What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,570 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Samantha

July 11, 2014 at 9:23 pm

Hey Chris, I posted on another article of yours when I had my first date with my ex. Man did I screw up. I was going on the right way with my ex, we were about to plan our second date, I was taking it slow, he bought a movie to watch it together and that was the plan. One saturday I was out on a date and he actually texted me, asking what I was doing. Unfortunately y didnt see the tex til I got home, and he told me we wanted to invite me to his place on a saturday night to watch the movie. I said sorry i had no battery left but that I would had loved seeing him, he said he would had loved that having you here. Anyways, things were going smooth, and wow, a couple of days ago I was drunk as hell, it was like 4 am and he texted me he was drunk too and were chatting around and.. well I messed up big time. I told him hey, I miss you.. and he asked me what´s exactly that you miss? and I said look I ve been not good lately since we are not together I miss having you as a boyfriend (3 months have passed and weve gone out one time and texted almost everyday). On my drunk head I thought he was going to tell me hey I miss you too, but well, he typed this:
I dont know what to say to you, I really think our relationship didnt work out but I did love you, and I thought that at least we could be together as friends, I really dont want to hurt you and if this is affecting you I will back up.
Well as you can imagine I got so angry that I told him: You know what I really want to approach you on a romantic level now and your cheap friendzone is not working for me.
So he got upset as well and told me that he really didnt want to go back to having a relationship with me since I didnt know what I wanted and such. Never offended me though, but he told me that it was really bad to read that I thought his friendship was cheap.
And the worst thing that could happened happened: said Im going to block you I really dont feel good about this. He did, blocked me on Facebook and whatsapp and those were the ways we were communicating.
As you can imagine I woke up feeling like crap and I sent him a bunch of texts (sms) telling him I was really sorry I felt pathetic and I shouldn´t have mentioned anything, that I was sorry for saying his friendship was cheap, that I meant that I wanted more and that he could take a time to think about it. No answer from him, nothing. He knows how mad it made me when he used to block me after a fight but Chris I feel really desperate since I acted in a irrationally, I know I commited a mistake, and he was giving me signals that he wanted me in his life, I dont know how, but he bought a movie for us, he texted me every single day even if I didnt, he used to ak me about my new job and my day, sent me videos about things we like, and the most confusing signal was that one texting on a saturday (which is like his official men´s night), saying he was downtown (where I hang out almost every weekend) and that he wanted to take me to his place to watch that movie.. it was late so I believe he wanted me to stay over.
PLease Chris, Im losing my mind here, what should I do? I know the NC is a most right now, but, what if he really meant the “I only wanted your friendship”? Was he using me for when he was alone? I think it was about time for him to come clean about us, but he friendzoned me, I dont know maybe he needed more time to get clearance, or he freaked out when I told him I missed him?.. Still I can tell you he didnt treat me as a friend. Please give me a good advise, how´s the wáter looking for you? Im going to San Francisco for a month or maybe more, hopefully Ill find some piece of mind because I ve been working hard on taking things slow and being patient. Im the most unpatient person in the planet.
I feel like poop since I messed up on the process, I think I was like a month away of coming back with my ex. Now I dont know if I became crazy and I had this idea of him wanting me back but he actually didnt, or if he needed more time or what. Should I abort the mission, wait, have hope, what should I do? I need your man´s and expert opinión on this, please help me!

admin

July 14, 2014 at 2:54 pm

Wait you were out on a date with someone else???
Samantha

July 14, 2014 at 5:39 pm

yes I was, like you said on your guide, we should be able to go out or date instead of waiting for the ex to call us, and it was saturday and I was feeling exhausted about waiting the whole day without him reaching me. A day before, on friday we were supposed to watch the movie, and he cancelled our plans, I was afraid he would go out and do his things while I waited on him.
But what about the blocking? After what I told you how´s everything to you? he hasn´t contacted me nor unblocked me, and I havent reached him either. Does he need some time or he is really getting me out of his life? what do you think?

Angel

July 10, 2014 at 7:39 pm

Hey Chris , I’ve had the full block out 🙁 we have only been broken up two weeks and he blocked me because all my friends kept messaging him and it annoyed him 🙁 he was really angry and said he never wanted to see or talk to me again

admin

July 11, 2014 at 2:15 pm

Why did your friends message him???

Jess

July 9, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Hi Chris,

A few weeks ago received a Full Block Out (phone, apps, facebook, skype, you name it)
His status: super angry and resentful, probably hateful too.
Made the mistake of trying to contact = failure & more blocking.
Will employ the NC for 30 days (or more, will use that time to work on myself and my own goals)
While I do not anticipate being unblocked, the only way for me to contact him after the NC period is email.This isn’t as instant as a text message and it is harder to initiate positive interaction.

Do you have any specifics for what to write in an email, considering the natural delay of emails (not everyone checks them regularly).

I can use a program that allows me to get read notifications which will tell me if he has opened the mail, but again the content of this email will have to somehow engage a willingness to unblock me, for me to eventually be able to text, call or initiate any other form of instant communication.

Any ideas ?

admin

July 10, 2014 at 2:24 pm

Mostly just be friendly, sweet and apologetic for anything that you really did do wrong.
Jess

July 11, 2014 at 10:08 pm

Hi again,

I was not unfaithful, the only thing I did wrong was continue to call and text after he told me he was no longer interested, which got me blocked as it really angered him. (bad break up + long distance does not help matters)
What if he does not respond to the initial message after 3 months, how long should you wait to try again and how long should you keep trying in general ?
admin

July 14, 2014 at 2:55 pm

Hav eyou tried contacting him other than the initial message 3 months ago?
Jess

July 21, 2014 at 5:11 pm

Thank you for responding btw!

sorry typo I meant 30 days (not 3 months)

Status: in NC zone right now.

I am blocked everywhere.

He even changed his phone number. But I found his new number only because the joint bank account that is now closed sends me email updates, it sent me an phone number change update on our profile.

I am afraid of using this new number to reach out to him even after NC… he could get upset or freaked (stalker!?) which will only further justify his decision to end things.

Thoughts ?
admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:15 pm

Ya don’t use the new number to reach out to him. He will think you are a stalker.

Umm… What about Facebook?
Jess

July 24, 2014 at 8:27 pm

Facebook is blocked also…

Complete and total block…

This might be a good new blog subject if a solution can be found ?

Ideas ?
admin

July 25, 2014 at 2:15 pm

Thats kind of why I wrote this post. haha.

gautmi

July 8, 2014 at 11:37 am

Hi chris,
My boyfriend has a tendency of disrespecting me. He says and do things which hurts me and he knws it. Frm last 3yrs, i m accepting dis though i m hurt deeply. I keep telling him that his behaviour towards me is very rude and insulting. But he dont want to change i think. He nvr tells me what he is doing or where he is going. From last 1 yr, he keeps blocking me. He unblocks me whn he wants den blocks me again.
I got so frustrated that i decided not to respond. But den he started contacting me 10 times a day. I ignored him for 5 days but den he sent me a msg saying dat he cant live widout me and is sorry abt his behaviour. He promised to change his behaviour towards me. i accepted his apology just 3 days back. He met me yesterday, everything was fine. I told him yesterday dat i want to meet him today as we hv met after 20 days and i really want to spend time wid him today. He agreed. I cooked for him and waiting but den he msged me dat he is not coming as he is going somewhere. I kept calling and msgng him that it was already decided and i cooked for him. It is not d first time he cancelled on me. He said he is busy and cant talk. But i was trying and by miatake my call got accepted. I hear some noises and figured out that he can talk but not talking to me. Den he found out that my call got accepted By mistake by him, he immediately disconnected. Den blcoked me agn so there would b no mistake.
He was attending every call, it was showing call waiting but it was only me he was ignoring.

However i kept trying his phn, After 5 hours, he sent me a very insulting msg dat “go and fuck ur dad and dont call me”. I cried so badly. He comes to me when he plans it. He ALWAYS cancels my every single plan and dis is really frustrating. Den abv all, he blocks me and talk to everyone except me.

Just 3-4 days back he apologised and today he again did all dis. I am planning to go NC after reading ur guidelines. Please any advice would be helpful.
Loyola

July 4, 2014 at 5:36 pm

Would contacting my ex come across the wrong way?
He had unblocked me for about a week now and has said nothing?
Yes he has, he did so yesterday ! His profile picture is of him alone not with his girl. That’s if they are still together. To be honest I have no idea. On another app which he thought I didn’t know about he had pictures up with her and they were very intimate pictures, not very appropriate as a profile picture.
He had returned before but told me he was not ready, but when he sent me a message a couple of weeks later to congratulate me on passing an exam, I decided not to answer, as he seemed to be playing games and he had thrown himself into a relationship with the other girl. That was when he decided to block me. It’s been 1.5months since he blocked me .

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:50 pm

It depends on what you say when you contact them.
Loyola

July 10, 2014 at 9:05 pm

Ok so is it better to wait for him to talk to me? What is it I should do?

Em

July 3, 2014 at 2:12 pm

is this the same as he may unfollow you but not block you?

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:38 pm

I think a lot of the stuff applies still.
Em

July 8, 2014 at 2:47 am

thank you chris!
since he unfollowed me after such a long break up period (nine months) does that mean he doesn’t want to see the stuff i post? i posted a picture on twitter and few moments after he unfollowed.
Em

July 3, 2014 at 2:46 pm

Also if he unfollows me do you i unfollow him or do i leave it and act as if it didn’t happen and have it not bother me
admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:38 pm

Leave it and act as if it didn’t happen.

Loyola

June 29, 2014 at 10:45 pm

Hi Chris!
What should you do once your ex unblocks you? Should I wait for him to contact me as he was supposedly seeing another girl. I don’t know if they are still together. He got with her only a couple of months after we broke up, and we were together for 2.5 years long distance.

admin

June 30, 2014 at 2:41 pm

Has he unblocked you yet?
Loyola

June 30, 2014 at 11:13 pm

Yes he has, he did so yesterday ! His profile picture is of him alone not with his girl. That’s if they are still together. To be honest I have no idea. On another app which he thought I didn’t know about he had pictures up with her and they were very intimate pictures, not very appropriate as a profile picture.
He had returned before but told me he was not ready, but when he sent me a message a couple of weeks later to congratulate me on passing an exam, I decided not to answer, as he seemed to be playing games and he had thrown himself into a relationship with the other girl. That was when he decided to block me. It’s been 1.5months since he blocked me .
kris

October 9, 2014 at 1:43 pm

Me and my ex had a few bad fights in the summer, one in June he blocked me on Facebook, the next month after the big fight he blocked my number. My ex can call me and we can text. I’ve asked him a few times about unblocking me from the phone cause I feel guiltry . he said he doesn’t know what the future and I was pushing him. He pushed me to tell him what was bothering me. Do you think he will unblock me on his phone!

Confused

June 26, 2014 at 1:57 pm

Thanks, Chris for replying ! In response to this:
“1. I gave you a lot throughout this article…”
I know you did give many reasons and thank you for writing such a helpful guide. However, I do not know which is the most likely scenario for me when someone unfaithful blocks you and cuts you off: a) Is it that they are justifying their actions and trying to punish me (he knows he’ll get a reaction for me if he cuts me off since he knows I am a sensitive person) or rationalize their actions by getting annoyed thoughts about me?
b) Does he feels so guilty that he can’t talk to me so he decides it is easier to cut me off?
c) Does he want nothing do with me because he truly never cared for me and it was all in act so that’s why he cut me off?
d) Or a combination of a)-c)?
**Chris, which case do you think is most likely with him? Keep in mind, this guy was vulnerable, emotional, and sensitive with me most of the time in the relationship until his recent lover came into the picture and then he left me :(***

Confused

June 27, 2014 at 5:39 pm

Heya ! Please reply Chris:)
admin

June 29, 2014 at 4:59 pm

Sorry what was it you needed help with?
Confused

June 29, 2014 at 9:45 pm

It’s Okay, Chris. This is what I typed earlier:
I know you did give many reasons and thank you for writing such a helpful guide. However, I do not know which is the most likely scenario for me when someone unfaithful blocks you and cuts you off:
a) Is it that they are justifying their actions and trying to punish me (he knows he’ll get a reaction for me if he cuts me off since he knows I am a sensitive person) or rationalize their actions by getting annoyed thoughts about me?
b) Does he feels so guilty that he can’t talk to me so he decides it is easier to cut me off?
c) Does he want nothing do with me because he truly never cared for me and it was all in act so that’s why he cut me off?
d) Or a combination of a)-c)?
**Chris, which case do you think is most likely with him? Keep in mind, this guy was vulnerable, emotional, and sensitive with me most of the time in the relationship until his recent lover came into the picture and then he left me :(***
admin

June 30, 2014 at 2:41 pm

I would tend to say that its a combination of all of them.
Confused

June 30, 2014 at 5:21 pm

Thanks, Chris for replying! Ouch to one of the answer options c) that I had posted:(
admin

July 3, 2014 at 12:39 am

Why ouch?
Confused

July 4, 2014 at 8:49 pm

Ouch because it would suck that our relationship meant nothing to him 🙁 and he did mean something to me…and he was just playing around or killing time…

What are the chances he might miss the time we spent together?
admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:53 pm

He probably will miss the time you spend together if he really had feelings for you. How long were you together?
Confused

July 10, 2014 at 9:27 am

Chris, did you get a chance to read my previous comment that I posted?
Confused

July 9, 2014 at 4:01 am

From what I know, his family didn’t know about the previous lover except for one family member. With me, he introduced me to his parents, sisters, brothers, etc. His parents didn’t even know that his previous lover existed.

Would that make a difference?
Confused

July 8, 2014 at 2:34 am

Thanks for the reply, Chris:) I sure hope so he had some feelings for me…he had introduced me to his fam…and was planning to marry me.
admin

July 8, 2014 at 2:35 pm

Does he usually introduce women to his family? Or is that a big deal for him?
Confused

July 8, 2014 at 2:32 am

8 months..before his ex came back into the picture.

Amy

June 25, 2014 at 7:24 am

He sends me a message, I reply to him, but he doesn’t reply to me. He did this 3x times. Why would it be?

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:21 pm

What are your message responses like?

alexarae

June 25, 2014 at 1:02 am

Hello. Your guide is very helpful but I still have one question. I am on day 3 of NC and I honestly think my ex is trying to get a reaction from me one by one. At first he changed his Facebook password so I wouldn’t go in, this is highly understandable so I just dealt with it. But then he posted a picture drinking with his friend inviting people to hang with them. Obviously this hurt but I stood my point and didn’t message him. Then the next day he blocked me from Facebook, however I checked from my mom’s Facebook and he never deleted or blocked her. Also his friends that he is always with still have me on facebook. Do you think he is trying to just get a reaction out of me so he can see I still care? If not,then why would he still have my mom on facebook? Do you think he still cares?

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:16 pm

Well, he is definitely trying to get a reaction from you.
alexarae

June 25, 2014 at 6:30 pm

He just unblocked me again and wrote a status saying “got to do what I got to do to be happy” so idk if it worked. Thank you so much!

ana

June 24, 2014 at 10:38 pm

Hi Chris

How will the NC rule work if he has blocked me?

He said some hurtful things to me. He was really angry, it felt like he really hates me.

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:15 pm

It can yes!

Selin

June 24, 2014 at 8:01 pm

Hi chris,
This guy and i met and he immediately liked me. I happened to like him in a friendly way since i had a bf back then. After some time passed he got a girlfriend and i broke up with my boyfriend. One day i got drunk and kissed him and realized i had feelings for him that aren’t just friendly feelings. He talked to me and said that he really wanted to kiss me too. After that i felt guilt y because he was in a rs and turned down all his meeting offers with me . Then he got angry and blocked me . Later , he apolagized and said he had no choice and his girlfriend loves him so much. (She still doesn’t know). I let go.. Then, i saw him and said hi in the school dormitory and he texted me when i went to my room saying that he wanted to come over. I gave him my room number and he kissed me . I sait it wasn’t the right thing because he had a gf and he said it was a bad thing but he HAD to do it. Anyways. 1 month later i outted on some Sincere photos with our mutual friend (a guy). And he tezted me saying that be conggragulated us for our rs. I didnt answer. But that night me and my friends drunk dialed him and they told horrible things to him and they said how could he wouldnt love me with that ugly face etc. (i know we screwed up) . He wrote me a day after that saying he is ignoring what happened because he didn’t believe that’s the girl i am.. I apologized and we started talking on the phone, laughing and suddenly we have met. We agreed on drinking smth outside so o said yes. But due to the weather he took us home.. As you could imagine we kissed and he tried to take things a little further. at that moment i suddenly had very intense emotions and started to cry. He hugged me and asked the reason, i just said that he knows whats the reason is. Then i saw a text from his gf and realized he is talking to her RIGHT IN FRONTOF ME . I got mad and asked ”who do you love”’ he answered by asking me questions like what do you mean, it’s complicated etc. i said he was out of line this time and i wouldnt waste anymore time on him and i left him. Now i am blocked. I know i am immature, selfish and stupid because he ibs a big d bag and couldnt be trusted. But i love him and want to be with him

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:03 pm

Whats your reasoning for wanting him back? Sounds like he is kind of an idiot to me…

Mae

June 24, 2014 at 12:55 am

Why My ex boyfriend blocked me on facebook after i decided to unblocked him. I first blocked him on fb..instagram and everything about 3 days ago.

admin

June 24, 2014 at 6:54 pm

Payback probably..

ana

June 23, 2014 at 10:08 pm

I haven’t really started the N/C with him. I tried for a week but I keep on breaking it. But He has blocked me so I don’t know if it will work.

Do you think it will since he has blocked me?

Pls advice

Thank you Chris

admin

June 24, 2014 at 6:51 pm

Well STOP BREAKING IT!!!

Confused

June 23, 2014 at 3:19 pm

Okay, Chris: here are my question that you wanted me to ask again:
1) What could be the reason(s) why a guy would block/delete you and change their number (when you didn’t even contact them continuously after sending only one text when NC was over) so coldly after dumping you and leaving your for someone else and act as if I didn’t exist?

admin

June 24, 2014 at 6:32 pm

1. I gave you a lot throughout this article…

ana

June 22, 2014 at 11:51 pm

Hi Chris

In response to your question: He said that I was annoying him. I was sending him messages, saying that I need to see him and I am sorry. He got so angry told he doesn’t care about me. I think he is an emotional abuser. He told me that I am crazy and no guy will ever luv me. One minute he says he needs me then the next minute he ignores me.

I am stuck on him and addicted to him. Now he has just blocked me and rubbed in my face that he has a girlfriend now. He said all those horrible things and he has just walked off into the sun set without any care in the world. It just hurts. Sometimes I think he is right about me being crazy and no one ever loving me. He just blocked me fb.It feels like he raped my mind and emotions. My self has reduced drastically.

Facebook was the only contact I had with him. I have his numbers but he ignores my text as well.

Pls advice me Chris, will he ever unblock me?

Thank you Chris.

admin

June 23, 2014 at 2:22 pm

How long have you been in NC for?

ana

June 22, 2014 at 4:40 pm

Hi Chris

In response to your question. He said that I was annoying him.

Please advise me Chris.

admin

June 23, 2014 at 2:05 pm

But how? Can you give me specifics?

Dima

June 21, 2014 at 12:48 am

My ex blocked me today for the first time in our four years relationship, he said he cant afford long distance relationship (1 year) almost 5 months left for him to get back here, he said that” i cant be with you if I dont see you for months” Then I was like ” i think you dont really love me, you gave up just because of distance” then he stopped replying and blocked me. Why?!!
Confused

June 20, 2014 at 10:34 am

Hello Chris:
I dated a guy for 8 months (LDR serious relationship) and after he dumped (left me for someone else but lied about it), he blocked and deleted me off Skype and G-mail chat a month after we broke up. I had read your guide in the past and followed NC for 60 days and eventually reached out to him through text. I asked him why he did something so drastic after telling me he loves me. I received no response. I did not want him back but just wanted to know why he went all Jerkyll and Hyde on me suddenly especially when he had proposed to me after 6 months of our relationship and we didn’t have any major fights or problems. So I went into No Contact again for another 30 days. I found out he changed his number. I want to know as to why he would act like this after dumping me when I did not even cheat on him and was very loyal and committed through out our relationship. I did not even contact his now girl friend or even him except for that single text that I sent to him. Is there any chance for me to contact him to understand his reasoning or do you think it is a lost cause? What could be the reason(s) why a guy would block/delete you so coldly after dumping you and leaving your for someone else? Please respond!
ana

June 19, 2014 at 3:31 pm

Dear Mr Chris

My ex boyfriend has blocked me from fb, He told me that I annoy him and I should leave him alone and he doesn’t care about me.

We broke up about three weeks ago and he already has a girlfriend. He told me that I am always mean to him, that I always accuse him of cheating on me and he can’t cope with me anymore (I suffer from depression btw ).

I found out that he has a girlfriend.(which at first he made up because his girlfriends has different names and he used the story to get back at me.) He told me it is non of my business and that I should p*** off. He said that he going to block me from his fb.

I don’t know what to do???!!! My heart hurts. About three weeks ago before the blocking, he told me that he has strong feelings for me and he needs me,that he wants to hurt me emotionally so that I don’t talk to him anymore, but he couldn’t do it to me. He has been angry with me for the past two weeks. I know he still has feelings for me I know it. This is all my fault because I hurt him really badly by insulting him and making up a story (that I have met some else last yr) I wanted to hurt him because he doesn’t pay attention to me.

We have been in a long distance relationship for 2-3 yrs because of being in different universities from each other. About 4weeks earlier before the break up, we were planning to go to Venice but once again I accused him and this time he was being sarcastic and tried to stir me up. I lost it with him and told him “we are nothing” he got angry and broke it off with me.

Btw I have deleted him four times and blocked before this all started. I know I messed up but we luv each other. I did something really stupid as well I insulted a female friend of his on fb (he told me, he was sleeping with her and she means nothing to him) now he is saying that is his girlfriend now.

Help me Mr Chris I am so lost in my heart. My ex is loving every minute of it.

Thank U (sorry for my long story but I really need ur help )

admin

June 21, 2014 at 7:18 pm

Well, were you annoying him on Faceobok or something?

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