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179 thoughts on “What To Expect When You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

  1. niloo

    November 21, 2015 at 9:26 pm

    Hi chris
    So my ex came back out of the blue he saw me somewhere (i didnt see him) he called the next day.he wasnt answering me for 4 mounths.he wanted to see me right away.we met the they after. We slept together. (I know not such a good idea) every thing was ok for past 3 weeks put from last week he started pulling off again.he even said that i did some stuff that i really didnt i refuse to talk about whats going on but he is cold and distance i dont know what to do.

  2. Becky

    October 7, 2015 at 10:59 am

    Hi,

    You say in this to make him fall in love with you again you should experience new things that he’s not experienced before with him… My question and concern is he is seeing someone else already (rebound I suspect) and I have been told that they are potentially looking to go to Paris together (an abroad trip is something we never did together as we never could afford to as we were paying for our flat and then we were saving for our wedding – we were engaged)… what happens if they do go away together and they fall for each other more? :/

  3. jiyaaa

    August 31, 2015 at 4:39 pm

    Hey chris!! Its been a really complicated relationship got my ex back for like 4th time again.. but the relationship is still the same like before. In the beginning it is always amazing but after 2 or 3 months idk why he starts ignoring me. Its been 3 days he is not replying to my texts. I think he loves me otherwise why would he come back again and again after he himself broke up everytime. I dont understand how to deal with him at the moment.

    1. jiyaaa

      September 16, 2015 at 7:47 pm

      We are in a long distance relationship. Idk why he always starts giving me a cold shoulder after every 2 or 3 months being together. I fight with him on this and then boom breakup. Then again he comes back for patch up exactly after 2 months then again the cycles goes on. This time i m not fighting with him on this cux i dont wanna break up. Just being patient. But really idk how to deal with his silent treatment cux the moment ill say a single word he is gonna breakup . He replies to my normals texts but doesnt respond if i m being romantic. Any advice?

    2. jiyaaa

      September 4, 2015 at 3:25 am

      Your little advice can save my relationship 🙁

    3. Chris Seiter

      September 12, 2015 at 1:33 am

      Ok, what do you need advice on?

  4. taelor

    July 4, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Hey Chris I’ve read mostly all your guides nd listened to majority of your pod casts.This site is my new addiction. As I reach the end of my NC period im concerned with my first mssg I know it’s supposed to be good memories and be so interesting he has to respond but should I be trying to get him to have romantic memories (not sex). Or happy/funny feelings. I’m nervous I don’t want all my hard work to be ruined because I didn’t send the right text. btw I broke up with him and he begged me not to he was even shocked nd said he loved me and couldn’t live without me. But he wasn’t “chasing” me anymore during our relationship but I wanted him to value what he had and let him know and myself know I could live without him. I took my 30 days to better myself so we wouldn’t have the same problems as the first one.

    1. Chris Seiter

      July 9, 2015 at 12:03 am

      Thanks for listening to the podcast and reading the site!

      To be honest when I think of first contact text messages the only thing that matters is getting them to respond and respond positively and a lot of times that has to do with your ability to compose an interesting text message.

  5. Farida

    March 9, 2015 at 2:42 pm

    Hi Chris,

    what if I send him the SMS after the NC 30 days and he never replies, cuz he already moved on?

    my ex broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago in the worst way ever, we had a fight and he kept shouting & blaming me for everything that ever happened as well as criticizing every single thing in me..he made it clear he’s done & he totally disappeared! I feel so sad & guilty cuz I am not sure if I’ve actually pushed him away or is it him who never loved me!

    1. admin

      March 13, 2015 at 4:05 pm

      Thats why you should be putting work into the thought of the text message so you make it impossible for him not to reply.

  6. H

    February 7, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    Hi I would really like some advice from anyone willing to give it. I’m sorry if this is really long.My story is that my ex and I were dating for over 8 years. We were each other’s first loves and first everything. We always enjoyed each other’s company and were truely best friends. We hardly ever fought and even after all of those years together we wanted to spend almost every waking moment with each other. Well about a month ago he started getting depressed and distant. He didn’t know why until he sat down and started thinking about it. Once he realized, he told me that he had been feeling like there was no spark between us anymore and it felt like he was just hanging out with a best friend. But he did not want to break up and he said that he was willing to do anything to get it back. So we agreed to weekly dates and to not see each other as much but he would still call me every night. In the weeks that followed he became very distant but not only to me but to his family as well. He would still call every night though but I felt like he was pulling away. It didn’t help matters when he started to hang out with a new group of work friends, including a new female friend who he had a lot in common with. They would hang out and play video games and they even did fun new activities together. I asked him about her and he was very upfront and told me that he did not have any romantic feelings towards her whatsoever. He promised that he didn’t and would never have them because to him she seemed more like a sister than anything else. I really did believe him because he has never shown any inclination of cheating all throughout our relationship. He also never hid when they hung out and what they talked about. She does have a boyfriend and everything but I was still worried because even if my boyfriend didn’t have feelings towards her, that it might change one day when he was feeling lonely or something. I ended up cancelling our first date because I didn’t feel like I was ready and he was upset about this. A week later, we finally went on our date and it was awkward. There was a lot of unsaid things between us and we actually ended up talking about our relationship that night. He admitted that he hasn’t been taking the time to think about our relationship and put it as a priority. He said that he has been trying to occupy all of his time doing other things so he didn’t have to think about it. He told me that he has just been feeling bad about himself and that he felt like he did not want to be with anyone. So I told him that I was sick of being in this “limbo” stage and so I said that we are going to have no contact for a week and he needs to decide if he wants to make this work or that I would be out of his life forever because I can’t be friends. For the no contact week, I went out and tried a bunch of new things. I also begun to make new friends and just tried to live my life. But on Thursday of that week, I saw that he switched his Facebook profile picture of one with me and him to one with just him. So I was thinking, is this his sneaky way of trying to break up with me and I went over to see him (I know I overreacted). When I saw him, he told me that it was not his intention and that he liked that picture so that was why he put it as his profile picture. We talked a little bit and I decided that we needed more time apart and that during that time we should be single. He was definitely not happy about that but he agreed because I seemed happy. Well fast forward two days after that he shows up at my job. I act all casual to him but he seems really upset and says that he misses me. But I had to go back to work and so he hangs out for awhile. Eventually I take my lunch and he walks with me to a local gas station. We just talk about casual things and he asks what I have been doing and who I have been hanging out with. He also asks what I am doing that night and I tell him that I am busy. On the way back to my job he said sorry for acting weird earlier it was just that he missed me so much. Then I told him I had to go back to work and he left. The next day he texts me and I ignore them. He texts me the day after with some really long texts. In them he said that he was sorry for everything and that he really misses me and loves me. He said that he doesn’t deserve me and that he never did. He said that he realized that I don’t need him, not the way he needs me. He said that he hates himself and he understands if I do too. He said that he never wanted to break up and that he should have fought but I seemed happy so he didn’t. He asked if I was willing, that he would like to tell me all of this in person. So I met up with him later that day and he brings me flowers and candy. He said that he wants to start showing me how much he cares about me rather then just saying it. We talked for awhile and basically he wants to try and get back together. He said that he didn’t know what happened to him in the past few weeks. He said that he just started feeling bad and hating himself. So rather then deal with it, he said it was just easier to push away the people that he loved. He said that he couldn’t believe that he pushed me away because I was the one person he would never want to do that to. During these weeks he was upset all the time and he said he had absolutely no libido whatsoever (which is very strange for him). He just felt like he wanted to be by himself and that he used his new friends as a distraction. He even said that he would stop being friends with them if it bothered me. He also said that we could go to couples counseling if I wanted and much more. Naturally this was alot for me to take him so I told him that I would need space to think about it. In the next few days that followed, we hung out a few times and we talked a lot more often. Even though I knew I should probably take some space, I really enjoyed hanging out and talking to him. I realized that I really do love him but I don’t know if I will be able to trust him enough to give him my heart again. While we hung out the other day, we had fun but there was something that felt a little bit off. He said he felt it too but we both think it is because we don’t know where we stand as a couple and a lot has happened. So I plan on seeing him today to tell him that I will need at least one week of absolutely no contact so that way I won’t be swayed by him and see where my heart leads me. I think that I already know that I want to get back together but I just need to decide if I will be able to forgive and trust him again because if I can’t then I don’t think we should get back together because it wouldn’t be fair for the both of us. Also when we were together and I had that feeling, it scared me because I was afraid that it would always be there between us if we got back together. So if anyone had any advice on this, it would be much appreciated. Do you think it is a good idea to go a week of no contact? Do you think I will be able to forgive him? Is that feeling normal because of everything we went through? Also if you have any similar stories of your own, I would like to hear them. Thank you.

    1. admin

      February 9, 2015 at 4:13 pm

      8 years dating..

      These are always the one that sting the most.

      I think you should definitely go a week.

      I think with time you will forgive him (kinda.) You certainly won’t forget.

  7. Liz

    October 16, 2014 at 3:30 pm

    Hi Chris,
    My ex broke up with me this past weekend… We had an amazing relationship which started about 6 weeks ago. It was as perfect as a honeymoon phase could be. Problem came about when he told his parents about me. Backstory is I’m 28 divorcing with two kids and he is 26. He is extremely successful and his maturity and demeanor is beyond his years. Problem is his parents don’t spprove. They have never met me and they are basing their decision on just perception. He struggled with this decision for a week with him not wanting to end things but unfortunately it came to a head at 4am this past weekend with him saying it can’t work. I’ve since blocked him on all social media and from texting or calling me. I have a feeling he will come around and man up but my question is… Am I doing this the right way? We had spoken of speaking on Sunday but in my eyes there was nothing left to discuss. Also, I will most likely run into him this weekend as my best friends birthday is at the place we all go to on the weekend. How should I act if he approaches me or sees m? Thanks in advance, your insight is appreciated.

    1. admin

      October 27, 2014 at 2:53 pm

      They are basing it b/c your divorcing and have children…

      Do the NC rule… But also realize that if he is so easily swayed by his parents then he is not strong mentally as you might think.

  8. Elana

    August 19, 2014 at 9:57 pm

    Hey Chris,

    Me and my boyfriend are back together after a short NC. I read most of the articles after he already wanted me back. Problem is he was dating someone while we were on break. I want things to work but he isn’t putting the effort back in that I expected, no cute posts on instagram or tagging me in stuff on FB, I don’t want to seem paranoid but I am worried he is still thinking about the other girl. I don’t want to compromise on what I want out of a relationship but I don’t want to lose him either. He has been staying over at “our” place that we shared and wants to move back in but I don’t know how to make him miss me if we are living together. I want him to love me how he used to but I’m scared he doesn’t. Also how do I keep things new and interesting when we live together especially on a budget. Advice please!

    Thanks,
    Elana

    1. admin

      August 25, 2014 at 11:46 am

      Well, if you are just looking at social media stuff then you might not be seeing the big picture. What is he doing in person and through text messages?

  9. Fiona

    August 7, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    Hey chris,

    I did everything you suggest in your book. And i got to meet my ex bf again. Everything went perfect. He even said he still has strong feelings for me and such. Here is the Problem though he says there are no second chances and it wouldnt be the same anymore as it was before. But everything already IS as it was before. He even texts me every second day saying he wishes i was there….

    is there a way to change his mind about a second chance? Or is he actually just t “keeping me warm”?

    1. admin

      August 11, 2014 at 11:25 am

      I don’t buy it becuase people give second chances ALL THE TIME.

  10. Anne

    June 2, 2014 at 2:34 am

    I did no contact for two months. not a word. I just sent the “I have a confession text” and there was no response at all. It has been an hour and he never even responded. I bought your book. But honestly after everything I did I don’t think he is ever interested in reuniting. I am disappointed. At this point I think it hopless to ever get him back, even as a friend. long distance is a lot different that close. maybe you should put more thought on long distance relationships. Thanks anyway.

    1. admin

      June 2, 2014 at 2:45 pm

      Hmm…. I am disappointed too.

      I have a plan to write something HUGE on LDR’s in August. Something that no one out there has ever talked about before.

  11. He's almost all in

    May 31, 2014 at 3:29 pm

    Like I e-mailed you, you are the man! After finishing a full NC, he finally gave me his new number and we have been talking and texting. He’s been dropping hints saying stuff like maybe one day when I stop being single like with [my name entered here]… ” I just giggled like a little girl. We talked all day yesterday. He couldn’t stop calling me. He wanted to know everything that’s been going on since he moved LD, including continually making sure I haven’t met anyone. The only thing is that he’s ending the convos first (on purpose, I can tell). I only notice it because of Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. Today, I am going to bite my fingers and try to not answer all his calls. I still need help though keeping him intrigued. I want him to jump back in my arms!

    1. admin

      June 2, 2014 at 2:34 pm

      What specifically do you need help with when it comes to keeping him intrigued?

  12. Misty

    May 21, 2014 at 12:16 am

    Hi.. First I’d like to say after all the times I’ve read everything on here I finally snapped myself out of how I was acting. The guy I was dating was & still is one of my friends that I hung out with for years. After months of awful fights & crying or being miserable for days he lied about the dumbest thing & I knew he was lying but that gave me the push I needed to cut him off. I stopped talking to him & thought I’d be fine & have the upper hand right away. I was wrong but the more time went by I decided if he doesn’t care then I don’t either. I went out with another guy who was a friend & he wanted a relationship. I said ok. I ignored my ex’s drunk text one night & 2 weeks later saw him for the first time face to face. For once I did everything right. I stayed calm, had fun with my friends & I knew it was driving him crazy. He tried talking to me twice & I was nice but kept it short & sweet. He poured his heart out & continued doing it for days. We ended up talking face to face , I told him I was dating someone & it broke his heart but eventually I gave him another chance. He finally put a title on us, said he loved me & was a mess without me.
    That was months ago. He’s been trying so hard to change what bothers me & it’s great. One thing I really need help with is getting him to break out of his shell & do things with me like get dinner with my friends or go to BBQs or bday parties or come around my family more. Everything we do is with his friends. I don’t mind because I’m friends with them too but how can I get him to do more of the things I want without pushing the situation & causing a fight, because it has a few times. Please help with this situation because you’ve really helped a lot before.

    Thank you!

    1. admin

      May 21, 2014 at 2:33 pm

      Is he kind of shy around people or does he have social anxiety?

    2. Misty

      May 23, 2014 at 11:27 am

      He says it makes him uncomfortable but when we got back together I told him that was something I didn’t like because when we were just friends I could text or call him to meet my friends & me out somewhere & he’d want to come but now that the title is there & it’s been a few months the excuses are back. It’s also aggravating because he used to text or call me to come out with him & our guy friends & now that the title is there he wants to make sure I won’t get mad if he hangs out with them without me.. I would never because I’m not like that but I start wondering if he’s ready for a serious relationship. I want to back off & see what happens but it sucks for me because I’m friends with the other boys & their girlfriends/wives. Should I back off to see if he starts putting in more effort?

  13. help!!!

    May 10, 2014 at 1:08 pm

    Hey Chris, I love all your articles so much! so here is my situation… Its been seven months we dated for three years.. my ex and I just don’t talk any more we have the relationship now where ‘ were not friends, were not enemies, Were just strangers with some memories ‘ you know and i really don’t know where to go from here. I have know idea if he still has feelings for me or anything. He just recently followed me back on some of my social networks and he stares when we are across the halls but when he gets close he just has a saddish/blank expression. what should i do? are there subtle signs to find out if he still has feelings for you? i’m afraid to talk to him cause i feel like he is going to ignore me. I haven’t lost hope yet because i believe i will get him back i just don’t know where to start so if you could.. thanks so much!

    1. admin

      May 12, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Well, eventually if you want him back you are going to have to communicate with him.

  14. Red

    April 30, 2014 at 12:41 pm

    Hi Chris! My boyfriend and I dated for the past 5 years and he broke up with me 4 days ago, by not knowing the NC rule I got desperate and texted him like a crazy person so he could come back. He broke up with me, his reasons were that he said he didn´t miss me anymore, he was bored and he even told me he didn´t even care to see me with another man, that he is not enough for me because he couldn´t love me as much as I loved him. I want him back 100% , he never told me his worries during the relationship ( which was a big mistake from him ), and by knowing them now I think we could find some way to fix the problem, but he said no, he didn´t want to.
    My main question is, is it worth trying to get him back after everything he told me? Or should I just wait?

    right now I am scared and confused.. I need help.
    I just can´t belive that after 5 years he just didn´t care anymore and dumped me.

    Thanks.

  15. HotLilTeacher

    April 30, 2014 at 12:00 am

    Welp, I got him back a month ago. things were good, or so I thought. He was so attentive. We were having fun again. We went to an event seperately but saw each other there. We talked about our relationship. it was a good conversation. Then, we come back home and tells me 4 days later, after no contact, that he met someone. What? When? Last Saturday. I was THERE Saturday.

    He is now pursuing her, he wasn’t feeling what he was hoping he would feel with me when we got back together, and he felt something with her.

    I give up. We had just spent a weekend flirting, and having fun. And then this. What happened? Was he faking it the whole time? He made it seem like we were so good and on the right path. He even told me how important I was to him and how he was glad we were taking it slow. That he was scared, even if he doesn’t show it. Now he tells me he didn’t expect to meet someone but he did and he feels strongly about it.

    I guess he was stringing me along? He is now pursuing her. Any insight? I have to accept this and move on. I am crushed and sad and confused. And I don’t think I could ever take him back, not that he would come back. but maybe I can just learn something.

    1. HotLilTeacher

      May 3, 2014 at 5:33 pm

      Hi Chris. Just wondering if you had a chance to read my questions?

      Thanks.

    2. admin

      May 6, 2014 at 6:12 pm

      I actually didn’t. I have been on vacation for the past week. What were they?

    3. HotLilTeacher

      May 6, 2014 at 8:53 pm

      Welp, I got him back a month ago. things were good, or so I thought. He was so attentive. We were having fun again. We went to an event seperately but saw each other there. We talked about our relationship. it was a good conversation. Then, we come back home and tells me 4 days later, after no contact, that he met someone. What? When? Last Saturday. I was THERE Saturday.

      He is now pursuing her, he wasn’t feeling what he was hoping he would feel with me when we got back together, and he felt something with her.

      I give up. We had just spent a weekend flirting, and having fun. And then this. What happened? Was he faking it the whole time? He made it seem like we were so good and on the right path. He even told me how important I was to him and how he was glad we were taking it slow. That he was scared, even if he doesn’t show it. Now he tells me he didn’t expect to meet someone but he did and he feels strongly about it.

      I guess he was stringing me along? He is now pursuing her. Any insight? I have to accept this and move on. I am crushed and sad and confused. And I don’t think I could ever take him back, not that he would come back. but maybe I can just learn something.

    4. HotLilTeacher

      May 6, 2014 at 9:17 pm

      by the way, we were apart 8 months. He would contact me. Tell me he misses me. And he asked me to try again after he knew I went on a date with someone else. Was this just a jealous reaction and he regretted it?

    5. HotLilTeacher

      May 10, 2014 at 8:41 pm

      Hi Chris,
      Just following up with my questions. Hope I’m not bugging you.

    6. admin

      May 12, 2014 at 6:26 pm

      What were your questions?

      I took the weekend off and am catching up on everyone.

    7. HotLilTeacher

      May 12, 2014 at 10:37 pm

      Welp, I got him back a month ago. things were good, or so I thought. He was so attentive. We were having fun again. We went to an event seperately but saw each other there. We talked about our relationship. it was a good conversation. Then, we come back home and tells me 4 days later, after no contact, that he met someone. What? When? Last Saturday. I was THERE Saturday.

      He is now pursuing her, he wasn’t feeling what he was hoping he would feel with me when we got back together, and he felt something with her.

      I give up. We had just spent a weekend flirting, and having fun. And then this. What happened? Was he faking it the whole time? He made it seem like we were so good and on the right path. He even told me how important I was to him and how he was glad we were taking it slow. That he was scared, even if he doesn’t show it. Now he tells me he didn’t expect to meet someone but he did and he feels strongly about it.

      I guess he was stringing me along? He is now pursuing her. Any insight? I have to accept this and move on. I am crushed and sad and confused. And I don’t think I could ever take him back, not that he would come back. but maybe I can just learn something.

      by the way, we were apart 8 months. He would contact me. Tell me he misses me. And he asked me to try again after he knew I went on a date with someone else. Was this just a jealous reaction and he regretted it? OH! and he is now officially dating and committed to this other girl. Really? 2.5 weeks?

    8. admin

      May 13, 2014 at 4:48 pm

      I thought you said you got him back though? Why didn’t you go to the event together if you two were a couple?

    9. HotLilTeacher

      May 13, 2014 at 6:13 pm

      We were “taking things slow”.

    10. HotLilTeacher

      April 30, 2014 at 1:51 pm

      any insight?

  16. SamDome

    April 18, 2014 at 3:32 pm

    We had broke up since December before Christmas last year on the SMS he sent saying he had feelings for someone and that I should release. I didn’t know what to respond and I never reply to that. We had been together for almost half a year . Since then we never contact each other.And on January 2014 last week before Chinese New Year he started to facebook messaged me asking if I would talk to him . These continued till end of January . I never reply as well. Till one day in early march he said hi to my brother on the Facebook and he din reply as well , the next hour he deleted both of us from Facebook. Until now I don’t understand what kindof person I had been togther with and I always thought things would be turn fine , I guess I never learn to accept the fact . :/

    1. admin

      April 20, 2014 at 2:11 am

      IM sorry.. is there something you wanted to ask me specifically?

  17. Brittney

    April 13, 2014 at 4:31 pm

    Hey Chris,

    My boyfriend and I dated for two years. We broke up about 5 months ago. Since then, it has been on and off. We started to see each other again and were talking on a daily basis. We started sleeping together again but weren’t doing any sleepovers. We both agreed to take it slow. We would be great and then he would become distant and say that he didn’t see us together anymore. We’d stop talking and a few weeks later be talking again. We officially got back together and then he completely changed his mind the next day. Said he didn’t want a commitment. Although he’s the one that asked to get back together and said he loved me.

    This has been a recurring thing for the last 5 months. Start talking.. I still love you.. We can work this out.. And then he gets distant. Says maybe we aren’t meant to be together… He doesn’t want a commitment.. Repeat all over again.

    It’s exhausting and I’m so tired of the games. Ultimately I would like to have him back. He made me incredibly happy. But his indecisiveness is getting old. I know that he loves me and I’m just not sure if he is struggling through all these emotions he has? His guards are up and no matter what I do, that’s where they stay.

    A week ago, he was telling me he loved me. Which we don’t say to each other anymore And it came out of the blue from him. And then A couple days ago, he said he didn’t want a girlfriend or a commitment. And that he didn’t love me anymore and didn’t mean it when he said it to me.

    He has since blocked me on Facebook but not through the phone. He has done this before though. And will block and then unblock me on Facebook a couple days or a week later. I’ve started NC. Do you think that will help?

    Thanks.

    1. admin

      April 14, 2014 at 5:15 pm

      I think it can help.

  18. Rose

    April 8, 2014 at 11:44 pm

    Hi Chris,
    My boyfriend/exboyfriend dated for 4 months and were friends prior to that for 3 months. Two months into the relationship I got pregnant and he begged me for an abortion. Reluctantly I got one. Two weeks after I had medical complications and needed his support and he did the slow fade. Then two weeks after that he came over and he asked for a break and I said no and I didn’t want a break I wanted it to end because he is not the man I thought he was. I could tell this really upset him, but he needed to hear how bad he was treating me and what his actions were doing. I then initiated no contact and didn’t speak to him for a month. We have mutually friends and we went on a trip together and he was there. I made myself into the ungettable girl and completely followed your advice. He began to talk to me throught the trip and started to hug me one of the nights and he said all of his old feelings came back. I did not expect this. I thought it would take longer. Needless to say we hooked up and the next morning he said he missed waking up with me and cuddling. I said me too, but we need to talk about what happened and what’s next. We said we both moved too fast physically. He said we need to slow things down, but the night before did not act that way and was super sweet and caring and made me promise that I was not just acting this way because I was drunk. And I told him repeatedly not to toy with my emotions and that I didn’t want a one night thing and he said he knows and would not do that to me. After that we left and I didn’t pressure him or tell him to call or text. A day went by and I heard nothing so text him about a mutual show and whe had a small conversation and I told home I would love to hang out before his next trip one of the nights this week and later on in the evening he said he was getting out real later and doubted that would happy with a sad face in the text. I said I understood and to text when he can hang out. I have heard no response. It has been a day. I know getting physical too soon was probably wrong, but was else should I have done differently. Should I go back into no contact for another 30? Or should I wait till he gets back from his trip?

    1. admin

      April 10, 2014 at 1:45 am

      I want to say wait until he gets back from his trip.

      You made it through 30 days without any slip ups before right?

    2. Rose

      April 11, 2014 at 8:28 pm

      Yes I did and it has been almost a week and he never responded to the last text about when he could hang out. I have not heard anything from him. I am not sure what to text him when he does get back. I am angry because I feel used since hasn’t text me back and I specifically told him not to act like he wanted me back if he didn’t. And he even asked me several times if it was because I was drinking and I said no. He said all the all feelings came back. Why would he lie about that? He was such a gret guy before all this happened and I don’t understand why he would say those things to me and then not talk to me after. Please help!

  19. Jesse

    April 6, 2014 at 1:47 am

    Hi Chris,
    I haven’t managed to get my ex boyfriend back yet. We broke up about 3-4 months ago and were together for almost a year. We had a pretty mean breakup because I had been flirting with some guy and he was loosing feelings. He hadn’t kissed anyone for the 3 months when we were apart and neither had I. He kissed me a week ago at a “catch-up date” and said he doesn’t know if he has feelings but he loves me as a person and wants me to move on and be happy. His old friend is visiting from abroad and they stopped by my house and called me asking to hang out when they realized I wasn’t home. Later I hung out with them and had dinner at his house and is parents were so happy to see me. He acted like nothing had happened and brought up old memories and inside jokes all night. His friend noticed this so much that he said “I’ve been gone 10 months and you guys have gotten so close having all these inside jokes. You’ve been together for forever.” My ex kept touching me sweetly as if we were together. I made him jealous dancing with a guy at a club once so he tried to make me jealous by texting this girl he says is very weird and is a wannabe right in front of me to make sure I saw it. I don’t know whats going on because for the past 3 months he said he was very mad about the guy I flirted with and that he still stares him down and wants to beat him up when he sees him. Now he seems to have gotten calmer but is also showing traces of affection and appreciation to the memories we have together. He acts as if he’s missed me so much and he’s finally gotten the chance to be himself around me. I missed him too. He told our friend that when things calm down we might get back together. Things are calming down and I want progress to keep moving forward. What should I do? Do you think with the way he is acting that he still has feelings for me and wants me back?

  20. Elle

    March 18, 2014 at 9:42 pm

    This does it! I am thoroughly convinced my soon-to-be-ex ex is using EVERYTHING on this site on me. I mean we just had a wonderful, warm FB convo. Then he clams up and gets quiet. He’s also done other things I’ve seen advised on this site. Sometimes, I can “get one in,” but most of the time he “wins.” He’s such a freaking genius, it kills me. Anyway, I suspect he’s still trying to move on, but no one will love him as much as me. He’s not ready to hear my voice yet, so I need advice on how to change that. Anyway, he really doesn’t realize he doesn’t have to use these tactics on me. I’m ready to move where he is and restarting our lives together. But until then, GAME ON!

    1. admin

      March 20, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      Hahahaha I wonder if any guy exes do that? Use this site to their advantage.

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