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Daisha
July 8, 2016 at 3:23 am
I have had no contact for about 47 days. I deleted his number because he blocked me on phone and other chat program we used. I broke up with him but he was ok with it even though we both were upset with each other. The last convo was a big fight via text. And before that we didn’t see much of each other. I had a free schedule so I was traveling within country but not far. He never made an effort to see me and I always did since I was the one with a freer schedule but he was still unhappy and being passive aggressive. So I broke it off because so felt as though nothing I did was good enough but it bothered me that he didn’t really care about the breakup. Anyway, he’s had a difficult time and is depressed but he put most of that on me and I couldn’t do it anymore. Other than the rough time recently we were a really good match in all areas physical mental emotional. It’s upsetting to let it go because I know it could be amazing it just doesn’t seem as though he wants to change his sour attitude. I thought no contact would be a better way than discussing since men don’t like to talk about emotions. However I’m at a point where I want to contact him but not sure I can. I sent a text today but no answer I think I’m still blocked.
Daisha
July 9, 2016 at 4:20 am
also found out today that he cheated on me and is seeing someone now.
Daisha
July 8, 2016 at 11:07 pm
No he blocked me during our fight 47 days ago. Now I am no longer blocked as I was able to send a message today
Daisha
July 8, 2016 at 1:59 pm
during nc i started a new job, and I’ve been really busy so the nc thing has been easier, i have been taking care of myself and became a vegan, i also took some courses and tried to see his side of things.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 8, 2016 at 4:53 pm
that’s good that you’re active.. you mean he blocked you after saying he will pick up his things?
Daisha
July 8, 2016 at 1:55 pm
yes i was and am active on social, and that seemed to work last time, i realised he had been watching my social media closely in november. i did not contact him at all for 47 days until today.
Daisha
July 8, 2016 at 1:53 pm
Hi Amor, i sent a message today, found out I’m not blocked, as he responded in 30 min but non emotional. tbh my first message to him was regarding something non emotional, i found something of his at my place and asked if he wanted it back, he said to leave it in my mailbox and that he would pick it up. i honestly don’t know how to proceed, i did 30 days NC back last november and it worked, we got back together and he was so happy although at that time he broke up with me, i made changes he made changes, but he went back to being depressed and blaming me for most things. we have been on and off and this time, i thought, there is no going back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 8, 2016 at 1:18 pm
Hi Daisha,
if he was passive during the relationship, it can take longer than usual for him to unblock you but were you active during nc and now after? and were you also active in social then?
OIli
July 7, 2016 at 8:56 pm
Yeah “my guy” is extremely stubborn lol, but I’m a proactive person, so even before I read your article I’m reached out to him after about four weeks. I’m mature enough to do that also because I care about him plain and simple. I accept him for who is and I wouldn’t change even his stubbornness. What he does for me as a person rules out everything else. But here’s the twist: we weren’t dating, but it always felt like it because we’re extremely close and that’s what initiated the “break.” I told him I liked him at the beginning and he didn’t at the time because he 1) was getting over a 7 year relationship and 2) didn’t want to ruin anything as friends *rolls eyes*, but only to then say he’d thought about us being together but he was scared our dynamic would change, so I moved on from it. However, he texts me everyday and when I don’t text him for 1-2 days it’s like an eternity for him as well as myself. (I am turning 27 he is turning 26 if that matters any, btw.) We would talk sweet with each other on the phone and I mean we even flirted. The second time we talked about this I told him things needed to change because I don’t want to think get my hopes. Cool we said we’d move on again. This last time really blew the lid off the top and I told him he needed to figure out how he felt about me because I already knew what he know, which is that he liked me (he lives a state over, we met during a training. Distance has always been mentioned as an issue as well. I am moving to that state btw come next year). Anywho, long story short he didn’t say anything after I confronted him about that and the break. He never responded a word not the day off or the day after. After the four weeks I reached out just to patch things up to be mature about everything. After all he is someone I truly care about and value. He seemed really excited to hear from. The exclamations were so cute coming from a guy who does not usually do that! LOL. He said he had been meaning to call me to clear the air as well. We both mentioned we should talk to catch up and pick up where we left off the last. I wasn’t as friendly as he is use to, but I wasn’t mean either. I was neutral and amicable. He said he’d call me during the weekend because I am busy with school and I agreed. I went out and about my business during the weekend with friends. (I’m thinking if I mean that much to him after 11 months of building our relationship of every-day texting and confiding in each other that he would text me first thing Friday morning. Well, nope. ) And He didn’t call Friday or Saturday, come Sunday since I was home I waited and he never called or texted. I was really hurt because I felt like I didn’t mean anything to him even as his friend, so I sent him a text at midnight thanking him for not calling me and told him the conversation meant a lot to me. He didn’t reply to my text at all. What would you advice me? I care about him even still because like I said he has done so much for me as a person that I don’t want to lose him or have bad blood. If we must move on, then I guess, but not like this. Thank you for responding and also thank you for your site. It’s such a wonderful place to come and discuss love. Love is a verb after all!
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 8, 2016 at 12:47 pm
Hi Olli,
do you want to do active no contact? of yes, do 30 days and then be active in improving yourself
saraha
July 7, 2016 at 9:02 am
So , me and this guy were dating for the past 3 months .He proposed me when i was flying back to my hometown . We didn’t mee teach other for one month but we talked over the phone .A lot. when i came back he left after few days to his hometown for 20 days . I’d like to mention before dating me he had lot of flings but he told me everything about it and made it clear that he was in love with me and i wasn’t a fling but his past did bother me A LOT . when i was in my hometown we had a horrible fight and we broke up but eventually we reconciled . It has happened once more and i think he’s really serious about it . But i do know the fact he’s emotionally attached to me and i still love him a lot . We’ve broken up a day ago and i haven’t texted him neither he did . The fights were on really silly thing but it got stretched . Also , he is 21 and i am 23 . He once told me that once he’s done in a relationship ,there is no looking back for him . I love him and i want him back . What should i do ? I ‘d really appreciate if you help me:)
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 7, 2016 at 5:31 pm
HI Saraha
do you want to do active no contact?
Shreya
July 4, 2016 at 9:38 pm
So… I’ll jump right into the story! Had this high school crush we lost track; met after 4 years; we clicked…one thing led to another and we started dating …soon we fell in love/relationship whatever. It was an amazing relationship ; we both have a lot to look back to…anyway so after a year and a half after my abortion specifically that’s when things started to go down; he was this logical and practical guy while I was this emotional and senti person so things were rough for me and I felt like he didn’t care blah blah I did the worst thing I turned into a nag -_- *my emotions were all over the place okay! don’t judge me* anyway we kinda grew apart although we still loved each other and then eventually I moved to another country and then well communication gap and he didn’t seem to make an effort what so ever I would occasionally bring that up, tell him how I feel but that didn’t go as well, he was so distant I eventually got fed up and broke up and then after that we kinda spoke to each other after a long time but then well once we got back together it was the same story and one fine day we had this heated argument on a stupid topic and he was like I can’t take it anymore and so we were done I blocked his messages didn’t unfriend him though just blocked the messages so for four days we both had still kept that relationship thing on FB on and then we simply ignored each other he didn’t bother and so did i ,he’d occasionally share quotes about letting go and stuff and the I posted a happy picture of mine and i simply acted like I’m happy and not miserable at all followed by his memes on how he has never been in love and considering our relationship it seemed ridiculous and then I didn’t react at all I simply shared a throwback post with my cousins and then he changed his status to single unfriended me and stuff… I just don’t understand what’s up with him. Has he really moved on or trying to or is this just to get a reaction from me . Either way, it’s fucking me up and I refuse to show it any cost because well I no longer wish to look clingy to him. What’s he up to?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 5, 2016 at 5:24 am
Hi Shreya,
yeah that can be just a reaction to your post.. that’s good..take time time heal and improve first
Idk
July 2, 2016 at 10:11 pm
We’re in the same group chat, does texting the group chat count as breaking the no contact rule? There are times when we type in messages one after the other or in the same context but never at each other, and I always try to limit my input because I don’t want to be too ‘present.’ I can’t remove myself from it because I want to cause as small of a whiplash as possible and all my friends are in the group chat so I need it to keep up with meet ups. Also, should I avoid friend gatherings until the 30 days run out if I know he’ll be there. I really would rather not, as my friends don’t meet up that often anyway.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 4, 2016 at 5:27 pm
Hi Idk,
if you’re not talking to each other then not..and you don’t have to avoid meet ups if it’s not that often
Princess Zelda
June 29, 2016 at 4:32 pm
We were the picture perfect couple: a US soldier and a pilot. But I broke up with my BF about 4 weeks ago. He’s an extremely stubborn person and I have to confess, I did hurt him a lot before I decided to break up with him. I wished him luck and told him I hope he could find the girl of his dreams. He replied something positive, but I didn’t reply. He hates it when I don’t reply immediately, and he went online to check if I saw his message. I responded 2 days later saying I still wanted to break up but wished him luck. He never responded (but he didn’t block me on FB, skype or Whatsapp) and I sent him nothing during the no contact period.
Please guys, I am begging you! Do you think he got over me? Or is he waiting me to patch things up? We had a shaking past where I always broke up with him, over 8 times and he would always take me back because I would beg him to take me back. What is going on?
Princess Zelda
June 30, 2016 at 10:23 pm
We did no contact for 33 days now. What should I message him? Did he get over me if or he just doesn’t really care if he didn’t block me?
And my previous comment was deleted.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 1, 2016 at 12:49 pm
is that the comment above this?
I think he got tired of you breaking up with him several times.. the more important thing is have you improved yourself? If he checks your profile, would he think you’re still the same? would he think you will just go back with him and then break up later on?
Princess Zelda
June 30, 2016 at 11:27 am
It has been 33 days now. Do you think we are done? What should I text him?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 29, 2016 at 5:18 pm
Hi Princess zelda,
you said you didn’t send anything during no contact..that’s good coz you really shouldn’t send anything.. how long did you do nc?
Nikki
June 28, 2016 at 5:48 pm
I need some advice/insight please! So my boyfriend of a year and a half ended our relationship in April (he was overwhelmed with things going on in life and wanted me to find someone better, he was angry/upset in general). I went no contact and he contacted me after 2 weeks (this was in May). Things were going absolutely great till last week we got into it–he was extremely upset at a text message I sent (I said “haven’t heard from you all day, hope you’re doing well”)…he completely ignored me for hours despite me sending more texts to see if he was ok, if he was upset at me, what was going on, etc. I finally got frustrated from his lack of reply after about 8 hours (yet he read all my texts), so I sent a text saying I’d meet him after work to talk since he wasn’t replying (note that this isn’t normal for either of us to behave like this). I didn’t actually mean it, but I knew it would get a reaction from him and that was my goal…unfortunately it made him furious and he eventually replied saying he couldn’t deal with that. The next day I sent an apology and asked if he wanted some space, to which he replied, “I’m done with everyone to be honest, I want to be left alone, I’m beyond exhausted with everything in life.” That was the last I heard from him…I mistakenly sent texts over the course of a couple more days (apologies, telling him I understood why he was upset at me, that I hope he’s doing well, that I care/love him, etc.) though in no way did I beg for him to take me back. I just wanted him to forgive me but still never got any replies (though he did read them and even looked at my snap chat stories) so I stopped texting and decided to go no contact again. My question is…have I completely ruined my chances of us getting back together? Will he reach out to me again during this 2nd cycle of no contact or will he be more stubborn? Things were going perfectly and this just blew up suddenly and over a stupid text no less. Thanks for any input and advice you can give me! I’ll admit, I’m scared the no contact won’t work this time around or that he’ll stay angry at me for good.
Nikki
June 28, 2016 at 5:52 pm
I wanted to also add that our relationship was quite serious (planning to get married), even in May when he reached out he was still considering us to get married at some point.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 29, 2016 at 2:34 pm
Hi Nikki,
it depends on how you will be during the 2nd no contact.. if you stick to it and improve yourself then there’s still a chance for him to change his mind
Tom
June 28, 2016 at 11:29 am
“While it is always important to find that delicate balance between logic and emotions it is also important to remember that the mere fact that your ex is trying to get back at you through the use of his silence means he is feeling emotions.
While those emotions may be negative they are still emotions and if you play your cards right you can turn them in your favor.”
And quite possibly wind up with a restraining order. This is dangerous and misinformative. I left my ex 9 months ago because she abused and cheated on me. My silence wasn’t some funny little game like you make it out to be. It’s OVER. Unfortunately she must have been reading the above paragraphs you wrote because my 9 months of silence has gone completely disregarded and she STILL attempts to contact me. The next time she tries to show up I am calling the police.
If your ex has gone NC, MOVE ON. Don’t play stupid little manipulative games because you could find yourself In a world of trouble.
Ashley
June 27, 2016 at 11:13 pm
Hi!! I am loving your post. Here is our story. We just broke up on Saturday morning on June 25th. We were together almost 2 years. We were arguing a lot and breaking up on and off. Our relationship hasn’t been like it was in the beginning. I am so tired of breaking up and getting back together. I just want to be good. I haven’t talked to him since Saturday. Today he texted me and said since I deleted him off of Facebook that he is guessing that it is officially over this time and the only thing he is requesting now is for me to mail his stuff. I love him so much but I am tired of breaking up and getting right back together. I didn’t reply to his text being because I just plan on mailing his things off. Do you think him just asking for his stuff means that he doesn’t care anymore? I will be starting my no contact as of yesterday. I just don’t think he will contact me during the no contact phase and don’t want to be let down.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 29, 2016 at 7:40 am
HI Ashley,,
nope..it’s probably out of hurt.. Yeah, it looks like you need a reset if you keep being on and off again.
Bee
June 25, 2016 at 10:35 pm
Hi, pls i need your opinion and advice on this. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 6 month and made it clear he wants to marry me, he even introduced me to his mum but the mum and she accepted me but the problem his have dated his ended brother before like 4yrs ago, told him about it and he said he still wanna be with me nomata what, the brother told the mum and the mum said me and my boyfriend cant be together again because of that, she even introduced a girl to him that he his gonna marry. Now my boyfriend has been distance, doesnt care much about me again, nd av started seeing the other girl, i confronted him he said he cant disobey his mum. I dont know what to do right now, am confused . I really want him back
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 28, 2016 at 11:29 am
HI Bee,
how old are you both?
Karen
June 25, 2016 at 10:35 pm
I left a long comment and y’all deleted it…. Am I hopeless?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 28, 2016 at 10:29 am
HI Karen,
sorry about that. It wasn’t deleted but it was late approved. Are you actively improving yourself now?
Karen
June 25, 2016 at 6:58 am
Hello, I am just looking for some advice. Me and my ex boyfriend got together in the 8th grade. We have been together since 2 years ago. He said that he wanted to make sure I was the one and not waste his 20’s. Well for 2 years we have basically been together but not together. He hasn’t slept with anyone else and we would hang out all the time. Although I was always fighting with him about getting back together. It made me so nervous when he would go out with friends without me that he would hook up with some other girl. I never made him stay home or anything but it hit my insecurities and I would pressure him to be together. I was never sure if he even wanted to be around me or if he was hanging out with me for pity. Well just this month he said he is tired of me getting mad and still wants to enjoy his 20’s or whatever. So he ended it for good. I am on day 4 of no contact and I’m afraid that this won’t work and we are to far gone and that he won’t even contact me at all. The longest we hang ever gone without talking since the 8th grade is I went to Europe for a month and even then we did a little bit when I had wifi. Do you think I have a chance or should I just let me him go? Thanks for all the help the fact that I made it to day 4 is amazing on my part and it’s really thanks to these guides I read them when I want to text him.
Karen
June 25, 2016 at 7:00 am
I forgot to say we are 22 now for a time reference
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 28, 2016 at 10:29 am
HI Karen,
sorry about that. It wasn’t deleted but it was late approved. Are you actively improving yourself now?
Mary
June 24, 2016 at 3:14 pm
Hello, I told my ex bf I will not send him more messages after our breakup last Wednesday. Today is Friday and he already sent me a message. Its very negative, should I also ignore that? And wait for 30 days to reply?
Mary
June 28, 2016 at 5:14 pm
I don’t think I will hear from him, because he blocked me on whatsapp. What should I do? Just wait for him to contact me and reply after 30 days?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 29, 2016 at 2:21 pm
nope.. be productive during nc.. the goal of nc is for you to heal and improve…most of the time if the guy sees you’re noy bothering him and you’ve tried to move on they will unblock after 2-3 weeks
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 28, 2016 at 7:49 am
HI MAry,
yes, you should ignore negative text messages.
Messedup
June 23, 2016 at 7:59 pm
Hi, I really need help with my situation. Just about 2 months ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me. We didn’t fight, cheat, or have any big issues. We were together just shy of 7 months and before that we were friends. During those 7 months I grew attached and very emotionally invested. He was with me just about every night and I truly believed he felt the same about me. He did a lot for me and always would reach out while we both were at work. He was my best friend and boyfriend. I don’t want to make this too long so I will skip to the part where he kind of out of no where broke up with me via text. I say kind of out of nowhere because deep down I knew we were having communication problems and also falling out of the honeymoon phase. I didn’t know how to fix us because of everything going on in my life and he didn’t want to try. He told me he wasn’t in love with me anymore and so I asked him to come over and get his things. We both just gave up. When he came over we both cried a lot and kept hugging and kissing and still saying I love you. It didn’t feel real to me. A week after the break up I reached out and asked if we could meet. He responded with saying that he missed me and wanted to see me but didn’t think he was ready. It’s been a little over a month since that last conversation. I struggled a lot, a lot. All I wanted was for him to come back. I haven’t been ready to put myself out there and reach out to him again. Now here’s where it gets complicated. After over a month of waiting for him and hearing nothing I decided last weekend to go out. I met someone through a friend and we danced and had a great time. A couple days later he asked me out on a date and I honestly didn’t know what to do. With encouragement from my friends I said yes. The date was actually great, we really hit it off and as much as I would like to pretend it didn’t happen I ended up hooking up with him that night. (I know hooking up on the first date is worthy of being judged but please don’t, I had a moment of weakness and after being rejected and ignored for over a month it was nice to feel wanted) we stayed up talking the rest of the night and exes came up in conversation. He asked me how long ago my break up was and I told him and then he asked who my ex was. ( we are all military we don’t all work the same jobs but the base is only so big so a lot of people know a lot of people) I told him who it was and it turns out they work in the same building and are “cool” with each other. Things got weird after that, I immediately felt guilty. How could I let the person I hook up with be someone that actually knows and works with my ex. I honestly had no clue and I never would do something like that on purpose. The guy I spent the night with and I talked about how this wasn’t going anywhere. He knew I wasn’t over my ex based on my reaction of them knowing each other. These last few days I’ve been feeling like I cheated and I know I didn’t because he broke up with me but I still feel awful. Any hope that I had of my ex coming back is now gone because if he knows what I did I feel it will only push him completely away. How do I break nc at this point or should I even break nc? I still miss him and love him and quickly realized after an attempt to move on that he’s the one I still want. I just feel I had a little chance before when we both were doing nc and now that I did this I feel I have almost zero chance.
Messedup
June 28, 2016 at 12:19 pm
Thank you for the advice! Time is definitely the best option. He actually reached out to me because the universe has a funny way of rubbing salt in the wound when you’re feeling guilty. He told me he still loves me and cares for me and that our timing was a little bit off. He thinks we will have a better chance for us in the future. I just told him I felt the same. I didn’t bring up what happened because I feel there’s no definite that we are getting back together so if and when we try I will of course be honest and explain everything. I don’t know if he found out already but right now me telling him without him asking almost feels like it would be rubbing it in his face.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 28, 2016 at 6:01 am
Hi MEssed up,
first, you’ve broken up, so you didn’t cheat but if you want it to be less hurtful for him, you have to let time pass so that he would be more rational to understand what happened when he finds it out.
Moni
June 22, 2016 at 11:47 pm
Hi, me and my fiance broke up 4 days ago, he wanted to be with me byt i refused. He has now blocked me off every social media site and said that if he leaves me unblocked it just reminds him of us. If i use the NC rule, will he make a conversation with me? Thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 27, 2016 at 10:33 am
Hi Moni,
let him cool off first.. what do you mean that he wanted to be with you?
Lola
June 22, 2016 at 6:06 pm
Hi again.. To reiterate, my ex broke up with me about 5 days ago, and I’m in the process of NC. But before he broke it off with me we had this huge argument that turned physical and after about a week and a half, he told me that he loves me, but he’s not in love with me anymore. He also said that I’ll always be the love of his life because he’s never had a consistent relationship with anyone before (we were together for 3 straight years). After speaking with him the day of the break up, he told me to prepare for the worst (worst being that he won’t want to be with me ever again) and that he doesn’t know if there’s any hope for us and that he just needs time and space. He can be very stubborn, which is why I don’t think he’ll contact me during NC, plus it seems as though he’s moved on into a rebound relationship. I guess my question is: since I’m the love of his life, does this improve my chances of getting back together? Or could it be the reason that he stays away, not wanting to be hurt again? I’m going to continue no contact and see where it goes, but is there anything encouraging about my situation?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 27, 2016 at 10:11 am
Hi Lola,
If he really loves you then just let him cool off and be active in improving yourself, so that you can influence the way he thinks about you
Lian
June 21, 2016 at 2:31 pm
Hello mam, i read about your article and i really want to ask for help,
i had my gf we broke up like 1 and 1/2 month ago we were in relationship for 3 months, but it is my first relationship and i really love her so much (we broke up because of constant fighting and she said she doesn’t love me anymore).
I really want to win her back, so i did the no contact rule for 30 days,
Then i pmed her, we had a nice convo after i contacted her, but the day after, she went back on sobbing me, (like not replying to my messages) what shall i do now?
Will i do the no contact rule again? or it is a sign that i really need to give up and move on. I really really love her.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 21, 2016 at 10:26 pm
Hi Lian,
what did you talk about during the first day?
LDR Frustrated
June 20, 2016 at 10:00 pm
Hi! My LDR lasted for 2.5 years and I broke up with him about 3 months ago. He initially was super distraught but I needed time bc I thought his communication issues were due to him not caring. Apparently it was a much bigger issue that he told everyone else about but me. He started seeing another girl a month ago and I (slightly ashamed to admit it) went through the breakup crazies and begged and pleaded for him to take me back. He said he would think about it but it wasn’t easy and told me we would talk but never did. I did the 30 NC and recently made first contact where it was positive and seemed excited to hear from me. He even reached out a couple hours later after I ended the text to tell me about his dog having cancer. I have tried to initiate more each day according to the book but everything seems neutral or polite. Do you think I still have a chance or should I just face the fact it’s over. I deeply love him and he said before he did but he hasn’t mentioned the new girl or started any of the contact except for his pup. This emotional limbo is brutal!
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 22, 2016 at 6:23 am
Hi Ldr frustrated,
have you continued on the topic about the dog? I think you should check this post out: EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend
Lor
June 20, 2016 at 6:15 pm
I broke no contact after I initiated it 7 weeks ago. I guess I felt that if I waited any longer he’d feel more angry. Our situation is unique. We were married, divorced but stayed together for the most part. We also have 3 dogs…anyway, I broke contact by sending a text of a picture I found of him on our wedding day. I was taken back by how handsome he was, I was blown away actually because I had forgotten. So I texted the picture to him a few hours ago and said, ” I just found this today. WOW. Devastatingly handsome.” I haven’t head a word from him. I guess I was trying to tug at his heart strings being our wedding anniversary is in a few days. I probably shouldn’t have broken no contact but since I have now what would you suggest? I have temporarily moved out of state without him, doing pretty well and he knows it. I miss my dogs terribly too but I will do what the experts say regardless of the outcome because now it’s also a matter of self preservation. Thank you for your advice. Waiting patiently to hear it…..
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 21, 2016 at 5:51 am
that’s ok lor.. if you want to visit your dogs, that’s fine with no contact too just be sure that you don’t talk about the relationship and your feelings.. and that you’re active with other things.. with other activities. because it’s purpose is to help you heal but you won’t heal if you’re not doing anything.. You don’t have to be so serious when you meet, you can be nice and civil.. just avoid being too engaging with him..
Nissi
June 19, 2016 at 7:05 pm
Hey!!
Just came across this blog..
My story goes like this..met Charlie through a youth chat group. We are both 26 but he is a few weeks older. We met in person abt four days later and went on our first date (weekend 1). He works out of town so I only got to see him on weekends. On weekend 2 he asked me out and I said yes..first kiss happened…lol. Weekend 3 he came by my flat, we had so much fun, watching movies, dancing till late in the night and he ended up sleeping over but we ddnt have actual sex, we however had oral sex..a lot of it..maybe 3 times. Weekend 4 I ddnt see him, had to travel home for a funeral. Weekend 5 he came into town and strangely decided not to let me know, only to text much later into the night to say he is at a club with friends. I dont go clubbing we were actually meant to meet for a church event but he stood me up and I ended up going alone. I was confused at his behavior, especially since earlier that Sat morning he seemed very eager to be with me; bt I ddnt want to fight. I just expressed my dissapointment via text. On the Sunday morning, he apologised passively via txt saying he wasnt thinking straight. I responded sounding upset and asked when I would see him cz we needed to talk. He just responded that he needed time and tht there was so much pressure on him. I apologised for any aggression and politely asked to see him since I really missed him and needed company being bereaved and all. He politely declined and said ‘he would be in touch and that we could be friends’.
So i have been doing no contact for 7days now. He hasnt budged. He ddnt block me on facebook bt deleted my number from his phone cz I can only see his status but no profile pic or last seen on whatsapp. Am just wondering if this will work since we dated long distance for barely a month. I am still confused at the sudden change in him towards the breakup
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 22, 2016 at 4:01 am
Hi Nissi,
we can’t guarantee that it will work 100% but if you start to textig again.. don’t have oral with him unless he really commits