What To Do If Your Ex Doesn't Contact You During No Contact- How To Make Him Talk

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Taylor

March 19, 2015 at 8:51 pm

Chris,

My boyfriend and I just broke up. We have been together for six years and he moved back home which is in a different state. We lived together and there was some contact regarding his clothes and financial discussion but we haven’t spoken for twelve days now. Should I count the no contact rule from when he left or keep counting now from the twelve days? He is very stubborn and I don’t think he will reach out to me, but who knows. I have been reading all of your blogs and following everything you say. I just need some guidance as what to do now. He said he needs to ” find himself”but wants to work on our friendship. This is what he said when he left about a month ago. He moved back home but left most of his stuff at the house and kept bank accounts open here. It’s very confusing but I’m trying to make the best of it. Any advice would be great and you’re truly a blessing because reading your blogs have helped me so much. Thanks Chris!

admin

March 22, 2015 at 3:54 pm

Thanks so much for the kind words.

Have you prepared a first contact text message yet?

Also, what have you done to improve physically and emotionally during NC?
Taylor

March 23, 2015 at 4:59 am

No I haven’t prepared a first contact message yet. I’ve been working out everyday and focusing on school. I try and keep busy everyday. To be honest, I feel like my no contact period should be longer than 30 days? Is this okay to do?

Amy

March 19, 2015 at 8:43 am

Hi Chris!

Me and my ex were in a long distance relationship that only lasted a couple of months. When we broke up I did what I now realise was a huge mistake and begged him not to leave me for a couple of days after. He stopped reading or replying to my messages too. I’m now on day 7 of no contact but I can’t help but feel he’s not even thinking about me or doesn’t care. I’m just wondering won’t this period of no contact make him just think “thank god, she’s finally given up” rather than “why isn’t she still contacting me?” now that I’ve made the mistake of begging and asking him back?

Thanks for any help you can give me!

IFY

April 12, 2015 at 1:36 pm

Amy our situation is quite to mine.LDR too and he broke up with me cause he says he doesn’t feel loved and im immature.Blocked me from Facebook too but not on whatsapp. Dont know if the NC rule would work in this situation.
admin

March 21, 2015 at 4:03 pm

You should read my LDR article. and listen to my podcast episodes over it.

Will

March 18, 2015 at 3:38 pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He broke up with me because he said he needed to work on himself. He also cheated on me. With all that said, I still love him and wanted to forgive him. But he said he needed space. I ended up agreeing, saying I need time for myself also. So I have done the NC with my ex now for about 40 days. About 5 days ago, he started liking post and pictures on my Facebook. Do you call that breaking the NC rule? Does it mean he’s thinking about me? Should I reach out to him now or wait for him to contact me by phone?
Dianne

March 18, 2015 at 9:14 am

Hi my ex boyfriend dated for 4 years and just a month ago he broke up with me. At first I begged him to come back and at the end I was anle to convince him to re-think his decision. During those days I was constantly talking to him and shosing him that I really do want him back. However, just a week ago he called me up and told me he has something to tell me. I was preparing for the worst..and guess what the wort happened. He told me that he had made his decision. He is happy now being alone and he can do the things he put on hold while we were together. He said that he is determined to stand by his decision. We had disagreements before and some of them also ended up in break ups but not as serious as this time. On the day he officially broke up with me, I gave all his stuff back to him and ask him to return my house key. I didn’t beg this time, I just cried but i showed him that I am strong. I told him that he doesn’t deserve me because he didn’t appreciate my efforts to save our relationship. I am confuse becasue even though he said he doesn’t love me anymore, on that day he was still caring and sweet to me (maybe he was just being kind), also we still had sex that day! But nonetheless, he still broke up with me. I told him that i’m not going to bother hiM anymore. I haven’t talked to him since then and he hasn’t contacted me or anything. Right now, I feel like he is really moving on and that he already forgot anout me. I don’t know if i should even consider contacting him after 30 days, or if i should do a 60 days no contact period, because i don’t know if thete is still hope in our relationship. This is both our first serious relationship and we started young (fresh from highschool when we started) I just feel like his priorities had change and suddenly i’m not part of his world anymore. So, i ‘m asking for ypur opinion if there is still hope on this relationship to work or if I just do my best to move on?
Julie

March 17, 2015 at 11:55 pm

Hi Chris!

Day 21! Me and my boyfriend have broken up once before. I believe he is scared of how serious we were (because we are 20) and is scared of getting hurt. He thinks far ahead and tries to rule out heartbreak before it has even begun.
This time we have just come back from spending a month together overseas. I am from Australia and he is from America so he came to meet my family. It was very serious and we have talked about our futures together.
He then decided that he ‘couldn’t do this anymore’ and that he ‘loves me but isn’t in love with me’ which I don’t think matches up. I believe he thought he was speaking the truth at the time but I really just believe he is confused, but of course I don’t know exactly what is going on now as I haven’t seen or talked to him.
He posted a lot of photos from our trip after our breakup which is odd as he doesn’t ever post that much. He also posted a photo with a deep quote about him struggling to clear his mind. Very unusual of him to share his emotions on social media as he is very mysterious and closed off normally. I’m good at reading him but haven’t been in contact with him to know what is going on.
I will contact him after 30 days if he doesn’t contact me, I just wanted to know your thoughts on what might have happened and how to proceed in initiating contact.

Thanks 🙂

admin

March 18, 2015 at 9:18 pm

Do you have a good text planned out.

YOu can run a few by me.

Julia

March 16, 2015 at 11:23 pm

Hi there!
I’ve been reading this site like its nourishing me… and it does make me feel better to be honest – see there is hope. My husband left me after 19 years of marriage. In January we were dancing in the kitchen and he was telling me he was the luckiest man in the world, and by Feb 19th he was gone. He blamed me for every single thing in our relationship- which is so strange cause this is not his typical behaviour. he is full of love for his family. so i’m very confused.
my question is – i want to do the no contact – and have tried however he is texting me often about kids, or money. i cant ignore these things … so how can i make this work for me? limited contact may work – but he keeps getting angry cause he’s out of money… i can tell him to start texting the kids to make arrangements with them, but is there a trick to dealing with finances etc? he says he wants to sell the house, that he doesnt love me anymore and that he wants to start dating. again, a month ago he was obsessed with me – (literally – he was putty in my hands). we had a fight, about my insecurities… which have been ongoing. then boom he’s out. i am working on myself… but am very confused. your advice would be very welcome!
thanks!

admin

March 18, 2015 at 8:36 pm

Sweet Julia!

Super glad that this site is useful to you!

Have you read my article on ex husbands?

How did the breakup go exactly with him?
Julia

March 18, 2015 at 10:27 pm

thank you for writing back! i was going to send you an email actually cause i’m so confused. i’ll go search for the “ex husbands” thread.
i have insecurities and depression and anxiety (woo i’m a catch) but the thing is – i AM a catch – i am sweet and generous and empathetic… i loved him madly and he worshiped me. after 20 years we were still doing it 2-3 times a week, still romantic – everyone wanted to be like us. At christmas he was going on and on about how i saved him, how he was the luckiest person in the world… so beautiful.. he’d cry when i did sweet things, we were madly madly in love. he saw past my insecurities though we did sometimes have fights. Jan we were dancing in the kitchen, and he cried when he lost his wedding ring. when we found it a week later it was almost like we found a miracle… so 2 weeks later, we have a fight – i was pms-y and being a btch – i wont deny that part… and he said if i dont get help he’s leaving. so we fought for a week. i refused, he left… which he has never done before in 19 years. the next day i DID go and ask for help – i’m now on meds and am seeing a psychologist for my insecurities. but after the first week – he announced he wasnt coming back. and a week after that (i sadly admit i was the GNAT and tried everything before stumbling accross this site. i showed him all the beauty we had, our kids, our dream home, our dreams for retiring, we were planning a trip to quebec city… and then last thursday he says “Julia, you dont seem to understand – i’m not in love with you anymore” and then he went on about eventually he’ll start dating and that i’ll have to be ok with it but he’d like us to be friends… and then he even went as far as to say that he was talking to one of his customers about OUR private situation and she asked him out! he TOLD me that he “just might go out with her”… knowing my biggest fear was always that he’d be with someone else… and he just stabbed me over and over. i then came here and stopped contact. a day later he’s asking why IM acting weird (i was like WTF) and i just kept ignoring. but with kids, we have to talk about and finances… woo – sorry for the long post. ok so my concern is – if i do the no contact – like right now – he texted me something that was kind of cute about me “still blind i see” he passed me on the road flashing his high beams and i didnt see… we always kidded about that. when i didnt answer he said “that wasnt meant as a dig” … so i’m struggling – should i answer back – i’m afraid after 20 years he’ll think i’m just giving him the ‘silent treatment’ or ‘pouting’ which would be one of his ‘expectations’ which is something i have to go against… lol i’m so confused. so effing confused. he says he will never be married to me again (out of the effing blue) and while i’m strong and taking care of myself and my kids and work, and all the other stuff moms do – i want to be with my sweet husband for the rest of our lives… and the thing is he’s not HIM anymore. this is just unlike him – he adored me and his family… this isnt him. sorry for the long post – i hope you can offer some suggestions 🙂
signed,
teary Julia
Julia

March 18, 2015 at 11:58 pm

i just realized i had read that thread and i just read it again. the ‘dating’ thing you have in the ‘ex boyfriends’ threads isnt included in the exhusbands thread. if i were to go on an online dating site – this could cause even more problems? what if he is seeing this girl – i have no way of knowing of course. but if i do it too – harmlessly of course – could i just blow up the whole deal trying to make him jealous?
Julia

March 22, 2015 at 3:40 pm

being the ungettable girl.. no contact.. it’s definitely messing him up 🙂
yesterday he had to come in to fix the dishwasher. i set the scene – made the house sparkle and smell good – and i made myself look incredibly hot in a little tank top and his favourite yoga pants. i was busy singing upstairs while he was fixing the dw. in the 15 min he was there he asked me THREE times if i wanted to go outside with him for 5 min (for a cigarette). i said sorry i’m tyring to quit – but thankyou for fixing the dw! and smiled and went back to my business -but not before he could see how good i looked. he seemed reluctant to leave and asked a bunch of random questions. it has empowered me and i do feel better about myself already. thanks for your advice Chris- I feel so much better having some understanding and confidence.
admin

March 22, 2015 at 5:57 pm

You played it perfectly Julia!

Absolutely perfectly.
Julia

March 27, 2015 at 11:33 pm

Update:
Today he told me he was seeing someone else. I calmly said “i know ” he said – what? how do you know? i said – cause you were “ok” … you’ve been “ok” with all of this. i said i knew because i’ve also been talking to someone and i have been “ok” too. i’m laughing and smiling. He said – is it serious? i said – no… he then went on to tell me how he had a horrible time – nothing was “ok” and that she had told him to go home when they went on their date – cause he was so upset – he said that he thinks she’ll leave him cause he cant stop being upset about me and thinking of me. he told me over and over how he loves me- and always would… but that the problems were so big. i said that i knew – but that i was working hard to fix them and i was doing really well. he said – you just sound so good – like MY Julia. My sweet understanding Julia. he said – i dont know how you’ll be after we hang up though. i said – ya – i am good. i want us to be ok – i said that couples separate all the time – they find each other again and work through their issues together, go to counselling and become even better. he went on to say how sometimes he cries all day, and that he’s thought a hundred times about reconciling this past month. for weeks he’s been telling me theres “no hope” we are done … there is nothing and that i need to stop. today – after hearing how i was “ok” with this new girl… and being calm and sweet – he said “i dont know what the future holds. lets just leave it at that.” i said ok – and then i giggled and said – so can i send you a picture of my a.ss then? he jsut said omg Julia (laughing) no! and we laughed and i hung up. i waited 20 min then sent him the picture and said – anythign that has happened this past month we can overcome. we have 19 amazing years and are stronger and better now. we have evolved and learned so much this month. we can be ok. we can be togehter. and i said i love you always. he responded and said “it is spectacular” (my butt). i waited over an hour… and then i replied “i know – and you could have that every dam day if you want” and he immediately responded (so he was checking his phone for the full hour) with a playful “shush”
i just said “lol have a good afternoon”. i feel that when he took the plunge to be with someone – he all of a sudden felt like – ohhhh fk.. i just shut the door and sealed it. she’ll never ever take me back now. i was calm and sweet and let him know that the door is still open. that i’m ok. tomorrow we have to meet to watch our son play basketball. i will dress amazing, smell good and go in with a smile and a laugh talking to everyone. keep your fingers crossed for me! Chris if you have any advice about moving forward please let me know 🙂 so far i’ve done everything you’ve said and it seems to be working. thank you soooo much for putting this site together.
Julia

March 29, 2015 at 10:06 pm

Update – weekend went well – we went to basketball, talked alot, joked, smiled, complimented each other. today he brought me a coffee when he was picking up the girl – and said i looked effing amazing… then he said he was sorry he texted me so late last night – and that he was “hrny” and was thinking of me… we giggled and he left – i texted later and said thanks for the coffee – you look fing hot too. Problem is – he’s still planning on having the kids meet her this easter weekend… he tells the girl that he sometimes cant even talk to this new girl cause all he can do is think of me and miss me and that he cries alot – but that hes also “happy” with this new girl… what the heck am i supposed to do 🙁
Julia

April 3, 2015 at 1:29 am

So i thought the week was going well. we were talking, he was flirting with me and it was good… last night i made a mistake… had phone sex with him. Today he’s barely speaking to me and being cruel again. Still planning on making the kids meet his new girlfriend tomorrow.
I guess it’s back to NC. But i am not sure i’m going to be there for him once this round is done. i’m tired of being treated like dirt after giving him all of me for 20 years.
Chris – if you have any words of advice I’d sure like to hear them

Gabi S

March 16, 2015 at 6:19 pm

are there exceptions to the no contact rule, my ex has a son, who has a tumor and his son has a doctors app. in two weeks, and wanted to know if it is alright to check up on his son and then no more till its over today is really my first day we broke up four days ago yesterday i messaged him once and then he messaged back right away twice then it took him ten mins and then nothing

admin

March 18, 2015 at 7:24 pm

There sure are,

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-handle-every-situation-during-the-no-contact-rule/

Britt

March 16, 2015 at 8:51 am

My ex bf broke up with in September 2014 but we had stil been seeing eachoher for months.. It was like we were dating but it was never 100% the same. There were things different.. I stuck around hoping he would want to be with me again but I only gave myself false hope.. He would do things like write in my Christmas card saying another amazing year with the someone I love.. That kind of stuff made me want to stick around even more. My fear with nc was he would forget about me.. Have an easier time to let go… Well now he ended things once I asked if we were in the same page.. I will let you know through out these months I have asked a bunch of different times where we stood and I would always have the same answer of how he can’t have responsibily of a relationship.. This time tho he actually cut it out and said he do this anymore how it’s been done and how that was his Last msg.. I won’t lie I kep saying how are you just going to cut me out like that and he just was so cold saying im done here .. I was hurt and asked why we can’t be friends a big chunk of me was gone( it was in the moment of my emotions) I would rather hang onto a little bit of him than nothing.. I know i was thinking crazy thoughts.. His response was we can be friends maybe one day but right now we need time apart and just say anywuas im going to bed goodnight.. I should had just left it at that but I’m like is there some else and he just replied saying omg no… Well I didn’t say a thing after that… Today will mark 4 days.. I’m dying… He is gonn gal under a stubborn type of guy I just know it.. I know he won’t msg me.. I need guidance because my heart tells me one thing and my mind tells an other.. Is it all damaged.. Since I didn’t implement the nc rule in the beginning?? I feel like I made it worse…:( need help.. I have so many urges to msg him

admin

March 18, 2015 at 7:09 pm

Its not too late to start over with the NC completely.

Kathy

March 16, 2015 at 12:07 am

I just don’t think it’s right for me to reach out because my overextending scared him off in the first place. We had such a fun time together that I know he’ll never forget me but “she still digs me” will just keep the ball in his court and justify his reasons for leaving in the first place.

It’s been more than a month of NC (lost count) and nothing from him. I kinda don’t want him back,I’ve realized he’s sort of wimpy and boring. I guess that’s why I overextended in the first place. I want a man that steps up. If I continue with NC, it will keep the mystery and power in my court, keep him wondering. I just think in my situation fot me to reach out will destroy all the tension that has been building up. Perhaps I’ll see after a 2nd month of NC.

admin

March 18, 2015 at 6:54 pm

I understand.

However, sometimes getting an ex back is about lighting a spark and starting a flame.

Sometimes you have to be the one that lights that spark. You have to be theone that takes the risk.

You can wait a little longer in NC and then reach out if you are that concerned about it.

Gabby

March 13, 2015 at 2:25 am

Hi Chris! My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me recently, because he was bored with our relationship and became just too comfortable. Of course I begged him to come back after he broke up with me, but he told me to stop contacting him. He blocked me on Facebook and possibly my number (iPhone makes it hard to tell if you have been blocked or not). I am now currently on day 16 of no contact, and I have really been focusing on myself, even though I do want to get him back.
When my no contact period is done, do you think I should mail him a letter telling him that I accepted the breakup. And say that I also have had a lot of exciting things happen and would like to tell him about it when he’s ready? (Which has really happened). I feel like a letter would be a little more effective, instead of texting since I don’t know if he blocked my number. Let me know what you think! Thanks so much!
Suzanne

March 10, 2015 at 7:00 pm

Chris,

I bought your book and would like just a piece of advice. This is the fourth time I have reached out.

My ex and I didn’t have a terrible relationship, good times and bad – we dated for 7 months. I broke up with him three times before the last, but we would always get back together in a day. It was usually over a reason we would soon discuss (he didn’t have a job for four months, the conversation got heated, etc).

He has never had a relationship (at 25 years old) that lasted longer than ours. He was really on and off in his words, but his actions always showed that he loved me (small favors, like brushing snow off my car when I didn’t ask, etc). Because of this on and off, I was always a little on and off with how happy the relationship left me feeling (which he knew), but he and I both agreed that the good times were amazing. The last time we broke up (two weeks ago), he said he didn’t know when he could tell me he loved me. He said it wasn’t IF, more so, WHEN. Of course, I was very upset and broke up with him. I attempted to resolve the next day, and we talked about it, he said he needed two days to think. I cried, but accepted that – my key words were “there is nothing I WANT more than to make this work, please give us another shot”. Two days later, he said it was a really hard decision (he cried, too) and that he just couldn’t give it a fourth shot. It had caused him too much stress and “his heart wasn’t in it anymore”. Even though, none of the other break ups lasted more than an hour and were more just statements. I was really cool about it, and I agreed with him – he was surprised how ok I was with it actually (I can’t force him to stay! took your advice and accepted what he had to say maturely). After he left, I read your book, and when he texted me that he was “going to the bar alone” right after he left, and the next day that “he is sad to lose the good times and sorry that it got to this point, but hasn’t changed his mind”, I did not reply at all. I started a no contact period of time. We haven’t talked since and it’s been two weeks. I messaged his sister on Facebook three days ago to apologize that I wouldn’t be at her wedding shower (duh – but I had RSVP’d yes and thought it would be nice to let her know) just to be polite, and she didn’t reply. Is this a lost cause? I love him, and really want it to work, but I don’t want to put energy into something futile. It would just hurt more that way. I am continuing on with my stuff just fine – outwardly happy. He does not have facebook or instagram, so social media has not been a problem. He does have snap chat, so I deleted the app because it was causing me too much stress. I have talked to two of his friends since the break up, they were sort of mutual friends…both asked me to hang out but I think I will decline as I don’t want to seem weird or desperate. Is it true that by totally cutting out of his life, it would work better? Or should I hang out with his friend so they can see how well I am doing, if he were to ask?

Thanks so much, I really hope you reply.

admin

March 13, 2015 at 6:45 pm

Hi Suzanne!

Sorry for the late response.

I haven’t contacted anyone for the entire week so don’t feel bad.

I agree not hanging out with his friends is a bad idea.

Keep doing NC right now.

Will

March 10, 2015 at 6:51 pm

Hi Chris,

I broke up with my girlfriend four days ago and initiated a two-week no contact period two days ago. I’ve thought about my reasons for ending our relationship, and I realize a lot of it had to do with me not putting forth my best effort and being afraid to fully commit. I am ready now. I want her back. What should I do? The last time we communicated, I said that I love her and want to be with her, but I think we should take two weeks of NC to heal and recover so we can start fresh. She said that’s okay, as long as this isn’t a hiatus for me to hook up with as many girls as possible. I told her I promise that’s not what this is, I think this can help us both. She said okay, but if we get back together we’re going to have to take it slow so she can regain my trust.

I want to talk to her ASAP. What should I do? Will I appear weak if I break my own NC rule and call her?

admin

March 13, 2015 at 6:41 pm

Hi Will, I think you are on the wrong site buddy.

Hop on over to Ex Girlfriend Recovery

LuSea

March 10, 2015 at 7:55 am

It has been just about 30 days of no contact. The last communication was through texting. I think we are both “no contacting” each other. A couple of weeks ago I noticed he posted a song on social media. With lyrics about missing and wanting a girl back…should i read into that? i thought it might be a passive aggressive way for attention. Also, should i be the first one to reach out if he was the one to end it not contact me?
Emme

March 10, 2015 at 7:02 am

What if he broke up with me to be with his ex girlfriend ? Is there still a chance I can get him back ?

admin

March 13, 2015 at 4:31 pm

Sure, how long did you date him versus the ex girlfriend though?

Anon

March 9, 2015 at 8:04 am

My ex and I dated for 2 years, during our relationship he was absolutely besotted with me, he wrote me songs, wrote me letters, picked me flowers, did everything to make me feel comfortable wanted and beautiful. In the last few months of our relationship we had no choice but to live with eachother, which I guess made his feelings dull. Eventually he stopped doing thins for me and I got very scared, I realize now that I got way too clingy and lost who I was when we first started out. He left me once before we broke up officially but asked for me back the next day.
When we officially broke up, he said that he was ‘feeling off’ and that he didn’t know what he wanted (This was a man who wanted to marry me). I guess his feelings for me faded as we argued a lot due to my insecurities.
I decided to go into No Contact for 30 days, in those 30 days he moved to another city (Which I am moving to next year to study) and seems to be happy.
After the No contact period I sent him a happy message telling him that there was a concert coming up soon of one of his favourite artists (It’s actually te same artist that we both adored in te beginning of our relationship).
He was excited about the concert, said thanks for letting him know then stopped talking.
He seems like he doesn’t care? He didn’t want to carry on with the relationship at all. It’s been a week since I contacted him, is this a sign that he has honestly just gotten over me and doesn’t care anymore?
Can I still get him back? Should I stay in NC again for 2 months?

admin

March 13, 2015 at 3:58 pm

Did you message him again after the initial contact?

Linda

March 8, 2015 at 1:15 pm

We started as friends for 5 years and decided to take take our friendship further…we were constantly fighting as a result he started pulling back, our relationship was only 5 months old, I suspected that he might be seeing someone cos he had totally changed,when I confronted him he denied it, we had not seen each other for a month before our separation because of his excuses. One Thursday, I sent him a message to breakup, he didn’t seem tto accept it on his response, he kept on sending ne messages as if all is well, I also thought ok, let me not be hard headed cos he’s reaching out and I want our relationship to work (but he was not his normal self, the man I felt in love with) few days after that I saw him with another lady in his new car, I got very angry followed them with the aim to see the lady inside, only discover that its someone I know, so I went back to my car, now, when we started I overheard people saying he was in a relationship with this lady but it didn’t matter since it was “the past” but niw it dawn to me that they might be together again or they never even seperated….later I sent him nasty messages, all he said was he doesn’t owe any explanation, I must stop messaging him…this lady looked for my number she found it and she sent messages wanting to know what was going on between me and my x but I did not give her the straight answer (I just fell that, the man loves her and let me spare her the pain if it helps)….I came back to my senses and decided to move on, it’s now the 3 most hard weeks of my life…..but now, yesterday, someone from my church proposed marriage to me, I really don’t know why this is happening to me, I’m still hurting and not sure what to do with the marriage proposal
paige

March 8, 2015 at 12:23 am

Hi chris. I have been reading your posts and I am on day 21 of no contact. I was in a long distance relationship but we were very happy and when we saw eachother it was like magic i came home from visiting and he was missing me and wanted to video chat. Then we had a disagreement that got out of hand. He said he wanted to be with me and he loves me but he wants some time. I said okay. I waited a week and tried to talk and we spoke abit but i felt he seemed alittle off maybe because i was forcing convo before he was ready. He finished it with me. When i asked for a reason to why hes changed his mind his only answer is i dont know. He doesnt deny wanting it before so im not sure whats happened but i went into no contact. Its been 21 days and i havent heard yet on day 30 i will write but do you think i have any hope?

admin

March 8, 2015 at 2:59 pm

Did you read the long distance relationship post?

I think there is hope.

Just because he doesn’t contact you doesn’t mean that your chances are gone. Sometimes its the opposite.
paige

March 8, 2015 at 7:22 pm

Yeah ive had a read. Well im glad you think theres hope as im really hoping this all works we had many plans before hope it can all come back. Just feeling rather lost as im scared to ruin it forever.

LuSea

March 7, 2015 at 7:26 am

It has been just about 30 days of no contact. The last communication was through texting. I think we are both “no contacting” each other. A couple of weeks ago I noticed he posted a song on social media. With lyrics about missing and wanting a girl back…should i read into that? i thought it might be a passive aggressive way for attention. Also, should i be the first one to reach out if he was the one to end it not contact me?
Amanda

March 6, 2015 at 3:04 pm

I’m a virgo he’s a scorpio.

NC worked like a charm. We were never official, but after a year of always initiating contact….although I know I intimidate him, I’m done overcompensating for him. On day 12, he texted me he missed me. And on day 29 he texts “why”….men are so simple…they really come to love us in our absence. It’s like when he knew he could have me whenever he wanted, why put in the effort? Now, he’s wondering if he lost the best girl he could ever hope to get. GOOD!

I’m doing 30 more days to show him that although I answered his “why” text…..im not here to take his indecisive shit anymore. So if he contacts me again, he better make it good. Otherwise, i’ll have to move on although I clearly still love him so.

My question is….when I answered his “why”…at first I said, “you know y”…he asked “why” again…and I responded on day 30 with a long list of bc ” i need to be needed and you need to hide your needs, bc i could never hurt you the way you hurt me..” etc etc

All very personal and touching..(he’s always loved my writing)…and I ended with “while I held on, you let go so no I let go…”

So again, my question is…while I understand he’s going to need time to recover and let all those reasons sink in, have I completely obliterated him from trying? Does he have any room to return?

I’m dong the 30 days again…which means I’ll ignore him until completely done this time…and then I’ll answer short and sweet and keep it that way

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:54 pm

What exactly did he do?

Is he just not committing?

Drea

March 6, 2015 at 2:05 pm

My boyfriend recently broke up with me accusing me of cheating and wanting his brother. This is in no way shape or form true especially since I am 6 months pregnant with his daughter. Throughout the relationship we have had plenty of arguments. This would be our second time taking a break.. It’s just this time he initiated it because I confronted him about lying about talking to other girls when he kept lying to me about it. He tried to reverse it on me and bring up old things to validate his reason. Long story short we lived together. I packed a few things and came to my mom house. What do I do now? What is happening as far as he’s concerned? I texted out to him two days ago asking for clarity because im completely blindsided by this break up. He had yet to respond. Yes it’s only been 3 days but do understand my state. I’m pregnant. I would think this would be the most joyful time especially since everything has been going good from what I thought.. But first and foremost i demand respect! Please help..

admin

March 7, 2015 at 6:00 pm

This might be the article for you,

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-you-are-pregnant/

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