Exactly How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Lily

February 7, 2015 at 1:34 am

I text my ex and he reply who is this. I don’t know what to do.

admin

February 9, 2015 at 3:56 pm

Reply with what?

MiMi

February 6, 2015 at 5:18 pm

My boyfriend and I split up last August. He broke things off with me and decided he never wanted to speak to me again. Two weeks later he had involved himself with a married woman. I left him alone until he began contacting me again. He sent 2 emails, several texts to see if our daughters could have a play date, and called me twice. Finally I caved and him and I reminisced. He told me he still loved me. I asked about the married woman and he informed me that she moved in with him and is now divorcing her husband. I still love this man and never intended a breakup. He is with her and still reaching out to me. We even had sex 2 weeks ago. I dislike him and her so much that I told her. She got mad with him and they patched things up. Now he’s back to not speaking to me again. I feel awful. Is this relationship too far gone?

admin

February 9, 2015 at 3:48 pm

Is this the same married woman that lives two hours away?

Or was that another situation I answered today?

MiMi

February 6, 2015 at 4:46 pm

My boyfriend and I split last August. He told me he never wanted to speak to me again. Almost 2 weeks after we split he started seeing a married woman. She lived about 2 hours away and has now relocated to our area. She is going through the divorce process, they live together, and are obviously in a relationship. Even though I haven’t been in touch with him he has called twice, text me numerous times, and even showed up at my home on my birthday. Finally I responded 2 weeks ago after months of him contacting me. He told me he still loved me and is still in love with me. He said he’s not happy with her, just at peace. Peace is something we rarely had. We had sex. I hate the idea of this other girl so much that I told her. Now he is back to not speaking to me…again. At this point I’m disappointed in myself. I should have never slept with him. I still love and miss him. Why is he cutting me off again? Was he only interested in sex?

admin

February 9, 2015 at 3:46 pm

So, he is two hours away from him?

Lupen

February 6, 2015 at 11:10 am

My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago out of the blue. Last time he spoke to me exept that was about five months ago. i havnt talked to him for three days and im trying the NC. Since we broke up ive… kinda hurt him a bit… i was just mad because he had no reason whatsoever to break up with me!! he didnt say why and it just happened. I still want him back tho. help??

admin

February 6, 2015 at 2:37 pm

How have you “kind of hurt him?”

shubhali

February 6, 2015 at 7:46 am

aftr a month i am texting him abt our old memories sweet good Morning msgs… but he is not rplyng
wht to do???

ha i havn’t texted any genral msg… i was even willing to cal him
but not sure he’ll pik it or not… 🙁 plz help
Lily

February 6, 2015 at 1:33 am

When you text your ex for the very first time what kind of things can you bring up? Like stuff that they used to like and whatever, memories about them? The example kind of confuses me.

admin

February 6, 2015 at 2:22 pm

Usually you want to build things up a bit more before you do that.

When you first bring up you want to bring up positive memories but nothing controversial (like the breakup.)

aj

February 5, 2015 at 8:38 pm

My ex and i ended our relationship pretty much deciding to be friends weighting more so on his side. Right now i havent so much applied the NCR but have been very short with him in a polite way and responding in a non timey manner. Thing is idk if i can just cut him off because i had already done this. Will what im doing still be effective? I really want him to realize the things he did wrong and that i am worth all the things i feel i deserve. Since ive been doing this he always texts and now is calling showing up at places close to where i am. Whats your advice?

admin

February 6, 2015 at 2:11 pm

Well, you kind of can’t half do the no contact rule…

So… ya.

MissT

February 5, 2015 at 10:50 am

hello Chris
i broke up with my ex boyfriend about 2 and half months ago and i did no contact for 30days and i started following your steps of texting him about a month ago.The good thing is he does reply my texts positively but the problem is everytym i send a text about our memories and great tyms we had he doesnt respond no matter which angle i come from but he does respond to general staff well.What should i do?
Tony

February 5, 2015 at 12:39 am

My girlfriend and I were very happy early this year for me but she went to the hospital and the doctor told her she had a complicated pregnancy It condition is called ectopic pregnancy.So she told her mum and they remove it same day.she didn’t talk to me and I tried call her that same day but she didn’t pick my call so I leave for 3 weeks and called and we talk but I didn’t mention it and she didn’t too.But since them if I didn’t check on her she won’t bother but when I do she will respond.Now am confused what should I do.I want to know if I should stop contacting her,I don’t know if we are still dating or not.She never Check on me but when I do,She will respond.Kindly advice

admin

February 5, 2015 at 3:28 pm

Please check out my other site, Ex Girlfriend Recovery. Its more applicable to your situation than this one.

lesleigh

February 4, 2015 at 3:15 pm

Hi Chris
My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago.we were together 4 years.we had a huge argument and I said horrible things out of anger. I went to his place of work begging for forgiveness.after that I have not heard anything all he could say was its over. I miss him terribly and there are times when I wanna text him to tell him how much I miss him.do you think he will ever come back to me?

admin

February 5, 2015 at 3:03 pm

You should do NC and if you keep doing what you are doing…. no

Like I said go into NC.

Jay

February 4, 2015 at 7:07 am

Hi Christ!
I was reading this but still confuse.
I broke off with him 3days ago (he could not be more commit to me) and start to go NC immediatly after I told him and his respond was he understand and that’s the end. Part of me knows that we will still be friend. I think one of my mistake is that it was not the first time i told him that and we always got back together with the same situation.

So i decided to cut him off but part of me still wants him back. And now he text me and ask how am i doing? What should i do? Should i still follow NC rules and reply him after 30days? Or should I reply back in few hours? What should i do?

admin

February 4, 2015 at 2:27 pm

Lol its chris not christ!

Though if you think I am the son of god I am cool with that 😉 .

Yes, follow the NC rules.
Jay

February 5, 2015 at 7:24 am

Lol sorry about the mistake. But thank you!

MJ

February 4, 2015 at 2:42 am

Hi Chris. My boyfriend and I broke up 3 days ago. I was terribly shocked since we did not have any issues before that would lead to break up. We have been together for 2 years and it was “you and me against the world” relationship. our families are against us because we are second cousins. we have been through ups and downs despite our families trying to stop our relationship. His family is trying to blackmail him by disowning him or giving their company to charity. He’s pressured by his parents to be like this and like that. Not only for the church but for the company as well. We cried and begged for their approval. I mean, this is not a typical love story. He is my crush and eventually, we fell inlove. He is just the man I prayed for. All the things I want in a guy, it was him! We both gave our utmost effort and loved each other sincerely. What makes it difficult is that we are churchmates. I sing and play piano, he plays guitar. I see him every weekends. Now, i do not know what to do. He is not the typical guy. He is too sweet, tame and good to be true. He never cheated on me. He never failed to do romantic stuffs. He texts and updates me every now and then. I mean, he is perfect for me. Unfortunately, I was not able to appreciate him doing those stuff. Last December 2014, I got attached with other guy and started ignoring my boyfriend. So I lost attraction to him. But this January 2015, I realized that I still love him. He is my home. No matter what I do, I always come back to him. 🙁

What will I do now? I’m lost. He says he does not love me anymore, that he can’t see his future with me. All those things he said were contrary do the things he kept on saying for the time we were together. I do not know if he’s trying to hurt me intentionally for me to give up. My friends and relatives could not believe the reasons he said. It’s impossible and too shallow. Before, he cannot say “no” to me. I’m his everything. But, things changed 360 degrees!

What will I do? He’s just different and I do not know whether to believe his reasons of breaking up because I know he is never like that or just to simply give. But it just feels so weird. I know there’s something more to it. Help me 🙁

admin

February 4, 2015 at 2:23 pm

What was his reason for the breakup exactly?
MJ

February 6, 2015 at 12:11 am

He keeps on saying that he does not love me anymore, that he can’t sacrifice his future because of me (his reputation for the company and church might be affected if the people will know his in a relationship with his second cousin). He even said I’m not a girlfriend material (it’s the first time). I mean, everything he said was the complete opposite of what he keeps on saying for 2 years. I just could not believe it. I can see in his eyes, he’s lying and I know there’s a big reason to it. I just do not know whether to hold on or simply give up 🙁 I just love him

ren

February 3, 2015 at 5:24 pm

Hi i am 21 yr old. I am currently working as a teacher. i met this guy 4 yrs back we were goin on good.It was always us no friends o any 3rd person with us, so i was use to him and his time as we use to meet everyday n we use to spend most of our time together. after 3 yrs of our relationship he had to move out to another place for his studies which was a bit far from my place coz of which we use to meet less like once a week n den it became once in 2 weeks n so on. so to keep myself busy i joint some group n started making new friends. slowly i n my guy lost contact as he din have his phone with him.. so coz i din get enough time from him i started falling for this guy whom i met in the group as i use to meet him most of the time and v use to talk everyday n i started dating him and i ignored my ex wen he came back I IGNORED HIM COMPLETELY. and den i realized after 4 months that wat i was doin was wrong this is not the guy i loved. i am with him only coz i din get time from the one i loved.. and that’s wen i told him n i broke up with him.. i went back to my ex met him told him that m sorry n explained him everything and i wanted him back he did come back but it was not like before he kept telling me ‘HE NEEDS TIME’ but i tried my best to get him back in all ways n i think my msgs n calls use to irritate him n so he blocked me.. after 11th of jan 2015 i’ve stopped talking to him he din try to contact me nor did i n that’s how its going on but i still want him back n i really need ur help on how can i get him back.

admin

February 4, 2015 at 2:04 pm

Has he tried contacting you ata ll during this time?
ren

February 4, 2015 at 4:17 pm

just poked me on facebook but as i was angry i blocked him n den again unblocked after a week since den no contact. wat to do?
ren

February 7, 2015 at 5:03 pm

hey chris please help me wat to do

Coco

February 3, 2015 at 12:32 pm

Hello i need your favor. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He gave me everything. Love money and attention. But yeah it was my fault. I never appreciated him until he says he wanted some time and space. I begged him and pleaded him last year. We took time off for a month. Everything was fine. We had a long distance relationships and he was really busy with his works. He is a politician and really occupied with work. Sometimes i didnt understanding enough and demanding his attention. We have talked last night and decided to take things slowly and wanted me to be independent and get matured. I was needy clingy and so emotional about everything. Insecurities kills me. We have talked about this and we will only be back to normal relationship if i have resolved my personal issues. And we will be back together on this coming June though. But he still contact me sometimes, but as not as before we used to be. He wants me to focus on my life. What should I do now? Should i just wait or was this just an excuse for him to slip away from my life? I even asked him if he has somebody else but he refuses. He said wanna sorts things out and we will talk about out relationship on June though. What really matters now is focusing on life. Does he still love me? Please I need some advice.
SAM

February 3, 2015 at 7:16 am

Ok Chris. I have started the NC rule, but my boyfriend initially claimed that our relationship put him in a depression and later retracted his statement saying it was just a “funk” — he said this to me in person when I had to get all of my things from him. We had a wonderful 8 months together and our problems started out of no where mostly because it seemed uninterested and was angry all of the time for no real reason. I know now that he initially cut me off physically/intimately and then cut me off emotionally without really giving a reason. I am just wondering how to approach this situation after no contact has ended. He means the world to me, while other might view the situation as hopeless I know what we meant to each other. I know I could find someone new but I don’t want to, I know that he was it for me.

Any reassurance will help tremendously. I haven’t looked at his FB/LinkedIn anything since the 20th which was the last time I reached out to him, albeit sounding kinda of pathetic and desperate with the “i miss you, i want to see you’s”.

admin

February 3, 2015 at 1:40 pm

Well, how long have you been in NC for?

marie

February 2, 2015 at 9:25 pm

My boyfriend of over three years broke up with me one week ago today. He stumbled in drunk and told that me that it was over. Needless to say, I was in shock. We were planning on moving in together. He said he loved me but needs to be single. Since he was drunk, we texted the following day and solidified the breakup. I was not needy during conversation, but I was mean in my replies and hurt by him leading me on if that’s not what he wanted. He said he needs me in his life but not in that way. He ended it with “I hope you will text me tomorrow.” I said I won’t and got some last minute thoughts off my chest. I have not talked to him in six days and he has texted me four times saying how sorry he is, what a terrible person he is, and how he is not proud of what he did. One text even begged me to respond. I didn’t. Then three days ago he sent a text saying I hope you find the life and person you deserve. Nothing since. My question is why was he texting me twice a day begging me to respond when he was the one who broke up with me? And why did he stop? Should I have broken no contact?

admin

February 3, 2015 at 1:12 pm

Do you think the commitment scared him?
marie

February 3, 2015 at 2:18 pm

Yes I do. I actually was his first actual girlfriend (he’s 32) and we have had some minor issues in the past regarding this but with him suggesting we move in together, us being together at his place or the other every night, and things going so well I thought that we were past it. I really don’t understand and am quite heartbroken.
marie

February 3, 2015 at 5:35 pm

He actually JUST texted me. “Are you ok? Can you please just say something?”

I haven’t… Scary!!
admin

February 4, 2015 at 2:05 pm

I know its tough to ignore but hey, this is a good sign right?

Jess

February 2, 2015 at 6:16 pm

Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago and haven’t talked to him since then. We broke up because he thought I preferred my friends and studies over him, which actually is not true but I’m focused on getting the best marks to get to a great college. He broke up with me and also I wanted to break up because he was too controlling and obsessive with me. Now he’s all the time tweeting things like “Revenge”, “Don’t get mad, get even” and that stuff. When we see each other we never look in the eyes, he seems to be so over me and it’s hard to believe it when he showed me how much he loves me, we dated for 8 months and now I miss him but I don’t know if I should talk to him or not, I have to see him everyday in high school and it’s kinda awkward also his cousin is there and spends all the time looking at me. I don’t know, I really miss him and I don’t know what to text him if I ever decide to do it. We met with a text too where I said “Call me M”, i called him to ask me to tell me a joke and he said that was when he knew he had fallen in love. Help please?

admin

February 3, 2015 at 1:03 pm

If he is tweeting that stuff he clearly isn’t over you…

krenee

February 2, 2015 at 5:39 pm

Hi, I’d like to know if 30 days NC is necessary for a dating relationship that lasted for 5 or 6 weeks? If not, how long do you recommend?

Thank you!

admin

February 3, 2015 at 1:02 pm

21 days in that case.

anonymous

January 31, 2015 at 6:15 am

I implemented your no contact for 30 days and reached out via text. His response was extremely positive and much more pleasant than I expected. He showed his appreciation for me texting him and complimented me and even inquired about my family? I cut it short like you suggested and said I was eating with friends and will talk to him later which he did not respond to. I contacted him again 2 days later via text with a simple short one It has been 12 hours and no response, however, he has been active on facebook with postings.

Now Im kinda sad, I think maybe I screwed up? maybe he got annoyed that I cut him off so quickly the first time or shall I wait another week and reach out again. What if he is done with me?

admin

January 31, 2015 at 4:03 pm

No you didn’t screw up.

Give it another try in a few days or so. Make sure your starter texts are solid though ok.
anonymous

January 31, 2015 at 11:20 pm

cool.

the first text was a movie I mentioned that he reminded me of.

should the next week be about me missing him or what do you suggest?
admin

February 2, 2015 at 1:48 pm

No you don’t want to come off as needy. Approach him from a position of strength.

Ren

January 30, 2015 at 10:22 pm

I was dating this guy for only 3 weeks… it normally takes me a while to be comfortable around someone and really let them in to completely see ME. During the 3 weeks we got so close, he has all qualities I’d ever wanted in a guy, he’s sweet, attentive, old fashioned (always picked me up for dinner type of thing) would come over and bring me a plate of food his mom made, he’s completely family oriented, loves kids, smart, good job… and physically I was completely attracted to him. We never slept together, I tend to wait a while just cause I find it’s not something to share with someone you’ve just met and he feels the same way. Things did get quite hot some times and he would be the one stopping. Anyways we were like best friends from the get-go. Both have same sense of humour, able to be serious when we needed… we even did some repairs in my place as a team. So yes we were always lovy duby but were also able to work as a team I guess u can say. The issue is, we are getting to know one another and when he did something or said something I didn’t like I would get mad right away (I have to work on that I know) so only once did this happen when he said something and ticked me off and it was by text. I don’t remember what it was but I showed I was upset by saying we should re-schedule our dinner plans, he got worried and texted right away No Please don’t do this I really like you don’t end something good. and then sent more messages saying he understood it was wrong, he’s sorry, he really doesn’t want me ending what we started. So I calmed down and forgave him and we went about our plans… 2 weeks go by and I MESS UP! so I met him on a website, I was going on the website to delete my profile since my friend told me it was still showing up! I thought I had deleted it properly. While on there, I saw his profile saying he was online that week. So I texted “Didn’t know u were still looking” he said he wasn’t. I said “kinda hard to believe I hope u can understand that since it shows as u being online” he said oh wait I think I know why… he turned on his laptop and figured out that when he does this is automatically signs him in without being on that website. So I said OK it’s fine I was just asking cause I would rather know. He flipped saying I was calling hi a liar cause of my comment “kinda hard to believe…” yet I had said that before he explained or figured out his laptop signs him in automatically. He kept going on how if I don’t trust him he’s got nothing else to say… 2 days go by of silent treatment then I texted saying I was sorry to have upset him or hurt him making him feel like I was calling him a liar or not trusting him but this was not my intentions at all as I said the comment before he explained. He said that had I said “ARE U STILL LOOKING” instead of “DIDN”T KNOW U WERE STILL LOOKING” he wouldn’t of gotten upset. For this he feels 95% of our conversations had someone upset or mad…. and he doesn’t want a relationship where it’s always arguing and fighting or being upset. So we as much as he wasn’t happy he needed to end things with me, felt it was best. So I said that 2 small silly misunderstanding is not 95% of our conversations and I find he’s exaggerating a lil and that I wish he wouldn’t be doing this and so instead of wishing him good luck and shutting my door I will seal it with a kiss (We promised from day 1 that we wouldn’t got to bed upset, that we would fix whatever issue and seal it with a kiss)
So he responded ” I’m not sure what to say” This was his last text 2 days ago and I haven’t responded since I’m not sure if I should. Does he really want things to be over?? I’m thinking if he wouldn’t want things to be over that he was really upset he would have by now come back to me to say lets jump over this lil bump and forget about the silly misunderstanding – he hasn’t. I really like this guy, like he has said while breaking up he has never cared this way about anyone so early on in a relationship.
I’m lost, sad, feel silly cause it’s a 3 week relationship yet he meant a lot to me. Any advice on what I should do? or should I just let him go?

admin

January 31, 2015 at 3:50 pm

I think in your cas since your relationship was so short you can shorten the NC rule.

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