The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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April 2, 2014 at 5:46 pm

Hi, I love your article and I will try my best to follow the steps towards getting my ex-boyfriend back. We have been together for over a year now and we met during our fresh year of college. I’m now a sophomore but he doesn’t attend the same school as me so we have a long distance relationship while I’m away. But we live near each other when I come home. Today he broke up with me but we have been into it for a about three weeks now so i haven’t really been talking to him. He deleted my pics off of his Instagram and today he told me he didn’t want to be in a relationship after i called him and asked him if he wanted to be with me or not. After her told me the bad news I asked him over and over why he wanted to break up and he said he didn’t have a reason.I wanted to know so bad what was that I did wrong and why he wanted to brake up but he never told me. I even cried while on the phone with him but he told me to stop crying and that I will find another man. I don’t know if that was a good sign or not. During our relationship I would nag alot about how wouldn’t communicate well with me. And I think that’s why he don’t want to be with me because I nag alot. I really want to try the tips that you have posted. What should I do pleasee help, I really love him.

admin

April 3, 2014 at 5:42 pm

You might find some interesting stuff on the long distance relationship page.

Cat

April 2, 2014 at 2:17 pm

hi since i didn’t get a reply regarding my question on what’s the best thing to say on the second attempt after NC…il just give examples, just please pick what you think would help me.
his birthday is on May im planning to greet him there and leaving nc still going all throughout April
or I try to send him my second attempt in NC this april? My last text to him was March 15 that was when i finished the nc and didnt get any response from him.
I’m planning to try again so please do answer. thanks
Julie

April 1, 2014 at 10:33 pm

Hey, my boyfriend of a year broke up with me two days ago. We got into a fight about something really small, he freaked out and said we would talk in the morning. The next day the moment I see him he starts crying saying that I am an amazing person, that I care so much about him, that he doesn’t want to hurt me, but he just doesn’t have those same feelings anymore. He said that he had been feeling that way for a month but just kept trying to see if things would change, even though he seemed perfectly loving and never spoke about those feelings with me. During our relationship he mentioned many things like how i nagged and complained all the time, how i was too insecure etc. but I never really did anything to change that. I had texted him the next day saying how much he meant to me and how crazy this whole breakup seemed. He agreed and said that he my text made him cry and he didn’t want me to text him anymore because it just “made his heart sink into his stomach.” He said he needed space so that we could be friends later. I feel now like there is really no hope for us. He seemed pretty set on his decision even though he seemed sad about it. Do you think he would ever change his mind? Should I not contact him anymore?

Kerry

April 2, 2014 at 6:45 pm

Mine is the same Julie – However my boyfriend didn’t get upset.
admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Go into NC right now yes.

Kerry

April 1, 2014 at 8:51 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me four days ago after 2 and a half years. He told me things wasn’t the same, he wasn’t happy, he told me he didn’t love me the way you love someone you think you are going to get married to or have babies with. He said he has been trying to make our relationship work after the last time we broke up (2 months ago) When he was breaking up with me he didn’t seem like he was even bothered. Its his final year at uni and he is getting extremely stressed. He is not eating, sleeping and he looks absolutely done in. I wonder if its actually me that’s making him unhappy or life in general. I haven’t spoken to him for four days. I tried the no contact rule when we broke up before and it worked, however I feel its not going to work this time. He seemed pretty adamant that he wanted to break up with me, nothing I could do or say would make him change his mind. I recommended trying something new or going somewhere we haven’t been before to try and get things more exciting again. He blanked out and totally refused and said it was pointless and he doesn’t want to waste any time trying anymore. He feels like its going to hurt me again in the long run. I don’t know what to do as I feel the NC rule will not work again. I feel absolutely hopeless and need some advice on what to do next. Thanks guys.

admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:29 pm

Do you think he is just a pessimistic person by nature?
Kerry

April 2, 2014 at 6:43 pm

I am not sure – He sees the best in most things without really thinking about it. He always thinks he knows the best which infact sometimes he isn’t always correct. What do you think I should do?

Anon

April 1, 2014 at 6:59 pm

How do you do NC if you’re at uni and in the same friendship group and on the same course? I see my ex almost every day, and in the evenings if we do things with friends.

admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:24 pm

You can still do it.

Your just going to have to maybe do some limited contact at times.
Anon

April 2, 2014 at 7:37 pm

How do I do that?

We broke up because he said he didn’t love me anymore, even though he told me the night before we broke up that he did (and I could see that he meant it – I know him). Is NC the best way of making him fall back in love with me? It’s gonna be hard to do NC if I’m always seeing him, surely? I have a party with him next Friday – whats the best way to respond if he talks to me?

I kinda feel like I should go see him to discuss it before the party because I don’t want ti ruin my friend’s birthday and we didn’t end very well because the break up was such a shock to me.
Anon

April 4, 2014 at 5:21 pm

Please please please advise me as I am so lost! 🙁

Jessica

April 1, 2014 at 5:32 am

My boyfriend broke up with me last night and we were going on 11 months, we constantly got into arguments and fights all the time but it was okay because we always seemed to work it out in the end. A couple days ago I felt he was being a douche and so we took a break( as in not talking until Friday) I felt as if I was falling out of love with him, so I told him, he seemed shocked and throughout the days I began falling on love with him again. Last night, I felt like he was being yet again a douche so when his mom walked in and told him he had to go to bed, he said, “I’ll talk to you later,” which usually in my relationship means, I’ll talk to you in the next couple of days. So finally I got that horrifying nasty “you’re a great person, but things aren’t working out” text..I was heartbroken, I was for sure we would have made a year! I wax wrong, what a great birthday present for me right? (April 25th) I need advice, I want to get him back, we have broken up plenty times before and have gotten back together within a day..What do I do..? I really want him back although I’m afraid he’s gonna move on and find someone new..PLEASE HELP!

admin

April 1, 2014 at 5:09 pm

What was this latest argument over specifically?

Give me more than “being a douche.”

Sara

March 31, 2014 at 5:23 pm

Chris,
Great guide! My boyfriends ex came back into the picture and he became confused as to his feelings. He said he still loved me but had an obsession about her he wanted to work out. He knows she holds no future for him because of her personality and lifestyle and that I do. This confused me before reading your guide but I see that why he is infatuated with her. Although I don’t think she knew what she was doing, the user personality of disapearing to play him and reappearing to sweettalk and use then disappear again, intrigued him greatly as well as the game (he knew she used him). I on the otherhand was always there when he needed me, doing too much for him.

I made my position known that he had to choose and that I would not wait around. I admit through the last few months i allowed him to think he could keep drawing me back in. We broke up and I already started NC just to get him to realize he really could lose me. I then read your guides. Going to order the recovery guide for the rest of the program. It took 4 days but he gave in and tried to make contact first. He called and text and I ignored them. He has been calling and texting almost daily. I have already filled my schedule, lost weight. I did have to break NC this weekend because he needed to move his things out of my house. He has been living at his moms since the ex came back. I was nice but cool. He came in humming and bringing me and him a six pack and put them in the fridge. He clearly had plans for us but saw that I had company, was watching a movie and folding clothes. I was very nice and told him to let me know if he needed anything and then ignored him. He didnt take it well. I never saw anyone move so much so fast and he left without saying anything (he was borrowing my truck and it just seemed awkward). My friend and I decided to go to town for pizza and not be there waiting for him when he returned. I sat his 6pack out on a deck chair and we left. He spent the rest of the night texting me things trying to get a rise out of me. I replied nice but short a couple of times so he wouldnt think I was mad and then started NC back up. This morning I got Im sorry for talking to you that way, you are way too good for me and classy. Then hour later can we still be friends. I have not replied to either. Going for the 30. Even though the ex has the natural personality to make men chase her, can I do the same and get him back. He definately is a man who needs excitment.

admin

April 1, 2014 at 4:49 pm

Let me ask you something.

If his ex came back into the picture and he still has feelings for her what makes you think that his feelings for you are stronger?

In my experience, if a guy has feelings for another girl it means those feelings are a little stronger. Don’t you want someone who will love you unconditionally without any slip ups?
Sara

April 1, 2014 at 7:13 pm

I don’t know that his feelings arent stronger for her. That’s what I wanted to find out. Do I want a man that wants me unconditionally without any slip ups? Of course I do, but in my 42 years I’ve met one man who qualifies. Not good odds.
admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:25 pm

Well, no man is perfect. No woman is perfect either.

However, I can tell you that what he did was low. Really low.
Sara

April 15, 2014 at 6:32 pm

Just wanted to say thanks! for all the hard work you put into this guide. Do do the no contact my ex-boyfriend figured out very quickly that loosing me was not an option he wanted. Not only has he set things right between us but he has also proposed to me.
admin

April 16, 2014 at 4:11 pm

PROPOSED!!!

Wow, congrats 🙂

Jessica

March 31, 2014 at 1:35 pm

NC WORKED FOR ME!

I wanted to share my experience.
My guy broke up with me after 7 years of being together. He wanted to experience the single life.

Of course I was devastated. I tried the text your ex back after 30 days, it worked, he was engaged but then he started dating another girl… a girl who was nothing like me. Actually the complete opposite. He went out clubbing, hooked up with other girls… I was so hurt I left work crying the day I found out.

I seriously thought that’s it, we are done… there is no way he wants me back. I cut off all communication with him again.

I saw him at a night club with her… I lost weight, looked my best… this girl was so intimidated by me she punched me in the mouth!My ex dragged her out of the club. Texted me apologizing, I didn’t answer. He was with this girl for 6 days… then dumped her and came running back to me saying he doesn’t want that life… he doesn’t want the single life. Experiencing all that made him realize how special I was and how he took me for granted…

I guess the reason for my dragged out story is… It is possible to make your ex fall in love with you again. You need to do NC… and let HIM do what he wants to do. Give him his space, give him time to miss you. Let him make his own mistakes. After all I have been through, when the smoke cleared… it worked out just the way I wanted. Now he is doing anything he possibly could to earn me back.
Melissa

March 30, 2014 at 9:12 pm

Are there exceptions to NC? I’m one week in and doing fine with it, but here’s the thing. He starts a new job tomorrow, a promotion basically & he was nervous about living up to expectations. If I had that going on and he didn’t wish me luck I would probably never forgive him. But I do want him to get to the miss me part so do I text, or send an e-card or something? Or as a guy is it not all that important? My sitch may not be good enough but it got me thinking there must be some circumstances worth breaking NC……. curious

admin

March 31, 2014 at 4:02 pm

Nope in this case no exception can be made…

Helen

March 30, 2014 at 5:18 pm

My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me two days ago. His reasons are because we’re going to university in September and he doesn’t think we’ll work out, but I think we should take the chance
Right after we broke up we both cried and I’ve texted him since trying to get him to see things from my point of view. What should I do?
nessa

March 29, 2014 at 3:26 pm

So my ex has a girlfriend and I know this but he doesn’t mention her. He just tells me that he’s just been working a lot.what does this mean? I’m confused as can be…
Lola

March 29, 2014 at 2:45 pm

Chris, have you seen the video ‘ The Story Of My Life’ by the band ‘One Direction’? One of their members looks just like you:). I could not help it – wanted to share with you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W-TE_Ys4iwM

Have a fantastic weekend!:-)

admin

March 30, 2014 at 8:23 pm

Which one???
Lola

March 30, 2014 at 11:42 pm

The one that looks a lot like you:). You’ll know! Just watch the video.
admin

March 31, 2014 at 4:05 pm

hahaha I watched it and I don’t think any of them look like me.
Lola

March 31, 2014 at 10:41 pm

Oh well…lol …I have not met you in person, and only saw your photo…:)… obviously, pics can be misleading..hahaha
admin

April 1, 2014 at 4:43 pm

You still didn’t tell me which one?

Ok, about two years ago I was going to the movies around 7PM so it was pretty crowded. A bunch of girls pointed at me and shouted that I looked like someone from one direction but I can’t remember the name they said. Now you say I look like someone from that band so I am trying to figure it out haha.
Lola

April 2, 2014 at 5:53 am

His name is Liam
https://socialwhitepages.ca/liam-payne/
admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:05 pm

Hahahahahaha that guy? Really?

Jamie

March 28, 2014 at 2:09 pm

Hi,
Me and my ex boyfriend have recently split up and like any other girl it isnt easy, I am a student and currently live with him in my halls. We hadnt been going out that long about 5months but being with eachother everyday 24/7 it clearly is easy to get attached. We broke up because he doesnt know what he wants he doesnt know if he wants a relationship or whether he wants to be on his own, he also said that he felt trapped but i had asked him to come away with me back home for over easter which he was all up for but am wondering was it too much, we sort of rushed into things when we got university but i dont know what to do, we still talk, he is always asking am i okay, he wont tell me how he is feeling but has said that it bothers him too, i know that he has been speaking to another girl but i am not sure if it is as a friend or if it is going to lead to anywhere, we still do everything together, eat, gym, have a laugh everything we did in the relationship except now there is no relationship part anymore.

Basically i am wondering is there any chance of getting back together, i am wondering is he regretting because i know that when he has something to drink that the truth will come out but he will deny it in the morning, am i able to try and ‘win’ him back or is there no point?

Jamie

April 2, 2014 at 9:29 am

HELP ME PLEASE!
admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:04 pm

IM HERE WHAT DO YOU NEED HELP WITH?

Lulu

March 28, 2014 at 3:16 am

So when we broke up I made the mistake of saying I was afraid he wouldn’t even miss me, so now a week later of
Ignoring him he texts me that he’s been thinking of me and he does miss me, I haven’t responded. Just because he misses me doesn’t mean he wants me back, I just don’t know where to go from here, am I aloud to give into temptation or should I hold
Out for the 30 days?
Anne

March 28, 2014 at 2:57 am

HI, i really needed an advice. My almost 3 years boyfriend and I broke up. We had a long distance relationship. The last time I was with him was last October 2013. We were great together. Both of our family favors the relationship. His sibling and even parents want me. He always cry to see me go home, He can’t take it so do I. He was the only guy who cried when we part ways. He always wanted to be with me. However, as time passes, we were challenged with commitment as he started to get busy with his work. I always understand him because I know how crucial his job was. One day he tole me he will be with his friends. I agreed and even asked him to take care. It was unusual for him to leave his phone and texted me late. The fight started and because of being mad, I asked him what does he want, I offered him a cool-off and even a break-up (it was totally wrong and I admit it was too immature) The first answer from him is that, I dont want any of it, I don’t want to lose you. I asked him to clear up his mind and we’ll talk if both of us are okay. Then, time comes, I asked him same question then he answered we better part ways. Which I never expected. I agreed with his decision for I respected him even it was too hurt and stressing for me. We had communication after the breakup and felt like there was nothing wrong. But I believe I triggered his ego and he started to ignore me. He never texted for a month already and I feel bad about it. But I wanted to know if it would still be possible that I can bring him back?.. Because I know, that decision and fight was immature. I wanted to prove to him that I’m changed and I still love him. I am in the process and following your guides. I feel confident about myself and happy in some ways but a part of me still wants him because amidst of everything we had for those years are not jokes. It was real and intimate. He was a really great guy and I know we are meant to be.

admin

March 28, 2014 at 4:46 pm

Have you read my LDR guide?

ren

March 27, 2014 at 4:40 pm

My boyfriend of a year broke up with me a week ago. We have had the most perfect relationship – never argued, always happy, we have been completely and utterly in love for a year. We even survived a long distance relationship when he was abroad for 4 months and I only saw him for two days during this period. Over the past couple of weeks, I’d felt more distant from him as we both haven’t spent much time together due to work commitments, and whenever I raised this with him he told me not to worry and that he was just feeling unwell, it wasnt anything to worry or get upset about. The day before we broke up, we had a lovely afternoon and he repeatedly told me he loved me (and meant it!) I know him really well, and know that he would never ever lie about his feelings towards me. That night, we had a conversation about why we were feeling so distant from each other, and then went to sleep. I woke the next morning to him fully dressed with his coat in his hand, saying that he had to break up with me because he didn’t love me anymore. I was hysterical – it was a complete shock. I’ve texted him a few times since, and seen him once by accident (resulted in a long chat) and once to get my stuff. He remains adamant that he made the right decision and that we no longer love each other.

What do I do?!

Vanessa

March 28, 2014 at 6:23 am

Can i leave a comment?
Maybe you should tell him that you need to talk in the right place where you two could express your feelings, and that you could ask him what went wrong. i think the guy is just confused with his feelings. if he don’t give you right answers, then give him the space he wants, hell realize soon he needs you. 🙂
admin

March 28, 2014 at 4:56 pm

You absolutely can.
ren

March 28, 2014 at 6:09 pm

Vanessa, thank you so much for your response. He’s offered to talk, but I find it so hard to speak to him when he is so cold and robotic with me – it’s like talking to a machine. he is so adamant that he has done the right thing but I completely disagree. I don’t understand how you could give up on someone overnight. All his family and friends say his decision is final.

Chris, can I ask your opinion?
ren

March 28, 2014 at 6:12 pm

Also, he says that nothing went wrong, it was just a ‘long process’ of falling out of love – but his idea of a long process is 2/3 weeks, because it was all fine before that 🙁

Jamie

March 27, 2014 at 1:26 pm

Chris,
My boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday, it is quite obvious that the wound is extremely fresh. I was recently diagnosed with Bipolar I and he said he was going to stick through that with me because he loved me. While I was taking my medication, it was causing worst symptoms that I begun with. I began getting to clingy and controlling, yelling at him for no reason and attempting to break up with him constantly. This went on for the tree weeks into the new medication before I realized I was causing too much damage because if the pills. I humiliated him in public, spat on him and pretty much did everything to push him away. He finally got tired of all my crap and asked me for a break because he was confused and unsure of his feelings but that he truly cared for me. Instead I overreacted and told him to get out if my life. He left but I asked him to fine back and he did. I told him I didn’t believe in breaks, to me it was the same as a break up. It was my attempt to control him but he didn’t take the bait and he said if that’s what I wanted. I became enraged and threw at him every present he gave me, I tore his cards and i tore his book. He asked me to get out of his car but I refused. I sat there and argued and cried till I realized it was futile. So I’m begged. I even told him that I would take his break, how much time did he need. After my episode I was sure he was done and he said that he wasn’t going to take the break it was going to be a break up. I begged him again and he sighed. He told me that if I was content in taking it as an undefined break up and if he changed his mind that I could forgive him then but for now it was over. I agreed and a few hours later when he went to pick my sister up for work (they work together) I begged him to talked to him and he refused. I told him to reconsider and all he said was “I’ll think about it but for now I need to get to work” I feel like things aren’t over yet, he just needed space and this was the best thing he could do for both of us but at the same time this break up is the real thing an I feel like I lost him forever! Please help?
Cindy Dsouza

March 27, 2014 at 5:42 am

Hello Chris,

you know what i was planning to start the NC rule but it seems that before i just tell him bye take care message he is already disappeared he does not text or call me. So what i do i start the Nc rule.. please reply me atleast once. I am dropped down to you so many mails but you are not replied. Please chris just answer me one time do i start the NC rule as he is not talking with me only from past one week.. Please reply its very urgent my life is on stake.

admin

March 28, 2014 at 12:00 am

Yes start the no contact rule.

I don’t see the issue. I dont get what your upset about? Could you explain it better?

Cat

March 27, 2014 at 4:39 am

i’m on NC again for the second time…i completed my first one and he didn’t reply, i tried talking to him lat march 15 because i’ve completed NC and now im in NC again because i want the next try to be okay so please help me because im doing what is said in the book. please give answer and not a question back at me. thank you. im trying to male the book work so please guide.
Andrea

March 27, 2014 at 3:36 am

Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me over a text on Nov 2013. His reason is because of his ego. “I need time for myself” he said. We’ve been together for almost 3yrs and 7 mos. We spent our college days together, we were classmates, we graduated (Nursing) together and took the board exam together. Everything works perfectly fine for both of us. Our colleagues and professors see us as a perfect couple. until i was the one who already got hired for a job while he was hopeless finding one. He felt bad about it. He’s saying that it hurts his ego that I have a job and he doesn’t have one. He broke up with me and I’m really shattered. I didn’t expect that he will do it to me. I begged him on the first wk of our break up to meet me and talk things up, hoping that we can still fix it, but he rejected that idea. I begged him for days. even though my friends keep telling me to let him go and stop contacting him. Until one day, he texted me and say “Just move on and don’t expect, if we’re meant to be, then we’re meant to be”. After that i didn’t bother to text him anymore. That happened on November. it’s been 4 mos and he is not contacting me. I’m not sure if he still wants me back. They say that I should let him realize what he lost so I shouldn’t make the first move. What should I do, I’m honestly still inlove with him.

babylyn

March 28, 2014 at 3:00 am

WHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA lets go to Elnido
and lets have party there my dear :*

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