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Jenny
January 26, 2015 at 7:27 pm
So my ex and I broke up about a month ago. I went on a months holiday straight after it happened. Not because we broke up, it was already planned that I was going. We both kind of broke up with each other but neither of us wanted it to happen. We both cried for so long holding each other in our arms. But it felt like he wanted it more. I said look at us, neither of us want it, why does it have to happen. But he just said he didn’t really know what he wanted. So it ended. He has depression also. So I went on my holiday and began no contact for that month. Well, sometimes I broke it but I stayed strong for the majority. When I spoke to him it was only ever in reply to what he text me I never text him first. Now today we have got talking now that I’m home, and I swallowed my pride (we can both be very stubborn people who don’t like to be the chaser) and sent him a picture of a tree I passed, one that we had carved our names on. Then we got chatting and again, swallowed my pride and asked him how he was, or if he was over me. He said he missed things but tried not to think about any of it. I said I was the same and that I just missed us, he agreed that he did too. He admitted that he hadn’t moved on and I did as well. But now it’s just kind of turned into small talk and I don’t know what to say. I mean, I know I want to know if this is going anywhere, or if he knows he hasn’t gotten over me but he’s in the process and doesn’t want to get back together. What do I say to him? How do I get him to open up his feelings to me first for a change? I don’t want to feel any more rejected than I already do..
admin
January 27, 2015 at 2:38 pm
Your next step really needs to be priming him for a meet up or a date.
abby
January 24, 2015 at 5:33 pm
Hello, my bf and i were together for 2years. well broke up for 6months in the last year. So last month he was like we never got along and never will and broke up with me, and accused me of talking too much to another guy friend etc. I, like most women, was crying and begging at first but at one point I stopped. After I stopped talking to him he texted me “u ok” a few times and i ignored them, I then asked him “why do you contact me” and he was just like “got it.” 3days ago he texted “sorry I was so hard to get along with…” I replied “thanks”. No contact ever since. I think I’m gonna stick to NC this time…it’s not easy and these days I always wake up depressed.. even had dreams about us making up then woke up sad.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:26 pm
Definitely stick to NC!
Maria
January 24, 2015 at 2:17 pm
HI,
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We met through mutual friends and then I got his number texted him and we took off from there. We would talk everyday sometimes all day. Naturally this died down however it is in fact a long distance relationship so daily contact sometimes three times a day felt justified. Fast forward to two and a half months into our relationship where his friends from out of town come to visit. Naturally I expected communication to drop even though he convinced me it wouldn’t and made an earnest effort to keep up. However at this time he also had the cold and he also suffers from asthma (something I did not know till after our fight), so he was sick like a dog. When we talked I was starting to be the one to initiate conversations when he used to all the time and he would be more matter-of-fact about what he said and wasn’t being affectionate or using affectionate turns as he usually does. This went on for a few days and by then I had thought his cold was easing up and that he was getting the rest he was supposed instead of partying all night every night with his friends. So I asked him what was up why did he seem different and distant what was really wrong. He brushed it off basically, said it was the cold, said he was tired and going to bed and we would talk tomorrow. By this time I was really upset, he had just stayed up all night talking to his friend in his room and then wants to tell me he can’t talk? So I messaged him a bunch of times and then eventually i blocked him. He got so mad he messaged me back finally in the morning and said I was immature. I tried calling during the day but he didn’t answer. I messaged him an apology but he still didn’t reply. Long story short we finally do talk and after I apologize and he says he forgives me but he just wants to be friends. I spend the entire morning presenting him an argument as to why that won’t fix our issues. He agrees and outlines ways to fix these issues and we reach a consensus. He says when we both get angry to give each other space, to respect his feelings and he will respect mine instead of me expecting him to feel how I feel and for me to stop assuming what he means when he says something but to clarify with him. These are not issues I was aware of during our relationship he just brought them up after along with other misunderstandings I had to clear up. Basically our entire relationship we text message each other so miscommunication is an issue. I tell him thats why I rather talk on the phone but he doesn’t comply. Said that he can’t always talk when I want to so I said ok well just let me know when you can and I’ll wait till then. All in all we had a normal convo after that about his favourite movie and everything seemed fine. Next day I send him a few photos of landscapes he likes and we have brief talk but dont speak for the rest of the day. The next day he texts me to enjoy my day and again we don’t speak. Now it’s been 6 days. I haven’t reached out to him because it feels like I keep doing that and this time I’d give him his space to come to me when he is ready but I don’t know how long that may be. Plus I’m confused because I thought everything was ok but I don’t want to derail that by not contacting him however I also don’t want to ruin it by contacting him. I’m in between a rock and a hard place what do I do? I know he has been online and sees when i’m online and change my pic and my status but still neither of us say anything to each other. Is it over? His status last said to move forward we need to find the reasons why we fell in love but I haven’t looked at it since then because I didn’t wanna break and contact him or obsess over it. So six days, no contact, what do I do?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:23 pm
You are six days into NC.
Well, you have a ways to go.
Michelle
January 24, 2015 at 2:55 am
Hi Chris, so my ex and I had a bad argument 1 day ago and neither of us really “broke up” with each other. He left angry, and I told him not to come back.After about 8 hours I texted him and let him know how I felt about the situation and he replied with one word answers. So I just gave up and told him he clearly doesn’t want to be bother and that I tried to be cordial and he kind of jokingly replied with a joke lol. Since then we haven’t spoken, and he is flirting on social media already, and acting as if he does not care at all. I am fully prepared to give him his space, but it is hard. I have already caught him “lurking” on my snapchat and such. What do you suggest I do as far as communication? Because I have a feeling he will contact me soon being I feel as though I was really the one to initiate the breakup.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:48 pm
So, the breakup just kind of happened?
Has he blocked you on texts or something?
Michelle
January 26, 2015 at 4:32 pm
It happened during the argument. And no he hasn’t blocked me on anything but he did text me yesterday saying that he wanted me to know that it was hard for him and that I hurt him. He wants to meet up today and Idk what to do..
Lee
January 23, 2015 at 11:48 pm
ok..im a guy. Im in my late 30’s, I met a woman,33, we dated for 1 1/2 months. she broke up after one night when I asked to sleep w/her, I got upset and left. the next day she sd it was over. I tried to get her back w b.s. I luv u texts. she blocked me from fb and phone. I went by her brothers work to c how she been, her new bf then called n sd to stop. I love this woman and she said she felt it too. please help
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:39 pm
Hi Lee!
By any chance have you checked out my other website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, It’s dedicated to men trying to get their girlfriends back. I think that would be a better fit for you.
taylor
January 22, 2015 at 2:18 am
I dated my boyfriend for three years and we have a baby together. We actually got engaged the Christmas before last and we have lived together almost the whole time. Then he got a job working out if town and to make a long story short he moved in with a girl who he met at his new job but never told me I just had to find out myself. He was still coming home at least once a month but he wouldn’t be physical with me. He still get jealous over me and he will still tell me he loves me from time to time. We’ve gotten into fights since I found out but he never says anything about her nor does he defend her. I tried the no contact rule anx he is trying to call more. I try not to talk to him at all and when I do I keep it about the child except yesterday he finally said I want to talk about you. I have not heard from him today. But keep in my mind I did not deserve this I was good to him. I just want to get my family back. Help please.
admin
January 22, 2015 at 5:00 pm
How long total have you been implementing NC on him?
Hlengiwe
January 9, 2015 at 3:20 am
Me and my ex broke up a Year in 2014 Feb, he soon moved on after 2months..I stayed Single for 6 months. Then in September he saw me@the club with my new boyfriend and that made him angry the way he looked @me. October I broke up with the Guy coz I still loved my ex whome I didn’t talk to but jst bumped @each other @the malls n all. End of Nov I was admitted in hospital for Depression and the Ex I want back came to visit me bt we didn’t talk and then in Decemba I text him he didn’t reply or replyed with one word. Today is the 30th day for NC bt I don’t know wt to text to him Please help
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:28 pm
You should have been preparing a text message during NC.
It has to be so interesting that he will be forced to respond.
Have you tried the i have a confession text?
mina
January 8, 2015 at 9:29 pm
i moved to Canada from Iran 10 months ago, back home i had a boyfriend of 9 months who i really loved but we could not handle the long distance relationship so we came to the agreement that each of us lives their life and there is no commitment anymore, but still we texted like once in a week(mostly me), we did not call or anything and we both knew there is nothing so called as a’ relationship” between us, but i have to admit the content of texts were i miss you, i love you and… no need to mention that i was completely broken since i immigrated to a new country, left my home and all my friends as well as planning for some important exams to enter university which all my career here depends on it, so i met a guy who physically i had no attraction for him like he was so short not good looking and….., but he was really a great guy he treated me perfectly and at the same time not in a needy way, interestingly i was sexually attracted to him! so we slept together and started a relationship, i just wanted it physical but i did not dare to tell him this and the sex was wonderful! i talked to him after i felt its getting more and more emotional that i was not ready for a relationship we did not talk for a few days but we got back together again, we both got emotional and the relationship went deeper it was not only the sex anymore, however down there i was always like: i am not gonna stay with this guy, he is not the perfect guy i want,i do not know what im going to do in future,im not even setteled down in this country, i have this very important things that i have to figure out first..why am i doing this….i event did not tell anybody about the relation ship we had and kept it to my self even my best friend thought he has a crush on me but im not into him which was completely not true! meanwhile there was a guy among my friends who was perfect exactly what i was looking for i tend to be a really perfectionist and i thought yes if i want to marry someone its going to be him, but when it came to feelings i honestly did not have any feelings for him, i told this second guy,that i want no relationship and i was not over my ex yet,he admited and did not push me but anyhow we continued seening each other because he was also one of my friends so you can emagin the situation!, and now i was in a big trouble! i was sleeping with some one a had feelings for who is so great and even loved him but i was not sure if he was someone i wanted to stay with for ever and i was also dating(and even making out) another guy who i thought had all these ideal things i wanted… i felt like an asshole, like a bitch! i have never felt worse about my self in my life, i hate my self! but i did not dare to change this i have this very important exam i have been planning for my entire life!…. so he(the first guy) felt i was not acting normal he asked me about it i told i was ok he asked me if i am still talking to my ex bf in Iran i told him the truth i said yes we still text sometimes but we are not in a relationship anymore… so yesterday after sleeping with him he took my phone went to the bathroom and secretly read my texts to my ex boyfriend which was all i miss you i still think of you i wish you were here… so he got really mad at me we fighted he said i was a lying bitch( he did not find out about the other guy who i was secretly also flirting with,because i had deleted all his texts, which in case he did i am sure he would have killed me) so he broke up with me and told me he never ever wants to talk to me and see me. so here i am missing him so badly, my exam is in 2 months i cant even study! i hate my self and i admit that i was an asshole,i am completely broken and i want him back… what do you think? what should i do? should i move on or gain him back?what should i do to the second guy? am i going completely crazy?
jessica
December 22, 2014 at 6:55 pm
Ok so my boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago we have been in contact even hangout and sleep over but this last week he kind of changed again he started to withdrawal and told me that if I didn’t get it after two months that I was stupid and then he told me he would hang out after two weeks that the holidays were over since his uncle would come over so I tried the cn for 4 days expecting him to text back but didn’t at all so I did and got no reply till today when I sent him a text saying good afternoon how’s your day going his response was fine he has told me the reason why he broke up with me was because I was too needy but the when he needs something he will ask me and I’m always there he says I need to get my own life and that he doesn’t want to be with me but yet has his stuff at my place his phone under my name and knows we still have to see each other for the phone bill I feel he does love me but he is just to immature to handle the work in a relationship he then he will put me down all the time I don’t know I get hot and cold moments with him I’m confused I want him back I love him
admin
December 23, 2014 at 3:09 pm
Have you attempted the NC rule at all?
Samantha
December 10, 2014 at 4:15 pm
I have been known to sleep text. I sent a text to a friend of mine who is the roomie to my ex bf. It said some serious stuff that I never would say in real life. My man broke up with me because of this. He now says he cannot see having a relationship with me ever again. Yet he’s asked me to sleep with him, and checks my profile on certain websites I’m on. Please help I wan him back and I’m at a loss.
admin
December 15, 2014 at 5:03 am
Sleep text…
I can honestly say I have never heard of that before.
He says he wants to sleep with you though?
Olivia
December 10, 2014 at 1:20 am
Hello! Me and my ex broke up few months ago. I did the no contact rule two times already. I got to see him or his friends. When in person he’s nice and we can laugh in a group of friends. I tried texting him but he always responds with one word. So I waited a month again and messaged him today about the tattoo salon that we spoke about yesterday. Conversation was him sending one word answers again and then he said “I’m done talking.” I don’t really know what to think or what to do next? He blocked me off social media around 1/2 months ago. Do you have any ideas on what could I do? Please help 🙁
admin
December 10, 2014 at 3:39 pm
Are you blocked from texting or email or thing slike that?
Olivia
December 10, 2014 at 4:29 pm
No I’m not blocked of things like that. If I messaged him he would reply because it’s usually me asking him a question about something. But he replies with one word or cuts it out like he did I yesterday “I’m done talking.” Or another time is not gonna reply. I don’t harras him with texts. Just when needed and with a reason.
admin
December 15, 2014 at 5:04 am
Hmm… He doesn’t trust you enough yet to have a regular conversation. We need to find a way to get you back on that level.
Olivia
December 15, 2014 at 2:31 pm
So should I keep it low? Like just official messages with wishes for Christmas and new years Eve? Or do you have any other idea?
CM
December 9, 2014 at 4:23 am
Hi Chris, I’d really appreciate your help on this one. Since I tend to ramble I put little labels before each section so you be the judge haha btu I’d really appreciate if you could at least read the dilemma/question part. And when I say I need help… I’ve been typing drafts, hovering the “send” button, and then deleting pretty much all day and I literally just don’t know what to do. So please help me! Thank you so much!
BACKGROUnD (just on us, you might not need to know this): My ex and I were together 1 and a half years, but now have been broken up for about 6 months now… but it still sucks everyday. We broke up bc he’s from South America and was here only for college.. we knew the day would come that he’d have to move back, but since we were so in love (I even went there last summer to visit and meet his family), he seemed ready to do anything to make it work.. and we were already looking at arrangements for me to move there. But then… a few months before college graduation he froze.. and started acting really cold (very unlike him), and then about month before it he broke up with me. After about 10 days, we started hanging out again and studying together and got dinner/coffee, etc… and had soo many talk/cry sessions about everything. So he admitted that it was all just “too much” for him, too much pressure etc when he didn’t even know what he was doing with his life and needed to figure it all out. So I know he still had feelings for me, they just weren’t strong enough to “fight everything and make it all work out” anymore…
DILEMMA (I totally messed up!):
We’ve been texting back and forth periodically since he moved back… like every 2 weeks ish. The problem is we’re both trying so hard to just be “chill” about it all that we (or me, at least) just end up saying something random and/or totally not funny. So his response sometimes feels forced, like he just doesn’t wanna be a jerk.. But he does always responds nicely and usually involved. But I realized that lately even if he responds I’m always the one that sparks up the convo. About 3 weeks ago (right before I realized that) I texted him something light and funny about what was our favorite TV show to watch together, an inside joke kind of. He responded sounding more fun and interested than usual, so that was good and for once in several months the conversation ended well; like I was certain that he responded not just out of politeness, but because he wanted to and found it funny. I had left a good taste in his mouth– so then a week after that, he suddenly for the first time in a while, texted me on his own saying “Hey! Hope you’re having a good week, enjoy the rest of it” I responded short n’ sweet, and that was good. I told myself I wouldn’t text him again until he texted me.
HERE IS WHERE I TOTALLY BOMBED IT:
My mom’s friend was here visiting only a few days after he texted me (up there^ )and a you-had-to-be-there funny story came up… for WHATEVER reason I felt it a good idea to text it to him, but without making it too long… so it basically just came out confusing and slightly inappropriate maybe?? (which really isn’t “me” at all… so that was already embarrassing the minute I pushed send…) But then it got worse because he didn’t understand the joke and responded with something totally irrelevant. So it just went back and forth with me trying to explain the joke and also express my embarrassment for the way it came out… one text after another, I just couldn’t recover!! So it all ended with him saying “ohhh” etc how he felt so dumb and then he said “my bad”, and then me saying (and please, spare me the laughter, I’m literally embarrassed just repeating it) but: “Well I’m just glad I’m not the only one in the dumb department!” and then I said “Our bads!” with the iphone’s little 2 fingers symbol for a peace sign. OUR BADS PEACE SIGn!? And he never responded. Oh and as if the text itself wasn’t bad enough, he probably thinks that my response of him joining me in the department (lol) was in regards to how I felt dumb during the original story with my mom’s friend— Instead, I really wanted to acknowledge the fact that I know the story wasn’t appropriate for any old person, it’s only something I’d ever tell him and for a split second I forgot that “we” are no longer as we used to be… I don’t want him to think I turned all crude lol. Anyways besides the point! (kind of, read on pleaseee 🙂
My original gut feeling told me that yes, no matter how embarrassing it was, don’t be the first one to text yet again… don’t want to be a text gnat.. especially not after that ha.. But he still hasn’t texted me back and it’s been 2 weeks… and everytime I see that stupid peace sign as our most recent words just sitting there in our whatsapp chat, I think about the mortifying conversation that also accompanied it.. and can’t help but feel that I left a bad taste in his mouth… maybe even ruined any good that came from the conversation before that, which he responded with lots of hahaha’s and remember, it also led him to text me on his own a few days after that. I’m scared the bad taste from this past super-embarrassing convo(and also remember that he also said he felt dumb in it.. soo, that could also likely be a negative association..) which might be causing him to not miss me and not want to text me first again…
QUESTIOn AKA YOU’RE THE EXPERT not me!
So is it better not to text him and wait for him to (whenever that may be) but leave the taste (and plain-sight evidence) of that bad convo….. Or should I just text him first yet again to try and get that bad taste out of his mouth and maybe ideally leave him with the same feelings that he had after the good cute funny text a few weeks ago. ?? And if I should text him, should it be something in regards to all that, like addressing the elephant in the room (I’d obviously try to do it in a humorous way… but i’m not sure I should drag it on any longer ha)? Or no something else, but yes text him?
admin
December 9, 2014 at 1:35 pm
I am a fan of texting first after the no contact rule.
CM
December 9, 2014 at 10:26 pm
Okay, you don’t see it as sort of text-gnaty? And you think him responding every time (even though he’s never the initiator, and sometimes he’s even the one to end the convo by not replying last) isn’t him just being nice/polite… But actually a good thing?
It just seems like we’ve been going through this for so long now.. 2-ish weeks of nothing, then a random funny or “how’ve you been” text… and then it dies off.. And it just feels like I’m sort of on a treadmill. And since the initiating effort feels so one-sided, I sometimes wonder if I just never texted him again would he just… never text me? I wasn’t sure if I’m just not getting the hint I’m supposed to be getting or if this is actually sort of good.
I should mention that I guess I never did the entire 30 days nc, But I did go a few weeks… and now I still go in little 10 day intervals. not sure if that counts and/or makes a difference. I kind of wanted to commit to it now entirely actually… but wasn’t sure if I should clear our that bad taste of the embarrassing text FIRST so he doesn’t remember me that way for the next 30 days.??
CM
December 13, 2014 at 12:46 am
Okay well then…. Even we just assume I’ll be the one next texting him next/first (a few weeks after the really embarrassing/dumb/I wish I could just delete somehow delete from his phone!) conversation. Should I jokingly address how awkward/embarrassing that last convo was, so that he doesn’t think I think it was just totally normal and funny (?) …. or should I just start fresh?
I know that sounds like a dumb question… but I’m still so used to him being my best friend that it’s hard for me to step back and be “less-close” or transparent with him…. and it feels like if I don’t, I just keep making silly random fluffy comments which sometimes make I’m laugh but other times just make me feel like this. so stupid.
tania
December 9, 2014 at 3:48 am
me and my boyfriend were going out for 2 weeks i noticed his ex came back to our school and a day after that he stared getting weird, like not
admin
December 9, 2014 at 1:34 pm
Are you still together?
tania
December 11, 2014 at 2:11 am
no, he cheated on me with her i found out by text saying that he was telling her he still over her and then i asked he said no and i moved on until a friend sent me a picture of them kissing at her house the same day we hung out he text me saying that he didn’t know if we were going to work i replied by saying they deserved each other and to have a nice life later realizing that i still love him not knowing what to do. They never went out after that because of trust issues between them he is currently single and hasn’t had a girlfriend since our break up about 3 weeks ago.
tania
December 12, 2014 at 3:26 am
its been about 3 weeks since we broke up and today him and his wonderful ex are back together what do i do
Lissy
December 9, 2014 at 12:23 am
So he contacted me on day 30, texting me a text that a shirt reminded him of me, so i waited till the next morning to respond. I then waited a couple days and said something like it hurts to not have you in my life, he said honestly he missed me but his life was too crazy for a girlfriend. I said i didnt understand but want him to be happy, and he said he wanted me to be happy but just didnt know how to do that right now. I then stopped the conversation. I wished him a happy thanksgiving saying I was thankful for him, and he responded he was very thankful for that too. I havent texted him in over two weeks… I dont know what to say next? Should i try the “remember this one time” text or should I try the “this reminded me of you text”????
admin
December 9, 2014 at 1:30 pm
Wow, day 30.
Remember the one time text.
Lissy
December 9, 2014 at 8:37 pm
Then what? If I start small talk, then wont he think that I am just trying to be his friend?
admin
December 10, 2014 at 3:27 pm
Usually you want to cut off the conversation at the high point to leave him wanting more.
Lissy
December 11, 2014 at 10:56 pm
So I texted him about a time to remember specifically about a time I felt lucky sitting next to him because someone said he looked like a famous actor, he laughed and responded with a question asking if I had seen his new movie, I said yes but then ended the conversation. He wished me luck with finals. I just feel like he is getting the idea I just want to be friends or I am just reaching out to be friends… even though he knows i miss him… but I just dont know how to break him out of the idea that he thinks he can’t handle his life and a gf… how do i get him to rethink that???
Sheila
December 5, 2014 at 4:47 pm
Hi Chris,
I feel so confused and scared …I texted my ex after 3 months of NO CONTACT and he never responded.
I have been in no contact for almost 3 months now in order to work on myself and also to get my ex back. It was really hard but i did and i felt like I can now just send him a light friendly text to see how he’s doing..I msged him “hey its been awhile..I hope thing are well with you and your new job.” He didn’t reply but he’s been online on Fb several times since i sent him that message. It’s been over 24 hours now, no response ( he hasn’t opened my msg according to iphone)
I feel horrible..I went on NC in order to get him back i still love this man..I don’t know what it means..does it mean that he needs more time to get back to me? or he doesn’t care anymore?
admin
December 8, 2014 at 12:39 pm
3 months is pretty extreme to be hoest.
I just recommend it for 30 days.
What was the exact message you sent him?
Alice
December 4, 2014 at 3:44 am
The two months my boyfriend and I were together, he treated me like I was everything to him. He was amazing, so good and kind to me. As the weeks went on, I tried to bring my best to our relationship, by being supportive and kind to him, but still giving him his space when he needed it. After a few more weeks though, he very suddenly became distant. He called me up, and we talked, and he was confused and we should take it easy for a while. I was heartbroken, but I held myself together and agreed that was the right thing to do (though it killed me to do so). We broke up. Its been a couple of weeks, but I’m not sure what to do. He has sent me one or two texts checking up on me, and has made a few subtle comments that I believe imply that after our period of “calming things down for a while” things for us will magically go back to normal–like he’s waiting for me and believes I’m sitting here waiting for him. It may or may not mean that, I’m not sure… True, I miss him a ton, but we broke up, so I’ve gone on a few dates with other men and tried to prepare myself to move on, because I know that is a very real possibility that we will never recover from this “break”. My heart still aches for him, but I’m confused at the same time, and after thinking it through, I am trying to decide if I should even get back together with him if the opportunity presents itself. But….if I did end up being the “first texter” like you talked about in your article… how do I know if he really misses me or is interested at all? What sorts of things will men say back to you if they are interested or miss you?
admin
December 4, 2014 at 1:31 pm
Youll know from the way they text you.
They will flat out tell you they miss you or all your texts will be of a positive nature.
Alice
December 4, 2014 at 3:50 am
(And like I said, he has only shot me a text once or twice, and I have never been the first one to text him. And I haven’t really replied much the once or twice he has sent me a text…)
meriem
December 1, 2014 at 9:25 pm
hey chris i’m so confused i texted my ex after doing no contact for 2 months but he didn’t respond what should i do now !!!!!
admin
December 2, 2014 at 2:50 pm
What did you tex thim?
meriem
December 3, 2014 at 11:17 am
i told him that i will leauve my work this week but he didn’t respond and yestrday i sent him another msg i said can i add you on facebook he didn’t respond so i lost hope and sent him another msg sayin that i think that he want nothing to do with me and it’s okey i just wanted to be friends but if he didn’t want to it’s okey and i said good bye.after 5 mn he called me saying that it’s okey and that he didn’t saw the msg and he was like laughing like he was we talked on the the phone for 10 mn it was al laughing and good .but when he hung up i was thinking he didn’t got upset when i said we will stay friend if that was okey with him it means he has no feeling for me what do you think chris i’m so confused!!!!!!
meriem
December 2, 2014 at 9:31 am
no he just answer me but it’s a cold answer he just said thanks for the msg i hope you’r doing fine too gd night that’s it i think he want’s me to beg him now doesn’t he !!!!!! i can not do that plzzz chris tell me what to do now.i’m feeling really bad cause i think he has another one
Cris
December 1, 2014 at 9:12 pm
So my ex wants to give things another shot (after three weeks of almost complete NC – I didn’t know about your website when I was doing it) but wants to take things slowly. We are long distance and, I’ll be honest, I’m not sure he’s completely committed to giving things another shot. He’s always ambiguous about what he wants. I’m trying to “play it cool” but honestly, I’m at the point that I want to just play hard to get. Sounds bad, huh? Basically I don’t know what I should respond when he texts “thinking about you” or “I love you”… because normally I would say those things back but right now I still feel like I’m needing to work on getting him to commit or really be back in this completely. Hopefully that makes sense… any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.
admin
December 2, 2014 at 2:50 pm
Read the long distance articles first.
Victoria Liew
December 1, 2014 at 3:19 pm
My boyfriend and I dated for 8 months and he broke up with me a month ago. However, the first time we broke up, I begged him to stay and he agreed. But 5 days later, he broke up with me again. This time I could not beg him or what so ever because he blocked me from whatsapp, twitter, instagram, etc. I want to text him again but I just don’t know when is the right time, because my friends told me not to but I just want to text him to see if he is doing well. I don’t mind if we stay as friends, I’m not asking for a relationship but do you think I should wait longer before I text him? like maybe 2-4 months?
admin
December 2, 2014 at 2:24 pm
30 days is typical so one month.
Kelly
November 29, 2014 at 12:19 am
In a very complicated situation:
My boyfriend of 9 months recently decided that it’s best for us to stop dating because we are holding each other back from meeting new people. We are both in college and have lived with each other for about three years with two other roommates since our freshmen year of college. What makes this complicated is that he liked me back in 10th grade but I was not interested. We’ve been best friends ever since and getting into a relationship with him the past year made me feel like the happiest girl. Everything was going well and about two weeks ago we were just casually talking about the future and he tells me he doesn’t want to lose me, but later that day and the rest of the week he brings up the idea of finding the one and us not dating in college could maybe validate if we are meant for each other if we still have the same feelings after graduation. The weekend we broke up and went back to our hometown, he kept calling and texting me and I tried my best to not reply. Now during thanksgiving break he’s in another state visiting relatives and I can’t help but think about us. He tells me he loves me and cares for me and that this decision is the best for us and how everything will be okay.
It just confuses me as to how someone can say they love and care for you but want to go out and meet other people. I honestly don’t care if he stays out late at night and hangs out with people as I trust his intentions and not to cross boundaries.
We have to face each other as we make our way back to school to finish the semester and I just wish that this is some phase.
admin
December 1, 2014 at 3:27 pm
You are better than most women. Most women wouldn’t trust their man out alone.
Have you done NC? Or are you planning on doing NC?
Kelly
November 29, 2014 at 12:26 am
I also dropped him off at the airport but a few hours before we left I ignored him and he was asking why and if anything was wrong. He said he didn’t want to feel bad going on this trip. After I dropped him off I called him to wish him a safe trip and the “I love you, babe” slipped out and he replied “love you too, everything is going to be okay”.
I don’t know if he’s just saying this because there’s nothing else to say or if he truly does still love me back. I’ve asked him if he still does the week before and he said yes and everytime he still kisses me on my head and is still touchy feely as if we didn’t break up