka sexted. I don’t have feelings for my ex at all but I told him I did in that text thread. I think I was sad that my current boyfriend had told me he was “on the fence about me.” I think we may or may not have sexted again. I have no idea this point. Regardless, it never happened again, after that brief (a couple of days) period. Fast forward a couple of months and my current boyfriend announces he went through my phone and read the string of conversations. When he initially confronted me with a general question of cheating: I said no as I had never physically cheated on done anything inappropriate other than that sexted thread. Then my boyfriend told me what he read (which was as bad as bad can get). Then I asked my boyfriend did he ever cheat on me. He told me (out of spite) he had a several week inappropriate online and texting relationship with a woman he used to have feelings for. At this juncture, I do want him back however only if we go to therapy to talk about the underlying issues. I think what I did was wrong (and I didn’t deny that), but I never physically cheated. I cheated (perhaps emotionally, but I don’t have feelings for my ex) and feel horrible. What do I do now?
Sam

November 12, 2015 at 2:20 am

I cheated on my boyfriend of 3.5 years with someone for almost a year before i told him about it. I ended up getting pregnant with the affairs kid. :c I’m still with the guy I’m having a kid with unfortunately and can’t seem to lose him. I want my ex back more than anything, because everything was so comfortable and perfect there, other than that I wasn’t getting the attention I really craved from him. (due to pc gaming). But i seriously wouldn’t trade his nerd raging for the world ever again. He tells me that now that I’m pregnant and expecting a child that it’d be hard to look past. the situation is extremely bad, considering that the guy i was cheating on him with was also hanging out with my ex and I too. :/ I feel like the shittiest person in the world, because he wanted nothing but the best for me, and was always there when nobody else was. He’s a sensitive guy, and I was so caught up in bullshit that I looked right past it.
I cannot raise my son around the father of this baby. He’s controlling, and emotionally abusive too, and he’s super hard to get away from. :/ I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place, and I cannot even get out of it. HELP.
Kerrie

November 9, 2015 at 8:48 am

I cheated on my parter of 1.5 years when I questioned if he was the guy I wanted to end up with. I was unsure about a lot of things and then a friend had similar problems in his relationship and I don’t know, it happened unexpectedly and ended even quicker. I regret it and everything that came from it. I told my boyfriend I was unsure about ‘us’ and hinted that I might have been interested in another guy. We kept working at it, and eventually he found out I had cheated. We split up for about a week. He loves me and I really do love him too. We’ve been together for the last few months and it’s been hard. His family semi-hates me, his friends think I’m a whore, and whenever he drinks he lets me know how he really feels. He loves me, he does. He wants to stay with me, after everything I’ve done, and I’m eternally grateful I have someone like him. I love him more than anything. I never use to be able to see us having a future, mainly because we’re both so young still and it didn’t seem realistic. Now I know I want that life with him, I want a house and mortgage and bratty kids. But a big chunk of him finds me disgusting and will probably never truly forgive me. I accept that, but when he lashes out at me it’s hard. It’s really hard. I dont know how to respond. I can’t disagree with what he’s saying because it’s true. He gave me everything and I destroyed that. He says I’ve ruined him, he was already a lonely person and I cemented that isolation he feels. Over the last three days he’s drank and ended the night with me crying. I wanted to go home and let him sober up, talk about it in the morning. If I left though, I don’t know how he’d react, what he’d do. I would be abandoning him again. I can’t talk to anyone about this. I can’t even tell him. How long until he’ll deal with these feelings? I don’t know how to cope with this myself. It’s very hard.
Michelle

November 7, 2015 at 5:11 am

Hi Chris,

I am going through a break up with the love of my life and I mean I am going through it. To give you a little bit of background we are both in our 30’s and have been engaged for a year and seem to have the happiest lives of any people we know. Recently I was contacted by my ex and began texting with him and flirting… Nothing sexual ever happened but my ex would sometimes become very flirty… which i made no attempts to shut down and sometimes was even a little flirty myself. Well my exs’ girlfriend called my fiancee at work and exposed all the texts to him telling him he should know what kind of woman he was going to marry. I begged and pleaded with him telling him that I had not cheated and had not even seen him or spoken to him for 7 years! He said it was even worse because I was going behind his back when he thought we were happy. He has told me he wants to break our lease and needs time away but that I should not hold out hope because he’s not sure if he could look himself in the mirror again if he took me back. Please help… I am completely and utterly devastated and just want him back… I have picked up your book and am ready to commit to the 30 day rule but I am also afraid that if I give him this time he will never come back to me. Any help you could give would help my ease my breaking heart.
Jenny

November 5, 2015 at 12:25 am

I cheated on my boyfriend in the summer and we have been going out for 11 months. I have dated alot of guys before him and not one have I ever loved so much like this one. I’ve cheated on past relationships before mostly due to alcholo consumption. And I cheated on my boyfriend ian in the summer. For the longest time I didn’t think it was a big deal and I always thought since we’re not engaged it wouldn’t be a big deal for him to never know. But I started doing other shady things to him behind his back I didn’t sleep with anybody but I lied about hanging out with different guys. He found out about me hanging out with other guys but he never found out that I cheated on him. For the last 8 months he seems hurt because of those guys that I hung out with behind his back. We rarely have sex now but he still continues to want me and stay with me. We use to have sex at least 3 times a week now we have sex at least once a week sometimes once every two weeks. In the beginning of our relationship we used to have sex a lot I would come on to him a lot but now only he’s allowed to come on to me .after he caught me talking to this guy named Chandler in the beginning of fall he has acted differently. He doesn’t seem to care as much about me as much anymore and doesn’t care what I do anymore . But still wants to see me and still loves being around me he tells me and it is visible . but when I ask him if he still cares about me as much he says he does. Whenever I’m upset he doesn’t really seem to want to understand why. And whenever I confront him about something that he’s doing that I don’t like he doesn’t admit to doing anything wrong. We use to do lots of things together like go to dinner go to the movies go out to a bar together but we never do those things anymore we stop doing things like that about six months ago though. Today we got in a huge fight because I wanted to have sex with him and he didn’t want to and it’s been almost a week and a half since we last had sex. I was just so upset and I didn’t think that I could handle not being able to have sex at that time. And after he shot me down I felt very insecure and I thought to myself our relationship right now is just so screwed up he doesn’t seem to love me as much as he used to even though he says that he does the same amount as he used to I don’t believe him. So at that point I thought to myself will this get any better? So I told him “ian what I’m going to tell you might make you leave forever I cheated on you. Once I told him I was assuming that he would be very upset and angry and leave but instead he told me that he didn’t care and that he wasn’t really angry because he felt that I had cheated on him for the longest time. After saying it I tried to say that I was just saying that I cheated on him to see what he would say but I’m pretty sure he doesn’t believe me after that he told me he needed some space to think about things all I want is for him to go back to the person I fell in love with I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose him I want to be with him but I’m afraid he’s not making me happy anymore. And that it would be a waste of time to try and fix things with him because he’s hurt from all the things that I have done behind his back like lied and hung out with guys behind his back. I want him to change but I don’t know if he ever will. For almost 8 months now he has been a different person then he use to be when I fell in love with him. I’m afraid that he is buckling down and doesn’t care how he acts anymore because he thinks that I am NOT going to go anywhere. He never tries to do anything that he doesn’t want to do. He is to go out of his comfort zone for me all the time but since about 8 months he has not been the same as he was in the beginning. I wonder if you could stoop so low to knowing that I won’t go anywhere no matter what he does so he continues to treat me in a different way than he used to. What should i do right now. this just happened today. And I just want him to be the person that I fell in love with 8 months ago.
Rachel

November 3, 2015 at 9:40 pm

I was with my boyfriend for two years and cheated on him with a guy I knew for two weeks. The thought of cheating sometimes crossed my mind, but I always refrained from it because I loved my boyfriend so much until last week when I had sex with the other guy. My boyfriend found out and is now saying that looking at me physically hurts him and he’s moving all of his stuff out(we live together while going to school). He is a very emotional guy so he took it very very hard and I can see that he is in pain. Sometimes he will still kiss me, but then he’ll go right back to being disgusted when looking at me. I don’t want to follow the 30 day rule because I don’t want him to move out. If he does, there is no way he will be returning. I am just lost?
Kourdja

November 3, 2015 at 3:28 pm

I been dating my boyfriend for 3 month now but I’ve started back to a guy used to mess around with and last night I went to his house to watch movies but we did a little more then that my boyfriend doesn’t know I’m not sure I should tell him or not I don’t want to lose him because I love him but the only problem is I think I’m catching feelings for the other guy too I really don’t know what to do here?
Alexis

November 2, 2015 at 8:17 am

Me and me ex boyfriend still live together because neither of us can afford to move out until our lease is up in january, I cheated on him October of 2014 and he found out about it the beginning of September 2015 I also sent some pictures to the same guy in July 2015, my question is how do I win him back while we still live together? I do love him and I honestly cannot imagine my life without him, I don’t know what to do or how to show him he means so much to me and that I really do love him. Do you have any advice?
Ashley123

October 30, 2015 at 5:01 pm

I am currently seeing a man, we have never meet, weve been texting for over a month but whenever he says hes coming to meet me, a work emergency comes up and he never comes (fwi he owns 20 business) I cheated on him with another man just recently and told him about it last night, he was speechless and very upset. I know its all my fault and when it first happened, I blamed him as he hasn’t been around and my needs have not been met, yes we have talked by text and one call but never meet so it has been hard to believe everything he says. Now, the man I cheated with told me that the man im seeing is using me and will never come see me, made me feel like I was doing this for nothing a couple weeks ago. Now, he came over to my house and it happened! The man im seeing told me he basically lied to me to be able to have sex with me, fully knowing I am seeing someone. I feel absolutely horrible and want to fix things with the man im seeing but have NO idea how to! Suggestions? Where do I go from here
Ashley

October 30, 2015 at 5:00 pm

I am currently seeing a man, we have never meet, weve been texting for over a month but whenever he says hes coming to meet me, a work emergency comes up and he never comes (fwi he owns 20 business) I cheated on him with another man just recently and told him about it last night, he was speechless and very upset. I know its all my fault and when it first happened, I blamed him as he hasn’t been around and my needs have not been met, yes we have talked by text and one call but never meet so it has been hard to believe everything he says. Now, the man I cheated with told me that the man im seeing is using me and will never come see me, made me feel like I was doing this for nothing a couple weeks ago. Now, he came over to my house and it happened! The man im seeing told me he basically lied to me to be able to have sex with me, fully knowing I am seeing someone. I feel absolutely horrible and want to fix things with the man im seeing but have NO idea how to! Suggestions?
claire

October 28, 2015 at 6:05 am

Hey Chris. So my boyfriend of 2 years dumped me about a month ago saying that there are just to many things in the relationship that he is uncomfortable with. I didn’t get any specific reasoning I didn’t even get to say one word about the matter and j haven’t heard from him since. He has blocked my phone number and the only way I can get In contact with him is through Facebook. Y friends have been told by him to stay out of it. Its been 34 days since he I have heard anything from him but I have tried to contact him. what can I do?? Please help.
Age

October 27, 2015 at 5:10 am

Hi,

I cheated on my older boyfriend we are a six year age difference. I cheated on him with my ex boyfriend who is the same age as me and we have the same friends. Me and my ex had a two year relationship. So I left my boyfriend at the time to be with my ex and now six months later and I am still confused about if I made the right decision and why I miss my (now ex) so much. I think I left my boyfriend for my ex because of the age difference and I missed being able to be around my boyfriend and friends at the same time but I just don’t know anymore.
Cierra

October 24, 2015 at 3:54 am

hi i need some personal help. my situation started with on of my close friends passing away and this brought out my spiritual side. I decided to apologize to my ex from how things ended. He gave me his phone number because i deleted it and was contacting him through twitter. he said if you need anything call me. so I went to college with my boyfriend of 10 months. we were fine and then we started arguing a lot. I told him i needed my space so we wouldn’t be arguing so much cause we had seen each other 24/7 for two straight weeks. We argued over stupid things and he almost broke up with me then said nevermind. then the next morning brought me breakfast like everything was ok. so i told him i needed a real break and so we were going to take a week break and one this break i contacted my ex to talk to him about what was going on. He told me he would meet me in the place where i go to college and talk more. He came down and i went and seen him. I was talking to him about my relationship when all of a sudden he came on to me and we had sex. I didn’t go there to do that it just happened no to mention i said no to him before hand. so when my boyfriend found out about all this he broke up with me. So ever since he has been really harsh and playing all these childish games on me to make me mad or upset. he has said he wasn’t going to talk to me for a month and i’m really depressed because i love him and i talk to him about everything. I need help on how to get him back because he is being really wishy washy and he told me he planned to transfer colleges next year and i do to because i don’t like where i’m at but the colleges are 3 hours apart and i’m worried he isn’t gonna wanna be with me and he is already talking to other girls as friends and has told me i have nothing to worry about but i’m depressed about all this and my school stuff is adding to it. so what the hell do i do?!?!
TT

October 20, 2015 at 4:07 am

My boyfriend and I were together for 8 months. I was having an affair with an older man for 6.5 months out of the 8 months. I ended the affair 1.5 month ago and it was the best decision I made. My relationship with my boyfriend blossomed until he found out couple of weeks ago. He obviously ended things with me. Right now he is going through the stages of grieving. He tells me that he is about to head into the stage where he is mad/angry at me. However, he told me he will forgive me someday because that is who he is. I kept suggesting us giving it another chance. We can start over again. He never said no but he is not ready for us. I understand and am willing to wait until time passes. We are going through the ‘no-contact’ stage and we discussed maybe a coffee in the future. You suggest 30 days of no-contact . However, in my case should I go for 3 months? Funny thing is, it will be near our 1 year mark. I want to win him back and give us a second chance. He never said no for us getting back together but right now he wants to be alone. I truly believe we might reconcile in the future.

TT

October 29, 2015 at 6:12 pm

Should I post a new facebook profile picture during the NC? I want him to remember how attractive I am.
Chris Seiter

October 22, 2015 at 1:14 am

30 Days should be enough. Just make sure you dont make him jealous at all during this time.

Geraldine

September 29, 2015 at 5:48 am

hi,

i dated my ex for about 5 months, i left the country to see my son, and had a connection with my sons dad, i made the mistake, and my sons dad emailed my ex, we kept seeing each other for 4 more months and tried to just forget about it, but we just ended up fighting, and our last fight was so bad that we didn’t seem to have the same connection. i still love him, and want to get him back, the last time we talked to each other was about 2 weeks ago, and he had told me to forget about him. he didn’t want me to delete his number just incase he said, but i recently found out that he’s on tinder (dating app). i wanted to wait for him to come back and give him his space, but after finding this out i feel like i’ve rly lost him, and i want to get him back. should i wait on that 30 day? or just forget about him?
Marina

September 28, 2015 at 8:49 pm

Hey Chris,
So my ex and I had recently broken things off due to mutual reasons, a really gentle break up. Took the no contact time and then we started talking again and seeing each other, as a matter of fact things were really going well.
Last night however after we had spent some time together and we were getting ready to both get into our separate cars, and we got into a serious conversation. He asked me about something that had happened when we were first beginning to date. We both went out to a party together, he left for a little while and I was by myself and HEAVILY intoxicated (I know, no excuse). Ran into a guy who I had met previously at another party. We were talking and all of a sudden this guy started kissing my neck and he grabbed my behind. My boyfriend at the time walked up and saw the whole thing…after that night I told him I had no idea or recollection of the events…I knew I hadn’t acted on anything, however I did know I had let some guy do that to me…I was so unbelievably humiliated because I am not that type of person, but it happened…
He asked me a few times if I knew what had happened and each time I had said I didn’t remember and had no idea.
Last night he told me because we weren’t together any longer that I could tell him and he wouldn’t have any judgements. He said that if I had something to say that I could and that it would be okay and that it wouldn’t change his opinion of me. I opened up and told him I knew what had happened and that I had allowed it to happen, I let him kiss my neck and put his hands on me, however I did not reciprocate.. I told him that a couple of years ago I lacked self respect for myself and I was very insecure.. However I said that the reason why I had never told him I remembered was because I was so ashamed of my behavior and I learned a lesson, and I really did. Never again did I put myself in a situation like that..the guilt ate me alive..
He said he feels tricked and lied to from the beginning that I didn’t tell him I had remembered.
He said that if he had known he would have cut off the relationship right then instead of 3 years later..However during our 3 year relationship he would bring it up occasionally. Of course my response was always that I didn’t remember, bad I know, but I was so ashamed.
He stormed off and told me he would be cutting me out of his life completely and that he never wanted to hear from me again. In fact, he said some horrible things, I’m sure I don’t need to elaborate…
He then said he would never consider a friendship or allow me to “infiltrate” his life ever again, and that he would be filing a restraining order.
So far he has blocked me from Facebook. I believe this was done out of spite, he is like a dog with a bone, he has a big ego and loves to cause double the pain to those that have hurt him..
at this point I am not sure if I have any hope of ever getting him to speak to me again. I have started the no contact rule, but I am really scared he will never speak to me again. He has had a past of an ex cheating on him in the past, however she slept with his best friend several times. I did not have sex with this person and it really was a thing of the past that happened in the VERY early stages of the relationship.
Do you think there is any hope or am I pretty royally screwed here?
Please, I could really use your advice!
Thank you!
Alexandra

September 21, 2015 at 8:10 pm

Hi,

My boyfriend broke up with me about three weeks ago, and I am still devastated. We dated for two years and he was the best to me, always sweet, kind, caring. I had asked him if we could open our relationship to allow making out with others because I was surrounded by people in open relationships and got the idea into my head as a solution because I was frustrated that he is less experienced than me, and I didn’t want to have to be a teacher. I see now that was such a terrible way to act! Not a solution AT ALL. I regret not being more understanding. Anyways, after nagging from me he agreed and I did it, and it was too much. He was so hurt and angry and couldn’t deal with it. He felt cheated on and betrayed. He hasn’t spoken to me in the three weeks since.

Not only that, but unfortunately, I grew up in an environment where teasing and making fun of others is just a playful thing to do. I come from a family that’s very adamant about voicing their feelings if they’re unhappy, so we always know when it’s too much. He is not that kind of person and is more likely to push it under the rug so as to not upset others. So when I teased him he was hurt, but he never firmly told me to stop – only subtle hints. There were a few additional things in the same category – I know NOW that he was hurt by them, but I didn’t get it then. Combine all of that with this incident and his feeling cheated on, despite agreeing to it (he thought I’d never do it or probably just gave in to make me happy and didn’t expect I would act on the permission)…he was pretty angry and so hurt.

I feel horrible. I want him back but even more so I want him to forgive me because I’m so sorry!! I wrote him a letter explaining everything and he read it and kept it (friend verified it is still on table), but I don’t know if that’s hopeful. He tells his friends he’s done with me and I’m a bitch who didn’t respect him. I just want to make up for and own up to my mistakes.

What can I do??

Sean Higgins

December 7, 2015 at 2:30 am

I had to read this 5 times to believe it! You did what? He was less sexually experienced that you, you didn’t want to be his teacher, wanted an open relationship so he could go with others to learn, but you hooked up with others? So you hooked up with other’s for his benefit so he could get more experienced? The only thing he got experienced with was your Depravity. Then you teased him? You made it clear and enforced that you do not want an exclusive relationship. He did. So you are trying to get him back into an open relationship so that you can be with him, and fool around with anyone you please? Are you off your medication and out of therapy? This guy has made it plain he doesn’t want to talk to you. RESPECT IT!!! You are lucky he hasn’t called the cops on you or maybe you can expect a Restraining Order sometime soon.
Alexandra

October 6, 2015 at 6:33 pm

Hi Chris! I know you are busy with your new baby but I wanted to give you a brief update on my situation just in case you have a chance to reply to comments again. I’ve listened to all of your podcast episodes and read most of the articles on here. I just bought the book and can’t wait to delve into it. All of your advice is so helpful! I am 15 days into NC, 32 days since the breakup. My ex still hasn’t spoken to me, but I doubt he will without me contacting first once the 30 days are up. I’m planning to use a text message at that time, but I’m just wondering what plan/advice in the book I should follow? Obviously I can’t use any kind of jealousy tactic, and he’s certainly angry at me so I know it will take time to forgive. Maybe I should do NC for more than 30 days? Or no? Should I just treat this situation like cheating, or is it more hopeful than that since we did have a discussion beforehand? I hope I can get him back with your advice! Trying to stay positive…
Alexandra

September 23, 2015 at 2:33 pm

By the way, in the past three weeks I have only tried calling him twice with no answer (no texts, messages, or going there). His friends have tried to convince him to talk to me, and he just gets angry and screams at them. He says he doesn’t owe me anything (including a conversation). He admits he agreed to our arrangement but “never thought I would do it.” He tells his friends he’s totally over me and it only took him a few days. However, his friends all agree he’s lying because when we were together, he loved me SO MUCH. They (and I) could see it plainly. He is trying to force himself to forget me and get over me because he is hurt and angry. Should I start the NC rule now? Will it work?

Francis

September 21, 2015 at 2:51 am

Hi Chris, I’m so thankful I came upon this when I most needed it, so thank you.
I know you’re probably overwhelmed by all of us who had made this same error so I’ll try to keep mine as short as I can!
My boyfriend of 2 years and I were out drinking with friends at a friends house this Wednesday night. Long story short, he went to the bathroom, I walked over to the front door where this guy we both know was (who I’m still trying to figure out why I felt the need to go by him, I’m stupid). I walked over to “see if their cab was outside” and in that moment while we were both in the doorway he leaned in and kissed me and I reciprocated. It didn’t last longer than a second, I pushed him away but only because I saw my boyfriend walk back to our spot from the bathroom. I immediately walked back and sat by him like nothing had happened (I’m an idiot), he looked me in the eyes and calmly said “I saw that.” We left right away, it was one of the roughest nights, he didn’t say a word to me the next morning, I called off work the entire next day. He broke up with me Thursday, didn’t message him at all Friday or most of Saturday. I caved in Saturday night and texted, he responded then I called him. He’s so upset, I don’t blame him. He has every right to feel the way he does. I’ve been texting him throughout the day today (Sunday) about getting through this together. He’s questioning why he would want to get back with me. He says I already had him in my life and I made the decision for us by doing what I did that night. I’ve been really lost. I went to church this morning, I’ve been reading like crazy, I’m trying to find some faith, hope, anything. Should I still try the 30 day no contact? I’m afraid he’ll have moved passed me and will not want me in his life then. Thoughts? I’m really looking forward to hearing from you.
chelsea

September 18, 2015 at 5:42 pm

What if you live together so you can’t do the no contact rule?