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93 thoughts on “He Broke Up With Me And Told Me He Needs Time”

  1. Kelly

    October 27, 2019 at 4:17 pm

    Hi,

    Thanks for such a useful article, I have read it many times now but would really appreciate your advice to my situation.

    My ex broke up with me 2 months ago after 5 years together. We were always very in love with both our families and friends assuming we would naturally spend the rest of our lives together and we had planned this out too. In the last 5 months my ex left his job and spent time looking for a new one before getting his dream job and beginning this. I didn’t react very well to these 5 months of uncertainty because of personal childhood issues which I didn’t realise were effecting how I reacted to this period of change and uncertainty. The job he began is very intense and involves a lot of travel and rather than being happy for him I was caught up in my own issues and was very unsupportive. He finally couldn’t take it anymore and broke up with me saying that he clearly couldn’t make me happy and that our lives were going in different directions. I realised straight away that the issues that had caused our breakup had come from from me and that I do not want to be without him so straight away I began going to therapy to address my issues and understand them.

    I did not text my ex but a week into the breakup I bumped into him on our way to work and told him I was going to therapy which he was surprised but pleased about. We continued no contact but we bumped into each other on week 3 and 5 on our commute, on both occasions we had really lovely though brief catchups and the chemistry was still there. I said that we should probably meet to chat about everything properly at some point as there were things I wanted to explain to him having now been to therapy and understood why I was behaving the way I was. He agreed and on week 7 we met and spent the day together talking about everything.

    I was able to tell him everything I have realised about how childhood issues affected my responses to the change in his life and all the positive changes I have since made to myself and the fact I want a very different relationship to the one we were having in the last few months which was making us both unhappy. He listened carefully to everything and said that he could see I had changed just from my attitude and that his understanding of why I acted like I did now made more sense to him. He said he still loves me but that he just isn’t mentally at a place where he can jump or even ease back into a relationship with me and that he needs time on his own. He said he doesn’t know how long this feeling will last and therefore doesn’t want me to wait for him as that would be unfair. He also said that in the 7 weeks since breaking up I have done so much processing and understanding and that he hasn’t even begun to do any of that and so he understands this must be a frustrating situation for me because I clearly know what I want and he doesn’t right now and doesn’t know if and when that will change and doesn’t want to be unfair to me. He also made several mentions of being very hurt by everything that happened and how do we know that it wouldn’t happen again which makes me think that it’s partly fear that is holding him back.We left with vague plans to maybe see each other again in the next few months for a catch up but he also said we can’t be friends because we have never just been friends.

    A week later I sent him a letter writing down everything I had told him in person about my realisations so that he has it to keep and reflect on and he text to me to thank me for it and said he will keep it.

    Would you now advice I do complete no contact? My worry is that I have been doing no contact on the whole throughout the last 2 months but we did bump into each other those times despite not talking in between, so does that mean that the nc wasn’t applicable and could still work if I begin it now? I know that I want to be with this man and have spent 5 years building a life with him that I do not want to lose forever. All of our families and friends want us to be together too but when I said this to him he made the point that they didn’t experience our relationship in the last few months which were not good. Please please advise!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 27, 2019 at 10:13 pm

      Yes you need to do a NC as the letter and the conversation were both emotional even though he responded well it still shows where you stand and what you are feeling which at this time is something we need him to be questioning not knowing. So 30 days NC and work on yourself to be a happy and confident person. Its great steps you are taking to do this so keep at it. When your NC is over dont send any emotional messages you need to send something as a friend trying to open the window for conversation. Read as many articles as you can to help with your situation including the ungettable girl articles.

  2. A

    September 15, 2019 at 5:44 pm

    I’m pretty sure I ruined things with my now recent “ex.” We started long distance (cross-country) but were so connected and so in love that we started a relationship that lasted about a year and six months or so. He stepped away from our relationship as a result of a few months of very heated arguments regarding my moving cross country to live with him, when neither of us were financially ready to do so. I had just graduated with my degree, I had not found a career yet, and we are both living at home with our parents (in our 20s). I have wanted to make this transition, so badly, but jumping off the ledge with no safety net was something I didn’t think we should do just yet. Long story short, he said he needed “time to figure things out” (regarding to why he has been so angry and frustrated and has taken it out on me), but wanted to keep in contact. I did plead with him a few times (admittedly, a mistake) to reconsider “breaking up,” just to discuss taking a breather from one another but not totally severing the relationship. He refused. I tried to talk to him for a few days after, only getting the same explanation. I don’t understand why my presence is preventing him from figuring out these individual issues, but he says he “can’t take this out on me anymore,” but I want to stand by him. After a week of no contact, I made a mistake and contacted him because my own anxieties had spiked and I missed him so much, I wanted to see if we could talk. We spoke on the phone at my request because I wanted to tell him my feelings and how I wanted him to get better for himself and I would wait, but not forever. The conversation sped downhill so fast, I couldn’t stop it. He told me he still has those same feelings for me but he broke up with me to ask for time and space from me but I would not respect it. I wasn’t trying to be disrespectful, he has been such a huge part of my life… I didn’t want to just walk away from the man I love. I didn’t want to just give up on something we both felt was so special. I don’t need him to survive in my life but I wanted him there and I wanted to be there to support him in all his endeavors. And he has not yet removed me from his social media. My question(s): was I wrong to contact him? Was I wrong to want to extend an olive branch and try to work things out together? When he says I have to let him go, does he mean permanently or just for a while? Did I ruin this for good?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 17, 2019 at 9:00 am

      Hi A, I would say you do need to give him space, the less space you give him the greater his negative feelings are going to be towards you. No Contact is for them just as much as it is for us. Let him have that head space its so important. When you do get back in touch, you need to just speak with him not dive in to begging him back, you just undo the worth you’ve done with your No Contact. You need to be his friend and build it back up. Read the materials on the website and get yourself familiar with how the program works 🙂

  3. Makayla

    July 13, 2019 at 4:45 am

    Hello!
    My now “ex” boyfriend and I dated for about three months. When we first met he was working out of state and we saw each other about twice a month for only a few hours. He recently started working 14 hour days, seven days a week and has been overwhelmed with work, family issues, and just purchased his first house. About two weeks ago he texted me and told me he wanted to take a “break” because he feels he’s been neglecting me with everything going on. He wants to take a break for about 2 months (that’s how long it’ll be until he’s laid off from his job), and in that time he told me he wants to focus on his career and get his life in order. He won’t be able to come home during those two months, and told me if things were to work out after the two months, that he’d want to take things a little slower and not rush it. He wants me to focus on my nursing career and to have fun in the meantime. We talk but only every couple days and for a short period of time. I’m worried he’ll completely distance himself from me and not want to get back together. We both came from toxic relationships before meeting each other, but I’m scared he may start to lose interest in me and not want to be together. Any help is appreciated, thankyou

  4. Jasmine

    July 5, 2019 at 3:07 pm

    Sooo my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now and recently we get into a lot of arguments usually because he’s always tired. I get he works ,but he gets days off and he works the same 8 hours as everybody else. He falls asleep for 4-5 hours while we are suppose to be hanging out. Anyway, the other day I called him so we could hang out then he said he “needed time to think” and didn’t know if he wanted to continue with the relationship but just wasn’t sure yet and he felt there was no communication and I’m mad all the time. I get aggravated when he falls asleep as soon as I’m with him so that’s where most of my anger comes from. I’m very hurt and I don’t know what to think. how long should I wait? I feel stupid waiting for someone to decide if they should say. What should I do?

  5. Tanya

    May 22, 2019 at 8:42 pm

    My boyfriend and I dated for 3 years. We were planning on getting a place together so we started saving. He got a second job to get out of debt. He started working more and more and hanging out with his friends more. He started becoming distant and I freaked out. He told me he wanted to take a break and rethink our relationship he told me he loves me but he’s tired of commuting back and forth because he was the only one doing it recently. We have barely spoken since but he told me he wants to be single for now and figure things out.

  6. Samantha

    May 14, 2019 at 6:40 pm

    I was in a same sex relationship for just under 4 years. It was a very happy solid relationship and we had never split through out the 4 years. We lived together, had a dog and all the other usual things you would expect in a loving relationship. We both have well paid jobs so finances are not something we would stress about. We did bicker over stupid things like,” you always leave your shoes there! Stop it! Its annoying” the usual things you bicker over as a cohabating couple but nothing huge. When we did bicker it normaly ended in us being unable to hold our laughter in and we would make up within the hour. Out of the blue my partner told me it was over one night after work. She was very emotional about it. We then got into bed and slept next to each other as usual and I honestly thought it was ok. But the next morning she got out of bed, didnt kiss me goodbye and didnt come back. I done the usual, begging and pleading for her to come back but all i got was a text saying, she didnt love me, we couldnt be together, she didnt want to be together and I would need to move out. A month after the break up she ignored me, she said it was too hard to see me and I have since moved out. Right up until the day before the break up she told me how in love she is with me, how she loved our family unit and wanted to be with me. She turned these emotions off like a tap. She said she felt like that for a couple of weeks and had no plans to break up. She said it just happened. The day I moved she turned up and was very very emotional. She told me she couldnt handle watching me take all my things, she admitted she had been struggling so much to distance herself the past month but she said that ” would be the easy thing to do” and explained she needs time to find herself. She said she became someone she didnt want to be and was always looking for reasons to fight with me. But in the same sentence she explained how she felt I was the perfect partner and always treated her right and she was happy but something inside her just changed. Since i have moved we have kept in touch but it is always me texting her. She has even came to my knew house and we have had a cuddle but she keeps telling me she needs time to work out if shes just sad because her relationship broke down or if shes sad because I’m not in her life. She also says she needs time to become the person she once was but she cant guarantee that when she is that person again she will want to come back to me. I love her with all my heart and I will do anything to get her back but she has became cold again. She still replies to my texts but she is distant. They arnt emotional. I still look after her even though I shouldn’t. I make sure she is fed and has everything she needs. I know I shouldn’t do that!

    I know I should do no contact but in scared she lose interest and not come back. On the moving day she did say she made a huge mistake but has since calmed down and is back to being closed off. Do I have any chance in getting her back? I am making sure I am fun and happy when I do see her to remind her I can make her smile and she does praise me for getting back up on my feet so quickly after she left. On the moving day she cried and cried and cuddled me and kissed me. She said it didnt feel like I was really gone but now that I was moving it has hit her. But shes cold again?? What do I do?!

    1. Chris Seiter

      May 14, 2019 at 11:27 pm

      Hi Samanatha…..so 4 years is a good amount of time and roots get put down and that will likely influence things before all this is over. So implementing No Contact is probably a good path to take if things are not moving in the right direction. But pick up my Program so you can understand well how to implement it and you may want to give her a heads up as to your need for some time/space to heal, reflect, and grow.

  7. Karen Lee

    April 8, 2019 at 4:57 pm

    We were friends for a year and dated for two years. We broke up a couple of times in between but he’d always come back. We were happy and supportive of each other’s interests and goals. We were both loved by each others’ friends and families. His family especially loved me and wanted me to be a part of their family. We never talked about the future though, nor said “I love you” to each other. He would, when he doesn’t realize his guard is down, joke about how happy we’d be if we get married, or how beautiful our kids would be. But I never played along because I know if I did, he’d cut the conversation short.

    Two weeks ago, after a week of being distant prior to that, he broke up with me. He wants to be single to focus solely on his career. He did an industry change, so he’s not yet at a place where he wants to be at in life. I asked him if he loves me. He said SO MUCH. He said he’s never loved anyone as much as he did with me, that I’m the best girlfriend he’s ever had, that I was perfect, and that he fears he wouldn’t be able to find anyone else like me. Then I asked, why is he letting go of something good in his life? He said because when he’s with me, all he could think about is me and set his career aside. That he feels a lot of pressure about the future when all he see right now is his career, and nothing beyond that. That he feels I need someone better than him, who’s going to be there 100%.

    I cried so hard. I still cry everyday. I didn’t beg. I chose to understand. I haven’t talked to him since the breakup. He hasn’t reached out too. I still carry that hope that he will come back. That’s what makes me feel stronger everyday. But will he…?

    1. Chris Seiter

      April 8, 2019 at 10:39 pm

      HI Karen….I am sorry you are going thru such a rough period. I have a lot of great Podcasts on the site that can help you through this period and also checkout my other resources.

  8. Belen

    February 24, 2019 at 8:33 pm

    After 8 months of dating my boyfriend he withdrew. I did the no contact for 60 days. After 30, I wrote a nice text. His response was positive. I backed off.

    Another 30 day went by, I sent another text saying are you needing space, it’s okay I understand or are you moving on let me know? I respect if he’s not ready for committment. But I need to move on too- I need a more solid relationship with the guy who on the same as me. I wish the best.

    This was his response, I guess we are done?

    Belen,

    I got this text a few days ago, sorry for waiting so long to respond. I really wanted to think about what to say.

    You are an wonderful lady and I’m blessed to have had you in my life.

    I’m not with any woman right now—I’m really concentrating on work and most of all my relationship with Jesus.

    I understand what you said and I agree, you need and will find a perfect man for you.

    You will always be in my heart.

    Michael

  9. Red

    December 31, 2018 at 7:06 pm

    Me and my ex boyfriend were together for a little over 2 years. We went to pre marital counseling, and were close to the end of the sessions. He was advised that he needed to make a decision on moving forward. I adressed alot of my personal issues in the sessions and put my work in. He went on a road trip with his friends came back and decided that he was going to break up with me. I asked him if he had given it thought and he said no he just did it then and there. It’s been about 3 months, we still talk to eachother. Go out to eat and watch movies. I ask him if he would ever reconsider and his reply is he needs time, he hasn’t told alot of his family and friends we aren’t together.
    I know I love him and care for him question is how long should I wait for him to figure out how much “time” he needs?

    1. Chris Seiter

      January 1, 2019 at 5:48 pm

      Hi Red!

      So you may want to consider a different approach since its been 3 months. Implementing No Contact is one such approach. I talk about this and many more things in my popular 485 page ebook, “EBR PRO”. Swing by my website’s home page where you will find a lot of resources and tools.

  10. Clara Adams

    December 20, 2018 at 4:21 pm

    Hi,

    First of all, thanks very much for such a great site. My problem: Was together with a guy for about 8 months. We had some ups and downs in the first month or so (mainly due to his stress levels at work), but after that we got so close, and really fell in love (or so I thought). About a month ago, he asked if I wanted to move in to his. I was spending so much time there anyway, that it made sense romantically and financially. He then got cold feet about it. We talked and he said he did want it, but he was just afraid of “never having any time to himself”. So…as we were making those plans, he started saying he was confused, and didn’t feel very excited anymore about us. He also reassured me that he didn’t want to break up, and that he thought this was just a phase due to other things. We were still seeing each other almost every day, but he seemed enthusiastic but distant (if that makes sense). When I asked him what was going on, he said “Well you knew it wasn’t going to work out anyway” !! This was last week. We’ve spoken a few times, but only regarding pets that we have. I then asked him if we were ever going to discuss what happened. He said he wants to, but isn’t ready right now. Obviously I am not going to contact him until he does but… What’s going on here? Is he just scared, or does he really want to end it? Did I mention that the day before this break up happened, he was saying this was the most emotionally fulfilling one he’s ever had? I haven’t been this hurt in a long time.

    1. Chris Seiter

      December 21, 2018 at 1:00 am

      Hi Clara…I am glad you are enjoying the site. Seems like your guy is stuck in his own head with commitment issues. Just pull back a bit so he has a taste of what its like not having you always available. Also visit my home page as I have many resources and tools there to consider.

  11. Leanna

    December 19, 2018 at 6:59 pm

    Me and my ex dated for 4 years and towards the end of our relationship both of our lives became very stressful with school and finances. The main reason we broke up is because we both have a hard time communicating and coping during fights. This time he broke it off and says he needs to find his own happiness because he hasn’t had time to do that. I never thought we would break up and neither did our friends and family – that’s how strong our relationship was. He still keeps our pictures all over Instagram and Facebook. Do you think he’s planning on getting back together? Or should I just let him go and move on? He says it’s over for good, but I just don’t believe it

    1. Chris Seiter

      December 20, 2018 at 2:53 am

      No, I don’t think is over for good Leanna. 4 years creates some traction and that force of attachment over that time will likely com into play later. But first you want to get started with your ex recovery plan. Take a look at my program. Guys say things like that (“Its over”), but sometimes its just the emotions doing the talking.

  12. HannahFaker

    November 18, 2018 at 5:31 pm

    Here’s my situation. My ex bf and I broke up. I initiated the break up but it felt like it was a MUTUAL SPLIT. He calmly agreed and said to me that he doesnt want to involve himself to any relaltionship right now and wants to spend more time on his career and himself. I get that. Ive done NO CONTACT For a month. I reached out to my ex boyfriend. We have been together for almost 3 years. We exchanged a few texts but most of them from me. I persuaded him to meet up and he did visit me at home. To cut it short we had dinner and he was more open to listen to all my missteps and apologies in our past relationship. He accepted and hugged me. I was relieved and happy at the moment and he went home. It was just odd he understood emphatize and listen but didnt open up much about his contributions about our break up. I wasnt expecting an apology but he didn’t. It was okay with me so today, I asked how he was and I jumped to asking if we can able to work this out. He says that he is glad about my realizations about the relationship. He is open about the idea but told me HE WASNT JUST READY AT THE MEANTIME. He called me. I was on my cold feet. I told him at first that was is the same reason? The reason of him wanting more time for himself, not associating much burden from our relationship. I told him I wont be as we would do everything right this time. He agreed but put me on hold.

    The thing is, He told me we will just talk on January. He will just give me a call about his thoughts about us and just needed more time to think. That is 1 and half month from now.
    I think it has something to do with himself denying to his contributions on our breakup, he haven’t been open to apologising but then open with rekindling our relationship in the future (no third party, guts are telling me so, and so is he) no reasons like that. What should I do and think about his decision? I do respect it but also said that I wouldn’t be waiting for him forever.

    Is it a right thing to not reach out to him after our phone call and his promise to get back on me in the nex months?

    1. Chris Seiter

      November 18, 2018 at 7:24 pm

      Hi Hannah…waiting until January seems awful long and rather convenient for him.

  13. Carly c

    March 14, 2018 at 2:36 pm

    My ex and I met through his brother. It was a long distance relationship but we made it work really well and saw each other often.. he was very consistent and called every morning and FaceTimed everyday on his own. Been dating a year but felt like a lifetime. 3 days after I returned home from seeing him, he called me like he always does.. said he needed to talk… told me when I left he talked to his young kids and asked how’d they feel if I moved in.. then he continued to tell me the kids loved me but he never realized how much trauma they are still dealing with from his divorce two years ago. He said he’s just not where he wants to be in his life right now and needs time. Also said he just feels like he’s supposed to be alone and that maybe I wouldn’t have liked it if I moved there. He started crying and said he’ll always love me bla bla. Of course this was a shock because there were NO warning signs. He just gave me a key to his house and we had an amazing Valentine’s Day. His divorce was hell on him given his wife cheated on him for years without him knowing, had the boys involved and lying to him and his ex stole thousands before they split. He said he wants to stay friends but of course I got upset and begged back. He said it’s the right decision for him and his kids right now and to please just understand.
    My question is will this 30 day no contact work? Or is this is not the right play for the situation? Do I wait longer? Our relationship was unconditionally filled with love. We never cussed at each other or faught. We always talked it out like humans should. What is my next step here?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 3:44 pm

      Hi carly,

      The nc rule is not guaranteed but it helps increase your chances, so yes start the 30 day nc rule.

  14. Carly

    March 14, 2018 at 2:02 pm

    My ex and I met through his brother. It was a long distance relationship but we made it work really well and saw each other often.. he was very consistent and called every morning and FaceTimed everyday on his own. Been dating a year but felt like a lifetime. 3 days after I returned home from seeing him, he called me like he always does.. said he needed to talk… told me when I left he talked to his young kids and asked how’d they feel if I moved in.. then he continued to tell me the kids loved me but he never realized how much trauma they are still dealing with from his divorce two years ago. He said he’s just not where he wants to be in his life right now and needs time. Also said he just feels like he’s supposed to be alone and that maybe I wouldn’t have liked it if I moved there. He started crying and said he’ll always love me bla bla. Of course this was a shock because there were NO warning signs. He just gave me a key to his house and we had an amazing Valentine’s Day. His divorce was hell on him given his wife cheated on him for years without him knowing, had the boys involved and lying to him and his ex stole thousands before they split. He said he wants to stay friends but of course I got upset and begged back. He said it’s the right decision for him and his kids right now and to please just understand.
    My question is will this 30 day noncontact work? Or do this is not the right play for the situation? Our relationship was unconditionally filled with love. We never cussed at each other or faught. We always talked it out like humans should. What is my next step here?

  15. Jensen

    February 28, 2018 at 10:20 am

    Hi my ex boyfriend and I dated for a little over two years. We were in love with each other very much but the past three months or so before we broke up my depression got really bad and I started to get needy and clingy to him. For weeks he said “I don’t feel like myself anymore” and then he broke up with me but he had hung out with me 2 days before he broke up with me and things seemed great and that we both loved each other. Then once he broke up with me he didn’t seem too sure he wanted to and almost as if he had been debating on it but not 100% sure. He said he needed time and by that he meant months. We talked the first few days after bad he said he wanted to get back together but he needed to find what was right for him. Then I kept begging to get back together sooner and bothering him and then he said he never wanted to and then after words there were a few moments of drama and then we haven’t been talking for a little over 3 weeks, I miss him dearly and am not sure what to do :/ I feel like he really does love me but just needs time. I also found out last week he blocked me on Snapchat and told my friend about it but is still following me on other stuff. But he hasn’t really done much besides that :///

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 1, 2018 at 11:04 am

      Hi Jensen,

      How active are you in improving yourself and in posting in social media?

  16. caitlin

    February 14, 2018 at 3:37 pm

    My ex and I dated for three years and about 6 months ago we broke up because he had other things to focus on like graduating grad school and finding a job and an apartment or if he was going to move back home. Which he chose to move back home which is on the other side of the country but we talk every day and he says he see a future with me but not now or soon but maybe later… But he is confused and always sends mixed signs and idk what to do anymore? I really feel like we have a future together and I agree not right now I’m graduating grad school next year and and I need to focus on me but I don’t want to lose him

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 18, 2018 at 2:19 pm

      Hi Caitlin,

      What did you tell him when he says that? Are you going to do the advice above?

  17. caitlin

    February 14, 2018 at 3:36 pm

    My ex and I dated for three years and about 6 months ago we broke up because he had other things to focus on like graduating grad school and finding a job and an apartment or if he was going to move back home. Which he chose to move back home which is on the other side of the country but we talk every day and he says he see a future with me but not now or soon but maybe later… But he is confused and always sends mixed signs and idk what to do anymore?

  18. Sierra

    January 24, 2018 at 8:19 am

    I’ve been dating this guy for 5 months now and things haven’t been going well for us he says he’s been busy I know for sure he has another job and is going to school. But we had plans to go out and he didn’t text me or anything so essentially he stood me up and there has been a lot of problems. For example, when I asked him about where the relationship was going he went off the radar and I have talked to him and let him know that we can go our separate ways several times but he doesn’t want to do that he wants to keep me in his life but I feel like I don’t truly matter and it’s frustrating and I feel like I’m wasting my time

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 25, 2018 at 7:52 pm

      Hi Sierra,
      then stop letting him do that by keeping on being there.

  19. Ana

    January 12, 2018 at 12:03 pm

    Hi we planned of getting married and he backed off. Then we had the talk, he said that one of the causes of our break up was distance. When I asked him if he wants to continue the relationship he said “Not this time” and asked me if we can be friends, I said
    No. He said he is confused right now if he wants to continue the relationship, he also said we would meet again on my birthday that is four months from now, then he would make a decision.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 14, 2018 at 10:21 pm

      That’s too far from now.. are you going to do the nc rule?

  20. Shannon

    December 27, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    Hi. Me and my ex were dating for 4 months when out of the blue he broke up with me. Here’s a little background information. We were friends 11 years ago in high school. Lost touch and then he reached out to me in the beginning of September. We started a long distance relationship as he is in the army and lives in a different state. Everything was fine. Non stop face timing, texting, phone calls. I even went out to see him twice within the 4 months. He brought up that I was the one, talked about marriage, kids, future living situation. I met his family via FaceTime. It was all great. I thought he was the one too. We just clicked instantly. Then out of nowhere he said he really thought about it and didn’t think he could be in a comitted relationship at this point in time. In 6 months he will be deploying for a year. He said the reason he broke up with me is the deployment and he needs to be on his own. In the past when he deployed he was dating someone and she left him during the deployment. I think he is scared. But after being a normal girl and pouring my heart out, I finally said to him that I would respect and honor the space and time that he needed. So it’s only been 4 actual days of no contact. I just don’t know what to do because his deployment is right away, but I want to respect the time he needs to think as well. He said he loves me and always will in our last conversation. But it makes me question if that’s true. I’m just not ready to give up on him yet. I really think we have something special. But I just don’t know what the best approach is.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 28, 2017 at 5:16 pm

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