What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Sam

December 18, 2018 at 12:34 am

Hi.
My boyfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. We were together for only 4 months but good friends for a year prior. Broke up because he has depression/anxiety and he spiralled. We were about to move in together. I was good about it all. I continued to look after his dog for 5 weeks after the break up (I was looking after it for a few months). We spoke for a few weeks after and then he picked his dog up and distanced himself. I went into no contact and he contacted me a couple of times to ask for favours. 2 months after the break up I asked him about a text message I saw him send to someone that was just of a love heart and kiss emoji. He saw me see it and told me what it was about. I later also saw pictures he created that said I love you. He told me it was nothing and just his godfathers daughter going through a tough time. So he lied to me. I actually don’t think anything happened with the 2 of them as they live a 3 hour flight away from each other and he spent every weekend with me etc. there was no sign of cheating at all. 5 days later I got blocked on Instagram. A week later on Facebook. A month after he unfriended a mutual friend and unblocked me (my account was deactivated after he blocked me but you can still unblock someone). I never reacted. Stayed no contact. I contacted him at the beginning of November and he responded immediately. Recently I updated my employment on LinkedIn and he removed me as a connection. I am just finding it all very bizarre. I know he isn’t mentally well but surely breaking up with me was hurtful enough. I only asked him about the text I saw as I was going insane thinking about it and had a right to know. I am still in no contact. I feel like he is punishing me when i feel like I have been respectful when I could have gone crazy on his ass lol.

Chris Seiter

December 19, 2018 at 2:39 am

Hi Sam!

Yes…a lot of inconsistent behavior. You have handled your end well. I would continue with your NC and follow the Program as I outline it!

Diana

December 17, 2018 at 5:16 am

Hi Chris, my ex bf had me fully blocked out on facebook whats app instargram wechat and the worst is our mutual friends between us isnt talking to me at all or even when i text them how do i get him back ?

Chris Seiter

December 17, 2018 at 10:46 pm

Hi Diana…so blocking is sometimes used as a tool of anger or resentment. But when things simmer down, one can later find themselves unblocked. It really depends on the relationship situation. You should pick up a copy of my 485 page eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it will walk you through a sensible ex recovery plan.

Tommy

December 2, 2018 at 11:49 am

Hey Chris can I get my ex back if we broke up last year, then this year we have been on and off and having casual sex? He said he doesn’t want to have a relationship with me, so I blocked him told him and told him I’m moving on so he blocked me too afterwards… Do I have a chance bcz its been long.

Chris Seiter

December 2, 2018 at 5:03 pm

Hi Tommy….seems like you should take a look at implementing no contact. Check out my Program called “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”!

Jen

December 1, 2018 at 1:58 pm

I met a guy over the summer who had a girlfriend of 5 years. He met me, and decided he wanted to break up with his girlfriend to pursue me. I refused because I did not want to be a rebound. After some time, he ended up seeing another girl, but still wanted to persue me. After some thought, we ended up getting together, after weeks of going back and forth. After summer ended, we did long distance for about 2 months when things started to go sour. His flight to come visit me got canceled, and he wasn’t able to book another. He began getting depressed, and has recently started taking depression medication. After things not going well, and me really trying to make the relationship work, it ended. About 5 days after it ended, he sent me message saying, how am I supposed to not talk to you. I ignored this message, and 5 days later he blocked me on social media. This isn’t even something he did for his gf of 5 years, who was overly obsessive when the relationship ended. I was not overly obsessive at all. I’m just confused. What do you think about my situation?

Chris Seiter

December 2, 2018 at 2:37 am

Jen!

You might want to get started with a sensible ex recovery plan as your ex seems confused, but is also pushing you away. I think No contact may be in order here.

Js

November 30, 2018 at 5:14 pm

Hi chris
6 years together in a LDR. My ex broke up with me 8mths ago. I begged pleaded whatever it took. He said our relationship was not going anywhere coz of the distance. Then finally i calmed down and excepted being his friend ( as this was better than no contact at all ) i was broken. And still am.
My ex told me he was going throu a bad time. This made me hope i cud have a chance getting back with him gradually. As my ex told me he wasnt in the mood to meet anybody else.
Well he did meet someone else! Another LDR With another women. ( It hurts me so bad. )
Anyway… i found out throu social media. All There new photos together. ( talk about sticking the knife in and twisting it. Was a horrible feeling. Such a cruel thing to do.
So i messaged my ex.. and asked if this is true. He said yes she is my new girl friend we are getting married. It hurt like hell to hear this from him. Especially as he broke up with me coz of the situation of LDR. But he is doing the same thing over again with his new girlfriend. (LDR)
ANYWAY.. after a 20 min cold coversation with him. He asked me to leave him alone and to not bother him. I messaged back..( im not )
The next day.. He blocked me from facebook / whatsapp and I dont know about phone.
But i have not had NC with him since that day he blocked me. 3 weeks ago
Its totally broke my heart. I love him so much. I just didnt think it was ever impossible for him to hurt me this way.
Everyday i think about my ex..and wish he wud unblock me. And i hope oneday we could get back together again.
Iv read all your page today chris. THANK YOU it really helped me to understand a bit better.
I would love some more advice and help from you chris ? And how to get my ex back.

Chris Seiter

December 1, 2018 at 12:21 am

Hi JS!

I know you heart hurts, but you are going to rise from all this and be even stronger, wiser, and empowered. Just use my site to come up with your ex recovery plan. You’ve got this. I know you can come thru this, no matter what happens.

Michelle

November 27, 2018 at 5:50 am

Hi Chris,
My ex and I dated for 6.5 months. He got laid off a month ago and ever since then things have been off with him and us. He has been really depressed lately and is debating whether he should move back to Australia or not (he lives in and is from New York). Over the past 2 weeks he has been trying to break up with me. I didn’t talk to him for a couple of days two weeks ago and he wanted to get back together after 2 days. He has used every excuse in the book such as he lost feelings for me, he just sees me as a friend, and that something is missing. Five days ago things seemed fine. He was like I really want to give this another chance, please help me out of this funk. A couple days later he thinks I’m controlling and needy. As of yesterday we are broken up. I did a fair amount of begging. He did say he still cares about me. I sent a text yesterday saying that the best thing to do for now is to break up because he is not into this and even though I still care about him I need space. He said thank you that means a lot to me and same to you. I then noticed today that he blocked me on instagram out of nowhere. What does that even mean? I’m so confused because I thought we ended things amicably. I felt like I had a chance before if I gave him space, but now I feel like it is all hopeless.
tanisha

November 25, 2018 at 4:30 am

Hi Chris, I reconnected with an old flame after 10 years. My sister’s husband best friend. Everything was going good. After only 2 weeks he took to long to respond to a text. I flipped out really bad. Called him names,sent him pictures of another dude penis. After a week no contact, he asked me if i was done acting retarded? I snapped again. Now he’s blocked me. I tried contacting him from about 50 other numbers leaving text. I threatened to send his daughter a text. but i mever did. ive been no contact for 2 weeks now. Any hope for me?

Chris Seiter

November 25, 2018 at 7:27 pm

Hi Tanisha! We can all get upset and make mistakes post breakup. What matters is having a plan going forward, so you have come to the right place! Tap into my Program and all the other resources I have at this website!
Chris Seiter

November 25, 2018 at 7:27 pm

Hi Tanisha! We can all get upset and make mistakes post breakup. What matters is having a plan going forward, so you have come to the right place! Tap into my Program and all the other resources I have at this website!

Zhai

November 21, 2018 at 1:19 pm

Hi chris, the father of my child blocked me because of an argument. He forgot my birthday twice, i sent him hurtful messages because I wasn’t able to contain my anger at that time. Then he suddenly blocked me on everything. I’m now confuse what to do. We were in ldr. I’ve waited for him for almost 3 years but he was hesitate talking about our future together.
kenna

November 16, 2018 at 8:34 pm

hi, me and my ex bf was on a long distance relationship and dated for 5 months he was my first love…i dont know for him but he told me he never felt this way before and he love me alot and i was the greatest thing that ever happened to his life…he is a very jealous type of a person..he would constantly break up with me but we still get back togther after a couple of hours and i let him promised to never brought up breakups when we are fighting…well he was doing great and really held on with the promise until one night he broke up with me and i got infuriated for breaking his promise again and so i fought with him and blocked him but realizes i love him so i went to talk with him after a day and he doesnt wanna get back anymore and then he blocks me…after a couple of days he unblocks me and we decided to stay friends..and i ruined it cox i was begging him to come back and he was ignoring my msges so i got angry with him and blocked him and he blocked me as well and its now almost 2months sinz we broke up and its almost 3 weeks sinz he blocked me….does that mean he finally moved on? and doesnt want me to be in his life anymore?
Linda

November 12, 2018 at 3:41 am

My boyfriend and I dated for 10 months and recently broke up because he is going through a lot in life and stated that I was adding to it with pointless arguments and being crazy. We broke up one month ago yet he continued to go back and forth for the whole month with “I miss you and talking to you is hard” and “I want to just let you go and move on”. He went on vacation this week and I saw he hungout with friends and girls. I flipped out on him and talked to another guy out of anger. He then blocked me on absolutely EVERYTHING and I have no way of contacting him at all whatsoever. Before he blocked me, he told me that he wants to disappear from my life and his decision is made up. I obviously have to not contact him because I have no way of contacting him anyways… but what do you think? Do you think he really is going to disappear on me forever? (He is extremely stubborn).

Chris Seiter

November 12, 2018 at 4:59 am

Hi Linda!

He probably won’t disspaear. Just pull back and consider the benefits of implementing No Contact and turn the focus on your own healing and being the best “you”. Guys will sometimes act vindictive and immaturely. You find your on happy space and don’t worry so much about everything negative he is doing.

XOXOGOSSIPGIRL

November 11, 2018 at 2:03 pm

Hi Chris,
Me and my long distance boyfriend of 1 year recently broke up and I’m having a really difficult time dealing with this. We both go to different colleges but as thanksgiving break is approaching, I know he is going to be right down the block (we are neighbors). We got into a similar break up senario right before our 1 year anniversary back in October and tried to fix things. But after things exploded again, he told me he was done with me. He blocked me immediately on everything and then decided to unblock me only on the phone. I then deactivated all social media. However, we contacted each other throughout the week via texting and calling (which I now know was stupid). I called him one night when he was drunk (which I didn’t know he was) and the conversation got nowhere. The very next night he blew up my phone while he was at the bar, started off nice like “they’re playing our favorite song remixed” to “you were the worst girlfriend ever go torture some other guy” (I believe he was getting so angry because I wasn’t answering since it was midnight!) The next day I told him it was too hard for me to talk to him on the phone and that I would rather talk in person during thanksgiving break. He apologized for saying those things and then I told him I was driving and I couldn’t get upset so I had to go. We said goodbye and I just realized he blocked my phone number again. I know I have to focus on myself right now, I haven’t been eating or sleeping well but I’m afraid for the future. We had so many things planned and now I’m afraid he’s really done. I mean after all he did block me. I guess I’m just wondering what’s going on, I feel as if this is a mind game to him and guess what… he’s winning right now because I’m reading into his every move and I’m just standing still. Thanks for reading and I appreciate any advice!

Chris Seiter

November 11, 2018 at 7:19 pm

Hi there!

You are right. The focus should be on your healing and recovery. You must get your sleep and eat normally!! Also, best to have a sensible ex recovery plan. I have lots of books, videos, and resources of all kinds that can help you with that!

Crystal

November 8, 2018 at 2:43 am

My ex bf broke up with me almost 6 weeks ago. We have a lot of problems. I started to beg n he blocked me on phone, but not Facebook. I can still message him on fb but it went to ignore list (where u can read it but u have to actually go to that “filter message” folder, n fb will never show that he read my msg). 2 weeks after the break up I tested by calling him n he unblocked me. But he never called back. Another 2 weeks passed by, I texted him, no reply. I then told him I’ll fly up to see him (we r long distant) and he said “we’re over” then blocked me again on phone. Then a few hrs later unblocked me. Another week passed by (which was 5 weeks of break up) n that was last week, I flew to his house n met him n found out he blocked me again. He told me we r over, there’s too many problems n I’ll never change. I hugged him but he didn’t hug back. He kept telling me to leave n he will call me. But he never did. He seemed cold n quiet n kinda angry cuz I came.
Now it’s been 3 days after the time I met him. He still blocked me on phone but not fb. Does this sound like he really determined to break up? He broke up with me 5 times befure, I didn’t contact him at all n after 1-3 weeks he would call back n we got back. But this time is the longest m seems like there’s no hope.

Chris Seiter

November 8, 2018 at 2:56 am

Hi Crystal….best to have an ex recovery plan. Take a look at my home page where I talk about tools and resources!

Maria

November 7, 2018 at 8:11 am

Hello Chris!

I have LDR boyfriend weve been talking a lot before. This September we even talk but only once after that he told me to talk to him october 28 but he never talk to me but he reads my text.
After he reads my text i tried texting him again if what was wrong whAt happened why he did not respond but he block me and i tried contacting him using my friends number same he block me. I will try my best for the NC i hope this will work out.

Chris Seiter

November 8, 2018 at 3:12 am

Hi Maria!

Best of luck to you with your NC. If you need special help, pick up one of my eBooks!

Samantha

November 6, 2018 at 7:07 pm

Hi Chris!

What happens if NC Did not work (it’s been almost three months), and the new girl he’s seeing looks a lot like me? Everyone has been telling me that. Same hair, same eyes and general appearance.

Do guys date girls similar to what their ex looks like if they aren’t fully over it , and are maybe not even aware that that’s why they’re dating the new girl?

Thank you!
Samantha

Chris Seiter

November 6, 2018 at 10:30 pm

Hi Samantha!

Well, the truth is there is only 1 you. No other girl can replace your unique and special qualities. And if he gets blinded, for however long, well its his loss for allowing that to happen. Yeah…there is probably a psychological thing going on with that.

Lisa

October 25, 2018 at 4:03 pm

Hi Chris,

I know you’ve covered that usually the ex will unblock you after a certain amount of time into NC..but what if he doesn’t reach out after unblocking you? (it was a full block out). I’m not sure if my number or Snapchat is unblocked but my other social media is. What would be the reason for that?

If an ex really didn’t want to speak to you again or doesn’t want you messaging them (what some individuals say during an angry breakup), why on earth would they unblock you a couple weeks later? A lot of people say it means “nothing” but I believe there’s always a reason behind what a person does, especially when it has to do with getting back at an ex or trying to punish them.

Thank you for the advice!

Chris Seiter

October 25, 2018 at 8:12 pm

Hi Lisa!

That’s right, guys will often unblock as they can’t help themselves to track you. Yes, there is usually a reason for why people do this sort of thing, but it is not always rationale. OFten emotions push people to do this sort of thing. The bigger question is do you have an ex recovery plan, such that you know how to best optimize your chances to get him back.

Avril

October 23, 2018 at 8:48 pm

Hi Chris,

Me and a close friend of two years became friends with benefits and since the first time we had sexual intercourse a year ago, our friendship had gotten so confusing. I admit I would get a little sensitive over things that didn’t really matter because I was developing feelings for him. We talked almost everyday, he was there for me when I needed it, and we didn’t have sex every time we saw eachother either.

We ended up getting into a huge argument where he blocked me off of everything in May and didn’t contact me until the end of June. I did deserve it. He was going through something and at that point our friendship was weakening and he told me he is sick of being loyal to someone who keeps second guessing everything he does.

So he apologized and the first thing he did when he saw me was kiss me and he explained what was going on with him and seemed really upset that I was acting uncomfortable with him.

Fast forward to August. He found out I was seeing another guy. When we hung out, I told him that during those two months he blocked me for, I moved on. I had asked him out plenty of times and he always rejected me because he didn’t want a relationship with anybody (a lot of personal reasons I don’t want to write). And I think he was also seeing someone too but he wasn’t intimate with her and didn’t seem interested. He told me that hanging out with her wasn’t the same as seeing me. He said although she is attractive, he didnt feel the same as he did with me. He said although we have our fights, I’m a great person and he loves spending time with me. But the more he was finding about this guy, the more angry he got even tho he was asking me the questions. He said that he’s a very possessive kind of person and he apologized but he can’t help being extremely jealous. He then told me that he obviously can’t trust me and he thought we were suppose to be good friends. (I guess his ego was just bruised that I wasn’t his property anymore)

At the end of August he texted me and everything was fine. We talked like we usually did. But a couple days later I had truly enough of him and everything that was going on. I told him how I felt. Maybe not in the best way but I told him I didn’t like how angry he got with me when he found out I was sleeping with someone else. He sent me a huge paragraph about how he does not care about me anymore because apparently I don’t care about him, to please not message him again, that he never said he liked me that night and he doesn’t care at all that I’m seeing another guy (although his actions the day we hung out proved the complete opposite). He then blocked me off everything again.

A month ago he had unblocked me, looked at my story highlights on Instagram but never said a word or added me quickly like he did the previous time.

A couple of days ago he had a huge event in his life happen that I remember him telling me about in August. So I thought maybe I should be the mature and respectful one and at least acknowledge it. So today I decided to tell him congratulations for winning in his fight. He said “thank you :)” and I told him to have a good day and he said the same to me.

Then I decided to tell him that although we may not have the same relationship ever again, that I hope there is no tension or anger between us and I wish him nothing but the best.

He saw the message and never answered me. I am heartbroken. I just wanted to reconcile but it looks like he wants nothing to do with me even though he unblocked me a month ago? What could be the reasons why he replied to everything but that? I miss him so much and still care about him. Has he completely forgotten about me along with not caring? Maybe he’s still mad at me?

I really need your advice..thank you
Avril

Chris Seiter

October 24, 2018 at 3:25 am

Hi Arvil!

So there is a lot going on here and I see that you have been thru a lot. Have you considered any of my ex recovery materials as they can do much more justice in responding to you situation than I can here in my limited time. Its important though to first focus on “you” and your healing. If you are not right in the mind, you are going to get in your own way and not make good decisions.

broken

October 18, 2018 at 12:00 am

we had been in a very happy ldr for 2 1/2 years, altho friends for the first yr. we both fell in love the sec we met, but didnt admit it. he has a history of depressive episodes, but is in denial about them. id not been ok since xmas, turns out i was messed up cos of my thyroid. he started going low around april. i didnt really see how bad, cos of my issues. he was under a ton of pressue. we never saw eachother at night anymore as a “friend” had taken to being there everynight when he came home from work. i felt needy, and not wanted. we never had fun anymore. he said he loved me with all his heart, but wasnt ok and was changing. then later he snapped and said theres no love for nothing or no one. end of june. i realised it was all his depression, destroyed myself trying to help him for 6 1/2 wks, 10 wks ago he left. just hung up. i didnt contact him for 7 wks, as i was scared to hurt him, but ive been so so low, i had to try and get a voice. i have a counsellor. he replied hes sorry he hurt me, what he did wasnt right, he never deserved me, it hurts him everyday etc. 2 days before he left id seen him in game all over another girl. i asked him if there was anyone before he left, he said no. hes with the girl now, another ldr. shes posted their relationship everywhere. last wk i msgd asking for the truth. anyway, he wouldnt answer about the pics. i kept asking, so he blocked me on phone and whats app. i still havent had a voice. sun he blocked me on xbox, even tho i wasnt gonna msg him there. its where we met. it really really hurts. i wrote a long letter thats my voice. i wanna send it, but dont wanna be crazy ex. im not asking for him back in it, just saying what happened. him and the girl are deeply in love, altho he wanted to marry me. i dont wanna hurt either of them, hes the one, but idk what to do anymore. im just broken. ty for any advice.

Chris Seiter

October 18, 2018 at 11:25 pm

Hi there Fixed!

Notice now you are no longer “Broken”. You see, that is the key. Healing and becoming the best “you” is the most important thing in all of this. The pragmatic thing to do is to focus on “you”, not them. If you comes back into your life in the future, fine, you can deal with that then. But its your present and future that matters most and you can choose among many paths that lead to a better place.

Kelsey

October 16, 2018 at 2:26 pm

Hi. So my ex had reached out to me a month ago. We’ve been speaking for a month until a few nights ago he phones me and tells me he has feelings for me and he loves me. He said he made a big mistake in leaving me and he knows I’m the one for him and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. However, he also told me that its just wrong timing because he doesn’t want a committed relationship right now. I ended up telling him that i have feelings for him too. However, yesterday we met up and we were cuddling and kissing and it felt normal and we both enjoyed each others company. But after that speaking to him a few hour later he is acting different and says like he currently prefer to have me as a friend and we are made to be good friends. He also says like its either we end up together or remain goods friends, noting is certain. And he says like i mustn’t try to be close to him and its just friends. Im so confused with what he is saying and he is contradicting everything he said a few nights before. I don’t want to be left hurt again and he is just confusing me now because we both had agreed we had feelings for each other even though we not that ready for a relationship. Even cuddling with him and everything and the way he was speaking afterwards i feel used even though it was mutual consent. What must i do because i want us to work out. I don’t have money to buy any products as I’m still a student. What should i do.

Chris Seiter

October 17, 2018 at 1:05 am

Hi Kelsey!

Sometimes guys learn the hard way. That leave, then realize just how great you really are. I would encourage you to tap into all my articles, podcasts, and videos as I talk a lot about how to deal with various breakup situations.

Boo

October 15, 2018 at 3:40 pm

Thought the name would be festive for the month lol. But I agree. We’ve broken up three times now and this time he’s texted me every 2 weeks to wish me well or to accuse me of “hooking up” with guys I’ve never even met lol and now he’s blocked me even though we weren’t even friends on any social media site. I haven’t tried texting him to see if he blocked my number because I don’t care. And this third breakup I haven’t given in to him. He’s definitely blocked me before the last times we’ve broken up and I was wondering what that meant from a guys perspective? Is it a way to get attention as some sort of game??

Chris Seiter

October 16, 2018 at 3:04 am

It is a seasonal name for sure! Some guys get a bit paranoid. His brain is rattling around with all kinds of thoughts and so his behavior will be kind of all over the place.

Boo

October 13, 2018 at 3:31 am

So I’ve done no contact. My ex texted me 3 weeks ago and I only replied “thanks” then redid no contact and haven’t spoken to him since. He randomly blocked me on Facebook and Instagram even though I’ve done nothing…. I don’t get it?

Chris Seiter

October 14, 2018 at 9:56 pm

Hi Boo!

Love your name. Some guys can be immature and vindictive. I guess he thinks you should be at his beckon call. But if you follow my program, you will learn why you want to be is the Ungettable Girl which is the kind of woman every guy dreams of.

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