How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

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Ellie

October 21, 2013 at 11:32 am

Alright, so this is a long shot.

My ex and I dated for one year and eight months. I was just coasting before I met him, and when we got together I was so happy, I loved him more than anything I’d ever felt before and I finally felt like I had a reason to be alive. But then over the start of this year, I started to get ‘crushes’ on other guys. We had started to run out of things to talk about and argue over everything, even things we would never argue about before. I wanted to go on a break with him to give me chance to sort my head out, but so that he knew I still wanted to be with him.
Then this other guy (M) turns up on my ex (H) and my 20 month and tells me that he’s in love with me, starts giving me all this attention and acting like H did when we first got together. H and I were still together, but he said I was flirting with M when I wasn’t.
I found myself feeling like I loved both of them. I was forced to and couldn’t choose between the two of them, so I choose nobody. Everyone saw that as choosing M over H. I know now that M was purely physical and I should have stayed with H. But I didn’t. And here’s where it all went horribly wrong.
I still didn’t date M. Every one of H and my mutual friends started to convince me I’d treated H like nothing and that I didn’t deserve him. I believed them, and began telling H I didn’t love him or want to be back with him. And I convinced myself to believe that too.
I dated two other guys. We all work together closely, so H (who was desperately trying to get me back) had to watch and hear about me and these two other guys. It was all a mess. I was trying not to hurt H as he was my best friend and I needed him, but every time I did something, it hurt him. And then trying to do something else to change that hurt him even more.
All my relationships with the other guys ended, I didn’t feel right in them.
M and H had both loved me through all of this. I then started dating M and was feeling like I was starting to be happy again.
The H told me he was over me and had met someone, and that he was done with me treating him badly and didn’t want to be friends.
I just… Fell apart. I begged him to stay friends with me. My relationship with M unravelled. I realised how much I actually was still in love with H, but by this point it was too late, he’s almost with this other girl and has told me that he’ll never go back to being with me.
I’m not with M anymore, and I don’t know what to do.
Do I have any chance with H or have I well and truly ended things?

admin

October 22, 2013 at 1:47 am

M & H

H & M

It’s like your speaking code hahaha.

I hesitate to say its impossible. it will be challenging though. When was the last time you talked to H?
Ellie

October 22, 2013 at 1:27 pm

I have now gone to NC and am trying to become a UG (which I have apparently done before, looking at what you’ve said), but he’s pretty determined to stay with this girl and doesn’t seem bothered about our friendship.
I love him so much, I’m really lost :/
admin

October 23, 2013 at 7:49 pm

Just keep being patient and making progress with your own personal advances!
Ellie

October 22, 2013 at 6:26 am

I just thought that’d be easier than ‘my ex’ and ‘the other guy’ being repeated cuz I didn’t want to use names haha.

H and I have started talking again but he keep saying it’ll end in an argument (even though it hasnt). We have talked through a lot of the stuff that happened, and yesterday I decided to try NC but then he started talking to me as friends, and because i was so manic to get him back to that I couldn’t really ignore him. That and I’d said he was ignoring me.
He’s overheard me talking with friends that he was the best thing that ever happened to me and I was a total idiot to throw it away, and apparently he was looking over at those times.
Ive talked to his almost-girlfriend and told him that if she really wants him then do NOT do what I did because he is the most amazing person she will ever meet, but they’ve only known each other three weeks.
It feels impossible 🙁
admin

October 23, 2013 at 7:23 pm

Well, it is still early in their relationship. You shouldn’t have broken NC though.

sugimura

October 21, 2013 at 9:18 am

My ex and I and his new gf are officemates. Been awkward bumping to each other during our short breaks. I have been constantly out with a lot of friends and I decided to be nice to his gf by greeting her happy birthday. Suddenly both of them invited me to a party this weekend. I dont know if I have to go or not. If I decline, he might take it negatively. If I go, I might have a hard time having fun. What should I do? It has been days since our last contact. I fear that greeting her gf was a wrong move. Seems like they are having a good time together. I’m over it though I miss him and wish to have him back when I think about it once in a while. Any advise?

admin

October 22, 2013 at 1:45 am

That must be awkward.

Were you friends with her before this?

I just think you should be as classy about the situation as possible.
sugimura

October 22, 2013 at 3:17 am

Yes we were good friends. Earlier today he asked me to accompany him in sending his sister to the airport. So he came over and we got to talk a little. I was calm and open with him talking about his gf and he says he misses me. His gf was jealous knowing he came over and asked me to accompany him. I knew his family well so that’s why he would have asked me. He wanted me to meet his gf at work and I said yes I wouldnt mind. He was a bit shocked with my responses though lol. Well we talked for a while and remembered some of our times. He ended the day with a thank you. That felt good. But we all know what I really want. Patience? We’ll see.
admin

October 23, 2013 at 6:49 pm

Man is he dumb? What ex wants to meet the new gf?
sugimura

October 24, 2013 at 10:33 pm

Well i promised him and his parents before to visit them. He told me i should just drop by and say i came from a friend near their house. Coincidentally, he’s also going home at that time. I dont know if i should still go or not.
admin

October 26, 2013 at 1:05 am

Only go if you are 100 percent comfortable with it.
sugimura

October 23, 2013 at 6:54 pm

I dont know really. So this weekend im visiting his parents as promised. He on the other hand had plans to go that direction too. He wanted this to be a secret to his gf. Right now I see them together and it really hurts a lot. I wanted to leave the company but I might just push things away. This is so hard. And i think i dont have a chance anymore.
admin

October 24, 2013 at 7:15 pm

Whoa hold the horses here.

Why are YOU visitng his parents again?

jessica

October 20, 2013 at 9:09 pm

Hi Chris, I desperately need your help.
I was with my ex for 3 years, and we were madly in love, but just recently when he started college he started to act distant towards me.

Last week, he called me and broke up with me on the phone saying he just didn’t want a relationship in this point in his life right now. Then a few days we met to talk, and I was crying and trying to telling him we could fix things (I know I shouldn’t have acted that way but I couldn’t help it.)

He basically told me that he isn’t in love with me anymore, he just doesn’t feel the same way. He likes being single and flirting with girls, and he kinda likes a few girls and has already been on a date. He told me I should just move on because there’s no chance of us getting back together. I was crushed. Sometimes he says things when he gets mad, so I didn’t know if he meant it or not.

I didn’t talk to him for a week. Out of nowhere he texted me and asked if I had started talking to one of my old girlfriends again. (I lost one of my bestfriends a while ago, but we’re now talking again) I told him it was none of his buisness. And he said i know it’s not, sorry to bother you. And I told him that he was so rude to me when we broke up I didn’t want to talk to him. He apologized for being rude and said he just didn’t think I was understanding it. I didn’t text back and haven’t talked to him in a few days.

I love him so much and can’t stop thinking about him. He was my first love, and my best friend for three years. I desperately want him back, but he said he liked other girls? I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to move on but it’s so hard because I’m still in love with him, and the fact that he texted me the other day shows maybe he still cares how im doing? But i haven’t heard from him since, and I don’t know if he’s dating this other girl now, but I really want to text him and ask him..

Chris how can I get the love of my life back?!

admin

October 22, 2013 at 12:51 am

Ok, well have you tried/started our NC yet?

Jessie D

October 20, 2013 at 4:49 pm

Ok so my situation is very confusing… My ex broke up with me about three months ago in July. He was with this new girl three days after. She moved away so that ended about a week after it started. We didn’t speak for the month on August and then on my first day of school he texted me a nice message to which I replied two days after… He then started telling me he missed me and regretted leaving me and that he was sad he wasn’t making me happy anymore basically he was saying he wanted to get back together without saying the actual words. We arranged for a meeting on his birthday and we made out. After I left he told me he was seeing this new girl which obviously made me to nuts. This was about a month ago. After that first meeting we met three other times and had sex. He was still seeing the other girl. Then he was very cold for two weeks so we didn’t text much and then on Thursday he started being playful ago and said he missed me. We kept texting all weekend or I should say sexting. Then last night he tells me he doesn’t want to do stuff (sexual) stuff with me and then hang out with the other girl. I went a bit crazy with texts I was so hurt and sad and then he tells it’s been three months get over it. We were together for a little over a year and a half never fought and although he’s not very expressive of his feelings I know he loved me I til the very end. I was very mean with him last night so I said that I was sorry about a gazillion times and left him a voicemail… He hasn’t answered to any of my texts. He also told me two weeks back that the new girl was very into sex and that she found it weird and awkward that he never initiated kisses or that they never did more then kiss and hold hands in two months…. He was never very physical with me either as he has a self confidence problem with his performance… He said he could never get back with me without saying why…. I just don’t know what to so or think and I don’t want this situation to get worst.

admin

October 20, 2013 at 9:14 pm

Firs things first, have you started NC yet?
Jessie D

October 20, 2013 at 10:37 pm

Should I start NC again because we had a NC period in August before starting to text each other again. He’s like bipolar. He sects with me all the time and as soon as I express how I feel he closes off. And says oh I feel bad about seeing you and then seeing her.
admin

October 22, 2013 at 1:02 am

How long did you last in NC the last time?
Jessie D

October 22, 2013 at 1:28 am

A month so 31 days. He texted me two days before I answered his text.

Amy

October 19, 2013 at 6:01 pm

Okay, I know you are probably going to think I’m silly, but I’ll tell you what happened and how I feel. About two weeks ago, I broke up with my ex. He said that he forgot that he had a girlfriend. I know it sounds silly that I would still want him back after that, but its hard. He sees me everyday, not matter what. We talk to each other a lot, and we hug each other like nothing ever happened. I can tell that he’s unhappy with his girlfriend, because every day on my way home, I hear them yelling at each other. But then I hear that she has been cheating on him. He found out, and he told me about it, but I was on my NC time. I tried to ignore him…But he was sobbing. So I broke the record and calmed him down.

The next day, he’s all lovey-dovey on his girlfriend again. So I’m back on NC.

What do I do?

admin

October 19, 2013 at 9:02 pm

NC is what you should do.

By breaking it you have told him that you are a friend he can “lean on” and you actually pushed him and his gf back together. No worries, their relationship has an expiration date.

Emelie

October 19, 2013 at 5:51 pm

lived together for 4 years, fought a lot about silly things towards the end, met a girl at his work, cheated on me with her, we broke up, he continued seeing her, do I stay in no contact, I am afraid of them growing closer while I am out of the picture. I have been in nc for abut 4 days, I know this man loves me, it just got to be too much, NEVER would have imagined he’d cheat, you have to take my word for it, he is worth getting back, I have made mstakes as well as kissing someone else earlier this year, he forgave me, and I forgive him I just want another chance, we have been through everything together, what do I do? do I stay in nc? what about her? does that ruin my chances, we have history together but she is brand new?

also, he lied for weeks about the whole situation saying he wasn’t seeing her and that hed want to work on things with me, and eventually I found out he lied and he admitted he was seeing her, I want to have a good shot but I fear I have already made so many desperate attempts I am embarrassed about now, I want to better myself and go for whom I love because I want a chance to fix what I didn’t even know that was in danger of falling apart, I miss him but I don’t want it to blow up in my face because of the other girl, who doesn’t even believe he cheated on me because he lied to us both, I am shocked my whole family and his is as well this isn’t like him, we just argued too much and I agree the stress killed feelings but dies that justify going on dates with another woman behind my back and coming home to me? he even said its not cheating because he was unhappy, I couldn’t vbelieve it, he must have been acting for months, this guy has been there for me through some major events in my life, healthwise and other things, supported us, planned to get married, and then he is out with a new gf a DAY after he tells me about her, idk what to do, I want to try to salvage some semblance of something, I believe life is too short to grow to care about people and where they go in life, to just cut them out of it for good…… I m sorry for how long this is and the leaving out of dtails. what it boils down to is the nc rule, and how scary it is to think of him growing close to her, because when he is happy he is a great bf.. idk why he would leave her for me, if he wouldn’t even stop seeing her to be with me, I wrote a more detailed account on your fb.. thank you, God bless, Emalie.

admin

October 19, 2013 at 9:00 pm

Well, one of the hardest things for anyone to do is to remove themselves from the situation and approach things logically. That is why the success rate of getting an ex back is low, because 80% of people cannot remove themselves from the situation and think logically.

Logically if you look at the big picture him and this girl WILL NOT LAST. Logically there is nothing you can do to prevent them from gettingtogether. When faced with these two facts the best course of action is to do NC AND become an UG.
Emelie

October 19, 2013 at 9:09 pm

then that is what I will do, I don’t need to keep myself around I do not to abck off and become more logival and less emotional.. thank you for replying! everything you have said about things that push them away has been so true idk why I cant just trust the nc, and the rebound information, it just worries me because they are already spending all their time together and here I am trying to get my life together, feeling massive regret.. no matter how Ive wanted to I haven’t contacted him at all since getting my things from the apartment..
admin

October 20, 2013 at 8:37 pm

Good. Stay strong for your sake!

Self improvement is what it is all about at this point.

Bella

October 18, 2013 at 8:34 pm

hi, I am 20 years old, and me and my boyfriend broke up 4 weeks ago exactly. Me and him had a very special relationship. We dated for a year and almost 5 months, i was his very first serious relationship and he was mine. but it was all a little complicated, we had met at a party but we couldn’t really see each other all that much. during the time we dated, we were only able to see each other about 8 times because he had no car and neither did i, but either way we still loved each other very much. We were each others weirdos which for us it meant special, unique, one in a million, that no one is like me or him. but anyways, he had introduced me to his parents and his family and his friends. we both had way too many things in common and we both wanted the same things for our future. we had everything planned out like who what age we would get married, how many kids we would have, who would the godparents would be, etc etc.. so he then decided to start attending a college nearby to me, i live in riverside and he lived in L.A. He also had decided to start dorming at Cal State San Bernardino because he wanted to see me alot more and fix the problem that we couldnt see each other much, i felt really happy about that but i felt bad for him because he was leaving all his family and friends and he knew nobody at cal state san bernardino. but about a month before he started dorming there, before he was even able to start dorming there, he had told me that his feelings for me were starting to go away, i got really sad and frustrated and i asked him if we could try, to try to make him fall in love with me again so he gave me the chance, i had started studying the driver handbook and i was planning to see him the week he started dorming there.. but a day before i was gonna see him he told me he didn’t have any feelings for me anymore, so we ended up breaking up with me. His best friend was really surprised about the break up and asked him what happened, and he said that it was because me and my ex boyfriend didnt see each other much. so i had decided on something, i was gonna go every friday to go see him, but after the second friday that i went to see him (which was an amazing day by the way, we were laughing alot) he had updated his Facebook and he had put that he was in a relationship 3 days later after i went to see him. i got really upset that i even walked out of my class and i called him, i asked him since when he had met her and he started liking her and he had said that it was the thursday before my last friday visit to him.. i waited like an hour after that call, and i texted him that i would still like to be friends, he had agreed but he said that we couldnt talk as much, i asked him why and he said that it wouldn’t be right.. then i asked him why wouldnt it be right, that i was just going to be his friend and he didnt reply back anymore, my mom then found out and she got really upset with him because of what happened and she had me delete him from my Facebook. but then i sent him a couple messages later that day trying to get him to reply but no answer. so then i decided to try to not talk to him to try to make him miss me and right now, i currently have 2 weeks and 4 days that i dont speak to him.. but i have to be completely honest with you, i feel really bad, i wake up every morning with a huge lump in my throat that its so difficult for me to even eat breakfast, but i still eat it and then i feel nauseated… i have had many dreams about him. so i was hoping you could give me your opinion, i have actually read your guide thing and im gonna follow it but i was wondering about hat you thought about my particular situation? oh and im really sorry about the long paragraph, i know its a lot to read.. but again thank you for reading it, i just really feel the need to talk about it with someone, i just really want to get him back, me and him shared pretty much the same goals together and we wanted the same things pretty much, we were just so happy together, always laughing and smiling.. so what do you think?

admin

October 19, 2013 at 7:44 pm

Long paragraphs are what I live and die for (not really)

Losing someone is like losing a part of yourself. So, have you started NC by any chance?
Bella

October 18, 2013 at 8:39 pm

oh and i am about to buy a car, i forgot to mention that and i am going to transfer to the same school as him.. i really hope you can help me out, i dont really have anyone to talk about it with

Samantha

October 18, 2013 at 5:31 am

Chris,
My ex and I had dated for 2.5 years. We broke up twice in between for a very short amount of time. Over the summer we had been struggling to make things work, but we were trying our hardest to work through our problems. He was telling me that the feelings just weren’t as strong anymore. Also, at the end of the summer our plan was to move to a bigger city where I would be finishing school, and he found a new job. I would live with family, and then his brother and him got a place together. Anyways, in the middle of August he broke up with me right before my birthday, and he said he would like us to try to be friends, and we could work on things after we got settled into our new routines. I told him it was almost impossible to go from a 2.5 year relationship to just being friends. Well, I decided I didn’t want him not to be apart of my life so I decided to give it a shot. We went out to the movies once when we moved here, and then a few weeks later he let me come see the new place, and he would let me come over to hangout and use the internet. We would continue to talk everyday like usual, and everything seemed to be going fine. There was a period where he let me stay the night, and we did end up sleeping together a few times (probably was not the best decision). Then about 2 weeks ago, he told me that we should plan on going out the next week (last week that just happened). I got so excited. Well Monday and Tuesday go by, and we didn’t make plans, and then on Wednesday he stayed home from work sick. Thursday, he told he was feeling better, so I asked him if we could hangout. He said he had already made other plans. I asked them what were they. He said his brother was having friends over, and he was having a friend over. I asked him which one. He said his friend Stef. I am not going to lie, my jealousy started to come out. We ended up arguing, and he pretty much said that he warned me that we should look into seeing other people, that he still had feelings for me but they weren’t strong and were still slowly fading away, and that things would never be the same, and that there were no words or actions I could do or say to get things back to where they used to be, and that he wanted to feel the “newness” of a new realtionship (which I assume is the honeymoon phase). I said a really immature thing out of anger, I said,” Fine. Whatever. Go have fun with your new girlfriend.” He said that I was upsetting him and that she wasn’t his gf and not to make assumptions. I deleted him from facebook, out of my phone, and then made a post on facebook about realizing who my real friends were after I deleted him thinking he wouldnt see it. Well I didnt talk to him for most of the next day, and then I felt really bad for the things I said, and texted him “Hi”. He didnt text back, so I tried calling. He texted back, “Seriously you think I want to talk after yesterday?” And then went on about I made it apparent what was up and that we werent friends anymore, and that I didnt need him anymore. I was confused. I realized he had somehow seen my post. I tried apologizing but he said it was too late, and I didnt appreciate him. I went to sleep. The next morning I tried calling him, texting him, he wasn’t responding. Finally , he texted me back telling me to stop calling. I was in tears getting so upset, and the first thing that came into mind was to go see him. I drove to his place, knocked on his door and he answered, I asked him to talk, he said no hes done trying, I dont appreciate him, and that we werent friends anymore. I begged him talk, he said that I needed to leave, and he shut the door on me while I was standing there in tears. I haven’t talked to him since. Then yesterday my friend sent me a screen shot of his Facebook page, saying he was in a relationship with that girl he said he wasn’t officially dating. I did not send him any angry messages after finding this out. It took alot of self control. I have purchased your E-book, and have read the articles. I just don’t know how to deal with this or what to do. My friends seem to think its a rebound relationship. We have barely been broken up for 2 months. I knew he wasnt completely happy in our relationship, but didnt think he would replace me so soon. I am on day 5 of NC. I have never heard of this girl before in my life, its like she appeared out thin air. What should I do Chris?

admin

October 18, 2013 at 6:59 pm

Could be a rebound. I mean he dated her pretty quickly right? Chances are they won’t last.
Samantha

October 21, 2013 at 8:21 pm

Yes, according to him they had only went out once, and then a few days after that big fight, thats when my friend sent me that screen shot. This was literally within 4 or 5 days of our fight. I am now on day 9 of NC.
admin

October 22, 2013 at 2:25 am

Hang in there I know it is really tough but you are doin gthe right thing.
Samantha

October 22, 2013 at 7:38 am

So I should continue the NC? People have been sending me screen shots of pictures him and his new gf have taken. Its making it really hard for me not to talk to him. Things just have happened so fast that I didn’t know someone could get over someone so quickly.
admin

October 23, 2013 at 7:27 pm

Yup, still continue NC.

Belle

October 17, 2013 at 3:53 pm

Wow! I can write a book on me & the ex. We started dating 7 years ago, broke up after living 2gether 3 yrs ago…. he dated others, I dated others… we rekinkled about a yr after, got engaged and I ran for the hills had a rebound relationship for over a year, he got engaged to another girl recently while I broke up with my rebound and we proceeded to have lunch dates which included the hour hugs, and intimate cuddling & yes sex. He texted everyday that he wanted me back, etc etc… but didn’t know how to tell her but now his fiance’found out about us and we wont even talk to me at work. yea, we work together too (great huh). I have always loved this man, since the day I met him and I know that he loves me too… we never fought, we got each other, he was through it all, he was my best friend still is until she found out:(. yea I know what we did was wrong, but is it sad to say that I don’t regret it. we both made alot of mistakes but always came back to each other.Both our families are still extremely close, I am good friends with all 3 of his sisters, he and my dad are close. He asks about me all of the time wondering what I am doing, etc but he still wont talk to me or reply to my texts? I WANT THIS MAN BACK. He is the ONE. No doubt…

admin

October 17, 2013 at 6:47 pm

Well, have you ever tried anything like NC before?

taryn

October 16, 2013 at 10:58 pm

I was in a 2 year relationship.. Went no contact for a month, a little after the 1 month point we began talking here and there shortly after I found out that he was dating someone new. I didn’t really let it bother me, he would still initiate small talk with me here and there and I would respond. UNTIL one night in a drunken state I called his gf ugly and him an idiot. (Other little stupid things have happened since) BUT Last week he texted me small talk it seemed like he wanted to hang out with me but I just played it cool I was out with the girls. Anyway everything was fine until for the third time I lost my cool a couple of days later when he texted me again and I was drunk again and I called his gf ugly and him an idiot and im embarrassed etcetc. the next day I told him it was unnecessary and immature of me to say those things I feel bad but i also feel that it is too soon for us to be talking like this if he is dating someone. – basically i know were broken up but i still feel upset and basically betrayed that he didn’t want to work things out with me but now is seriously dating this girl. There is obviously more to the story…. but im not sure if this is worth still pursuing.. thoughts?

admin

October 17, 2013 at 2:40 am

Have you done any form of NC yet?

DIANNE

October 16, 2013 at 10:12 am

.we broke up for about 3mos now. weve been in relationship for almost 3yrs. we live together for abot half a yr. he broke up with me bec he found another girl.he met this girl at the work. after a month he force me to live the house, im thinking he cannot do what he wants to do as long as we live together.. although i know their still dating.. i agree that its ok with me eventhou he has another girl.. i did all the things a woman not to do.. after living his house, we still see each other every other day, he comes to my place.. we did the break up sex, he told me that he gone sex with the girl.. we gone through the set up for about a month, until the time they had sex this wk. he doesnt want to see me anymore, either txt and call.. i became a gnat txt and cal… i became so desperate.. i even wanted to become pregnant just to hold him back.. i beg and beg every now and then for him to txt or call me… for him to come to my place.. but it makes him very angry…i love him very much.. he loves me very, very much back then… before that girl itrudes our relationship…

.every one adores our relationship and love for each back then… that no one can separate us… we love each other very much…

.can i still fix things for us???

.by the way i didnt txt this day, he txted me, but those are just statement txt, like his at the work, eating lunch, and back to work again.. i didnt reply for all his txt msg… i hope ican do the no contact rule..

.can i still get him back if his in love with that girl??? he intoduce already the girl to his family that made shock..

admin

October 17, 2013 at 2:27 am

First things first.

You can get him back BUT it may take some time and patience on your part. Have you started NC yet?
DIANNE

October 24, 2013 at 2:33 am

.we talk last night.. he told me yesterday around afternoon that he would not go to my place by night.. but he did.. around 11pm he went to my place but i was sleeping already and the guard wouldnt allow him to come up without my permission. he waited there until 11:30 before the guard allow him.. i was surprised his infront of my doorsteps and his drunk.. i let him in and i cannot talk to him right away.. im afraid that all we could talk that night he could not remember by morning coz his drunk.. he said that its the end of our relationship and i have to move on… he also said that only the commitment between us that will end.. he can still go to my place if he wants or i want to.. communication is still open.. we can go out sometime.. and that he could not forget me because im the best thing that ever happened to him… he said that he still love me a little.. a kind of love that not like before thats intense and he do still care for me… he also said that if i want to i could reapply to company for us to be work again(we used to work on the same place) maybe he can bring back the love…he said maybe.. he blames me for all the things that happens to us.. i know that some of it are my fault but not all…he told me that we are not totally apart… he said, now that he knows that i accept the break up he will become more open to me.. that he will make a way to come and see me every now and then if he has a time.. im crying while he was talking because i feel guilty, some of his confession about my shortcomings are really true..he hugs me and comfort me, he says that we cannot go back and change everything.. that we have to accept.. he said that maybe someday we could get back together, who knows.. that as of today its not possible and we don’t have to force it.. i said that i’ve done everything, all the possible way to save our relationship, im tired of the situation, but i do still love him.. he even cry,regretting 3yrs of relationship.. after we talked we had that break up sex, he said that its for the last time.. after that we talk a little more, he promised that he will try to come again on friday..

.im so confused… i cant understand what he was trying to imply??? what will i do about it??? could you explain to me in details what he was trying/thinking to do?? thus he really ready to let go of me or not??? pls elaborate it to me… i want to understand if there still hope for us or not.. pls make me understand everything.. tnx
admin

October 24, 2013 at 7:47 pm

Have you even tried the NC rule yet?
DIANNNE

October 30, 2013 at 1:40 am

y0u thnk so??? y0u thnk he still l0ves me???

.what will i do if he goes to my place???
admin

October 30, 2013 at 4:16 am

Be more specific. Goes to your place and…?
DIANNNE

October 31, 2013 at 12:33 am

.bef0re if im n0t txtng or callng him, he wil go t0 my plce chkng if im okay… do i have to avoid hm???
admin

October 31, 2013 at 7:23 pm

No you don’t want him to think super bad thoughts about you. But try your best not to engage him but if he engages you (in person) be pleasant happy and confident (but a bit short with him.)
DIANNNE

November 7, 2013 at 12:49 am

.d0nt he get mad with that??? thnkng that i d0nt l0ve hm anym0re???
DIANNE

November 19, 2013 at 8:54 am

.HE CONSTANTLY CALLING ME THIS PAST FEW DAYS.. IM NOT ANSWERING HIS CALL AND TXT, IM ON THE NC RULE.. STRICTLY..

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?? AS IN FORGET HIM FOR GOOD???
admin

November 19, 2013 at 7:10 pm

WHY ARE WE YELLING?

No, stick to NC for a while.
DIANNNE

November 18, 2013 at 7:16 am

he went to my place last nyt, saying thngs that the reas0n he br0ke up with me is bc0z i get abortd the baby we had, bt that was mutual dcis0n, he even helpd me with that…it hapen last yr… aftr that were rtil ok and hapy togethr, n0t untl he met ths grl he w0rk with…
admin

November 18, 2013 at 6:56 pm

So sorry to hear that.

I think you honestly need a break from him.
DIANNNE

November 14, 2013 at 6:32 am

.ab0ut the ab0rti0n thng….d0 u thnkthat was an alibi so that iw0uld blame my self instead of him????
admin

November 14, 2013 at 7:34 pm

What do you mean?
DIANNNE

November 13, 2013 at 2:28 am

.hey??? y n0t answer me??? do u thnk theres stil a chnce of gettng him bck evn f 0ur situati0n i7 that much c0mplicated???
admin

November 13, 2013 at 7:25 pm

What do you mean? I have answered you mutliple times. Did I not answer you?
DIANNNE

November 9, 2013 at 3:14 am

.he went to my place last nyt, saying thngs that the reas0n he br0ke up with me is bc0z i get abortd the baby we had, bt that was mutual dcis0n, he even helpd me with that…it hapen last yr… aftr that were rtil ok and hapy togethr, n0t untl he met ths grl he w0rk with…
admin

November 7, 2013 at 5:50 pm

Your single and can do what you want. How he reacts to it is up to him.
DIANNNE

November 2, 2013 at 4:37 am

.what do y0u mean by a bit sh0rt with him???
diaane

February 6, 2014 at 9:00 am

.i cant stil not do the nc thing…
DIANNNE

November 20, 2013 at 4:58 am

.n0 im n0t…s0rzf0r the caps… hehe..

.he went to my place again last nyt, c0z theres the prank news spreading that im dead, he embrace me and l0oks so w0rried, he even cry 0ut of fear that im dead, maybe thats the reas0n why his calling me.. i did cry also maybe i miz hm a l0t.. he kiss me a c0uple times and i t0ld him to go h0me, and he pr0mise to be back 0n sat.

.im c0nfused… cn tel me what was his trying to imply
admin

November 20, 2013 at 5:44 pm

Why do your messages look so funky to me all the time?
DIANNNE

November 6, 2013 at 5:04 am

.what sh0uld i do if he wants ???to hve sex??????
admin

November 6, 2013 at 5:29 pm

Don’t have it with him until you are in a relationship with him.
DIANNNE

November 5, 2013 at 4:53 am

.should i avoid him if he went to my place???
admin

November 5, 2013 at 6:04 pm

No don’t do anything to make things awkward but its ok to be carefully short with him.
DIANNNE

November 4, 2013 at 1:56 am

.break what???
admin

November 4, 2013 at 5:31 pm

Sorry now I am confused hahaha.
DIANNNE

November 3, 2013 at 3:04 am

.last nyt he went to my place, we talk while having his dinner, i asked him if he was happy n0w, he said slight, i asked him why, he said that just d0nt asked, suddnly a guy friend of mine called up, he heard me talking and laughng, aftr the call he says that he l0st his appetite t0 eat, didnt finish the f0od, and asking me if i had a b0yfriend.. i said tht i dnt have, and asking me who was the caller, i didnt answrd him… aftr he said he wants to go h0me bec. his tired and sleepy, when ab0ut to leave he kiss me that i didnt resist, that went to bed and had sex… aftr i cried tht i d0nt kn0w why… he said that he will come 2x a wk to visit me, i asked why, he said that i d0nt have to asked why… that im asking him to many questi0n, because i wanna kn0w why… he said that he will g0ing t0 fetch me at the w0rk by m0nday… m0nday is his restday fr0m w0rk..

.is that mean that he still l0ve me??? what sh0uld i do kn0w???
admin

November 3, 2013 at 5:57 pm

Do me a favor. Break this up as much as you can for me. Can you just ask me one question at a time.
admin

November 2, 2013 at 7:04 pm

Like talk to him but don’t talk to him too long.
DIANNNE

October 28, 2013 at 3:08 am

.everything pls. why does he still wants to go to my place and see me???
admin

October 29, 2013 at 1:59 am

He probably still cares for you.
DIANNNE

October 27, 2013 at 2:21 am

.im 0n my day 2 0n NC…

.c0uld u pls explain to me his acti0ns???
admin

October 27, 2013 at 10:16 pm

What specific actions do you want me to break down?
DIANNE

October 17, 2013 at 3:53 am

.i tried yesterday.. and he txted me a statement msgs. like im at the work. eating lunch, going home.. gudnyt.. those with lav you.. stuff like that.. i didnt reply… but this morning i cant help him.. i txtd him if hes going to my place later before he goes to work… i called him up but he answred and tels me later we talk coz his gonna be late in work… i miss him so much that i want to see him now.. what i shall i do now???

.i know my actions are a big no no….

.can u help me pls????
admin

October 17, 2013 at 6:13 pm

Well, stop doing those big “no no” actions haha.
DIANNE

October 23, 2013 at 9:41 am

.i called the other night and ask him to see me for the last time, i know that im not suppose to do it, but i did.. i just told him that we should talk personally for the last time.. giving some closure to the relationship.. that after i wont batter him anymore, he did not agree.. he said that he doent like that way.. he says even if we broke he wants us to be friends, open communication and he wants to go to place if he has a time… i asked why, he just says he wants it that way… that we can be best of friends… we ended on agreement that one of this day he will drop to my place to had a serious talk… he called me earilier saying he will go to my place tom night after his work… i dont know what will happen for this action… but after this il try to go on NC thing… for now im doing this to have a peace of mind… i suffered a lot of pain for past 2 wks.. i just wanna take it rest for a while…

.what do you think of him, saying that he wants us to be friends and see each other after the break and an open communication.. what thus he mean by that???

.by the way he has a new gf.. theyve been together for about 3/4mos i guess… before we broke up he got this girl already (but i think we didnt really broke up even thou he has this new girl)
admin

October 23, 2013 at 10:09 pm

Def do NC!

I would say that if he with the new gf for longer than 6 months it could be becoming more serious.
DIANNNE

November 21, 2013 at 8:39 am

w.i didnt see my recent p0st…

.my ex went to my place the 0ther night, c0z there a rum0r 0n 0ur circle of friendz that im dead.. maybe thats the reas0n he called the 0ther day..he l0oks s0 w0rried and embrace me tightly and never let go eventh0u i t0ld him to go h0me that im okay, he even cried, i cried also c0z i miz him. he t0ld me t0 take care of myself… he kiss me a c0uple of times bef0re leaving, he even pr0mise t0 be back 0n sat..

.im c0nfused…

.can y0u explain why w0uld he wants to see me 0n sat???
admin

November 21, 2013 at 7:57 pm

That your dead?

What kind of rumor is that?

I would go out with him on sat.
DIANNE

October 23, 2013 at 2:13 am

.found it…
DIANNE

October 23, 2013 at 2:12 am

.i coulkdn’t find it.. where do i have to go???
DIANNE

October 21, 2013 at 1:00 am

.the NC thing is hard to do.. after there this right texting to do, if you screw the txtng hte NC thing is nothing???.. hahaha…

.could you post some inspiring stories like they really get their exboyfriend back after reading your blog??
admin

October 22, 2013 at 1:19 am

Yea, I already have. Go to the success section!
DIANNE

October 18, 2013 at 3:37 am

.i tried the NC last wk. one whole day i never txted him or call… but he does called me late at night… when i didn`t answer, he came to my place eventhou its midnight.. he thinks that something happened to me…

.but this i will try the NC, but im afraid he wouldn’t care anymore… what if he tells me after the NC that his better off without me? or im better off without him?? can i still get him back???
admin

October 18, 2013 at 6:52 pm

Hopefully it won’t come to that. This is why you need to have the right texts planned out.

Sue

October 16, 2013 at 5:17 am

Hi, there…need your advice, desperately!! Know this guy for 3 1/2 years. Met, hooked up, he ran away. Six months later calls up, same thing happens. Then we started talking again 5 months later, we were “together” when he was overseas for a year. When he got back, dated (really for the first time) for 7 months, then he stopped talking to me for a week (out of the blue) then told me he didn’t want to date. But the next day we talked like nothing happened, I thought maybe he needed time(as he has a history of running away). really quick background, married 7 years, divorced, won’t tell me why they got divorced. Has 2 kids, 2 different women. So I “waited” it out, not pressuring him. Waited for a year, only for him to tell me he was no longer interested as he was seeing someone. Finally started talking again and saw each other just as friends. Two months later, he was all about me and we hooked up (his suggestion). Then I randomly found out (5 days later) that he has been online dating and was dating someone for 6 months while being with me at the same time (yes, I know we weren’t technically dating). Then 8 days after we hooked up, he told me he had a girlfriend that “he just got with”. I don’t believe that for a moment and he told me he thought I knew about the other girl earlier in the year.
Since then we have been talking on and off for the past month and a half. Why I don’t know? Apparently I have a lot of issues. I don’t even trust him. But I love him. Guess I hope that one day he will want me.
Then we were talking last week and it was good conversation, friend conversations (we hadn’t talked in a week). I initiated the first conversation. The second day of talking he made a sexual comment, I was very surprised. And changed the subject fast. Then yesterday, I asked him to come to my place for coffee. Truly as friends. It was my intent, honestly. We talked, it’s easy, it’s comfortable, we relaxed watched tv, but he put his legs over mine, sat close, I put my hands on his legs. I didn’t stop him. I know, I know. When we hugged (for the longest time) actually grabbed my ass, asking have i “been with anyone lately” – I said no and said he should go He agreed. He left and I later on that night I text about his daughter’s game. No response. Spoke with him this morning, I asked to call. He said he didn’t text because he was with his girlfriend. I told him that he is very hard to resist but that while he has a girlfriend it can’t happen. He agreed.
So my question is what do I do now? I know half of this is my fault. If not all of it. Be brutally honest please. I need it.
Thank you

admin

October 17, 2013 at 1:59 am

Well, have you started a NC rule?
Sue

October 17, 2013 at 3:30 am

I knew that is what you would say 🙂
I have tried and I never succeed, either I break it or he contacts me and I break every time!!! The most I have gone for is one week. I guess I feel that if I don’t reach back, he will get mad and never talk to me again.
Is there even a point to attempting to get him back?
Thanks
admin

October 17, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Only if you really feel he is worth having in your life. Some people aren’t. So, do you think he is worth having in your life?
sue

November 6, 2013 at 9:31 pm

Hi, there…update since Oct 17, he reached out again, said he was being neglected, not getting his needs met and that I know what he likes. I caved twice. Then he said it can’t happen again. I had some papers to give to him, told him that I would mail them, he said he would come over. He did this morning. No sex. But actually learned about he new girlfriend. He’s known her for a year, she has a 1 1/2 year old, (he has 2 daughters from two different woman), she is 12 years younger (he’s 39) and makes minimal amount of money. Now he’s thinking of moving in with her. Seriously? He and I are both professionals and make good money. I told him he must really care about her if he is willing to take on a family of 5. He says he is really stressed. About money, work, career everything. He wants me to help him out again with his taxes. I asked him does she know about me. He said no. I said for 3 1/2 years I have been quiet and not said anything, that no longer will happen. I told him that he doesn’t want to know about the men I date since he never asks. He said yeah. He kept talking to me about his career. I admit I asked him if he wanted to come over to relax, (no sex) he can’t he is going with her. So my question is obviously I need to move on. He really likes her. Do I just stop talking to him? What if he reaches out? Why does he continue to talk to me? come over? Help me. Please.
admin

November 7, 2013 at 5:34 pm

Read this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-over-your-ex-boyfriend/

Second Time

October 15, 2013 at 1:34 am

I tried to post from my phone earlier but it did not work, so hopefully this will. Ok so my ex and I broke up July of this year after a 2 1/2 year relationship. We had been friends for almost four. He has only been in 3 other long term relationships before me, all over 3 years. He is 7 years older than me and I am in my mid twenties. (I don’t know if any of that matters but I am just giving a background) So anyways he wanted to end things because he felt like he wasnt being the man that he needed to be… Also, he has been anti long distance and his company was planning on relocating him across the country. He has said numerous times that he wanted a future with me and that I was “it” for him. I did NC for 20 days and then cut it short bc I heard he was leaving so I felt like I could at least meet up with him. Well during this meetup I couldnt help but tell him how I really felt and how I did want to be with him and moving forward we should try and work on things. We hung out once a week every week since September. He would still say that he cared for me and ultimately wanted to be with me at the end of the day. Fast forward to last week, he told me that he was talking to someone who works for him and also lives with him and 3 of his guy roommates, she is the only girl. She also knows me because I recruited her to come work for him (ironic?) Anyways… he told me that they were “talking”. I was very calm and asked how many times he had lied to me about her. He said that he never lied. He said that its nothing serious that they are talking and that is it. I asked him what his feelings towards her was and he told me that he liked hanging out with her and that he felt like it was convenient because she lived with them and that his feelings were nothing in comparison to what he felt for me because he still loved me and he said he will always love me but that he was just confused right now and that he liked being single and was probably just being selfish. Needless to say I was baffled by this whole statement that he made and I just said very calmly, “well let me help you with your confusion and I will eliminate myself from the equation. That way there is no drama and your new girl doesnt get upset. I said that I wish you both the absolute best. I hope she makes you happy and is able to give to you what I was not able to. And I guess I will catch you around”. I have been NC since the end of last week.I Have not heard from him, however the new gf/woman hes dating messaged me on social media site and told me that he had informed her that i now knew they were dating and to delete her so that I dont see anything that makes me upset. She said that she would do it herself but she didnt want me to hate her. She said other things but that is the cliff note version. I dont like when people try and tell me what to do especially when they seem to be irrelevant. I did not delete her but she finally deleted me. They are not friends on the social media site either which is slightly bizarre. She is three years younger than me. I guess my question is what do you think about this entire situation. I have been on dates with a few guys but I never posted photos of us. Do you think she is a rebound or the real thing? Do you think he is really “confused” or is he just lying to spare my feelings? He has known her since May. We have been friends for 4 years and had been together for 2 1/2. Do you think he cheated on me while we were together with her?

admin

October 16, 2013 at 1:26 am

You wrote all this on a phone?

Good god…. I wouldn’t have the patience haha.

How long has he been dating her specifically. Do you know? I couldn’t find it in your message haha.
Second Time

October 16, 2013 at 2:18 am

i have double postings on here… woops! i am also the “confused and upset” on the rebound page. haha
He literally just told me this last wednesday.
They are not friends online, but she made a post this past weekend that said “our first date”.However, she has been working for him since May of this year and she has been living with him and his two guy roommates since June. I was definitely irritated by her sending me that message online though. It took everything in me not to lash out and say “who the f do you think you are?!” My questions are as follows:
1. Do you think she is making it more than what it actually is because she knows of our history?
2. Do you think she is a rebound or that he cheated on me with her possibly causing the break up and she is the real thing?
3. How can he go from I am the one he wants to be with forever, have a future together, and saying that he still loves me yet still be confused? Is there a possibility that he really is confused or is he lying to spare my feelings.
4. I am in NC currently. The last time we spoke was last Wednesday night and he has not reached out to me since. Knowing this, do you think he is over the 2 and a half years of our relationship and the 3+ years we had together? Sorry for the length of this. Please let me know if there is still confusion with any of this by telling me which part you would like me to explain further. I appreciate and look forward to your feedback! Thanks
admin

October 17, 2013 at 1:38 am

1. Yes
2. Hard to say I can’t tell you for sure b/c I don’t know him very well. I don’t want to guess b/c I could be wrong either way.
3. Sounds like something drastic happened for him to have this change of hear or he is lying to you all along but that doesn’t seem to be the case.
4. Good. stay in NC no matter what.
Second Time

October 22, 2013 at 1:12 am

For some reason my comments keep deleting?
He has texted me only once during this time and it was kind of a rude text bc he thinks im talking with other guys, which is kind of odd that he even cares when obviously he is “talking” or “dating” or has a girlfriend now. Also Day 30 of NC we are both in a destination wedding together for three days. What are some of your suggestions as far as how to act, etc?
admin

October 22, 2013 at 10:22 pm

That is weird. Do you think they are just falling off the page?
Second Time

October 21, 2013 at 12:57 am

PSS I also posted a pic on fb of roses I had received and he texted me saying that it was messed up that he found out I had a rotation of guys! Which I don’t I’m assuming he’s talking ab the photo. I’m still in NC so I didn’t respond. I don’t understand why he’s making a double standard and getting irritated with me?! Pls shed a little light if you can on my last 2 postings. Thanks! Day 13!
Second Time

October 21, 2013 at 12:36 am

3. You just said sounds like something “drastic” happened for him to have this change of heart. You were saying this in reference to him saying that he still loved me and wanted to ultimately be with me and build a future together two weeks prior to him telling me that him and his employee were “talking”

Ps on day 30 we are in a destination wedding together for 2 nights. How do you suggest acting or proceeding in this unfortunate circumstance that I’m dreading slightly. (Not the wedding but the fact that we are in it together)
admin

October 22, 2013 at 1:10 am

When you see him you need to act like you are better than ever without actually saying you are better than ever.

Be confident, classy oh and make sure you look perfect!
Second Time

November 17, 2013 at 4:48 pm

Soooo I completed 30 days of NC. However as I told you we went on the vacation together bc we were both in a wedding. The first day was fine but I got upset on the last day bc he told me that he was still “talking” to that girl that works with him and is his roommate (which by the way at this point I am 99% sure that he cheated and left me for her) I texted him 4 long text messages on how upset I was that he would make her relevant especially after our history of friendship and relationship equating to ab 4 years. THEN when I got back home, a wk later, I find out that he told one of our mutual friends that he still loved me and will alwAys care ab me but that he didnt want me anymore. When I found that out I was so pissed and I am still kind of upset bc obviously I feel as though I wasted two years with him promising me a future and marriage and a family… And it all comes down to this?! Ugh!! I want to just be over it! What are your thoughts?
admin

November 17, 2013 at 9:26 pm

Great job getting thorugh NC.

Well, just take some time for you.
Second Time

November 30, 2013 at 4:02 pm

Well I found out that he cheated on me with the girl he is with now. The latter part of our relationship, which I had already assumed but he told me this. So now he texts me saying how he has to live with the guilt of what he did to me but now they are together after we had not even been broken up for 3 months before they became “official”. He tells me he’s trying to work on being faithful. (How do you do that with the girl you cheated on me with?!) he tells me and other ppl that he loves me and always will but doesn’t want to be with me bc of his guilt… Or something… As I said before she works for him and lives with him and his 3 roommates so now knowing this I’m starting a 45 day no contact to see if I even want him back and also to really get back out on the dating scene. When he told me about his infidelity, I wasn’t even really upset or sad. I was just kind of disgusted. I’m curious to know your thoughts on his current situation and what you think about my plan, moving forward.
Second Time

October 18, 2013 at 2:58 am

2. either way, cheating or not, she would be a rebound, either way, correct? since they have only known each other for three months? I dont think he cheated. but I always throw out worst case scenarios just in case.
3. What do you mean something drastic? I mean he is about to get promoted soon and may leave the state. His company was planning on moving across the country but now he does not know what will happen.
4. I will keep you posted.
admin

October 18, 2013 at 6:48 pm

2. Read this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-know-if-your-ex-boyfriend-is-in-a-rebound-relationship-how-long-will-it-last/
3. I can’t find our last message anywhere so I don’t remember the drastic thing I said. Sometimes this site can eat up comments into no mans land.
4. Definitely do!

Sue

October 14, 2013 at 1:25 pm

I was in a 3 year relationship with my ex. He broke up with me in August and started seeing this girl who was his friend a few days later. My problem is that I have never gotten to the full 30 days of NC. For the first few weeks immediately after the break up, I did everything I wasn’t supposed to do – calling, texting, saying mean things about that girl. Then I finally calmed down and then had relapses. The longest I’ve gone in NC was 21 days and then I contacted him about a car issue. Then I went back into NC and then contacted him a week later, sending him a picture of something I knew he would appreciate (signed pair of Kobe’s). He responded with “nice”. Now I’m back to NC again. It has only been 4 days. I know he is still seeing that girl. They have been seeing each other since we broke up – 2 1/2 months. Should I wait until I have reached my full 30 days again (only on day 4 now). I fear I may be too late. Or is it better to wait another 26 days before I initiate your gameplan?

admin

October 15, 2013 at 2:12 am

Yup, wait the full 30 days and then do the gameplan haha.
taryn

October 16, 2013 at 11:01 pm

im in the same boat (above) who knows what to do from here haha
Sue

October 17, 2013 at 8:29 pm

Hi Taryn,

We need to stay strong and complete the 30 days NC. If you’re in the same situation as I am, I feel like there is really nothing else I can do. Unfortunately, I can’t beg him to be with me. I just need to give him his space and let his rebound relationship play out, as painful as it is. I hope it ends soon. But until then, anything we do now before the NC period is over will seem too desperate. It’s so hard but I am trying to be reasonable and realize that I can’t control him and I need to be patient and work on myself in the meantime. And if he is meant to be with me, it will happen. If not, I will be this strong, independent woman for my future partner. Stay strong.
Sue

October 20, 2013 at 9:03 pm

haha, yes, his birthday is on Halloween. He is the devil lol. No joke.

Thanks, I will stay in NC.
admin

October 22, 2013 at 12:49 am

The POWER OF CHRIST COMPELS YOU!

JK JK.
Sue

October 20, 2013 at 4:54 am

My ex’s birthday is on Halloween. I will still be in the middle of NC on that day. My birthday was a few weeks ago and he sent me an email saying happy birthday and I responded with “Thanks!”. Should I wish him a happy birthday as well since he wished me the same? Or stay in NC? If I don’t wish him a happy birthday, will he take it the wrong way (thinking that I don’t care about him anymore)? I really don’t want to hurt my chances at all. He’s still seeing the same girl that he got with within a few days of our break up. Thank you.
admin

October 20, 2013 at 8:57 pm

No way? His B-Day is on Halloween?

Stay NC!

Alexia

October 13, 2013 at 4:29 pm

Ok so i recently just got outta this relationship and my ex still liked me even though he was the one who kinda broke up with me and so after like maybe a month he got a girlfriend who is my friend but not very close but close enough and they just kissed yesterday and i saw it and i died inside. I left the party and he went up to my friend and said, “did she see the kiss”, and she said yes and all that stuff and he said that he has moved on but my friend told me she doubts that because he went up to her and asked about me so idk. And i act like i have moved on from him and like i dont like him but I REALLY like him and ill do ANYTHING to get him back.

admin

October 13, 2013 at 10:49 pm

Do you think he was trying to make you jealous?

Roxii Vandersul

October 13, 2013 at 2:24 pm

Um Hi my ex fiancé broke up with me about a month ago we’ve been together 4 years and he got me engaged last year. we haven’t had the smoothest relationship but who hasn’t right? well only last month on his birthday he started ignoring me and I didn’t know exactly what I did. So I went to the gym 3 days after his birthday and he walked in and started to train I went up to him and hugged him but he didn’t hug me how he usually did so I knew something was wrong I left it alone until we left he asked me if I needed a lift home so I said yes we both go in the car and he pulled over telling me he didn’t feel the same about me any more I was shocked and very upset because I gave up a lot to be with him as he did with me.

After he told me we should break up I left the car in tears and didn’t know where my head was I cried for 3 days straight until it hurt to cry. Now this is what breaks my heart more I confronted him 3 days after our break up with a cool head and said can we talk I told him how much I love him and he needed to think about all the good times we have and we just looked at each other he pulled me to him and said he loves me which is what kinda kicked me in the gut.

a friend of mine rings me and tells me my ex has a new girlfriend and it’s only been a few days since we broke up I asked him if it’s true he denied it so I rang his girlfriend who was a friend of mine and she admits to it all.

It’s been a month and I’ve had no contact with him but it’s really killing me on the inside then his girlfriend confronted me telling me she wanted me to stay away from him which is hard because she wants me to ditch my feelings for him because she’s his girlfriend now and that I shouldn’t love him any more.

I’ve spent more nights crying than I have being happy I’ve been going out with friends and enjoying my life then yesterday I ran into my ex and I mean into the back of him (Awkward) he asked me a question but his girlfriend was with him so I said I had to go and ran for my life because all my emotions ran to the top just locking eyes with him.

He then contacted a friend of mine thinking we’re dating telling my friend to treat me right and look after me so I got very upset with that because I don’t want anyone else but him everyone has been telling me to move on but it’s hard when you spend so much time with that one person I don’t know what to say or do or even how to talk to him.

admin

October 13, 2013 at 10:43 pm

So, have you started any of the tactics like NC or anything like that?
Roxii Vandersul

October 17, 2013 at 11:32 pm

I did the NCR rule for the entire time we broke up I’ve been out and about with friends but he seems to crop up everywhere I am he always stares at me as well I’ve noticed it but not said anything to him about it because I’m keeping to the NCR rule.

The he suddenly came into contact with me talking to me and telling me that him and his girlfriend have had problems so I reminded him to stay strong and he said about all the good times he had with me.

I’ve also been nice to his girlfriend but she’s been horrible to me and even demanded that he block my number in case we text or talk she wants him to not speak to me at all. What should I do I don’t want to tell him because he’ll think I’m just saying it out of spite.
admin

October 18, 2013 at 6:30 pm

She feels threatened by you.

You are doing everythingi right remember that.

Eventually he will come to resent the controlling aspect of her.

jmom

October 13, 2013 at 1:16 am

They also say they are in love and only been together for a mounth she also wants a baby with him because she says hes fine and wants everything of him I feel like shes takeing advantage of him and I dont like that I really do care about him and I dont wanna loose him hes my everything and I feel like I could be with him my whole life and we could work something out
jmom

October 13, 2013 at 1:08 am

Well I had a bf for 3 years and a 1 year old son we started haveing promblems after a while things started changeing well thats how I felt he kept showing me love and affection but I warned him in what was going on he also warned me to stop arguing and being a bitch too him cause he was gunna get tiread of it . Well months passed we kept arguing all the time a friend came along and presented a friend she was going to rent a room there comes out too find he was cheating on me and left me saying things werent the same and found out he was with her cause she treated him better I found out she has a really bad reputation of her with other guys and has 5 kids . He left me for her I guess and told me he dont care or love me nomore after I tryed to work thinga out with him he told us we werent gunna happen again anymore and things werent gunna go back he said he was tiread of me . But I told him it wasent my fault that he turned me to that person he never met . He changed me he treated me like a shit and didnt care how I was treating him he didnt care about me and I was there all the time . Why would he tray me for trash and leave his family . He dont call or nothing for his son and dont contact at all I need help

admin

October 13, 2013 at 10:26 pm

Is it possible he is going through some sort of mid life crisis?

maria

October 12, 2013 at 6:42 pm

How can I contact you I really need some advice from you personally I feel like the book cant anwder my questions .

admin

October 13, 2013 at 8:46 pm

You can contact me via facebook (that really is the best.)
jmom

October 15, 2013 at 12:38 am

I wrote you a measage on fb
admin

October 15, 2013 at 1:06 am

I will get to it later tonight 🙂

melissa

October 12, 2013 at 6:06 pm

I broke up with my ex 1 year ago.he broke up with me because of his mother(she refuses our relation bcz I had a lot of problems .she didn’t knew me even) he asked me to stay friends but I refused.he kept on texting to ask how I was doing… the last 2 months he was sending msgs like ” I miss u” or “yesterday I was thinking abt u and how we were…and for the first time he came to the party where I was.( he was going with his friends but he change his mind when he knew I tell him I was there) BUT from 1 month he bigin to put statuses mentioning another girl and now he s talking with her and it seems that he s very happy with her and he dont talk to me since that. Ps : when he came to that party I didnt talk to him and he got nervous and quit.i said hi and leave him and his friends. And after that night I kept replying to his msgs in an indifferent way. So now what to do ? Should I ask him abt his new girl friend or not ?

admin

October 13, 2013 at 8:45 pm

No don’t ask him about the new girlfriend.

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