69 thoughts on “When Is It Too Late To Get Back With Your Ex?”

1. 

   sheila

   October 20, 2018 at 2:39 pm

   My ex and I have split up a few times over the last 10 months of our relationship, but managed to get back together. My first mistrust came when he told me he was still keeping in contact with an ex of his they had split 3 years ago and were together for about year n half. I was not happy about it and should have said hey ok but I cant be with you if this is the case. 3 in a relationship is not good for me. But I didnt and this was my downfall big style, I have tried to talk about this to him many times but he says what goes on with me and her should not bother what we do quite defensive… Hmmm I wanted reassurance that it was just a friendship and nothing more. I never got an answer, she didnt no about us to start with and I dont no when she became aware of me to be honest they must have talked about it at some stage, but hey she just kept right on coming through with phone calls him swiping his phone or ring you later HUN!!!…. oh and pretending it was his MUM calling…MISTRUST….me being paranoid, this is how it got to me. Long story short I over stood my welcome accused him countless times of cheating crossed the line when I snooped around his home and found womens slipper hide in a bag in a suitcase which had been put there august as there was a receipt in the bag( Not for the slipper by the way) toiletries in his bathroom they were neither mine or his….. I kept an eye on these items over a few weeks and yes the toiletries were being used but by whom….I did have keys to the property and basically could have turned up at any time but I didnt and respected that on a Friday I went down and a Monday I left and so on….only last week I stayed at his for the full week while my car was getting sorted, ended up with dirty cold and wasnt feeling to good, I woke on the Sunday while he was gutting his house (Cleaning) I did manage to be sarcastic and saying oh you must be expecting a visitor and for the amount of sex we have had this week I would swear there is someone else……well that just blow it…..I had crossed the line with accusations ….I felt him shut off there and then that moment he was gone….I went home on the sunday txt him on the Monday ignored me all day….I called him on the Monday night he spoke to me only asking for his keys back and he would get my stuff to me . I was so annoyed I went down that night he had the chain on the door I had to wait till he decided to open the door….got my things gave keys back asked him if this is the end he said yes had enough. No contact till the Thursday I call just to see if he was ok…..he said we could stay friend after telling me that his ex had just been on the phone and they had had a really good chat for the past half hour which just made me see red…..I told him that I could not be friends like his ex….I then proceeded to txt him and tell him he is out of my life forever and dropped the slipper and toiletries into the txt too….. I have blocked him…..does this make me a jealous unstable women… did I over step his mark…am I insane with my accusation…..there is a whole load of other stuff within this relationship lack of communication calling me a wimp and a softy, that I needed tough love…. I think I will right a book myself….do I want him back I miss him like crazy he was a good man in his eyes…very generous never had to pay for anything we used to have fights to see who could get the money out quick enough because I like to pay my way too…he doesnt want me and the drama I bought to the relationship I have to accept that I cant be friends and end up like his ex….having cozy little chats now and again or txting each other like we used to…he has gone and I have to move on….Im sitting here in tears writing this i do miss him terribly. Is my lack of trust founded or do I need to sit and have a really good talk with myself and say it was all your fault for this break up.

2. 

   Sylvia

   October 18, 2018 at 4:09 am

   Hi Chris,
   I am hoping factor #1 doesnt apply to me or can be mitigated.
   I haven’t failed no contact( too good at it actually), i’m not emotionally unstable nor have I crossed any value lines. However, we’ve totally cut off contact for about a year. We broke up because we were LDR. He’s had a gf for about 1.5 years, he doesnt seem as interested in her but shes obsessed with him and tracks him like crazy online( he even told me so.), He rarely posts pics with her online yet her social media is only posts with him where he looks uninterested. When we were together he was the one who’d take most of the pics of us together.

   I’ll admit my social media game hasnt been great over the past year or so because I rarely ever post but the rare and few times I do, he generally Always likes my posts.

   I have become stronger and things have been looking up for me over this past year re: career, extracurricular activities etc.

   Any chance in us being able to work it out?

1. 

   Chris Seiter

   October 18, 2018 at 11:16 pm

   Hi Sylvia!

   Good job Sylvia in working toward becoming an even stronger woman. Just continue to follow the blueprint I lay out in my program!