Understanding Why Your Ex Boyfriend Is Ignoring You- And How To Get Him To Stop

1,959 thoughts on “Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Always Ignoring Me?”

Katie

August 26, 2015 at 2:45 pm

Hi Chris.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. We’ve been pretty inseparable and in touch throughout that time, though we fight a lot. He is very jealous which has caused a lot of the problem and I am stubborn. One of the problems that I’ve had is that he has never shown me his place. His excuse is always that it’s too dirty/small and he’s embarrassed. I feel like that’s not the truth so I’ve been pressuring him a lot lately to see it. He’s been telling me that he’s depressed and stressed out and has so many issues he needs to take care of. He said he’s tired of fighting and said maybe we need to take some time apart until he gets back on track. Last weekend we got into an argument and the next day he started ignoring me completely. After a few hours of that I got upset and texted him telling him that I was taking that as a sign that he no longer wants to be in my life anymore so he won’t hear from me again and not to bother trying to talk to me anymore. I haven’t heard from him since and it’s been three days. I sent two texts — one apologizing and saying I didn’t mean it, and one to wish him luck if he really wants to break up. That’s all I’ve done as far as contacting him goes. He’s also told me in the past though that when his exes have broken up with him he tells them okay but never talks to them again… He said if that’s what they want he respects it but never goes back. I’m afraid that’s what he’s doing to me! He’s always told me that he’s never loved anyone as much as he loves me, which I believe. He has done so many thoughtful and amazing things for me. He also talks to some of my friends and they all say he is head-over-heels in love with me. Do you think he will really cut me out of his life permanently over what I said to him or do you think he just needs space and doesn’t really want to break up? Unfortunately we work together so it will be so awkward next time I see him.
Indi

August 25, 2015 at 8:43 pm

Here’s a new one for you Chris: it wasn’t a text, an email or a letter…it was a book! Or at least an excerpt from one that I wrote…and he was in it. I sent it to him through a mutual friend. I was visiting his city from out of the country; he told me he wanted to see me, but then he broke plans with me and I couldn’t figure out why, until I asked my friend and he told me the guy didn’t like what I’d written. But he didn’t say why.

This is eating me up inside. I’ve been NC for almost two months…didn’t want to risk it. I haven’t heard from him; he hasn’t heard anything from me. I also blocked him on Facebook. Is this a situation where I should get in touch and apologize, even though I’m not even sure what I’m apologizing for? I don’t whether he’s mad because I revealed my feelings for him OR because he didn’t like the way I portrayed him. Honestly, I would be happy just to know he doesn’t hate me, and that we could go back to being friendly at least.
Sarah

August 25, 2015 at 9:57 am

After we broke up i started the NC rule that you mentioned…he did txt me once (of one word -_-) but i didnt reply..after a month when i knocked him i got a possitive respose and it pretty much was like he missed me..later he even asked if i still felt for him..the following days we barely talked and he wouldnt reply until i texted him “again”..now i dunno what to do…i dont wanna seem clingy..and dont even understand what he wants and why he is ignoring me

Sarah

September 4, 2015 at 8:12 pm

I couldnt go for NC for another week..i had to talk to him regarding some work issues..later we even had to meet up because of that..we had a brief but good talk..thn i went to NC for 3 days..but saw him get wasted which is unlike him so i broke my NC..the next day he started pretending as if he is going to move on to take revenge on me and that im the one who batrayed him by letting him go (though he didnt say it on my face)…what should i do? I think he is ignoring me again…
Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 4:15 pm

To much to fast. Go into no contact for a week and try again. Remember baby steps. This is a slow process.

Sue

August 20, 2015 at 10:43 pm

I did the desperate thing – calling, texting, being really desperate, because I love this guy, and he told me to “fucking go away and never contact him again”. I never cheated on him or anything like that. A short while after he broke up with me he was like “I want to remain friends. You’re such a nice girl” and we were being goofy together and laughing about the old days like nothing had changed until I told him I still loved him. He then blocked me from every website imagineable and on the phone. He deleted our pictures and every picture I ever liked of him on Instagram. The only place he didn’t was Skype and one other website. I haven’t contacted him again (for about a week now – it was hard, hard work because I was so tempted) and ignored his “reply [insert my name]”. I showed no reaction other than deleting the account he wrote that message to. I swear to God though, I LOVE this guy and don’t know what to do without him.
Emma

August 18, 2015 at 8:28 am

Hi Chris,
I have been reading your posts regularly since my 10 month old relationship broke a couple of weeks back. He said that he was not in the same emotional space as I was and hence didn’t want to make it harder for the both of us more than it already is. However, he planned an entire surprise birthday party for me with the help of one of my closest friends whom he also considers to be a good friend. He showered me with so many small inexpensive yet extremely valuable and thoughtful gifts that he knew I would just adore, sat in bakery shop for an hour to get a special cake made and all of that. He kept stealing looks at me at the party as well and I did catch him a couple of times and returned a smile and wink. We did speak once after we split and he feels very guilty about breaking up and says that it is very difficult for him too.
However, this weekend I got too drunk to remember anything and he along with our two close friends came over to my place from the bar. I think he was too tired and wanted to go home in addition to the fact that he is trying his best to keep distance from me and so didn’t want to come over to my place. In any case, he did come and my friends tell me that I kept asking him and the others to stay back overnight again and again which sort of irritated him because he didn’t want to and I sort of followed him around as well which did bug him a lot. This was all unintentional and I do not remember one bit of all of this. Since then he has completely cut off from me with not even one call or message in the last 3 days. We also went for a movie once and hung out at my place just talking generally after the break up as well. But since the weekend there is absolutely no contact. I have also not contacted him in anyway so he doesn’t get bothered or irritated.
After reading through I feel that I can relate myself most to him applying the NC rule because our common friend asked him to since she knows us both well and also knows that we both have feeling for each other.
Cold you please tell me how to handle the situation better because the silence is killing me and if there is a chance of this working out for the good since we didn’t ever have any ugly fights or a bitter moment throughout the time we were together and were extremely respectful and understanding of each other’s boundaries and needs.
Thanks
Emma
melissa

August 17, 2015 at 1:37 pm

Hi Chris,

The only thing that might apply here is the “letter” that I wrote him a week after he broke up with me (letters are things we did throughout our relationship as a fun, different thing so receiving one from me wouldn’t be out of the ordinary). However, it wasn’t a declaration of love. We both were struggling with emotional problems and weren’t really doing what we could to fix them and ultimately caused discord in the relationship. Anyways, it was a letter just expressing how I felt about everything and while I didn’t agree with the decision to break up so we could “be on our own to deal with our issues”, I had to respect it. He told me he thought it would be in ‘our’ best interest if we didn’t talk for awhile.

I have done the NC thing and honestly, I haven’t texted him. We saw each other the other day (after 25 days) and he completely avoided me and didn’t even try to say ‘hi’. I would catch him looking at me often, but would avoid me, or walk away whenever he would come near. He also blocked me on Facebook after saying he wouldn’t (i guess in his defense i blocked him first and then unblocked him after 2.5 weeks).

I guess my real question is, after all of that, why is he shutting me out? I’m not the one who broke up with him and he is acting like I did.
Minnie

August 17, 2015 at 7:20 am

Hey Thankyou so much for this info, I have been doing the constant contact thing myself..i feel like such an idiot..but today marks the first day of NO CONTACT..so excited,LET THE GAMES BEGIN!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jennifer

August 17, 2015 at 6:02 am

Hi ! Just wanted to share my story as well and see what you think Chris.
I am on day # 2 on NC and feeling confident right now that i can make it to 30 days.
Broke up with my LDR bf a month ago because i kept getting upset with his lack of communication and affection. He also had admitted that he wasn’t sure if he wanted to come see me across the country anymore and wasn’t sure if he would continue our relationship even after we meet. Which led me to break it off before he did. I suggested to him a few days later to meet other people and gain experience. ( i was his 2nd gf) And he did without telling me about it it. He would call in to check on me every week and as i would too. A month later, he asked me if i think it was a mistake breaking up, and that he needed reassurance on meeting other people like i suggested. He even said he’ll ask the same question to himself as in, he’ll tell me if he is ok with me meeting other guys. I believed from that question that he hasn’t talked to other girls yet and was thinking of doing so or else why would he ask… unfortunately that wasn’t the case. After a while long later in our conversation, He admitted over the phone that he was already talking to other girls that used to like him, and one he used to have feelings for. He asked that girl out to a football game and she said no. Then tells me one of the girls he was talking to everyday upset him really bad because she told him she had a bf. After hearing all that, i got upset and jealous so i told him that & he claims he was thinking of me the entire time he was talking to them -____- He said his heart hurt after i told him that and i guess he feels bad. Then he says, ” i know you think i’m the worst person ever, so i want to say thanks for the experience and for showing me what love is. Idk what you’re gonna do next but this is all i wanted to say. ” . ..after him sharing these things i hung up on him without saying anything . Havent spoken ever since so now I’m on day #2.

Question to you Chris, Do you think a guy like that would contact me again ? idk.. i mean he already has other girls he talks to online everyday besides with me. -_- He’s 23 btw. I’m 21. I like him a lot and trust he’s being honest with the things he said to me… I just don’t know what else to do besides the NC rule..

Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 8:47 pm

You have to get through the no contact rule first. Dont worry about what he thinks or is going to say. Assume he wont talk to you during the no contact so your not disappointed if he doesn’t. You cant respond to him anyway if he contacts you during no contact so try not to worry about it to much. Work on being super confident and that should help you when you talk to him again after no contact.

Stephanie

August 15, 2015 at 11:08 pm

I’ve been reading so many of your articles and I’ve been learning so much! I even commented on one of your other articles about my breakup, but since we’re on the topic of text messaging I thought i’d ask for your advice on here.
During the relationship with my ex and i, i became one of those desperate girls that you mentioned in your article 🙁 I would constantly text him and if he didn’t respond I’d call repeatedly, which obviously he didn’t answer, and ultimately I became angrier… he broke off the r’ship and we met a few days ago. we decided to make things work at a much slower pace, start off as friends and see where it leads… we even set boundaries on how often we see each other and he made sure to mention that the text messages has to be kept at a minimal lol, which I’m actually ok with.
Since that meeting hes texted me once, which i don’t have a problem with. The problem is how he messaged me. His texts are a bit short and boring, almost as though he has no interest in talking to me. I get the feeling that he’s only messaging me either because he’s bored or only because he said he’ll message me after our meeting. I don’t know what to think and I’m confused.
My question(s) to you is, does he just need more time to sort his feeling out? Is he just afraid that I’d get all crazy (again)? 🙁 does he just need to slowly build trust in me again? Or is keeping his messages short and brief a test to see how I respond??? What is it? Help 🙁
Ayrricka

August 13, 2015 at 3:36 pm

My ex and I broke up in May after dating for about 3-4 months. We were talking daily since the breakup up until a few days ago when we had a huge argument. He claimed that I would subliminally dog him out and that it would hurt and piss him off when I would do that. I apologized and he said that he would “ttyl cause i’m at the movies” and never responded back. This happened this past Saturday and I have yet to hear from him. Recently he has removed all of our/my pics from his Instagram account (this happened before the argument) and although we had broken up, our conversations were friendly and I even felt some chemistry, even though we both agreed that personal growth was needed at the moment. We were even talking about being friends with benefits, but right before the argument, I told him that I didn’t think that that was a good idea and he agreed. We both have discussed feelings of distrust in our relationship, which probably was a factor in the decline of our love. He had also expressed to me that he did not like comparing anything to our relationship because we had grown since then and we’re two different people now from what we were then. He also said that he felt like he could keep in contact with me because he saw the improvements and felt that we could grow together and move forward. Now he’s not talking to me. I texted him saying “So, are we not talking now?” No response. 2 days later I said “Yes or no?” Still no response. We go to the same school and even live in the same dorm building so we’re bound to see each other in a few days. I don’t know if he’s doing the NC rule or if he’s completely done with me and I feel deep inside my gut that there are still some feelings there but I personally feel as though those feelings will diminish if we keep ignoring each other…
Christina

August 9, 2015 at 9:11 am

Hey, Doing the NC, and the thing is he isn’t contacting me at all. He has a new girlfriend and well, it was all good until he decided to break up. I don’t know what to do,because Iam stuck! We are18 yrs old and attending different colleges. and the new girlfriend is all tall and stuff ,me not so much. He seems to be enjoying this new relationship. And the worst thing is I get all grossed out thinking of them kissing and stuff. And he goes out with her every alternate day , after the school we didn’t meet for like a year when we were together.

Chris Seiter

August 10, 2015 at 9:49 pm

How long have you been in no contact? Sometimes you just have to wait it out when your ex gets into a new relationship. I know it sucks but NC does work.

Linda

August 7, 2015 at 2:44 pm

Well here is a curve ball for you. I met this awesome man on a date site and we started dating. He is really a supper nice man and treated me like a true queen. We dated for about two months when one evening his ex wive phoned. She bugged him a lot even thought they were divorced for more then 13years. She’s very clingy and needy. They have a daughter, but mom and daughter have problems that they had to sort out. His ex however kept sending him msg telling him that she wants him back. One evening he was so tired, angry and frustrated that I told him to let me speak to her. She was very mean on the phone and asked lots of questions that I just ignored. She asked what wold happen if him and I broke up one day and I told her simply that no one knows what the future holds. I was not going to explain to her that from my side we were set for life as she did not sound the stable kind. Anyways, he went silent on me for a few days and the next thing I know I get a sms saying we are done, I asked why, but he won’t answer. Its been three months and he still has not told me why. I have heard that he has met someone new and that she moved in the same day he met her less then a month after we broke up. I did ask him and he told me they are engaged to be married. I asked him to please explain to me why he used me if he was not really interested in me as this is all such a rush for a man who told me he never wants to marry again due to the bad experience he has had. This woman is my exact opposite. I find it very funny though that none of his family know about the engagement nor do the approve of this new gf he has. They are also not happy with how he broke up with me without any reason. You see when we first started dating we both agreed that if there was something bothering us we’d talk about it. We’d always be honest with each other and respect each other. I know he loved me and I fell completely in love with him. I tried contacting him just to meet up for coffee so we can at least talk and I can find peace that he is really happy, but he ignores me. I am afraid that after the split I went a little off the bat and I sent him about 80 msg over a two month period ranging from begging him to forgive me to telling him off. I got very emotional and am still angry at him for the way he treated me. I am not funny when I say that this new gf was just to soon and to fast and before you wonder No he did not cheat on me and I have no idea where he met this chick. I just know that cultural differences and his entire personality change has made his family turn there back on him and his daughter. From where I sit he is completely acting out of his normal. I m worried about him and I would love to win him back, but I think it might be way to late for that now. However if I could get him to sit down with me for just a short while and perhaps explain what I did wrong that would be great. I truly love him and every moment away from him is hard, but I am slowly moving forward. It’s just not having answers and the way he is acting that is getting to me. And yes, he is avoiding me as we normally travel the same route to work in the mornings and generally pass each other, but he has not driven that way since. Nor does he shop at his normal shops. Its really strange! If he did not care about me then way all the effort to avoid me? We did drive past him ones and he stared straight ahead, yet just when I thought he was seriously nasty he turned and looked back as they passed us. He looked back twice for a few moments as they drove past us and when they pulled away from the robot ahead of us. Strange behavior in itself as his first indication was no interest yet he nearly gives himself whiplash to looks back? Any advice would be great as I really have no idea what to do. I love him and if he is really truly happy with the new gf then I will wish him well, but if there is even a remote chance of us then I want him back. So from a male point of view a slightly different issue to figure out i am sure?

Linda

August 17, 2015 at 2:37 pm

I take it the fact that you did not respond to me means there is no hope? Thanks!
Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 7:56 pm

Hi Linda, I can’t respond to everyone on the site because I get so many comments and there is only one of me and not enough time in the day to answer all the emails/comments/messages I get.

To answer your question, Are you sure he just met this woman randomly out of the blue and now she is his fiancée right away? That just doesn’t happen. My guess is he is back with his ex wife or and ex girlfriend. Either way do no contact for 45 days, look your best when you see him at work. Act like you aren’t phased by it and be confident. Try reaching out after 45 days to assess the situation.

M

August 1, 2015 at 3:13 am

I was together with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. We had been thru a lot. I was there when he’s mother passed.He took my mother ring shopping. After he broke up with me we were still good friends I then took a trip to Canada for 4 months half way thru I get a random email from him saying”
I am writing to you to let you know that I got your letter. None of it ment anything to me.
I have moved on, and don’t want anything to do with you. I hope you respect my wishes.
The thing is I didn’t do anything wrong. I loved him, cared for him, gave him space, I never cheated or even spoke to other guys,I did everything he wanted me to do. I only ever lied once in our relationship, I then came clean n apologised.
What can I do? I did nothing wrong!

Chris Seiter

August 10, 2015 at 9:42 pm

What was the lie about? Is that why you broke up?

Neese

July 20, 2015 at 11:57 pm

Is it even at all possible to get my ex back after almost three months of being broken up? I have no choice but to NC now. I made mistakes: was still in contact (but he kept me hooked saying I don’t want you moving on, I care for you, and getting jealous over Facebook stuff) He started dating a new girl 2 weeks ago, I found out, he lied and said he wasn’t which made me go crazy. We got into a huge fight, I threatened to message her (I did not do it) which turned into him saying he is done with me and blocked me on all social media and said he blocked my #. I haven’t tried to contact, its been a few days.
Alex Dylan

July 14, 2015 at 5:55 pm

This is a great article. It gives such true and clear examples. I’m a guy who dates men and you can only imagine how unemotional those relationships can get. I’ve seen guys pump up the breaks the minute they start to feel something that’s not concerning sexual pleasure. I understand all these principles; However, I do bring deeper emotions when I start to fall for someone. This was more of confirmation for me. Thanks for the reminder! It is what I needed to fully be 100% okay with moving on from my ex. I’m proud to say despite having impulses and urges to desperately reach out to him, while the break up, I was able to keep my cool and not over react. I even had a chance to express myself of how I felt, telling him I agreed with us moving on if there was uncertainty coming from one of us. I truly believe this, too! I got somewhat of a positive response. I know he is taking time to think and I now I have chosen to do the same. Rather than waste my energy trying to reach out. I wouldn’t want to date him at this moment, but I do want things to end positively and in a decent way. I am happy understanding any strong negative emotion I feel is only temporary. I can only do my part and know regardless of what happens, it will be okay. That’s the main thing I would want to share with anyone that is going through rocky times and reading this! In the end, it’s just people and it’s no big deal if one decides to move on. Sometimes us men don’t even know what we want. What I do know is if a guy is a jerk at the time of the break up, he is showing you his true colors and you should not want to keep him around in your life, unless you’re a masochist. Right?
L

July 13, 2015 at 10:04 am

My boyfriend just broke up with me the other morning after a night of not talking to each other after a fight I initiated. We have been dating for two years, but talking for about five. We hit it off instantly from the start, I was even in a long distance relationship with my previous boyfriend (one that had lasted about four years) who I loved very much, the problem was that he lived so far. So meeting someone so close to me with such similar interests had me falling for him, but I was always distant because of my ex. Eventually I broke it off with my ex and started unofficially seeing the new guy. We’d talk daily, constantly about everything. He was so infatuated with me, he was the clingy one and like you wrote above, sometimes it would creep me out.. So I would be a little cold. But that never stopped him from wanting me. After a year of being together with no title he started to change his attitude. Wasn’t as nice as he use to be, caught him doing some shady stuff on FB even tho to my knowledge I didn’t know he even had one, just sort of started feeling like a stranger. So we started fighting a lot, especially about social media stuff. He use to get mad at me for liking guys pics and following certain guys so I stopped, I knew it hurt him. Eventually I grew to want the same thing, why should I have to stop if he isn’t. So we mutually respected each other in not liking other random chicks or dudes pics. Then after awhile his attitude changes saying things like “I don’t even care if you’d follow your ex” “I wouldn’t care if you liked guys pics” but I actually do care now. It’s like the tables have turned. He lives about an hour away so we’d spend about two days a week together, which is totally cool with me, I’m not one to want to be with someone 24/7. But recently, even the days he’s come to see me have felt like a waste of time to him. He very hard to explain, every day I would get a good morning text, even if we weren’t on the best of terms. He’d tell me to have a great day and send me kiss emojis and be very sweet. Then we’d talk through out the day. This is a daily thing that has completely stopped. when we aren’t fighting we have fun together, there’s still love between us and it hurts to be ignored. he told me he loves me, he told me he never wants to lose me in his life and that he wishes it was possible we could be friends. He said that if the fight we had the night before hadn’t happened, the breakup wouldn’t have happened that morning, but would’ve been bound to happen somewhere down the road. I wasn’t begging him to stay, but I mentioned a few time while I was crying why he didn’t want to work on things if he claimed to love me and care so much. His reply would be the same every time, that we’ve been working on things for the past year. He also mentioned that I have been being cold to him lately (which I didn’t think I was) and that I’m mean sometimes and lately I had been being mean. It was heartbreaking when he left. We talked for three hours. He even said “I’ll probably see you next week”. He wants to finish school, he wants to focus on himself and not be in any relationship right now.. But tells me he doesn’t want to lose me, and still wants to come and hangout. I haven’t seen him in only two days. He hasn’t spoken to me since he did in person. I tried to call him later that night because I hadn’t heard from him all day, which is extremely unlike him, but I got no answer. An hour later I sent a text that said “I love you” I assumed he’d respond in the morning, like he always does, but he didn’t. I went to work and had a horrible miserable day and when I got out I tried to call again and still got no answer. I know he had his phone because I was on Instagram and noticed he stared following some girl a minute before (something he also wouldn’t have done before, he’s not one to just start following random people) so since I knew he physically had his phone on him, I knew he’s get my call. After he didn’t answer I decided to text one more time and asked “will you please stop ignoring me” after no response from that after 20 minutes I decided to call one more time, but this time I was angry. I didn’t come off as angry when I left a message, I tried to sound as confused as I really am right now. I said “can you please stop ignoring me, I don’t get why you are doing this. Please call me, bye.” And I never got a response. I don’t plan to call or text again, but it’s really starting to mess with me. It hurts a lot, like I just lost a piece of me (even though that sounds extremely corny) I know I’ve just blabbed on for so long but if really appreciate some advice. I’m hurting so much and I can’t imagine feeling like this everyday. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

lola

August 18, 2015 at 11:38 am

Have things worked out for you since? Im in the same situation i give up trying now its always me trying and feeling like crap when i get nothing or one worded msgs back. He wants to be civil friends but he cant be bothered with me therefore i give up. Row your own boat attitude from now on.

G

July 10, 2015 at 6:14 am

I broke up with my ex boyfriend in January because I had alot of emotional problems I needed to deal with as I wasn’t happy. I didn’t know how to talk to my ex about this. So I left, broke his heart and left him shattered. I needed some time and space to get myself back into a happy place. He contacted me about a month after the breakup saying how much he wanted me back and that he missed me. I told him I needed some more time but that i could still see a future with us. After a few more months passed, i contacted him. We had an awesome talk and chatted for hours. He asked if I wanted to catch up and I said yes. The next day we had breakfast and then went for a walk. I realized when I got home that I was ready to be with him. I knew he was the ‘one’. After catching up a few more times I told him that I wanted him back. He said he wasnt sure and that he needed time. So i asked him how much time and he said he would contact me at the end of the week. He did and told me that he just wanted to be friends. On our first friend date we went to the movies. Then we started going on walks. On one of these walks he told me that we were spending too much time together and he felt like it was too much. I broke down. Cried, begged, pleaded. I told him how much i loved him. That i walked away not because i didnt love him but because i didn’t love myself and couldn’t be happy with him if i wasnt happy with myself. He cried, told me that I broke his heart and that he would never trust me again. I asked him if there was anything i could do. He said no. He told me he loved me and that I should call him when I got home. When I called him later that night, he was still crying. He said he just wanted to be friends and that he would come and visit me after work the next day. The next day, he never showed up and sent me a text message saying ‘i cant do this right now’. Safe to say I was confused. I let it be. After a few weeks I sent him a text saying that I would wait for him and that I was sorry I hurt him, that I still loved him and wanted to be with him. He took 3 weeks to respond. He said it was over and that he just wanted to be friends. He said that he didnt know what the future held for us but if we were to ever have a future, we would have to be friends first. I agreed to being friends. Weeks went by and i messaged him asking him if he wanted to have a coffee. He said yes. We organized it for the sunday two days later. He told me to text him when I finished work on Sunday which I did. 2 hours later he resonds with ‘sorry for the late message. Cant do tonight. I’m not well.’ That was 1 week ago. Is it time for me to give up now? I really love him and I know he loves me but he is just too scared that I will leave him again and I don’t know how I can show him I’m committed. Any thoughts on this would help. Please?
Darlene

July 7, 2015 at 5:29 pm

He contacted me first after only three weeks of no contact. His dad was sick. Since then we have extra practically every day. The most time between test was 6 days with him breaking the silence. Since then maybe only one or two days between text when there is something silence. Other than that we text everyday all day some days. We joke and laugh and one or twice lightly flirt. We have Skyped twice (his idea) and I called once. He has said we need to talk about the breakup. He has said “I have really missed you” and “I always want you in my life. I would be really sad if I didn’t have you on my life”

During one of our skypes I accidentally called him Boo (pet name). It was a slip. It felt like old times. I also think might have come of a bit jealous during a text. Since then text have become a bit less from him and a bit shorter. He will text first, but I think he may be a bit put off or feeling something. .. Idk

Help… what should I do? Should I ignore him?

Chris Seiter

July 8, 2015 at 11:29 pm

Ya… I think you might have gone a little too soon into skyping.

D

July 5, 2015 at 1:35 pm

My ex picks and chooses when he talks and ignores me. He’ll ignore me for a few days then talk to me eventually then a few weeks after he will again ignore me but for no reason (well if there is a reason I don’t know what it is)
I have tried NC rule but it just ends up going back in a circle between us. He feels he’s ‘too young’ to be in a relationship but he doesn’t and can’t let me go he says. I don’t know what I can do
Please help me with something
Annie

June 30, 2015 at 5:13 am

My long distance ex-boyfriend decided to ignore my text, after we slept together. He said we were not thinking straight, b/c we drank a lot that night. He think we are not suitable for each other, because I don’t make him happier. Currently he is under a lot stress and doesn’t want a relationship with anyone. He hasn’t dated or slept with anyone after we broke up for 3 months. I applied the NC rule on him for a month. He started replying my text, things were getting better before we slept together. We tried to talk things out, he said I did too much for him, like throwing him a Birthday Party. It didn’t make him happier. He also said I’m trying too hard. He replied a few of my texts. I know he still have feelings for me, just not that strong. We originally broke up because he said he doesn’t feel as attracted to me any more and doesn’t want to feel the pressure of getting married. We’ve only dated for 5 months before we broke up. He’s introduced most of his best buddies and family to me. He has also met my parents. Suddenly he started ignoring me without any reason. I’ve texted him 10 times within 5 days. Should I apply the NC rule on him again? Or is there other advice? Is there some hope for our relationship?

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